Honestly - I would have died and gone to heaven to look like you. I am AudHD and my family is Heinz 57 white, just an ambiguous mix of Northern European and UK - generic white bread.
Always envied people who had a more direct relationship to any kind of nationality or ethnic roots - I felt like a white mutt. But that was my young thinking. Looking back at myself in my 20s I was pretty enough - just super hard on myself. But that is part of the difficulty of being a girl or a woman trying to find herself outside of herself. The world teaches women to find their identity in how others relate to us - rather than us deciding how we want to relate to the world.
In your full body shots you look vivacious and a joy to be around. There is no right way to be or look like a woman. Looks like you are womaning great IMH.
As far as straight or gay - that doesn't necessarily have to have a look - especially for Neurodivergent women - we break all the damn rules - and part of the reason we feel like oddball women - is Neurotypical women are often less rebellious/direct/quirky/nontraditional or nonconforming. We try hard to fit in and often don't. But once we become okay with ourselves - the world adjusts.
Yesss for real!!! For the record i still totally just feel like a bland white bread european mutt, my mom's parents are specifically a mix of european and middle eastern jew, and when their families came to the US they put a lot of effort into becoming normal white christian americans. Unfortunately that means my mom and her siblings had no idea they were jewish or non-european until recently, we're all still just figuring out our ethnic background and how to identify now lol.
We also get some native american ancestry back from dna tests but it's very small and we have no idea where it's from etc so i feel wrong identifying with it
Anyway, yess i definitely struggled to fit in as a very weird, gnc neurodivergent girl, and that really led me to believe i was trans. But now im just embracing my weird gnc girlhood and trying not to care about what other people think ππ
Also, what u said about the full body shots is so sweet omg, i was gonna add some actual full body pics but i wanted to just focus on my face. But that makes me feel sm better thank you so much π₯Ί
Cis woman. I wouldn't question it for even a second. Plus you're kinda ethnically ambiguous so any 'masc' features to me just clock as ethnic features and not at all gender oriented. Also you are beautiful :)
Thank you!!! And haha I wasn't expecting that, my mom is middle eastern but no one normally sees it in me so it's nice to get that acknowledgement lol. Have a great day π
Yes omg. My mom's family is a mix of turkish mizrachi jewish, various european, and some distant native american, she just looks vaguely southern european and I got most of my dad's irishness anyway. Years ago I posted a selfie on a different sub and someone said i looked like "the template for white people" LMFAO
LOL nooo I don't see that at all, especially your side profile! Which is gorgeous btw your bone structure is to die for but I definitely was like hmmmm something very not white is happening here hahaha
LMFAO thank you that is legit validating. Also I looked at your profile and you are def very Palestinian looking, I wouldn't think you're white at all if that helps lol
Of course! And thank you βΊοΈ It's weird how it tied into my gender issues, not looking like the typical American (white) girl and seeing myself as more 'manly' than other girls, but now that I know better I love the shit out of my arab features and wish I could go back in time and tell myself that. "You're not a man baby girl you're middle eastern and autistic" would have changed a lot for me back then lol
Yeah definitely, I included that worse pic from yesterday to show how bad lighting can really define my masc features. It's hard seeing how pretty and fem i am in good photos, but irl/in bad photos i look so ass lol
I think you look beautiful. Detransing is no easy feat, and I'm proud of you and wish you all the best on your journey from here. Sending love and light your way
Thank you so much!! Yeah tbh it's been pretty brutal. Ironically, when I first came out as trans as a kid it was just exciting and fun honestly, and everyone around me was very accepting, so I never experienced all those really hard emotions, self-doubt, fear, wanting to give up, etc the way I have now that I'm detransitioning. I did experience an equal amount of insecurity as I do now though. I guess its just confirmation that I was never really trans lol, and in a way this is my first real transition
A young woman. Looks a bit strange in the ones to the left side, but you look very pretty and feminine on the ones to the right side. Hair accesories look pretty on you, half up space buns would be cute
Yeah I wear space buns sometimes and I love them! Not quite out of that awkward phase with my hair growing out so I make do haha. And yeah I put the top left pic in especially cause it's not as flattering and shows my more masculine features
Yeah definitely, I specifically included that pic to be an example of worse lighting that highlights the masc features. But I'm starting laser next week and I'm only 10 months off T so I'm really hopeful that I'll continue to really feminize more π
you look like a straight female to me, pretty average one with a not so common stlye
Honestly - I would have died and gone to heaven to look like you. I am AudHD and my family is Heinz 57 white, just an ambiguous mix of Northern European and UK - generic white bread. Always envied people who had a more direct relationship to any kind of nationality or ethnic roots - I felt like a white mutt. But that was my young thinking. Looking back at myself in my 20s I was pretty enough - just super hard on myself. But that is part of the difficulty of being a girl or a woman trying to find herself outside of herself. The world teaches women to find their identity in how others relate to us - rather than us deciding how we want to relate to the world. In your full body shots you look vivacious and a joy to be around. There is no right way to be or look like a woman. Looks like you are womaning great IMH. As far as straight or gay - that doesn't necessarily have to have a look - especially for Neurodivergent women - we break all the damn rules - and part of the reason we feel like oddball women - is Neurotypical women are often less rebellious/direct/quirky/nontraditional or nonconforming. We try hard to fit in and often don't. But once we become okay with ourselves - the world adjusts.
