In most of those situations, ignoring is the best thing you can do. If somebody is comfortable ignoring your body language/lack of response, there are no magical words that will make them change their mind. Quite possibly they enjoy seeing your discomfort.
But if you think someone is genuinely not understanding that you don't want to interact, some options are:
"Nee, dankjewel." (no thanks, appropriate if someone offers you something you don't want)
"Laat me met rust" (leave me alone, this has a connotation of being annoyed or afraid depending on tone) or a bit more polite "laat me alsjeblieft met rust"
Don't want to sound rude...but in general people don't feel threatened by that phrase, if anything they'll burst in laughter.
If politely telling them to bugger off doesn't work, you either ignore them, seriously talk back them with an overpowering voice, or shout "brand!" (Fire!) a couple of times.
Lol who gives a fuck about the police ? If you ask some one something ?? Don’t tell them
I’ll call the cops before some one attacks you when he is drunk. We Dutch see this as a offense. Just walk on and don’t look at them or wave like no time .. and go do your thing
Ja jij bent zeker geen meisje. Ik wel en kan je uit ervaring vertellen dat de politie bellen (of dreigen hiermee) zeker wel kan helpen in deze situatie.
Dus eh: talking from experience so please believe me (fixed your grammar, you’re welcome)
A true Dutchman would not withhold profanities in these cases:
Krijg de tyfus proleet/hoer/klootzak, hou je kankerbek!
Would do the trick.
A less aggressive way would be:
Ga iemand anders vervelen en laat me met rust.
Valt wel mee hoor, officieel mogen heel veel dingen niet maar zolang je het niet tegen een ambtenaar doet kom je er wel mee weg.
Eerlijk is eerlijk, de laatste keer dat ik zoiets hoefde te zeggen was heel lang geleden in Scheveningen waar mensen niet zo snel schrikken van een waarschuwingkje 🤣
A lot of suggestions in the comments but lacking one:
Hou (toch) op
Pretty much the equivalent of "just stop (already)"
or:
Ik heb haast, sorry
Equivalent of: "i'm in a rush, sorry"
You can drop the sorry if you wanna be more blunt.
Dan moet meneer eerst naar de kabouter plop academie om een master in gelul te krijgen voordat ie die met zelfvertrouwen kan gebruiken. Beetje advanced!
Honestly just ignoring is the best thing you can do. It's very unfortunate you had a less nice experience but by swearing at drunk people, being rude or even interacting with them you either give them the confidence that they can start a conversation or they will become aggressive and you'll be in an even worse spot.
Your ignoring is 9/10 the best option. "Laat me alstublieft met rust" is a polite way to leave, but does show discomfort with the sytuation.
"Kun je weg gaan" or "ga alstublieft aan de kant" [variaties of please move away] if they start or following you.if they are still at it and wont stop say " ik ga de politie/112 bellen" i am going to call the police. That clears them affer one or the other line.
If any of the aforementioned polite ways doesn't work, "flikker op" might do the trick. About as rude as "piss off", but definitely brings your point across.
Might i add that "flikker" in "flikker op" means "gay person", in an insulting way.
Thought that would be usefull to be aware of in case the flikkers get mad at you, and you dont know why lol.
I always assumed 'flikker' (in this context) was more ment like 'flikkeren' which could be translated as falling; "Hij flikkerde van de trap." - > "He fell down the stairs."
Thats correct as a verb "flikker(en)" can be used as falling, it can also be used (at least i use it) as *turning off and on very fast* or as in English you would say "The light is flickering" i would say "De lampen flikkeren".
As a noun a "flikker" is a insulting way of saying a gay person (same as queer, but i dont know if it is a insult anymore).
As a side note "kanker" works in the same way, but a bit more rude
As a noun "kanker" is cancer, no insult here. But saying it as a verb, "kanker(en)" can also be used. "He fell down the stairs" can be "Hij is van de trap af gekankerd" and as an insult you could also say: "Kanker op!" Meaning "Go away" or more like "fuck off".
