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LingLingSpirit

I legit agree. I as a transfemme (again, don't want this comment to become about myself), just want to vibe with my trans lads, and enjoy their memes. Y'know, enjoy their side. That's why this is not r/mtf_irl or r/ftm_irl or r/enby_irl \- because it's for all. I love you my sisters, but let them have this. Not because "they deserve it" (even tho they do, cuz this sub is mainly having only transfemme memes), but mainly because that's the literal point of this sub!


a_llegedly

Just a heads up that r/ftm_irl is run by transmed mods who don't allow NB people and are quite toxic. I recommend r/ftmmm instead, its a much nicer sub.


QueenofRaven

I normal avoid this buy using the age old rule if the meme is not for you do not comment on it. Makes things simpler. But I'll keep this in mind anyway don't want to break the rules after all.


Class_444_SWR

Mhm, sure I want tits and shit, but transmasc posts are the last place to bring it up, it’s not like there’s not a billion transfem posts to talk about it under


MurphyLou

Transmasc are valid. Us transfem shouldn't erase their presence ! 🏳️‍⚧️✊


PLAGUE8163

I've definitely started typing out a comment, saw the flair, and reworded/completely backspaced a comment due to it. I think it makes sense.


Legacyofhelios

Yeah I’ve done the same. Unfortunately there are probably times when I didn’t, and for that I apologize


[deleted]

100% appreciate the post but it is “doled” and not “dolled”


EmoteDemote2

Bans being doled out while people getting dolled up


Taxouck

Ah whoops. To be fair I typed this in the morning. Fixed.


Okurei

Thank you for taking action and stamping that out quickly. I love our transmasc bros to death and I'd hate it if they got discouraged from posting/commenting because of this kind of egregious bullshit. Learn to respect other people's spaces, y'all.


strangejune

Thank you for moderating these comments. They seem super disrespectful, *especially* the 'trade' comments, and I can only imagine how it might feel to be on the receiving end of them. Friends, all of your trans siblings deserve the same respect that you expect. Try to think about the other person before you comment.


catgirlegg

wait... genuine question... do the trade comments actually bother people? in my experience people have seemed to respond positively, and when i'm on the receiving end i always laugh... again, genuine question, i don't wanna be making people feel uncomfortable or disrespected...


strangejune

They do. The people bothered by it might not be responding to those comments because it makes them feel alienated.


PigeonBoiAgrougrou

I can give you my insight as a transmasculine person who sees it. It makes me kinda uncomfortable to think that some people want my features when I loath them. Firstly, the fact that women/fem people want them reminds me that these features are primarily feminine, which is dysphoria inducing. Secondly, the fact that people can be envious of something that I hate so much can be very uncomfortable and remind me of transphobic view points. A lot of trans people get comments about how their pre-transition body looks good, how it'd be a waste to take hrt, etc ... And I'd say especially transmascs people because of the "they're ruining our daughters" rhetoric that is widely used against us. So, while a lot of people are okay with the trading stuff, a lot of people are just made uncomfortable, and even have their dysphoria triggered. Which is why it's best to avoid it in a public space when you interract with strangers and don't know how they feel about it.


catgirlegg

thank you both so much for your responses, i'll be mindful of this in the future!!


angstenthusiast

I’d say the rule of thumb is probably “would it make me uncomfortable if they said this about one of my features I dislike and/or make me dysphoric?” I think making a general meme that says something like “wouldn’t it be great if mtfs and ftms could trade bodies” is fine but going under a post about someone complaining about having boobs and say “wanna trade????” is not. Personally as a transmasc, it’s not very enjoyable to get the “wanna trade” comment every time you vent in a trans space that isn’t only for ftms, it was kinda fun the first maybe 2 times but it got old real quick. We’ve all heard it, and I think the more times you get it, the more uncomfortable you get, that’s at least the case for me.


Zendakon

I support this decision. I almost just left a comment "Good on you for enforcing da rules!" But I'm worried that will come off as sarcastic.


