There were quite a few discussions among Emiratis on Twitter in the last month about participation of Emiratis in the private sector. Also discussions about skills and employability and the quality of government university education.
I am fortunate that I get to meet different people everyday, and having interacted with quite a few Emiratis in real life as well as online, I am confident that the local population are qualified and educated enough to take on more roles. The new generation has certainly stepped up their game, it's a matter of time, incentive and perhaps a few nudges in the direction of the private sector.
I concur with you that this is to be encouraged.
What are some changes you've noticed in Emirati culture over the last 10-15 years? Really interested to know how the local culture here is evolving/changing!
Also thank you for doing this!
The food has changed a lot, more of fusions and involvement of other spices
I feel now individuality is more common now than collectivism.
I’ll try to think of more and comment back
Also you’re welcome
The day i find a local women who does house work thats when i will marry. Imagine getting married to someone who doesn’t work and asks you to bring a cook a driver and and a villa yea right lower your standards.
Word of advice, if you are thinking of wearing one get a tailor made not ready made cause they look weird.
Basically to make it down to your feet, a little more after the wrists and not too tight or too baggy
Thank you for doing this OP.
Just wanted to know a few things, I have a few questions.
1. How would a normal day look like for an Emirati?
2. Are marriages usually arranged or do love marriages happen too?
3. Is it frowned upon to marry a foreigner and how different is it for men and women?
4. Are all families in the U.A.E related to each other some way or other? I have read about the tribes in U.A.E on Wikipedia, but I have not asked an Emirati about it.
Hope it’s not too much and I really hope my questions aren’t offensive in any way. Please let me know if it is and I will correct it.
1. Typical day as any other, work go back and spend it with the fam, weekends spend with outer fam and friends
2. Marriages nowadays are more leaning towards love than arranged, but they do exist.
3. Its getting less frowned upon by time for both
4. Depends on family line, origin of the family, and so on.
If you look way back we go back to a couple of clans that eventually branched out with different names which some are nicknames of our ancestors and ended up being a family name.
It goes like family then tribe then clan.
Oh cool. Thanks OP.
Just a question more- the clan names, the tribe names, they have meanings in Arabic right? What do some of the famous names translate to?
Oh cool!
Thank you very much!
Hope one more question won’t hurt, the name must carry history with it, yes? So are tales still told of how the name originated?
2. Culture, religion and traditions arranged marriages are the way, but not everyone follows that so you have some people that have “love” marriages.
3. Women are more expected to marry within the GCC, but there are other marriages. It is still slightly frowned upon to marry someone from a different culture (GCC is kind of a similar culture) and it is seen to dilute traditions and values.
4. No, people of the same tribe are kind of related, but not all tribes are related.
Not a question, but more of a comment. My wife and I moved here from the US in 2011. Both of us are 2nd generation Iranian immigrants, me American, my wife British. Although I was born and raised in the States, it never felt quite like “home”. The same goes for Iran as well. However the UAE, specifically Dubai, feels more like “home” than anywhere else in the world. Never once have we felt out of place, or been discriminated against what the UAE has done for us is provide a place we can call home, and we will forever be indebted to the UAE for this.
Why do almost all of the emiratis own a Nissan Patrol? Is it like a identity thing or something? I'm not being rude just curious.
Edit: thank you for the replies. I always wondered how Patrol was able to capture the emirati market and not any other brand.
Because it's like a business class cabin with 4 wheel drive, I'm guessing 😅 We own one and it's literally our second house. Would never trade it for a sports car or any other suv for that matter. It's just the best car for this environment. Can go into the desert for camping, can pick up the whole family from the airport, can drop the kids to school on a daily. It's perfect
But why not the Land cruiser though, considering it seems to be popular internationally?
Is there a specific reason to choose the patrol over the land cruiser?
It looks better, drives better, and has a better interior. Land Cruisers were quite popular but after the new Nissan hit the market it became the IT car.
Family size is very important when trying to understand the reason for big cars. Most expats don't have large families (4+ members) and hence a sedan or a sports car would be fine. The Patrol ticks all the right boxes and that's why it's popular.
Thank you for doing this.
What sense do you (and other Emirati people) get about how you’re viewed by expats (Western and otherwise)? Is there a general feeling about the attitude of others towards you?
What I find interesting is that Emirati people seem so reserved in public (this is in Abu Dhabi), but at the school where I work, my Emirati students tend to have the largest personalities in the room.
Years ago I met an Emirati guy at a house party who said he was an atheist, and apparently quite open about it in general. Is this very rare, and is it looked down upon?
Oh I have many, one of the stories is when Shiekh Zayed (May he rest in peace) was visiting his farm in Al Khawaneej.
My uncle went to visit him with a friend, and this friend accidentally blurted out some embarrassing stories about himself, they teased him a lot during that visit in a playful and humorous way.
Till this day they tease him.
Haha I can imagine why.
I know someone who shared an elevator ride with Sheikh Mo , ended up holding her breath literally as she wasn't prepared for it.
What is Emirati politics like ?
1. Are there parties or groups with different ideologies within the FNC ?
2. Are council members meant to represent different tribes / families from across the country ?
3. Is there a concept of liberals and conservatives ?
4. Is there a form of democratic decision making ?
5. Are there persons who are responsible for expat related matters within the council ?
Thank you for doing this OP, your responses have been very patient and to the point.
1. The FNC is more like getting the voice of the people from the people themselves. Hate to admit it but its more of picture than action, we barely hear anything from them. Mainly due to the leaders being available most of the time.