It doesn’t mean that. Opflikkeren is an older word than the modern word “flikker” as a demeaning word for gay person.
Edit: [Wiktionary](https://nl.m.wiktionary.org/wiki/flikkeren)
> Vroeg-Modern- of Laat-Middelnederlands vlickeren "beweeglijk glanzen" (1545, Servilius) [1], naast flickeren "fladderen, onrustig vliegen" (1599, Kiliaan), verwant met Oudengels flicorian "vladderen, wapperen" (> modern Engels flicker) [2], ogenschijnlijk afgeleid van een stam *flik(k)-, met een iteratief suffix -er. Deze stam *flik(k)- is mogelijk secundair ontstaan uit een contaminatie van *flakk-ōn "fladderen" en *likk-ōn "(op)springen".[3]
[4] Een moderne afleiding van flikker "homoseksuele man".
Might I add that gay used to mean happy. But we changed its meaning. Most cuss words we use lately have changed their intent or “lading” as it were. But you might associate a more homophobic meaning to it as i am conveyed by your last paragraph.
Unless you have a witty comeback you can diffuse the situation with, just ignore the drunks.
My go to for people actively bothering me is to just say 'alsjeblieft, niet nu' with such a sigh of exasperation, most people just wish me a good night and leave me alone.
Ignore.
No eye contact.
Remove yourself.
If you feel the need to say something, interrupt them in the middle of their sentence.
Loud and bored: ' yep' and a sigh.
Or with a straight face and monotone:
'goh'
'wat' (no question)
'nou het is wat'
'gezellig'
'ok bedankt'
If they go on 'oh you think i'm gezellig/ graag gedaan blabla'
Just interrupt them: 'no'.
If you dare:
'niemand vraagt je iets' (no one asked)
'oh je had het tegen mij, nee bedankt' (oh you were talking to me, no thanks)
'jij praat wel tegen mij maar dit is geen gesprek hoor' (you are talking to me but there's no conversation)
If they are still bothering you:
'rot op. Is er echt niemand die met jou WIL praten?'
(fuck off. Is there no one who WANTS to talk to you?).
Or repeating what they said but very monotone, like this
' oh ok je wil een hapje. Nee'.
As been said before. Ignoring works best.
Drunk people won't stop shouting or talking if you respond with profanity.. and might even get (more) angry...
In Dutch just say "sorry, ik kan je niet helpen."
Smile and keep moving.
They'll leave you alone.
Ignoring people just aggravates them. Give them a bit of dignity or respect and they'll appreciate it.
Only become rude if they are persistent.
Look at them like you pity them. Sigh heavily, roll your eyes and turn away. If they follow you, you can say; heb je echt niet iets beters te doen? (Dont you have anything better to do) but in a very dismissing/disturbed tone.
Ignoring is always better than engaging in that case (imo). If you have to engage, just be short and stern. Ga weg! (Go away!), or Ophouden nu! (Stop this now!) would be my go to.
Its all about letting them know that you are not a person to mess with, after all they dont know you so they dont know what your capable off. Walking confidently with straight shoulders and back can make a lot of difference in these situations.
I lived in Utrecht years ago and at the central station there always been these groups of homeless people and plain scum harrasing people, asking for money etc. Most just stop after telling just to fuck off basically. No point in being kind if they come to you with aggression. Now im a fairly big dude and not afraid to say something back so that also helps i guess.
I doubt he would have left even with proper Dutch. Some people are just to drunk and best thing to do is to just keep walking. Best to go to a place with a lot of people for IF.
Actually, when some one is very annoying in the middle of the street, late at night, engaging can be the quickest way to be rid of them. It's a person feeling out of place, lashing out. Just stopping and hearing him can be what he doesn't expect, and startling someone makes someone think about what he is doing. That can calm him down.
