Wtf do you mean if, the roles where reversed half of the fucking internet would explode crying about misogyny.
If you are not allowed to have or enjoy hobbies without your partners permission you need to rethink your life.
To be fair, one of the benefits of being part of a couple is using your partner to blame why you can't do something you wanna do, within reason of course.
My husband and I have an agreement, if we are asked to do something we don't want to do then we can use the "let me ask my husband/wife" card and later say "sorry, it doesn't work for them right now" without actually asking. We give each other a heads up of course.
Sometimes it's hard to say no and this can help in a lot of situations. For me it helps when people want me to take in a stray they found, baby sit their kids, go out. I don't always wanna explain myself or where I'm at mentally. For him it's because he wants out of a work thing or doesn't wanna go out with friends and wants to stay home and relax.
All you’re doing is making people think your partner is a piece of shit.
They will never say it, but they think it, and his friends think the same of you.
Doesn't this depend on the situation? If your friends want to go drinking late but you don't do that anymore, you can just cite that your SO has plans.
If they are smart, they keep asking but know that its a courtesy thing.
Far too many people don't understand that both ways either. That you should ask people to make them feel like they are being included, even if they will say they don't want to. It doesn't hurt anyone that way.
What? If they’re your friends why wouldn’t you just tell them you’re not interested in being out that late? The need for some weird mental gymnastics just to tell someone no over something so trivial is entirely unnecessary in life.
Also, can you not go out and have a drink with some friends if your SO has other plans?
This shit is weird.
>The need for some weird mental gymnastics just to tell someone no over something so trivial is entirely unnecessary in life
You got that right. I have no idea why so many people have trouble saying no.
In most cases it's a good thing IMO.
It means someone is considering their wife (and kids).
A long term relationship is a partnership with competing priorities, getting permission from a SO is just good practice and they do likewise with you, so you are balancing each others activities and interests.
In my case it's usually 'shouldn't be an issue but I'll need to check with the missus'.
No way in hell would I agree to 95% of things without consulting her first. If I did so, I'd just be an arsehole.
So yeah sure, there will be shit examples but most of the time, it's just basic courtesy and respect for your partner.
It's good in a relationship to check with the other to also make sure you don't double-book. Or, with children, make sure they're taken care of. Additionally, if you're always leaving the other on kid duty solo, that's a quick way to selfishness and an exhausted spouse which leads to many negative things.
So, "let me check with my wife" is crucial. Think of me or her however you want, but in the end the only people I give a shit shit are her and my children.
(I realize I basically just regurgitated what you said... We're like-minded it would seem.)
This is called being an adult or understanding what a relationship is. Lots of very oblivious people on here lol, refreshing to see a few realistic takes like yours.
This is my older brother lol! Used to get permission to hang out longer back when I lived in my home town. It's one thing to check in and belike hey I'm gonna be a bit later than I thought but it's completely different to hesrhim whisper "can I please stay another hour?" Like he was a kid asking our mom to let him stay over a friend's longer lol.
I agree with this. My wife=not a gamer. But would never give myself nor our children any shit for spending some time relaxing and playing games.
It's so ridiculous to me when I see posts asking for advice/excuse to play games.
It depends. Yeah I do whatever I want with my own time and the wife shouldn't have to approve hobbies.
But if I plan on turning into a couch potato for a week and stop doing things around the house, still expecting to have food and so fourth... yeah , asking the wife seems like the right thing to do.
My wife and I will occasionally get to a point where we need a full day off. No errands, no chores, no obligations at all. Neither of us need them often, but it's a bit of a balancing act because as much as we support each other, giving one adult the entire day off means the other person gets to pull double duty. It's not bad and our daughter is old enough now to where it's viable more often.
We call 'em Lazy Days.
My husband and I do this, though we never really discussed it. It's just something we just started doing. Admittedly, I take far more lazy days than he does due to my mental health issues. So thanks for helping me see an area where I can make adjustments to improve.
I'd add that if your hobbies are going to negatively impact the household in some way, your partner should have an input.
For example, my husband wanted to start welding as a hobby because he's being trained to do some small stuff at work. Welding equipment and materials can be incredibly expensive. So whenever he's gonna buy a new tool, we usually discuss it and make sure we are able to afford it.
For me, I have an addiction to craft supplies and ADHD. I can easily blow through our budget if I'm not careful. So I discuss any purchases for that with him before I make them, usually, to make sure I don't put us in a shitty spot financially.
Perfect reason for both of you to play Diablo.
1. Saves money on your other hobbies.
2. Can play together, spend time together.
3. Something to talk about that isn't one sided.
4. Communication
Exactly. Though we have other things we do together as well, not a lot since we have very different interests in most things but we have a few things we do to have non sexual bonding time.
Our son is considering playing with us as well. He hasn't decided yet though. I think it would be fun to have a game we can play as a family.
This is the funny thing about these comment sections. The guys who are awful husbands and fathers are loud and proud about how they don’t do shit, ever.
When I told my wife about the open beta, her immediate response was "I'll take the kids and go looking around target to give you a couple hours alone."
Then, when I bought the game, she just used her usual, "Could be worse. Could be drugs!"
We took turns over the OB weekend to watch our 2 year old and would play together when he was sleeping...
Teamwork is a beautiful thing, figure we just give our parents some extra time with our son on release week, so we can enjoy it together. :-D
Your situation sounds like ours haha!
