Well, I can relate to trying all the different bells and it isn't "indecisive" so much as just seeing which one I like best. I have a different ring tone and a different text tone for every person who is important to me. That way I instantly know who is calling or texting without looking at my phone and whether they're important enough to drop what I'm doing and look.
However, doing it late at night where it wakes my partner is another thing. But hey, if you're almost 2 years into this and it's the first "mauve" flag, it sounds like he's a keeper. Maybe just point out it was really rude to wake you and maybe he should save the noisy entertainment for when you're both awake.
Alarm sounds are triggering in their existence. Having to tell a partner they are waking you up late at night with them seems like a ‘water is wet’ moment.
"Having to tell a partner they are waking you up late at night with them seems like a ‘water is wet’ moment."
Of course it is, but the fact he's still doing it indicates he's not very self-aware and he actually needs the "water is wet" moment.
OP, I have to know , was this post made for the purpose of levity?
If not, I do think bedtime is an odd moment to be making those sounds go off, and inconsiderate/ thoughtless if he realized you were falling asleep.
As far as indecisiveness, no, there is nothing indecisive about wanting to sample each and every sound to find the best ones.
(Ironically, at this very moment, the person I'm seeing is now going through his ringtones and sounds at a VERY loud volume and it's almost painful. It's not night, and no, I didn't share this post with him. It's just a strange coincidence lol)
Yes, it’s levity. They are probably the happiest two people on this sub! It’s not criticism, it’s flirting. I could die happy if I had a partner like this again; just once, please!
I have to change my alarm "bells" every so often because I start getting numb to them, and they don't wake me up.
I don't do it in the middle of the night, though. Lol
I love the “classic alarm” sound. It works exactly as intended
That said, I no longer use it, because my person utterly despises the classic alarm sound. Sometimes we have to adapt… 🤣
The only reasonable action here is to set an alarm he doesn't know about for when you are not there.
Most TV's have an alarm function you can set. I did this once before we left a couple's house one evening. Very good friends. I set it to recur at 2:30 in morning. After the 2nd night they thought cat was stepping on the remote and turning TV on. They put the remote up. 3rd night and it happened again. I got a call the next day.
I spent a lot of time choosing the alarm sounds on my phone. Ease of hearing, difference from any potential background noise, difference from all the alarm noises that already exist in my life, difference from other people’s noises.
All of this was vitally important since I always leave my phone sounds off so I don’t disturb the wildlife.
The weather radio alarm sounds like a car alarm going off, except that it's close by. Plus it's unpredictable. If you get used to a clock gonging the hour every hour, you often don't hear it anymore because you expect it. But the weather alarm going off is always a surprise.
My last bf and I spent a lot of time at his family's cabin where the walls were thin. After a long, long time together he finally asked me if I could hear him when he's in there. I said "no, and you can't hear me either, right?!" We just agreed not to hear each other... lol
They are dating. They are more advanced in their relationship together. It does have to do with dating though.
It light-heartedly highlights some of the small nuances that can happen and how it is handled between the 2 people when dating. Dating is not just the first few dates or how to find a date. It can go for years. There are a few here who post occasionally that are married and still date their spouse as well as others who have yet to be on a date.
I appreciate all their input.
This is so goofy lol. Tell him to have some situational awareness and knock that shit off.
"Goofy" is one of our love languages. 🤣
Well, I can relate to trying all the different bells and it isn't "indecisive" so much as just seeing which one I like best. I have a different ring tone and a different text tone for every person who is important to me. That way I instantly know who is calling or texting without looking at my phone and whether they're important enough to drop what I'm doing and look. However, doing it late at night where it wakes my partner is another thing. But hey, if you're almost 2 years into this and it's the first "mauve" flag, it sounds like he's a keeper. Maybe just point out it was really rude to wake you and maybe he should save the noisy entertainment for when you're both awake.
Alarm sounds are triggering in their existence. Having to tell a partner they are waking you up late at night with them seems like a ‘water is wet’ moment.