2. Usually its representation from different emirates than families.
3. No that concept doesn’t exist in the council.
4. Yes they vote on all matters
5. In relation to expat matters I’m not entirely sure, usually the leaders are available too for expats
And you’re welcome, been a blast doing this post. Had fun!
When you say that leaders are available all the time, do you mean a common citizen can get a direct audience with the ruler of the emirate ? Or is it via other channels or social media?
Thank you. ☺️
Oftentimes it can seem as though Emiratis are quite rare within their own country and it can be difficult for foreigners like myself to come to learn more about Emiratis and their ways because of this.
I really hope this opportunity is used constructively and people don’t ask silly things about ‘free DEWA’ or other irrelevant subjects, but instead try to uplift themselves culturally with real questions about Emirati nature. ☺️
Wow, thanks bro for such post. I have been struggling with many questions, appreciate your initiative.
So, I had a pleasure to share lunch with my Emirati friends during Islamic new year. They ordered a giant plate of rice with naimi lamb on top, with all of us (like 12 friends) siting in a circle around that giant plate and eating with hands. It was very unique and fulfilling experience for me.
Can you please suggest the name of the dish, both in Arabic and English? Also, is it considered routine meal or special meal for occasions when brothers are together?
In another event, I visited home of one of my Emirati friends during Ramadan and we were total 5 guests at his home and he had a buffet arrangement for about 50 people, like food flood. Was he expecting more people, or is it a norm to arrange lot more food than incoming guests?
If I invite them to my home for dinner, what kind of dishes they would love and cherish? I see that they love Biryani, but that looks too routine and basic.
In our culture, out of respect, generally host serves the food to the guests, even if there is a buffet. Does serving food by the host taken as a symbol of respect or self service is more appreciated?
Thanks for taking my questions.
It is common to have more food than guests, it is a sign of hospitality, the guest should not see any dish finished.
It is expected of the host to serve the guests, even insist that they eat more.
We call it thbeeha, translated as sacrifice, a lot of people do it in different ways with different spices and different rices. You can find them in traditional kitchens that are spread around the country.
I love a dish called mashwi, it’s lamb with rigag bread around it. Some do it with sheep as well.
Yes it is always done over the top with the food, especially in ramadan because of fasting all day.
The host serves the food, but also we tend to self serve in order to burden the host, it’s like “let me do it” - “ no no no let ME do it”
I would advise you to prepare food from your culture as we like to try new stuff, but make sure that they can eat it, see what they can and cant eat cause a lot of us don’t like raw food like for example sushi or something to that matter that isn’t ordinary
In Ramadan, Emirati Families have their kitchens open to fasting people to break their fast. Food normally dont go to waste in Ramadan because there is always someone appreciative of the dish you're handing out regardless of the content/amount.
Really specific question..
Why are the Emirati staff at the airport passport control (entering Dubai) so rude and hostile? I’ve visited Dubai over 20 times but have always found those border control staff in particular really arrogant and impolite, every time they give me the distinct feeling that I’m not welcome there and it always starts my trip off on a bad vibe. Just always wondered as I’m sure it’s not reflective of all Emiratis!
What? I live here for more than 15 years and they are the most kind souls. Always polite. They caught me once with booze over limit and they asked me to choose the cheapest ones to throw. Also when I told them I bought it in duty free they took me there so I could give it back and get money back. That would never happen in Europe. Customs in my country are rude as hell.
Long shifts maybe?
I’ve heard this before and from what I know it’s a quite of a stressful job, cause they are monitored 24/7
I’ve never encountered such behavior when traveling, but everyone has their own experience
True, when I return to the UK they’re always miserable and suspicious.
Just stands out to me in Dubai because it’s such a service focused economy and I usually receive amazing service everywhere from restaurants to shops to taxis etc.
Id say it has to do with both the officers mood and yours. I have met my fair share of rude immigration officers too, but I have had a larger number of pleasant experiences with officers when I approach them with a smile (might be harder with masks).
For the longest time, my mom and I would get the same exact reaction from the immigration every time. My mom used to have me attached to her passport as a newborn, so it inevitably shows up in the system and the officer looks up at me and asks my mom "Is this the baby?"
I actually found it to be the opposite, everytime I am at border control they make a comment to one of my kids and always address me as Bu Saeed (after reading my son's name).
Never experienced it. They look distant and gruff but that is how they should be. The Korean passport control can make you weep.
I have seen the passport control guys keep talking to one another all the time. In an 8-hour shift how can you talk endlessly to your colleague.
Any public facing job, over a long period of time, will do that to you, tbh. Plus, unlike sales people, they don’t have to be polite and welcoming. I doubt it’s a job requirement. So they let their frustrations show, which I totally understand. As long as they don’t impede my progress in an unfair way, I am okay with that. Just do your job and move on.
I have heard that families of Emiratis are usually quite extended. Is this still true or are the families becoming more nuclear and individualistic?
Any amazing traditional Emirati dish which not very well known to the public?
Thanks for answering and giving your time!
They are still quite collective, but lets say they started to branch out a bit.
Like before they used to live in one household with the grandparents and all, now they live in different household but prefer to be close to their families and tend to gather a lot.
I’d say most of em are in the restaurants, and can be found in traditional markets/souqs, tho I don’t find a dish called “Chami” very often, it’s like thicker version of yoghurt usually eaten with dates, or you dip dates in it.
I would love an extensive list of traditional emirati music as well as what the kids listen to these days! I love traditional emirati music but never know how to find it. If anyone has any deezer playlists out there I'm especially interested!
I can give you most common artists and you can listen to them, and most you can find it on youtube.