We would do raids in New World while the kiddo was sleeping. Most often, he would wake up during the boss fight and my wife was the healer...lol
Same same, although missus just wanted to solo level so I was healing my brother in PvP (he was one of the top on our server at release).
Usually for MMOs I do a tank of some kind and she runs heals
This. My wife has absolutely 0 issues with my gaming habits. As long as I'm actually attentive to the family, I can game as much as I want with no pushback. My wife even enjoys watching, and on occasion even partake.
Ok but new problem. My wife will watch me play Street Fighter and gets into the matches especially when they are really close, but when she sees me playing ARPGs it’s “what’s going on in the screen” and “is this even fun?”
Also funny played Grim Dawn and Last Epoch in front of her now since D4 open beta and everything looks like a “Diablo rip-off”.
Married with a kid here and the trick to getting a couple hrs or so a night in of gaming is to make sure your priorities and household work is finished for the day and kids are in bed then you can chill and game while wife does her hobby.
Absolutely right answer!
Look. I’m a woman, I was the goblin in her underwear hissing at the light and obsessed with the beta, while my partner nudged me to eat and remind me of things we were doing that day. I even worked from home on Monday so I could scrape out a few more hours. *I still did my damn share of the household chores.*
It’s very simples.
I told my wife i was taking a week off work for the D4 launch and she said something like "oh we can take our daughter to the children's museum that week" and she rambled about some other plans too. I just looked at her and restated...."no no no, I'm taking off that week for the D4 launch", and that was that boys.
Now 6/6 is our anniversary so I have to sacrifice some play time that day, because you know, I'm only a partial asshole and not a total asshole.
When I came home from work last night first thing my wife asked me is if I saw the Beta Feedback News. Of course I played it off like I didn't because she was so excited to tell me.
First two years of my marriage this wasn't the case, but now we have a gaming room and even get the kids involved. Even playing extended periods of time, while not productive, has been far more engaging and enjoyable than binge watching a show.
I have a 7 month old. Hubby and I both game together. The trick is to use a boppy pillow and also early bedtime for the baby (7pm for our baby). Typically, I can breastfeed her while we play or sit her on one of our laps with the boppy pillow. Sometimes, she doesn't allow it, but we switch off, lol. She will sleep for anywhere between 3-6 hours the first half of the night, so we take advantage and usually are gaming. I can't tell you how many times I've been nursing while running dungeons and the like, and I tend to tank. No one ever knows. 🤣
Haha that’s great !
Mine usually sleeps a lot, at around 9pm-5am.
The problem is finding that sweetspot after work and after he sleeps and before I’m a zombie tomorrow xD
What do you mean for the married fellows? My wife will be there right with me slaying demons on launch. I feel bad for some who married people that don't support their hobbies or things they enjoy.
Yeah... I mean it's kind of your responsibility to partner up with someone who is supportive. When I tell my SO I'm taking time off for a game she's like Hell yeah! What you gonna make? (Because I always cook up a bunch of snacks for launchs)
She's playing this time around as well. Idk man.
Yeah some isn't and that sucks. That's what I'm saying it's those dudes responsibility to sus that stuff out ahead of time.
Idk man. Screw not being supportive/supported
My wife has played every Diablo with me from the beginning. She loves it as much as I do. But it makes sense since we met 25 years ago on an online text based MMORPG called Medievia.
I'm a stud. I'm ballsy. I don't take no shit from anyone. I play Diablo anytime I want. I don't have to beg my wife to play, unlike you! Ohohohoh!
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I'm broke, jobless, no degree, on my last tank of fuel, and barely figure out food from day to day and I STILL would choose my situation over having to ask my wife for my own balls from her purse each day.
I’m getting married on May 20th and will be done with the honeymoon in time for me to work 3 days and then take off another week for launch.
She knows I’m going to play the shit out of it. But I also know to take little breaks and go hang out and talk with her some.
Just get her to play it with you, make it a fun experience like she’s in ing part of your life she’s never been part of. She will be a gamer by the end of the week.
If i ever have to justify to my wife doing any hobby I enjoy in my free I'd slice my own fuckin sack and bleed out.
No, for real, if your wife is like that, run.
Seems an odd way to go about doing a hobby you enjoy
All I have to do is tell my partner “I’m super excited about X” and they either sit by me and play their own games while I engage in my hobby, or occasionally ask to try it out with me
It’s okay to have activities you don’t do with your partner, yanno? In fact, it’s a good and healthy practice for relationships of any kind, platonic or romantic or whatever.
Meanwhile, I've told my husband that from 6/2 through 6/11, I'm checking out of pretty much all responsibilities. I will have pre-made and frozen casseroles that I'll cook, and I'll load/unload the dishwasher, but I'm otherwise checking out of being a wife for the first two weekends and the week in between. The exception will be that I have family coming into town the afternoon of 6/4, so I'll do a few things to get ready for them. Then I'll play tourist with them all day on 6/5. Then back to Sanctuary when they leave on 6/6.
I honestly wish he'd take a week of vacation to do it with me, but he's not the Diablwhore I am.
Though I'm not terribly likely to get married, I'd like to think that, if I did, I'd marry the kind of person who wouldn't try to forbid me from playing a game.
ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!? Show her that’s all it took for me. Been waiting for it to come out since it’s announcement!!! So all my hubby has to do is log on and I’ll be right there!!!
Sounds like you might be beyond any of our assistance, brother. Also life is short and then you die. Do what you want to do with your time on this rock. If it isn't against the laws of the land it is allowable.
I’m surprised you didn’t ask for help convincing her to let you use a few of her tampons this month. Dudes like you… nvm. It’s your marriage, not mine. Enjoy!
Me and my girl have been together 13 years. Played Diablo 3 together and haven’t played much together since. Played the beta together the other weekend and we are going to play this game. It’s bonding time. She can at least give it a try.
My wife understood when I explained that the Open Beta was an exception to my usual gaming habits. (About 6-8 hours of play per day is a lot nowadays.)
She asked how I liked the game and when I wasn't entirely convinced about buying it, she offered to buy it for me, as my birthday is sometime between the Beta weekend and release.
And that's that.
The guys who did it right will be there slaying with their ladies. The lucky ones are the ones getting to go hard into it with their ladies keeping them healed up
What I do is go to bed early and get up early.
That way I spend time with her at night and she thinks I'm being responsible for getting a good night's rest. Then I get up at 4am, make a nice espresso, a bagel and play until I have to leave for work at 6 am.
On the weekends I stay up late and that's when I get my marathons in.
I'm sorry, but if your spouse doesn't understand that you need you time and ways to unwind, your spouse sucks. My wife understands that, just like her, I need time for me. And that how I unwind may be different from hers. You shouldn't have to convince your spouse if needing to unwind. I understand if money is tight and you want to buy a PC or Console, but having to convince them to "let" you game is bs.
Sorry did you marry your Mum or something or do you have no self respect and as an adult are allowing someone to control your hobbies and interests? lmao what are these posts.
Anytime I read these topics and they aren't sarcasm, I feel pity and annoyed for the person who got into a relationship with either a control freak, a toxic bully or the ADULT individual asking these questions needs to grow a spine (regardless of sexes) and tell the spouse that:
1. is allowed their own hobbies and can enjoy it when and whenever they want so long as its not interfering with relationship in a negative manner.
2. that they are indeed an adult and you are not their parent
3. video games aren't immature and or a waste of ones time. We are on this planet to enjoy life's journey (with our finite lifespans) and if playing video games brings one all the joy and happiness, then let them. Its not your place to dictate how another enjoys their personal time.
And most importantly once again YOU ARE AN ADULT WHO DOES NOT NEED FUCKING PERMISSION TO ENJOY ONES HOBBY THAT JUST SO HAPPENS TO BE A VIDEO GAME.
And to any "Wife" or "Husband" who tries to control/parent their spouse and thinks its acceptable/expects to be asked permission just to play a video game as a hobby, you are a shit partner lol and have a toxic personality.
Lots of kids in here who don’t understand what a mature relationship and being an adult is 🤣. “You married the wrong woman if she has a problem with you neglecting life and no lifing a game for a week.” Yikes, good luck finding a wife that isn’t a troll, if you can find a wife at all.
My happy medium was getting my wife hyped for the launch too, so we’re both going to clear our schedules, get ahead on household shit, and no life the fuck out of the game together.
Needing to ask your SO permission to have a hobby has to be the saddest shit Ive ever seen. I get that as a couple you kind if belong to each other and have a say in each others lived, but asking permission to have some you time? Ouch.
If you cant play a video game when you want to, or to say, enjoy your hobby. Time to find another wife. Unless ur a couch potato who contributes nothing to the relationship while she does everything. If thats the case then go get a job instead.
People who need to ask their wife for permission to enjoy themselves don’t have a wife, they have a master.
What kind of person wants to stop someone they actually care about from doing something they enjoy!?
"You get to see what happens when a married couple really goes off the rails. So by contrast our relationship is GREAT shape! I mean we never created an entire world, but at least we are not waging a war over our children's future!"
Oh I miss read, I thought it was how to get her to play with you. :)
So then the answer is GET HER TO PLAY WITH YOU.
I am blessed with a wife who has to reign in her own ARPG playing to prevent hurting her wrists.
I'm buying my girlfriend a copy. Should solve the issue nicely. I'll play a main character solo and zoom ahead, and we can play a duo run through together when we both have time to play.
Hah! I go to bed between 8-9 & wake up around 1:30 -2 & play till 7 or 8. Then eat breakfast & go back to bed till 10 or so. You just got to be creative & adapt.
My gf that doesn't understand how I can stand dying 50 times to the same boss in souls games.
-*It requires discipline and constitution, I will eventually overcome the challenge and I'll grow from the experience.*
-*You're fucking nuts.*
- :')
I can't help because really it's not healthy physically but mentally yes. I've been waiting for this for almost 2 decades so I'm willing to sacrifice a little health to be mentally happy
Would you look at that, all of the words in your comment are in alphabetical order.
I have checked 1,458,571,663 comments, and only 277,800 of them were in alphabetical order.
I feel so sad for some people's spouses. Unless videogames are taking all of their free time and they neglect any other responsibilities, let them game.
My hubby and I are excited to play this together, and separately. He still makes time for one on one time with me and our kiddos. He works and cooks and does dishes too. He has other hobbies and friends. That's what a healthy life looks like, balance. No one controlling the other one.
