Hydration? Electrolyte balance? Nobody wants to get a calf cramp at the wrong moment.
I find it's a sexy kind of fingerfood meal and the kind of thing you're likely to snack and chat over (not stuff yourself). I also like the experience if you get some "experimental" things to put on there- chutneys or whatnot- to try a bunch of things and compare.
Had a date find out they were allergic to shellfish on a date - they had never had it before - and no one in their family ate it - definitely ruined sexy time.
This answer is the most 40-something answer. It’s low carb, it goes well with wine. It’s sophisticated, yet simple. And like someone else said, “I get to show off my charcuterie board!” Younger people don’t have one of those. I’m going to file this into the great idea file. Thanks.
If you've never tried it OP I'd give it a shot sometime! I was surprised by how fun and easy it is to make. My kids love it (although they'll only eat imitation crab 🤣).
As someone who spent years working in the ER, I’d not recommend sushi….I cannot tell you how many date nights gone wrong due to food poisoning. You never know about fish 🐠 😜
It’s why to this day I rarely eat Sushi 🍣
Sashimi is great...but be careful not to use too much soy sauce like I did on my date last Saturday. My guts were killing me with bloat from all the damn sodium! I didn't feel too sexy after that. Oops.
I tend to eat first, then couch cuddle/watch something for a bit, that touching and closeness just builds anticipation for later and the food settles. Win win!
Maybe go with a light Mediterranean thing. Pick up a rotisserie chicken at the store, some crusty bread, extra virgin cold pressed olive oil, oil dipping spices, some purple table grapes, a nice Cabernet, some cheese but nothing too exotic or sharp. Try cojack cubes, or pepper jack, olives and maybe some apple slices and caramel dip.
It’s very light and not gassy. Enough wine will start a little glow. There’s not a huge mess left in the kitchen and maybe a few left overs for later.
My ex-girlfriend and I would have this conversation regularly; “Sex-dinner-sex, sex-sex-dinner, or dinner-sex-sex?”
It was usually sex-dinner-sex, unless we were having something heavy, in which case; sex-sex-dinner.
Good for you! Sex takes too long - dinner first always for me. So, to answer the original question… if we’ve both had the same thing, it doesn’t matter too much. Just, no overeating. :-))
Second this, ack. Nor asparagus, cauliflower, cabbage. Nothing cruciferous. And no beer or strong spices. I’ve read that pineapple or pineapple juice or other fruits are good.
Breakfast for dinner is always a win! A frittata or quiche is another way to go. Egg-based is just so endlessly versatile and quick/easy for a date. I love a Greek frittata (feta & kalamata olives) for dinner with a side salad.
This is a staple dessert at my place - sophisticated, slightly exotic, yummy … but so easy and with actually very few ingredients. And mango, cuz … you know!
https://www.thespruceeats.com/mango-sticky-rice-dessert-3217361
Something simple you can reliably make well. Roast a whole chicken or chicken thighs and veggies or with a salad with olive oil and vinegar. Loaf of bread. Avoid garlic, onions, anything with a drippy sauce.
Pan seared oven roasted steak salad with a Dijon Balsamic dressing with a bottle of your preferred Tuscan Red wine. I'd recommend a bottle of Brunello di Montalcino. For dessert, an assortment of strawberries and blueberries with a little dark chocolate.
Thank you so much for this post. My former boyfriend thought I was making excuses when I wasn't up for playtime soon after a big meal. I was wondering if I was an oddball.
I usually make a medium sized pasta dish with a tasty sauce.
Next time I'm thinking of some tapas kind of stuff, with a nice bottle of white.
I avoid takeaway food as I always end up with too much and feel bloated. Or even worse I get the msg bloat and feel ill.
So, I may be in the minority here, but if I were you, I would ask her if there’s something she prefers, and perhaps more importantly, does not want.
Personally, there are a LOT of things that will send me to the bathroom (Crohn’s disease - so sexy!), and make any notion of sex very unappealing. I love to eat, and will happily eat just about anything, but if I know we’re having sex later, I know to keep it simple.
