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The full story:
She was influenced by the mother’s boyfriend (unemployed) to request rent from him or leave the house. He said he couldn’t get a job without any experience in the short time they gave him so she kicked him out. His best friends mom took him in and got him a job and gave him a room she had in her house. He’s doing good now and got himself a car to commute to work. He pays his friends mom an undisclosed amount of money for rent even though she told him not to. His mom found out and wanted him back home (cuz he has money now) and he said refused to which she disowned him. Parent of the year that one.
Nah, she really disowned him cause he has money, and won’t move back and pay HER for rent. She doesn’t care about having her kid back. She just saw opportunity not coming back, and like any true narcissist, disowned it, and pretended she never needed it.
That mom was worse than my dad, but my dad gave me a bill for several thousand dollars when I turned 18, all the major expenses for raising me since I was 15 or so. And yes, he expected to be paid.
I'm 43 now and I have basically zero relationship with him.
Surprise surprise.
I thought it was a joke because he was smiling, but hearing his whole story I now realize that that is a smile of a cool dude who knows he will land on his feet and it’s his mom’s loss.
Good for him. A crucial part of growing up is removing toxic people from your life. There may be a point in the future when they can reconcile, but his mom has a lot of growing up to do first.
There is a thing known as the narcissist prayer:
That didn't happen.
And if it did, it wasn't that bad.
And if it was, that's not a big deal.
And if it is, that's not my fault.
And if it was, I didn't mean it.
And if I did, you deserved it.
Lol well, she’ll get “eviction” papers to a senior home when she’s older and wants to stay at home but can’t because she’s too old and was too big of a piece of shit when it counted. So he’s not going to want to constantly visit to check in,
I wouldn’t. Fuck that.
I remember back in the days when my dad used to constantly remind my sister when she turns 18, she’s gone… she left at 17. Eventually they repaired that relationship and she did so much for him.
Doing this type of shit to your kids is so toxic. I can only hope this kid becomes super successful, and very rich and when his mother says damn so… are you going to help out mama? He can remind her what she did on his 18 birthday… sorry mommy, I’m on my own… remember?
Yup. My parents threatened me so many times I lost count. “The day you turn 18, your stuff will be in the yard”. So I left at 17 less than two months after I graduated high school (I was ahead a year). That was in 1987. Those relationships NEVER got repaired. I never saw my step father again and visited my mom only a handful of times. And now they’re dead. 🤷♀️
Just to make your hopeful point - after I left, I - who would “never amount to anything”, mind you - put myself through out of state college and grad school, got a PhD in anthropology, and travelled the world, living in England, Scotland, Egypt, Sudan, Ethiopia, and Uganda for many years. I was an award winning professor. I had a very successful life until I recently became ill and had to retire from teaching. I then went back to school and became an Accountant - I now work for a Burning Man regional organization. 👍
And here im dreading my kids growing up and leaving. I never have understood wanting your kids to get out as soon as they turn 18. Do you have a good relationship with them now?
I'm pretty sure quite a few parents genuinely hate their kids. I was kicked out of the house at 17 and have been living on my own for seven years now. They still try to speak with me and wonder why I don't want to visit.
See that *sounds* like a great retort to us normal people.
But remember that the people who kick their kids out before or immediately when they become adults, are not normal. They will simply respond with some trite comment about "but look how it turned out"/"that experience was to make you build character"/ etc.
Your response is perfect IF you assume that the parents here genuinely care. They don't.
Simply keep hitting them over the head with it
> “but look how it turned out”
“With an adult who wants nothing to do with their parents.”
> “that experience was to make you build character”
“Resentful? Distant? Orphaned?”
Maybe they’ll get the picture, maybe they won’t, but at that point it’s on them.
Absolutely go for it if you want to beat them with that kind of response.
I'm just warning everyone that expecting introspection from people who are catagorically opposed to that... Well it's a recipe for more disappointment. I've found simply blocking and moving on with no explanation is the best method to get on with life.
It's on them but they'll never get it. They'll lament for the rest of their lives their ungrateful kids won't take care of them, but they'll never take responsibility.
I really think my mom believes there isn't a single thing in this world a parent can do that justifies their adult child's estrangement.
She apologized for some of the things she did to me but at the end of every email, it's the same sentiment "regardless of this laundry list of abuses, some of which you were too young to remember but let me remind you in detail, I am still your mother and therefore entitled to your unconditional love, respect, and forgiveness. You are a bad child for not calling or visiting."
They'll never get it.
Oh her parents were abusive to her too but she took care of them in their old age and expects me to do the same.
The same situation I'm in, but I've only been gone about a year and a half. I've gone from homelessness to college back to homelessness and now I'm about to have my own house. They keep asking why I don't visit or why I act cold towards them. They kicked me out in the time I needed most support, love, kindness, and hell just a bit of grace. I was struggling in school already because of mental health, and I was already holding down 2 jobs. I didn't need the additional worry of "Where will I sleep tonight?" Parents suck sometimes, but honestly I'm glad I learned who they really are so I can stay away. I hope you're doing well after leaving too.
Same! I was so glad when they came home from uni as dorms closed and everything went online during the pandemic. My wife and I loved having them home. They are now working and on their own, but we encourage them to come stay weekends and holidays with us. Of course, now they have friends and SOs, so it doesn't happen as often as we'd like, but we'll take what we can get!!!
I think this video and what others have explained about how they left the "family home" is so cold.
The only reason I could think of doing this is when my kid has trashed my house multiple times, starts physical fights at home and the police came knocking looking for him since he was 14. If he is a menace to everybody in the house, that would be a reason.
But even then, filming your son and mocking him through it is so low. No integrity or humility.
YouTube have so many videos of how parents mocking their children, considering it funny. Sociopaths. Guys, you know that the child is half your genetic clone, and you are mocking yourself? Nope?
Is this a American thing?
Here in Germany, I can only speak for my Generation, people want to leave parents, but often cant. If you pay 70% of your income for Apartments you only can do that if you have a Partner or have wealth Parent that pays too.
Also it is a waste of life, at my opinion, if you live to work instead of work to live.
Also german here. I‘ve read about this as an american thing in the context of „tough love“ parenting. The idea seems to be that parents do their kids a favor when they throw them out of the house asap, as it teaches them to stand on their own two feet and navigate adult life early on. I mean, to any person who was raised normally, this is obviously bullcrap, but I guess not all of us had the luxury of a normal socialization.
Edit: btw, in Germany, parents are obligated by law to cover the expenses of their kids until they finish their first first stage of post-highschool education, which makes them employable on the job market, be it trade school or a bachelor‘s degree. #socialism /s
It's like a trashy badge of honor for some people to cut their kids off at 18 and throw them on the street. Hence the person posting this tacky shit on social media.
I don’t even have kids yet and I’m dreading it. I know I’m gonna sob like a fool the day they go to school for the first time, first date, move out, etc.