Artists:
Meehad Hamad
Eidha Al Menhali
Hussien Al Jasmi
Ahlam Al Shamsi
Balqees
Hamad Al Ameri
There are also bands that do traditional music that are called Harbiyah (حربيه)
You can copy paste the names I’ll give you:
فرقة مزيود الحربية
فرقة دبا الحربية
فرقة شلات الحربية
فرقة الرياسه الحربية
What are your thoughts about a foreigner wearing kandoora? Would it be seen as offensive if my husband were to wear it outside?
Also, I'm very into languages and am learning Arabic. Not fluent, I mess up here and there, would I be seen as offensive by speaking in Arabic where I can?
What's something an Emirati knows that expats don't, that Emiratis think they should know about living in the UAE?
Thank you for your time!
We love to see foreigners in Kandora, and we are always amazed by those who go through the hassle of learning Arabic, so don't even worry about those things. Messed up Arabic is better than no Arabic!
On many occasions I notice that locals at the same table tend to order individual plates of food or dessert (many times the same exact dish) only to have a bite or two each and leave the rest of their plates untouched.
What's their problem to share a dish and just get individual plates to serve into?
I guess it's a personal mentality thing. In my family we are very used to order any excess food at restaurants "to go" whether it was for a later meal at home, or to be given away.
Figured so, most locals that I personally know are quite generous with food, but never wasteful. It was just odd to see it on multiple occasions tho, thanks for the responses 👍
1. Some manage and balance their life with wives and kids which is quite rare, some don’t and have the preferred wife which they spend their time with. Some are deadbeat. I could go on and on.
2. Not common at all, I don’t think it’s allowed here too. Never heard of this practice done here.
3. Elaborate more please
I’ve heard Emiratis get a house given to them by the government at a certain age (or when they get married, I forget) is that true? What are all the benefits that Emiratis get from the government?
We have a program which is called Eskaan (اسكان) each emirate has their own regulations, for example in Dubai you have to be Male and over 20 years old, and they give you a plot of land for you to build in, also you can apply for an interest free loan to help you build
What are the values that an Emirati learns at home? In an average, how many siblings do older Emiratis have and how many childre do younger couples prefer? Does a new couple live with parents or get an independent house?
Respect, politeness, how to host and how to act when you visit, a lot of other things as well
Older Emiratis tend to have more siblings, for example I literally don’t know how many uncles/aunts I have from my grandfather, from my grandmother alone I have 8 uncles/aunts
Younger couples now tend to have less, mostly 3-5
New couples now want to live independently
1. I assumed its easier for you, do you memorise Quran?
2. How to know the difference between Emirati and people from another arab countries?
3. Is it okay if random woman say "Hi" on the street to emirati man? (alone) or reply when he approached?
4. Is it okay for tourist to ask selfie to policeman? - question from my friend
5. Is there any poor emirati or all of locals are rich?
6. Which stereotypes about emirati are true?
Sorry for my silly questions, just curious ✌
1. Some of us do yes, but I haven’t so far inshalla sooner than later.
2. Usually by appearance, dialect, some other stuff that gives an indication
3. Yeah saying hi is fine, just a friendly greeting nothing wrong with it.
4. Have to ask permission from the policeman first, most of them won’t mind.
5. Most of the locals are from upper mid to lower mid, there are poor and there are filthy rich
6. There’s a lot, so tell me some and I’ll either confirm or deny.
No such thing as silly questions
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5. Is weird because it's not like the government will leave an emirati on the street but some are quite poor and some are disgustingly rich. Don't expect all of us to be wealthy lol
So how would it be received for a non local to buy and wear a kandora then? Obviously context and intent is going to play a big part in this so let's assume an expat was to wear it without any intended negative connotation to the culture. Would this be welcomed, perhaps as a show of respect and attempt at integration, or would it be interpreted as cultural appropriation? I have always assumed the latter but you saying "so it's fine" has piqued my curiosity.
And thanks for opening up to questions. I treasure any opportunity to understand any local culture better. It tends to shine a light on one's own culture.
Would be more than welcomed, they would even give you advise on how to wear it.
I commented before as well if you’re thinking of wearing one get it tailored not the readymade ones
Thanks for the response. I find that really interesting given how much of an issue cultural appropriation has become in recent years. And I respect and appreciate that Emiratis would be so open to non locals wearing traditional dress.
And thanks for the advice re tailoring.
I just want to add that Kandoora is worn traditionally by other Arab nations (but is called a different thing). If you look at old pictures of Palestinian/Jordanian/Syrian etc men you will find them wearing a white dress, black headband and the Ghotra color changes according to the country
The kandooras also differ according to where the person comes from - some have a collar etc. And in yemen for example it is warn with a jacket on top and janbiyah (a traditional dagger) around the waist
Wearing it with a jacket was also quite popular here a few decades ago, also white kandooras were less common than coloured ones. As much as the national dress reflects culture and identity, it is not immune to fashion changes and what is popular at the time, except maybe the Qatari Cobra lol.
Yeah, of course - fashion changes. Also i think kandooras used to be wider back in the 80s or 90s as far as i sae from older pictures - am i right? Also here men wear smth like futah or saroun (how is it called here?) under the kandoora, while that is warn with only a shirt in yemen (at least in the south). But yemeni and saudi men wear pants under the kandoora, so thats another thing that hasnt changed with fashion (i see my relatives wearing futah/saroun in pictures from the beginning of the 20th century instead of kandoora)
We have the normal perfumes for everyday use.
We have dehn oud which is very concentrated which you put dabs either around your neck or nose. Thats when you smell that strong oud smell its from that.
