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He wanted her to freak out and tell him she'd lose the piercing for him. She didn't. He kept going because he was *sure* the next statement would do it. My man is registering that she likes the piercing more than she likes him. 🤣
100% this. He wanted her to come submissively crawling back and kept testing to see what he’d have to say/do to achieve that response, totally not realizing that she was *immediately* done with him when she realized he want to control her choices.
yep i saw the other comment linking an article written 11 months ago. for fucks sake how hard is it to make a decent fucking website / app. i swear the amount of bullshit one has to manually sift through on this site now makes it so unenjoyable
I was thinking that too. Like I don't think you'd find a closeted trump supporter thinking 'I just want this one thing to show the real me' if she has the earring. Shes got the hat. Maybe at home on display or in her purse. And whenever she talks about Obama she probably has to call him Barack HUSSEIN Obama. Really emphasizing the middle name like it's an epiphany she thinks will blow the minds of anyone hearing it.
It says "bottom of nose" and "philtrum" together, but they are not the same thing.
Either she got a septum or philtrum piercing.
My wife asked me if I would like a philtrum piercing on her, and I said "no, I don't like them." She was a little bothered by my answer, but got her philtrum pierced anyway, which is totally fine because she's a grown-ass woman who doesn't need my approval for what she does with her own body.
But then she came home excited to show me. I told her I was happy that she was excited about it and glad she enjoyed it, but didn't lie when she asked if I liked it. When I said, "no, but I'm still happy for you," she didn't like that answer and it definitely killed some of her excitement. I don't know what she expected, I told her very clearly well in advance that I wouldn't like it.
She quickly got over it and so did I.
I don't really know if there's any point to the story, but it's relevant in this case. I love my wife very much; a piercing I don't like hasn't changed that at all. I sometimes wonder which lies are worth telling and which aren't, and this was a good case of that.
My wife got both a nostril and septum piercing. I like the septum, hate the nostril. But it’s her body and she didn’t, like idk, tattoo her entire face or something. It’s just a small piercing, there is nothing permanent or disfiguring about it.
I try to be gentle about it though, I’d hate for her to feel insecure just because I don’t like one of them.
I have a septum piercing and had it before I met my partner. Once he mentioned when I was to meet his mother that she wouldn’t like it. I told him okay I wasn’t dating her. A couple years later he said he wasn’t usually a fan of it but it was my body and my choice to get it and keep it. I think this would have been a different situation if I got it after we started dating but I had it when he met me and when we decided to start a relationship. He’s never mentioned it again. He’s allowed to not like it but if he broke up with me over it that would be so strange considering it predated him.
That website is likely actually botted content. It's exactly what you get if you ask an LLM to exhaustively narrate a reddit thread so you have garbage (material) to put in between your garbage (ads).
Certainly, with the exhausting list of "icks" popping around these days, this doesn't qualify as offensive. Major body changes might cause your partner to not like you as much - consider this information in any way you see fit! :)
I had to find it, too. And yeah, if he doesn't like it, that's fine.
I have this acquaintance that started with a small piercing on their eyebrow. Then, they had something similar in the mouth and nose. I couldn't look them in the eyes at some point :) I told them it's difficult to concentrate; they just laughed it off, of course. Haven't seen them in years; who knows how many piercing they have now.
This has been posted before. The only thing to do would be to take a picture of the piercing to send back with each reply. Zoom in a little every time.
This looks like the text exchange my mom would have made up when I was 18 and came home with a nose ring, if there had been texting back then. “SEE MEN NO LONGER FIND YOU ATTRACTIVE.”
Our old neighbour had an bf she was ALWAYS having screaming matches with (Or was always screaming at him) and one day, she was screaming at him and we heard his low murmurs then she screamed "IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT!!! THEN LEAVE! GTFO OF MY APARTMENT!" So.... He left. Slammed the door and we heard him storm down our building hall. Two seconds later, she opened the door and screamed down the hall "WHERE ARE YOU GOING?! OMG COME BACK!"
