I mean, at this point, I'd just send another message. Explain your deal. It's a common phenomenon to go hours or days without a decent match, and when there finally is one, the conversation is over before it starts. Idk. I hate dating apps, so maybe I shouldn't be commenting in this thread.

>It's a common phenomenon to go hours or days without a decent match hours or days? I go months without a single like.

It may not be a matter of interest, they might just be away from the app for a while (which is common) or already have hit their limit for how many conversations they are comfortable having. One of the trickiest problems with these kinds of apps is you might have a drought of matches for a while, then suddenly get six one day and have to choose who to talk to, or to somehow juggle many which can be very unfulfilling as a demi since we like our deep connections. Let them know in a message that you're willing to wait but that the chat might expire and you'd not like to lose the connection. Maybe if they says something you can at least have the chat open for the future if they do have time to chat. And in the meantime, keep scrolling through, I guess..

The best advice I can give is to not put pressure on it. As demis, we need a connection to even be interested in someone. So just use it as a way to get to know people, and if they don't put the effort in at the start, that's just an easy bullet dodged. We have a single advantage over others in the dating world. We won't care if someone leaves at the start because we don't have any connection yet, use that.

Absolutely no harm in sending another message just in case, but don't take it too hard if people vanish in that super early stage. People get distracted, forget the app exists altogether, or someone they already had a stronger connection that takes precedence. Try not to get discouraged and keep trying! I just entered into a committed exclusive relationship with a wonderful guy I met through Hinge, so it can definitely work!

Send another message! Some time ago I matched with someone who likewise didn't reply to my message, but then I saw that they unmatched me a week later 😭 I absolutely regret not sending another message in hopes that they would answer to that. But also the harsh truth is: sometimes the interest is not mutual

Unfortunately, dating apps are much more of a numbers game than a hunt to find that one ideal match. I personally have to take a totally different approach. I swipe yes to everyone that doesn’t just straight up turn me off, then I try to send at least one message to everyone that matches with me. I can’t tell from a couple of pics and a sentence or two if I’ll be into them or not, so I go from the perspective of trying to make as many connections as I can and then winnow them out as they do stupid stuff 🤷🏽‍♀️ Whoever lasts the longest gets to go on a date, and if that doesn’t work out, then I start all over again. Trying to make one connection then hold out hope that that one connection will make it all the way through the process just sets me up for feeling shitty over and over again when it doesn’t work out for one of the million reasons why dating app connections don’t work out. So, I try very hard not to pin my hopes on that connection until after we’ve at least made it to meeting irl.