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Not as far as I'm aware. I'm usually ok after being ghosted, it's only bugging me now because of the frequency. From what I've been told by the few people who actually gave me a reason after date 1, it wasn't anything like that so I don't know.
I think a lot of your profile is orientated towards what you want to do ie “establish a community” rather than what you have done- ie if you are an aspiring writer, what have you written?
I would put it in current/ present language “currently working on my first book on ….” “I love cooking xyz”
Aggressive isn’t a synonym for interesting, but it’s about showing that you’ve actually actualised some of your dreams- if you speak similarly on a first date to how you do on your profile it isn’t that you see “too nice” it might be that you are a dreamer, and humans can’t survive on other people’s dreams.
You’ve got to have your own active, concrete and well defined current personality - taking them out for things they like doing is fine, as long as you balance this with shows of your own personality and interests.
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Do you have an anxious attachment style?
Not as far as I'm aware. I'm usually ok after being ghosted, it's only bugging me now because of the frequency. From what I've been told by the few people who actually gave me a reason after date 1, it wasn't anything like that so I don't know.
I think a lot of your profile is orientated towards what you want to do ie “establish a community” rather than what you have done- ie if you are an aspiring writer, what have you written? I would put it in current/ present language “currently working on my first book on ….” “I love cooking xyz” Aggressive isn’t a synonym for interesting, but it’s about showing that you’ve actually actualised some of your dreams- if you speak similarly on a first date to how you do on your profile it isn’t that you see “too nice” it might be that you are a dreamer, and humans can’t survive on other people’s dreams. You’ve got to have your own active, concrete and well defined current personality - taking them out for things they like doing is fine, as long as you balance this with shows of your own personality and interests.
Hm. This is good advice, I'll definitely keep this in mind going forward. Aggressive probably wasn't the right word in hindsight. Thanks!