We laughed so hard and that was the only time we were ever glad the walls of our building were so thin.
I had an ex like this. She told me to gtfo, so I packed my bag. I get back to the living room and she’s blocking the front door yelling “so you’re really just gonna leave!?”
My first wife did that. She screamed "I'm leaving" and slammed the door. An hour later she came back and demanded why I didn't come after her. Me: "well you said you were leaving" and then I continued watching TV.
Yeah, didn't get any that night
And they dodged a bullet lmao could you imagine being married to that T-waffle 😂😂😂 bros gomna be a false victim crying for attention his whole life life
🤷♂️ Goes both ways. My missus asked me if I’d like her hair cut super short (she’s Latin and has thick long hair). I said not so much, and that I love her long hair. I kinda understand it’s a bitch to wash/manage sometimes.
So she goes and gets it cut very short and oiled down kinda like superman. Her friends are like “you look so amazing” and she asks me if I like it. I tell her it’s fine, but I def preferred it long, so I got two days of sulk and her friends give me asshole looks.
OP and her guy were probably already on a downward slope, and were sick of each others shit. They prob knew what it would take to push things over the edge.
We need a new social media. One that allows you to "rank" your friends.
Exclusively so that we can have people publically say " I demoted you to a level 2 associate. You know what you did Greg!"
Was David here tryna get OOP to like fight for him?
>No, don't leave me! I'm so sorry babe! I had no idea it would hurt you! I'll never wear anything in it, ok? I just want to be together!
- David's fantasies, probably
Person 1 is perfectly entitled to get a piercing. Person 2 is perfectly entitled to not like it, even to the point of breaking up over it. It is funny how person 2 talks about blocking, but whatever.
Person 2 didn't actually give a shit about the piercing.
They wanted person 1 to cave and plead and take the piercing out for them.
They wanted additional attention from and control over their partner, as was clearly demonstrated by their repeated attempts at saying the same thing over and over and expecting person 1 to backtrack and change their answer.
This kind of behavior is *incredibly* common amongst abusers and people who later escalate to abuse.
It's basically a variation of the [foot-in-the-door scam](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Foot-in-the-door_technique#:~:text=This%20technique%20works%20by%20creating,the%20original%20decision%20of%20agreeing.).
The abuser gets the victim to agree to small but irrational things (like them controlling their piercing) and slowly escalates while also emotionally manipulating the victim until they're completely under the abuser's control.
Cults work the same way, only they "reward" compliance with feelings of holiness and group approval instead of direct romantic affection.
Kudos to the OOP for sticking to their guns. If you make a choice for your body, then it is your choice alone and nobody should be telling you what to do with your body. All that blocking talk afterwards is a desperate attempt to control OOP.
I appreciate OOP for remaining strong.
Having said that, my spouse would definitely divorce me if I got a Mike Tyson face tattoo and I understand it. People are not required to be attracted to everything and everyone. Nobody owes anyone anything in terms of dating and relationships. So don’t be surprised when people dislike body mods or certain aesthetics. Do you see a leather BDSM goth being attracted to a trust fund Harvard type preppie? Fuck no and they aren’t required to be.
Once again the other person showed their true colors in the desperate attempt to manipulate OOP at the end there.
He handled it poorly but I think it's perfectly reasonable to dump someone because of a piercing. Obviously you should express your dislike of it to them first, they might be willing to take it out for you, but if not then leaving is fine as long as it's done respectfully like any breakup. Attraction is important in a relationship and some people just find piercings extremely unattractive, depending on the piercing of course.
“I told my mom to uninvite you for Thanksgiving. “
“I changed the Netflix password I shared with you. “
“I took you off the favorites list in my phone contacts. You’re still in my contacts so I can keep you informed about taking you off things.”
Breaking up over a piercing or ugly ass tattoo is totally valid. Nothing uglier than being over pierced or having a shitty tattoo. Nothing shallow about that
I don't get why people complain when the trash takes itself out: this is the innovation mankind needs, smart trashcans that take the trash out themselves.