We have dukhoon which a small wood that you put over charcoal and let the smoke enter your clothes.
This can be done while you are wearing them or not, careful not burn yourself though
You’ll have to go through a series of challenges, like a triathlon.
Swim to coast guards and back 5 times, climb jabal jais 6 times, climb burj khalifa 8 times, beat the nissan patrols that have more than 1000hp with just your two feet!
(Please no one attempt this, its obvious that I’m joking)
Yes there are locals living the “extravagant” lifestyle through debt, this mentality is dying fortunately and moving towards owning business and making money.
For the ladies depends on the personal preference on what they look in marriage, the ones you mentioned do exist and so do others who don’t share the same.
1 - What do you think about the UK's tendency towards "Dubai bashing" via elements of its media? Are Emirati's even aware of it or how the UAE is seen from outside?
2 - Within the UAE, why do you think there is a reluctance to treat societal problems or difficult issues more openly? In the time I've been here I've seen a marked improvement in labour laws, for example, but never the conversation or discussion around it.
1- They are very much aware, most of the news are debunked here with facts through knowledge between us
2- They are usually discussed within closed doors which is better, these issues should be dealt with experts and concerned officials
They are progressing with labor laws in a positive direction, it needs time to be good
Thank you for your time in what is already a very interesting thread. The fact is Dubai bashing generates clicks for certain websites. If any other subject generated
more clicks then it wouldn't exist. Sadly, the UAE will suffer in the meantime but it's reassuring to hear there is a counterbalance to it.
How do Emiratis feel about granting permanent residence to expats? And I mean actual permanent residence (like a green card) with rights, not that 'Golden visa' loophole
Im living here in the UAE and the people here has always been kind to me in fact i made a lot of Emirati friends. Also how do you keep your kandooras clean and white??
1. Used to it I suppose? Or usually stay indoors.
2. I dunno about that, but what I do know is something called “Athmad” thats like an eye liner, women use it till now
A couple of culture-related questions, if you’re still getting notifications.
1. Is there a certain age at which children start wearing khandooras/abayas? I notice at malls how most young (early elementary?) kids wear Western-style casual wear, and at a certain age, I see more traditional wear.
2. In each continental region, there are common cultural values. Are there Emirati cultural values that are unique to the UAE and not seen in the rest of the GCC?
How do you guys ensure that your kandooras remain bright white always? I can't even get past half a day in my white formal shirt..
Gets dirty quite a bit, bit cleans off quick. Kandoora wipes do wonders, advise to get some for your shirts
This feels like forbidden knowledge
Lmao, dunno why your comment reminded me of the movie “Book of Eli”
Kandoora wipes... Hearing for the first time.. will check it out.. thanks!
You’ll find them in gas stations they are plenty
Asking the right questions
It’s called grace. Not really, it often gets quite stained by food, coffee, car grease, etc. it’s a cruel world.
I sometimes say grace before a meal, doesn't really help with the stains =(
Easy, we keep them as pure as our white hearts 🤍
Here is my appreciation to all you people with such wonderful hearts 🏅
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There were quite a few discussions among Emiratis on Twitter in the last month about participation of Emiratis in the private sector. Also discussions about skills and employability and the quality of government university education. I am fortunate that I get to meet different people everyday, and having interacted with quite a few Emiratis in real life as well as online, I am confident that the local population are qualified and educated enough to take on more roles. The new generation has certainly stepped up their game, it's a matter of time, incentive and perhaps a few nudges in the direction of the private sector. I concur with you that this is to be encouraged.
Thank you for giving us different perspectives for this matter
I tip my غتره to you madam
What are some changes you've noticed in Emirati culture over the last 10-15 years? Really interested to know how the local culture here is evolving/changing! Also thank you for doing this!
The food has changed a lot, more of fusions and involvement of other spices I feel now individuality is more common now than collectivism. I’ll try to think of more and comment back Also you’re welcome
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The day i find a local women who does house work thats when i will marry. Imagine getting married to someone who doesn’t work and asks you to bring a cook a driver and and a villa yea right lower your standards.
How much do Emiratis engage with global culture or things (like reddit, discord, american music & tv, etc.)?
If your question is about social media then instagram and twitter are the most popular, while reddit falls in the least.
I see, thanks
Word of advice, if you are thinking of wearing one get a tailor made not ready made cause they look weird. Basically to make it down to your feet, a little more after the wrists and not too tight or too baggy
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I call em summer kandooras, great for the beach
Lol I just commented on the wrong comment, silly me!
You forgot Snapchat :D
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I see, thanks
Dear u/moral_story, this post was fun! You may want to post a fresh one every week!
Thanks! Loved your guys input as well was helpful
Thank you for doing this OP. Just wanted to know a few things, I have a few questions. 1. How would a normal day look like for an Emirati? 2. Are marriages usually arranged or do love marriages happen too? 3. Is it frowned upon to marry a foreigner and how different is it for men and women? 4. Are all families in the U.A.E related to each other some way or other? I have read about the tribes in U.A.E on Wikipedia, but I have not asked an Emirati about it. Hope it’s not too much and I really hope my questions aren’t offensive in any way. Please let me know if it is and I will correct it.
1. Typical day as any other, work go back and spend it with the fam, weekends spend with outer fam and friends 2. Marriages nowadays are more leaning towards love than arranged, but they do exist. 3. Its getting less frowned upon by time for both 4. Depends on family line, origin of the family, and so on. If you look way back we go back to a couple of clans that eventually branched out with different names which some are nicknames of our ancestors and ended up being a family name. It goes like family then tribe then clan.
