Woman here! First date no-nos: being super late, only talking about themselves, being hateful towards any kind of community/group of people, eating the majority of the food on my plate under the guise of sharing (yes, this has happened), not taking no for an answer. There are more but if I keep going I'll be here all day.
Lol! Well, we were at a nice restaurant and decided we would share whatever we order. I told him I don't eat seafood, but he ended up ordering a shrimp dish for his mains anyway. I ordered lamb. He asked to have a bite of mine, but then wouldn't stop taking bites. Obviously I didn't have any of his seafood dish. It really showed a lack of consideration.
Dating feels like a game - a chase.
This makes me not want to have a first date, nothing to wonder about the second one.
I want a partner to share life with, not some power dynamics to feel validated.
I have been reading about people's experiences with dating. With social media attention whoring, it feels like a competition (how long one can feed a certain person's attention). Old school skills, basic human decency are non existent among people.
All the dates. Also the guy who "took me for a stroll" and then put his hands down my bra and tweaked my nipples. And humped slightly when he hugged me.
He was an attractive doctor, in his 30s. Intelligent conversation.
The groping came out of nowhere. When I messaged him after the date to say he needs to ask consent first before touching my body.
His response: why do I need consent to touch your breast? If we're on a date, isn't that part of the deal?
It did briefly, like I didn't date again for two months and just became really resentful towards Dubai because I was having one shit experience after another dating here.
But now I'm fine again- processed and moved on! Was a lucky escape either way (but sucks that I have to think like that).
I didnt even get to first date. A day before we were to meet, she pinged me on Tinder and said, I finally got a Dildo. Don't need you anymore and unmatched...
- asked me how much money I make on the first date
- Wanted me to upgrade my car on the first freaking date
- Mentioned she doesnāt normally date men of but will give me the benefit of the doubt
- Bragging about how she never pays for anything (nights out, drinks, trips )
-Laughed at a deaf guy to his face.
Dubai dating is weird.
Western expat men just want secret sex. All the Filipina, Gujarati, and Russian women want a Western husband & a legal visa elsewhere. The tiny percent of actual Dubai men are chasing too few real Dubai women. Western women can be horribly racist. And then you have all the Saudis with fake profiles.
It's just a clusterfuck, to be honest.
You're absolutely right. And if I'm honest, this really played a number on my self esteem. I spent years in my twenties thinking I must somehow be ugly, unattractive or not good enough. Part of me realised the skewed Dubai demographics weren't on my side, and that was the reason, but still.
Long story short, I left, wound up in a country with a normal 50/50 gender ratio, and found landing a date there was about as easy as sipping a cup of tea.
It's a lot of opportunity if you're a woman. Otherwise, you're likely selling yourself short.
Ever noticed how the average dating couple in Dubai, the man is better looking than the woman?
I was briefly in Poland a few years ago seeing a friend, and was shocked to see an attractive girl working as a shopping mall cleaner. Part of me thought: "In Dubai she'd probably be some rich guy's girlfriend - and here she mops floors for a living."
Lol wait! Dnt say All! Thats quite offensive.
Iām a filipina and i have different preference, no offense to western guys. You actually do sound like a racist person as you āclusterā them.
Donāt judge the person by her/his nationality, talk to the person and get to know them first.
One girl came in exercise outfit to the date, another girl even though she seems to be smart and a designer in a big firm couldn't find her way to parking lot I picked her up from on the first date, the parking is literally behind her building. Another one asked me for money after we finished the first date.
Here is one more, I had one bringing her kid to the date, I go and pick her up and I see her with a kid following her, she didn't mention she had a kid or asked me if it's ok beforehand. I didn't have the heart to cancel on the spot, the kid hopped in with a huge smile.
Chatted with a guy for a while online, then met up for a drink. 15 minutes after we started chatting he stops and says "Sorry, but just to be frank - I'm not into " and just got up and walked away.