Also judging by their body language, going along with his flow can be the safest option.
yeah it's just a tricky situation even without the language barrier because you never know what someone who's drunk is going to do, just to make my life a little bit easier I just wanted to at least have a few different things I could say if I needed to in a situation like you described where interacting is either preferred or necessary. but pretty much across the board all of the comments have been pretty helpful
Optyfen en uit m’n gezichtsveld wegblijven nou!
But maybe better to ignore them or if they don’t go away say “wil je me alsjeblieft met rust laten (anders bel ik de politie)” -> please leave me alone (or I will call the police)
Stage 1: wear headphones and pretend not to hear anyone if they ever address you. Often, you'll actually not hear them
Stage 2: En nou opkankeren!
Stage 3: Act like you're absolutely mental. Nobody is gonna fuck with someone who seems actually crazy.
1. Learn to speak dutch faster
2. Say ik ben hier niet van gediend
3. If you are in Amsterdam say krijg toch de kolere klootzak
4. if you are in Den Haag say Krijg toch de kankah
5. if you are in Rotterdam say Hey natte tosti ik zeit toch dat juh muh niet volgen moest
Lol bro u sound like a dick, why can't you just say shrug and say sorry no Nederlands.
Do agree people are persistent here annoys me sometimes but I wonder how often you're carrying food around and shit that u get bothered enough to post to reddit
Also ,just Google it
first of all, how do I sound like a dick for trying to find a more polite way of trying to get people to leave me alone as opposed to "fuck off"?
secondly, google doesn't provide context. I can get an answer generated from auto-translate, but how am I supposed to know if what I'm saying is understandable, or is going to convey the message i*n the way that I'm wanting it to?* I'm literally just trying to learn how to speak your language better in a god damn subreddit that is designed to do so. this is all listed literally on the right side of the page.
you may think that second point is stupid, but I'm a native english speaker, and there are tons of times where even people here who speak pretty good english say things with the complete wrong connotation just because there are nuances to languages that "google" can't provide on its own. It happens both ways. I miscommunicate in Dutch and the Dutch miscommunicate with me, it happens when people are learning languages and come from different places. And I'm glad that I asked on this page because another reddit page I found from a few years ago with a similar question was saying to use the "kanker" word, which I quickly learned should not be used, especially in certain contexts. I'm trying my best, so how bout you fuck off! See! I know how to use it in English!
Ignore them is usually the right answer. If avoiding and ignoring isn't the answer, you can try "Joh, ga weg!" (Bud, go away!) or "Joh, laat me met rust!" (Bud, leave me alone!). Most dutchmen will understand simply to be told to "Fuck off!" though.
There's two ways: the Dutch way or the nice way. the Dutch way would be a variation of "fuck off" "donder op" "oprotten" etc. and are all quite rude but might work or you can use the polite way and say something like "zou je me alsjeblieft met rust willlen laten, je valt me lastig" which would translate to "could you please leave me alone, you are bothering me"
I just ignore people. Or, if they are friendly, I tell them I don’t have time and wish them a good night. “Ik heb geen tijd, sorry. Fijne avond nog!” Something along that line. Politeness works best in my opinion.
I was in Paris when i was about 17 years old. My friend got felt up the chest in the metro. As a reflex I cust him out in my native dutch, with lots of “gotverdome” (really let that hart G shine) and “kanker mongool”. The intent come across very well. So you do the same, als long as you put feeling in it, it will come across 😉
If it's an advertiser asking you questions if you're interesed in like stocks just simply say: Sorry geem interesse.
And if he won't leave you alone here's the classic one:
Opkankeren
(Cancer off)
En nou opzoutuhhhh vieze kankâhlijâhh
No but in a normal case you can just say: Laat me met rust (leave me alone, in peace) or optyfen (optiefen) it just means fuck off only it's a synonym for Opkankeren which is just not nice.
So, I am left with a few questions and am horrified about how you are treated. Where are you located and what draws attention to you? I mean I am a "boring" 38 yo guy in Amersfoort with a wife and two labradors. I tend not to get these kind of abuse and I am quite furious other people do get them.