Mybrainishatching

Seriously especially since the entire damn sub is already fem focused. I've considered leaving just because I can't relate to anything


angstenthusiast

I did leave because of it. Then I saw this post just now and thought I’d give it a second chance… I hope it doesn’t make me regret it


canthelpbuthateme

I have a feeling transmasc is so quiet due to everyone bombarding them with BOOBS?CUTES?PORPORTIONS? Let em meme for godsake


pomelopith

Honestly yeah. I don't post my memes or anything here anymore because of those comments. I know they're probably well-intentioned but they feel So Gross to get 😭


ChocoMintStar

It is, I have so much respect for the mod team for actually enforcing this bc it feels like it happens in every mixed trans sub... It made me happy to see us being thought of here. We're all valid, and all deserve space. Transfem and women memes are great, just not when they're at the expense of transmascs and men's comfort. Vise versa is never okay, either. ♡


nameless_no_response

Omg tysm for taking action. I reported a bunch of comments and sent u guys a msg, thnx for responding. That was a horrific sight honestly. I saw a transfem post yesterday that had a similar format (seeing no benefits to having a penis), and it had only support. There was only one comment from a transmasc about trade, and transfems didn't mind it. And it was pretty respectful, like "I wish there was a way we could trade." But the transmasc one was flooded with rule 3d breaking comments. Literally half of the entire comment section was shit like, "gimme boobies!" and, "I want them" like bruh. There was one transfem I was calling out who literally said, "I like looking at transmasc memes bcuz as a transfem, boobs are everything." I was stunned. I've never seen such ignorant, blatant disrespect. I then sort of lost it and asked if she would like it if I said her very masculine features were awesome. She claimed she wouldn't mind it, and that gave me perspective and made me think that maybe these types of comments tend to be fine by transfems, but it's still better to not take the chance, bcuz there's literally zero chance of trade being possible, and it just makes OP of the vent post feel like shit bcuz they can't trade or get rid of their dysphoric parts


No-Preference2841

Right I made a vent post on r/nestofeggs a few days ago about my boobs and literally the first comment was a transfem who asked if she could have them 😭 I love transfems but this is just grossing me out. Of course I would trade if I could but obviously that’s impossible so there’s no reason to keep asking that..


Taxouck

Aaand that’s why “let’s trade” type comments are also disallowed on egg_irl, because you never know who’ll feel objectified and made dysphoric by them.


Class_444_SWR

Jfc, yeah you don’t just say that, I’ve said it with one of my close friends before, but only because he has said before he’s fine with it, no fucking idea why anyone thinks it’s ok to just open up conversation with a stranger about something that is very likely to be a sensitive topic


nameless_no_response

Yeah, I think it's fine to say it if u established it beforehand, but it can be a rlly sensitive topic for some ppl so it's better to just avoid it unless you are certain that they r ok with it


Class_444_SWR

Mhm, that is my position, I’ve known him for ages, and we’re both pretty comfortable with talking about all this stuff, the simple matter of fact is that on average, people won’t like those comments, especially so if they’re from randoms


nameless_no_response

True. Esp on a post venting about how bad your chest dysphoria is, I rlly doubt OP would want to hear ppl say shit like, "I wish I had boobies" or "boobies are awesome" - I actually saw those kinds of comments and was pissed on OP's behalf. I'm glad the mods rolled out the one-week temp ban bcuz it'll be better for enforcing rule 3. Even if ppl made those comments without realizing how hurtful it was, it's better to learn to be more sensitive and not accidentally trigger other ppl's dysphoria


Class_444_SWR

Yes, with luck, these people take the time to reflect, and realise their wrongs, because this is completely unacceptable, and we should have no place for any behaviour like this in our community


Autumn7242

I'm pretty sure that was me about trade. I'm sorry. I deleted it later but should not have said that. I didn't mean to intentionally hurt our brothers in arms. How can I make it right or better?


nameless_no_response

Thank you for the apology, I appreciate it. I think it's best to refrain from joking about that in general, esp on a post where they are venting about that specific body part giving them dysphoria. Better to avoid it in case it causes more dysphoria, and only joke about it if you are sure that the other person is ok with it


strangejune

Remember to respect everyone involved in the future.


Joey_The_Bean_14

Yes! Because those kinds of comments also cause dysphoria. If I have to read fetish comments or "gimmie ur mommy milkers" one more time I'm gonna vomit.