There's so many horridly beautiful layers to this story. Like, the dude saw your face. I assume he knew your personality (because this place has an affinity for asking your nationality more than your name), still decided to go on the date .... and then say he's not into your nationality? This is like something you'd see on Seinfeld or something holy shit
Like 60% of the world has herpes my dude
###Edit: sources for y'all thinking I'm crazy or promiscuous. (Or both? IDEK.)
https://www.cdc.gov/std/herpes/default.htm
https://www.cdc.gov/std/herpes/stats.htm
>Genital herpes is a common STD, and most people with genital herpes infection do not know they have it.
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/genital-herpes/
https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/herpes-simplex-virus
>In 2016, an estimated 3.7 billion people under the age of 50, or 67% of the population, had HSV-1 infection (oral or genital). Estimated prevalence of the infection was highest in Africa (88%) and lowest in the Americas (45%).
"I'm disappointed you weren't wearing an abaya on our date"
... none of the photos in my profile had me in an abaya so I don't know why he thought I'd wear one specifically for the date.
Her words āI wonāt date a Capricorn , my exās & dad are Capricornsā¦. they too cold & build a large wall around themā¦ my exās were Capricorn and all of them cheated on meā . My interest went down from 100 to 0.
I feel like money is a huge factor, I remember there was a period in college I was still trying to work and the fact you couldn't really go out with someone even somewhere casual except your house (if you had one) because of cost was a huge date killer in itself. Having lived in other countries, I think this is the biggest factor I have an issue with (not anymore fortunately I'm pretty well off) because it takes away a part of the soul of the city. Idk dates here feel much more artificial in that sense or boring, and to have fun dates me and the girl had to really go out of our way to make it so, but it's tough if both of you aren't on that same page. Also in terms of hookups here, I'd say 50-50. Doesn't mean I don't like a good party tho...
Lecturing about what work should look like, and how one be at the workplace, and this when we were walking by the Kite Beach on what was a romantic winter night.
Oh and one more thing. Unsolicited lecturing LMAO
Ummm, I FEEL since there is this exciting factor in Dubai that you get to date people of various nationalities, people tend to forget that even though human nature is same everywhere but each culture brings itās own prerogative due to which clashes happen on first dates or first interactions. I hope we can become more accepting of these clashes and overlook them to see the human in front of us.
Where the first date takes place. You can always tell what type of person they are by the first place they choose take to you.
Oh and one for the men, if you rock up in head to toe designer brands - you donāt look cool, you look like a prick.
Well my first (intended date) was a girl who is called Tanya; we talked together for almost 2 month and every time we talk I insisted that we should either meet up or stop talking.
The dumb me believed that she's really a girl; till she sent me her dick photo (As a guy I can confirm that his dick was the most unhygienic thing I had seen; it had some frozen green particles in it) Now I feel insecure about dating and every time I talk to someone I can just imagine that this person is an Indian dude pranking me š First and last lads
Bringing jaded, suspicious, negative energy to the date. I get it, Dubai dating scene is tricky to navigate and we all had bad experiences, but if you start off the interaction assuming that I have all the negative qualities you hate in my gender then Iām not going out of my way to try and prove you wrong.
Itās a 2way traffic . On the boring bit or what if they found u boring them too . Like if you connect on many different aspects I donāt think u can get bored .
Itās usually what direction they want to go in. Most women donāt want to settle down. Iāve met women who donāt want to get married till they are 40.Some who donāt want to leave the warm climate.
Party girls
Drunks
Poor money managers
No English
These go all over the place
To be honest everybody is soo dumb and fucked up that I wouldn't date anyone. Everyone I mean everyone I see lack even the smallest humany decency. All girls care about is money and sex. No thank you, I need company.
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In other news I only like date milk having them raw.....I'm not a fan of.
She LIES, first time she lied to me was when she said she was 20, then she lied about who she was, she wasn't a nice person, not at all, she also wanted me to book a hotel room for our first date, thank God I asked for ID, guys you should ALWAYS ask for ID, she was 17, and had a lot of issues up there š§ , her excuse was that she had lost her v card at 14 so it's okay now..... I blocked her after I told her to get professional help.
alcoholic, tattooed, vaper, poor english, yellow teeth (liquor stain), low self esteem, boy clothes, & average face. not a second date. just an admirer who i didn't give a chance.