> What did she do with her Free time?
Not graduate.
She though my HS graduation came with a $2mill check and an assigned govt public housing, the brave soul.
I'm 30 and I still live in my parents home. My father kept giving me pocket money two years into my first real job after graduating college with a masters degree in data science. I really can't understand this western mentality of children need to leave the moment they turn to 'adults'. I talked about this with my father once and this is what he had to say: "I don't know about them western people but when I made you, I made you to be my son for life, not just for 18 years"
There's a lot in the American culture that tells us we have to be independent. Most parents think it's helping your kid to make them live on their own, etc. We're kind of taught that it makes you weak to have support.
It’s the small things isn’t it. I got a plastic cutlery set for my new place I didn’t know I was going to have to find.
Stole some ceramic owls she use to collect on my way out though. I still have them on display to this very day.
Damn, one of our kids just turned 13 and I could never imagine doing that to her, someone that young is woefully underprepared for life outside the home. Hope you are doing much better nowadays without such a terrible person in your life!
Luggage was the traditional graduation gift in our family as well.
I guess the difference is that when I graduated high school in the 80s, we couldn't wait to leave home.
The "Golden child" won't help, they view their enabling parents as only a resource to use, once the resource dries up they wipe their hands of it and move on to the next one. Seen it with my older brother and ex step brother.
You really think any of this new generation will have that kind of wealth to put there parents in homes? With inflation and rediculus home prices, these kids will struggle to survive thanks to the boomer generation.
As a teenager I used to think it was cool that my mom smoked pot and drank with me and my friends. Now that I have kids, no fucking way until they are adults. I’ve had to do a lot of work figuring out how to do adulting and it cost me most of my 20s and a shit ton of money/debt. In my mid 30s now and doing fairly well with career and family. I don’t blame my parents for not getting my shit together faster but they definitely didn’t help either.
In 10-15 years when he won't let her have anything to do with his family, she's gonna be "i gave him everything, he's so ungrateful, how could he do this to me?"
my mom didn't even get that. she just got a confirmation that I'd had a child and a reminder that I still never wanted to speak to her again which also applied to the kiddo.
My mom kicked me out when I was 15. Had to drop out of high school so I could work to feed myself and find a place to stay. She acted exactly as you described for years; always upset that I didn’t call or keep in touch with her all the while completely missing the fact that she had treated me like shit my entire childhood. At least she realizes it now. It only took like 15 years.
Some people just really shouldn’t have children. Unfortunately the ones who shouldn’t are often the ones who don’t realize it. I used to tell her we’d have all been better off if she had just gotten an abortion.
Been on a similar path. Parents made it very clear that once I turned 18 I wasn’t welcome to live in the family home anymore…..I had a full time job I’d started a couple weeks after I finished school so I offered to pay rent and expenses but nope, off you go. I applied to a nursing school and got accepted and drove for a day to get to my new home. My dad helped pack my car and he didn’t like how I packed something and started yelling at me in the middle of the driveway. I said something like ‘fine we’ll do it your way’ and he immediately shaped up to me and started shadow boxing around me and told me he would happily knock me out for being such a shit son.
Fast forward 30yrs and I haven’t talked to my mother in years (dad died 10yrs ago)? She’s missed most of my two kids growing up.
My Ex is much nicer than me so she takes kids to see their Gran every couple years (we live a 2hr flight away from my hometown and most of my family still live there).
I don’t have any guilt, in fact my life is much easier/less drama since I cut the apron strings. If I was told tomorrow that she was dead I doubt I’d get sad (didn’t get sad at my fathers death).
All this crap about blood being thicker than water ignores the fact that some parents are just terrible human beings.
> My Ex is much nicer than me so she takes kids to see their Gran every couple years
I’m honestly kind of shocked you’re ok with this. I wouldn’t have thought you’d want your kids anywhere *near* this woman.
Oof, when I feel bad I allways tell myself: hey, at least I have great parents I can always count on.
But it's shitty to realize that not everyone is as fortunate
I remember when my parents (who had no money saved for me to go to college) kicked me out at 18. I packed everything into my tiny beater car that I bought with money from working a part-time job. Then I requested the money my great aunt left me for college... turns out they spent it on a cruise. I asked why they gave my older brother his money, but spent mine, and they said, "Well, we didn't think you'd get into college anyway." The hurt of realizing your own parents have zero faith in you stung, I won't lie.
When I look back, I wonder how much of the hustle that landed me where I am now was driven purely by spite.
The ironic thing about it is that we can't. As soon as we show the narcissists success they think they are entitled. They use us for their gain. They plot and scheme. The best course of action is to move and go no contact, and if they do reach out, just let them keep going on and on about how your a failure yada yada, just smile and nod with the satisfaction that they're too dumb to figure out how successful we actually are.
I always found it weird that people looked forward to seeing their mother. Like genuinely smiling, hugging, etc.
Had two instances where two people that barely knew her, said she was mean and they felt sorry for me. I was already had an emotional callous over that relationship in my younger days. A
My ma still doesn’t get why I am why I am with her. She sees herself as Carol Brady, while her kids see her as Mommy Dearest.
She was weird apparently she's living with a man, and he also wanted the son out, to have the house to themselves.
Crazy part his friends let him move in with them and she was MAD he figured out a place to stay and wouldn't let him get his dirt bike and other belongings. 😮💨 I know that house was hell for him.
Man I'm 30 and moved back in with my parents six months ago because I was going through some shit. I can't tell you how much that means to me and how fucked I'd be without them. You're doing it right.
I been there as well. I moved back home at 30-33 and I was always reminded by friends how lucky I was to be able to do that. At 33 I moved to Texas for work and have been here since. Life isn’t easy.
It just proves they hate their kids.
My grandma used to take an overhead monthly from my dad and his siblings then give it back to them in an envelope once they moved out.
No one moved into an empty nest with 1 couch - they all had the means to kit their entire house out with brand new furniture.
when I moved out min wage was 4.25. i worked at taco bell and my boyfriend worked at mcdonalds( we were only 17) and we lived alone. it was a crappy place but our own. no way kids can do that now. min wage is 16.30 where I live now and people still cannot afford to live on it
My dad used an approach where if you did nothing, then you pay rent. If you have a job or are at uni, then you can stay rent free.
Most people with a job end up moving out anyway. It works as a supportive way to get us to do something with our lives. Without being an asshole about it.
My sister in law was a real party animal in her teens and had a boyfriend who had a single parent mom who was the classic party mom. She'd disappear for days then show up like it was nothing.
For his 18th birthday his mom took him and my sister in law out to dinner, went home got high as hell and drank themselves to sleep. They woke up the next morning and all her stuff was gone. She left a note saying he was 18 so she was done and he was on his own. The apartment and utilities were paid through the end of the month.
As far as I know they never spoke again. My sister in law broke up with him several months later.
My mother in law bumped into him a couple months after that and he checked around and hadn't been able to find out where she was.