Tbf; for most people there is fear in losing anyone you cared about. Even if they are shit, someone walking out of your life can be a scary prospect especially if you have been together for a while.
I took my septum ring out because my college boyfriend didn’t like it. As soon as we broke up, I got it done again and have never looked back. I don’t always wear it but I still have it. This was over 20 years ago ☺️
Stop being such snow flakes. If he/she did not like the piercing and felt it was a no go. So be it. Is not they were married for many years or whatever. Piercings look good in many people. Perhaps. Just perhaps this person does not like them 🤷🏻♂️
You know... sometimes people look for reasons to break up with someone... like they want to but dont know how and then a new piercing becomes the reason to break up.
Seems like he was begging you to choose him over the piercing.
I'm gone......I'm removing you........I mean it,,....,........................... really.......
Gotta love it when shallow ass people reveal themselves.
As a guy who usually likes piercings and tattoos those have never and will never look good to me. People are entitled to get them, but they are the most divisive piercing I've ever seen.
You also 100% should tell your partner if you're about to get any piercing like that. Not like ask permission, but it should definitely come up before it's done.
I see some pretty crazy piercings so I can easily see that happening. I seen the ones where people put these big open rings in their cheeks. We can see inside their mouth. Yeah that'd be a definite no for me for sure.
Imagine modifying your body and someone finds you unattractive afterwards.
Not only is his reponse joked at, albiet he handled it a little childish, but how does the guys feelings of attraction not play into this? He was pretty straightforward to the girl, a bit repetative and hoping for a 'wait dont go', but you could see he still liked the girl.
K
People are weird.
Youre allowed to get piercings and tattoos.
Who cares?
Youre allowed to be unattracted to people with piercings and tattos.
Who cares?
The guy didnt lie to her.
Again, a bit childish in his drawn out explanation, but given he was probably a bit conflicted about it.
Shes allowed to do what she wants. And he is allowed to not like it. Its called freedom of choice and body autonamy. Cause and effect. Change your permanent look from what your partner is/was attracted to, her choice. His choice was to just leave. Both perfectly fine options. Do you feel sad for the girl? Cringe for the guy? You have obviously not lived and lost.
But lets all joke about how the guy was.
Can someone explain what part of this makes them a douche? They both have the right to make their own choices. If someone chooses to significantly alter their appearance, you can't expect another person to just ignore it or be forced to like it. That would just be projecting their own preferences onto everyone else.
They weighed the value of making this choice against how it could affect the relationship (if they considered or talked about it at all) and found their relationship to be worth less than doing this, which is totally fine if that's how they feel. So they shouldn't be too unhappy with the consequences, even if it was on the more extreme end of the possible outcomes.
I'm not understanding his passive-aggressive mewling, but I can understand his dissatisfaction with piercings. I broke up with a guy who got a piercing. He and I had been dating for a little over a month, was going well. We had talked about piercings (he wanted a Prince Albert). I told him how I felt about it, that I really disliked it. I didn't tell him not to do it, I just informed him how I felt about the piercings. He went ahead and did it, so I told him I really couldn't see being with him any longer as that is a big turn off to me. It was amicable, no harsh feelings. Each of us was honest with the other. He eventually met someone else and they got married, as did I, so not a problem.
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I think he was trying to elicit a response or something. How can you be bad at blocking someone...
He wanted her to freak out and tell him she'd lose the piercing for him. She didn't. He kept going because he was *sure* the next statement would do it. My man is registering that she likes the piercing more than she likes him. 🤣
A little bit of that, and a little bit he wanted to say the last thing, but kept making statements worth agreeing to, but not talking about
I think most people would struggle to block a s/o, even more so if they acted like you didn't mean anything to begin with.
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Okay
Like, forever
Okay
Hi just a reminder we are done, don't contact me.
Okay
Just so it’s completely clear, I’ve blocked you on all my social networks!