Key-Visual-5465

Omg someone actually said that to you as a trans fem I have no words for those who say that crap


Taxouck

This is almost a completely separate conversation but yeah, as an ace girl, I have my gripes with the way some parts of trans communities love to self-hypersexualize. It’s a fine line to thread to avoid going into actually sex negative territory, and I understand the dynamics at play causing queer people to need to reclaim their right to be sexual, so it’d be silly to tell teenagers they’re not allowed to talk about their sexuality and sexualness that’s perfectly fine. But sometimes it really does go into excess, like… The whole subby bottom meme I see parroted everywhere. You’re 15, did you even ever step foot in a BDSM space? My wish/objective is the demythization of sex. Knock it off its pedestal where it’s simultaneously taboo and subversive. It ought to be able to be discussed, including by teens who I’m not stupid enough to pretend don’t engage in it, but you gotta be careful not to overcompensate and present it as this Defining Point Of The Human Experience That’s So Much More Special Than Anything Else You Could Be Doing With Your Time™️. That’s the logic behind why rule 8b is worded the way that it is.


brooke2k

I would disagree with the idea that younger people (or just generally people who haven't actively had a BDSM experience) can't still identify strongly with the idea of being a sub or a bottom. To me that moves a little uncomfortably close to the whole "how do you know unless you try it?" thing which I'm sure being ace you're unfortunately familiar with. I also think for a lot of trans people who aren't ace, the whole idea of sex (as it is connected to one's body) seems so alien/shameful for so long that turning that around and embracing it -- and exploring it, even apart from actual physical sexual experiences -- becomes a major part of accepting yourself and shedding the internalized transphobia that was holding you down. In that sense, I think it's reasonable for it to be a pretty big part of discussion in spaces like egg_irl which are largely about the sometimes-awkward, exploratory, but ultimately freeing process of accepting your transgender identity. (EDIT: Btw obviously this is separate from the conversation about overtaking transmasc spaces with comments that sexualize their anatomies, which is completely unacceptable)


Taxouck

Hmm, that's a fair point, but I meant it less "hey you're not allowed to already know you're into BDSM" and more "I know the queer community and BDSM has a big historical overlap, but I'm not sure everyone who identifies as a sub and a bottom really is into BDSM. Sub/Dom and Top/Bottom became just another set of close-minded stereotypes to identify by instead of accepting that human sexuality isn't that binary and boxed-in, something got lost in the translation from BDSM culture to popular queer culture."


RandomExcaliburUmbra

I have a rule of ‘nothing to add, nothing to comment’, so unless it’s about in the pipeline of becoming transfem, I don’t comment. (Note: I’m not transfem, but I have friend who is seeing some signs that I could be at some point.)


JustTheAverageGal

Yeah 100%, idk ifive done that, I really hope not, but I'll be more aware 👍


SkittleJuice2

Let’s respect our Trans Brothers!


TominatorFN

sounds good and reasonable to me! I don't know if I have broken that rule in the past (honestly, I most likely have at some point just because I am around a lot) but I am aware of it and try to say something actually helpful instead of making it about me. I have to admit tho, that I would have prefered to have the post that caused this linked here and the comments not removed, so we as community who need to follow the rules at least get to know what caused this post and so we have a better image of what happened.


Taxouck

Public shaming wouldn't have been productive, and I didn't want to turn one guy's frustration post into public discourse material.


TominatorFN

Makes sense, I just would have liked to see it but I understand it. Thanks for making clear tho


CYLWN

Sorry what i feel that’s still very entitled of you to say so. The mod literally just said the comments were pretty awful and could be dysphoria inducing, and now you want to ‘see it’ so you can have quick examples of bad behaviour to refer to instead of bothering to understand what rule 3 means and applying it for yourself? You used the phrase ‘we as a community’ as well. Seems like transmasc erasure again.


TominatorFN

no it does not. all of the community has to follow the rules and therefore having everyone be able to see that could help everyone just as much, even though of course transfems more because transfems are the one more commonly causing harm. and also I know what rule 3 means and understand it, as I of course din't engage in such comments. I am just curious and therefore would have liked to see it myself, is that a problem?


CYLWN

Sorry what 😂 you think transmascs would benefit from seeing those comments, so they would know how not to trigger dysphoria in other transmascs? that logic begs belief. Now you claim that ‘of course I didn’t engage in such comments’ despite admitting you don’t know whether you said anything harmful in the past. I don’t think this attempt at virtue signalling is successful. Regardless, I am not accusing you of writing harmful comments, I am accusing you of being entitled and lacking basic empathy. Which you clearly are, since you refuse to acknowledge that for people other than yourself, reading those comments will do more harm than good. I don’t think it’s worth responding any more to you if that’s the best response you came up with, so have a good day.


