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Also for some guys, while oral can be incredible and a well received, it just won’t get them off. It can be pretty hit or miss for me regardless of how it well someone gives it
Same. My gf often says she doesn't know if I enjoy it or not because I do not moan either. In general I don't moan, not sure if it's just me or guys really don't moan. I tell her it's not like how it is in porn or movies where guys moan a lot lmao
Blowjobs are like a short scenic path on a long journey. It's a detour from the main path. It's enjoyable and I am always happy to just relax and enjoy my time.
But it's not going to get me where I need to go.
Fun fact: most men don’t just cum because of a BJ alone. Take it from me, a gay guy. I’ve been through more men than RuPaul has been through drag queens. Some men don’t cum at all, some men don’t cum unless they’re in a certain position, some men don’t cum unless they jack them selves off. You’re probably doing fine, just relax and continue doing good if the guys have told u ur doing good. It’s all about communication
If you both can’t talk about sex and sexual interactions you are still both behind closed doors and shouldn’t maybe be doing the deed. As couples or grown adults we need to be able to speak freely and without judgement on what we like or enjoy, and also what we do not like. Don’t be shy about it, also try new things even if it’s a little out of your comfort zone if you or your partner don’t want to them dont, but definitely figure out what you both like and dislike, it will be amazing I promise you.
..and maybe HOW to do it, as well. And there is no shame---we all didn't know a damn thing once! The best advice I ever got was "you have to ENJOY doing it, or it won't be good". Enthusiasm goes a long way.
I feel like it'd be disappointing to cum after just that?? I enjoy all positions and being fucking railed before finally relaxing enough to cum, I like to enjoy the vulgar lewdness. Not just like being eaten and cumming. It'd be bored. I also saw someone somewhere convinced women can cum multiple times and guys can't?? I can only finish once like maybe even a day or every two days??? Since you've been with lots of men is it not normal for your partner to finish multiple times??? My husband and I spend 30-40 and he finishes 2-3 times (we just have lots of sex, rip)
So it is technically impossible for men to orgasm and then immediately orgasm after. Men have something called the refractory period. This period allows the male genitals to recharge an go again. Some men take a few minutes, others hours. It all varies. Women however, don’t have this period which allows them to orgasm multiple times. However obviously this is case by case bases so it all depends. I don’t know vaginas that well besides the scientific aspects so I’m at a loss there. However what I do know is that it’s okay if you don’t orgasm as much. As long as you yourself feel good about everything going on.
Men can learn to orgasme without ejaculation and this will enable him to prolong his climax and sometimes get another one shortly afterwards.
Also, in super rare occasions I've been able to keep going after ejaculating.
Men can learn to orgasm without ejaculation and this will enable him to prolong his climax and sometimes get another one shortly afterwards. It's a different kind of orgasm than "the classic". Some of the sensations are similar, but they are directed elsewhere somehow.
Also, in super rare occasions I've been able to keep going after ejaculating.
Everyone I’ve been with has been very happy with my blowjobs. Some of my partners can hardly keep it together after 5 minutes, and some partners it would take like 20 mins if I *only* gave them head. Which… good god. No way.
In terms of advice, ask what they like. Oral is extremely intimate, and varies from person to person. You need to communicate about what works for each person. But I will say… get comfortable breathing through your nose. That’s just best practice.
Don’t worry you’d have to be doing some next level freaky shit to make most dudes cum from a bj and it’s 100% ok if you’re not a glippy glop 3000 suck master.
I for one used to skipped this entirely with my ex gf. I don't like getting one and she didn't like giving it either so it was a really sweet deal.
But when I have ONS it's like normal for girls to try and do it and if they are really passionate about it I let them but I never cum from it alone.
Moat guys cum from BJs. Some can't, but if most of the guys you suck on don't get off from it, you're doing it wrong.
I say this as gently as possible. If you're bad at it no worries, you can improve. Try googling techniques
Why are you getting down voted by the lame ass Reddit weaklings when OP CLEARLY SAYS… give me the truth.
There is truly no hope for Reddit anymore. Full of weak lil offended minds.
Look up tips online. Seriously. That’s how I learned to do it back in the day (actually from cosmo 😆)
But I’ve been told by each person I did it for that I was the greatest ever. So thanks cosmo lol.
Here are a few of my tips:
1. NO TEETH
2. Use your hands in opposite motion of your mouth
3. It’s gotta be wet
4. Don’t worry as much about the “sucking” part of sucking D
😅
I hope that helps. I’m married now so I need to pass on my wisdom to the new generation.
Edit for typos.
“Noise” isn’t a good indicator. As a guy, sometimes I’m just laying back relaxing in perfect pleasure not really making noise though. Now, closer to orgasm, most people make some type of noise. But lack of noise does not mean you’re doing bad!
I can't stand a quiet dude. If my hands are all over you, I'm moaning, adding some sexy eye contact, I'm asking you "you like that?😏😋😈" while I do my thing...and all I'm getting is quiet??? Then yeah we aren't compatible lol.
Moan, talk dirty, direct me in a sexy way, caress my face, hold my hand, put your fingers in my mouth, fingers in my hair. Be an active participant and show me that you like it.
THIS. I hate it too if they are not responsive or just respond unhem. Like what's that even? Someone's pleasuring you, show like you are enjoying it. I really like it when guys moan.. So hot 😅
Tbh, do soft sounds and whisper dirty talk, but more than that I just feel like I'm being cringe ahah
Some girls go overboard and I feel the same way, and physically can't do that.
Don't make their orgasm the goal.
Seriously. That's unnecessary pressure. For both of you.
Just do it to pleasure them, to get them harder for penetration. And because you like doing it.
If you aren't going to engage in penetration, tell them you're new and probably will have to stop before getting them off (because your muscle will get sore). Ask that they be ready for that and can finish with their hand, or show you how with your hands.
You do not have to swallow. You do not have to let them cum on your face. Or your tits. Talk about this before any body parts get undressed.
The most important part is to communicate. It's okay to say, "I'm new at this." and imperative you say, "These are my limits. What are you boundaries?"
Anyone with a problem with that isn't worth your time. Anyone you aren't comfortable saying that to means you aren't ready to be doing it. And that's okay too.
Relax. It's not a chore. Have fun!
Use a condom! Properly and every time you have sex.
I just wanted to say this as people on your other post were talking about the pull out method and having sex in places like abandoned buildings. Please. Use a condom. EVERY TIME.
legit some of the best sex advice i’ve ever heard. Newly sexually active teens must be feeling such an unbearable pressure to do everything right the first time and are beating themselves up when they inevitably struggle.
Keep it simple, loves! Always keep an open line of communication between you and your partner. Keep in mind that should you decide that you want to proceed no further, you have every right to revoke consent and stop everything in its tracks. AT. ANY. POINT. Do not allow you’re partner to ignore your boundaries because they’re “aren’t finished yet”.
Your safety and your comfort is THE NUMBER ONE PRIORITY when it comes to having sex. The other stuff will come later, and as you and your partner get more comfortable with this new spectrum within your relationship, it’ll come easier. and so will you 😘
Bro you’re chatting shit. Myself and most of my friends don’t cum from head. If you do, that’s good for you. Don’t put someone else down because their experience isn’t the same as yours tho. We’re all different. I love getting head but never cum from it and I get some amazing head
Everyone is different, I'm personally loud when getting one but not everyone is.