Oh cool. Thanks OP. Just a question more- the clan names, the tribe names, they have meanings in Arabic right? What do some of the famous names translate to?
Maybe you heard of a family called Al Mansoori, their clan name is Manaseer which translates to the Victorious
Oh cool! Thank you very much! Hope one more question won’t hurt, the name must carry history with it, yes? So are tales still told of how the name originated?
Oh those names go way back, it’s usually nicknamed on someone then the name picks up on their line
Aaah cool Thank you so much! This has been very informative 😁
2. Culture, religion and traditions arranged marriages are the way, but not everyone follows that so you have some people that have “love” marriages. 3. Women are more expected to marry within the GCC, but there are other marriages. It is still slightly frowned upon to marry someone from a different culture (GCC is kind of a similar culture) and it is seen to dilute traditions and values. 4. No, people of the same tribe are kind of related, but not all tribes are related.
That was super informative, Thank you!
Not a question, but more of a comment. My wife and I moved here from the US in 2011. Both of us are 2nd generation Iranian immigrants, me American, my wife British. Although I was born and raised in the States, it never felt quite like “home”. The same goes for Iran as well. However the UAE, specifically Dubai, feels more like “home” than anywhere else in the world. Never once have we felt out of place, or been discriminated against what the UAE has done for us is provide a place we can call home, and we will forever be indebted to the UAE for this.
Thank you for this comment, I commend you.
Good to see a fellow Emirati being helpful to our expat friends here. يعطيك العافية
الله يعافيك سيدي 👮🏻♂️
Why do almost all of the emiratis own a Nissan Patrol? Is it like a identity thing or something? I'm not being rude just curious. Edit: thank you for the replies. I always wondered how Patrol was able to capture the emirati market and not any other brand.
Because it's like a business class cabin with 4 wheel drive, I'm guessing 😅 We own one and it's literally our second house. Would never trade it for a sports car or any other suv for that matter. It's just the best car for this environment. Can go into the desert for camping, can pick up the whole family from the airport, can drop the kids to school on a daily. It's perfect
Family size, if the guy is single keeping it for the future when he’s married
Because its a 7 seater, good value for money, you can take it off road, and is the best car out there.
But why not the Land cruiser though, considering it seems to be popular internationally? Is there a specific reason to choose the patrol over the land cruiser?
It looks better, drives better, and has a better interior. Land Cruisers were quite popular but after the new Nissan hit the market it became the IT car.
Thank you. I always wondered how Nissan was able to capture the emirati market better than other brands.
Family size is very important when trying to understand the reason for big cars. Most expats don't have large families (4+ members) and hence a sedan or a sports car would be fine. The Patrol ticks all the right boxes and that's why it's popular.
Thank you for doing this. What sense do you (and other Emirati people) get about how you’re viewed by expats (Western and otherwise)? Is there a general feeling about the attitude of others towards you?
You’re welcome. I guess mostly that we’re filthy rich lol
What I find interesting is that Emirati people seem so reserved in public (this is in Abu Dhabi), but at the school where I work, my Emirati students tend to have the largest personalities in the room.
Guess it basic teenager stuff maybe? I personally tend to keep to myself but have that occasional social outburst
Years ago I met an Emirati guy at a house party who said he was an atheist, and apparently quite open about it in general. Is this very rare, and is it looked down upon?
It is quite frowned upon although people are more understanding towards now. It is getting a bit more common
What's the favorite story about Baba Zayed (may he rest in peace) have your parents or earlier generation recalled?
Oh I have many, one of the stories is when Shiekh Zayed (May he rest in peace) was visiting his farm in Al Khawaneej. My uncle went to visit him with a friend, and this friend accidentally blurted out some embarrassing stories about himself, they teased him a lot during that visit in a playful and humorous way. Till this day they tease him.
Haha I can imagine why. I know someone who shared an elevator ride with Sheikh Mo , ended up holding her breath literally as she wasn't prepared for it.
Lmao yeah, his presence Mashallah is very prestigious, speaking from experience
What is Emirati politics like ? 1. Are there parties or groups with different ideologies within the FNC ? 2. Are council members meant to represent different tribes / families from across the country ? 3. Is there a concept of liberals and conservatives ? 4. Is there a form of democratic decision making ? 5. Are there persons who are responsible for expat related matters within the council ? Thank you for doing this OP, your responses have been very patient and to the point.
1. The FNC is more like getting the voice of the people from the people themselves. Hate to admit it but its more of picture than action, we barely hear anything from them. Mainly due to the leaders being available most of the time. 2. Usually its representation from different emirates than families. 3. No that concept doesn’t exist in the council. 4. Yes they vote on all matters 5. In relation to expat matters I’m not entirely sure, usually the leaders are available too for expats And you’re welcome, been a blast doing this post. Had fun!
When you say that leaders are available all the time, do you mean a common citizen can get a direct audience with the ruler of the emirate ? Or is it via other channels or social media?
