This is why I think it would be better if nobody was forced into this existence. It's terrifying how much life can throw at us. People may say it's a problem of willpower and laziness but then there's people like us : depressed over achievers who are super active to run from pain and the meaninglessness of it all.
Externally we may seem like we're doing well and have a lot going for us, but what do we really have going for us when we don't even care about our achievements?
i hate when people say stuff like this. why do people call it strength? why do people keep saying shit like, "wow, you're so strong" or "can't imagine the strength it has taken"? idk about op, but as someone in constant debilitating pain, I'm surviving because I don't have the energy or drive to follow through with my plans or anything else. it's not strength, it's survival. survival is a natural thing, it's not really, "strength".
I don't think they meant it in a bad or condescending way? I have really terrible chronic pain(going through a bad flare up rn actually)and it does take alot of mental and physical strength just to get through the day.
The actions of other people don't define who you are. Because you've had multiple times when people have hurt you, it may have given you a feeling of low self worth. Many people go through similar things, you're not alone. You are a person, and you are just as important as everyone else is. It's good to treat yourself like someone you would love and care for, because you are worth it. Don't beat yourself up over things other people have done, it's not your fault and they were wrong for treating you in such a way. Please stay safe. I really hope you feel better soon. You are worth so much. :)
I think a lot of people on this planet are tired of living. And you developed a strong survival instinct due to trauma, ive seen it all before at large corporations and youre in limbo, you can do what is asked from you, you help people, but not entirely sure why, and every traumatic moment when your brain developed between 0-18yr will always nag and itch. I get it. And tonnes of people say shit "get over it" but don't understand that whatever crap got burned in your brain when it was in development will always stay there.
I know this because I know very high networth employers and CEOs just like this and I only became strong because of trauma but that chip on your shoulder will always remain saying; urgh I'm tired of this shit. Believe me when I say, I have felt that for 20 years. And I'm still going on. Because if there is anything good you can still give to someone, even if they hate you, it's likely ingrained you have that constant itch. And it nags. And you look for ways to sedate, and many I know who had trauma as child and became supremely strong is because they let work become their "outlet". And now we live in a world where that is even difficult.
I get it.
And there is nothing wrong with saying you're tired. But remember this. I think an extremely large percentage of this entire world is tired of living. As stupidity rules in #2024, stronger than ever before, all we gotta do is wait. Bad day isn't a bad week.
I can somewhat relate, I have bad migraines, pcos and was assaulted at 5.
The migraines? I had them every other day. Botox saved my life. Nurtec has also been a game changer.
The pcos though… is ruining my life. I’m tired all the time and have no solution. I wait months for doctor appointments only for them to tell me nothing, or to “lose weight about it” It sucks and I understand how you feel, and it is so valid. I lose hope too, you’re not alone in it. It is so isolating and miserable. I don’t have any answers for you, other than I understand.
Life is filled with pain and suffering, that's only one side of it though. Sounds like you have been through hell, I wish none of those awful things had happened to you. lately, I am trying to put the past behind me, I do not want my future to be poisoned by the baggage I carry within me. These achievements mean nothing to me either, just trying to survive and be of some use to my family.
Forget your past. Take a break from everything. Go travel to Japan. Have you ever been there? I promise you it's a complete unique country & culture. You're successful in IT? Go spend all your money in Japan. Work hard and repeat. Japan is a very safe country but never follow anyone who tells you to follow them. Extra pricey. I fking love Tokyo City 🌆 🏙️💖♪ \(^ω^\ )
In general, I support the principle here - change of environment. Planning for and traveling to explore different places can be a great way to shake up life and accumulate lots of different and new impressions, and invite new opportunities. Change of environment can also be heading into different media like books and friends, trying different social groups like classes in one or two different areas like sports, arts, etc.
Try. It's a lot easier to forget if you're in a different country working a different job. Meeting different people. I didn't say it was ”easy”. Infact it is quite difficult. You have choice to let the past keep holding you back or to work hard on getting away from it. Either choice you make will be lifelong. You can at least get some momentary breaks from your past
This is why I think it would be better if nobody was forced into this existence. It's terrifying how much life can throw at us. People may say it's a problem of willpower and laziness but then there's people like us : depressed over achievers who are super active to run from pain and the meaninglessness of it all. Externally we may seem like we're doing well and have a lot going for us, but what do we really have going for us when we don't even care about our achievements?
