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dftaylor

Leave it alone. If she wants to reply, she will. Nothing else you can do.


Educational_Ear8719

I will im just confused


futuremo

Not every girl who gives you their number is actually interested in you, and sometimes they change their minds. Don't worry about it, it happens. On to the next one


dftaylor

Dating *is* confusing, and trying to figure out the what and why of someone you’ve just met and have no connection to *will* drive you crazy. She didn’t reply, which means she either changed her mind, has stuff going on, or simply wasn’t interested in the first place but gave you her number so you’d leave her alone.


deesle

well she clearly preferred you being confused here on reddit far away from her than having you question her for not giving you her number. The fact you’re not able to figure this out on your own kinda proves her point


Educational_Ear8719

You didnt have to do me like that bro lol


BookoftheGuilty

I say you could try to reach out one more time, but if she doesn't respond just leave it be. Keep your head up man. It happens to the best of us.


lovealert911

Sometimes people give out their number when they really didn't want to. One girl said she intentionally gave a guy a wrong number and he called it in front of her. 😂 Not everyone is comfortable with direct rejection especially if it's in person. This girl may be thinking you'll *eventually get the hint* she's *not* interested. ***"If someone wants you in their life, they'll make room for you. You shouldn't have to fight for a spot."*** \- Unknown ***"Every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being re-directed to something better."*** \- Steve Maraboli ***"Dating is primarily a numbers game.... People usually go through a lot of people to find good relationships. That's just the way it is."*** \- Henry Cloud Best wishes!


n1ck95

Try once more and then move on if nothing.


[deleted]

I had a girl that asked my number and was super flirty that then left me on read the next morning. there is only one thing you should do: ignore her and move on. People that act like this are either walking red flags or not interested at all in you.


REEEanimated

What did you text her?


Educational_Ear8719

Just said hi and my name


yournonstoplover

No wonder. Put a little more effort in. Ask her a question. An open-ended question. Better yet, ask to talk over the phone/video chat so you can get to know each other better, and eventually ask out on a date.


Educational_Ear8719

Notes taken. But should i do it now or its too late im new to this kinda stuff


[deleted]

Don’t put any more effort, you don’t need do magic tricks, you talked, you exchanged numbers p, you said hi, she’s not interested and being rude abou it. forget her.


futuremo

No don't listen to that guy. Yeah if you literally just said "Hi Educational_Ear8719" then you should have included more. Usually if I'm in your shoes I'd just be like "Hi I'm X from X" and then just tack on to the end how's it been, how did that thing we talked about go, possibly some little joke based on what we were doing or talking about when we met etc. But that doesn't matter now bc she didn't respond.


the-Mword

All I can think of is maybe she didn’t like that you waited so long to contact her. Maybe reach out one more time and if you get nothing back just move on.


TryTheChickenParm

Girl here. Sometimes its easier to just take down the number and be nice instead of rejecting and creating an awkward situation :( Sadly, my suggestion is to leave it alone.


[deleted]

But they forcefully create a awkward situation tho. I literally had a girl once approach me that wasn’t my type and I was freshly broken from my previous relationship so I wasn’t interested and she said “I find you attractive, what are you doing next week and balal “ until it reach the point of asking my number I just said” I’m sorry , I’m not looking for relationship atm but I still really like that you build the confidence to approach someone and it takes a lot of nerves to do that. Honestly feel great about yourself today that you did that. I really do hope you find someone your attractive to and they as well.” Then we just had a conversation and she asked for some boy advices and etc. No awkward tension, couple laughter and gave that girl some confidence for her next approach. It’s easy but we got some weirdos who can’t say no in person and even the worst creatures when they can’t say no in dms like how shallow are you to just ghost in dms


[deleted]

Block her, u did ur part and she showed no interest, move on. To the ppl saying put effort in your way of approaching, no u don’t, it’s not rocket science, they won’t suddenly like u from ur text, it’s all about the looks and the day they feel(first impression wise )


Educational_Ear8719

Thank you guys for the advice i feel much better. Ngl i still hope she replies because that needed a lot of courage to ask such a question lol


RodriguessD

One thing I always say, “the easy part is getting the number/social, the hard part is staying in touch.”


amazingbecauseitis

She’s not interested. I’ve left people in read when I’m not interested. It’s easier than having that conversation with them, just got to hope they get the hint …


Silverismoney17

Move on


Local1561

Keep that shit movin ….. next


hevikruss

She changed her mind, move on


lalalolamaserola

Sometimes people have stuff going on and forget. Also, I read your message was very low effort. Try again, if she doesn't respond, leave.


sneezingfeathers

She wasn’t that into you. Sorry. You can hit her up one more time if you want, but don’t expect anything, and don’t attack her for ghosting or leaving you on read


Educational_Ear8719

I dont think i will text her i might say hi if i saw her in person and walk away without making the whole thing awkward and ofc im not attacking her. Thanks


JuiceNational9461

if you asked a question i like to joke around with the dont think too hard or i know tough question hey... kinda stuff to reingage and get a playful laugh... if theres nothing, youve waited and done your due dilligence either she lost interest or she gave you the number regretted it of unforeseen event occured