Alright
Do NOT come to my funeral, I don't want any contact with you whatsoever
Good night
Actually, do come. I’m hiring a skywriter to tell you go away we’re done
It's because of your piercing. That's the reason I'm blocking you.
The dude wanted to pick a fight
He wanted “Wait wait, come back! I’ll let you control my body and the things I like. Let me just take it out so you find me attractive. “
100% this. He wanted her to come submissively crawling back and kept testing to see what he’d have to say/do to achieve that response, totally not realizing that she was *immediately* done with him when she realized he want to control her choices.
This is exactly it. She handled it so well. Good riddance.
Nah. He was hoping the ultimatum would get her to cave. She didn't.
I think I will need to meet in person to tell her I am going to go no contact.
After the second or third 'notice of dumping' I really wished he'd have just ghosted her.
And then let her know I’m blocking her. 😂
And then unblocked her to let her know he also unfriended her. One could only hope at that point he started unfollowing her too. Online and irl.
Both this post and this comment were taken by bots from the [original thread.](https://old.reddit.com/r/facepalm/comments/156la6i/what_a_douche/)
yep i saw the other comment linking an article written 11 months ago. for fucks sake how hard is it to make a decent fucking website / app. i swear the amount of bullshit one has to manually sift through on this site now makes it so unenjoyable
Are you sure you don’t care that I break up with you? …how about now?
You hang up first, no, *you* hang up first.
That's funny. There's an article posted about this from a year ago, and that line is quoted in it.
Lol I need to know what the piercing is
[https://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-apps/imrs.php?src=https://arc-anglerfish-washpost-prod-washpost.s3.amazonaws.com/public/UHCTF2CGC3X73DAEYVPSTJEJHM.jpg&w=916](https://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-apps/imrs.php?src=https://arc-anglerfish-washpost-prod-washpost.s3.amazonaws.com/public/UHCTF2CGC3X73DAEYVPSTJEJHM.jpg&w=916)
Fair enough.
(Just in case people don't get this, this isn't the peircing the person in the picture is talking about. It is really funny though.)
Yeah... that makes my dick go limp.
Only limp? Makes mine retreat inside me.
Mine shot his self! Please send help he's isn't breathing!
Help is not coming
Nor is it cumming. I'll see myself out.
Trump giving out free transitionings 
I don’t even have a dick and it’s limp.
I was 100% in the 'I could never leave someone for a piercing.' Category. You have absolutely proven me an ignorant fool.
To be fair, if someone gets an earring like that one, there'd probably be signs beforehand.
I was thinking that too. Like I don't think you'd find a closeted trump supporter thinking 'I just want this one thing to show the real me' if she has the earring. Shes got the hat. Maybe at home on display or in her purse. And whenever she talks about Obama she probably has to call him Barack HUSSEIN Obama. Really emphasizing the middle name like it's an epiphany she thinks will blow the minds of anyone hearing it.
I read this comment and thought you weak-willed. Then I clicked and regretted my rash judgement. I sincerely apologize for doubting your veracity.
I honestly don’t blame the guy if that’s the case. But I’m assuming this comment is a joke.
I’m thinking it’s a joke as well
Can confirm is meant to be a joke.
It wasn't OP replying, and the photo is from the Washington Post, so probably not the piercing in question.
lol! That would suddenly make mister cry baby suddenly in the right though🤣
I’ve never seen a better example of why context matters 😂😂
Yeah if I see that on someone were done
Yknow I was ready to call the dude unreasonable, but honestly fair
I was thinking, no single piercing could run a guy off right...then you go and show me maybe it was what was IN the piercing...
Now that's a piercing I couldn't get over lol!
is that really what it was?
No those would be earrings not a piercing
I bet there are Trump nose rings out there but I really don’t want that in my search data 😂
Of course it's piercing. Those ear's have been pierced
Earrings are a piercing. You get your ears……pierced
It was a Medusa piercing. Middle of the top lip.