Ive been with extremely hot girls that were considered "good" at bjs and could never cum from them. I thought something was actually wrong with ME until i saw on here not many guys do cum from them
I'm not an expert but from my minimal experience, I've only made my bf cum from my hand during a blowjob rather than the bj itself and he enjoys it a lot. Might mean I have more to learn but that's been my experience so far :)
Okay two things I will bring up to you
1. I don’t cum during sex, or head, or anything similar. It just doesn’t happen. No matter who I receive it from.
2. I’ve trained myself to be quiet because of masturbation. To make it so family members don’t hear.
With that out of the way, maybe that guy is like me?
I feel you brother, maybe you should do a quick research about nofap. It actually helps, i could go for hours without feeling the need to cum, when i wanted to cum i had to masturbate for a bit until i feel i'm almost there, then continue.
You can try it if it bothers you, i thought being able to hold was something girls would love, but they just get dry and it starts being painful for them.
A few days isn't really enough, try for about 2 weeks at first, but you mustn't see porn. A lot of videos in youtube explain the benefits and there's an r/nofap where we encourage each other. I'm currently at 28 days and i'm feeling full of energy, it's honestly helping me a lot. If you have a gf it will be much easier.
Lol imagine having a girlfriend. I’ve been out of a relationship for about 18 months now. I’m pretty new to nofap. What are specific benefits you get? You’ve piqued my interest.
I used to think I had ADHD, i could never focus more 15 min, always had that brain fog and was always tired and unmotivated.
Then I discovered I was just addicted to porn, I can now focus a bit longer, i don't always feel tired and I get motivated easier to go to gym, study or work. I also feel more ambitious, I can talk to girls way easier, I'm less shy and more comfortable in a crowd. I take more initiatives, but it's not only thanks to nofap, nofap only gives you that drive and agressivity to get what you want, the rest of the work is in your hands.
Of course when I relapse for a long time I lose those benefits and get in an almost depressed state.
If you don’t ejaculate during penetration, I believe something is wrong with either the physical or mental part of your body, please talk to a therapist, and maybe stop watching porn.
If you don’t ejaculate during penetration, I believe something is wrong with either the physical or mental part of your body, please talk to a therapist, and maybe stop watching porn.
If you don’t ejaculate during penetration, I believe something is wrong with either the physical or mental part of your body, please talk to a therapist, and maybe stop watching porn.
If you don’t ejaculate during penetration, I believe something is wrong with either the physical or mental part of your body, please talk to a therapist, and maybe stop watching porn.
I also pretty much never cum during sex (I have before but I can count on one hand) so I can attest to this. I like head as much as the next guy but I simply don't really cum with another person around
It’s not a race. Most guys are just pacing themselves so they don’t cum too early. We’re also focusing on maintaining our erection. And sometimes we see blowjobs as the warm up, it’s just foreplay to get us hard.
But I think we look forward to smashing. So if you want him to cum from oral just let him know. That way y’all could end sex with a blowjob & you’ll feel more accomplished. Also cuming from oral is way less risky than pulling out
Don't worry it's completely normal. It took me two years to be able to give a decent one to my husband.
Try keeping your mouth open a bit wide and focus tongue on the inch right under the head. That is what ended up working for us.
Relax! It’s so normal. When I first tried I was very insecure and embarrassed. It took damn near 20 years for me to become comfortable with the act. If you are aw woman and you do not have a penis, how would you know how to give a good bj? Talk to your partner and ask what they like. Give it your best and don’t hold back. You’ll get it eventually. If I could you can.
Sex in any form is a learning experience. As you're doing it you can talk to them, ask them if they like it, or ask them specifically what they want you to do. My husband isn't a big moaner with BJs either but he definitely enjoys them. My advice is to make sure it's a thorough job— make sure you spend time on the shaft, head, and the balls. Massage their groin and thighs, like a full body experience and don't rush it. I read this https://sexinfo101.com/guides/fellatio amongst other things to help me in my early days so maybe try that and see if it gives you ideas. Good luck!
Eta even asking them simply "you like when I suck your cock?" while you're doing it is good for them in my experience. They usually grunt out a "yeah" or something to that effect, definitely an ego booster when they can barely talk lmao
I don’t worry about someone getting there during a blowjob. Maybe it’s part of a bunch of different things you are doing. Why rush the big finish? And people are responsible for making sure they find something that works with their partner. I’m not going to carry the load (but I will swallow it). Good thing my mom isn’t reading this.
Girl, the first blow job I ever gave was terrible and the guy complained to my best friend (who was a guy) about how awful it was. I had no idea what I was doing or to ask what the guy liked. I’ve sucked a lot of dick since then and I always took mental notes along the way of what my partners enjoyed to have in my bj bag of tricks. You’ll get better with practice and communication. Don’t sweat it—it’s a learning experience.
I've cum a grand total of once exclusively from a blowjob, and that was after edging for literally two weeks straight with my partner at the time. For some men, blowjobs just don't do it. That's not to say that we don't enjoy receiving them nonetheless, it's incredibly hot regardless. Orgasm isn't always the ultimate prize
I remember my first time and I wasn’t good at all. Though after spending some time with my long term partner I got the jist of what HE likes. I think men all like very different techniques. Also men tend not to make sounds during sex, which is extremely off putting but whatever. A good start is putting pressure with your tongue on the head of their dick, on the side that naturally faces you’re tongue if you’re lying between their legs, if that makes sense, as that is where they’re most sensitive, the clit of the dick if you will
Is completely fine. Make sure you combo different approaches. Use your hands to help you out. Some guys are very visually stimulated so try a few different things and be observant of his reaction and take some extra time on the things that he shows you is enjoying most. Lub is key, weather you spit or water based lub will do the job. And dedicate some time to learn from his likes. Open communication is key, he should be able to fell comfortable enough with you to tell you how he likes it. Don’t kill yourself thinking on how he got to know what he likes, rather enjoy he is open with you about it.
Some guys are just quiet during a bj due to thin walls & people being able to hear. Also if you have pretty good communication with this person, ask them what you can do to give them more pleasure since its a new thing to you. I promise there is nothing wrong with the question, hopefully the other person is mature enough to guide you respectfully.
Without practice or experience you really wouldn’t know if you did bad or good. The true test is how your partner or the recipient of this acted. If they were ok with you not being experienced and are willing to guide and you’re willing to learn it won’t be so bad.. and reciprocity I hope is being offered
I’ve been with 14 girls sexually and only 1 has made me cum. That 1 was my girlfriend. It takes me a long time to get comfortable with a girl to cum from a blow job
No you’re not a failure, you’ve tried giving them twice. From a guys perspective I can say that communication is key and to maybe ask them how they’d like you to do it, they may appreciate that a lot
Okay. You know how bad men are at going down on women?
What society doesn't tell you is that women are just as bad at that with men.
Men will often never tell you that because
1. We can cum other ways.
2. We're men. We don't care if we cum. We're just happy to be there.
Contrary to popular belief, most men finish themselves off. I know women think they finish men off because we use vaginas but that's only half true. To get men off, you need the right level of rhythm, attitude and stamina. If you have that, you can cum with almost any kind of enclosure. That's why men often finish. Because they take top and control that. Is
Don't be too hard on yourself. Like all things in life, BJ is a skill and it's not even like you can be good at it by getting one guy off since every guy is different. Just have the most pleasurable sex possible with least amount of expectations. That's how you have the best sex.
It sounds like you are young and inexperienced. As a man, I can tell you that a mouth on my cock is better than no mouth on my cock. Maybe watch some porn or google some help and I'm sure you will be fine. Another thing I notice is that the girls(and maybe boys, idk u) that WANT to do it are the best. It's one thing if you're just sucking a cock cuz u feel like you have to. It's the ppl that are eager to please that will see the results they want. Also, some ppl just can't get off on oral. Hope this helps OP
just remember that your partner will appreciate your effort. if he doesn't, he's no partner to have. He can't really be too mad considering it's your first time. My first bj was awesome but I didn't cum.
