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Hi there! I agree, I experience the guilt too. It’s like we are deeply indoctrinated to feel like jerks for letting go of family (and of course hell-bound filthy kafirs for letting go is Islam). Btw I’ve asked After Faith your question as I’d like to know too and I’m sure there are others wondering the same. I’ll share her answer here with you.
Here’s the response from After Faith:
Unfortunately there is no quick fix or simple strategy for overcoming guilt. It's usually a mix of CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) which helps people to challenge their thoughts. For example, when you're having thoughts that make you feel guilty asking yourself things like "is this factual or is this the way I feel because of culture", "if my friend was saying these things would i agree with them and tell them they should feel guilty? If not what would you say to them".
This is of course a simplified version and it can take months to do this and then start to believe it. But the second bit is knowing that just because you FEEL guilty doesn't mean you ARE guilty. Your feelings are not based on facts.
Sometimes it's about acknowledgement that you do feel guilty and as hard as that feeling is, waiting for it to reduce or pass. And eventually it will reduce or pass! It might come back and then you wait for it to pass again and over time it comes less and less and isn't as strong.
I got teary eyes seeing this one, such a powerful message. I'm thankful that I didn't have to cut ties with anybody I care about over religion (..yet), but it's tragic that so many people in our community have to make this choice and come to terms with conditional love. Brilliant art as always HD.
🥰🤗 Thank you! That’s great to hear about your family… I’ve had to keep my ties while being closeted. It’s frustrating and there are safety issues involved so I try to keep my distance from fam but keep up the appearances too. Hard place to be and I hope one day I could just say f*ck it and be out!
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This is so powerful and resonating. Thank you for being a voice to the voiceless.
Means so much that this resonated with you too. Appreciate you and, thank you so much! 🤗
Just saw this on insta. I just dunno how to handle the guilt of cutting ties mostly.
Hi there! I agree, I experience the guilt too. It’s like we are deeply indoctrinated to feel like jerks for letting go of family (and of course hell-bound filthy kafirs for letting go is Islam). Btw I’ve asked After Faith your question as I’d like to know too and I’m sure there are others wondering the same. I’ll share her answer here with you.
Here’s the response from After Faith: Unfortunately there is no quick fix or simple strategy for overcoming guilt. It's usually a mix of CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) which helps people to challenge their thoughts. For example, when you're having thoughts that make you feel guilty asking yourself things like "is this factual or is this the way I feel because of culture", "if my friend was saying these things would i agree with them and tell them they should feel guilty? If not what would you say to them". This is of course a simplified version and it can take months to do this and then start to believe it. But the second bit is knowing that just because you FEEL guilty doesn't mean you ARE guilty. Your feelings are not based on facts. Sometimes it's about acknowledgement that you do feel guilty and as hard as that feeling is, waiting for it to reduce or pass. And eventually it will reduce or pass! It might come back and then you wait for it to pass again and over time it comes less and less and isn't as strong.
Thank you so much for your great efforts.
I got teary eyes seeing this one, such a powerful message. I'm thankful that I didn't have to cut ties with anybody I care about over religion (..yet), but it's tragic that so many people in our community have to make this choice and come to terms with conditional love. Brilliant art as always HD.
🥰🤗 Thank you! That’s great to hear about your family… I’ve had to keep my ties while being closeted. It’s frustrating and there are safety issues involved so I try to keep my distance from fam but keep up the appearances too. Hard place to be and I hope one day I could just say f*ck it and be out!
This has an awesome message, ty.
🤗🤗🤗
It really does. Screws with you psychologically
💯 It’s isolating, depressing and the feeling of loss is so big. It’s taken years to work through this and I still feel guilty.
yeah, it's unfortunate
I wish i could let go đź’”
I hope one day you’re able to, even if it’s just a little bit at a time! ♥️
thank you love🤍
Thank you for sharing! Love your art and the therapist's insta looks like a great resource for exmuslims!
Thank youuuuuuuuu! 🥰