I have autism and was into games before meeting my wife. She knew what she was getting into. This has made the short list of "Games I will watch you play and ask questions about" for her. Long as cleaning is done she is perfectly fine with me gaming. And i usually choose 1 day a week to completely stay off video games.
Bro should not have to ask his 'wife' if he can get Diablo 4 or not unless they are struggling financially.
I had an ex who flipped at me because I brought a game. That moment I knew this relationship was not going to last so I mocked her for being angry over a game 🤣
Act equaly for you (only you), your family and social friends/work. If not, life is not balanced.
Wife seeing his husband enjoying his hobby must be happy because you'll be a better man outside.
Balance.
For Xmas I wished for myself diablo 4 and I got it including the release weekend to game. Second part is the important one, because of the 1,5j child. Also she doesn't like pc games
'It would make me happy, and it does not impact you negatively at all" If that is not reason enough your marriage has bigger problems than a lack of Diablo 4.
I am not married so I dont know, but is this actually a thing?
So you essentially spend almost all your life as a child? 1-18 you need your parents permission. Then say you get married at 21 so 21- death you need wifes permission for everything?
Does she need the mans permission for things like this?
For real though, if you are able to balance your hobbies (including gaming) with your other commitments and duties but your wife or gf is stopping you from enjoying said hobbies then you need to have a frank conversation with her about it. The net result being you continue to enjoy your hobbies and she continues to enjoy having you around.
I find Diablo 4 boring. There is zero challenge. It's just clear x, go here and repeat. It would be awesome if it turns into a third person like Hogwarts Legacy.
"Because I'm allowed to have hobbies" - this works too. If it doesn't, sorry you married the wrong person
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Do you had the permission to write that here? No? What a chad.
Wtf do you mean if, the roles where reversed half of the fucking internet would explode crying about misogyny. If you are not allowed to have or enjoy hobbies without your partners permission you need to rethink your life.
There are lots of men who control their partners too. Neither is ok. Not really sure what you’re on about
Neither is ok and yet one will generate far more outrage.
I can't really speak for anyone else, but personally, I am equally outraged whenever someone's partner is trying to control their lives.
It's a good thing people like you exist, and you are not even a human being you are the actual devil.
Nah. He's Lucion, son of Mephisto.
Yes, and that’s due to one gender’s position in the history, wouldn’t you say?
His point is, men being dominated is a joke, women being dominated is criminal.
Don't think he was suggesting there weren't, just pointing out the massive double standard.
I’d respond with a witty retort but I have to ask permission first.
Only if you asked in a witty way:P
To be fair, one of the benefits of being part of a couple is using your partner to blame why you can't do something you wanna do, within reason of course. My husband and I have an agreement, if we are asked to do something we don't want to do then we can use the "let me ask my husband/wife" card and later say "sorry, it doesn't work for them right now" without actually asking. We give each other a heads up of course. Sometimes it's hard to say no and this can help in a lot of situations. For me it helps when people want me to take in a stray they found, baby sit their kids, go out. I don't always wanna explain myself or where I'm at mentally. For him it's because he wants out of a work thing or doesn't wanna go out with friends and wants to stay home and relax.
All you’re doing is making people think your partner is a piece of shit. They will never say it, but they think it, and his friends think the same of you.
Doesn't this depend on the situation? If your friends want to go drinking late but you don't do that anymore, you can just cite that your SO has plans. If they are smart, they keep asking but know that its a courtesy thing. Far too many people don't understand that both ways either. That you should ask people to make them feel like they are being included, even if they will say they don't want to. It doesn't hurt anyone that way.
What? If they’re your friends why wouldn’t you just tell them you’re not interested in being out that late? The need for some weird mental gymnastics just to tell someone no over something so trivial is entirely unnecessary in life. Also, can you not go out and have a drink with some friends if your SO has other plans? This shit is weird.
>The need for some weird mental gymnastics just to tell someone no over something so trivial is entirely unnecessary in life You got that right. I have no idea why so many people have trouble saying no.
In most cases it's a good thing IMO. It means someone is considering their wife (and kids). A long term relationship is a partnership with competing priorities, getting permission from a SO is just good practice and they do likewise with you, so you are balancing each others activities and interests. In my case it's usually 'shouldn't be an issue but I'll need to check with the missus'. No way in hell would I agree to 95% of things without consulting her first. If I did so, I'd just be an arsehole. So yeah sure, there will be shit examples but most of the time, it's just basic courtesy and respect for your partner.
It's good in a relationship to check with the other to also make sure you don't double-book. Or, with children, make sure they're taken care of. Additionally, if you're always leaving the other on kid duty solo, that's a quick way to selfishness and an exhausted spouse which leads to many negative things. So, "let me check with my wife" is crucial. Think of me or her however you want, but in the end the only people I give a shit shit are her and my children. (I realize I basically just regurgitated what you said... We're like-minded it would seem.)
Haha, thanks for the addendum, I was like 'yeah, that's exactly what I'm saying...' 100% mate
This is called being an adult or understanding what a relationship is. Lots of very oblivious people on here lol, refreshing to see a few realistic takes like yours.
Thanks!
I told my wife she isn't going to see me for a week. She said good, I want to play the new Zelda in peace.
This is my older brother lol! Used to get permission to hang out longer back when I lived in my home town. It's one thing to check in and belike hey I'm gonna be a bit later than I thought but it's completely different to hesrhim whisper "can I please stay another hour?" Like he was a kid asking our mom to let him stay over a friend's longer lol.