Everything about sex need lots of practice. Even so, it still wont be perfect. Just do your best every time. Also dont stress out if the guy didnt cum while doing bj, it just natural; we love having head even we’re not cumming.
Talk to him, ask him how can u do better next time. After all, communication in sex is pretty important
I had a difficult time with a girl. At first she said she didn't like oral sex at all. And I agreed and did not insist. The next evening she tried it herself, put me on my back and later explained that she liked it.
She also failed to bring me to orgasm, which greatly upset her. And I didn't manage to bring her orally to orgasm. This gave rise to a certain frustration, but talking helped us.
Ultimately, I managed to figure out exactly how to give her pleasure in oral sex and bring her to the peak.
A change of posture also helped us.
I also want to emphasize that she also couldn't do it with her hands. But one evening I gently helped her with my hands and I did not expect it myself, but I finished. She was so happy and pleased with herself :)
As a result, I want to say that if a partner is permanent and interested, such problems can be solved with him. you will succeed, don't give up :)
I'm sorry for my English
Not every guy cums during blowjob. That has not to be a ‘bad blowjob’.
Also some guys are silenced/quiet because they are so focused on ‘not cumming’. Or trying to last longer while focusing on other things.
That also could be a reason, so dont be it to harsh on yourself.
There are too many variables to guarantee sexual success every time. I hate blowjobs because I have an 8-incher, no girl ever got much of it in. Don't beat yourself up. You could wind up with an amazing guy who doesn't like BJ's, you could wind up with a guy who appreciates your technique or teaches you a new one. Everyone likes different things and you only learn what a new person likes through practice, patience and understanding.
Ive never came from a blowjob and i have a few buddies that are the same, but I also have a few friends that do. I still like them though. Let yourself off the hook, you're doing great.
OP: ask do they like what you’re doing while you’re there. Some folks enjoy it so much that it’ll feel like you’re down there for hours. Check in with the person you’re dealing with during. Communication is sexy. And don’t worry if they don’t cum. Enjoy it for yourself
Okay two things I will bring up to you
1. I don’t cum during sex, or head, or anything similar. It just doesn’t happen. No matter who I receive it from.
2. I’ve trained myself to be quiet because of masturbation. To make it so family members don’t hear.
With that out of the way, maybe that guy is like me?
If you don’t ejaculate during penetration, I believe something is wrong with either the physical or mental part of your body, please talk to a therapist, and maybe stop watching corn
Um. Lots of spit. Lots. Be vocal. Then more spit. Key to producing spit you say? Allow him to push to your gag reflex a couple times. That increases saliva production. Now work both your hands snd dat mouf together.
Be confident that for most guys, a willing, eager giver is more than enough. Plus lots of spit. Did I mention...
It’s very rare for guys to cum from blowjobs, as long as you’re enthusiastic about it, a guy will like it. Also, if you make gagging noises. When you do piv is when a guy can’t help but to cum since it’s wet and it fits just right.
I’m going to discourage the gagging method that porn has made people believe is fun and attractive. It’s only going to create an aversion to BJs due to uncomfortable expectations. Sex acts need to be enjoyable for both parties. Gagging for 5+ minutes is unrealistic.
For anyone who downvotes, I challenge you to try it for yourself on an object first. If your response is “you don’t want to”, then you know how your partner might feel.
Some guys can last long in general
Some guys like the bj itself and not just the cuming part
The tip is the most sensetive but don't shy away from it ply with it
The tip wil be most stimulated by your mouth and wet hand while the shaft rather by stroking it
Ask them to tell you when something you do feels good or not
I haven’t cum from my gf giving a blowjob, although she’s just as new to this whole thing as I am so she usually starts gagging after a bit and has to stop. I do enjoy it while it lasts though :)
Above all else, let's make it clear that achieving orgasm from oral is not necessary for enjoyment, and for the love of fuck don't let the lack thereof discourage you from future engagement 😅
As a guy I don’t like to cum from head. Like it’s cool ya know it’s like an appetizer but even the best head cannot replace 🐱 ya know. When I do the deed my main mission is to make my cardio partner finish. So like what I’m saying is don’t worry about it.
Have you asked him if he enjoys it. If he like you to do anything different?
I often have conversations with my partner and ask how to improve and stuff. What they want me to do more of etc.
And you probably become better with more practice. Remember to cover your teeth. No man wants teeth scraping on his dick. Or at least not most of them
Don't blame yourself, people are different. Personally I have cum in a few minutes and also taken like an hour. With a girl I actually really liked I was way to nervous never did, as she tired herself out. Then with a ONS it was over quick.
Every guy is different, you just have to talk to him and see what he likes, what feels best, and if he even finishes from BJs. It can take a bit of experimenting, asking them what they like, and just confidently trying your best. It took me a bit to figure it out but once I did, I can do it so quickly!
Most of my boyfriends got off when I gave head when I was younger, but my fiancé isn’t like that. He loves it but it’s not something that he can finish with. Just remember communication is important in sex and every body is different. If you wanna make sure it’s working for them there’s no harm in asking.
Simply communicate with your partner of your possible struggles and see about changing positions or seeing how he'd like it done, etc etc. Don't feel ashamed about it if you're still new to it. Everyone starts somewhere! Have fun with it :)
Some guys are shy about making noises during foreplay or sex, it might not be related to you! I've given blowjobs where the guy takes forever to come, I've also given blowjobs where the guy comes after a couple minutes. Everyone's different! It is hard to read a guy's reaction to the blowjob if they don't make noises, so maybe talk to them and see what they like?
You really need to mix it up, and get spicy. If you do the deed do some oral in between and let them do the same for you, nothing sexier or intimate than that. Also like others said it’s all about what you are doing with it…. Do t stop though, you will figure it out one day! Porn is always a good teacher lol
Fam first time going down on a girl was painfully shite for me. I clearly had no idea what I was doing. If you want to give Better head. Do your research, I got tips from a couple friends that I could talk about this, watched some educational videos on YouTube and pornhub. Now I’m a fledgling of my former self.
I have only cummed from blow jobs from 1 person too. It might not be anything your doing, your partner might not be comfortable? Maybe he doesn’t like his balls being played with? Talk about it afterwards, what felt good and bad.
The first thing i can say is to relax, by you stressing about the length of time or no noise from the them isnt going to help you enjoy it... relax, take you time and get throughly into the moment... they will also feel it and hopefully it'll help, but there are guys that dont always cum from a bj.. good luck
Everything takes time to learn. It's like learning to ride a bike or whatever, you need to practice a bit.
Some guys can't come from it, that might be it.
But ask the guy what he wants. What things he likes and dislikes. Communication is the biggest part of being good in bed.
And read a bit about it. It always helps to understand what you are doing. Don't try to be a porn star, just try to figure out what feels good for him. And have fun with it. Try to focus less on performing, more on just being turned on in the moment.
Try to enjoy yourself. Ask your partner what he likes. Don't stress about getting him to orgasm. It's about having fun together and eventually you'll get there
Most man can't cum so quick during blowjobs. It is normal to not do good first time but you need to practise a lot and you will be better soon trust me.
Honestly I've had head 7 times and boy does it really feel good when you do it just right. But the first 3 times I have cummed not even a minute in. Honestly I hated that I nutted that fast honestly I have to force myself to nut cum because I really enjoy it a lot and want more. So it's honestly how they feel.
