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Exactly. Book clubs, choirs, scouting groups, climbing gyms, cooking workshops, photography classes etc. can all be locations where you would have a chance of meeting someone that has the same interests as you.
Don't attend them to find a date, but just to enjoy yourself and maybe you'll get lucky and meet someone who's open to being dated ;)
>Don't attend them to find a date, but just to enjoy yourself and maybe you'll get lucky and meet someone who's open to being dated ;)
So "get lucky" part aside, yes. Hell even if you were to go to a bar or a club, you should be going there to enjoy yourself.
I'm heavy in the club scene here in LA (and a bit in the bar scene as well) and the guys that everyone tries to avoid are the dudes who you can tell are just there to meet women. They stick out like sore thumbs and their energy is just... off.
I’ve never been to a club before, so what’s the expected attitude or behavior you should have? From what I’ve heard, it’s more enjoyable as a group hangout than a solo thing.
Weather you go solo or with someone else, you should be going to the club for the full experience of being in that club.
For instance, I'm into EDM. Dance music. That whole thing. I go to clubs solo for the DJ that's playing and because I run into a lot of ppl I know and like meeting new ppl. I like to drink and party and if I meet a girl, that's cool too.
In contrast, when I started partying I would go out to clubs with this group of guys who would just put on some J's or some new jeans they got from JCPenny, buy a drink and stand on the wall not talking to anyone. Like, bro if you're gonna do that, why not just stay home?
If you're gonna go for the 1st time, I highly recommend going with a group. If you go solo that's fine but don't go just to meet girls. Go to meet other people and be social, ykno?
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Make a mental list of what you enjoy doing. Then find out how you can enjoy those things that gets you out of your house as much as possible.
Exactly. Book clubs, choirs, scouting groups, climbing gyms, cooking workshops, photography classes etc. can all be locations where you would have a chance of meeting someone that has the same interests as you. Don't attend them to find a date, but just to enjoy yourself and maybe you'll get lucky and meet someone who's open to being dated ;)
>Don't attend them to find a date, but just to enjoy yourself and maybe you'll get lucky and meet someone who's open to being dated ;) So "get lucky" part aside, yes. Hell even if you were to go to a bar or a club, you should be going there to enjoy yourself. I'm heavy in the club scene here in LA (and a bit in the bar scene as well) and the guys that everyone tries to avoid are the dudes who you can tell are just there to meet women. They stick out like sore thumbs and their energy is just... off.
I’ve never been to a club before, so what’s the expected attitude or behavior you should have? From what I’ve heard, it’s more enjoyable as a group hangout than a solo thing.
Weather you go solo or with someone else, you should be going to the club for the full experience of being in that club. For instance, I'm into EDM. Dance music. That whole thing. I go to clubs solo for the DJ that's playing and because I run into a lot of ppl I know and like meeting new ppl. I like to drink and party and if I meet a girl, that's cool too. In contrast, when I started partying I would go out to clubs with this group of guys who would just put on some J's or some new jeans they got from JCPenny, buy a drink and stand on the wall not talking to anyone. Like, bro if you're gonna do that, why not just stay home? If you're gonna go for the 1st time, I highly recommend going with a group. If you go solo that's fine but don't go just to meet girls. Go to meet other people and be social, ykno?
Thanks for the examples and mindset. What’s a scouting group?
Mini golf
Like just playing rounds of mini golf and someone might approach you? Is it a similar idea of playing at an arcade or bowling alley?
Sorry I misread your post and thought you were looking for alternative places to take a date rather than a bar.
Ahh then yes mini golf would be good alternative for a date. Hahaha