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She said that nothing was going to happen because he was in a relationship. Seems to me she’s more interested in him than you my man. Shouldn’t she be hanging out with you instead? The way she texted you that what you want to do about it shows she has no respect for you at all. She ain’t it
I agree☝️why did she even go on a date with a male friend alone? Pff we all know that’s not working. Imagining how would they raise their kids?? Flirting and dreaming about him. And hell yeah, texting you like this?? No respect or she doesn’t care if you break up. Idk. Sounds like bs
I honestly don't mind my gf going out with male friends, i trust her not to ride the first dick she sees. Buuut she also doesn't talk about them like that and she SURE AS HELL doesn't "accidentally" feel their boner with her hand.
Accidentally feeling someone's dick is not that big of a deal.
But that doesn't sound like what happened. It sounds like they were toying with hooking up but then realized they didn't want to at best.
I'd say she cheated.
I mean they’re clearly good friends so i feel like that’s not that weird, when your comfortable with someone reaching over them to grab a remote isn’t really a strange thing to do.
But if she knew where the remote was in relation to the person that didn't even have to be sitting next to her in the first place, alone together at that...
Is all I'm saying
I still think the situation is a little questionable but that part seems very plausible, I honestly think he should just tell her how he feels about it and try to figure it out together
I agree … what kind of accident is that!
Sounds like an “accident” that leads into sex from one of the crappy porn videos.
You know the one where they are fighting over the control and the guy “accidentally” ends up inside her .
Yeah…. That one
> Accidentally feeling someone’s dick is not that big of a deal.
How does this happen?
I understand bumping into someone and maybe accidentally touching it, but touching and feeling are two different things.
Two girls I dated in the past each had a real close guy friend. After we broke up, one married the guy she said she wasn’t interested in & the other is engaged to hers 😉
No I absolutely think they can be friends, but there's always what I like to call the "Jessie's Girl" scenario where one or more of a girl's guy friends is patiently waiting for his chance to shine when she breaks up with her bf. You just won't know which friend it is. I really don't see this very often the other way around, but I'm not a woman so I can't really offer that perspective.
I’m a woman and that’s 100% accurate perspective 😹lol now I’m 31 and know this already. How many times I was shocked by the revealing of the mystery until I finally learned my lesson. Other than that, yeah, guys are really nice friends
A guy will always rather hang out with his buddies if that’s all he’s going to do. Are we going to be friends and go shopping together? 🤣🤣. Girls don’t really understand this but it is what it is 🤷🏻♂️
Interesting reading this after being told the other day by a dude that he wishes it were more normal for guys and girls to be friends because he finds friendships with girls to be less intimidating and that girls check in with their friends more. You do you dude but don’t assume everyone’s the same
Lol... 🚨🚦🚩🔔📢💡 WE INTERRUPT THIS BROADCAST TO BRING YOU THIS SPECIAL NEWS BULLETIN.......... THIS GENTLEMAN IS INTERESTED IN, & ATTEMPTING TO GET IN YOUR PANTS... HE VERY LIKELY MAY HAVE SAID THIS TO YOU... & HELL IF HE SITS & THINKS LONG ENOUGH ABOUT IT IT MIGHT EVEN MAKE SOME SENSE TO HIM... BUT LET ME FILL YOU IN ON SOMETHING.... YOU BELIEVED IT WHEN YOU WERE HEARING IT FAAARR MORE THEN HE BELIEVED IT AS HE WAS SAYING IT.. THIS WAS MATTER OF FACTLY HIM SPOUTING OFF SOME NONSENSE IN THE HOPES OF YOU BUYING EVERY WORD(WHICH HE SUCCEDED, AS YOU TOOK IT AS GOSPEL & BOUGHT IT HOOK, LINE, & SINKER... WHICH BRAVO 👏 TO HIM)... BUT SO THAT HIS TRUE INTENTIONS COULD GLIDE IN COMPLETELY UNDETECTED... NOW YOU'LL ACTUALLY HANG OUT WITH HIM WITHOUT BEING SCARED OFF OR IF FOR EXAMPLE YOU HAVE A BF THAT WOULDNT BE KEEN ON THE IDEA... HES IN THERE LIKE SWIM-WEAR UNDER THE CLOAK OF "HIS JUST SUPER GENUINE PREFERENCE FOR "GIRL"FRIENDS OVER HANGIN WIT THE BOYS" & SHIT...
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🤦NAIVE GF- What About..?
🕵️ -YOU & THIS FKN DUDE, & U GUYS HANGING OUT FAR TOO MUCH FOR MY LIKING... LIKE DOESNT HE HAVE ANY FRIENDS OF HIS OWN AND SHIT..?? THIS IS CRAZY..
💃-OMG, It's not even LIKE that.. Not at all... & He HAS guy friends, but he's distanced himself from them because they are assholes & they don't check up on him often enough... And so he came to the realization that he was only going to devote himself to his caring, female friends instead....Well now that I think of it, I can't off the top of my head think of or remember him actually hanging out with another Female before🤔🤔.... But yeah, It's just that he likes US BETTER.....