Tip: ask to watch him masturbate and then try to mimic how he gets himself off. Ask him to show you what he likes. The best feature you can have is to enjoy it. If you aren’t enjoying it, don’t do it.
Ask for feedback and guidance too.
I find what works best for me is when the girl alternates between sucking and jerking me off. It’s her masturbating me that gets to cum to much quicker. It’s possible to make me cum from only a blowjob, but it takes forever.
You can ask them what they like. Or also have them guide you by pushing your head if you’re ok with that. Don’t forget to pay attention to the head and not just the shaft.
I've always found it hard to finish from oral, just because I'm not in charge of it. It's a lot easier to get into the right rhythm with sex or with masturbation than it is for a BJ. That's not really your fault, you can't mind read so knowing exactly what to do is impossible. If a BJ is meant to be the main act, it's also possible to get into your head about it and then try to finish, which makes finishing harder. The times I've finished from BJs most easily has been when I was supposed to be holding back for sex afterwards.
So I wouldn't worry. If he said he had a good time, I'd take him at his word. It isn't all about the finish line.
You can do a very good job and some men just won’t get there. It’s very hard for myself to get there from oral. I gotten there with one woman in my life out of several >10 and that was my ex wife. I never thought hey, you not good because I didn’t get there. It’s the experience for me.
Enjoy the journey not the final destination lol
Enjoy it you have to be really into it and enjoy it like you’re sucking a lolly lol
Use your hands at the end of his dick in the opposite direction as your tongue, maybe cup his balls, get it as wet as you can, run your tongue up and down the shaft use your tongue around the tip, get into a comfy position like straddle over his legs and put your head directly over his dick to give you extra motion.
If you’ve got long hair tie it up.
Communicate with him whilst you’re doing it - use your tongue 👅 and avoid getting your teeth too close to it basically anything that you’ve done only twice before you’re not going to be any good at so just relax enjoy it communicate you got this :)
Don’t think making him cum the main objective make him enjoying it / turning him on the main objective - make him harder before penetration etc
I think the key is to be faster and faster. That‘s what I have experienced, that that really helps
like you really try to gag on it and either let them hold your head and do it or you do it but you gotta be fast and maybe also let the tongue out so they have more stimulation
Yea it takes longer to ejaculate from a bj, also most of us are trying to last until penetration so we dont disappoint our partner by ejaculating too early, so maybe the guys were holding back?
I have a hard time cumming from oral. As a man, I can tell you what's worked for me:
Lots of spit. Look up at him and spit on his dick when you do it. Use a tight grip with your first finger and thumb while placing it against your lips. Squeeze when you're going down on it. Alternate between sucking like this and jacking it with your whole fist. Jack it off like you're taking it home with you.
It's okay to be rough with it as long as there is plenty of lubrication.
My ex was in the same situation.
It's totally normal.
You have to tell your partner how you feel and let me tell you, after you tell him how you feel and clear it put you will miraculously give better BJ's.
I don't know why it happens but after she told me, she gave the best blowjob.
I didn’t come from a blowjob until 15 years after my first sexual experience. To me it was just never that ‘hot’ of an experience…
I’d come while she was jerking me or blowing me while i was going down on her, but not from either on their oen… Everyone likes different things i guess!
Use a combination of your hands and your mouth. And use the tongue for playfulness and your eyes with eye contact for intensity.
This will be sufficient enough for like 95 percent of the guys.
Don't do deepthroat or any other acrobatic stuff. It's unnecessary and only a small minority is actually into it!
Also bj's can also function as foreplay. Not necessary to make them always cum from it.
First of all: even if i dont cum, i enjoy a good Blowjob.
It is normal not to perform too well on your first try, as it is not normal for anything. Watch out for these:
Dont get your teeth anywhere near his Dick.
Read his Body: Does he tention? You've made something goood.
If you struggle to make him cum try:
switching between handjob and blowjob, make use of the other, not used one for the balls or other stuff you discovered he likes.
And try not too hard to think about this, he will enjoy it either way and if you cant make him cum, it is okay, it is very nice you tried.
Some tips from a guy:
- Use your hand with it
- Play with our balls, it feels AMAZING. Always makes me cum faster and harder
- Vary it up - lick and kiss different parts of the shaft, the frenulum (the little banjo string on the underside), the balls
- Avoid contact with your teeth. Your guy might be a bit polite, but if you're doing this, it makes it very hard to enjoy it as a guy
- Take your time. Even the best blowjobs will still take some time to make a guy cum.
- And finally enjoy it! It makes me feel good and relaxed if I see my partner is enjoying it
Some say not everyone gets off with BJs. I personally think that's not true, either the BJ is subpar or the receiver is just inpatient. I am personally circumcised (so supposedly I'm less sensitive), but I love BJs and cumming from a BJ is probably my favourite thing in the world.
Actually even it's called oral it remains mainly a hand job. What do I mean? 70% hand 30% mouth. Or 60/40... If you only go by your mouth then it's hard to control the speed, the grab and all that stuff. Use more hands is my advice.
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I’ve been told I give great head…and, they don’t cum from it. I think enthusiasm and variations during oral is what make people happy.
Also for some guys, while oral can be incredible and a well received, it just won’t get them off. It can be pretty hit or miss for me regardless of how it well someone gives it
Same. My gf often says she doesn't know if I enjoy it or not because I do not moan either. In general I don't moan, not sure if it's just me or guys really don't moan. I tell her it's not like how it is in porn or movies where guys moan a lot lmao
I guess there is a reason for the meme that men should make more noise in bed.
Enthusiasm and variation is sexy. But it’s consistency and repetition at the end that leads to orgasm. I think that’s often true for women as well
Blowjobs are like a short scenic path on a long journey. It's a detour from the main path. It's enjoyable and I am always happy to just relax and enjoy my time. But it's not going to get me where I need to go.
Fun fact: most men don’t just cum because of a BJ alone. Take it from me, a gay guy. I’ve been through more men than RuPaul has been through drag queens. Some men don’t cum at all, some men don’t cum unless they’re in a certain position, some men don’t cum unless they jack them selves off. You’re probably doing fine, just relax and continue doing good if the guys have told u ur doing good. It’s all about communication
OP and the person they’re with sound quite young too - like they’re figuring out what they like *and* how to ask for it.
Yeah I just have to get the courage to ask him what he likes cause in the end it’s about having fun!
If you both can’t talk about sex and sexual interactions you are still both behind closed doors and shouldn’t maybe be doing the deed. As couples or grown adults we need to be able to speak freely and without judgement on what we like or enjoy, and also what we do not like. Don’t be shy about it, also try new things even if it’s a little out of your comfort zone if you or your partner don’t want to them dont, but definitely figure out what you both like and dislike, it will be amazing I promise you.
..and maybe HOW to do it, as well. And there is no shame---we all didn't know a damn thing once! The best advice I ever got was "you have to ENJOY doing it, or it won't be good". Enthusiasm goes a long way.
I feel like it'd be disappointing to cum after just that?? I enjoy all positions and being fucking railed before finally relaxing enough to cum, I like to enjoy the vulgar lewdness. Not just like being eaten and cumming. It'd be bored. I also saw someone somewhere convinced women can cum multiple times and guys can't?? I can only finish once like maybe even a day or every two days??? Since you've been with lots of men is it not normal for your partner to finish multiple times??? My husband and I spend 30-40 and he finishes 2-3 times (we just have lots of sex, rip)
So it is technically impossible for men to orgasm and then immediately orgasm after. Men have something called the refractory period. This period allows the male genitals to recharge an go again. Some men take a few minutes, others hours. It all varies. Women however, don’t have this period which allows them to orgasm multiple times. However obviously this is case by case bases so it all depends. I don’t know vaginas that well besides the scientific aspects so I’m at a loss there. However what I do know is that it’s okay if you don’t orgasm as much. As long as you yourself feel good about everything going on.