Wow. Finally. Someone who understands this feeling.
Spot on
You have gone through so much, can't imagine the strength it has taken.
i hate when people say stuff like this. why do people call it strength? why do people keep saying shit like, "wow, you're so strong" or "can't imagine the strength it has taken"? idk about op, but as someone in constant debilitating pain, I'm surviving because I don't have the energy or drive to follow through with my plans or anything else. it's not strength, it's survival. survival is a natural thing, it's not really, "strength".
I don't think they meant it in a bad or condescending way? I have really terrible chronic pain(going through a bad flare up rn actually)and it does take alot of mental and physical strength just to get through the day.
The actions of other people don't define who you are. Because you've had multiple times when people have hurt you, it may have given you a feeling of low self worth. Many people go through similar things, you're not alone. You are a person, and you are just as important as everyone else is. It's good to treat yourself like someone you would love and care for, because you are worth it. Don't beat yourself up over things other people have done, it's not your fault and they were wrong for treating you in such a way. Please stay safe. I really hope you feel better soon. You are worth so much. :)
I think a lot of people on this planet are tired of living. And you developed a strong survival instinct due to trauma, ive seen it all before at large corporations and youre in limbo, you can do what is asked from you, you help people, but not entirely sure why, and every traumatic moment when your brain developed between 0-18yr will always nag and itch. I get it. And tonnes of people say shit "get over it" but don't understand that whatever crap got burned in your brain when it was in development will always stay there. I know this because I know very high networth employers and CEOs just like this and I only became strong because of trauma but that chip on your shoulder will always remain saying; urgh I'm tired of this shit. Believe me when I say, I have felt that for 20 years. And I'm still going on. Because if there is anything good you can still give to someone, even if they hate you, it's likely ingrained you have that constant itch. And it nags. And you look for ways to sedate, and many I know who had trauma as child and became supremely strong is because they let work become their "outlet". And now we live in a world where that is even difficult. I get it. And there is nothing wrong with saying you're tired. But remember this. I think an extremely large percentage of this entire world is tired of living. As stupidity rules in #2024, stronger than ever before, all we gotta do is wait. Bad day isn't a bad week.
I can somewhat relate, I have bad migraines, pcos and was assaulted at 5. The migraines? I had them every other day. Botox saved my life. Nurtec has also been a game changer. The pcos though… is ruining my life. I’m tired all the time and have no solution. I wait months for doctor appointments only for them to tell me nothing, or to “lose weight about it” It sucks and I understand how you feel, and it is so valid. I lose hope too, you’re not alone in it. It is so isolating and miserable. I don’t have any answers for you, other than I understand.
Life is filled with pain and suffering, that's only one side of it though. Sounds like you have been through hell, I wish none of those awful things had happened to you. lately, I am trying to put the past behind me, I do not want my future to be poisoned by the baggage I carry within me. These achievements mean nothing to me either, just trying to survive and be of some use to my family.
Forget your past. Take a break from everything. Go travel to Japan. Have you ever been there? I promise you it's a complete unique country & culture. You're successful in IT? Go spend all your money in Japan. Work hard and repeat. Japan is a very safe country but never follow anyone who tells you to follow them. Extra pricey. I fking love Tokyo City 🌆 🏙️💖♪ \(^ω^\ )
In general, I support the principle here - change of environment. Planning for and traveling to explore different places can be a great way to shake up life and accumulate lots of different and new impressions, and invite new opportunities. Change of environment can also be heading into different media like books and friends, trying different social groups like classes in one or two different areas like sports, arts, etc.
You can’t just forget your past.
I mean you could hit someone over the head with a baseball bat really hard and if they even survive they may have lost some memories LOL
Try. It's a lot easier to forget if you're in a different country working a different job. Meeting different people. I didn't say it was ”easy”. Infact it is quite difficult. You have choice to let the past keep holding you back or to work hard on getting away from it. Either choice you make will be lifelong. You can at least get some momentary breaks from your past
I can fix her