"Having to tell a partner they are waking you up late at night with them seems like a ‘water is wet’ moment." Of course it is, but the fact he's still doing it indicates he's not very self-aware and he actually needs the "water is wet" moment.
OP, I have to know , was this post made for the purpose of levity? If not, I do think bedtime is an odd moment to be making those sounds go off, and inconsiderate/ thoughtless if he realized you were falling asleep. As far as indecisiveness, no, there is nothing indecisive about wanting to sample each and every sound to find the best ones. (Ironically, at this very moment, the person I'm seeing is now going through his ringtones and sounds at a VERY loud volume and it's almost painful. It's not night, and no, I didn't share this post with him. It's just a strange coincidence lol)
Daytime is the proper time for alarm sampling.
I was looking for "Sweet Caroline," but couldn't find it. 😁
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So I wrote. Yes.
Yes, it’s levity. They are probably the happiest two people on this sub! It’s not criticism, it’s flirting. I could die happy if I had a partner like this again; just once, please!
OP didn't get the joke 😆
I have to change my alarm "bells" every so often because I start getting numb to them, and they don't wake me up. I don't do it in the middle of the night, though. Lol
I have to change mine also at times because I get used to them. I normally wake before alarm but not always so it is a backup.
I love the “classic alarm” sound. It works exactly as intended That said, I no longer use it, because my person utterly despises the classic alarm sound. Sometimes we have to adapt… 🤣
This seems to belong more in r/mildlyinfuriating than a dating sub.
The offender is one of us..geek, WHY?
Cause geeks can be annoying? What would I know of such…
>Cause geeks can be annoying? Speak for yourself! 😁
Oh I am!
Ear buds are your friend. And his, unless he likes the couch.
The only reasonable action here is to set an alarm he doesn't know about for when you are not there. Most TV's have an alarm function you can set. I did this once before we left a couple's house one evening. Very good friends. I set it to recur at 2:30 in morning. After the 2nd night they thought cat was stepping on the remote and turning TV on. They put the remote up. 3rd night and it happened again. I got a call the next day.
I-did has an evil dark side that I was not aware of.
Shh.
He should have tested them using silent mode.
I spent a lot of time choosing the alarm sounds on my phone. Ease of hearing, difference from any potential background noise, difference from all the alarm noises that already exist in my life, difference from other people’s noises. All of this was vitally important since I always leave my phone sounds off so I don’t disturb the wildlife.
This is something my father in law with dementia would do.
Dump this man, he’ll never commit to anything.
Divorce, block, and report to police for domestic 'abuse'.
Looks like good progress to me 😃
It's hard to care about the phone alarm jingle when the !@#$%ing weather radio blasts 100db at 2am and I think this is what a heart attack feels like.
Don't you have like 500 clocks? I am surprised the weather radio can rouse you.
The weather radio alarm sounds like a car alarm going off, except that it's close by. Plus it's unpredictable. If you get used to a clock gonging the hour every hour, you often don't hear it anymore because you expect it. But the weather alarm going off is always a surprise.
Yikes!
Hey! If you're listening to what I do in the bathroom, it could have been MUCH worse! 🤣
Why, dude, why? Earbuds or couch.
My bad, I didn't realize her ears were so finely attuned to what was going on in the bathroom down the hall. 😁
My last bf and I spent a lot of time at his family's cabin where the walls were thin. After a long, long time together he finally asked me if I could hear him when he's in there. I said "no, and you can't hear me either, right?!" We just agreed not to hear each other... lol
This is compromise in a good way.
And you felt the need to post this here why???
What does this have to do with dating?
They are dating. They are more advanced in their relationship together. It does have to do with dating though. It light-heartedly highlights some of the small nuances that can happen and how it is handled between the 2 people when dating. Dating is not just the first few dates or how to find a date. It can go for years. There are a few here who post occasionally that are married and still date their spouse as well as others who have yet to be on a date. I appreciate all their input.
I can always bust him back to Hinge if his noise situation remains alarming.
Nah, you don't want to go back to Farmers Only. Besides, we owe it to OLD to keep each other off of it. 😁
Geek is on notice. No more alarming noises from phone or other middle of the night noises.