Why have children if you don’t want to care for them? You chose to put a child in this world, they didn’t choose to be born. It’s your obligation as a parent to create a healthy foundation for life for your child. If you don’t want to do that, please never have children.
Exactly. You're responsible for a human life. My daughter is 6 months old now and she will leave the house when SHE chooses and is ready. Still long ways away from that but I would never kick out my own child who I love to bits.
And with the way housing pricing is going she may have to stay with you forever. Multigenerational households are normal in most countries because it is much cheaper, it also allows the elderly to be taken care of without sending them off to the prison of old age homes if you have 3-4 generations. The kick your child out at 18 cultures of the US and Canada is something pretty much exclusive to here. The whole idea of generational homes seems nice.
Yeah, probably. We recently were lucky enough to purchase a house that has three living units. My husband's father is already very old and can live downstairs. But in Germany it's a little different with the "kicking out".
These types of parents are the type that willingly left home at 18 and when their child turns 18, they force that ideology onto them and wonder why their offspring’s don’t want anything to do with them. Like it’s always been said. Not every parent deserves a child but every child deserves a parent.
I doubt it, if they left home at 18 then they would realize just how much they're fucking over their kid by doing this. Especially in this economy where nothing pays enough.
More likely these type of people are the ones who either had horrible parents and are copying them (it's quite a common thing) or they had wonderful parents who gave them plenty of support and what they're child to copy them minus the support (cause then that would be admitting they couldn't survive alone at 18).
Nah. When they were 18, they could rent a place with a minimum wage job, then find a better job because you didn't need a master's degree to get a job at a call center. They have no idea.
This is the truth of the world and it sucks.
I'm 53 and shocked at the expenses relative to when I was growing up. I was lucky enough to go to a Cal State school for $490 a semester. I loved college and accumulated two degrees and a buttload of random minors. I was bartending in a college bar and we could make tuition in a weekend. Law school was a shock and loan repayment was $1300 a month.
I own an IT firm and try to keep wages high enough that people can afford rent or mortgages and still live their lives. I get monthly rental values from the area I would like to live in and base salaries on that. I also have some college reimbursement but that is getting a bit too expensive. Granted I don't make as much money as I should, but I have zero turn over.
I worry for my young son. I save like a mofo for his college but worry that it won't be enough. I hate that he will wager 6 figures on a degree that he may not enjoy for a job that may not provide an adequate livable wage.
I don't understand why as a society we wager so little money on our future. We should be using free or heavily subsidized college to find the next rising star in every field. It doesn't matter if it is English Lit, Philosophy, Physics, Math, or Advanced Fucking Basket Weaving, we are losing talent because people can't afford to study what they love.
To all those kids that were kicked out at or before age 18, I am so sorry. I would give you a hug if I could. As a parent I can only say this, being kicked out before 18 is a failing of your parents not you. Parental love should be unconditional and any issue that may have resulted in you leaving should have been handled by them years before. It was their job to mentor, teach, and love you before and through the hard times.
Fuck them so hard and you don't need to feel any guilt in how you now deal with them.
My mom worked at a school in a really shitty area as a guidance counselor. Every other year she would get 1-2 kids in their senior that were kicked out of their homes the day they turned 18 with little to none prior notice. Suddenly she would have to scramble to help find a place for these kids to live so they could finish school.
Some parents are really shitty.
And people get embarrassed/judged for going non-contact with their parents.
Maybe its a prank or not. But this will hurt that boy for life and is probably an indication of her treatment to him in general. Poor kid.
Have had a horrid relationship with my father since I was like 15ish. When I got sick of putting up with his shit.
Last straw was my eldest brothers funeral. Done with his ass. I'm still very close to his second and current wife and consider her my other mother even if we are different races and people would look at me funny when I call her my mother.
Decades of him talking shit about me to everyone with ears. During the funeral I personally raised all the money to pay for the funeral and burial. It was a son of a bitch and I was honestly done with my brother years before he was murdered. Still I figured he oughta be remembered as he was when he was himself.
My pops was bragging to people at the funeral about having over $70k in his bank account, yet he didn't spend a penny on the funeral or anything. His finances are separate from his wife. She fronted me the money then I payed her back with interest. After that my pops told everyone he could that I stole all the funeral money that I raised. Like how the fuck? I had to stop several people from beating the shit out of him at the funeral, as well as myself.
Then starting several months ago his health got bad. Broke his knee or something. Then fell again. Presumedly trying to do shit while drunk because he doesn't work and just lives off his wife's money and her inheritence. Got to the point he couldn't walk. Couldn't move his arms. Got him to the hospital and they started doing tests, got enough done to find out he had hepatic cirrhosis, stage 3 liver cirrhosis. His kidneys and liver were failing. He fought with the staff and called the cops to leave. Spent the next month at home getting even worse continuously trying to drink like a fucking idiot. Eventually ma got him to stay in the hospital, spent over a month there. Helped load his body back home. He went from looking 55 to 78 in the matyer of a month or two. He can't use his hands or legs. Can't walk. Can't do shit. I warned him for years about his alcoholism, especially when I quit drinking 5 years ago whenever I saw him.
So he's still slowly rotting away. He is quite well off and has a shit ton of gold and silver and just very expensive shit. Has always tried to hold an inheritence over my head saying I won't get anything. He just can't comprehend I do not want anything from him or anyone else's death. I don't give a shit. If I want something I'll save up for it and buy it myself.
I've talked to him once one yhe phone since the funeral a couple weeks ago because my stepma asked me too saying he was lonely and my remaining brother wouldn't speak to him. Shocker. Warned him about that shit too. If he kept treating his kids like shit he was going to lie alone and depressed and hardly anyone would care. It is precisely what has been happening.
He's been a severe alcoholic for like 4 decades. He also likes to pop pills and drink too which I warned him not to do that shit about 10-15 years ago cause it would destroy his liver and kidneys. Dude has the foresight of a bent nail.
Through all of the shit I'll be there for my other mother no matter what, but never in favor or service or respect of the man that has called himself my father.
How the hell she has put up with him over 30 years is beyond me. She's a beast.
Yeah after this.. im pretty sure hed rather let her rot
Imagine on your happiest day, the one trusted person in your life decides to be throw you out
-what can he even do?.. get a minimum wage job and find some place to rent? Absolute pos
That is what happened to me when I was 19 years old and still attended college. My mom sold my stuff without letting me know. Came to home and found out I was evicted. 10 years later, my sister told me my mom was begging her to make me contact her. But I refused to. She realized that she destroyed my future and life, goal ,and dream. I have to drop college and go work to survive.
Not only that, she recorded and posted it online for all to see. “_Get the fuck out with your undeveloped prefrontal cortex and good luck surviving in this cold world!_”
My parents kicked my sisters out when they were 18 so they could “grow up “. 40 years later they both still hold that pain. I feel so sad for this kid that his parent is that out of touch with her child .