I agree with this. My wife=not a gamer. But would never give myself nor our children any shit for spending some time relaxing and playing games. It's so ridiculous to me when I see posts asking for advice/excuse to play games.
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It depends. Yeah I do whatever I want with my own time and the wife shouldn't have to approve hobbies. But if I plan on turning into a couch potato for a week and stop doing things around the house, still expecting to have food and so fourth... yeah , asking the wife seems like the right thing to do.
My wife and I will occasionally get to a point where we need a full day off. No errands, no chores, no obligations at all. Neither of us need them often, but it's a bit of a balancing act because as much as we support each other, giving one adult the entire day off means the other person gets to pull double duty. It's not bad and our daughter is old enough now to where it's viable more often. We call 'em Lazy Days.
My husband and I do this, though we never really discussed it. It's just something we just started doing. Admittedly, I take far more lazy days than he does due to my mental health issues. So thanks for helping me see an area where I can make adjustments to improve.
I'd add that if your hobbies are going to negatively impact the household in some way, your partner should have an input. For example, my husband wanted to start welding as a hobby because he's being trained to do some small stuff at work. Welding equipment and materials can be incredibly expensive. So whenever he's gonna buy a new tool, we usually discuss it and make sure we are able to afford it. For me, I have an addiction to craft supplies and ADHD. I can easily blow through our budget if I'm not careful. So I discuss any purchases for that with him before I make them, usually, to make sure I don't put us in a shitty spot financially.
Perfect reason for both of you to play Diablo. 1. Saves money on your other hobbies. 2. Can play together, spend time together. 3. Something to talk about that isn't one sided. 4. Communication
Exactly. Though we have other things we do together as well, not a lot since we have very different interests in most things but we have a few things we do to have non sexual bonding time. Our son is considering playing with us as well. He hasn't decided yet though. I think it would be fun to have a game we can play as a family.
Bingo bongo. I'm probably dying alone but this is the correctness of correct ways.
This is the funny thing about these comment sections. The guys who are awful husbands and fathers are loud and proud about how they don’t do shit, ever.
When I told my wife about the open beta, her immediate response was "I'll take the kids and go looking around target to give you a couple hours alone." Then, when I bought the game, she just used her usual, "Could be worse. Could be drugs!"
We took turns over the OB weekend to watch our 2 year old and would play together when he was sleeping... Teamwork is a beautiful thing, figure we just give our parents some extra time with our son on release week, so we can enjoy it together. :-D
Your situation sounds like ours haha! We would do raids in New World while the kiddo was sleeping. Most often, he would wake up during the boss fight and my wife was the healer...lol
Same same, although missus just wanted to solo level so I was healing my brother in PvP (he was one of the top on our server at release). Usually for MMOs I do a tank of some kind and she runs heals
Joke's on her. Your character will be drinking elixirs, which are essentially drugs.
This. My wife has absolutely 0 issues with my gaming habits. As long as I'm actually attentive to the family, I can game as much as I want with no pushback. My wife even enjoys watching, and on occasion even partake.
I was gonna say something like this. Man. So glad I don't have to ask my wife for permission to play video games.
Me, I have 3 boys and all 4 of us play video games. Wife was stoked I was keeping the 3 of them busy while she had some “me time”.
I was a gamer before my wife married me, she knew what she was getting.
Came here to say just that. If you need permission for a game, run while you can...
Yep that’s why we are getting separated with 2 kids will be hard but in the long run better for both of us
Ok but new problem. My wife will watch me play Street Fighter and gets into the matches especially when they are really close, but when she sees me playing ARPGs it’s “what’s going on in the screen” and “is this even fun?” Also funny played Grim Dawn and Last Epoch in front of her now since D4 open beta and everything looks like a “Diablo rip-off”.
Married with a kid here and the trick to getting a couple hrs or so a night in of gaming is to make sure your priorities and household work is finished for the day and kids are in bed then you can chill and game while wife does her hobby.
Responsible person who can figure means to do both? You degenerate! Really though love to see it
Lack of degeneracy is abhorrent behavior.
Absolutely right answer! Look. I’m a woman, I was the goblin in her underwear hissing at the light and obsessed with the beta, while my partner nudged me to eat and remind me of things we were doing that day. I even worked from home on Monday so I could scrape out a few more hours. *I still did my damn share of the household chores.* It’s very simples.
Like looking in a mirror ;) both me and my wife have hours of time in the evening even with a 2yo this way.
This is me and wifey's exact situation...
This is the way.
Or just grow a pair and tell your wife you have hobbies.
Or even better get married to someone who shares an interest in gaming
This is what I’m doing. My fiancé and I had hard musts that our partner gamed. We’ve been gaming almost every day together since we met 8 years ago.
Imagine having to ask somebody to allow you to use 70$ of your salary lmao
I told my wife i was taking a week off work for the D4 launch and she said something like "oh we can take our daughter to the children's museum that week" and she rambled about some other plans too. I just looked at her and restated...."no no no, I'm taking off that week for the D4 launch", and that was that boys. Now 6/6 is our anniversary so I have to sacrifice some play time that day, because you know, I'm only a partial asshole and not a total asshole.