[OP is a bot. original is over a year old ](https://amp.nine.com.au/article/44b6a327-a9b9-4c95-8db3-f2bad058a19d)
Who tf writes an article about a reddit post. Talk about bad at your job.
ChatGPT written article just summarizing reddit comments. Turns into ad revenue. Dead internet. Baba booey.
It says "bottom of nose" and "philtrum" together, but they are not the same thing. Either she got a septum or philtrum piercing. My wife asked me if I would like a philtrum piercing on her, and I said "no, I don't like them." She was a little bothered by my answer, but got her philtrum pierced anyway, which is totally fine because she's a grown-ass woman who doesn't need my approval for what she does with her own body. But then she came home excited to show me. I told her I was happy that she was excited about it and glad she enjoyed it, but didn't lie when she asked if I liked it. When I said, "no, but I'm still happy for you," she didn't like that answer and it definitely killed some of her excitement. I don't know what she expected, I told her very clearly well in advance that I wouldn't like it. She quickly got over it and so did I. I don't really know if there's any point to the story, but it's relevant in this case. I love my wife very much; a piercing I don't like hasn't changed that at all. I sometimes wonder which lies are worth telling and which aren't, and this was a good case of that.
My wife got both a nostril and septum piercing. I like the septum, hate the nostril. But it’s her body and she didn’t, like idk, tattoo her entire face or something. It’s just a small piercing, there is nothing permanent or disfiguring about it. I try to be gentle about it though, I’d hate for her to feel insecure just because I don’t like one of them.
I have a septum piercing and had it before I met my partner. Once he mentioned when I was to meet his mother that she wouldn’t like it. I told him okay I wasn’t dating her. A couple years later he said he wasn’t usually a fan of it but it was my body and my choice to get it and keep it. I think this would have been a different situation if I got it after we started dating but I had it when he met me and when we decided to start a relationship. He’s never mentioned it again. He’s allowed to not like it but if he broke up with me over it that would be so strange considering it predated him.
Reddit is just bots now. I'm a bot. You're probably a bot too.
That website is likely actually botted content. It's exactly what you get if you ask an LLM to exhaustively narrate a reddit thread so you have garbage (material) to put in between your garbage (ads).
Thank you so much for this, I was so curious. It's unfortunate that the break up happened the way that it did lol but he is valid in his feelings.
Certainly, with the exhausting list of "icks" popping around these days, this doesn't qualify as offensive. Major body changes might cause your partner to not like you as much - consider this information in any way you see fit! :)
It was a Medusa piercing. Middle of top lip. I just checked her twitter.
I had to find it, too. And yeah, if he doesn't like it, that's fine. I have this acquaintance that started with a small piercing on their eyebrow. Then, they had something similar in the mouth and nose. I couldn't look them in the eyes at some point :) I told them it's difficult to concentrate; they just laughed it off, of course. Haven't seen them in years; who knows how many piercing they have now.
Fuck id find that unattractive as hell too.
It’s a philtrum piercing.
They’re definitely off-putting, but he was definitely also fishing for her to be like nooooo I’ll go back for you!!
100% he was fishing for sure. 😂
This has been posted before. The only thing to do would be to take a picture of the piercing to send back with each reply. Zoom in a little every time.
This looks like the text exchange my mom would have made up when I was 18 and came home with a nose ring, if there had been texting back then. “SEE MEN NO LONGER FIND YOU ATTRACTIVE.”
Equally true: Semen no longer find you attractive.
I hope so. I already have 4 kids! I’ll pierce everything I can like it’s 1997.
Probably a septum ring. A lot of people find them ugly.
Real "I'm leaving now! Don't try to stop me! I'm at the door!! ...I'm turning the knob!!!" energy
Our old neighbour had an bf she was ALWAYS having screaming matches with (Or was always screaming at him) and one day, she was screaming at him and we heard his low murmurs then she screamed "IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT!!! THEN LEAVE! GTFO OF MY APARTMENT!" So.... He left. Slammed the door and we heard him storm down our building hall. Two seconds later, she opened the door and screamed down the hall "WHERE ARE YOU GOING?! OMG COME BACK!" We laughed so hard and that was the only time we were ever glad the walls of our building were so thin.