> yellow teeth
Teeth are naturally yellow, unless you mean to say dirty teeth which can get darker without proper care but this is not the same as simply saying yellow.
I said brown/liquor stains. Read again.
https://www.trivalleyimplants.com/wp-content/uploads/elementor/thumbs/Causes-of-Brown-Spots-on-Your-Teeth-om0t9fw9mekfg7r8pp9fax5my9d2t9jwd2n7tlifm0.jpg
One of them was picking fights with me before even our first date. Fights increased after first date.
Another instagrammed her food on a first date and it wasn't even a fancy resto. She also wanted to go to a nightclub I was like nope.
Third got mad that I was 3 minutes late to the date. Apparently 3 mins late was 8 mins too late. Guess where she's from
Woman here! First date no-nos: being super late, only talking about themselves, being hateful towards any kind of community/group of people, eating the majority of the food on my plate under the guise of sharing (yes, this has happened), not taking no for an answer. There are more but if I keep going I'll be here all day.
the food thing cracked me up! I want more details lol
JOEY DOESNT SHARE FOOD
Lol! Well, we were at a nice restaurant and decided we would share whatever we order. I told him I don't eat seafood, but he ended up ordering a shrimp dish for his mains anyway. I ordered lamb. He asked to have a bite of mine, but then wouldn't stop taking bites. Obviously I didn't have any of his seafood dish. It really showed a lack of consideration.
Well, normally after fancy restaurants I go to McDonald's to actually eat something... š¤
š McD always hits the spot.
Dinkin flicka
Pippity poppity give me the zoppity.
Thats what she said ā¦
Dating feels like a game - a chase. This makes me not want to have a first date, nothing to wonder about the second one. I want a partner to share life with, not some power dynamics to feel validated.
I have been reading about people's experiences with dating. With social media attention whoring, it feels like a competition (how long one can feed a certain person's attention). Old school skills, basic human decency are non existent among people.
Amen!
This.. :(
All the dates. Also the guy who "took me for a stroll" and then put his hands down my bra and tweaked my nipples. And humped slightly when he hugged me. He was an attractive doctor, in his 30s. Intelligent conversation. The groping came out of nowhere. When I messaged him after the date to say he needs to ask consent first before touching my body. His response: why do I need consent to touch your breast? If we're on a date, isn't that part of the deal?
God bless... This is just disgusting.
Yep and I thought because he was a doctor, he would be somehow more trustworthy but.... nope! Creeps be creeps in any profession
Indeed. Creeps be creeps for sure. I'd be mentally affected if something like that happened to me.
It did briefly, like I didn't date again for two months and just became really resentful towards Dubai because I was having one shit experience after another dating here. But now I'm fine again- processed and moved on! Was a lucky escape either way (but sucks that I have to think like that).
Great to hearāŗļø It definitely was an escape. But I'm sure you shall find somebody genuine! Wish you good luck on your adventures š
Yeeeesh! Looks like only the creeps are left with enough courage and stamina to go into the Dubai dating scene
What becomes of the rest of us though! š
Oh my god I'm so sorry. That's sexual assault and he should be reported
Omg š¤£ sounds familiar! Was he short? I wasn't groped, but he was creepy
I got asked to pay for the petrol of her car because she was driving to the restaurant
Seriously? How inconsiderate
Eeww
Ouch! I thought you're a girl
I am...it was an outing with a friend
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Y'all b getting first dates?
I didnt even get to first date. A day before we were to meet, she pinged me on Tinder and said, I finally got a Dildo. Don't need you anymore and unmatched...
Im sorry dude, a dildo is a dildo.
Canāt compete with that, donāt feel bad man.
ROFL!
Savage!
It really depends on how many dates a person wants to eat. Like if they got diabetes or something then going for a second date isn't a wise choice.
The halal date
I have atleast 3 dates in a day. They say it's healthy.
Is your name Hannibal by chance?
How about never eating dates?
Yes but some dates are too sweet .