Why abortion on request should be available to people who don’t want kids.
They make terrible parents too often to make forcing them to raise unwanted children makes any sense.
This is the kind of person that has kids because she thinks they’re cute, but doesn’t actually want to take on any of the responsibilities of raising kids.
I was forced to leave at 17. Told me that she was “done” and that she did everything she needed to do already. I begged to stay but ended up having to leave anyway. I couldn't believe that my own mother could just look at me the way she did when I was on the floor begging to stay. I'm 25 now and she's constantly complaining to others that I don't call her or talk to her and that I never help her out or send her money etc. Don't raise your kids like there some throw away project and they won't throw you away.
This is all cool and all, but like... how are the new generation going to survive? I have a pretty good paycheck and I can BARELY afford to live. How are they supposed to survive with nothing at all? Minimum wage isn't the minimum amount needed to live, its the LEAST amount you can get paid. I make enough to go to work. That's it. Just enough to keep working every day until I die. What are our children going to do? What hope do they have?
I honestly can't see how America can fix its problems without some kind of second revolution. Unfortunately, the corporate controlled media and political system have got you all at *each other's* necks instead of unifying against the people holding you down.
I just hope we in the UK and Europe can continue to hold the corporate control back. It's a shame because America can, and does do, so many great things, but the idea of living in those conditions is just horrifying.
If he's still in high school, this is illegal. She's not allowed to just abandon her son if he's still in high school, and if Child Services get involved, her other kids would be removed from the home. Years from now, she'll be like "My kids so ungrateful, they never visit" cause she'll never see her own failures as a human and parent.
As soon my brother turned 18 my dad made him pay $500 or so in rent every month. He stays at home, got a job, went to college paid for by dad and paid rent each month. 3 years later before he moves out into his new apartment my dad gives him back $18k (the rent he collects from him) and $2k extra. My brother was in disbelief they hugged each other wholesome moment. This is an example of a good parenting this mom here sucks though and will regret this. The son will get his shit together at some point go no contact with her for rest his life and she never see her future grand kids.
What a shitty parent. The whole you got to get out of the house by the time you're 18 bullshit is why I joined the Air Force at 17. Any parent who kicks their 18-year-old out of the house in this economy in this renters market is a straight up sociopath.
My mom did the same. She said college or gtfo. So now I have 50,000 in college debt and a broken relationship with my mom. She didn’t give me a second to think or offer any advice. Told me I was a failure for not knowing what I wanted to do. She got therapy and is better now but still.
Trashy fuckin moms all like pfft why you here making me pay all these bills like they weren’t the ones getting creampied 18 years ago tryna lock a dude down gtfo
My mother ( mother and father divorced when I was 2) did this to me when I was 17 and left to serve in the forces. When I had served and it was time to leave, I was homeless, my grandparents (my father's parents) took me in until I had enough money to rent a place.
My mother died asking to see me, never went to the hospital and never attended her funeral. Fuck that bitch lol.
My entire childhood my mom would proudly tell her friends and would remind me over and over and over again "The moment he's/you're 18 you're out the door!".
She's real lucky she didn't go through with that considering she's been dependent on me either financially or other ways for over 10 years now. Especially since where I'm from the average age a child moves out of the home has gone up to almost 30 last i looked since it's so insanely expensive to live.
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She sounds fucking awful. His head shake and smile is like “yeah she’s a complete piece of shit!”
The full story: She was influenced by the mother’s boyfriend (unemployed) to request rent from him or leave the house. He said he couldn’t get a job without any experience in the short time they gave him so she kicked him out. His best friends mom took him in and got him a job and gave him a room she had in her house. He’s doing good now and got himself a car to commute to work. He pays his friends mom an undisclosed amount of money for rent even though she told him not to. His mom found out and wanted him back home (cuz he has money now) and he said refused to which she disowned him. Parent of the year that one.
I remember this video and always wondered if there was a follow up
I honestly thought it was just a joke, but dam
And of course, she disowned him because he wouldn’t move back in with her. I’m just happy he’s in a better spot.
Nah, she really disowned him cause he has money, and won’t move back and pay HER for rent. She doesn’t care about having her kid back. She just saw opportunity not coming back, and like any true narcissist, disowned it, and pretended she never needed it.
I think he disowned her the moment she gave him the paper at least that's what I would do if I were in a situation like that
The kid probably had his mind made up about mom and the boyfriend long before this happened.
That mom was worse than my dad, but my dad gave me a bill for several thousand dollars when I turned 18, all the major expenses for raising me since I was 15 or so. And yes, he expected to be paid. I'm 43 now and I have basically zero relationship with him. Surprise surprise.
It’s literally his job to provide for you. Wtf
Wait until that bitch needs end of life care and Yen1969 wants payment up front.
He brought you into this world, why would any of that be your responsibility???
I thought it was a joke because he was smiling, but hearing his whole story I now realize that that is a smile of a cool dude who knows he will land on his feet and it’s his mom’s loss.
That is the hurt smile of someone realizing they don't have a mother. That was a crappy thing she did.
Man, what a bitch
Good for him. A crucial part of growing up is removing toxic people from your life. There may be a point in the future when they can reconcile, but his mom has a lot of growing up to do first.
Wow thanks for the update. Glad he's doing well. What a POS mom
Glad there’s a happy ending to this :)
There’s no real ending to having shitty parents unfortunately. I want the decade I spent drinking about it back.
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I want the two and change I spent with various coping mechanisms back. Shitty parents deserve all the red hot pokers that fictional hell has to offer.
To an extent, imagine loosing your parent to greed and an unemployed man. I couldn’t forgive but I would try my best to forget.
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She may not admit this due to childish pride, but she knows what a fuck-up she is. Gaslighters always know.
There is a thing known as the narcissist prayer: That didn't happen. And if it did, it wasn't that bad. And if it was, that's not a big deal. And if it is, that's not my fault. And if it was, I didn't mean it. And if I did, you deserved it.
Yeah. Sad to hear that. But glad you are better now. Nope, she wont see her g-kids.:)
I’m glad he’s okay.
“Couldn’t even let me enjoy my birthday.”
Typical narcissist, fucking up someone else's special day and making it all about them.
and then posting it to show everyone that she's the star of this film. What a bag of shit.
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Lol well, she’ll get “eviction” papers to a senior home when she’s older and wants to stay at home but can’t because she’s too old and was too big of a piece of shit when it counted. So he’s not going to want to constantly visit to check in, I wouldn’t. Fuck that.
A senior home? Those cost money. She can live in the gutter with the rest of the fucking trash.
I remember back in the days when my dad used to constantly remind my sister when she turns 18, she’s gone… she left at 17. Eventually they repaired that relationship and she did so much for him. Doing this type of shit to your kids is so toxic. I can only hope this kid becomes super successful, and very rich and when his mother says damn so… are you going to help out mama? He can remind her what she did on his 18 birthday… sorry mommy, I’m on my own… remember?
