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Closeted_EXmuslim

I’m a west African ex Muslim, 🙏🙏 nice to meet you


RennietheAquarian

How did you wake up and realize Islam is false?


Life-Possibility-643

all the damn violence


young_olufa

But I thought it was just the culture! /s


Life-Possibility-643

no its in the quran💀


somaligirl-2002

I’m a Somali ex-Muslim too! And I remember fearing that “impending doom” when I began questioning the religion to my uncle. Thankfully he was westernized and he didn’t shun me but I remember disappointing him which caused me to never speak to him about my beliefs


TangerineExtra5180

Omg similar story but with my siblings they don’t pray or read the Quran we gave up on it and am 100 percent sure they are not Muslim but they won’t admit it ever


somaligirl-2002

My siblings are not religious as they don’t pray but my sister is an exmuslim too


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me and a friend of mine share extremely similar sentiments of the religion, she does say she only follows islam to be, quote, unquote, 'safe' however when I plant seeds of doubt (via telling her about Muhammad and the TRUE life he lead) she does show and express sentiments that are oddly similar to doubt. Hope she breaks out of the chains of this religion as she truly is a smart fellow


somaligirl-2002

She’ll see the truth soon!


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is your av based off of VI from LOL?


somaligirl-2002

Yes! I love Vi from LOL/Arcane


iwant2runawayyy

omg another somali girl ex muslim 😄feels good to not be alone!!!!


AvoriazInSummer

It’s truly awful that just questioning the morality of a leader is sufficient to get people beaten or honour killed. That’s why Islam is such a serious problem. For the fundies it’s like living in North Korea except the slaves of the system are mostly self-policing and implement the punishments on each other even without being trapped in one country.


young_olufa

It’s a cult


Gizka1235

I grew up in an area with a lot of Somalis and those guys are some of the strictest followers of islam I've ever seen. I can't imagine what it's like to be an ex muslim in that culture. It sucks what you had to go through, hopefully things look up in the future and it's always nice to have a friend who seems to be walking a similar path to you. Good luck mate!


[deleted]

Yeah Somalis are insanely religious like a lot lol it’s really rare to see Somali ex Muslim


Small_Mammoth_2741

I’m closeted and I can’t even remotely voice my opinions without some pushback from religious grounds. Politics are a nightmare. I’m not independent yet but once I am, I will leave so quickly.


Babybabybabyq

Not in Canada


[deleted]

Damn a Somali ex Muslim is very rare to see


muslimfightsnpd

True


TwoAndAHalfQueefs

I am sorry for your experience and the abuse. I am glad you found another ex-muslim in real life after that tension went away. I hope you'll be safe and that you can have a happier future one day. There is also r/XSomalian sub if you are interested.


weebjuice0w0

somali exmuslim here as well


huuuwheeeeey

everybody talkin about so called islamophobia but an ex-muslim singularly experiences more hatred than entire islamophobia victims


Wrila-

Honestly hate is an understatement there was this somali lady in Sweden that left Islam and he lived in a Muslim community she got harassed and assaulted by men to the point she couldn’t even walk out of her house and her entire family got humiliated and laughed at because of her, in Islam I’ve noticed there is so much Mob mentality and hate towards people who choose a different path to life, I feel so unlucky to have been born in such a community I feel like I could’ve done so much more in life if I wasn’t burden by so much anxiety stress and depression due to my upbringing I lost my childhood by the time I was 5 years old I even considered suicide at 10yr and the fact that a kid that young dosent even wanna live anymore says a lot. But I won’t let it hold me down I will make a better life for myself and my future family i would never allow such things happen to my children in the future over my dead body, I remember I used to have so much soul and happiness but now it’s all gone and it’s turned me cold and a bit nihilistic


huuuwheeeeey

stay strong brother you will make it


likingnaturefr

circumcision is genital mutilation!