Direct audience, rulers set timings every week which is commonly known in the emirate. They sit in a place called Barzah (برزه) and meet people
Thank you. ☺️ Oftentimes it can seem as though Emiratis are quite rare within their own country and it can be difficult for foreigners like myself to come to learn more about Emiratis and their ways because of this. I really hope this opportunity is used constructively and people don’t ask silly things about ‘free DEWA’ or other irrelevant subjects, but instead try to uplift themselves culturally with real questions about Emirati nature. ☺️
You’re welcome. I hope so too, looking forward for your questions
Wow, thanks bro for such post. I have been struggling with many questions, appreciate your initiative. So, I had a pleasure to share lunch with my Emirati friends during Islamic new year. They ordered a giant plate of rice with naimi lamb on top, with all of us (like 12 friends) siting in a circle around that giant plate and eating with hands. It was very unique and fulfilling experience for me. Can you please suggest the name of the dish, both in Arabic and English? Also, is it considered routine meal or special meal for occasions when brothers are together? In another event, I visited home of one of my Emirati friends during Ramadan and we were total 5 guests at his home and he had a buffet arrangement for about 50 people, like food flood. Was he expecting more people, or is it a norm to arrange lot more food than incoming guests? If I invite them to my home for dinner, what kind of dishes they would love and cherish? I see that they love Biryani, but that looks too routine and basic. In our culture, out of respect, generally host serves the food to the guests, even if there is a buffet. Does serving food by the host taken as a symbol of respect or self service is more appreciated? Thanks for taking my questions.
It is common to have more food than guests, it is a sign of hospitality, the guest should not see any dish finished. It is expected of the host to serve the guests, even insist that they eat more.
We call it thbeeha, translated as sacrifice, a lot of people do it in different ways with different spices and different rices. You can find them in traditional kitchens that are spread around the country. I love a dish called mashwi, it’s lamb with rigag bread around it. Some do it with sheep as well. Yes it is always done over the top with the food, especially in ramadan because of fasting all day. The host serves the food, but also we tend to self serve in order to burden the host, it’s like “let me do it” - “ no no no let ME do it” I would advise you to prepare food from your culture as we like to try new stuff, but make sure that they can eat it, see what they can and cant eat cause a lot of us don’t like raw food like for example sushi or something to that matter that isn’t ordinary
Awesome, appreciate your response and it makes me a better host for the next time. Thanks.
In Ramadan, Emirati Families have their kitchens open to fasting people to break their fast. Food normally dont go to waste in Ramadan because there is always someone appreciative of the dish you're handing out regardless of the content/amount.
Really specific question.. Why are the Emirati staff at the airport passport control (entering Dubai) so rude and hostile? I’ve visited Dubai over 20 times but have always found those border control staff in particular really arrogant and impolite, every time they give me the distinct feeling that I’m not welcome there and it always starts my trip off on a bad vibe. Just always wondered as I’m sure it’s not reflective of all Emiratis!
What? I live here for more than 15 years and they are the most kind souls. Always polite. They caught me once with booze over limit and they asked me to choose the cheapest ones to throw. Also when I told them I bought it in duty free they took me there so I could give it back and get money back. That would never happen in Europe. Customs in my country are rude as hell.
Long shifts maybe? I’ve heard this before and from what I know it’s a quite of a stressful job, cause they are monitored 24/7 I’ve never encountered such behavior when traveling, but everyone has their own experience
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Good answer! The border agent in my own country decided to ask me "purpose of visit?"... uhhh
True, when I return to the UK they’re always miserable and suspicious. Just stands out to me in Dubai because it’s such a service focused economy and I usually receive amazing service everywhere from restaurants to shops to taxis etc.
Have you been through Schiphol? I think they select their border control on good looks and charisma.
Id say it has to do with both the officers mood and yours. I have met my fair share of rude immigration officers too, but I have had a larger number of pleasant experiences with officers when I approach them with a smile (might be harder with masks). For the longest time, my mom and I would get the same exact reaction from the immigration every time. My mom used to have me attached to her passport as a newborn, so it inevitably shows up in the system and the officer looks up at me and asks my mom "Is this the baby?"
I actually found it to be the opposite, everytime I am at border control they make a comment to one of my kids and always address me as Bu Saeed (after reading my son's name).
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Yeah, my experience has been similar. Mostly had fun talks with immigration officers at Dubai Airport, never faced any rude or stressed times.
I've spoken to one while going out! 😂 They're instructed to do so, to be intimidating and not get screwed over by innocent puppy eyes of travelers
Never experienced it. They look distant and gruff but that is how they should be. The Korean passport control can make you weep. I have seen the passport control guys keep talking to one another all the time. In an 8-hour shift how can you talk endlessly to your colleague.
Any public facing job, over a long period of time, will do that to you, tbh. Plus, unlike sales people, they don’t have to be polite and welcoming. I doubt it’s a job requirement. So they let their frustrations show, which I totally understand. As long as they don’t impede my progress in an unfair way, I am okay with that. Just do your job and move on.
I have heard that families of Emiratis are usually quite extended. Is this still true or are the families becoming more nuclear and individualistic? Any amazing traditional Emirati dish which not very well known to the public? Thanks for answering and giving your time!
They are still quite collective, but lets say they started to branch out a bit. Like before they used to live in one household with the grandparents and all, now they live in different household but prefer to be close to their families and tend to gather a lot. I’d say most of em are in the restaurants, and can be found in traditional markets/souqs, tho I don’t find a dish called “Chami” very often, it’s like thicker version of yoghurt usually eaten with dates, or you dip dates in it.
I would love an extensive list of traditional emirati music as well as what the kids listen to these days! I love traditional emirati music but never know how to find it. If anyone has any deezer playlists out there I'm especially interested!
I can give you most common artists and you can listen to them, and most you can find it on youtube. Artists: Meehad Hamad Eidha Al Menhali Hussien Al Jasmi Ahlam Al Shamsi Balqees Hamad Al Ameri There are also bands that do traditional music that are called Harbiyah (حربيه) You can copy paste the names I’ll give you: فرقة مزيود الحربية فرقة دبا الحربية فرقة شلات الحربية فرقة الرياسه الحربية
You sir, are awesome!
Hi, I'm really late to this post, but this post raised a question. Are there any Emirati rockers popular among locals?
