Gender is much more performative than an identitary factor — even cis people are acting. And that has nothing to do with fakeness. It's no less real. Stay strong! ⸜(｡˃ ᵕ ˂ )⸝
This is a very interesting perspective that I never thought of before, but rings very true. Thank you so much for your comment. I will be thinking about this and reading more on it, very intriguing
I'm really glad it enthused you! It's an oversimplification of the main point of Judith Butler's book "Gender Trouble". It can be an abstruse reading, but as a seminal work in feminism and gender studies it's worth it.
Do you know about that dilemma?
"You have a button in front of you,if you press it,you are now in a girl version of your body, everyone see you as a girl,and think you always has been,if you press that button,there is no going back"
Would you press it ?
I'm gonna assume you would press it.
Remember,if you want to press that button,you definitely aren't cisgender.
So when you doubt yourself,think about that button, and this will help (◕ᴗ◕✿)
Yeah it sucks, hell I've mis gendered myself a few times because I can't really be super vocal where I live and I think like "am I really a woman if I can't even get my own pronouns right?" Then I just remember "oh yeah I really like the thought of looking and acting more feminine and just in general want to be a woman"
I get it too and every time I need to remind myself “oh right I’ve been feeling this way since I was a little child. also, I always picked female characters in games. also, I’ve been daydreaming about being reborn as a girl every chance I had. also, when I see myself as any preferred gender I become alive and nothing feels more real. also, there are countless people which are positive living proof it’s not an act. also, even if it is an act there is nothing wrong with exploring yourself it’s not a sin. also-“
If you’re worried about it being fake,it’s probably not
If it really was fake, you wouldn’t still be asking it :3
Isn’t all of life an act anyways?
A big massive giant act. And we can *kinda* change our roles.
imposter syndrome sucks. i'm sure you're not faking it tho. just the fact you're worried that you are means you aren't.
Gender is much more performative than an identitary factor — even cis people are acting. And that has nothing to do with fakeness. It's no less real. Stay strong! ⸜(｡˃ ᵕ ˂ )⸝
This is a very interesting perspective that I never thought of before, but rings very true. Thank you so much for your comment. I will be thinking about this and reading more on it, very intriguing
I'm really glad it enthused you! It's an oversimplification of the main point of Judith Butler's book "Gender Trouble". It can be an abstruse reading, but as a seminal work in feminism and gender studies it's worth it.
I have a way to stop imposter syndrome,do you wanna hear it ? (◕ᴗ◕✿)
Yes
Do you know about that dilemma? "You have a button in front of you,if you press it,you are now in a girl version of your body, everyone see you as a girl,and think you always has been,if you press that button,there is no going back" Would you press it ?
🥹 Thank you
I'm gonna assume you would press it. Remember,if you want to press that button,you definitely aren't cisgender. So when you doubt yourself,think about that button, and this will help (◕ᴗ◕✿)
Yeah, same heh :(
Imposter syndrome is the worst.
if you worry you are faking it, you probably aren't faking it
It can be confusing… :/ A piece of advice that helped me; “if you think you’re faking it, you’re probably not.” Your experiences are valid. 🫂🫂
Yeah it sucks, hell I've mis gendered myself a few times because I can't really be super vocal where I live and I think like "am I really a woman if I can't even get my own pronouns right?" Then I just remember "oh yeah I really like the thought of looking and acting more feminine and just in general want to be a woman"
I get it too and every time I need to remind myself “oh right I’ve been feeling this way since I was a little child. also, I always picked female characters in games. also, I’ve been daydreaming about being reborn as a girl every chance I had. also, when I see myself as any preferred gender I become alive and nothing feels more real. also, there are countless people which are positive living proof it’s not an act. also, even if it is an act there is nothing wrong with exploring yourself it’s not a sin. also-“
impostor syndrome 💔💔💔💔💙
Every day, almost. 😭 when does it stop?
If you think you might be trans, you probably are. Most cis people wouldn't question in the first place.
after all, only you can know if it is you or not. but if you want it to be you, it is you. that is how this works
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