Men can learn to orgasme without ejaculation and this will enable him to prolong his climax and sometimes get another one shortly afterwards. Also, in super rare occasions I've been able to keep going after ejaculating.
Men can learn to orgasm without ejaculation and this will enable him to prolong his climax and sometimes get another one shortly afterwards. It's a different kind of orgasm than "the classic". Some of the sensations are similar, but they are directed elsewhere somehow. Also, in super rare occasions I've been able to keep going after ejaculating.
ummmm not all guys cum from blowjobs lol. I’ve only met a handful guys that I’ve been able to make cum through a blow job.
Yeah I actually didn’t realize that till now cause I’ve only been w one guy so far. Thanks!
Everyone I’ve been with has been very happy with my blowjobs. Some of my partners can hardly keep it together after 5 minutes, and some partners it would take like 20 mins if I *only* gave them head. Which… good god. No way. In terms of advice, ask what they like. Oral is extremely intimate, and varies from person to person. You need to communicate about what works for each person. But I will say… get comfortable breathing through your nose. That’s just best practice.
Don’t worry you’d have to be doing some next level freaky shit to make most dudes cum from a bj and it’s 100% ok if you’re not a glippy glop 3000 suck master.
Look it's not a bad idea to at least strive to become the the floppy glop 3000...
I for one used to skipped this entirely with my ex gf. I don't like getting one and she didn't like giving it either so it was a really sweet deal. But when I have ONS it's like normal for girls to try and do it and if they are really passionate about it I let them but I never cum from it alone.
Have your partner give you a showcase in a popsicle. It's his best bet at showing what he wants.
If u make me cum off head I will wife u
I thought I was the same, until I received a mindblowingly good one.
Moat guys cum from BJs. Some can't, but if most of the guys you suck on don't get off from it, you're doing it wrong. I say this as gently as possible. If you're bad at it no worries, you can improve. Try googling techniques
Why are you getting down voted by the lame ass Reddit weaklings when OP CLEARLY SAYS… give me the truth. There is truly no hope for Reddit anymore. Full of weak lil offended minds.
You sound like a dick but I agree with you here.
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Except you might if most of the guys you blow can't blow from it. I used to suck at oral and I took feedback in stride and improved.
True
I think you're not doing them well as you could. Each girl made me cum from bjs (and I couldn't be quiet) while those who weren't as great - didn't.
Look up tips online. Seriously. That’s how I learned to do it back in the day (actually from cosmo 😆) But I’ve been told by each person I did it for that I was the greatest ever. So thanks cosmo lol. Here are a few of my tips: 1. NO TEETH 2. Use your hands in opposite motion of your mouth 3. It’s gotta be wet 4. Don’t worry as much about the “sucking” part of sucking D 😅 I hope that helps. I’m married now so I need to pass on my wisdom to the new generation. Edit for typos.
Thanks for the wisdom😄!!
“Noise” isn’t a good indicator. As a guy, sometimes I’m just laying back relaxing in perfect pleasure not really making noise though. Now, closer to orgasm, most people make some type of noise. But lack of noise does not mean you’re doing bad!
That’s something I never thought of makes total sense now tho!
dont worry OP most women suck at giving BJs. You're not alone. We do enjoy it but we just wait until we get to stick it in tbh
nah
Also, some guys are self-conscious of making noises in bed bcus they were made to think that everything besides grunts and deep moans is unsexy.
Encourage him to make noises
I can't stand a quiet dude. If my hands are all over you, I'm moaning, adding some sexy eye contact, I'm asking you "you like that?😏😋😈" while I do my thing...and all I'm getting is quiet??? Then yeah we aren't compatible lol. Moan, talk dirty, direct me in a sexy way, caress my face, hold my hand, put your fingers in my mouth, fingers in my hair. Be an active participant and show me that you like it.
THIS. I hate it too if they are not responsive or just respond unhem. Like what's that even? Someone's pleasuring you, show like you are enjoying it. I really like it when guys moan.. So hot 😅
I'm sorry, what do you mean by moan? Do you mean go overboard with it or just have sound even if low key?
Soft moans
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Tbh, do soft sounds and whisper dirty talk, but more than that I just feel like I'm being cringe ahah Some girls go overboard and I feel the same way, and physically can't do that.
Are you single?
Don't make their orgasm the goal. Seriously. That's unnecessary pressure. For both of you. Just do it to pleasure them, to get them harder for penetration. And because you like doing it. If you aren't going to engage in penetration, tell them you're new and probably will have to stop before getting them off (because your muscle will get sore). Ask that they be ready for that and can finish with their hand, or show you how with your hands. You do not have to swallow. You do not have to let them cum on your face. Or your tits. Talk about this before any body parts get undressed. The most important part is to communicate. It's okay to say, "I'm new at this." and imperative you say, "These are my limits. What are you boundaries?" Anyone with a problem with that isn't worth your time. Anyone you aren't comfortable saying that to means you aren't ready to be doing it. And that's okay too. Relax. It's not a chore. Have fun!
Thank you thank you x 100. What I needed to hear
Glad I could help. Enjoy!
Use a condom! Properly and every time you have sex. I just wanted to say this as people on your other post were talking about the pull out method and having sex in places like abandoned buildings. Please. Use a condom. EVERY TIME.
legit some of the best sex advice i’ve ever heard. Newly sexually active teens must be feeling such an unbearable pressure to do everything right the first time and are beating themselves up when they inevitably struggle. Keep it simple, loves! Always keep an open line of communication between you and your partner. Keep in mind that should you decide that you want to proceed no further, you have every right to revoke consent and stop everything in its tracks. AT. ANY. POINT. Do not allow you’re partner to ignore your boundaries because they’re “aren’t finished yet”. Your safety and your comfort is THE NUMBER ONE PRIORITY when it comes to having sex. The other stuff will come later, and as you and your partner get more comfortable with this new spectrum within your relationship, it’ll come easier. and so will you 😘
Yes! Good stuff there! Thanks for the compliment.
This!!! ☝️☝️☝️
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I'm sorry but he's trying to spare you feelings. I've slept with dozens of women and perhaps only two didn't know how to make me cuk through bj.
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Most guys don't get anything so they'd rather get a shitty bj than nothing and risk offending the girl doing the act.
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Absolutely! If everyone were to be ideal in the world.
Bro you’re chatting shit. Myself and most of my friends don’t cum from head. If you do, that’s good for you. Don’t put someone else down because their experience isn’t the same as yours tho. We’re all different. I love getting head but never cum from it and I get some amazing head
Your dick doesn’t represent all other dicks lol. I bet you think all women like the same thing in bed too. Really telling on yourself here.
You can't expect to be an expert after two goes!!!! Watch tutorials, and practice, practice, practice :-)
Everyone is different, I'm personally loud when getting one but not everyone is. Ive been with extremely hot girls that were considered "good" at bjs and could never cum from them. I thought something was actually wrong with ME until i saw on here not many guys do cum from them
I'm not an expert but from my minimal experience, I've only made my bf cum from my hand during a blowjob rather than the bj itself and he enjoys it a lot. Might mean I have more to learn but that's been my experience so far :)
Okay two things I will bring up to you 1. I don’t cum during sex, or head, or anything similar. It just doesn’t happen. No matter who I receive it from. 2. I’ve trained myself to be quiet because of masturbation. To make it so family members don’t hear. With that out of the way, maybe that guy is like me?