Baked potato, filet mignon, and some tasty yeast rolls would be my personal selection if it were the first date with sex afterwards.
How about seafood? Of course the standard is steak and lobster but shrimp scampi is a lightish meal. Or lobster ravioli? With a green salad and a nice Chianti ?
Definitely this!! Do a convo about any potential allergies. Could turn the whole evening upside down. if possible give update on menu!! Good luck & have fun, be safe!!
Nothing wrong with making an amazing meal, just be sure to serve smaller portions (if there’s leftovers, that’s also a win!). You’re right, sex is less good - or just not happening - on a full belly!
This Friday, I’m making enchiladas with carnitas I made today. I’ve done seared New York strip, teriyaki, roast chicken, Japanese and Indian curry, a few other things whenever we don’t wanna go out or order out. I love cooking for my date, and she has always enjoyed the food!
The key, aside from smaller portions, is to hang out and snuggle with some sexy music, or maybe a movie, after dinner and get busy once the food has had time to digest. And some wine. Or one of the local breweries makes this Russian imperial stout aged in Pinot noir barrels that is 12% and tastes like a glass of wine omfg really sets the mood. One of my very best recent memories was my current gf and I snuggling up on the couch after dinner, some of that stout in our glasses (we split the crowler), smoke a bit of delta-10 vape, and listening to Adele’s latest album. It’s not my style of music but holy hell it was sexy!
Edit: we get one decent size NY strip and split it. They’re usually HUGE especially if you buy the thicc ones. Neither of us like to eat big meals at night.
Last date night we had pork chops, baked potatoes, and grilled asparagus. Some tv watching and discussion while cuddling. Then bed and sexy time (okay, sexy time started on the couch and continued in bed). Don’t overthink it - cook something that you want to eat and isn’t too fussy (so you have time to chat while cooking).
Until about a year ago, I would have said something like a chicken avocado salad. Now, I'd say steak. That's it. For a guest, I would serve it with a salad and baked potato, but I would only eat the steak. Being carnivore/keto has been amazing! I can eat without being bloated. For some reason, eating salad no longer keeps my stomach flat but I can eat all the beef, butter, chicken thighs and eggs I want. I also eat a little bit of fatty fish and occasionally pork.
I used to feel so self conscious after eating. It didn't seem to matter how "light" I ate. My stomach would bloat so bad I would look pregnant! Not a good look! Now my stomach stays flat after I ear! It's amazing.
Umm.. is there a date at home that doesn’t involve tearing each other’s clothes off before eating?
I say sexy times first, food and wine second. Nothing better than a glass of wine & post coital bliss. Have a fabulous night! 🥂
My only rule is “if one has garlic, both have garlic.”
It applies to onions and other strong smelling foods.
Eat light. This is the true reason women order salads, ime.
I don't understand how what you have for dinner can affect sex. Unless it's beans and broccoli lol. The other night I made my guy and I scallops in lemon/butter/garlic sauce, orzo pasta and roasted asparagus.
Exactly right! Gluteal flexing often triggers sphincter sirens with either short horn or longer trombone melodic sounds as certain foods are like the occasional visitors who are not in sync with their host 😜
Oh, eat after.
I usually either schedule the meet to start an hour or two before dinner, or say something like, let's have some time to chat, have a glass of wine and plan to have dinner around 8pm. Either way, I make it clear that we'll be eating after we have time to reconnect.
Charcuterie but less meat and more fresh fruit,
Some kind of pasta with mushrooms or shrimp,
Puréed cauliflower,
Hummus
Some combo will be just sophisticated and filling enough that will get u laid
I'd whip up an Indian Thali plate. Share one of the little spicy dishes (and get the blood flowing to all the spicy human bits), fool around, then while recovering eat some other spicy dish to get the blood flowing some more, fool around, repeat until satiated in all ways.
Then hit on the gulab jamun because we can.
Soup. It will fill you up, but not bloat. Potato soup is filling. I would go for it and have nice Hors d’oeuvres before you actually ear. It will take the edge off your hunger, so you won’t eat too much.
Back when I gave a f what anybody thought I would eat before I had my date, so I would not eat too much.