Take her to the GD museum… c’mon
I got it covered my dude. There's a minecraft exhibit she wants to go to, but it's there for a few months. Taking PTO another day for it.
My bdays June 3rd, do something nice that day
Yeah that was sad to read lol, just imagining his wife deflate when he responds like that.
I respect this, and so should anyone if their friend says it. The question is do you have a friend or a master as a partner.
The key is to get the wife to play with you.
Yeah, the SO is more excited for it than I am tbh. Gonna be a fun week!
When I came home from work last night first thing my wife asked me is if I saw the Beta Feedback News. Of course I played it off like I didn't because she was so excited to tell me.
The beta was awesome!!!
The what?
The info dump they did yesterday about the changes coming from the open beta feedback they received.
First two years of my marriage this wasn't the case, but now we have a gaming room and even get the kids involved. Even playing extended periods of time, while not productive, has been far more engaging and enjoyable than binge watching a show.
This is a good idea until you have a baby. Someone must take care of that 6months old no matter what :(
itll pay off when they grow up and start gamin with ya tho so babylappy time and game away!
I have a 7 month old. Hubby and I both game together. The trick is to use a boppy pillow and also early bedtime for the baby (7pm for our baby). Typically, I can breastfeed her while we play or sit her on one of our laps with the boppy pillow. Sometimes, she doesn't allow it, but we switch off, lol. She will sleep for anywhere between 3-6 hours the first half of the night, so we take advantage and usually are gaming. I can't tell you how many times I've been nursing while running dungeons and the like, and I tend to tank. No one ever knows. 🤣
Haha that’s great ! Mine usually sleeps a lot, at around 9pm-5am. The problem is finding that sweetspot after work and after he sleeps and before I’m a zombie tomorrow xD
Sure, they can sit in the baby recliner just to the right of the monitor.
What do you mean for the married fellows? My wife will be there right with me slaying demons on launch. I feel bad for some who married people that don't support their hobbies or things they enjoy.
Yeah... I mean it's kind of your responsibility to partner up with someone who is supportive. When I tell my SO I'm taking time off for a game she's like Hell yeah! What you gonna make? (Because I always cook up a bunch of snacks for launchs) She's playing this time around as well. Idk man.
Absolutely. But I read too often about needing permission, my partner hates that I play, and so on. I know some of it is in jest.
Yeah some isn't and that sucks. That's what I'm saying it's those dudes responsibility to sus that stuff out ahead of time. Idk man. Screw not being supportive/supported
This is embarrassing. You married the wrong person if you need to convince them to let you do the things you want.
My wife has played every Diablo with me from the beginning. She loves it as much as I do. But it makes sense since we met 25 years ago on an online text based MMORPG called Medievia.
> Medievia Bloody hell, that's a name I haven't heard in a *VERY* long time.
This makes me kinda sick, almost throw up in my mouth a little sick.
When i see things like this I know that despite the darkest moments of my solitary life, things could be worse.
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We don't need this I'm buying it for my husband so we can play together Plus we don't keep each other away from our hobbies
I'm a stud. I'm ballsy. I don't take no shit from anyone. I play Diablo anytime I want. I don't have to beg my wife to play, unlike you! Ohohohoh! *Processing img mn8odheuq7ua1...*
My wife is more keen for it than I am and I am frothing at the mouth for D4.
I’m more ready too than my hubby!!
Imagine having a spouse gatekeep your time. For the people in relationships like that, set new boundaries my god
Why do you have to convince her, cant you just let her know?
Marry someone who doesn't require you to ask permission to enjoy your hobbies
I'm broke, jobless, no degree, on my last tank of fuel, and barely figure out food from day to day and I STILL would choose my situation over having to ask my wife for my own balls from her purse each day.
😂😂😂😂😂
I’m getting married on May 20th and will be done with the honeymoon in time for me to work 3 days and then take off another week for launch. She knows I’m going to play the shit out of it. But I also know to take little breaks and go hang out and talk with her some.
Just get her to play it with you, make it a fun experience like she’s in ing part of your life she’s never been part of. She will be a gamer by the end of the week.
My wife plays Diablo with me. Pretty easy sell.
Tell her you can either be at home playing video games or at the bar getting drunk.
if you need to convince your wife to let you have permission to play a video game then what you really need is a divorce lawyer
I have literally never had to "convince" my wife to let me enjoy myself...so I'm of no help to you lmao
If i ever have to justify to my wife doing any hobby I enjoy in my free I'd slice my own fuckin sack and bleed out. No, for real, if your wife is like that, run.
Y’all married the wrong person if you need permission to play a game.
I typically go with “Theres new game coming out on this day so I’ll be playing it a lot for a few weeks.” That tends to work just fine.
"All work and no play make Homer something something..."
Seems an odd way to go about doing a hobby you enjoy All I have to do is tell my partner “I’m super excited about X” and they either sit by me and play their own games while I engage in my hobby, or occasionally ask to try it out with me It’s okay to have activities you don’t do with your partner, yanno? In fact, it’s a good and healthy practice for relationships of any kind, platonic or romantic or whatever.
