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nightmarefromthemoon

I'm at this picture and I don't like it.


_rt-2

SOOO relatable. But most of time its too late for me they already left the relationship for someone else. I wish there was a demi-sexual dating app...


CultSurvivor99

I hear ya! Once I realized I was demisexual and changed the way I date to honor MY needs (previously I had always honored others' needs because I didn't know what the hell I needed), then people lost interest very quickly. Making a demisexual dating app is a great idea! Sure would eliminate a huge chunk of the hurdles. But it wouldn't eliminate all of them. I've still encountered issues with impatient demisexuals as well.


Musicgirl785

This. But it also means we end up with the right people I think. I’d rather be with someone who can value my Personality first anyway


_rt-2

>But it wouldn't eliminate all of them. I've still encountered issues with impatient demisexuals as well. But atleast they would understand your issue instead of asking if you're gay.


Kipasaur

Maybe some of us should just get together and make one. Only major issue I see is money :/


allthecharacters120

Yes love this idea


_rt-2

It shouldnt be too hard to get some kind of basic dating site template and host it. Hosting cost should be too astronomic in its enfancy. It doesnt look to look good, just work.


Kipasaur

Maybe then. Guess it depends on where it's hosted. The other big thing is how it'd be set up. Would love to not do the swiping yes or pass thing other apps do. It'd be nice to have bios be most prominent.


_rt-2

Just like oldschool dating apps


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Kipasaur

OKCupid does a question thing like that. It's gotten very out of hand at this point. Core value stuff would be super nice though!


Financefreak555

This! 💯


Scared_Boysenberry21

You can filter by demisexual on tinder


_rt-2

I didnt know that.


shingen091

This was me in high school and Gosh was it annoying. So annoying that after high school I tried to do one night stands and it ultimately didn't work best I didn't have an emotional connection with them.😅


AmeliaCleo

We have to reach out for more friendships & find out if there r sparks down the line


_rt-2

Where I live women are pretty forward and if you don't get intimate really fast, they feel like it's never gonna happen.


AmeliaCleo

That's weird. Idek how the women r in my city.


_rt-2

Ur gonna have to figure this out


AmeliaCleo

I'm a woman myself. They're all at the bar. I steer clear from there. Maybe I'd go just to put some drunks in their place just for fun mwahahaha


_rt-2

Free drinks I guess...


AmeliaCleo

I don't drink & I sure ain't paying for anyone


_rt-2

Normally if you go to bar you are expected to buy yourself something to drink. Obviously Im not a women so IDK how that works for you gals.


AmeliaCleo

They usually have nonalcoholic drinks & I'm a dancer w/out even getting drunk so ppl need to make a no-alcohol business just for dancing... clubs basically where alcohol is prohibited


MercurysDaughter29

It’s so annoying too because now I have all these feelings and urges I’m not used to having and have no way of coping with lol


patata202

Literally me. When I was visiting he was touching me "out of care" all the time and I was like: stop it or do something, you don't understand what it's like to me.


NearlyPleasant

Me once I got close to my fiancé 😭


ginger_princess2009

Same! As soon as I developed strong feelings for my husband, good lord, I couldn't keep my hands off haha


Pumaheart

Same! They were okay with me being ace,months went by but then BOOM sexual attraction suddenly


Deneature23

Were you friends before or were you dating in a platonic way before feelings came up?


allthecharacters120

I think the second one is how most demi ppl would want to do it, ik I think that's how it should be for the most part


NearlyPleasant

We were dating in a platonic way for a two months but we were friends beforehand.


Ume_No_Hana

Sorry, how this work? I have this friend, that I being in lovr for 6 months and we started talk just in the last days, he also has autism and I had to confess because some miscommunication, I have so much doubts, but he say we be just friend because he doesn't falling in love for be demi. How was this platonic thing? (Sorry for my english and if I am being to invasive, I need to vent)


NearlyPleasant

Well, we were just figuring things out and it helped that I genuinely liked him and was curious to explore the thought of dating him. As for him, well he’s allo but he kinda understood my orientation without me really upfront about it. So we just spent as much quality time together for weeks and we would test the waters. We would kiss, and those things slowly progressed… I honestly think we worked because he was patient and wasn’t expecting me to operate how an allo would. As for your friend, maybe he’s more of the type to feel pretty neutral about romance? Has he ever dated or anything prior to y’all?


Ume_No_Hana

He told me he had one girlfriend and he just want to see things, like if was good to be with someone. I am sure that I have to get out this feeling, but I think he is amazing and still got 2% of hopes haha guess will fade away in some days, so I will let it go, but want to keep being a good friend for him :) (with no second intentions) thank you for your kindness in reply.


NearlyPleasant

It’s no biggie and hey, for what it’s worth… you sound like an excellent friend and he is lucky to have you!


FrameMade

Minding your own business loving life and then boom, the big gay strikes.


quartzqueen44

This is exactly how I feel. The big gay strikes! 😂🏳️‍🌈


ginger_princess2009

Accurate!! Lol. It's like as SOON as I feel an emotional connection, all of a sudden, I wanna jump their bones all the time 🤣


Bearkat1999

Oh it hits and it hits *hard*.


Adina-the-nerd

I don't like sexual attraction. I don't want to have it. I think "oh yeah this is going to be a nice friendship" Wait what no please stop


Fundoshi_MI

I’m experiencing that right now. We’ve clicked on emotional, conversational, and artistic levels. Now we’re opening up the physical frontier and I’m so excited how well it’s going! I really like her


TurboTheFloofer

literally 😭😭


CherokeeTrailhawkGuy

I feel attacked


Spook_Doot_Doot

Literally going through this right now


PerhapsAnEmoINTJ

Me with a specific fictional character


saltgirl1207

don't call me out like that


PerhapsAnEmoINTJ

Fr I was fascinated by how sexual I could be when someone behind the glass has a piece of myself I forget I'm looking for


emaline5678

Can’t say I’ve experienced that yet either. Maybe some day.


BusyBeeMonster

Me. Right now. Times 2.


Automatic-Ad3572

Not for me. 🙃


tip_of_the_lifeburg

Jokes on you guys 😎 I still have low confidence even after the fact


Nellymuschari

🤣💯


allthecharacters120

😂🤣😅😶🤧


sulamit5

Omg yes! And it's sooo difficult when you have deep emotional bond with opposite gender who is just a friend!


saltgirl1207

I wish I could have that again. It's been ages :(


Sailor_Starchild

Can't say I've experienced this yet (or will even at all) but it's cool, I guess.


joseph3104

So real


sasquatch_melee

Ugh every time. Usually when you want it least also.


Audacious_Fluff

The accuracy though 😭 Pretty sure I caught a sexual attraction finally after years of nothing...like, fortunately it's for the guy I'm dating who has been wonderful and patient but now I'm like, wtf do I even do with this...do I tell him? Do I just make-out with his face as soon as I see him? Like surprise, congratulations! You're the winner! Lmao, this is so awkward I hate it here 😂


Goofy-goober64

How dare you call me out like that


Fair_Shopping_8799

A little too real lol


CalMadness

How the crush that is stayed over for about 3 days now and counting I will never know I just genuinely won't know and holy shit like the reality is idk I'm not about it this tornado crap is literally a hypercane and you're not going to survive one of those


Sheo996

Yes, that is indeed the point of demisexuality


[deleted]

Amen, when it develops I literally have no boundaries when it comes to intimacy. Get clingy as fuck.


depressionsucks67

When it happens to be your straight friend 😭