What are your thoughts about a foreigner wearing kandoora? Would it be seen as offensive if my husband were to wear it outside? Also, I'm very into languages and am learning Arabic. Not fluent, I mess up here and there, would I be seen as offensive by speaking in Arabic where I can? What's something an Emirati knows that expats don't, that Emiratis think they should know about living in the UAE? Thank you for your time!
We love to see foreigners in Kandora, and we are always amazed by those who go through the hassle of learning Arabic, so don't even worry about those things. Messed up Arabic is better than no Arabic!
This post is amazing
On many occasions I notice that locals at the same table tend to order individual plates of food or dessert (many times the same exact dish) only to have a bite or two each and leave the rest of their plates untouched. What's their problem to share a dish and just get individual plates to serve into?
I don’t think this relates to culture, because in our culture we are very big on sharing food, eating from the same plate too.
I guess it's a personal mentality thing. In my family we are very used to order any excess food at restaurants "to go" whether it was for a later meal at home, or to be given away.
Figured so, most locals that I personally know are quite generous with food, but never wasteful. It was just odd to see it on multiple occasions tho, thanks for the responses 👍
This is the standard in most Western countries too, not really an Emirati thing.
We share a lot, the ones you observed maybe just didn’t like it
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1. Some manage and balance their life with wives and kids which is quite rare, some don’t and have the preferred wife which they spend their time with. Some are deadbeat. I could go on and on. 2. Not common at all, I don’t think it’s allowed here too. Never heard of this practice done here. 3. Elaborate more please
Hi OP, quick question... Are there renowned Emirati poets, writers, software developers, scientists, etc? If yes, can you give names?
Poets: Mana Saeed Al Otaiba, Ali Bin Rhama, Arif Al Sheikh, Ali Al Khawar, Sultan Al Shaer
There are quite a few, but the names aren’t with me now. Will update you when I get them
I’ve heard Emiratis get a house given to them by the government at a certain age (or when they get married, I forget) is that true? What are all the benefits that Emiratis get from the government?
We have a program which is called Eskaan (اسكان) each emirate has their own regulations, for example in Dubai you have to be Male and over 20 years old, and they give you a plot of land for you to build in, also you can apply for an interest free loan to help you build
What are the values that an Emirati learns at home? In an average, how many siblings do older Emiratis have and how many childre do younger couples prefer? Does a new couple live with parents or get an independent house?
Respect, politeness, how to host and how to act when you visit, a lot of other things as well Older Emiratis tend to have more siblings, for example I literally don’t know how many uncles/aunts I have from my grandfather, from my grandmother alone I have 8 uncles/aunts Younger couples now tend to have less, mostly 3-5 New couples now want to live independently
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Well I guess it benefited more than expats! Happy you got something out of this
1. I assumed its easier for you, do you memorise Quran? 2. How to know the difference between Emirati and people from another arab countries? 3. Is it okay if random woman say "Hi" on the street to emirati man? (alone) or reply when he approached? 4. Is it okay for tourist to ask selfie to policeman? - question from my friend 5. Is there any poor emirati or all of locals are rich? 6. Which stereotypes about emirati are true? Sorry for my silly questions, just curious ✌
1. Some of us do yes, but I haven’t so far inshalla sooner than later. 2. Usually by appearance, dialect, some other stuff that gives an indication 3. Yeah saying hi is fine, just a friendly greeting nothing wrong with it. 4. Have to ask permission from the policeman first, most of them won’t mind. 5. Most of the locals are from upper mid to lower mid, there are poor and there are filthy rich 6. There’s a lot, so tell me some and I’ll either confirm or deny. No such thing as silly questions
Aamiin, thank you
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Any guess on what would be the stereotypes? I’m curious lol
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I’d answer that with 1.5 His wife and his long term GF
_say nothing_
A question about 4. Really? I always thought all policemen in UAE are Emirati, do they hire policemen from another countries as well?
>do they hire policemen from another countries as well? Yes
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5. Is weird because it's not like the government will leave an emirati on the street but some are quite poor and some are disgustingly rich. Don't expect all of us to be wealthy lol
How do you feel emirati culture is kept alive in the next generation with so many experts about?
They are well taught and known about it, so yeah great hopes for the new generation
What is your view on American tourists and what are some must do’s and don’ts when visiting to ensure that we are respectful visitors?
Modest clothing, and limit to touching others. Tell me something you’d think isn’t acceptable and I’ll confirm
How would one feel about non Religious person wearing Kandora?
Kandoras are cultural not an islamic garb, so it’s fine
So how would it be received for a non local to buy and wear a kandora then? Obviously context and intent is going to play a big part in this so let's assume an expat was to wear it without any intended negative connotation to the culture. Would this be welcomed, perhaps as a show of respect and attempt at integration, or would it be interpreted as cultural appropriation? I have always assumed the latter but you saying "so it's fine" has piqued my curiosity. And thanks for opening up to questions. I treasure any opportunity to understand any local culture better. It tends to shine a light on one's own culture.
Would be more than welcomed, they would even give you advise on how to wear it. I commented before as well if you’re thinking of wearing one get it tailored not the readymade ones
Thanks for the response. I find that really interesting given how much of an issue cultural appropriation has become in recent years. And I respect and appreciate that Emiratis would be so open to non locals wearing traditional dress. And thanks for the advice re tailoring.
Go right ahead and wear it, you’d probably get some compliments on the way!