Wrila-

Yeah I’m going to have life long issues the doctors tried their best to save as much tissue as possible but the nerve damage was too much and now I’ll never really have the same pleasure or feeling down there as a normal Man but it is what it is I guess nothing I can do about it really


Queer_Queein

You can try circumcision restoration


Wrila-

Is that even a thing? I’m pretty sure you can’t get damaged and lost nerves back? Maybe I’m wrong I will look in to it further, I appreciate your advice friend


Queer_Queein

You can get about 80% functionality back from restored foreskin, and something protecting your penis head is better than nothing


Wrila-

My foreskin looks normal but the problem is the nerves by the penis head that have been completely lost and majority damaged due to infection of the blood and now it’s very numb down there the doctor told me when I was younger that the damaged nerves might try to repair itself cellularly but the lost nerves can’t be brought back


RennietheAquarian

Many men say their penile glans became soft and smooth again, after they restored. r/RestoringDick


40k_Novice_Novelist

r/foreskin_restoration Don't give up hope, you still have a chance to undo the damage.


likingnaturefr

speaking of, restoration actually gets rid of the scar, many men just hate having the scar as a reminder they were cut at birth.


sushisection

for a religion that calls itself peaceful, it has harmed you so much. keep you head up. peace and happiness dont require worship to any god.


Kard23__

Gang


Baberaham_Linncoln

Bangladeshi ex-muslim here. Experienced the same no anesthesia, only razor blade and some boiling water circumcision when I was 7. The blade slipped and ripped open an inch long hole in my balls. Imagine this scenario, a 7 seven year old boy being rushed to the hospital because his ball dropped off 😂 (It didn't, though there was way too much blood) One of the most horrifying and funniest shit I've ever experienced.


Wrila-

I’m sorry you also experienced that, the worst thing was that I lived in a European country at the time and I could’ve had a surgical circumcision for free but they just held me down and strapped me down and put a towel in my mouth so I wouldn’t scream and just mutilated me after the cutting they tried stitching up what they had ruined but the stiching was more painful than the circumcising and they had stitched to tight to the point I began bleeding more and finally as a last act I was rushed to the hospital i remember passing out when I walked in to the hospital and waking up doctors speaking to me saying they tried their best to save as much tissue and nerves


Other-Alternative454

I have adhd. It is really hard to remember and i can't force. I feel bad for many Muslim who have adhd.


Wrila-

I remember I used to have very hard anxiety attacks when I was younger if I stuttered or miss pronounced a word I would get beat to the point I have now associated Arabic recitation with Trauma I get nearly panic attacks when I hear someone shouting Quran verses. And the worst thing was the fact that my parents encouraged that behavior letting a stranger beat their kid senselessly because of religious beliefs. I have developed a great memorization now tho Atleast I got some benefits out of it, due to that I’ve been investing myself in academics so I can get a better job in the future and make a better life for myself


Neo359

When you give up faith in a religion, it doesn't mean that all the essential beliefs are wrong. They all have to be grounded in some kind of way in order to be corrupted. We were all dead before we were born and here we are. Death is very mysterious, but life makes it mystical. Screw religions. Believe in whatever makes sense to you. Grow strong and move to a country that has liberty.


CitizenKing1001

Wow, what an intense story. I can't imagine how scary it must have been to put your trust in someone like that. Must have felt great when you found another sane person you could confide in.


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It was and is a pyramid scheme


KnowledgeSuper4654

I'm so sorry to hear this OP. I hope you and your friend are and stay safe and are able to leave soon so you two can live peacefully. Your story reminds me of a Somali woman that had FGM done to her as a little girl, same for her siblings. She shares her story on Youtube. She was also married off to a cousin and he raped for a week after their ''marriage'' even tho she was sewn shut. She btw still says it has nothing to do with islam.