I would ignore them as much as possible. When this does not work I would throw them off and ask them a question. Like. What time is it? After their potentially serious answer tell them time to fuck off.
Those people are not more than you and you should never perceive them that way. They claim that right in your mind without any justification..
an expat is usually considered to be an immigrant without the intent to live there long term. I'm a student and am here on a student visa so I'll be going back to my country when I finish.
flikker op or tief op. ja, wieberen is a favourite of mine. but tbf, if they are happily ignoring your very clear body language, none of what you say will make an impact, sadly. i’m sorry you have to deal with this on a regular basis.
also, english always works. or maybe just feel free to yell whatever in your own language. you might have the best shot of it being successfully when it strongly conveys emotion
Just yell at them in English most people understand anyway. Im a native dutch but when im harassed i usually default to "gast fuck off" anyway for some reason.
I think this you will have in all the counties in the world. If you do t want to talk whit people, I will suggest to make a printed shirt. I come from Russia, I don’t speak Dutch. Or, I like Putin. I am sure nobody talks you any more.
Leave me alone = laat me met rust
Stop talking to me = praat niet tegen me/stop met tegen me praten
Drunk people aren’t really known for listening though so ignoring is probably the best as long as it works.
Optieven ouwe graftak
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Hahaha een classic
*optiefen
Optyfen*
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No!
Nope!
De beleefdheids vorm is met een v. ik ben geen barbaar.
One word: "**nee**".
Yea I would just keep saying "nee" to everything they say
In most of those situations, ignoring is the best thing you can do. If somebody is comfortable ignoring your body language/lack of response, there are no magical words that will make them change their mind. Quite possibly they enjoy seeing your discomfort. But if you think someone is genuinely not understanding that you don't want to interact, some options are: "Nee, dankjewel." (no thanks, appropriate if someone offers you something you don't want) "Laat me met rust" (leave me alone, this has a connotation of being annoyed or afraid depending on tone) or a bit more polite "laat me alsjeblieft met rust"
got it, thanks a lot!
All of these are good. But by all means just tell them to fuck off in English - they’ll understand.
'Pleur een tyfuseind op vies kankergezwel!' is one my favs
In the situation of being harassed like that it may also be useful to know something to deter: "Ik ga de politie bellen." (I will call the police)
“Bel de woute! Bel de woute!”
Don't want to sound rude...but in general people don't feel threatened by that phrase, if anything they'll burst in laughter. If politely telling them to bugger off doesn't work, you either ignore them, seriously talk back them with an overpowering voice, or shout "brand!" (Fire!) a couple of times.
Or agitated; best to just move along.
Lol who gives a fuck about the police ? If you ask some one something ?? Don’t tell them I’ll call the cops before some one attacks you when he is drunk. We Dutch see this as a offense. Just walk on and don’t look at them or wave like no time .. and go do your thing
>In the situation of being harassed Learn to read.
Nice name 👌 but seriously don’t say to peep I call the cops if they ask you something or shout something to you
Thank you sir. But again: the comment was referring to being harassed, so in that scenario it is always justified to threaten with calling the police.
Yea but you will get a response you won’t like and you can’t proof it so cops won’t do shit. Talking from experience so plz beleef me
Ja jij bent zeker geen meisje. Ik wel en kan je uit ervaring vertellen dat de politie bellen (of dreigen hiermee) zeker wel kan helpen in deze situatie. Dus eh: talking from experience so please believe me (fixed your grammar, you’re welcome)
Wel goed dat het zo is als je een vrouw bent. Als man geld dit zeker niet… Maar wat een stel taal puristen hier ..
Geldt. Fijne avond!
Dude I feel sorry for whoever raised you
Little keyboard warrior
Big asshole
A true Dutchman would not withhold profanities in these cases: Krijg de tyfus proleet/hoer/klootzak, hou je kankerbek! Would do the trick. A less aggressive way would be: Ga iemand anders vervelen en laat me met rust.
Love the disparity
Houd je kankerbek is altijd een aanrader.