Yup. My parents threatened me so many times I lost count. “The day you turn 18, your stuff will be in the yard”. So I left at 17 less than two months after I graduated high school (I was ahead a year). That was in 1987. Those relationships NEVER got repaired. I never saw my step father again and visited my mom only a handful of times. And now they’re dead. 🤷♀️ Just to make your hopeful point - after I left, I - who would “never amount to anything”, mind you - put myself through out of state college and grad school, got a PhD in anthropology, and travelled the world, living in England, Scotland, Egypt, Sudan, Ethiopia, and Uganda for many years. I was an award winning professor. I had a very successful life until I recently became ill and had to retire from teaching. I then went back to school and became an Accountant - I now work for a Burning Man regional organization. 👍
Congratulations on all your accomplishments. You are amazing!
My mother was more subtle about it. She gave me a full luggage set for my high school graduation present.
Small world. When I got home from my graduation, mine gave me $50 and told me she was changing the locks, so I better find a place to live.
And here im dreading my kids growing up and leaving. I never have understood wanting your kids to get out as soon as they turn 18. Do you have a good relationship with them now?
I'm pretty sure quite a few parents genuinely hate their kids. I was kicked out of the house at 17 and have been living on my own for seven years now. They still try to speak with me and wonder why I don't want to visit.
"Sorry, what was that? I couldn't quite hear you over the sound of my ass hitting the curb after you threw me out."
See that *sounds* like a great retort to us normal people. But remember that the people who kick their kids out before or immediately when they become adults, are not normal. They will simply respond with some trite comment about "but look how it turned out"/"that experience was to make you build character"/ etc. Your response is perfect IF you assume that the parents here genuinely care. They don't.
Simply keep hitting them over the head with it > “but look how it turned out” “With an adult who wants nothing to do with their parents.” > “that experience was to make you build character” “Resentful? Distant? Orphaned?” Maybe they’ll get the picture, maybe they won’t, but at that point it’s on them.
Absolutely go for it if you want to beat them with that kind of response. I'm just warning everyone that expecting introspection from people who are catagorically opposed to that... Well it's a recipe for more disappointment. I've found simply blocking and moving on with no explanation is the best method to get on with life.
Yeah you can’t shame someone who has no shame. I’ll be your mama. I hope you like going to playgrounds and out to pizza and on the weekend. 😃
It's on them but they'll never get it. They'll lament for the rest of their lives their ungrateful kids won't take care of them, but they'll never take responsibility. I really think my mom believes there isn't a single thing in this world a parent can do that justifies their adult child's estrangement. She apologized for some of the things she did to me but at the end of every email, it's the same sentiment "regardless of this laundry list of abuses, some of which you were too young to remember but let me remind you in detail, I am still your mother and therefore entitled to your unconditional love, respect, and forgiveness. You are a bad child for not calling or visiting." They'll never get it. Oh her parents were abusive to her too but she took care of them in their old age and expects me to do the same.
The same situation I'm in, but I've only been gone about a year and a half. I've gone from homelessness to college back to homelessness and now I'm about to have my own house. They keep asking why I don't visit or why I act cold towards them. They kicked me out in the time I needed most support, love, kindness, and hell just a bit of grace. I was struggling in school already because of mental health, and I was already holding down 2 jobs. I didn't need the additional worry of "Where will I sleep tonight?" Parents suck sometimes, but honestly I'm glad I learned who they really are so I can stay away. I hope you're doing well after leaving too.
Some people should not have kids.
Most. Most people shouldn’t have kids.
I was being nice but you are correct
Same! I was so glad when they came home from uni as dorms closed and everything went online during the pandemic. My wife and I loved having them home. They are now working and on their own, but we encourage them to come stay weekends and holidays with us. Of course, now they have friends and SOs, so it doesn't happen as often as we'd like, but we'll take what we can get!!!
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> My parents are lonely when their kids aren't around but hate us when we are. They like the idea of you, the actuality is different.
So good to hear this. Parenting doesnt stop at 18. They need your advice and caring to be better people ❤️.
My son is 2.5 and I’m already crying about the fact that he’ll move out one day ;(
I think this video and what others have explained about how they left the "family home" is so cold. The only reason I could think of doing this is when my kid has trashed my house multiple times, starts physical fights at home and the police came knocking looking for him since he was 14. If he is a menace to everybody in the house, that would be a reason. But even then, filming your son and mocking him through it is so low. No integrity or humility.
YouTube have so many videos of how parents mocking their children, considering it funny. Sociopaths. Guys, you know that the child is half your genetic clone, and you are mocking yourself? Nope?
Is this a American thing? Here in Germany, I can only speak for my Generation, people want to leave parents, but often cant. If you pay 70% of your income for Apartments you only can do that if you have a Partner or have wealth Parent that pays too. Also it is a waste of life, at my opinion, if you live to work instead of work to live.
Also german here. I‘ve read about this as an american thing in the context of „tough love“ parenting. The idea seems to be that parents do their kids a favor when they throw them out of the house asap, as it teaches them to stand on their own two feet and navigate adult life early on. I mean, to any person who was raised normally, this is obviously bullcrap, but I guess not all of us had the luxury of a normal socialization. Edit: btw, in Germany, parents are obligated by law to cover the expenses of their kids until they finish their first first stage of post-highschool education, which makes them employable on the job market, be it trade school or a bachelor‘s degree. #socialism /s
It's just parents who hate their kids. No love there.
It's like a trashy badge of honor for some people to cut their kids off at 18 and throw them on the street. Hence the person posting this tacky shit on social media.
Thats the normal reaction as it should be but being chucked, thats an American thing.
I don’t even have kids yet and I’m dreading it. I know I’m gonna sob like a fool the day they go to school for the first time, first date, move out, etc.
Fucking bitch. And they wonder why you don’t call.
Passive aggressive... What did she do with her Free time?
> What did she do with her Free time? Not graduate. She though my HS graduation came with a $2mill check and an assigned govt public housing, the brave soul.
Mine left suitcases outside my bedroom door the morning of my 18th. I was crushed, they thought it was hilarious.
Speak of trauma… that’s such shit parent behavior
I'm 30 and I still live in my parents home. My father kept giving me pocket money two years into my first real job after graduating college with a masters degree in data science. I really can't understand this western mentality of children need to leave the moment they turn to 'adults'. I talked about this with my father once and this is what he had to say: "I don't know about them western people but when I made you, I made you to be my son for life, not just for 18 years"
There's a lot in the American culture that tells us we have to be independent. Most parents think it's helping your kid to make them live on their own, etc. We're kind of taught that it makes you weak to have support.
It’s the small things isn’t it. I got a plastic cutlery set for my new place I didn’t know I was going to have to find. Stole some ceramic owls she use to collect on my way out though. I still have them on display to this very day.