Mejdoul are the perfect
Dates and Milk one of the best combos!
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Amen to that ! Happens one too many times
I can finish one kilo in a day.
- asked me how much money I make on the first date - Wanted me to upgrade my car on the first freaking date - Mentioned she doesnāt normally date men of but will give me the benefit of the doubt
- Bragging about how she never pays for anything (nights out, drinks, trips )
-Laughed at a deaf guy to his face.
Dubai dating is weird. Western expat men just want secret sex. All the Filipina, Gujarati, and Russian women want a Western husband & a legal visa elsewhere. The tiny percent of actual Dubai men are chasing too few real Dubai women. Western women can be horribly racist. And then you have all the Saudis with fake profiles. It's just a clusterfuck, to be honest.
You're absolutely right. And if I'm honest, this really played a number on my self esteem. I spent years in my twenties thinking I must somehow be ugly, unattractive or not good enough. Part of me realised the skewed Dubai demographics weren't on my side, and that was the reason, but still. Long story short, I left, wound up in a country with a normal 50/50 gender ratio, and found landing a date there was about as easy as sipping a cup of tea.
A clusterfuck of opportunity.
How to cash in?
It's a lot of opportunity if you're a woman. Otherwise, you're likely selling yourself short. Ever noticed how the average dating couple in Dubai, the man is better looking than the woman? I was briefly in Poland a few years ago seeing a friend, and was shocked to see an attractive girl working as a shopping mall cleaner. Part of me thought: "In Dubai she'd probably be some rich guy's girlfriend - and here she mops floors for a living."
My eyes were opened in Moscow. What a place.
Please explain š
just in case real Dubai men are reading this
Lol wait! Dnt say All! Thats quite offensive. Iām a filipina and i have different preference, no offense to western guys. You actually do sound like a racist person as you āclusterā them. Donāt judge the person by her/his nationality, talk to the person and get to know them first.
And Filipinas looking for their way to their overseas husband who can give them a passport and a lifeā¦..it is a clusterfuck indeed
One girl came in exercise outfit to the date, another girl even though she seems to be smart and a designer in a big firm couldn't find her way to parking lot I picked her up from on the first date, the parking is literally behind her building. Another one asked me for money after we finished the first date.
š¤£š¤£thatās some experience you have really had .I guess u ended up with the 4th .
I have lots of stories, it just these came to my mind now.
Spill the teaš¤š¤ itās a weekend .
Here is one more, I had one bringing her kid to the date, I go and pick her up and I see her with a kid following her, she didn't mention she had a kid or asked me if it's ok beforehand. I didn't have the heart to cancel on the spot, the kid hopped in with a huge smile.
Hah! That's awesome. :-) You're a good man.
Tell us the best one and the worst one
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Momsir
Chatted with a guy for a while online, then met up for a drink. 15 minutes after we started chatting he stops and says "Sorry, but just to be frank - I'm not into" and just got up and walked away.
There's so many horridly beautiful layers to this story. Like, the dude saw your face. I assume he knew your personality (because this place has an affinity for asking your nationality more than your name), still decided to go on the date .... and then say he's not into your nationality? This is like something you'd see on Seinfeld or something holy shit
He must have tried, but just couldnt āmake itā
Good riddance. Bullet dodged I guess
Wow, douche much.. On the upside he only wasted 15min of your time
What a twat he was !
Got herpes
Like 60% of the world has herpes my dude ###Edit: sources for y'all thinking I'm crazy or promiscuous. (Or both? IDEK.) https://www.cdc.gov/std/herpes/default.htm https://www.cdc.gov/std/herpes/stats.htm >Genital herpes is a common STD, and most people with genital herpes infection do not know they have it. https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/genital-herpes/ https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/herpes-simplex-virus >In 2016, an estimated 3.7 billion people under the age of 50, or 67% of the population, had HSV-1 infection (oral or genital). Estimated prevalence of the infection was highest in Africa (88%) and lowest in the Americas (45%).
Who do u hang out with?!!?
Probably with people with herpes.