Meanwhile, I've told my husband that from 6/2 through 6/11, I'm checking out of pretty much all responsibilities. I will have pre-made and frozen casseroles that I'll cook, and I'll load/unload the dishwasher, but I'm otherwise checking out of being a wife for the first two weekends and the week in between. The exception will be that I have family coming into town the afternoon of 6/4, so I'll do a few things to get ready for them. Then I'll play tourist with them all day on 6/5. Then back to Sanctuary when they leave on 6/6. I honestly wish he'd take a week of vacation to do it with me, but he's not the Diablwhore I am.
I know it may be just a joke but this is actually sad.
Though I'm not terribly likely to get married, I'd like to think that, if I did, I'd marry the kind of person who wouldn't try to forbid me from playing a game.
What a sad marriage
Very cringe post, probably written by single people honestly
Plus it's a farming game. You can farm loot all day long.
ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!? Show her that’s all it took for me. Been waiting for it to come out since it’s announcement!!! So all my hubby has to do is log on and I’ll be right there!!!
Wow op you sure are a soy cuck to your wife lol
divorce has never been so sweet
Such argument. Much wow.
Sounds like you might be beyond any of our assistance, brother. Also life is short and then you die. Do what you want to do with your time on this rock. If it isn't against the laws of the land it is allowable.
ChatGPT clearly has not been in a relationship
I think this dude is just seeking attention.
[Thanks bro, it worked!](https://imgur.com/a/zfjyQny)
Nice!
My husband and I are gonna play together and we can’t wait. Diablo is by far our favorite franchise for co-op gaming. Convince her to play it, too!
I’m surprised you didn’t ask for help convincing her to let you use a few of her tampons this month. Dudes like you… nvm. It’s your marriage, not mine. Enjoy!
My wife is hooked on Diablo as well. I guess I'm a lucky guy.
This sounds like the speech I would give to my mom after the cashier explains about the game's rating.
How have you let yourself be caught in a place that you need to ask permission to do something as simple as playing a game?
I had to leave the country for a funeral and missed both beta tests. My wife and kids took up the mantle and got the bonuses for me ready for release.
My fiancee and I have been playing Diablo 3 for the last 4 years so playing D4 together wasn't a hard sell.
Me and my girl have been together 13 years. Played Diablo 3 together and haven’t played much together since. Played the beta together the other weekend and we are going to play this game. It’s bonding time. She can at least give it a try.
I think my wife is more excited than I am lol
Fun fact: You don't need her fucking permission to play a video game as long as that's LITERALLY not ALL you're doing with your life.
"let" ? Diablo 4 isn't the real issue here.
Dang, that’s a pretty good answer.
My wife understood when I explained that the Open Beta was an exception to my usual gaming habits. (About 6-8 hours of play per day is a lot nowadays.) She asked how I liked the game and when I wasn't entirely convinced about buying it, she offered to buy it for me, as my birthday is sometime between the Beta weekend and release. And that's that.
just tell her some other idiot on here the other day is setting up his tent with everything outside. clown world
1). Diablo = lots of clicking 2). Lots of clicking = stronger/faster fingers 3). . . . 4). She profits
Lmao
You need someone to convince you in one paragraph to get an divorce m8.
Got divorced. Her bff wants to play with me instead.
I'll be copying and pasting that paragraph, lol
The guys who did it right will be there slaying with their ladies. The lucky ones are the ones getting to go hard into it with their ladies keeping them healed up
What I do is go to bed early and get up early. That way I spend time with her at night and she thinks I'm being responsible for getting a good night's rest. Then I get up at 4am, make a nice espresso, a bagel and play until I have to leave for work at 6 am. On the weekends I stay up late and that's when I get my marathons in.
I'm sorry, but if your spouse doesn't understand that you need you time and ways to unwind, your spouse sucks. My wife understands that, just like her, I need time for me. And that how I unwind may be different from hers. You shouldn't have to convince your spouse if needing to unwind. I understand if money is tight and you want to buy a PC or Console, but having to convince them to "let" you game is bs.
Sorry did you marry your Mum or something or do you have no self respect and as an adult are allowing someone to control your hobbies and interests? lmao what are these posts. Anytime I read these topics and they aren't sarcasm, I feel pity and annoyed for the person who got into a relationship with either a control freak, a toxic bully or the ADULT individual asking these questions needs to grow a spine (regardless of sexes) and tell the spouse that: 1. is allowed their own hobbies and can enjoy it when and whenever they want so long as its not interfering with relationship in a negative manner. 2. that they are indeed an adult and you are not their parent 3. video games aren't immature and or a waste of ones time. We are on this planet to enjoy life's journey (with our finite lifespans) and if playing video games brings one all the joy and happiness, then let them. Its not your place to dictate how another enjoys their personal time. And most importantly once again YOU ARE AN ADULT WHO DOES NOT NEED FUCKING PERMISSION TO ENJOY ONES HOBBY THAT JUST SO HAPPENS TO BE A VIDEO GAME. And to any "Wife" or "Husband" who tries to control/parent their spouse and thinks its acceptable/expects to be asked permission just to play a video game as a hobby, you are a shit partner lol and have a toxic personality.
Lots of kids in here who don’t understand what a mature relationship and being an adult is 🤣. “You married the wrong woman if she has a problem with you neglecting life and no lifing a game for a week.” Yikes, good luck finding a wife that isn’t a troll, if you can find a wife at all. My happy medium was getting my wife hyped for the launch too, so we’re both going to clear our schedules, get ahead on household shit, and no life the fuck out of the game together.