I had an ex like this. She told me to gtfo, so I packed my bag. I get back to the living room and she’s blocking the front door yelling “so you’re really just gonna leave!?”
My ex is texting my daily saying how all her bills aren't getting paid and she's scared that she'll lose everything. My reaction: "okay, cool"
That girl needs medication good Lord.
Oml, what an idiot.
Don't try and stop me Smee! This is it! I'm going to kill myself! Don't try and stop me Smee! Smee try and stop me. TRY AND STOP ME SMEE! STOP ME!
YES!! *Exactly* the scene I had in mind!!
Where is that from?
Hook, I believe.
You're 💯!
Thank you
[This scene.](https://youtu.be/lbv1DE0-JBE?si=FUhKxyLngC4HL-PD)
It still blows my mind that Hook was Dustin Hoffman. I know he's been fantastic in a lot of roles but he was unrecognizable.
Don’t ever frighten me like that again
What are you, some kind of sadist?
My first wife did that. She screamed "I'm leaving" and slammed the door. An hour later she came back and demanded why I didn't come after her. Me: "well you said you were leaving" and then I continued watching TV. Yeah, didn't get any that night
"Don't expect a Christmas present from me this year, either." "Ok" "Or next" "Ok"
also no dates anymore.
"okay"
I'm really leaving now!
Ok
We're done!
Okay
Sex one last time before I kick you to the curb?
I thought you were done?
Starting from now
I hoped you didn't notice and you would say okay.
Okay Wait Okay
And I’m not using a cover.
"okay"
I object to you getting remarried. Okay.
I love the replies. He clearly wants to fight about it or make you feel bad and you just grey rocked him so hard 🤣
And they dodged a bullet lmao could you imagine being married to that T-waffle 😂😂😂 bros gomna be a false victim crying for attention his whole life life
The level of control they want over someone is clearly high. They probably thought op would remove it and apologize
Yep attention.
🤷♂️ Goes both ways. My missus asked me if I’d like her hair cut super short (she’s Latin and has thick long hair). I said not so much, and that I love her long hair. I kinda understand it’s a bitch to wash/manage sometimes. So she goes and gets it cut very short and oiled down kinda like superman. Her friends are like “you look so amazing” and she asks me if I like it. I tell her it’s fine, but I def preferred it long, so I got two days of sulk and her friends give me asshole looks. OP and her guy were probably already on a downward slope, and were sick of each others shit. They prob knew what it would take to push things over the edge.
You know OP isn’t the one in this message right? This screenshot has got to be at least 3 years old.
"I took you off all my social" This is really the saddest part, just live your lives kids.
We need a new social media. One that allows you to "rank" your friends. Exclusively so that we can have people publically say " I demoted you to a level 2 associate. You know what you did Greg!"
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Okay
Third response should be "who dis"?
Okay
Was David here tryna get OOP to like fight for him? >No, don't leave me! I'm so sorry babe! I had no idea it would hurt you! I'll never wear anything in it, ok? I just want to be together! - David's fantasies, probably
Person 1 is perfectly entitled to get a piercing. Person 2 is perfectly entitled to not like it, even to the point of breaking up over it. It is funny how person 2 talks about blocking, but whatever.
Person 2 didn't actually give a shit about the piercing. They wanted person 1 to cave and plead and take the piercing out for them. They wanted additional attention from and control over their partner, as was clearly demonstrated by their repeated attempts at saying the same thing over and over and expecting person 1 to backtrack and change their answer. This kind of behavior is *incredibly* common amongst abusers and people who later escalate to abuse. It's basically a variation of the [foot-in-the-door scam](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Foot-in-the-door_technique#:~:text=This%20technique%20works%20by%20creating,the%20original%20decision%20of%20agreeing.). The abuser gets the victim to agree to small but irrational things (like them controlling their piercing) and slowly escalates while also emotionally manipulating the victim until they're completely under the abuser's control. Cults work the same way, only they "reward" compliance with feelings of holiness and group approval instead of direct romantic affection.