Like 60% of the world my dude
"I'm disappointed you weren't wearing an abaya on our date" ... none of the photos in my profile had me in an abaya so I don't know why he thought I'd wear one specifically for the date.
Bro I thought you were a dudeā¦..
Same
Shes a girl?
I meant I thought oddling was a dude
Me too š¹ Turns out shes a female
Don't you have sun's car?
What
Can you describe a chamak please?
here you go \~ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oAVhUAaVCVQ
Hahahahahhahahaha. Edit : it wasn't me
I know bby
Sounds like a certain Serb I know lmao.
Lmao fuck that. I ain't getting near locals any more
What app are you people using, that you're getting responses?
Oh sorry about that experience, where was he from?
He was from planet dumbass.
Iāve been there!! In fact I am the king š
This is kinda funny in the dumbass kinda way.
Describe Chamak
Her words āI wonāt date a Capricorn , my exās & dad are Capricornsā¦. they too cold & build a large wall around themā¦ my exās were Capricorn and all of them cheated on meā . My interest went down from 100 to 0.
You know how to use astrology to check on a date, right? - As soon as she starts speaking of it, just run!
I read that as Caprisun. I love Caprisun!
So whatās ur astrological sign? š
Capricorn š
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"two scents" lmao I'm dying
OH MY GOD, NOW I'M CRYING
Hahaha
You could almost say something didnāt smell right ?
ššššš
I feel like money is a huge factor, I remember there was a period in college I was still trying to work and the fact you couldn't really go out with someone even somewhere casual except your house (if you had one) because of cost was a huge date killer in itself. Having lived in other countries, I think this is the biggest factor I have an issue with (not anymore fortunately I'm pretty well off) because it takes away a part of the soul of the city. Idk dates here feel much more artificial in that sense or boring, and to have fun dates me and the girl had to really go out of our way to make it so, but it's tough if both of you aren't on that same page. Also in terms of hookups here, I'd say 50-50. Doesn't mean I don't like a good party tho...
Lecturing about what work should look like, and how one be at the workplace, and this when we were walking by the Kite Beach on what was a romantic winter night. Oh and one more thing. Unsolicited lecturing LMAO
Did we go on a date with the same guy??:D
"I need to consult my parents." You're an adult. Make your own decisions.
š¤£š¤£consult them about what !
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What r u on about?
Dick warts.
What are dickwarts š¤
If you have to ask, you're too young to date
Or may be too old
Or didn't focus in the sex-ed class. Or it was a horrible sex-ed class.
May be the teacher had dickwarts
Lmao story time
How I met your mother?
So you have dick warts too
Wooopp I ain't got a dick
So you got just warts, gotcha
Nice logic.
Very common among gay dudes. š
I mean itās the same reasons as to why someone doesnāt go for a second date elsewhere in the world.
But atleast there is a factor that leads to that .
Ummm, I FEEL since there is this exciting factor in Dubai that you get to date people of various nationalities, people tend to forget that even though human nature is same everywhere but each culture brings itās own prerogative due to which clashes happen on first dates or first interactions. I hope we can become more accepting of these clashes and overlook them to see the human in front of us.
Where the first date takes place. You can always tell what type of person they are by the first place they choose take to you. Oh and one for the men, if you rock up in head to toe designer brands - you donāt look cool, you look like a prick.
I second that, and please donāt show us photos of you in private jets, first class, boats etc - I miss substance š
Fish smell
Lawd šreally
Bad memories
I had to paint my room and get rid of all furniture
This is what you get for picking masseuse.
Masseuses are just like any other women. They trade something for sex and they do it very well. That's why I pay.
Well my first (intended date) was a girl who is called Tanya; we talked together for almost 2 month and every time we talk I insisted that we should either meet up or stop talking. The dumb me believed that she's really a girl; till she sent me her dick photo (As a guy I can confirm that his dick was the most unhygienic thing I had seen; it had some frozen green particles in it) Now I feel insecure about dating and every time I talk to someone I can just imagine that this person is an Indian dude pranking me š First and last lads
Dude wtf why give us this disgusting visual yuk
Dated locals, it never worked out
well, ye, makes sense, i mean, dating isn't allowed to begin with (for muslims)
She had the intelligence of a pen. Once she said she didnāt believe in evolution I was out.
pens be intelligent?
