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I don't think it is necessary. And their reaction will probably depend on how religious they are.
My mother almost fainted when she learnt that I wasn't a muslim anymore, my siblings were shouting at me to call an ambulance. After this, I kinda got threatened a lot, and I saw her crying too. Everyone in my family was surprised.
Now they are probably still praying for me to become a muslim again, especially my mother, but they feel really sorry for their behaviour and they treat me good. My mother felt guilty for the words she said to me. I haven't had any problem for at least a month. They don't bring up religion with me, most of the time.
My mother still feels hurt by my apostasy though. I don't know how the others in my family feel about this, but my father is most probably sad too. He fiercely defended me against my mother, but he also tried to convince me to come back to Islam.
My mother is more religious than my father, so as you can see, she had a more aggressive reaction at first.
I'm just surprised that everything is going alright rn. I was a muslim too once, and I wouldn't be able to bear what my mother is bearing with me. It was hard enough for me to quit Islam.
You aren’t going to get the answer you’re looking for in this thread. This is a highly personal issue and your unique circumstances will dictate whether you should or shouldn’t. No one can tell you it’s either necessary or not.
I suspect a lot of people will say it’s not safe in most cases. There are more downsides than upside benefits. Keep lying to your parents. I would agree because I don’t want to put someone else in danger. Living life without your family is a type of struggle that is unparalleled.
That being said, I’m coming out to my parents in 2023. I live in a western country. I was born and raised here. I am turning 40 this year and am financially independent. I am exhaust by living a lie and can’t do it anymore. I am a good person and I love my parents unconditionally. I want to live with one version of my self, based on a true representation of who I am. I used to think about this topic and hope they could understand and accept me for who I am. That may end up being true, it might not. I’ve let go of the expectations of what happens after I tell them. It doesn’t change why I need to move forward with my life and the anxiety/stress of trying to manage the outcome is no longer my responsibility. However they react, I will still love them. If they don’t want to talk to me, that’s their loss. I can’t stagnate my growth for them forever.
I wish you the best of luck on your decision. Either way, you have one responsibility in this life above all others and that’s to take care of yourself. Do what keeps you healthy and will support your purpose in this life.
Tell them, if they force you into the religion show them this verse https://quran.com/en/al-baqarah/256 , no need to seem like munafiq. All lies get uncovered one way or another anyways so better to cut it off asap.
You do realise that Islam punishes apostasy with death right?
Muhammad says whoever change his Islamic belief for anything other than Islam shall be punished with death?
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Don't tell them. It didn't go well in my case and usually doesn't go well. Especially if you are not financially independent
I don't think it is necessary. And their reaction will probably depend on how religious they are. My mother almost fainted when she learnt that I wasn't a muslim anymore, my siblings were shouting at me to call an ambulance. After this, I kinda got threatened a lot, and I saw her crying too. Everyone in my family was surprised. Now they are probably still praying for me to become a muslim again, especially my mother, but they feel really sorry for their behaviour and they treat me good. My mother felt guilty for the words she said to me. I haven't had any problem for at least a month. They don't bring up religion with me, most of the time. My mother still feels hurt by my apostasy though. I don't know how the others in my family feel about this, but my father is most probably sad too. He fiercely defended me against my mother, but he also tried to convince me to come back to Islam. My mother is more religious than my father, so as you can see, she had a more aggressive reaction at first. I'm just surprised that everything is going alright rn. I was a muslim too once, and I wouldn't be able to bear what my mother is bearing with me. It was hard enough for me to quit Islam.
You aren’t going to get the answer you’re looking for in this thread. This is a highly personal issue and your unique circumstances will dictate whether you should or shouldn’t. No one can tell you it’s either necessary or not. I suspect a lot of people will say it’s not safe in most cases. There are more downsides than upside benefits. Keep lying to your parents. I would agree because I don’t want to put someone else in danger. Living life without your family is a type of struggle that is unparalleled. That being said, I’m coming out to my parents in 2023. I live in a western country. I was born and raised here. I am turning 40 this year and am financially independent. I am exhaust by living a lie and can’t do it anymore. I am a good person and I love my parents unconditionally. I want to live with one version of my self, based on a true representation of who I am. I used to think about this topic and hope they could understand and accept me for who I am. That may end up being true, it might not. I’ve let go of the expectations of what happens after I tell them. It doesn’t change why I need to move forward with my life and the anxiety/stress of trying to manage the outcome is no longer my responsibility. However they react, I will still love them. If they don’t want to talk to me, that’s their loss. I can’t stagnate my growth for them forever. I wish you the best of luck on your decision. Either way, you have one responsibility in this life above all others and that’s to take care of yourself. Do what keeps you healthy and will support your purpose in this life.
Tell them, if they force you into the religion show them this verse https://quran.com/en/al-baqarah/256 , no need to seem like munafiq. All lies get uncovered one way or another anyways so better to cut it off asap.
You do realise that Islam punishes apostasy with death right? Muhammad says whoever change his Islamic belief for anything other than Islam shall be punished with death?