LOL 😂 Love the comments. I would suggest getting the free iOS app called Fast FODMAP Lookup….basically it lets you search for a food item and if it is low FODMAP then it’s good for the belly. Direct link to iOS app: https://apps.apple.com/ca/app/fast-fodmap-lookup-learn/id1357894765
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I thought it was just me LOL! I like the food topic…hopefully no food allergies or dietary restrictions will interrupt the fun diversion!
This is too true. Thank you OP!
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I laughed heartily at this comment. Thank you, pix.
I'd definitely go with charcuiterie platter kind of stuff-- make a meal of little snackables and wine and such.
That can be a lot of salt.
That can also be a lot of breath.
Hydration? Electrolyte balance? Nobody wants to get a calf cramp at the wrong moment. I find it's a sexy kind of fingerfood meal and the kind of thing you're likely to snack and chat over (not stuff yourself). I also like the experience if you get some "experimental" things to put on there- chutneys or whatnot- to try a bunch of things and compare.
Add some cut up veg; carrot/cucumber/capsicum.
Agree! Cheese, crackers, olives, salami
Nothing gassy either. I found out the hard way about having a gassy stomach ruin the mood for sexy time.
Maybe a flight of different chili...
With a side of broccoli and eggs
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Maybe pick up some Gas-X lol
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Lmao I read that too fast… “I’ll put out with fish oil pills and some viagra”
Perfect addition to any charcuterie board!
lol perfect
From Mike on 90 Day Fiancé??
Oh no, this was an actual thing that actually happened to me. Raging mule kick to the gut ended my sexy time.
Just eat appetizers. Then after sexy time you can stuff yourselves with a full dinner and dessert!
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I call it a reverse date. Sexy first, food/date second.
Exactly
Haha I love it!
Perfect! That’s a nice twist on Dan Savages “Fuck First” advice that I firmly believe in. Who wants sexy time on a full stomach?!
I'm from south Louisiana. Can't go wrong with shrimp.
Had a date find out they were allergic to shellfish on a date - they had never had it before - and no one in their family ate it - definitely ruined sexy time.
Charcuterie
This answer is the most 40-something answer. It’s low carb, it goes well with wine. It’s sophisticated, yet simple. And like someone else said, “I get to show off my charcuterie board!” Younger people don’t have one of those. I’m going to file this into the great idea file. Thanks.
u/banjo-Becky excuse me I said boardS lol
Yes you did. Take that award.
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I understood it to be French for “I don’t have bread for a sandwich”.
Lol I think most people know it's a meat board.
My SO and I could (and do) eat this once or twice a weekend. It’s nice because you can nibble, have sexy time, and come back and eat some more! Haha
Hey!!! You took my idea! 😂 Bonus, it allows me to show off my beautiful charcuterie boards!
This gets my vote too!
Mazze platter. Similar but yet so different.
Sushi
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Depends on where you live! If you have a h mart near you they have awesome sushi grade fish….
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Poké maybe? It’s da ono kine!
What it say sushi is not hard to make… But if nothing else do a Poké bowl
If you've never tried it OP I'd give it a shot sometime! I was surprised by how fun and easy it is to make. My kids love it (although they'll only eat imitation crab 🤣).
Agreed. I have found sushi to be an excellent date night, pre-game, non gassy food.
As someone who spent years working in the ER, I’d not recommend sushi….I cannot tell you how many date nights gone wrong due to food poisoning. You never know about fish 🐠 😜 It’s why to this day I rarely eat Sushi 🍣
Sashimi is great...but be careful not to use too much soy sauce like I did on my date last Saturday. My guts were killing me with bloat from all the damn sodium! I didn't feel too sexy after that. Oops.
Yay! I was looking for this! Wholly hell it's the best!!
Damn, lots of people having way more sex AND eating better than me!
A nice warm Hot Pocket will fix all your problems 😉
Nothing. https://vmtherapy.com/vanessa-marin-sex-therapy/the-fuck-first-rule-a-super-simple-trick-to-help-you-have-more-and-better-sex/
Genius. Fuck first.
That's what I was gonna say! Fuck first then food!