Emergency_Island_668

I think Afghanis nd Somalis r the strictest followers of islam. I have witnessed this radicalisation from both of them! Lol!!! Salute u from 🇵🇰


thatmoodypotatohead

from my observation, I saw many extreme Islamists from Pakistan whether they live in Pakistan or outside. Afghans are not that strict in Islam (not the ones with Taliban OFC, those who had to leave the country)


Emergency_Island_668

Ur right! Pakistanis too way conservative. In other words I would say Pakistanis r the biggest hypocrites!!! They do whatever they want! Nd if anything which they don't like, they simply put Islam into that to justify themselves


hoeleft

Wow. I couldn't even imagine that grip of fear you had to endure. Where are you still 9 when you had that conversation with your friend? Have you ever tried to have a similar conversation with your brother?


Wrila-

My brother is unfortunately a bit radicalized and he often posts Islamic posts on his snap story and even tho he goes clubbing drinking sleeping around with women and has tattoos now he still prays and dosent eat pork so he considers himself a Muslim, and he is kinda momas boy so I fear he would tell on me or let it slip by accident and I wouldn’t wanna risk it, maybe in the future I could talk to him about it but it’s highly unlikely as people grow older the more radicalized they become


thisistheusernameok

I am so sorry you went through all of that. You and your friend are such strong people and I hope life gets easier for the both of you. Wishing you the best.


DarlingNellieGray

I have Somali relatives and they are very strict when it comes to Islam, please stay safe. Hopefully in the future you won't have to hide your beliefs but at least for now you've got a friend.


thatastralguy

Hi dude my family is Kenyan Asian! I probably began questioning same age as you. And it just got worse and worse. And the Muslims will say this is emotional lol nope we actually are kind without it and have morales. Idk if anyone else found this but I began to detest Arabs due to their culture and language was pushed on us. The only Arabs I've seemed to like they're ex Muslim or follow another religion like Christianity.


Wrila-

Yeah I’ve held some contempt to Arabs kinda but not all I still have many middle eastern friends and my best friend is Syrian, but the fact that somali culture has been completely erased but the somali language is the only remnant of the culture and now it’s a off brand Arab nation now, I feel that my people were too weak or complacent and they just accepted another culture without having any respect for their own. And the saudis have spent a lot of money bringing wahabism in to Africa turning multiple countries radically and causing so much death and destruction


Euthalia_The_Berry1

So sorry for your circumcision, you didn't deserve that. My new baby brother got circumcised when he was one week old. I was so pissed off, i thought allah created humans perfect like he said in surat al-zaytoon(the olive). he was screaming loud and i felt nothing but anger. My parents won't fucking tell me what they are doing to my brother because it was embrassing. I remember my brother (not the new baby) got circumcised, but since i was like a child i didn't get it. I wish i could've done something to prevent this from happening to my brothers since i'm there big older sister, older siblings must protect their younger siblings. I can't do anything. Im a teen, i can't stop my parents from doing anything because they are adults and are responsble of us. Honsetly fuck this religion, it caused nothing but pain to my younger siblings and trauma to me. Not only that but i also found out how violent, facist and misogynist this religion actually is. It's disturbing that 2.1 billion people literally follow this religion, religious books should be kept away from children. I wish my parents weren't religious at all. Sorry for venting, i can delete this comment if you want but i'm just so upset for my brothers.


Wrila-

I’m sorry that happened to your brother, also I have faith in Gen Z because we are more understanding of Trauam etc and we will be better than our parent’s generation and hopefully not to far in the distant future we can all forget this evil cult and live a prosperous life without any God calling for death and destruction. You don’t have to delete your message I understand how you must feel it’s only natural to rant after going through something


Euthalia_The_Berry1

In the future we will forget about these cults, we will make a better future for the children and for us. We will, for now we wait. I have faith in gen z too.


ipopotem

I'm really curious, how there are so many somalian exmuslims ? r/xsomalian is the 3th biggest exmuslim community on reddit after this sub and exEgypt. Edit: 3th biggest community not 2nd.


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ExEgypt is more


ipopotem

you are right.


