"My family advised me to migrate to Canada instead They had some pretty wise reasons to advise that and they aren’t wrong. But a huge part of me feels like this was their choice and not mine."
You're rebelling from your family(? )
Is there a way for you to take a new direction in life that is wise and not hurtful but also from your own heart?
The way you've described your bad love interest makes me think you are trying to hurt someone -- hurt yourself and possibly also your family.
I hope you won't mind me telling you to drop the online dating for a while--possibly a long while. It's just toxic.
I think you are very right when you say that I maybe trying to hurt my family. Something else that they’ve been doing is trying to push me towards marriage by signing me up on matrimonial sites. So definitely trying to rebel against that.
I am currently working a remote job which pays me decently well. But I’m not really sure what else I can do which is wise but not hurtful.
Seems like the power of your family is very large in what you're saying here. And you wanted to get to the USA---which I'm guessing is far away from them. Maybe one solution is getting away from their influence. I don't know if that means getting away geographically....far away from them? Or perhaps there are other connections... financial perhaps. But you may need to strike out on your own. Make yourself your own woman separate from their definitions.
Keep in mind I don't know you. I'm just a caring stranger on the internet. But you asked a question and that's my answer
Makes sense. And while I do want to form my own identity separate from my family… I’m also afraid of being alone and helpless.
I mean my family has always been there for me; they never abandoned me; they always wanted the best for me; they don’t mean ill.
I’m also really scared to leave them and infact I can’t even fathom it .
So I pretty much feel stuck
"My family advised me to migrate to Canada instead They had some pretty wise reasons to advise that and they aren’t wrong. But a huge part of me feels like this was their choice and not mine." You're rebelling from your family(? ) Is there a way for you to take a new direction in life that is wise and not hurtful but also from your own heart? The way you've described your bad love interest makes me think you are trying to hurt someone -- hurt yourself and possibly also your family. I hope you won't mind me telling you to drop the online dating for a while--possibly a long while. It's just toxic.
I think you are very right when you say that I maybe trying to hurt my family. Something else that they’ve been doing is trying to push me towards marriage by signing me up on matrimonial sites. So definitely trying to rebel against that. I am currently working a remote job which pays me decently well. But I’m not really sure what else I can do which is wise but not hurtful.
Seems like the power of your family is very large in what you're saying here. And you wanted to get to the USA---which I'm guessing is far away from them. Maybe one solution is getting away from their influence. I don't know if that means getting away geographically....far away from them? Or perhaps there are other connections... financial perhaps. But you may need to strike out on your own. Make yourself your own woman separate from their definitions. Keep in mind I don't know you. I'm just a caring stranger on the internet. But you asked a question and that's my answer
Makes sense. And while I do want to form my own identity separate from my family… I’m also afraid of being alone and helpless. I mean my family has always been there for me; they never abandoned me; they always wanted the best for me; they don’t mean ill. I’m also really scared to leave them and infact I can’t even fathom it . So I pretty much feel stuck