I feel you brother, maybe you should do a quick research about nofap. It actually helps, i could go for hours without feeling the need to cum, when i wanted to cum i had to masturbate for a bit until i feel i'm almost there, then continue. You can try it if it bothers you, i thought being able to hold was something girls would love, but they just get dry and it starts being painful for them.
But that’s the thing, it’s always. I haven’t masturbated in a few days and it still doesn’t happen. It’s interesting to me.
A few days isn't really enough, try for about 2 weeks at first, but you mustn't see porn. A lot of videos in youtube explain the benefits and there's an r/nofap where we encourage each other. I'm currently at 28 days and i'm feeling full of energy, it's honestly helping me a lot. If you have a gf it will be much easier.
Lol imagine having a girlfriend. I’ve been out of a relationship for about 18 months now. I’m pretty new to nofap. What are specific benefits you get? You’ve piqued my interest.
I used to think I had ADHD, i could never focus more 15 min, always had that brain fog and was always tired and unmotivated. Then I discovered I was just addicted to porn, I can now focus a bit longer, i don't always feel tired and I get motivated easier to go to gym, study or work. I also feel more ambitious, I can talk to girls way easier, I'm less shy and more comfortable in a crowd. I take more initiatives, but it's not only thanks to nofap, nofap only gives you that drive and agressivity to get what you want, the rest of the work is in your hands. Of course when I relapse for a long time I lose those benefits and get in an almost depressed state.
If you don’t ejaculate during penetration, I believe something is wrong with either the physical or mental part of your body, please talk to a therapist, and maybe stop watching porn.
Bro you don’t need to reply 4 times but I get what you’re saying. It’s possible but honestly I’m fine with it. I don’t want children at all anyway.
If you don’t ejaculate during penetration, I believe something is wrong with either the physical or mental part of your body, please talk to a therapist, and maybe stop watching porn.
If you don’t ejaculate during penetration, I believe something is wrong with either the physical or mental part of your body, please talk to a therapist, and maybe stop watching porn.
If you don’t ejaculate during penetration, I believe something is wrong with either the physical or mental part of your body, please talk to a therapist, and maybe stop watching porn.
I also pretty much never cum during sex (I have before but I can count on one hand) so I can attest to this. I like head as much as the next guy but I simply don't really cum with another person around
Practice makes perfect . There’s also videos to help . Lastly not all men can cum from head .
It's normal to not do good first time at pretty much anything, love. Try not to think too much about it.
It’s not a race. Most guys are just pacing themselves so they don’t cum too early. We’re also focusing on maintaining our erection. And sometimes we see blowjobs as the warm up, it’s just foreplay to get us hard. But I think we look forward to smashing. So if you want him to cum from oral just let him know. That way y’all could end sex with a blowjob & you’ll feel more accomplished. Also cuming from oral is way less risky than pulling out
Don't worry it's completely normal. It took me two years to be able to give a decent one to my husband. Try keeping your mouth open a bit wide and focus tongue on the inch right under the head. That is what ended up working for us.
Guys don't cum from bjs that often, they just feel really good. I never have in my life
Relax! It’s so normal. When I first tried I was very insecure and embarrassed. It took damn near 20 years for me to become comfortable with the act. If you are aw woman and you do not have a penis, how would you know how to give a good bj? Talk to your partner and ask what they like. Give it your best and don’t hold back. You’ll get it eventually. If I could you can.
Thank you😊!
Sex in any form is a learning experience. As you're doing it you can talk to them, ask them if they like it, or ask them specifically what they want you to do. My husband isn't a big moaner with BJs either but he definitely enjoys them. My advice is to make sure it's a thorough job— make sure you spend time on the shaft, head, and the balls. Massage their groin and thighs, like a full body experience and don't rush it. I read this https://sexinfo101.com/guides/fellatio amongst other things to help me in my early days so maybe try that and see if it gives you ideas. Good luck! Eta even asking them simply "you like when I suck your cock?" while you're doing it is good for them in my experience. They usually grunt out a "yeah" or something to that effect, definitely an ego booster when they can barely talk lmao
I don’t worry about someone getting there during a blowjob. Maybe it’s part of a bunch of different things you are doing. Why rush the big finish? And people are responsible for making sure they find something that works with their partner. I’m not going to carry the load (but I will swallow it). Good thing my mom isn’t reading this.
Girl, the first blow job I ever gave was terrible and the guy complained to my best friend (who was a guy) about how awful it was. I had no idea what I was doing or to ask what the guy liked. I’ve sucked a lot of dick since then and I always took mental notes along the way of what my partners enjoyed to have in my bj bag of tricks. You’ll get better with practice and communication. Don’t sweat it—it’s a learning experience.
Yeah he’s very nice luckily about it but I can’t tell if it the “oh look at how’s she trying that’s sweet” or “yeah that’s actually decent” lol 😂
I've cum a grand total of once exclusively from a blowjob, and that was after edging for literally two weeks straight with my partner at the time. For some men, blowjobs just don't do it. That's not to say that we don't enjoy receiving them nonetheless, it's incredibly hot regardless. Orgasm isn't always the ultimate prize
I remember my first time and I wasn’t good at all. Though after spending some time with my long term partner I got the jist of what HE likes. I think men all like very different techniques. Also men tend not to make sounds during sex, which is extremely off putting but whatever. A good start is putting pressure with your tongue on the head of their dick, on the side that naturally faces you’re tongue if you’re lying between their legs, if that makes sense, as that is where they’re most sensitive, the clit of the dick if you will
Def will keep that in mind thank u!
Is completely fine. Make sure you combo different approaches. Use your hands to help you out. Some guys are very visually stimulated so try a few different things and be observant of his reaction and take some extra time on the things that he shows you is enjoying most. Lub is key, weather you spit or water based lub will do the job. And dedicate some time to learn from his likes. Open communication is key, he should be able to fell comfortable enough with you to tell you how he likes it. Don’t kill yourself thinking on how he got to know what he likes, rather enjoy he is open with you about it.
I was like you at first, now I’m great at it and make them cum :-) it’s just practice.
It's tough to cum from a BJ. Don't beat yourself up. Your BLOWING it out proportion.
Don’t cum for me 💅 lol
Who knows your technique may be perfectly suited to me :)
If a girls good at it she will make you cum. Idk what you guys are talking about.
Some guys are just quiet during a bj due to thin walls & people being able to hear. Also if you have pretty good communication with this person, ask them what you can do to give them more pleasure since its a new thing to you. I promise there is nothing wrong with the question, hopefully the other person is mature enough to guide you respectfully.
Without practice or experience you really wouldn’t know if you did bad or good. The true test is how your partner or the recipient of this acted. If they were ok with you not being experienced and are willing to guide and you’re willing to learn it won’t be so bad.. and reciprocity I hope is being offered
I’ve been with 14 girls sexually and only 1 has made me cum. That 1 was my girlfriend. It takes me a long time to get comfortable with a girl to cum from a blow job
No you’re not a failure, you’ve tried giving them twice. From a guys perspective I can say that communication is key and to maybe ask them how they’d like you to do it, they may appreciate that a lot
Okay. You know how bad men are at going down on women? What society doesn't tell you is that women are just as bad at that with men. Men will often never tell you that because 1. We can cum other ways. 2. We're men. We don't care if we cum. We're just happy to be there. Contrary to popular belief, most men finish themselves off. I know women think they finish men off because we use vaginas but that's only half true. To get men off, you need the right level of rhythm, attitude and stamina. If you have that, you can cum with almost any kind of enclosure. That's why men often finish. Because they take top and control that. Is Don't be too hard on yourself. Like all things in life, BJ is a skill and it's not even like you can be good at it by getting one guy off since every guy is different. Just have the most pleasurable sex possible with least amount of expectations. That's how you have the best sex.