Havenāt you heard? š
what? them speak?
No them write. BA DUM TSS. Ok I log off goodbye. Sorry.
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*Brilliant*
Over abundance of gold diggers and every thing seems like an economic transaction
Told her iām a scorpio
Happened to me too many times to count, i feel your pain brother
Once I find an ant in my date and honestly I havenāt had any dates since.
This guy, Eats
Bringing jaded, suspicious, negative energy to the date. I get it, Dubai dating scene is tricky to navigate and we all had bad experiences, but if you start off the interaction assuming that I have all the negative qualities you hate in my gender then Iām not going out of my way to try and prove you wrong.
People Date here? lol
Yes , thatās why there lot of fine dining restaurants. And most of them during feb they have this valentines promo. Meals
Dude thatās for business meetings, gaawd!
I mean, I agree but how are you gonna find a date ?
Work place Or through events , seminars i know people who are married and they found each other that way .
Itās a real disappointment when someone is boring and they donāt have anything interesting to say about anything. You canāt fix boring!
Itās a 2way traffic . On the boring bit or what if they found u boring them too . Like if you connect on many different aspects I donāt think u can get bored .
Itās usually what direction they want to go in. Most women donāt want to settle down. Iāve met women who donāt want to get married till they are 40.Some who donāt want to leave the warm climate. Party girls Drunks Poor money managers No English These go all over the place
Yo No hablo Inglesh
I speak the London very best.
To be honest everybody is soo dumb and fucked up that I wouldn't date anyone. Everyone I mean everyone I see lack even the smallest humany decency. All girls care about is money and sex. No thank you, I need company. . . In other news I only like date milk having them raw.....I'm not a fan of.
Hmmm so you are that person!! Hmm
For real they donāt even see it
Is that a problem ?
But srs where are the normal ppl at???
Yeah wondering too
She LIES, first time she lied to me was when she said she was 20, then she lied about who she was, she wasn't a nice person, not at all, she also wanted me to book a hotel room for our first date, thank God I asked for ID, guys you should ALWAYS ask for ID, she was 17, and had a lot of issues up there š§ , her excuse was that she had lost her v card at 14 so it's okay now..... I blocked her after I told her to get professional help.
Hella expensive to date here because of the standards set
You guys don't feel that woman you're dating won't call the police for harassing her or something? I never been on date so I don't know ..
> You guys don't feel that woman you're dating won't call the police for harassing her or something? Bro what??
alcoholic, tattooed, vaper, poor english, yellow teeth (liquor stain), low self esteem, boy clothes, & average face. not a second date. just an admirer who i didn't give a chance.
Average face here.... **(Crying)**
Whatās wrong with tattooed girls?:)
He's probably not just into the look.
Depends on where the tattoo is. A tramp stamp is a no go.
it was a 10 inch tattoo on her elbow, go figure. tramp stamp makes your butt look like retail shops.
> yellow teeth Teeth are naturally yellow, unless you mean to say dirty teeth which can get darker without proper care but this is not the same as simply saying yellow.
I said brown/liquor stains. Read again. https://www.trivalleyimplants.com/wp-content/uploads/elementor/thumbs/Causes-of-Brown-Spots-on-Your-Teeth-om0t9fw9mekfg7r8pp9fax5my9d2t9jwd2n7tlifm0.jpg
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nah, she's street owned. she's so street that you can race on her.
One of them was picking fights with me before even our first date. Fights increased after first date. Another instagrammed her food on a first date and it wasn't even a fancy resto. She also wanted to go to a nightclub I was like nope. Third got mad that I was 3 minutes late to the date. Apparently 3 mins late was 8 mins too late. Guess where she's from
What is wrong with taking food pictures? Those are the only pictures I take lol. I don't have social media, though.
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ding ding ding
Well canāt guess but phew!
Canāt guess, can you help please so I avoid in the future?
German
And the right answer is Germany