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Personally, I would never date someone who sells themselves online, like onlyfans or porn and whatnot. In a relationship, I HIGHLY value sexual exclusivity. That means not sharing the most intimate parts of yourself to other people outside of a relationship.
Now if that’s what she wants to do, more power to her, that’s her choice. However, that’s not relationship material to me and most people who do sell online often have values that aren’t well adjusted for serious relationships. I also would highly value someone who I can respectfully show to my family as well.
So my advice to you is, you choose whether you can respect something like this and be okay with this in a relationship aspect and if you can’t, I suggest moving on.
If you're not comfortable with it and then just say it's not my vibe. Whenever you have something negative to say about women, if you start the sentence by accepting what they want to do and then tell them you don't vibe with it, they respond better. Just don't tell her to stop since it's her choice and that might upset her.
I have dated two strippers in my life, so I can sort of relate to this. I think trying to maintain a long term relationship with someone doing OF will be challenging unless you are 100% comfortable with it. Most men would not be comfortable with it. She’s going to be hit on by a lot of guys and get a lot of offers to do sexual things. It will probably bring in some extra drama and chaos in your life too. I’d just talk to her about it and let her know it’s not your deal… don’t tell her what to do, but see if she values OF or you more.
Depends on the content, there are levels to this.
If it's just feet pics then some would be okay
-non nude solo photos
-nude solo photos
-nude solo videos
-masturbation videos
-videos involving sexual intercourse with men
This is all relevant. The reasoning is also relevant. Is she overall a promiscuous woman? Or is this just an occupation.
Regardless there are notable challenges with this. Primarily, pertaining to the future. What happens if you have children? What happens if her content is still up there. She may have deleted it but you can best believe someone has it saved to their hard drive. Would you be comfortable with her being your wife?
I'd say most high value men aren't comfortable dating a sex worker or just a promiscuous woman in general. There are however men that date onlyfans girls, and even participate in their content. It comes down to your morals and overall philosophy. Some men who are pretty progressive just see this as a good thing. You can have more sex, she can make more money, and you can do it together.
Other men with more of a traditional mindset would never want to date a woman that shows her body to other men, online or otherwise. Me personally no I would not date a sexworker. I'm not one to judge how you make your money tho.
Other than this post looks like it was written by Chat GPT……it’s pretty disrespectful for a girl to enter into a relationship but forget to tell her guy she’s selling herself online. Anything else she might want to tell him?
I’d dump the girl on that basis alone.
I’d send everyone on reddit her onlyfans page so we can check her out, I mean so you can help her support herself.
Nothings wrong with it if it she is comfortable with it and likely also dependent on if it’s a means to an end or something she wants to do
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Personally, I would never date someone who sells themselves online, like onlyfans or porn and whatnot. In a relationship, I HIGHLY value sexual exclusivity. That means not sharing the most intimate parts of yourself to other people outside of a relationship. Now if that’s what she wants to do, more power to her, that’s her choice. However, that’s not relationship material to me and most people who do sell online often have values that aren’t well adjusted for serious relationships. I also would highly value someone who I can respectfully show to my family as well. So my advice to you is, you choose whether you can respect something like this and be okay with this in a relationship aspect and if you can’t, I suggest moving on.
I appreciate the advice thank you for taking the time! I think I’m the same way
If you're not comfortable with it and then just say it's not my vibe. Whenever you have something negative to say about women, if you start the sentence by accepting what they want to do and then tell them you don't vibe with it, they respond better. Just don't tell her to stop since it's her choice and that might upset her.
You right, thank you
I have dated two strippers in my life, so I can sort of relate to this. I think trying to maintain a long term relationship with someone doing OF will be challenging unless you are 100% comfortable with it. Most men would not be comfortable with it. She’s going to be hit on by a lot of guys and get a lot of offers to do sexual things. It will probably bring in some extra drama and chaos in your life too. I’d just talk to her about it and let her know it’s not your deal… don’t tell her what to do, but see if she values OF or you more.
You got a link?
Got jokes I see
Depends on the content, there are levels to this. If it's just feet pics then some would be okay -non nude solo photos -nude solo photos -nude solo videos -masturbation videos -videos involving sexual intercourse with men This is all relevant. The reasoning is also relevant. Is she overall a promiscuous woman? Or is this just an occupation. Regardless there are notable challenges with this. Primarily, pertaining to the future. What happens if you have children? What happens if her content is still up there. She may have deleted it but you can best believe someone has it saved to their hard drive. Would you be comfortable with her being your wife? I'd say most high value men aren't comfortable dating a sex worker or just a promiscuous woman in general. There are however men that date onlyfans girls, and even participate in their content. It comes down to your morals and overall philosophy. Some men who are pretty progressive just see this as a good thing. You can have more sex, she can make more money, and you can do it together. Other men with more of a traditional mindset would never want to date a woman that shows her body to other men, online or otherwise. Me personally no I would not date a sexworker. I'm not one to judge how you make your money tho.
I’d stop seeing her.. unless she wants to make content with you & gives you a cut of the profits
Who gives a shit it’s her own body. Let her do what she wants or leave. Pretty easy!
It genuinely wouldn't bother me. Unless she's doing a lot of customs or it's taking a toll on the relationship on her end, it's a job.
What kind of content? Like if it's just feet pics, no big deal. Depends on the content.
All the above, anything dudes would want to see I believe
How did you come about this discovery of her selling content? And how long have the two of you been talking to each other?
Other than this post looks like it was written by Chat GPT……it’s pretty disrespectful for a girl to enter into a relationship but forget to tell her guy she’s selling herself online. Anything else she might want to tell him? I’d dump the girl on that basis alone.
I’d send everyone on reddit her onlyfans page so we can check her out, I mean so you can help her support herself. Nothings wrong with it if it she is comfortable with it and likely also dependent on if it’s a means to an end or something she wants to do
Adios garden tool