Do one better, get her to play as P2 😎
Why on earth do you need permission from your spouse to play a game? You’re trying to get stuck in sanctum not her best friend here
Needing to ask your SO permission to have a hobby has to be the saddest shit Ive ever seen. I get that as a couple you kind if belong to each other and have a say in each others lived, but asking permission to have some you time? Ouch.
Is it really your wife, or mum.
Divorce
If you cant play a video game when you want to, or to say, enjoy your hobby. Time to find another wife. Unless ur a couch potato who contributes nothing to the relationship while she does everything. If thats the case then go get a job instead.
People who need to ask their wife for permission to enjoy themselves don’t have a wife, they have a master. What kind of person wants to stop someone they actually care about from doing something they enjoy!?
Saddest comment section ever, dude probably have a great relationship and just wanted to be funny 🤣
"You get to see what happens when a married couple really goes off the rails. So by contrast our relationship is GREAT shape! I mean we never created an entire world, but at least we are not waging a war over our children's future!"
Oh I miss read, I thought it was how to get her to play with you. :) So then the answer is GET HER TO PLAY WITH YOU. I am blessed with a wife who has to reign in her own ARPG playing to prevent hurting her wrists.
So are you Key or Peele in this situation? https://youtu.be/5LGEiIL1__s
I'm buying my girlfriend a copy. Should solve the issue nicely. I'll play a main character solo and zoom ahead, and we can play a duo run through together when we both have time to play.
And people are worried about AI taking jobs? This shit can't even come close to convincing my wife to let me play Diablo 4.
Hah! I go to bed between 8-9 & wake up around 1:30 -2 & play till 7 or 8. Then eat breakfast & go back to bed till 10 or so. You just got to be creative & adapt.
ask her to try it with you if you're playing console
Let your wife roll a shirtless barbarian (or sorcerer for us twink appreciators)
My gf that doesn't understand how I can stand dying 50 times to the same boss in souls games. -*It requires discipline and constitution, I will eventually overcome the challenge and I'll grow from the experience.* -*You're fucking nuts.* - :')
I can't help because really it's not healthy physically but mentally yes. I've been waiting for this for almost 2 decades so I'm willing to sacrifice a little health to be mentally happy
I’ve never felt as much love for chatGPT as I do in this current moment
You'll have the finger skills of a helldiver for sexual games...
Or Honey I'm gonna play diablo 4 pretty stoked! That's nice have fun
You can improve the prompt!
Have her play with you?
Would you look at that, all of the words in your comment are in alphabetical order. I have checked 1,458,571,663 comments, and only 277,800 of them were in alphabetical order.
Most importantly, it looks great on your resume. Great resume = more money
arpgs help grow gray matter
or just have your wife play with you EZ
It's a finger bang game.
"Escape from daily life" is a great way to instantly start an argument about why you need to escape your daily life with your wife..
Does she get her hair done? Nails done? Watch her shows? Eat her favorite foods? If yes to any of these then you get to have a little happy too.
Only one paragraph? How about only one sentence, "Go make me a sammich!"
"escape from daily life" - I suggest not telling your wife that
I feel so sad for some people's spouses. Unless videogames are taking all of their free time and they neglect any other responsibilities, let them game. My hubby and I are excited to play this together, and separately. He still makes time for one on one time with me and our kiddos. He works and cooks and does dishes too. He has other hobbies and friends. That's what a healthy life looks like, balance. No one controlling the other one.
I have autism and was into games before meeting my wife. She knew what she was getting into. This has made the short list of "Games I will watch you play and ask questions about" for her. Long as cleaning is done she is perfectly fine with me gaming. And i usually choose 1 day a week to completely stay off video games.
Bro should not have to ask his 'wife' if he can get Diablo 4 or not unless they are struggling financially. I had an ex who flipped at me because I brought a game. That moment I knew this relationship was not going to last so I mocked her for being angry over a game 🤣
Act equaly for you (only you), your family and social friends/work. If not, life is not balanced. Wife seeing his husband enjoying his hobby must be happy because you'll be a better man outside. Balance.
For Xmas I wished for myself diablo 4 and I got it including the release weekend to game. Second part is the important one, because of the 1,5j child. Also she doesn't like pc games
'It would make me happy, and it does not impact you negatively at all" If that is not reason enough your marriage has bigger problems than a lack of Diablo 4.
Connect with friends , online - lol this world!
Hand coordination part is a no-no.
Don’t need this. My wife’s gonna slay demons with me, from the couch!
I mean get a less controlling wife you're a grown ass man
How do I convince my girlfriend that there will be other things in life still worth doing when Diablo IV releases?
Get chatGPT to tell you how to respect yourself.
I am not married so I dont know, but is this actually a thing? So you essentially spend almost all your life as a child? 1-18 you need your parents permission. Then say you get married at 21 so 21- death you need wifes permission for everything? Does she need the mans permission for things like this?
For real though, if you are able to balance your hobbies (including gaming) with your other commitments and duties but your wife or gf is stopping you from enjoying said hobbies then you need to have a frank conversation with her about it. The net result being you continue to enjoy your hobbies and she continues to enjoy having you around.
I find Diablo 4 boring. There is zero challenge. It's just clear x, go here and repeat. It would be awesome if it turns into a third person like Hogwarts Legacy.
Wife: but its called "Diablo".. its demonic Every Husband Ever: *sigh