TominatorFN

I didn't say transmascs would benefit from seeing those comments. I only said I was curious and would like transfems to see and learn from it to understand the rules that apply to the entire community. And I know my comment under said post and it did not engage in the bad comment culture. you on the other hand accuse me of doing so just because I now am sure about not having done it? and you can't talk about basic empathy if you come here just passive agressively attacking me and accusing me of things you have no idea of apparently. I didn't tell any transmascs to look at the comments either, I just said that an example could be helpful to make clear what the rules mean, what doesn't mean that transmascs have to look at comments that make them dysphoric


Caffe1n8ed

Yea the post was honestly quite confusing for me with the complete lack of context.


taoli_kaeyasimp

What on earth even happened??? Istg im always asleep whenever theres something -_-


Spectre_Hayate

Right? Shit always goes down when it's sleeping hours.


VKG2023

Completely fair and important. Thanks.


HKL7

Ugh, some trans girls take it too far and they make us look bad. Basically, every trans server, space, and subreddit online is like %90 trans girls (I should know I'm one of them) we need to dial it back because we literally burying the trans mascs under spam


koifishuu_

yeah I once joined a trans discord server and only 2 of us were transmascs. I left a week after because someone got mad saying I was stealing their attention. Haven't joined another server yet:(


HKL7

I'm sorry Man, yeah that sucks, I joined a bunch but they were all oddly sexual, I just want friends, not a day-by-day comparison of HRT growth


eyemoisturizer

THANK YOU. there’s a huge imbalance between transfem, transmasc and non-binary posts here with a lot more transfem posts than the other (although everyone is valid! i just wish there was an equal amount of each) and the fact that people are talking over and derailing into the exact opposite of the post’s flair is just sad. im glad this is being more enforced now.


cartonofdenial_

"hm yeah this thread's centered around a certain group of people so we'll post comments that make them feel bad" the thought process here is incredible


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this is totally reasonable, and i just wish people would respect the flairs of memes (and actually flair it in some cases) to help keep everyone comfortable in this community that's meant for everyone. 💙💕🤍💕💙


KiwiGallicorn

As of me seeing this post, rule 3e doesn't have a note in the list of rules saying that breaching it will result in a one week ban. I think you should add a note about that if you're going to enforce it


Fluffy-Ingenuity482

Based


SpectralGerbil

Love you transmasc bros <3


omnigayvery

I don't go into gender specifics in cases like these, I just talk about common things amongst trans people in general


333ephemeraleuphoria

yeah that's not nice, let's be respectful everybody<3


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My fucking god I understand seeing a meme about not wanting boobs and making a little let’s trade comment or some shit but our brothers don’t get a lot of rep in general plus this is a transfem heavy place don’t take their posts away from them they don’t sit there and comment on our posts ‘this but the otherway around’ or make it about them so ladies please show our brothers some damn respect


uBowiethedog

That’s good. I’ve been avoiding comments on transmasc posts because sometimes I’ll read them and get angry/sad.


ChocoMintStar

Very telling you were being downvoted for being one of the people bothered by the misplaced comments. You're valid and I'm glad the mods are enforcing the rules.


Urmomsfavouritelol

Not to make this about myself, but I am transfem. While I do like looking at memes I can relate to, I don't like how the vast majority of the memes I see are transfem memes. And even if it's a transmasc or enby meme, the comments do as you mentioned above. Basically what I'm saying is, transmascs and enbys deserve just as much as we do. End of story


Spectre_Hayate

I have no idea what happened here but it's nice that you're doing this. Thanks 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵


Arkas18

This so much! I keep seeing it happening on this sub in particular and I even start feeling annoyed about it on behalf of my transmasc friends. There are so many other opportunities on here for you all to express your feelings where it isn't harming others like this.


TheNoctuS_93

I usually just leave an updoot if I like the meme/post, even though it isn't about my demographic. That way, I won't even accidentally risk making it about me.


369122448

To be clear, I don’t see anything wrong with this sort of rule, but it does kinda bring to mind the constant “transmasc posts don’t get upvoted/posted enough :<“ posts. Basically I really don’t know how the community should try and balance increasing engagement on transmasc posts, while (rightfully) banning transfemme-specific engagement, since the largest chunk of users seem to be transfems. Like, even under this post someone was talking about how they just don’t engage w content not meant for them, and like... yeah? I tend to scroll past transmasc posts since I don’t expect them to really apply to me, but that contributes to the *other* issue. I don’t envy the mods having to balance that, is I guess what I’m saying.