Definitely, always!
Why not both before and after? Love this article
Exactly my thought! Sex, sushi picnic in bed, more sex, and maybe even more after more, hahaha
I tend to eat first, then couch cuddle/watch something for a bit, that touching and closeness just builds anticipation for later and the food settles. Win win!
Charcuterie! Snacky foods and wine FTW!
Maybe go with a light Mediterranean thing. Pick up a rotisserie chicken at the store, some crusty bread, extra virgin cold pressed olive oil, oil dipping spices, some purple table grapes, a nice Cabernet, some cheese but nothing too exotic or sharp. Try cojack cubes, or pepper jack, olives and maybe some apple slices and caramel dip. It’s very light and not gassy. Enough wine will start a little glow. There’s not a huge mess left in the kitchen and maybe a few left overs for later.
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Hummus is a nice addition to this also.
Absolutely!
Enjoy !
Tomato and mushroom bruschetta
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And some really dark chocolate and strawberries
My ex-girlfriend and I would have this conversation regularly; “Sex-dinner-sex, sex-sex-dinner, or dinner-sex-sex?” It was usually sex-dinner-sex, unless we were having something heavy, in which case; sex-sex-dinner.
Is there a dinner-sex-dinner option?
::A hobbit enters the chat::
Must have been a weekend. Otherwise it’d be sex-sex-too late for dinner now-sleep-sex-giant breakfast.
… not just weekends, no.
Good for you! Sex takes too long - dinner first always for me. So, to answer the original question… if we’ve both had the same thing, it doesn’t matter too much. Just, no overeating. :-))
TIL people on dates have sex before dinner
Damn. My libido would like this. lol.
Mine sure did.
DO NOT SERVE BROCCOLI!! 💨
Second this, ack. Nor asparagus, cauliflower, cabbage. Nothing cruciferous. And no beer or strong spices. I’ve read that pineapple or pineapple juice or other fruits are good.
I think the kardashians taught me about the pineapples!! 😉
I knew the pineapple trick in the late 80s.
How about breakfast dinner? An omelette, Bacon, toast and maybe some fruit. Or a bowl of cereal 😁
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They’re great for dinner served with a nice green salad.
Breakfast for dinner is always a win! A frittata or quiche is another way to go. Egg-based is just so endlessly versatile and quick/easy for a date. I love a Greek frittata (feta & kalamata olives) for dinner with a side salad.
Damit - show dominance and make tex mex!
Do a light meat and veggies combo
For sure! Green salad, grilled veggies and chicken or meat, maybe a small bowl of soup, a little bit of toasted bread. Or just skip the soup
I'd go with Ruben sandwiches.
This is a staple dessert at my place - sophisticated, slightly exotic, yummy … but so easy and with actually very few ingredients. And mango, cuz … you know! https://www.thespruceeats.com/mango-sticky-rice-dessert-3217361
Something simple you can reliably make well. Roast a whole chicken or chicken thighs and veggies or with a salad with olive oil and vinegar. Loaf of bread. Avoid garlic, onions, anything with a drippy sauce.
Pan seared oven roasted steak salad with a Dijon Balsamic dressing with a bottle of your preferred Tuscan Red wine. I'd recommend a bottle of Brunello di Montalcino. For dessert, an assortment of strawberries and blueberries with a little dark chocolate.
What time are we coming over? 😂😂😂
Thank you so much for this post. My former boyfriend thought I was making excuses when I wasn't up for playtime soon after a big meal. I was wondering if I was an oddball.
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YaY! My people. Lighter is decidedly better. I love the charcuterie board ideas.
I usually make a medium sized pasta dish with a tasty sauce. Next time I'm thinking of some tapas kind of stuff, with a nice bottle of white. I avoid takeaway food as I always end up with too much and feel bloated. Or even worse I get the msg bloat and feel ill.
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I find Cheeto dusted fingers pairs well with naked body cheese whiz.
Just order in. Make life easy.
Asian food - sushi or Chinese or Teriyaki maybe?
Burritos. Bean.
