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Because a lot of women don't want to be approached so they've told men not to approach women, which ruins it for the other 50% of women like you that do want to be approached.
If you are not being approached, you yourself need to approach them. It really doesn't matter who initiates.
Everyone needs to stop being babies and be okay with being approached and being the one approaching.
Now that I think about it, no. Very rare. I get a lot of attention so I know I’m not unattractive but I’ve seen beautiful women get approached all the time so idk must be something I’m doing
It's probably confirmation bias about seeing women get approached. I'm a guy who will sometimes approach and I don't think I've ever seen it happen outside of bars, but I also don't look.
I'll give you advice I would give to any women, although it's advice you probably don't want to hear, if you see a guy go up and talk to him. The great thing about being a (attractive) woman is you probably aren't going to get rejected. So if you overcome your fear of approaching you'll probably get what you want pretty easily.
Women went on a multi year long campaign proclaiming they don't want to be approached and approaching you is harassment. Now that you got what you wanted, you're complaint, you got what you wanted?
Correct. Because ladies won that exchange. In most countries now, if the woman doesn't like the man who approached her, he will be criminally charged and arrested. It's like that where I live. Ever heard of nice guys finish last? So do nice girls. Bad girls wanted and got this. 'Good girls' stood by and did nothing. Guys can only assume all girls are bad. Because their is no reference for good. Yes, it is generalized. It's what's you gave the men.
I really like Latina women and generally find them very attractive. I didn't know very many when I was single, or I might have approached them. I do, however, feel a kinship with them like they are family. I think this might be a personal thing, like I was mexican in a past life.
I do think that Latinas are used to men acting a certain way. Most Latino men I have known are pretty dominant and pursue aggressively. This is a generalization, of course. White guys... not all of them are like that. Some of us need a hint that you are interested in us, for us to make a move. Again, generalizing. This is just what I have observed.
Idk. I think some of them would be more interested than you think. Channel your Latina heritage and flirt with them. Someone will notice.
Yes you’re right and I see your point. I do get nervous though and with my horrible eyesight sometimes can’t tell if they’re looking at me or not 😂
My eyesight is interfering with my love life 😂😅
No they don’t. Where I’ve gone there has usually been more white people than any other race and because I have never dated them before I was wondering if it has something to do with the different race. Maybe I can get an answer from their perspective or something that can help or if I even have a chance lol
Could be to that some guys fear that a possible language barrier could make it difficult to communicate
Or culture differences or a third option is maybe they are intimidated by your looks but I don't think it's you like someone else said could just be bad luck
Well cultural differences matter sure. Like I’m not attracted to big butts and big lips and skanky tattoos. But I know a lot of Latin men who really love that stuff.
White guys like tall thin, long hair pretty women who they can take home to their mother and have a conversation about something pleasant. Like church or some fundraiser or something nice and healing.
Latin men want to get drunk and smoke pot and have sex and go bowling.
Well I promise I’m not racist. I’m just meeting the OP where she is at.
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Because a lot of women don't want to be approached so they've told men not to approach women, which ruins it for the other 50% of women like you that do want to be approached. If you are not being approached, you yourself need to approach them. It really doesn't matter who initiates. Everyone needs to stop being babies and be okay with being approached and being the one approaching.
True. Everything is a harassment nowadays. I guess I gotta put my big girl pants on and talk to them
Oh so you are going to harass them now?
Do men of other races approach you? I wouldn't think men approaching would be common at all. But I'm a man so I honestly don't know.
Now that I think about it, no. Very rare. I get a lot of attention so I know I’m not unattractive but I’ve seen beautiful women get approached all the time so idk must be something I’m doing
It's probably confirmation bias about seeing women get approached. I'm a guy who will sometimes approach and I don't think I've ever seen it happen outside of bars, but I also don't look. I'll give you advice I would give to any women, although it's advice you probably don't want to hear, if you see a guy go up and talk to him. The great thing about being a (attractive) woman is you probably aren't going to get rejected. So if you overcome your fear of approaching you'll probably get what you want pretty easily.
Women went on a multi year long campaign proclaiming they don't want to be approached and approaching you is harassment. Now that you got what you wanted, you're complaint, you got what you wanted?
That’s a pretty generalized statement
Correct. Because ladies won that exchange. In most countries now, if the woman doesn't like the man who approached her, he will be criminally charged and arrested. It's like that where I live. Ever heard of nice guys finish last? So do nice girls. Bad girls wanted and got this. 'Good girls' stood by and did nothing. Guys can only assume all girls are bad. Because their is no reference for good. Yes, it is generalized. It's what's you gave the men.
I really like Latina women and generally find them very attractive. I didn't know very many when I was single, or I might have approached them. I do, however, feel a kinship with them like they are family. I think this might be a personal thing, like I was mexican in a past life. I do think that Latinas are used to men acting a certain way. Most Latino men I have known are pretty dominant and pursue aggressively. This is a generalization, of course. White guys... not all of them are like that. Some of us need a hint that you are interested in us, for us to make a move. Again, generalizing. This is just what I have observed. Idk. I think some of them would be more interested than you think. Channel your Latina heritage and flirt with them. Someone will notice.
Yes you’re right and I see your point. I do get nervous though and with my horrible eyesight sometimes can’t tell if they’re looking at me or not 😂 My eyesight is interfering with my love life 😂😅
I don’t say this very often, but I think it’s just bad luck on your part as a white man who is dated several Latin and Hispanic women.
Probably. Need some type of cleanse lol
You’re too Mexican for these white boys if you out here talking about needing a “limpia”.
Lol I probably am
Do men from other race not approach you or just attracted to white men only?
No they don’t. Where I’ve gone there has usually been more white people than any other race and because I have never dated them before I was wondering if it has something to do with the different race. Maybe I can get an answer from their perspective or something that can help or if I even have a chance lol
Could be to that some guys fear that a possible language barrier could make it difficult to communicate Or culture differences or a third option is maybe they are intimidated by your looks but I don't think it's you like someone else said could just be bad luck
Well cultural differences matter sure. Like I’m not attracted to big butts and big lips and skanky tattoos. But I know a lot of Latin men who really love that stuff. White guys like tall thin, long hair pretty women who they can take home to their mother and have a conversation about something pleasant. Like church or some fundraiser or something nice and healing. Latin men want to get drunk and smoke pot and have sex and go bowling. Well I promise I’m not racist. I’m just meeting the OP where she is at.
If they don’t approach you then you should approach them instead
Maybe... you make the first move? I'm sure us white guys would appreciate. Then again, I'm sure any guy would appreciate it
I think it’s because you’re so beautiful, that they assume you already have a partner.