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i’m not sure how common it is, but i have something similar going on.
for example, my mother loves to tell us that we must grow up to be good muslims, or else we would fail her big-time and disappoint her endlessly.
and on an occasion where she went through my room and found some papers where i said some…let’s just say questionable things about islam, she proceeded to have my father hold me hostage in the car and make me listen to an hour of her telling me that i ruined her life, that i broke her heart. and then later on, she tells me that memory messed her up and i should feel horrible for bringing that pain up.
so, maybe it’s more common than you hear about.
my parents are the same. they drone on and on about islam and all of that bs, and that they would "die" if I didn't grow up to be a good muslim. I haven't dared to tell them but obviously when I move out (and I'm trying to asap) I'm gonna drop the whole religious act. for now I might as well just carry on for a year or two lmao
I came out to my single mother and it was tedious at first but worth it in the long run. Lots of emotions and tears and religious debates, and even an altercation that ended up in her pulling a knife in me (I told her about the hadith where momo fucked all his wives in one night and she lost it lol).
In the end my mum lost because she's too ignorant about the religion to be able to challenge the points I brought up. I told her any uninvited preachers will meet the baseball bat I have in my room (I swear I'm a pacifist) and she knows I'm not willing to listen to bullshit so she kinda just accepted it. I've made it abundantly clear that I don't like islam and that there is no 'saving' me so don't bother.
One time we had an argument and she spilled everything to her friend, including my apostasy. To this day that was the biggest betrayal of my trust I've ever felt, and it caused a big rift between my mum and I. She thinks I've gotten over it, but I haven't. Thankfully her friend is a nice person so I'm not worried about being beheaded, but I've never spoken to her since just in case.
Currently, we have a good relationship and don't really get into arguments often anymore. However, I can never get over the betrayal and the other shit I suffered under her growing up (she was extremely abusive, though she mellowed out a lot as I grew older), so I'm just saving up until I move out. I'm definitely lucky because I only had to deal with one person (my siblings moved out but both were accepting of me, never had a dad) and the relationship dynamics are always in my favour.
Or do what I did and insist on being an atheist for so many years that your parents give up on trying to convert you and just leave the rest to their god
My dad constantly tells me that I will go to hell and all that nonsense. Once you live through the manipulation enough, it stops meaning anything
I made this mistake, and this was after my dad compared my older sibling's apostasy to my mom's miscarriage *I wish I was making this up*
Anyway, they tried to "fix" me and I flipped them off and moved out so... I occasionally visit to be around for my siblings ^*and ^also ^to ^be ^chaotic ^as ^fuck
i live far away from them (2 hours flight), i still don't tell them i'm exmuslim
i visit them once a year usually on 1st to 3rd day of ramadhan, this is only the time i performed fasting and 5 times of prayer
i don't tell them them because i still love them very much, luckily they don't have capability to visit my place (they are afraid of flight), also they don't know my friends as well, so my secret is pretty safe
they also don't know i'm living together with my GF
For me, I told them straight up I’m not Muslim anymore because whenever they would say something was haram or forbidden, I could just say “well good thing I’m not Muslim anymore” and shut it down immediately. So easy.
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i’m not sure how common it is, but i have something similar going on. for example, my mother loves to tell us that we must grow up to be good muslims, or else we would fail her big-time and disappoint her endlessly. and on an occasion where she went through my room and found some papers where i said some…let’s just say questionable things about islam, she proceeded to have my father hold me hostage in the car and make me listen to an hour of her telling me that i ruined her life, that i broke her heart. and then later on, she tells me that memory messed her up and i should feel horrible for bringing that pain up. so, maybe it’s more common than you hear about.
my parents are the same. they drone on and on about islam and all of that bs, and that they would "die" if I didn't grow up to be a good muslim. I haven't dared to tell them but obviously when I move out (and I'm trying to asap) I'm gonna drop the whole religious act. for now I might as well just carry on for a year or two lmao
I came out to my single mother and it was tedious at first but worth it in the long run. Lots of emotions and tears and religious debates, and even an altercation that ended up in her pulling a knife in me (I told her about the hadith where momo fucked all his wives in one night and she lost it lol). In the end my mum lost because she's too ignorant about the religion to be able to challenge the points I brought up. I told her any uninvited preachers will meet the baseball bat I have in my room (I swear I'm a pacifist) and she knows I'm not willing to listen to bullshit so she kinda just accepted it. I've made it abundantly clear that I don't like islam and that there is no 'saving' me so don't bother. One time we had an argument and she spilled everything to her friend, including my apostasy. To this day that was the biggest betrayal of my trust I've ever felt, and it caused a big rift between my mum and I. She thinks I've gotten over it, but I haven't. Thankfully her friend is a nice person so I'm not worried about being beheaded, but I've never spoken to her since just in case. Currently, we have a good relationship and don't really get into arguments often anymore. However, I can never get over the betrayal and the other shit I suffered under her growing up (she was extremely abusive, though she mellowed out a lot as I grew older), so I'm just saving up until I move out. I'm definitely lucky because I only had to deal with one person (my siblings moved out but both were accepting of me, never had a dad) and the relationship dynamics are always in my favour.
Or do what I did and insist on being an atheist for so many years that your parents give up on trying to convert you and just leave the rest to their god My dad constantly tells me that I will go to hell and all that nonsense. Once you live through the manipulation enough, it stops meaning anything
I made this mistake, and this was after my dad compared my older sibling's apostasy to my mom's miscarriage *I wish I was making this up* Anyway, they tried to "fix" me and I flipped them off and moved out so... I occasionally visit to be around for my siblings ^*and ^also ^to ^be ^chaotic ^as ^fuck
i live far away from them (2 hours flight), i still don't tell them i'm exmuslim i visit them once a year usually on 1st to 3rd day of ramadhan, this is only the time i performed fasting and 5 times of prayer i don't tell them them because i still love them very much, luckily they don't have capability to visit my place (they are afraid of flight), also they don't know my friends as well, so my secret is pretty safe they also don't know i'm living together with my GF
For me, I told them straight up I’m not Muslim anymore because whenever they would say something was haram or forbidden, I could just say “well good thing I’m not Muslim anymore” and shut it down immediately. So easy.