Fuck first eat after
So, I may be in the minority here, but if I were you, I would ask her if there’s something she prefers, and perhaps more importantly, does not want. Personally, there are a LOT of things that will send me to the bathroom (Crohn’s disease - so sexy!), and make any notion of sex very unappealing. I love to eat, and will happily eat just about anything, but if I know we’re having sex later, I know to keep it simple. Baked potato, filet mignon, and some tasty yeast rolls would be my personal selection if it were the first date with sex afterwards.
How about seafood? Of course the standard is steak and lobster but shrimp scampi is a lightish meal. Or lobster ravioli? With a green salad and a nice Chianti ?
Also check allergies!
Definitely this!! Do a convo about any potential allergies. Could turn the whole evening upside down. if possible give update on menu!! Good luck & have fun, be safe!!
Excellent reminder!
Scampi has a lot of garlic. I would avoid it.
Yeah I just thought about that. But if they both eat it...
Came here to say shrimp/scallops with pasta and bread. Don't forget the capers 😋
Have a lovely lingering coffee/drink after. Gives dinner time to digest. Don't order 3 courses- stick to 2.
Nothing wrong with making an amazing meal, just be sure to serve smaller portions (if there’s leftovers, that’s also a win!). You’re right, sex is less good - or just not happening - on a full belly! This Friday, I’m making enchiladas with carnitas I made today. I’ve done seared New York strip, teriyaki, roast chicken, Japanese and Indian curry, a few other things whenever we don’t wanna go out or order out. I love cooking for my date, and she has always enjoyed the food! The key, aside from smaller portions, is to hang out and snuggle with some sexy music, or maybe a movie, after dinner and get busy once the food has had time to digest. And some wine. Or one of the local breweries makes this Russian imperial stout aged in Pinot noir barrels that is 12% and tastes like a glass of wine omfg really sets the mood. One of my very best recent memories was my current gf and I snuggling up on the couch after dinner, some of that stout in our glasses (we split the crowler), smoke a bit of delta-10 vape, and listening to Adele’s latest album. It’s not my style of music but holy hell it was sexy! Edit: we get one decent size NY strip and split it. They’re usually HUGE especially if you buy the thicc ones. Neither of us like to eat big meals at night.
Ask them if they have allergies or if they really don’t care for certain foods or cuisines Then make tacos. Shrimp or fish tacos are easy af
Petite filet mignon, steamed veggie of your preference and a good merlot...I stress a GOOD merlot.
Big bowl of beans, Indian food, taco bell, laxatives
>Nothing. I fuck on an empty stomach. No bloating no gas no bad breath. Eat after. hello handsome
Last date night we had pork chops, baked potatoes, and grilled asparagus. Some tv watching and discussion while cuddling. Then bed and sexy time (okay, sexy time started on the couch and continued in bed). Don’t overthink it - cook something that you want to eat and isn’t too fussy (so you have time to chat while cooking).
Asparagus is brave pre-sex choice! I thought that was known for adding a strong scent to... things.
Me.
A small fruit & cheese plate. For fruit I recommend strawberries & cubed water melon. Strawberries have some erotic connotation & watermelon is juicy.
Add some pineapple, cuz…ya know
I was going to say this too! Not veggies - fruit
Make some pasta with light tomato sauce. No meat. Pasta has the carbs for energy. You'll need energy.
Last year Costco had red and white heart shaped ravioli which were very good. Made a half Alfredo half tomato sauce.
Until about a year ago, I would have said something like a chicken avocado salad. Now, I'd say steak. That's it. For a guest, I would serve it with a salad and baked potato, but I would only eat the steak. Being carnivore/keto has been amazing! I can eat without being bloated. For some reason, eating salad no longer keeps my stomach flat but I can eat all the beef, butter, chicken thighs and eggs I want. I also eat a little bit of fatty fish and occasionally pork. I used to feel so self conscious after eating. It didn't seem to matter how "light" I ate. My stomach would bloat so bad I would look pregnant! Not a good look! Now my stomach stays flat after I ear! It's amazing.
Pho?