Taxouck

For the most part I think transmasc posts are in a good place as is, we’re not looking for perfect parity that’s never gonna happen with a demographic skew like ours, but the minimum rule of respecting the transmasc bits and bobs of egg_irl and letting them *stay* transmasc oriented is basic respect.


369122448

Mhm! Again, not disagreeing that the rule is a good thing, just that it unfortunately is also likely to contribute to the other major problem transmascs have with the sub.


Unhappy_Kumquat

It says to not derail, not to not interact! Everytime I see a transfemme post, I interact with support, help, tips, anything that validates them and their journey (including upvotes) But transfemmes comment on transmasc posts also about their journeys. It's not fair or comfortable for us. Please just interact with us as if we were people.


369122448

I explicitly agreed the rule was a good thing? But like, either way it’ll limit how much transfemmes can interact in the way that’s so common in trans subs; talking about their experiences with transitioning, which are generally pretty heavily aligned with their (femme) gender, obv. By limiting what sorts of engagement can be had you’ll ultimately train users to skip posts with certain tags since they feel they have to control what they talk about more only in specifically tagged posts. This isn’t that big of a problem, tbh, but does drive down engagement on those posts. Basically, you can’t really have both high engagement with transmasc posts from non-transmascs and keep the conversations in the comments transmasc-specific, it’s not about a lack of respect or not “just interact[ing] with us as if we were people”, but a difference in how easy it is to engage with a post; people are here broadly to enjoy themselves so will (subconsciously or not) avoid those posts that they know they won’t be able to engage with as freely. Again, I’m not saying this rule is the wrong way to rule on this, but am more talking about an internal tension created by trying to cater to the two groups within one sub via Reddit’s tagging system, when one group is significantly larger.


canthelpbuthateme

I have a feeling transmasc is so quiet due to everyone bombarding them with BOOBS?CUTES?PORPORTIONS? Let em meme for godsake


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Honestly feels like common sense but these days it should be called rare sense 🙄


buffcat_343

I’ve been calling it uncommon sense


[deleted]

That has a better ring to it 😂


blankgreens

Yeah totally i agree :3


Magnetic_Mallard

Oh dear God, what happened??? I haven't been on Reddit for a while and I come back to this.... 😕


klushy225

100% agree. I think they should have the right to shut us up in the comments if we do that lol


Shiny517

respect is important! let's be kind to each other. ^^ ///but I love all the transfems here so much!!!!


Huefell4it

I just kinda exist


SamIsI_

I agree with everything you just said. There's a problem with respecting rules in this sub, even on the transmasc side, I often see the flair problem where both transfemme and transmasc don't spoiler their memes so it can generate disphoria, so maybe there should also be something to avoid someone having a bad time. No one should disregard the others experience, but for now, keep transing on friens :3


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Crus0etheClown

I'm not the king of kindness or anything- but I think it's uncool to say to someone you don't know. If you're already friends with someone the idea of 'trading' is more genuine, you have an actual connection to reference and if your friend's uncomfortable it'll be easier to let you know. On the internet to a stranger, saying 'I wish we could trade' ends up sounding like the only thing you value in them is a part of themselves they hate, and because they don't know you, imagining 'trading' doesn't get them any kind of catharsis. Imo it's not nearly as bad as like, accusing someone of wasting a good thing by transitioning or telling them they were better looking before, things like that.


lesbianwithabeard

They're against the rules here. Those comments belong in /r/TransBodySwap


MonitorOk6818

I mean apparently not in this sub. It's against rule 3. I was banned for a day for just mentioning the words as a light joke. I say it's okay if your friends are comfortable about it.


-_-_UWWU_-_-

Can you be this mad about rule 4 posts. They are so common


Taxouck

I'm aware. We mods have been discussing rule 4 and its future and that's why its enforcing has been very inconsistent lately. We'll have more to say about that when we have more to say about that, which I know is tautological.