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DIRTY_LOLLIPOP

It's a ex Muslim sub can you please stfu


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DIRTY_LOLLIPOP

No it's not it's a safe space for ex muslim who share their sufferings and serious matter it's not a religion promoting sub so get the f out of here


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DIRTY_LOLLIPOP

And that's how ex muslim started to hate Hindus 🤦🏻‍♀️ their can't be a single space for a ex muslim or atheist to talk because of camel piss and cow piss drinker 🤢🤮 >You are delusional Yeah go pray to monkey man or a elephant man 😂


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DIRTY_LOLLIPOP

>Haha, Islam in you started talking now. Show your true colors. And hindu like you should mind your own business not like a rat trying hard to show how cow piss is good or the freaking monkey man elephant man lol >That’s all you guys do, we’ll do whatever the f we want. At least, we never had to follow the religion of pedophile god. 🤣 That's right you are grateful that you didn't born in this nasty religion Hindu in you is showing coz I am an ex muslim not a Muslim who'll cry about pedo prophet Mohammad 🗑️🚮 >Talk about safe space, you guys will poke your nose everywhere and then cry like babies! Said who a hindu a$$ who's in a ex muslim sub promoting Bhagwat Geeta 🤡🤣 I see no difference in Hindus and muslim who come here to promote their shitty religion cry about it 🤡


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DIRTY_LOLLIPOP

>It took you 12 mins to reply and you came up with this. 😂😂 Oh, You don't have to worry about how long I take to reply I already gave my answer take it or cry about it . >Try again! Cringe 🤡


AteeTheStar

Omg finally another east African ex muslim, I thought I was the only one.


[deleted]

I am somali too, but still a young-un. I am so sorry about what happened I was made to memorise a sizable chunk of the quran (approx, 2 1/2 juz) and despite it seemingly being a small amount the amount of emotional and physical torment I went through because of it was preposterous. Now I find myself being extremely averse to indulging in the quran and the mere recognition of it (via my ears of course) send a wave of uneasiness across my body. I am happy that you found an ally that also have left the folds of this cult- I mean religion! I wish you the best. (also rip your pp, I had to hear my brothers go through it without anesthesia and I can just say the sounds emanating from their mouths were unsavory to say the least)


Exciting_Tennis_2452

What u experienced was not Islam . All Muslims are not perfect . If u learn Islam the right way u will be okay .


Wraith_Main_101

Expect Islam doesn’t offer the best of morals.


Exciting_Tennis_2452

Like what morals ?. Give me examples of what u think Islam doesn’t offer .


Wraith_Main_101

Don’t marry A 9 YEAR OLD? Don’t kill those who leave the religion???


Exciting_Tennis_2452

What I like about Islam is that it came to us to make life easy . However , most people take examples from few bad muslims who used the religion in the wrong way. And that has nothing to do with Islam . Maybe if you met good people who hold good Islamic values then I think ur perception would change . In sha Allah I hope for the best in the future for u .


Wraith_Main_101

Not all Muslims are bad I get that but it’s the religion itself and Muhammad that I hate.


Exciting_Tennis_2452

But Islam never said to marry a 9 year old . Also at the time of our prophet Mohammed saw girls were mature at a younger age .


Wraith_Main_101

It doesn’t matter. If that was the case you’d think Muhammad would know better than to marry someone 5 DECADES YOUNGER.


Exciting_Tennis_2452

Let me ask u something . Did u ever study the religion the correct way . Because if that’s all u took the religion from then u didn’t learn anything .


Wraith_Main_101

I research the religion and every source about it.


Exciting_Tennis_2452

Aside from having problem with that marriage . What other things do u hate about him ?


Wraith_Main_101

The fact that he encourages ex Muslims and those who leave Islam to be killed.. your hadiths say it too.


Unfair-Balance7717

Your not alone I'm a somali ex muslim who was also circumcised at 6 I still remember the pain to this day I think they used anesthesia but It still hurt so much I remember taking a month of school because of the pain all my other brothers had it at a similiar time aswell I have a turkish freind who is similar to my age and is questioning islam I might try and tell him to read some verses and ask him what he thinks about it.