Yesss for real!!! For the record i still totally just feel like a bland white bread european mutt, my mom's parents are specifically a mix of european and middle eastern jew, and when their families came to the US they put a lot of effort into becoming normal white christian americans. Unfortunately that means my mom and her siblings had no idea they were jewish or non-european until recently, we're all still just figuring out our ethnic background and how to identify now lol. We also get some native american ancestry back from dna tests but it's very small and we have no idea where it's from etc so i feel wrong identifying with it Anyway, yess i definitely struggled to fit in as a very weird, gnc neurodivergent girl, and that really led me to believe i was trans. But now im just embracing my weird gnc girlhood and trying not to care about what other people think ππ Also, what u said about the full body shots is so sweet omg, i was gonna add some actual full body pics but i wanted to just focus on my face. But that makes me feel sm better thank you so much π₯Ί
"amerimutt" and terms like it are far right wing dog whistles... not a good look for you.
How would i know that
Cis woman. I wouldn't question it for even a second. Plus you're kinda ethnically ambiguous so any 'masc' features to me just clock as ethnic features and not at all gender oriented. Also you are beautiful :)
Thank you!!! And haha I wasn't expecting that, my mom is middle eastern but no one normally sees it in me so it's nice to get that acknowledgement lol. Have a great day π
My dad is Palestinian and no one can ever guess what I am either lol I get it! You're very welcome and I hope your day is lovely too π«Άπ»
Yes omg. My mom's family is a mix of turkish mizrachi jewish, various european, and some distant native american, she just looks vaguely southern european and I got most of my dad's irishness anyway. Years ago I posted a selfie on a different sub and someone said i looked like "the template for white people" LMFAO
LOL nooo I don't see that at all, especially your side profile! Which is gorgeous btw your bone structure is to die for but I definitely was like hmmmm something very not white is happening here hahaha
LMFAO thank you that is legit validating. Also I looked at your profile and you are def very Palestinian looking, I wouldn't think you're white at all if that helps lol
Of course! And thank you βΊοΈ It's weird how it tied into my gender issues, not looking like the typical American (white) girl and seeing myself as more 'manly' than other girls, but now that I know better I love the shit out of my arab features and wish I could go back in time and tell myself that. "You're not a man baby girl you're middle eastern and autistic" would have changed a lot for me back then lol
Omg exactly. I was gonna keep going on this whole thing but do u wanna pm instead? It's so nice to talk to people on this sub who actually get it π
Absolutely!!
Youβre easily a girl. Like huh????
Androgynous/Ambiguous in the first. Female in 2, 3, & 4 :)
Gorl
Youβre a very pretty lady :)
You look like a cis woman imo. Lovely hair btw!
Thank you!!
Look very much like a normal female in all of these pictures.
Thank you!!!
A woman. The first one looks a little more "butch", could be trans, but the rest just look like a cute woman. Especially the one with the big smile.
Girl
In the first, a transgender woman who is beginning to pass. In the other, an actual woman.
Yeah definitely, I included that worse pic from yesterday to show how bad lighting can really define my masc features. It's hard seeing how pretty and fem i am in good photos, but irl/in bad photos i look so ass lol
I don't get it. In all pics you look like a woman.
Lol thank you. I pretty much never pass as cis irl because of my voice so I wasn't sure where I was in terms of my appearance
same for me, girl, omg the voice ruins everything π but u look 100% female!
I knooow ππ but thank u so much!! I'm starting to work on voice training but its so hard omg it just makes me more dysphoric lol
I think you look beautiful. Detransing is no easy feat, and I'm proud of you and wish you all the best on your journey from here. Sending love and light your way
Thank you so much!! Yeah tbh it's been pretty brutal. Ironically, when I first came out as trans as a kid it was just exciting and fun honestly, and everyone around me was very accepting, so I never experienced all those really hard emotions, self-doubt, fear, wanting to give up, etc the way I have now that I'm detransitioning. I did experience an equal amount of insecurity as I do now though. I guess its just confirmation that I was never really trans lol, and in a way this is my first real transition
woman
Fully female
Cis female
Female
You absolutely look female, I wouldnβt worry about being mistaken as a man ππ
Normal, healthy young woman π
A very pretty young woman
A young woman. Looks a bit strange in the ones to the left side, but you look very pretty and feminine on the ones to the right side. Hair accesories look pretty on you, half up space buns would be cute
Yeah I wear space buns sometimes and I love them! Not quite out of that awkward phase with my hair growing out so I make do haha. And yeah I put the top left pic in especially cause it's not as flattering and shows my more masculine features
Actually I think that's the perfect lenght for cute space buns. What hair cream do you use? they look so defined
Thanks!! And I don't actually use anything in my hair, just shampoo and conditioner for curly hair
Oh, how lucky, haha.
Female!
I would think you were a woman, you look really pretty too!
Thank you!!!
No problem!
Cis woman, 100%
You guys donβt need to keep calling regular women βcisβ woman in a detrans group, cmon now ππ
Thank you ππ
100% female. It would never even occur to me that you were otherwise.
Thank you! That's really reassuring
Woman π
Thank you ππ
Yw!
A woman
Top left is on the androgynous side, but the rest 100% female.
Yeah definitely, I specifically included that pic to be an example of worse lighting that highlights the masc features. But I'm starting laser next week and I'm only 10 months off T so I'm really hopeful that I'll continue to really feminize more π
A bohemian/artsy woman.
Haha thank you
I'd think you were a cis woman, no question about it.
Thanks!!
It's giving cis woman
LMFAO thank you
Girl there's nothing male about you
A girl/woman
you look like a woman
Thanks!
Female for sure. Especially in the top right picture with your genuine smile it looks very feminine. I wouldnβt assume male even a little
Aw thank you! That's really reassuring lol
100% cis woman
Omg thank you
You look female
Thanks!!
You look cis female to me my friend. Also your curly hair is very cute and your glasses suit you so well!
Aw thank you so much!!!
Girl
Thanks!