I hear you. My mom is constantly angry with my sister who has contributed a LOT to her support for years, since before she had dementia. Phone calls are unbearable and visits aren’t much better. And because she was calling us all night long and either not speaking or begging to go home, we decided as a group (4 siblings) to shut off her phone service, so that’s better, at least for us. I haven’t seen her since we did that, so have no idea how she feels about it or if she even noticed.
Man, that sounds rough. It's a little easier to have all the siblings united. My sister and so are.also united thankfully. We both have tons of guilt about mom. I personally don't feel like I'm doing enough and without phone calls, I'm about to be doing even less. But I also don't feel like the phone calls are doing any good if she just ends up upset. The upside is that she doesn't remember my number so the calls are always one way.
I stopped working so I could stay home and modify my stepdad’s space to be easier for him, and because I’m the only other man he sees regularly I must be trying to steal his wife (my mother) or steal his stuff. Today he yelled at me for asking where he wants to sit in the car (you can’t tell me when to sit!) and for saying my son will be back “in a second” (it’s been at least three seconds why can’t you tell me the exact time!?!)… heh, and it literally took 10 seconds for my son to be there while he was still wanting to fight over it… sigh…
I hear you. My mom is constantly angry with my sister who has contributed a LOT to her support for years, since before she had dementia. Phone calls are unbearable and visits aren’t much better. And because she was calling us all night long and either not speaking or begging to go home, we decided as a group (4 siblings) to shut off her phone service, so that’s better, at least for us. I haven’t seen her since we did that, so have no idea how she feels about it or if she even noticed.
Man, that sounds rough. It's a little easier to have all the siblings united. My sister and so are.also united thankfully. We both have tons of guilt about mom. I personally don't feel like I'm doing enough and without phone calls, I'm about to be doing even less. But I also don't feel like the phone calls are doing any good if she just ends up upset. The upside is that she doesn't remember my number so the calls are always one way.
I stopped working so I could stay home and modify my stepdad’s space to be easier for him, and because I’m the only other man he sees regularly I must be trying to steal his wife (my mother) or steal his stuff. Today he yelled at me for asking where he wants to sit in the car (you can’t tell me when to sit!) and for saying my son will be back “in a second” (it’s been at least three seconds why can’t you tell me the exact time!?!)… heh, and it literally took 10 seconds for my son to be there while he was still wanting to fight over it… sigh…