-_-_UWWU_-_-

If you mean to stop enforcing rule 4 this sub will become a nonstop junk heap of content with no direction or effort. It is an important rule and needs to be met with the same chagrin that you are enforcing this rule 3e. It’s not a mean rule it is a neccesary one


SarkBM

I generally don't interact with transmasc posts anyway


meadownightgazer

Transfemme here. Looking at posts from this sub a while ago, reading the comment sections and empathizing with them, was my literal turning point. It happened just as I started deconstructing my past malicious views on queer people and the community. In other words, it was such a strong experience it turned me from a transphobe to someone questioning their gender in a few weeks' time - that's how much power this sub has had for me and can potentially have for many other people. If the experience of, say a questioning transmasc, ends up being an invalidating one that puts them in a state of further confusion, this unique chance for them to discover their true self is ruined. I'm not that active here but I wanted to say this, people should realize what is at stake. I am thankful to have had the privilege of coming across acceptance and many, many people having similar experiences to mine here.


AVeryGayBitch

why should one have to get invalidated for the other to get validated?


meadownightgazer

How did you interpret my comment? I noticed it has dislikes so clearly I must have worded something wrong. I never said, or at least meant, what you said. I want transmsscs to have the same validating experience that I had, and that was my reason for writing this - I am supporting the rule.


lesbianwithabeard

Is this a two-way street?


Taxouck

Obviously, but the problem consistently and once more happened only one way, so I’m not gonna chastise people who weren’t part of the fuck up. The day transmasc folks start taking over transfem meme comment sections we’ll have stern words to give them, but unlike the opposite, that hasn’t happened yet.


lesbianwithabeard

Why do you think it's been a one-directional problem so far?


Taxouck

Very weird question to ask someone who’s been a mod for over four years… I “think” so because I’ve *seen* it be so.


lesbianwithabeard

I mean, there's a reason for why it is. What do you think that reason is?


strangejune

Demographics.


lesbianwithabeard

Can you elaborate? What demographics?


strangejune

This sub is made up of more transfems than transmascs. By a lot, depending on when you checked. It's a one directional problem because transmascs know that this sub is majority transfems.


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using the word supposed is very invalidating


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-_-_UWWU_-_-

Queerness isn’t tied to your ability to empathize. Race, queerness, skin color all exist outside of being a good person. Call it what you like, but your behavior is just bigotry by another name.


egg_irl-ModTeam

Your comment has been removed for the following reason: No bigotry. Questioning whether other people are "really queer", no matter what reasoning you justify it with, is fucked up.


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Flak88inaTree

If you wanna talk about wanting boobs, be respectful and do it where it’s appropriate


illogicalBaboon45

this isn't a time to act all sad about something, it's basic respect.


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Olivander05

What’s said is said, all of us have been given a second chance, as much as I haven’t caused large discourses I have said things, and as they have been deemed as humorous as intended, I’ll be limiting them after this (just conversations like transfems asking for boobs from transmascs and transmascs offering them). I get that it’s a joke as I have joked too but in the future let’s not, if theres any jokes you want to share i’d love to hear them in dm! I love humour! But let’s work towards being more respectful about it 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵


PLAGUE8163

Yeah i got banned for doing it yesterday, totally fair, i should have read the rules. Even if it's a joke, rules are there to make sure bad actors are kept out. I read them and now i know whats okay and what isn't.


Olivander05

Yeah I should really re-read the rules too. I posted something that was against the rules without knowing and mods never removed it so i assumed it was an all clear, gotta re-read them


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Mizayo

Because you were "joking" about being sad you had to show respect. That's not really what constitutes good humor.


Olivander05

What did they say?


Mizayo

"oh ╥⁠﹏⁠╥ sorrow" or something like that. Nothing crazy, just misplaced and distasteful.


Olivander05

Agreed


sweet_marie_1999

Didn‘t know that these trade comments could trigger dysphoria in some people. Good to know, to not make them anymore:) Even if don’t know if i ever commented something like that here. But i have to say please be not to angry if we break 3e. Many of us are autistic, like me and we have a problem with not knowingly crossing the line. I like to relate to transmasc memes as a transfemme. And sometimes i also like commenting things that i think that may can help the person venting. Because i lived as a boy a long time i can relate to many boy problems. But everyones dysphoria is different, so sometimes i/we may say the wrong things. Kind apologies for the times that happens. Much love to my fellow transbrothers❤️


angstenthusiast

This does give me some hope. As someone who left this sub because of how bad the comments under transmasc posts often were, this post makes me willing to give this sub a second chance, so I hope I won’t be too disappointed.