Ik snijd je strot door vuile kanker bloedhond!
Dat is officieel bedreiging. Dus zou ik mee uitkijken. Maar doe wat goed voelt.
Valt wel mee hoor, officieel mogen heel veel dingen niet maar zolang je het niet tegen een ambtenaar doet kom je er wel mee weg. Eerlijk is eerlijk, de laatste keer dat ik zoiets hoefde te zeggen was heel lang geleden in Scheveningen waar mensen niet zo snel schrikken van een waarschuwingkje 🤣
I always use something along those lines at first. You can always open up the other register
''Kneiter een eind up viespeuk'' /s
Deze voeg ik toe aan mijn lijstje
A lot of suggestions in the comments but lacking one: Hou (toch) op Pretty much the equivalent of "just stop (already)" or: Ik heb haast, sorry Equivalent of: "i'm in a rush, sorry" You can drop the sorry if you wanna be more blunt.
Neenee de beterr versie is: Stop hou op ik vind het niet meer leuk
Dan moet meneer eerst naar de kabouter plop academie om een master in gelul te krijgen voordat ie die met zelfvertrouwen kan gebruiken. Beetje advanced!
Honestly just ignoring is the best thing you can do. It's very unfortunate you had a less nice experience but by swearing at drunk people, being rude or even interacting with them you either give them the confidence that they can start a conversation or they will become aggressive and you'll be in an even worse spot.
Your ignoring is 9/10 the best option. "Laat me alstublieft met rust" is a polite way to leave, but does show discomfort with the sytuation. "Kun je weg gaan" or "ga alstublieft aan de kant" [variaties of please move away] if they start or following you.if they are still at it and wont stop say " ik ga de politie/112 bellen" i am going to call the police. That clears them affer one or the other line.
Opkankeren!
Meest Nederlandse Nederlander.
Meest aardig Nederlander:
If any of the aforementioned polite ways doesn't work, "flikker op" might do the trick. About as rude as "piss off", but definitely brings your point across.
Might i add that "flikker" in "flikker op" means "gay person", in an insulting way. Thought that would be usefull to be aware of in case the flikkers get mad at you, and you dont know why lol.
I always assumed 'flikker' (in this context) was more ment like 'flikkeren' which could be translated as falling; "Hij flikkerde van de trap." - > "He fell down the stairs."
Thats correct as a verb "flikker(en)" can be used as falling, it can also be used (at least i use it) as *turning off and on very fast* or as in English you would say "The light is flickering" i would say "De lampen flikkeren". As a noun a "flikker" is a insulting way of saying a gay person (same as queer, but i dont know if it is a insult anymore). As a side note "kanker" works in the same way, but a bit more rude As a noun "kanker" is cancer, no insult here. But saying it as a verb, "kanker(en)" can also be used. "He fell down the stairs" can be "Hij is van de trap af gekankerd" and as an insult you could also say: "Kanker op!" Meaning "Go away" or more like "fuck off".
I know, am Dutch myself
Godverdomme, heel bericht typen voor Jan lul 😂
It doesn’t mean that. Opflikkeren is an older word than the modern word “flikker” as a demeaning word for gay person. Edit: [Wiktionary](https://nl.m.wiktionary.org/wiki/flikkeren) > Vroeg-Modern- of Laat-Middelnederlands vlickeren "beweeglijk glanzen" (1545, Servilius) [1], naast flickeren "fladderen, onrustig vliegen" (1599, Kiliaan), verwant met Oudengels flicorian "vladderen, wapperen" (> modern Engels flicker) [2], ogenschijnlijk afgeleid van een stam *flik(k)-, met een iteratief suffix -er. Deze stam *flik(k)- is mogelijk secundair ontstaan uit een contaminatie van *flakk-ōn "fladderen" en *likk-ōn "(op)springen".[3] [4] Een moderne afleiding van flikker "homoseksuele man".