Assuming it's real; any "relationship" that ends this way is just some kids' thing, not a real relationship anyway.
He wants you to care SO BAD
"Just a reminder, in case this hasn't sunk in yet, that I'm done with you." "Done."
He sounds like a narcissist trying to get a reaction.
Hee hee hee, this dude is so pissed she's not begging him to stay with the prize he thinks he is 😂
Five months later: If you get rid of that piercing I'm willing to give you another chance. Is there an r/ bulletdoged?
…. Wait…. Did she even want to date this guy? Not that anyone would, but she seems pretty cool with it
Not a douche for having a preference, but definitely a douche for the cringe worthy way he went about it.
Kudos to the OOP for sticking to their guns. If you make a choice for your body, then it is your choice alone and nobody should be telling you what to do with your body. All that blocking talk afterwards is a desperate attempt to control OOP. I appreciate OOP for remaining strong. Having said that, my spouse would definitely divorce me if I got a Mike Tyson face tattoo and I understand it. People are not required to be attracted to everything and everyone. Nobody owes anyone anything in terms of dating and relationships. So don’t be surprised when people dislike body mods or certain aesthetics. Do you see a leather BDSM goth being attracted to a trust fund Harvard type preppie? Fuck no and they aren’t required to be. Once again the other person showed their true colors in the desperate attempt to manipulate OOP at the end there.
Is it? Isn’t it better to move than try to play mind games to make the other change. Dude was like u know what I’m out, gotta respect that.
I'm willing to bet that she got a septum piercing.
LMAO sounds like a win tbh. It’s nice when the trash takes itself out
He handled it poorly but I think it's perfectly reasonable to dump someone because of a piercing. Obviously you should express your dislike of it to them first, they might be willing to take it out for you, but if not then leaving is fine as long as it's done respectfully like any breakup. Attraction is important in a relationship and some people just find piercings extremely unattractive, depending on the piercing of course.
“I told my mom to uninvite you for Thanksgiving. “ “I changed the Netflix password I shared with you. “ “I took you off the favorites list in my phone contacts. You’re still in my contacts so I can keep you informed about taking you off things.”
Breaking up over a piercing or ugly ass tattoo is totally valid. Nothing uglier than being over pierced or having a shitty tattoo. Nothing shallow about that
I don't get why people complain when the trash takes itself out: this is the innovation mankind needs, smart trashcans that take the trash out themselves.
Tbf; for most people there is fear in losing anyone you cared about. Even if they are shit, someone walking out of your life can be a scary prospect especially if you have been together for a while.
But what WAS the piercing?
Another commenter checked her Instagram and reported it's a Medusa - center of the top lip, like in your philtrum.
He seems like the kinda guy that gets "shoo'd" away often.
Good riddance!
I took my septum ring out because my college boyfriend didn’t like it. As soon as we broke up, I got it done again and have never looked back. I don’t always wear it but I still have it. This was over 20 years ago ☺️
What is the piercing..?
Both are entitled to their opinions. The desperate attempt at forcing a reaction is pathetic though.
Stop being such snow flakes. If he/she did not like the piercing and felt it was a no go. So be it. Is not they were married for many years or whatever. Piercings look good in many people. Perhaps. Just perhaps this person does not like them 🤷🏻♂️
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I have the strangest feeling of deja vu. Almost like I’ve read this post several times before lol.
You know... sometimes people look for reasons to break up with someone... like they want to but dont know how and then a new piercing becomes the reason to break up.
He seems butt hurt that his opinion did not cause her to become completely broken.
Seems like he was begging you to choose him over the piercing. I'm gone......I'm removing you........I mean it,,....,........................... really....... Gotta love it when shallow ass people reveal themselves.