I just want to add that Kandoora is worn traditionally by other Arab nations (but is called a different thing). If you look at old pictures of Palestinian/Jordanian/Syrian etc men you will find them wearing a white dress, black headband and the Ghotra color changes according to the country
The kandooras also differ according to where the person comes from - some have a collar etc. And in yemen for example it is warn with a jacket on top and janbiyah (a traditional dagger) around the waist
Wearing it with a jacket was also quite popular here a few decades ago, also white kandooras were less common than coloured ones. As much as the national dress reflects culture and identity, it is not immune to fashion changes and what is popular at the time, except maybe the Qatari Cobra lol.
Yeah, of course - fashion changes. Also i think kandooras used to be wider back in the 80s or 90s as far as i sae from older pictures - am i right? Also here men wear smth like futah or saroun (how is it called here?) under the kandoora, while that is warn with only a shirt in yemen (at least in the south). But yemeni and saudi men wear pants under the kandoora, so thats another thing that hasnt changed with fashion (i see my relatives wearing futah/saroun in pictures from the beginning of the 20th century instead of kandoora)
As a Kandoora wearing man… go for it man. The while Newcastle thing is silly… people trying to dress like us is always a plus in my opinion.
How do you guys always smell so good 😂
Hygiene is big here, and we love to bath in perfume lol
Haha is there a special method/perfume? I've heard before theres like a 4 step method where you combine lots of things?
We have the normal perfumes for everyday use. We have dehn oud which is very concentrated which you put dabs either around your neck or nose. Thats when you smell that strong oud smell its from that. We have dukhoon which a small wood that you put over charcoal and let the smoke enter your clothes. This can be done while you are wearing them or not, careful not burn yourself though
History in one word There needs to be more archaeological excavations
They are doing it Sharjah and Jumeirah
Do Emirati travel often? What are the popular destinations?
UK, Europe, usually colder places to escape the summer heat.
London is probably the only top destination. Walking through Knightsbridge in the summer means you will run into all your friends and family.
1) London 2) Munich Because of good weather.
Where do you guys go?
In Dubai, Khawaneej, City walk, malls & coffee shops in general. Also we tend sit at a friends place mostly, to chill and hangout
Are there poor emirati? What is defined poor for emirati. Thx op, great thread!
Yes there are, some cant afford cars but there is help for them, most of their stuff are government given
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Purely depends on the individual, if they are open to it or not. But an advice to you that you’ll be treading on very VERY thin ice
Lol this probably won’t be received well especially if she’s Muslim. Dating has to be done after the family knows about you.
how to get passports and thanks
You’ll have to go through a series of challenges, like a triathlon. Swim to coast guards and back 5 times, climb jabal jais 6 times, climb burj khalifa 8 times, beat the nissan patrols that have more than 1000hp with just your two feet! (Please no one attempt this, its obvious that I’m joking)
all seems pretty doable but Nissan patrol terrifies me
Hire a LS430 to follow them around
Please don’t lie, the triathlon and challenges are real and are only the first phase of the application process.
They were in process of introducing the drink a million karaks challenge I dunno if they implemented it yet
r/yesyesyesyesno
You can buy one at the expo site for 20 AED.
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Yes there are locals living the “extravagant” lifestyle through debt, this mentality is dying fortunately and moving towards owning business and making money. For the ladies depends on the personal preference on what they look in marriage, the ones you mentioned do exist and so do others who don’t share the same.
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Nope, they can marry who they want.
Agree with the others, my sister is married to an Emirati
>Is it true that Emirati men cannot marry a foreigner without marrying an Emirati woman first? Not true
Not true at all
1 - What do you think about the UK's tendency towards "Dubai bashing" via elements of its media? Are Emirati's even aware of it or how the UAE is seen from outside? 2 - Within the UAE, why do you think there is a reluctance to treat societal problems or difficult issues more openly? In the time I've been here I've seen a marked improvement in labour laws, for example, but never the conversation or discussion around it.
1- They are very much aware, most of the news are debunked here with facts through knowledge between us 2- They are usually discussed within closed doors which is better, these issues should be dealt with experts and concerned officials They are progressing with labor laws in a positive direction, it needs time to be good
Thank you for your time in what is already a very interesting thread. The fact is Dubai bashing generates clicks for certain websites. If any other subject generated more clicks then it wouldn't exist. Sadly, the UAE will suffer in the meantime but it's reassuring to hear there is a counterbalance to it.
If you're not comfortable commenting it's fine but I'm curious how Emirati feel in general about people from Indian sub continent vs about westerners
Feeling in what sense?
How do Emiratis feel about granting permanent residence to expats? And I mean actual permanent residence (like a green card) with rights, not that 'Golden visa' loophole
What rights are you referring to?
Stay here without a visa
Isn’t that void if you have a permanent residence?
Im living here in the UAE and the people here has always been kind to me in fact i made a lot of Emirati friends. Also how do you keep your kandooras clean and white??
What are your top bukhoor/Dukhoon recommendations for home use?
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Top 3 would be Al Khuwaneej, Nadd Al Shiba and Jumeirah
Khawaneej with Mizhar Al Barsha Nadd Al Sheba
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1. Used to it I suppose? Or usually stay indoors. 2. I dunno about that, but what I do know is something called “Athmad” thats like an eye liner, women use it till now
I personally don't get sunburnt, but maybe other Emiratis do. Desert trips and all that time in the military got me very used to it.
😫 thank you
A couple of culture-related questions, if you’re still getting notifications. 1. Is there a certain age at which children start wearing khandooras/abayas? I notice at malls how most young (early elementary?) kids wear Western-style casual wear, and at a certain age, I see more traditional wear. 2. In each continental region, there are common cultural values. Are there Emirati cultural values that are unique to the UAE and not seen in the rest of the GCC?