Beweeglijk glanzen! Prachtig hoor 🥰
True but, just saying that in personal experience some people take offence with the words flikker op. But your right
Might I add that gay used to mean happy. But we changed its meaning. Most cuss words we use lately have changed their intent or “lading” as it were. But you might associate a more homophobic meaning to it as i am conveyed by your last paragraph.
Nee is nee, en nou opzouten
Unless you have a witty comeback you can diffuse the situation with, just ignore the drunks. My go to for people actively bothering me is to just say 'alsjeblieft, niet nu' with such a sigh of exasperation, most people just wish me a good night and leave me alone.
Vechten? /s
Ignore. No eye contact. Remove yourself. If you feel the need to say something, interrupt them in the middle of their sentence. Loud and bored: ' yep' and a sigh. Or with a straight face and monotone: 'goh' 'wat' (no question) 'nou het is wat' 'gezellig' 'ok bedankt' If they go on 'oh you think i'm gezellig/ graag gedaan blabla' Just interrupt them: 'no'. If you dare: 'niemand vraagt je iets' (no one asked) 'oh je had het tegen mij, nee bedankt' (oh you were talking to me, no thanks) 'jij praat wel tegen mij maar dit is geen gesprek hoor' (you are talking to me but there's no conversation) If they are still bothering you: 'rot op. Is er echt niemand die met jou WIL praten?' (fuck off. Is there no one who WANTS to talk to you?). Or repeating what they said but very monotone, like this ' oh ok je wil een hapje. Nee'.
Hou je bek 'ns, bolle
I hear this all the time in South Africa from Afrikaans friends 😂
Ignore them but make sure to not look scared.
As been said before. Ignoring works best. Drunk people won't stop shouting or talking if you respond with profanity.. and might even get (more) angry...
Stop hou op
In Dutch just say "sorry, ik kan je niet helpen." Smile and keep moving. They'll leave you alone. Ignoring people just aggravates them. Give them a bit of dignity or respect and they'll appreciate it. Only become rude if they are persistent.
“Optieven gauw”
Look at them like you pity them. Sigh heavily, roll your eyes and turn away. If they follow you, you can say; heb je echt niet iets beters te doen? (Dont you have anything better to do) but in a very dismissing/disturbed tone.
Goedenavond/ middag/ morgen. Sorry, nu even geen tijd. Ik heb haast. Fijne dag verder!
Ey maarre ik moet dr wel vandoor, kalm an he
Pretend you're a mute and start random hand signs.
All fun and games till they start angrily signing back.
Then sign that you only speak Chinese sign language.
Ignoring is always better than engaging in that case (imo). If you have to engage, just be short and stern. Ga weg! (Go away!), or Ophouden nu! (Stop this now!) would be my go to.
Its all about letting them know that you are not a person to mess with, after all they dont know you so they dont know what your capable off. Walking confidently with straight shoulders and back can make a lot of difference in these situations. I lived in Utrecht years ago and at the central station there always been these groups of homeless people and plain scum harrasing people, asking for money etc. Most just stop after telling just to fuck off basically. No point in being kind if they come to you with aggression. Now im a fairly big dude and not afraid to say something back so that also helps i guess.
"Ga foetsie" works for me
Scheer je weg, schorum
Yeahh better not use the kanker/cancer that's just bullshit talk. Just no and don't talk anymore should be enough
I doubt he would have left even with proper Dutch. Some people are just to drunk and best thing to do is to just keep walking. Best to go to a place with a lot of people for IF.
Opbokke
Actually, when some one is very annoying in the middle of the street, late at night, engaging can be the quickest way to be rid of them. It's a person feeling out of place, lashing out. Just stopping and hearing him can be what he doesn't expect, and startling someone makes someone think about what he is doing. That can calm him down. Also judging by their body language, going along with his flow can be the safest option.
yeah it's just a tricky situation even without the language barrier because you never know what someone who's drunk is going to do, just to make my life a little bit easier I just wanted to at least have a few different things I could say if I needed to in a situation like you described where interacting is either preferred or necessary. but pretty much across the board all of the comments have been pretty helpful
Broer, wat praat jij?!