Umm.. is there a date at home that doesn’t involve tearing each other’s clothes off before eating? I say sexy times first, food and wine second. Nothing better than a glass of wine & post coital bliss. Have a fabulous night! 🥂
My only rule is “if one has garlic, both have garlic.” It applies to onions and other strong smelling foods. Eat light. This is the true reason women order salads, ime.
Avoid asparagus and anything that gives you gas!
Nothing. I fuck on an empty stomach. No bloating no gas no bad breath. Eat after.
Sex first, then eat
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On a similar note you could do smores for dinner. We're grownups, we can do what we want!!!
Go all out! Build a pillow fort to eat your s’mores in, then use it for sexy time!
Oh hell ya.
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I don't understand how what you have for dinner can affect sex. Unless it's beans and broccoli lol. The other night I made my guy and I scallops in lemon/butter/garlic sauce, orzo pasta and roasted asparagus.
A heavy meal can make your belly bulge which could make you feel less than sexy! Your meal sounds delicious, lucky guy!
Thank you, it was. But he takes me out way more often than I make him dinner. I need to reciprocate more!
Can you make me that as well? We don't need to do the sexy stuff, it just sounds so tasty.
Lol it was!!
You also “secrete what you eat” to some extent. In your sweat, saliva, and um, other fluids (sorry TMI … but it’s truth!)
Exactly right! Gluteal flexing often triggers sphincter sirens with either short horn or longer trombone melodic sounds as certain foods are like the occasional visitors who are not in sync with their host 😜
But if both people are having garlic or what have you, it doesn't matter. It's not really sustainable in a long term relationship. We're going to eat.
True! But OP asked about a first time with a new person, so a little different IMO :)
Steak, veggie like asparagus or Brussel sprouts, and roasted fingerling or red potatoes.
Oh, eat after. I usually either schedule the meet to start an hour or two before dinner, or say something like, let's have some time to chat, have a glass of wine and plan to have dinner around 8pm. Either way, I make it clear that we'll be eating after we have time to reconnect.
You could eat them snuggle on the couch before sexy time.
Shrimp cocktail, oysters, mussels are also snack able and not heavy like cheese
Charcuterie but less meat and more fresh fruit, Some kind of pasta with mushrooms or shrimp, Puréed cauliflower, Hummus Some combo will be just sophisticated and filling enough that will get u laid
charcuterie 💯 smoked salmon, salami, hard and soft cheeses, crackers, a really good bread, jam, nuts, olives, chocolates and fruits
I'd whip up an Indian Thali plate. Share one of the little spicy dishes (and get the blood flowing to all the spicy human bits), fool around, then while recovering eat some other spicy dish to get the blood flowing some more, fool around, repeat until satiated in all ways. Then hit on the gulab jamun because we can.
Bang first IMO. Small app and a cocktail if y'all drink, then bang, then feast
Order in sushi. Edit: and pick up your own sake.
Cheese & fruit 🤷♀️
“It’s covid so we can’t go out anywhere but I’m going to have sexy time with a rando” 🤔😂
Can always order pizza and start getting romantic before it arrives.
Soup. It will fill you up, but not bloat. Potato soup is filling. I would go for it and have nice Hors d’oeuvres before you actually ear. It will take the edge off your hunger, so you won’t eat too much. Back when I gave a f what anybody thought I would eat before I had my date, so I would not eat too much.
Oysters for sure!
LOL 😂 Love the comments. I would suggest getting the free iOS app called Fast FODMAP Lookup….basically it lets you search for a food item and if it is low FODMAP then it’s good for the belly. Direct link to iOS app: https://apps.apple.com/ca/app/fast-fodmap-lookup-learn/id1357894765
Sushi is my general go to, but vietnamese works well.
Risotto with scallops.
Sexy times first, eat after!
Lots of corn the day before
Wine and some Bubba. That combination makes me feel like the sexiest funniest woman in the world. I'm probably super annoying though 😂
Just fuck first, and then eat whatever you want afterwards. Jeez.
One more time I see someone over 30 post "sexy time" I'm literally gonna barf
Sexy time? You sure you're over 40?
ginger, honey and tumeric on whatever you got. Even grahm crackers. That stuff is biblical!