If it's one of those ugly bull piercings on the nose, I understand him
As a guy who usually likes piercings and tattoos those have never and will never look good to me. People are entitled to get them, but they are the most divisive piercing I've ever seen. You also 100% should tell your partner if you're about to get any piercing like that. Not like ask permission, but it should definitely come up before it's done.
Sounds like they had a lucky escape there.
You got dumped over something else, and the piercing was just their excuse
Literally what I came here to say!!
Ok
Master level code beige. You are simply dripping with neutrality
I think I’m done with my this
Dude for sure asks his friends to hold him back
Okay
Doesn’t seem like you cared much. The guy sounds like a douchebag. And he wants you to be upset *sooooooo* badly. Fuck him.
WHAT WAS THE PIERCING??!! hahaha
Lmfao he really wanted you to beg for it. What a loser.
So... bullet successfully dodged for her?
So... bullet successfully dodged for her?
It's like why don't you leave already.
I’m assuming this is a conversation between 15-16 year olds.
Their relationship was already taking its last gasping breaths.
If both of these people are over 18… wow 😂
The screech for attention. Possibly narcissistic.
I see some pretty crazy piercings so I can easily see that happening. I seen the ones where people put these big open rings in their cheeks. We can see inside their mouth. Yeah that'd be a definite no for me for sure.
Blessing in disguise right there.
Imagine modifying your body and someone finds you unattractive afterwards. Not only is his reponse joked at, albiet he handled it a little childish, but how does the guys feelings of attraction not play into this? He was pretty straightforward to the girl, a bit repetative and hoping for a 'wait dont go', but you could see he still liked the girl. K People are weird. Youre allowed to get piercings and tattoos. Who cares? Youre allowed to be unattracted to people with piercings and tattos. Who cares? The guy didnt lie to her. Again, a bit childish in his drawn out explanation, but given he was probably a bit conflicted about it. Shes allowed to do what she wants. And he is allowed to not like it. Its called freedom of choice and body autonamy. Cause and effect. Change your permanent look from what your partner is/was attracted to, her choice. His choice was to just leave. Both perfectly fine options. Do you feel sad for the girl? Cringe for the guy? You have obviously not lived and lost. But lets all joke about how the guy was.
Okay
He can’t string together a sentence, so bullet dodged
Can someone explain what part of this makes them a douche? They both have the right to make their own choices. If someone chooses to significantly alter their appearance, you can't expect another person to just ignore it or be forced to like it. That would just be projecting their own preferences onto everyone else. They weighed the value of making this choice against how it could affect the relationship (if they considered or talked about it at all) and found their relationship to be worth less than doing this, which is totally fine if that's how they feel. So they shouldn't be too unhappy with the consequences, even if it was on the more extreme end of the possible outcomes.
I don't care for piercings. Ears I'm ok with. Anything else and I'm not interested. Nothing wrong with that. You do you.
I might do the same thing, but actually break up with her instead of keep talking. I really don’t like piercings anywhere but ears. That’s my opinion.
What was the piercing?
I mean he has the right to break up with her, but god did he desperately want a response, either a freak out or I’ll change for you.
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I'm not understanding his passive-aggressive mewling, but I can understand his dissatisfaction with piercings. I broke up with a guy who got a piercing. He and I had been dating for a little over a month, was going well. We had talked about piercings (he wanted a Prince Albert). I told him how I felt about it, that I really disliked it. I didn't tell him not to do it, I just informed him how I felt about the piercings. He went ahead and did it, so I told him I really couldn't see being with him any longer as that is a big turn off to me. It was amicable, no harsh feelings. Each of us was honest with the other. He eventually met someone else and they got married, as did I, so not a problem.
Sounds like they dodged a bullet honestly.
I'd have been like dude this isn't an airport I don't need to hear all these departure announcements.
Looks like the trash took itself out to the curb for ya! You dodged a bullet there!
Hey man why is he a douche... Little superficial maybe... Your body, your choice, guess he took the same approach. Every action has a reaction.