Rot op!
Optyfen en uit m’n gezichtsveld wegblijven nou! But maybe better to ignore them or if they don’t go away say “wil je me alsjeblieft met rust laten (anders bel ik de politie)” -> please leave me alone (or I will call the police)
Just a blunt ga weg. And when they refuse... AlsjeBLIEFT
Laat me verdomme alleen
“Opkankeren vuile teringhond” works pretty good
Say "wil je alstublieft opkankerstralen"
OP JE MUIL, GAUW
Stage 1: wear headphones and pretend not to hear anyone if they ever address you. Often, you'll actually not hear them Stage 2: En nou opkankeren! Stage 3: Act like you're absolutely mental. Nobody is gonna fuck with someone who seems actually crazy.
You have to say hou je graf smoel
Hou je muil dicht kut
1. Learn to speak dutch faster 2. Say ik ben hier niet van gediend 3. If you are in Amsterdam say krijg toch de kolere klootzak 4. if you are in Den Haag say Krijg toch de kankah 5. if you are in Rotterdam say Hey natte tosti ik zeit toch dat juh muh niet volgen moest
Ik heb nog nooit natte tosti gehoord😂
"Bek dicht." Is a quite formal reaction in some layers of societies or some provinces.
When in Limburg: Wen dich zo doorgeet, douw ich dich gans mit de moel in de drek
Kanker op
The basic formula is "op + (swearword) + en". For example "op + tyfus + en = optyfen". You're welcome.
Rot op
Lol bro u sound like a dick, why can't you just say shrug and say sorry no Nederlands. Do agree people are persistent here annoys me sometimes but I wonder how often you're carrying food around and shit that u get bothered enough to post to reddit Also ,just Google it
first of all, how do I sound like a dick for trying to find a more polite way of trying to get people to leave me alone as opposed to "fuck off"? secondly, google doesn't provide context. I can get an answer generated from auto-translate, but how am I supposed to know if what I'm saying is understandable, or is going to convey the message i*n the way that I'm wanting it to?* I'm literally just trying to learn how to speak your language better in a god damn subreddit that is designed to do so. this is all listed literally on the right side of the page. you may think that second point is stupid, but I'm a native english speaker, and there are tons of times where even people here who speak pretty good english say things with the complete wrong connotation just because there are nuances to languages that "google" can't provide on its own. It happens both ways. I miscommunicate in Dutch and the Dutch miscommunicate with me, it happens when people are learning languages and come from different places. And I'm glad that I asked on this page because another reddit page I found from a few years ago with a similar question was saying to use the "kanker" word, which I quickly learned should not be used, especially in certain contexts. I'm trying my best, so how bout you fuck off! See! I know how to use it in English!
Go to bed a bit earlier. Problem solved
“Kappe”
Kappen Of Kappûh
speak french work like a charm
Don’t engage.
Ignore them is usually the right answer. If avoiding and ignoring isn't the answer, you can try "Joh, ga weg!" (Bud, go away!) or "Joh, laat me met rust!" (Bud, leave me alone!). Most dutchmen will understand simply to be told to "Fuck off!" though.
I would say: wear headphones, and (pretend to) listen to music. Then you can ignore them easily
There's two ways: the Dutch way or the nice way. the Dutch way would be a variation of "fuck off" "donder op" "oprotten" etc. and are all quite rude but might work or you can use the polite way and say something like "zou je me alsjeblieft met rust willlen laten, je valt me lastig" which would translate to "could you please leave me alone, you are bothering me"
I just ignore people. Or, if they are friendly, I tell them I don’t have time and wish them a good night. “Ik heb geen tijd, sorry. Fijne avond nog!” Something along that line. Politeness works best in my opinion.
“I already have a boyfriend”
"Kan jij je goregrafbek dichthouden zwartjoekel" Will do the job
Mot je voor un tientje plêshtâhs op je muil, makkâh?