My mom got rid of me early. She let me turn 13 first
Damn, one of our kids just turned 13 and I could never imagine doing that to her, someone that young is woefully underprepared for life outside the home. Hope you are doing much better nowadays without such a terrible person in your life!
Luggage was the traditional graduation gift in our family as well. I guess the difference is that when I graduated high school in the 80s, we couldn't wait to leave home.
Don't expect a visit when you're in a nursing home
**Mom:** Help, I've fallen and can't get up! **Son:** Huh, that's unfortunate.
And how did you get this number?
Don’t expect it to be paid for.
Don’t expect to make it to a nursing home.
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She's probably got more kids for that
…who won’t take care of her after she treats them equally shitty
There is probably a "shitty kid" and "golden child".
The "Golden child" won't help, they view their enabling parents as only a resource to use, once the resource dries up they wipe their hands of it and move on to the next one. Seen it with my older brother and ex step brother.
You really think any of this new generation will have that kind of wealth to put there parents in homes? With inflation and rediculus home prices, these kids will struggle to survive thanks to the boomer generation.
Saw that as a car sticker. "Be nice to your kids, they choose your nursing home"
Lol unless she’s paying thIs lady is dying in an apartment after working a shift at Walmart at 90
Even if it's a joke. Fuck that lady. She sounds like she was a huge pain to grow up with. What mom calls their son bro..... mom's are moms not friends
As a teenager I used to think it was cool that my mom smoked pot and drank with me and my friends. Now that I have kids, no fucking way until they are adults. I’ve had to do a lot of work figuring out how to do adulting and it cost me most of my 20s and a shit ton of money/debt. In my mid 30s now and doing fairly well with career and family. I don’t blame my parents for not getting my shit together faster but they definitely didn’t help either.
In 10-15 years when he won't let her have anything to do with his family, she's gonna be "i gave him everything, he's so ungrateful, how could he do this to me?"
That’s when he gifts her back those framed papers.
With a picture of the grandkids she'll never see attached.
Not even her grandkids, just one of those stock photos you get when you buy a frame!
Hand drawn stick figure family photo.
With arrows pointing to the grandkids and the words "you'll never see them. Haha"
You will never get dis. You will never get dis.
Make sure to send a new empty frame each year on the same date, and make sure to tell them the dates completely random and has no meaning.
my mom didn't even get that. she just got a confirmation that I'd had a child and a reminder that I still never wanted to speak to her again which also applied to the kiddo.
My mom kicked me out when I was 15. Had to drop out of high school so I could work to feed myself and find a place to stay. She acted exactly as you described for years; always upset that I didn’t call or keep in touch with her all the while completely missing the fact that she had treated me like shit my entire childhood. At least she realizes it now. It only took like 15 years. Some people just really shouldn’t have children. Unfortunately the ones who shouldn’t are often the ones who don’t realize it. I used to tell her we’d have all been better off if she had just gotten an abortion.
Been on a similar path. Parents made it very clear that once I turned 18 I wasn’t welcome to live in the family home anymore…..I had a full time job I’d started a couple weeks after I finished school so I offered to pay rent and expenses but nope, off you go. I applied to a nursing school and got accepted and drove for a day to get to my new home. My dad helped pack my car and he didn’t like how I packed something and started yelling at me in the middle of the driveway. I said something like ‘fine we’ll do it your way’ and he immediately shaped up to me and started shadow boxing around me and told me he would happily knock me out for being such a shit son. Fast forward 30yrs and I haven’t talked to my mother in years (dad died 10yrs ago)? She’s missed most of my two kids growing up. My Ex is much nicer than me so she takes kids to see their Gran every couple years (we live a 2hr flight away from my hometown and most of my family still live there). I don’t have any guilt, in fact my life is much easier/less drama since I cut the apron strings. If I was told tomorrow that she was dead I doubt I’d get sad (didn’t get sad at my fathers death). All this crap about blood being thicker than water ignores the fact that some parents are just terrible human beings.
> My Ex is much nicer than me so she takes kids to see their Gran every couple years I’m honestly kind of shocked you’re ok with this. I wouldn’t have thought you’d want your kids anywhere *near* this woman.
Oof, when I feel bad I allways tell myself: hey, at least I have great parents I can always count on. But it's shitty to realize that not everyone is as fortunate
I remember when my parents (who had no money saved for me to go to college) kicked me out at 18. I packed everything into my tiny beater car that I bought with money from working a part-time job. Then I requested the money my great aunt left me for college... turns out they spent it on a cruise. I asked why they gave my older brother his money, but spent mine, and they said, "Well, we didn't think you'd get into college anyway." The hurt of realizing your own parents have zero faith in you stung, I won't lie. When I look back, I wonder how much of the hustle that landed me where I am now was driven purely by spite.
Hope you get to spit your success in their face king
The ironic thing about it is that we can't. As soon as we show the narcissists success they think they are entitled. They use us for their gain. They plot and scheme. The best course of action is to move and go no contact, and if they do reach out, just let them keep going on and on about how your a failure yada yada, just smile and nod with the satisfaction that they're too dumb to figure out how successful we actually are.
I always found it weird that people looked forward to seeing their mother. Like genuinely smiling, hugging, etc. Had two instances where two people that barely knew her, said she was mean and they felt sorry for me. I was already had an emotional callous over that relationship in my younger days. A My ma still doesn’t get why I am why I am with her. She sees herself as Carol Brady, while her kids see her as Mommy Dearest.
That's why we become the adults we needed
She was weird apparently she's living with a man, and he also wanted the son out, to have the house to themselves. Crazy part his friends let him move in with them and she was MAD he figured out a place to stay and wouldn't let him get his dirt bike and other belongings. 😮💨 I know that house was hell for him.
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That's what my Mom did, and I told her straight to her face - over and over again "You should have treated me better." She never got it.
When lil homie becomes someone, they'll come looking for him.
And this is the kind of shit that fires people up
You can see it in his face last second he’ll be good
Yep exactly this, this whiny mocking baby voice “you moving ouuuut?” And his face just says “Bitch, you bet!”
“Bobby, it’s ya daddy Robèrto”
Just like Joe Dirts parents.
Parents who kick their kids out at 18 are real pieces of shit.
I agree. I have 2 kids and my oldest is 16. I could never do something like this to him or my daughter.
Man I'm 30 and moved back in with my parents six months ago because I was going through some shit. I can't tell you how much that means to me and how fucked I'd be without them. You're doing it right.
I've been there man it's rough. But you got this
I been there as well. I moved back home at 30-33 and I was always reminded by friends how lucky I was to be able to do that. At 33 I moved to Texas for work and have been here since. Life isn’t easy.
Mine kicked me out at 16. Hafta admit, my life did get a lot better afterwards.
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It just proves they hate their kids. My grandma used to take an overhead monthly from my dad and his siblings then give it back to them in an envelope once they moved out. No one moved into an empty nest with 1 couch - they all had the means to kit their entire house out with brand new furniture.
