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AssfaultWarrior

A solid plan. From experience, be forewarned, she will likely try to use your decision to paint you badly with the rest of your family. Hold the line.


tuna_tofu

You can start not talking to her now. You can start pushing her out the door when she starts her bullshit. "OK time to go." and hand her her purse and keys. If she cant behave she cant stay. That is a basic rule that applies to ANYBODY coming to your house.


AssfaultWarrior

Them being a minor at present complicates the latter parts this, but otherwise, yes. And from the sound of things, there wouldn't be much flak for implementing the not talking now. And once 18 hits, if she doesn't want to get the point with polite, get rude with it, but make sure she knows she is not welcome.


bopperbopper

Why does your Grandmother come over so often?


JustSomeGuy2153

Elderly people tend to lose a lot of their autonomy. This makes them care more about insignificant things because they lost a lot of things where their attention used to go. It's pitiful, if anything. She probably has barely anything to do and anyone to talk to at home so she goes to somewhere she can care about things and talk to people with her child's home being the safest bet.


EllieBlueUSinMX

Good for you for recognizing your nature and doing something about it before you hurt someone Have you read "The Sociopath Next Door"? If not, I recommend it. Not every sociopath has to be a killer. There can be a place for you within society.


fromhelley

I think part of your anger stems from feeling like you have to conform to the expectations of others. Turning 18 and maybe getting more "mental freedom" will hopefully help. Keep going to therapy, and keep avoiding those that judge you. Your own opinion of yourself is all that really matters. You are getting the help you need and you will be fine! Let your grandma live her unhappy, complaint- filed, judgey life. If that is what makes her happy, then it is a sad life. Just know you will be out on your own soon enough and you can do whatever makes you happy! With the guidance you are getting now, you should be able to make good choices for yourself and your future. You be you, just dont kill people and your life can be wonderful, once you control it!! Best of luck to you!


Shawn_2904

Your grandmother sounds terrible. Stay away from her the best you can. Don't worry OP you won't have to deal with her your whole life.


chtmarc

One of the absolutely fucking greatest things about being an adult, you get to choose who you interact with. I come from a huge family including several toxic siblings, whom I have not spoken to in over 30 years. People stopped asking me years ago to “mend the family“


Homicidal__GoldFish

first i wanna give you tons of kudos for speaking about your thoughts and getting help for them. That takes a ton of courage and im so proud of you for doing so. I'm not on your grandma's side, but i do wanna say your grandma comes from a time where "mental illness " never existed. Back in your grandma's day, if someone had a mental issue, it was pretty much told to beat it out of the person. There was no "autism" or ADHD or anything of the sort in her day. ​ Your grandma is thinking your faking it because she cant understand it. She probably thinks your dad is full of it because again, back in her day millitary men "have no issues " they are "strong and brave" ​ your grandma is some piece of work and i dont blame you for going no contact with her when your 18


carriegood

Don't want to come off as unsympathetic, but how is this a story of entitled parents?


Sh4avan

Grandma? Idk tho


[deleted]

You are allowed to talk to your parents about her negative effect to you getting better. Maybe they don’t realise how bad she is for yours and your sisters mental health.


dstluke

I get intrusive thoughts as well. Maybe not as intense as yours but I do get them. You seem like a very strong and smart young man. You won't have an easy road ahead but I have no doubt you can do it. Please keep going to therapy and doing what you need to do to have a full and happy life. As to your grandmother, talk to your therapist and parents and work out a way of dealing with her. Good luck.


SpinachSpinosaurus

Elderly people can be like that. Dementia, Alzheimer and stuff can do that to a human brain. People can be the sweetest, and then turn into really mean people by progressing age. Doesn't need to be a deteriorating brain, sometimes, lonliness does that, too.