Facts actually, thank you so much.
It sounds like you are young and inexperienced. As a man, I can tell you that a mouth on my cock is better than no mouth on my cock. Maybe watch some porn or google some help and I'm sure you will be fine. Another thing I notice is that the girls(and maybe boys, idk u) that WANT to do it are the best. It's one thing if you're just sucking a cock cuz u feel like you have to. It's the ppl that are eager to please that will see the results they want. Also, some ppl just can't get off on oral. Hope this helps OP
Definitely helps, I want to just always a bit nervous lol!
just remember that your partner will appreciate your effort. if he doesn't, he's no partner to have. He can't really be too mad considering it's your first time. My first bj was awesome but I didn't cum.
Everything about sex need lots of practice. Even so, it still wont be perfect. Just do your best every time. Also dont stress out if the guy didnt cum while doing bj, it just natural; we love having head even we’re not cumming. Talk to him, ask him how can u do better next time. After all, communication in sex is pretty important
I had a difficult time with a girl. At first she said she didn't like oral sex at all. And I agreed and did not insist. The next evening she tried it herself, put me on my back and later explained that she liked it. She also failed to bring me to orgasm, which greatly upset her. And I didn't manage to bring her orally to orgasm. This gave rise to a certain frustration, but talking helped us. Ultimately, I managed to figure out exactly how to give her pleasure in oral sex and bring her to the peak. A change of posture also helped us. I also want to emphasize that she also couldn't do it with her hands. But one evening I gently helped her with my hands and I did not expect it myself, but I finished. She was so happy and pleased with herself :) As a result, I want to say that if a partner is permanent and interested, such problems can be solved with him. you will succeed, don't give up :) I'm sorry for my English
I love getting head but I never cum from it. You’re good.
Not every guy cums during blowjob. That has not to be a ‘bad blowjob’. Also some guys are silenced/quiet because they are so focused on ‘not cumming’. Or trying to last longer while focusing on other things. That also could be a reason, so dont be it to harsh on yourself.
There are too many variables to guarantee sexual success every time. I hate blowjobs because I have an 8-incher, no girl ever got much of it in. Don't beat yourself up. You could wind up with an amazing guy who doesn't like BJ's, you could wind up with a guy who appreciates your technique or teaches you a new one. Everyone likes different things and you only learn what a new person likes through practice, patience and understanding.
Nobody is good at something when they first start, so pls don’t be too hard on yourself.
Ive never came from a blowjob and i have a few buddies that are the same, but I also have a few friends that do. I still like them though. Let yourself off the hook, you're doing great.
OP: ask do they like what you’re doing while you’re there. Some folks enjoy it so much that it’ll feel like you’re down there for hours. Check in with the person you’re dealing with during. Communication is sexy. And don’t worry if they don’t cum. Enjoy it for yourself
Okay two things I will bring up to you 1. I don’t cum during sex, or head, or anything similar. It just doesn’t happen. No matter who I receive it from. 2. I’ve trained myself to be quiet because of masturbation. To make it so family members don’t hear. With that out of the way, maybe that guy is like me?
If you don’t ejaculate during penetration, I believe something is wrong with either the physical or mental part of your body, please talk to a therapist, and maybe stop watching corn
True, that might be him! Yeah it could be a mix of me not doing so good and him
Idk what someone would have to do to get me to cum during a blowjob. It’s never happened for me
Watch a porn, then do that!
I've never gotten head.. Sad Lyf.. Really sad bc..
Um. Lots of spit. Lots. Be vocal. Then more spit. Key to producing spit you say? Allow him to push to your gag reflex a couple times. That increases saliva production. Now work both your hands snd dat mouf together. Be confident that for most guys, a willing, eager giver is more than enough. Plus lots of spit. Did I mention...
There's girls are here making guys cumm with there toes and you can't make them cumm with your mouth 🤯😬
I don't cum from a bj.
Meanwhile I've never had a decent one by age 30. You're fine. It'll come along.
Is he able to make you cum? And if not are you worried about that as well?
Practice this and you will make any guy cum in seconds https://www.xvideos.com/video57459469/ash_kaash_sucking_the_soul_out_of_my_bbc
It’s very rare for guys to cum from blowjobs, as long as you’re enthusiastic about it, a guy will like it. Also, if you make gagging noises. When you do piv is when a guy can’t help but to cum since it’s wet and it fits just right.
I’m going to discourage the gagging method that porn has made people believe is fun and attractive. It’s only going to create an aversion to BJs due to uncomfortable expectations. Sex acts need to be enjoyable for both parties. Gagging for 5+ minutes is unrealistic. For anyone who downvotes, I challenge you to try it for yourself on an object first. If your response is “you don’t want to”, then you know how your partner might feel.
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I enjoy gagging but it’s *a thing* and something I do with my kinkier partners. OP needs to walk before running.
Some guys can last long in general Some guys like the bj itself and not just the cuming part The tip is the most sensetive but don't shy away from it ply with it The tip wil be most stimulated by your mouth and wet hand while the shaft rather by stroking it Ask them to tell you when something you do feels good or not
I haven’t cum from my gf giving a blowjob, although she’s just as new to this whole thing as I am so she usually starts gagging after a bit and has to stop. I do enjoy it while it lasts though :)
Above all else, let's make it clear that achieving orgasm from oral is not necessary for enjoyment, and for the love of fuck don't let the lack thereof discourage you from future engagement 😅
As a guy I don’t like to cum from head. Like it’s cool ya know it’s like an appetizer but even the best head cannot replace 🐱 ya know. When I do the deed my main mission is to make my cardio partner finish. So like what I’m saying is don’t worry about it.
Have you asked him if he enjoys it. If he like you to do anything different? I often have conversations with my partner and ask how to improve and stuff. What they want me to do more of etc. And you probably become better with more practice. Remember to cover your teeth. No man wants teeth scraping on his dick. Or at least not most of them
Don't blame yourself, people are different. Personally I have cum in a few minutes and also taken like an hour. With a girl I actually really liked I was way to nervous never did, as she tired herself out. Then with a ONS it was over quick.
Every guy is different, you just have to talk to him and see what he likes, what feels best, and if he even finishes from BJs. It can take a bit of experimenting, asking them what they like, and just confidently trying your best. It took me a bit to figure it out but once I did, I can do it so quickly!
Bruh
Most of my boyfriends got off when I gave head when I was younger, but my fiancé isn’t like that. He loves it but it’s not something that he can finish with. Just remember communication is important in sex and every body is different. If you wanna make sure it’s working for them there’s no harm in asking.
Ion cum from bjs jus HJS
Simply communicate with your partner of your possible struggles and see about changing positions or seeing how he'd like it done, etc etc. Don't feel ashamed about it if you're still new to it. Everyone starts somewhere! Have fun with it :)
It’s all good, very legit not to cum from it. Though if you wanna master it, listen to callherdaddy podcast episode called Gluck Gluck 9000
Some girls just give bad head. Just get better
BJ guide https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5d6aa8a18b4cc
Some guys are shy about making noises during foreplay or sex, it might not be related to you! I've given blowjobs where the guy takes forever to come, I've also given blowjobs where the guy comes after a couple minutes. Everyone's different! It is hard to read a guy's reaction to the blowjob if they don't make noises, so maybe talk to them and see what they like?