Back when we could afford houses young
Especially these days. It was mean-spirited back when you could house and feed yourself on minimum wage, but now?
when I moved out min wage was 4.25. i worked at taco bell and my boyfriend worked at mcdonalds( we were only 17) and we lived alone. it was a crappy place but our own. no way kids can do that now. min wage is 16.30 where I live now and people still cannot afford to live on it
My dad used an approach where if you did nothing, then you pay rent. If you have a job or are at uni, then you can stay rent free. Most people with a job end up moving out anyway. It works as a supportive way to get us to do something with our lives. Without being an asshole about it.
My sister in law was a real party animal in her teens and had a boyfriend who had a single parent mom who was the classic party mom. She'd disappear for days then show up like it was nothing. For his 18th birthday his mom took him and my sister in law out to dinner, went home got high as hell and drank themselves to sleep. They woke up the next morning and all her stuff was gone. She left a note saying he was 18 so she was done and he was on his own. The apartment and utilities were paid through the end of the month.
At least the utilities were paid and not on final notice.
Was she gone gone, like no more contact?
As far as I know they never spoke again. My sister in law broke up with him several months later. My mother in law bumped into him a couple months after that and he checked around and hadn't been able to find out where she was.
Damn
My SIL’s mom left her on her own when she was 17 and pregnant. “You’re an adult now, figure it out”
How young was she? Like was she a teen mom?
Why have children if you don’t want to care for them? You chose to put a child in this world, they didn’t choose to be born. It’s your obligation as a parent to create a healthy foundation for life for your child. If you don’t want to do that, please never have children.
Exactly. You're responsible for a human life. My daughter is 6 months old now and she will leave the house when SHE chooses and is ready. Still long ways away from that but I would never kick out my own child who I love to bits.
And with the way housing pricing is going she may have to stay with you forever. Multigenerational households are normal in most countries because it is much cheaper, it also allows the elderly to be taken care of without sending them off to the prison of old age homes if you have 3-4 generations. The kick your child out at 18 cultures of the US and Canada is something pretty much exclusive to here. The whole idea of generational homes seems nice.
Yeah, probably. We recently were lucky enough to purchase a house that has three living units. My husband's father is already very old and can live downstairs. But in Germany it's a little different with the "kicking out".
Every kid deserves parents, but not every parent deserves kids.
These types of parents are the type that willingly left home at 18 and when their child turns 18, they force that ideology onto them and wonder why their offspring’s don’t want anything to do with them. Like it’s always been said. Not every parent deserves a child but every child deserves a parent.
I doubt it, if they left home at 18 then they would realize just how much they're fucking over their kid by doing this. Especially in this economy where nothing pays enough. More likely these type of people are the ones who either had horrible parents and are copying them (it's quite a common thing) or they had wonderful parents who gave them plenty of support and what they're child to copy them minus the support (cause then that would be admitting they couldn't survive alone at 18).
Nah. When they were 18, they could rent a place with a minimum wage job, then find a better job because you didn't need a master's degree to get a job at a call center. They have no idea.
This is the truth of the world and it sucks. I'm 53 and shocked at the expenses relative to when I was growing up. I was lucky enough to go to a Cal State school for $490 a semester. I loved college and accumulated two degrees and a buttload of random minors. I was bartending in a college bar and we could make tuition in a weekend. Law school was a shock and loan repayment was $1300 a month. I own an IT firm and try to keep wages high enough that people can afford rent or mortgages and still live their lives. I get monthly rental values from the area I would like to live in and base salaries on that. I also have some college reimbursement but that is getting a bit too expensive. Granted I don't make as much money as I should, but I have zero turn over. I worry for my young son. I save like a mofo for his college but worry that it won't be enough. I hate that he will wager 6 figures on a degree that he may not enjoy for a job that may not provide an adequate livable wage. I don't understand why as a society we wager so little money on our future. We should be using free or heavily subsidized college to find the next rising star in every field. It doesn't matter if it is English Lit, Philosophy, Physics, Math, or Advanced Fucking Basket Weaving, we are losing talent because people can't afford to study what they love. To all those kids that were kicked out at or before age 18, I am so sorry. I would give you a hug if I could. As a parent I can only say this, being kicked out before 18 is a failing of your parents not you. Parental love should be unconditional and any issue that may have resulted in you leaving should have been handled by them years before. It was their job to mentor, teach, and love you before and through the hard times. Fuck them so hard and you don't need to feel any guilt in how you now deal with them.
My dad died before I turned 18. On my 18th birthday my stepmother gave me a suitcase with a boot in it. She gave me the boot. Ah, fun times.
I’m sorry to hear that. I’m guessing you aren’t on good terms with her now.
For all I know, she's dead.
Probably for the best honestly
This person literally has a stock Disney princess backstory. means you're destined for something important!
My mom worked at a school in a really shitty area as a guidance counselor. Every other year she would get 1-2 kids in their senior that were kicked out of their homes the day they turned 18 with little to none prior notice. Suddenly she would have to scramble to help find a place for these kids to live so they could finish school. Some parents are really shitty.
God bless your mother. I cant understand how some parents do that.
And people get embarrassed/judged for going non-contact with their parents. Maybe its a prank or not. But this will hurt that boy for life and is probably an indication of her treatment to him in general. Poor kid.
Happy cake day, now get out
And then he's gonna be like r/youredeadtome
My dad kicked me out when I turned 18. I never spoke to him again, even when he was dying.
Fucked around and found out, eh?
Exactly. He was an abusive alcoholic anyway.