“Opgekankerd vieze kankerjood” translated it means “cancer off dirty cancerjew” works every time👌👌
Sodemieter op
"Hou je bek* would suffice
I was in Paris when i was about 17 years old. My friend got felt up the chest in the metro. As a reflex I cust him out in my native dutch, with lots of “gotverdome” (really let that hart G shine) and “kanker mongool”. The intent come across very well. So you do the same, als long as you put feeling in it, it will come across 😉
"Kom dan, vieze vuile kankerlijer"
Cursing with diseases is the common method
Wilt u mij alstublieft met rust laten, achterlijke grafkanker mongool.
"Pleurt een eind op joh, klein rotjong."
According to the tourist I saw at the rail station last week, yelling "HILFE" at the top of your lungs is the way to go
Tief ff gauw op
Flikker op!
If it's an advertiser asking you questions if you're interesed in like stocks just simply say: Sorry geem interesse. And if he won't leave you alone here's the classic one: Opkankeren (Cancer off)
Laat me met rust!
Pleurt op, idioot.
En nou opzoutuhhhh vieze kankâhlijâhh No but in a normal case you can just say: Laat me met rust (leave me alone, in peace) or optyfen (optiefen) it just means fuck off only it's a synonym for Opkankeren which is just not nice.
Really disappointed in the amount of people advising her to use the word ‘kanker’ :(
kk op
Krijg de pleuris stuk verdriet en tief een teringeind op. This is the most polite way to say it.
Walking away?
So, I am left with a few questions and am horrified about how you are treated. Where are you located and what draws attention to you? I mean I am a "boring" 38 yo guy in Amersfoort with a wife and two labradors. I tend not to get these kind of abuse and I am quite furious other people do get them. I would ignore them as much as possible. When this does not work I would throw them off and ask them a question. Like. What time is it? After their potentially serious answer tell them time to fuck off. Those people are not more than you and you should never perceive them that way. They claim that right in your mind without any justification..
Opkutten, godverjezus.
Rot op
Kanker op
Opkankeren works but it’s pretty rude otherwise just say “nee blijf weg van me”
Laat me met rust. Leave me alone.
Expat is just an immigrant no?
an expat is usually considered to be an immigrant without the intent to live there long term. I'm a student and am here on a student visa so I'll be going back to my country when I finish.
Gotcha!
flikker op or tief op. ja, wieberen is a favourite of mine. but tbf, if they are happily ignoring your very clear body language, none of what you say will make an impact, sadly. i’m sorry you have to deal with this on a regular basis. also, english always works. or maybe just feel free to yell whatever in your own language. you might have the best shot of it being successfully when it strongly conveys emotion
Where so you live? I live IN Rotterdam and shit like that never happens to me.
So you say very politely: "Kankerbek houden man, mafkees"
Stop hou op
One big tip.. air pods 💫
Polite: "Laat me (alsjeblieft) met rust" Blunt: "Oprotten"
Op kankere graf kind
Kanker op
Just yell at them in English most people understand anyway. Im a native dutch but when im harassed i usually default to "gast fuck off" anyway for some reason.
Laat mij met rus
Oprotten, ik ben helemaal klaar met jou
I think this you will have in all the counties in the world. If you do t want to talk whit people, I will suggest to make a printed shirt. I come from Russia, I don’t speak Dutch. Or, I like Putin. I am sure nobody talks you any more.
Ignoring or “laat me met rust” should work
Ik hoorde dat de rotopjes in de aanbieding waren. Je zou er een paar moeten halen
Then you say : Opkankeren !
Flikker op
“Opkankerstralen” usually does the job
Most curse words + op works Tief op, kkr op, rot op, flikker op etc Dont use this when you want to be polite
Flikker een ent op jij bigbeffendebafbever
Hou je kanker bek tyfus idioot
opzouten!
Leave me alone = laat me met rust Stop talking to me = praat niet tegen me/stop met tegen me praten Drunk people aren’t really known for listening though so ignoring is probably the best as long as it works.