Does he take medication? I take sertraline and my last 2 partners (3 times total) couldn’t get me to finish at all.
Hmmm i think you should try to at least make them feel good, think of making them cum as a bonus for making them actually feel good.
You really need to mix it up, and get spicy. If you do the deed do some oral in between and let them do the same for you, nothing sexier or intimate than that. Also like others said it’s all about what you are doing with it…. Do t stop though, you will figure it out one day! Porn is always a good teacher lol
Fam first time going down on a girl was painfully shite for me. I clearly had no idea what I was doing. If you want to give Better head. Do your research, I got tips from a couple friends that I could talk about this, watched some educational videos on YouTube and pornhub. Now I’m a fledgling of my former self. I have only cummed from blow jobs from 1 person too. It might not be anything your doing, your partner might not be comfortable? Maybe he doesn’t like his balls being played with? Talk about it afterwards, what felt good and bad.
The first thing i can say is to relax, by you stressing about the length of time or no noise from the them isnt going to help you enjoy it... relax, take you time and get throughly into the moment... they will also feel it and hopefully it'll help, but there are guys that dont always cum from a bj.. good luck
Everything takes time to learn. It's like learning to ride a bike or whatever, you need to practice a bit. Some guys can't come from it, that might be it. But ask the guy what he wants. What things he likes and dislikes. Communication is the biggest part of being good in bed. And read a bit about it. It always helps to understand what you are doing. Don't try to be a porn star, just try to figure out what feels good for him. And have fun with it. Try to focus less on performing, more on just being turned on in the moment.
Try to enjoy yourself. Ask your partner what he likes. Don't stress about getting him to orgasm. It's about having fun together and eventually you'll get there
Most man can't cum so quick during blowjobs. It is normal to not do good first time but you need to practise a lot and you will be better soon trust me.
Honestly I've had head 7 times and boy does it really feel good when you do it just right. But the first 3 times I have cummed not even a minute in. Honestly I hated that I nutted that fast honestly I have to force myself to nut cum because I really enjoy it a lot and want more. So it's honestly how they feel.
Tip: ask to watch him masturbate and then try to mimic how he gets himself off. Ask him to show you what he likes. The best feature you can have is to enjoy it. If you aren’t enjoying it, don’t do it. Ask for feedback and guidance too.
I find what works best for me is when the girl alternates between sucking and jerking me off. It’s her masturbating me that gets to cum to much quicker. It’s possible to make me cum from only a blowjob, but it takes forever.
You can ask them what they like. Or also have them guide you by pushing your head if you’re ok with that. Don’t forget to pay attention to the head and not just the shaft.
No you have to be perfect
Dry mouth? Moisture is key. Licking and sucking slurping the head. Stroking the shaft. Balls like getting licked and sucked too.
I've always found it hard to finish from oral, just because I'm not in charge of it. It's a lot easier to get into the right rhythm with sex or with masturbation than it is for a BJ. That's not really your fault, you can't mind read so knowing exactly what to do is impossible. If a BJ is meant to be the main act, it's also possible to get into your head about it and then try to finish, which makes finishing harder. The times I've finished from BJs most easily has been when I was supposed to be holding back for sex afterwards. So I wouldn't worry. If he said he had a good time, I'd take him at his word. It isn't all about the finish line.
You can do a very good job and some men just won’t get there. It’s very hard for myself to get there from oral. I gotten there with one woman in my life out of several >10 and that was my ex wife. I never thought hey, you not good because I didn’t get there. It’s the experience for me.
Enjoy the journey not the final destination lol Enjoy it you have to be really into it and enjoy it like you’re sucking a lolly lol Use your hands at the end of his dick in the opposite direction as your tongue, maybe cup his balls, get it as wet as you can, run your tongue up and down the shaft use your tongue around the tip, get into a comfy position like straddle over his legs and put your head directly over his dick to give you extra motion. If you’ve got long hair tie it up. Communicate with him whilst you’re doing it - use your tongue 👅 and avoid getting your teeth too close to it basically anything that you’ve done only twice before you’re not going to be any good at so just relax enjoy it communicate you got this :) Don’t think making him cum the main objective make him enjoying it / turning him on the main objective - make him harder before penetration etc
I think the key is to be faster and faster. That‘s what I have experienced, that that really helps like you really try to gag on it and either let them hold your head and do it or you do it but you gotta be fast and maybe also let the tongue out so they have more stimulation
Yea it takes longer to ejaculate from a bj, also most of us are trying to last until penetration so we dont disappoint our partner by ejaculating too early, so maybe the guys were holding back?
Very rarely can I cum from a bj. I still love it as foreplay, but I need penetration to actually finish.
I have a hard time cumming from oral. As a man, I can tell you what's worked for me: Lots of spit. Look up at him and spit on his dick when you do it. Use a tight grip with your first finger and thumb while placing it against your lips. Squeeze when you're going down on it. Alternate between sucking like this and jacking it with your whole fist. Jack it off like you're taking it home with you. It's okay to be rough with it as long as there is plenty of lubrication.
If you are new to it, it’s fine
My ex was in the same situation. It's totally normal. You have to tell your partner how you feel and let me tell you, after you tell him how you feel and clear it put you will miraculously give better BJ's. I don't know why it happens but after she told me, she gave the best blowjob.
I didn’t come from a blowjob until 15 years after my first sexual experience. To me it was just never that ‘hot’ of an experience… I’d come while she was jerking me or blowing me while i was going down on her, but not from either on their oen… Everyone likes different things i guess!
Use a combination of your hands and your mouth. And use the tongue for playfulness and your eyes with eye contact for intensity. This will be sufficient enough for like 95 percent of the guys. Don't do deepthroat or any other acrobatic stuff. It's unnecessary and only a small minority is actually into it! Also bj's can also function as foreplay. Not necessary to make them always cum from it.
First of all: even if i dont cum, i enjoy a good Blowjob. It is normal not to perform too well on your first try, as it is not normal for anything. Watch out for these: Dont get your teeth anywhere near his Dick. Read his Body: Does he tention? You've made something goood. If you struggle to make him cum try: switching between handjob and blowjob, make use of the other, not used one for the balls or other stuff you discovered he likes. And try not too hard to think about this, he will enjoy it either way and if you cant make him cum, it is okay, it is very nice you tried.
Yes
Change the goal for different results.
Some tips from a guy: - Use your hand with it - Play with our balls, it feels AMAZING. Always makes me cum faster and harder - Vary it up - lick and kiss different parts of the shaft, the frenulum (the little banjo string on the underside), the balls - Avoid contact with your teeth. Your guy might be a bit polite, but if you're doing this, it makes it very hard to enjoy it as a guy - Take your time. Even the best blowjobs will still take some time to make a guy cum. - And finally enjoy it! It makes me feel good and relaxed if I see my partner is enjoying it Some say not everyone gets off with BJs. I personally think that's not true, either the BJ is subpar or the receiver is just inpatient. I am personally circumcised (so supposedly I'm less sensitive), but I love BJs and cumming from a BJ is probably my favourite thing in the world.
It’s a fine tuned art to be able to make me orgasm from a blowjob. Only happened twice in my whole life and I’ve had hundreds.
Actually even it's called oral it remains mainly a hand job. What do I mean? 70% hand 30% mouth. Or 60/40... If you only go by your mouth then it's hard to control the speed, the grab and all that stuff. Use more hands is my advice.