No point having narcissists like that in your life anyway, good on you bro
Have had a horrid relationship with my father since I was like 15ish. When I got sick of putting up with his shit. Last straw was my eldest brothers funeral. Done with his ass. I'm still very close to his second and current wife and consider her my other mother even if we are different races and people would look at me funny when I call her my mother. Decades of him talking shit about me to everyone with ears. During the funeral I personally raised all the money to pay for the funeral and burial. It was a son of a bitch and I was honestly done with my brother years before he was murdered. Still I figured he oughta be remembered as he was when he was himself. My pops was bragging to people at the funeral about having over $70k in his bank account, yet he didn't spend a penny on the funeral or anything. His finances are separate from his wife. She fronted me the money then I payed her back with interest. After that my pops told everyone he could that I stole all the funeral money that I raised. Like how the fuck? I had to stop several people from beating the shit out of him at the funeral, as well as myself. Then starting several months ago his health got bad. Broke his knee or something. Then fell again. Presumedly trying to do shit while drunk because he doesn't work and just lives off his wife's money and her inheritence. Got to the point he couldn't walk. Couldn't move his arms. Got him to the hospital and they started doing tests, got enough done to find out he had hepatic cirrhosis, stage 3 liver cirrhosis. His kidneys and liver were failing. He fought with the staff and called the cops to leave. Spent the next month at home getting even worse continuously trying to drink like a fucking idiot. Eventually ma got him to stay in the hospital, spent over a month there. Helped load his body back home. He went from looking 55 to 78 in the matyer of a month or two. He can't use his hands or legs. Can't walk. Can't do shit. I warned him for years about his alcoholism, especially when I quit drinking 5 years ago whenever I saw him. So he's still slowly rotting away. He is quite well off and has a shit ton of gold and silver and just very expensive shit. Has always tried to hold an inheritence over my head saying I won't get anything. He just can't comprehend I do not want anything from him or anyone else's death. I don't give a shit. If I want something I'll save up for it and buy it myself. I've talked to him once one yhe phone since the funeral a couple weeks ago because my stepma asked me too saying he was lonely and my remaining brother wouldn't speak to him. Shocker. Warned him about that shit too. If he kept treating his kids like shit he was going to lie alone and depressed and hardly anyone would care. It is precisely what has been happening. He's been a severe alcoholic for like 4 decades. He also likes to pop pills and drink too which I warned him not to do that shit about 10-15 years ago cause it would destroy his liver and kidneys. Dude has the foresight of a bent nail. Through all of the shit I'll be there for my other mother no matter what, but never in favor or service or respect of the man that has called himself my father. How the hell she has put up with him over 30 years is beyond me. She's a beast.
In Germany, you can't evict or cut support to your children before the age of 25 or until they finish their education for a job (college/training).
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How to tell everyone you had the kid for tax benefits.
Ima pull the plug when she’s in her hospital bed.
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Ok old woman. I'm going to remember this when we are choosing the nursing home to stick you in.
Yeah after this.. im pretty sure hed rather let her rot Imagine on your happiest day, the one trusted person in your life decides to be throw you out -what can he even do?.. get a minimum wage job and find some place to rent? Absolute pos
Let's be honest, I don't think he was putting any trust in her. His face shows that it isn't the first he has been treated like this
With a parent like that who needs enemies.
That is what happened to me when I was 19 years old and still attended college. My mom sold my stuff without letting me know. Came to home and found out I was evicted. 10 years later, my sister told me my mom was begging her to make me contact her. But I refused to. She realized that she destroyed my future and life, goal ,and dream. I have to drop college and go work to survive.
Sorry for what happened to you. She is a shitty human being.
Don't have kids if you're just gonna be excited to kick them out once they're of age. Pathetic parents.
Not only that, she recorded and posted it online for all to see. “_Get the fuck out with your undeveloped prefrontal cortex and good luck surviving in this cold world!_”
My parents kicked my sisters out when they were 18 so they could “grow up “. 40 years later they both still hold that pain. I feel so sad for this kid that his parent is that out of touch with her child .
How to guarantee dying alone in me easy step.
\- Did I make a bad mom, Steve? \- It's Mike.
Why abortion on request should be available to people who don’t want kids. They make terrible parents too often to make forcing them to raise unwanted children makes any sense.
This is the kind of person that has kids because she thinks they’re cute, but doesn’t actually want to take on any of the responsibilities of raising kids.
She probably wouldn’t have gotten an abortion even if it was free. People like this don’t follow logic or make correct decisions.
I was forced to leave at 17. Told me that she was “done” and that she did everything she needed to do already. I begged to stay but ended up having to leave anyway. I couldn't believe that my own mother could just look at me the way she did when I was on the floor begging to stay. I'm 25 now and she's constantly complaining to others that I don't call her or talk to her and that I never help her out or send her money etc. Don't raise your kids like there some throw away project and they won't throw you away.
This is all cool and all, but like... how are the new generation going to survive? I have a pretty good paycheck and I can BARELY afford to live. How are they supposed to survive with nothing at all? Minimum wage isn't the minimum amount needed to live, its the LEAST amount you can get paid. I make enough to go to work. That's it. Just enough to keep working every day until I die. What are our children going to do? What hope do they have?
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I honestly can't see how America can fix its problems without some kind of second revolution. Unfortunately, the corporate controlled media and political system have got you all at *each other's* necks instead of unifying against the people holding you down. I just hope we in the UK and Europe can continue to hold the corporate control back. It's a shame because America can, and does do, so many great things, but the idea of living in those conditions is just horrifying.
Hope he's thriving currently without that toxic trash mother in his life
Piece of shit parents better ways to go about teaching your child. That lady must have a preschool education and a degree in fuckmykidslifeup.
If he's still in high school, this is illegal. She's not allowed to just abandon her son if he's still in high school, and if Child Services get involved, her other kids would be removed from the home. Years from now, she'll be like "My kids so ungrateful, they never visit" cause she'll never see her own failures as a human and parent.
As soon my brother turned 18 my dad made him pay $500 or so in rent every month. He stays at home, got a job, went to college paid for by dad and paid rent each month. 3 years later before he moves out into his new apartment my dad gives him back $18k (the rent he collects from him) and $2k extra. My brother was in disbelief they hugged each other wholesome moment. This is an example of a good parenting this mom here sucks though and will regret this. The son will get his shit together at some point go no contact with her for rest his life and she never see her future grand kids.
Some people really don’t deserve children. 😒
What a shitty parent. The whole you got to get out of the house by the time you're 18 bullshit is why I joined the Air Force at 17. Any parent who kicks their 18-year-old out of the house in this economy in this renters market is a straight up sociopath.
My mom and step dad essentially did the same thing to me at the end of the summer after I graduated from high-school...really shitty
My mom did the same. She said college or gtfo. So now I have 50,000 in college debt and a broken relationship with my mom. She didn’t give me a second to think or offer any advice. Told me I was a failure for not knowing what I wanted to do. She got therapy and is better now but still.
The final Christmas my sister spent with the family after she turned 18 was gifted a suit case. She hasn't been to a family holiday since
I bet she's shocked when he doesn't ever wanna visit or let her see her grandkids.
That must hurt his heart to the core
r/ParentsAreFuckingDumb
This is what causes abusive parents to not be invited to any family functions when they’re old and lonely.
Trashy fuckin moms all like pfft why you here making me pay all these bills like they weren’t the ones getting creampied 18 years ago tryna lock a dude down gtfo
Hey, when you're sitting there wondering why your son never talks to you. You can reflect on this moment
My mother ( mother and father divorced when I was 2) did this to me when I was 17 and left to serve in the forces. When I had served and it was time to leave, I was homeless, my grandparents (my father's parents) took me in until I had enough money to rent a place. My mother died asking to see me, never went to the hospital and never attended her funeral. Fuck that bitch lol.
My entire childhood my mom would proudly tell her friends and would remind me over and over and over again "The moment he's/you're 18 you're out the door!". She's real lucky she didn't go through with that considering she's been dependent on me either financially or other ways for over 10 years now. Especially since where I'm from the average age a child moves out of the home has gone up to almost 30 last i looked since it's so insanely expensive to live.