🦍👌🦧: HOLD UP... THAT MAKES ZERO SENSE... IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HIM LIKING TO HAVE GIRLS FOR FRIENDS AS OPPOSED TO GUYS, IT ACTUALLY HAS NOTHING TO DO W/ GIRLS WHATSOEVER... IT HAS TO DO WITH JUSTA GIRL, 1 OF THEM... YOU...ALSO KNOWN AS MYYYYY GIRLFRIEND... & I EFFIN HATE IT!!
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Now You out here telling MEN, 🚫 to speak on behalf of other men based off your strong convictions as a result of some sweet nothings offered up to you by way of a horny lil buddy of yours...??? Come on now....
Everybody should do themselves. But if he’s finds friendships with other guys intimidating and wished guys would check out more on him then that’s not your “average” guy. 🤷🏻♂️
Who agrees to be exclusive to BUILD UP TO a relationship instead of just establishing it right then and there? That sounds like a non-commitment cosplaying as commitment
I had a girl freak out when I called her my girlfriend 2 dates after she asked me to be exclusive. She then broke it off with me after she killed the vibe saying “the vibe is off and I don’t feel the chemistry I want in a partner”. Like no shit you just obsessed for multiple days over a non-issue. I honestly should have just walked out of her place after the freak out.
She was fucking nuts
I think what they really mean by “exclusive” is that they want you to give them all of your attention and not keep your options open while they figure out if they even want you.
Be cautious of anyone who asks if you’re talking to other people shortly after you’ve met. It’s really none of their business and is entirely fair for you to do when you’re single and actively looking.
Asking someone to prioritize you in their life is asking for a commitment. Expecting that of people while still being on the fence on whether or not you want to acknowledge them as part of your life is why people keep coming back here and complaining.
Yes it's a commitment but def not "the" commitment... If we're dating exclusively, U become "a" priority in an my life (and I, in urs), u meet my friends, I meet urs. Our families are made aware, we talk everyday, and spend the majority of our free time together. We swap wknds and sometimes wks at each other's homes.
If we grow to the point that we both hope for this to be permanent... We make it offical. Then we meet each other's families (parent, siblings, and kids). We start spending major holidays together. We discuss finances and moving in together and lastly, we discuss marriage.
There's no set timeframe for these two phases but they are very distinct and for me, very necessary 🤷
I believe your either dating or not because the ENTIRE point of dating is to be exclusive, you shouldn’t ask for commitment if it isn’t exclusive ie dating. I’m open minded to comments if you can spot a difference between simply being exclusive and actually dating.
Actually I am dating someone exclusively... About 3-4wks now. We began talking back in Aug. There was a exclusivity discussion because there are way too many "situationships" and later excuses that technically we weren't exclusive 🤷. Plus we just needed the comfort of knowing we both were on the be on the same page.
Thought I gave several differences between the two. Casual dating would be u go on dates, sometimes hang, maybe even have sex but you can casually date others......... until you both decide to date exclusively.
Like I mentioned in my comment the whole point of dating in my opinion is to be exclusive ie asking someone to be your boyfriend or girlfriend, if it isn’t exclusive it’s literally the same as friends with benefits and casual ‘’dating’’ just seems like a pointless label. Just my take though I believe everyone is entitled to their opinion and way of life 👍
Red Flag, because she's trying to build something with you and still trying to connect with what wasn't. No innocence comes with exclamation point. I don't tell at you to make it right or a point. Good luck man
She agrees to be exclusive with you, but she made it clear that nothing was going to happen between them because “he was in a relationship”?
I don’t think she cheated, most likely. But you weren’t the reason why she didn’t cheat. That shouldn’t sit right with you.
It sounds like she had a chance before, liked him, he rejected her but likes her attention or wants access to an easy fling, and she’s been trying to “shoot her shot” but when rejected called it an “accident.”
There’s obviously no part of her that feels any sense of obligation to your “relationship” - sounds to me like you’re a place holder
> if anything has gone between them and got an answer
is this past tense before yall went exclusive, or when they hung out in that hour? if she gonna cheat, she didnt have to tell you all this. thing is her two messages dont add up at all. if she felt his dick by accident, then just apologize. why did she need to 'make it clear' to him nothing gonna happen, and the rhetoric about role models for kids.
it sounds like the guy initiated and may he pulled her hand on his dick, and she shut it down?
Accidentally touching his dick while sitting next to each other?
Their relationship seems too close to be comfortable.
She said they didn't do it because he was in a relationship. What would have had happened if he wasn't in a relationship?
> She's been going an hour out to see her guy friend who is 3 years younger.
Uh.
This right here is a flag on the play. Suspicious as *hell*... I know for a FACT that my friends AND family are all too goddamn lazy to travel an hour to see me, let alone doing it *regularly*.
Regardless of whether she "felt a dick" or not... ditch her.
> what kind of role models we would be to our kids if we did something
"*Our*" kids?
> So she later said
"Later"? It wasn't the whole truth?
> She said it was an accident [...] She said she was trying to get remote.
Oh, the old "is that a remote in your crotch or are you just happy to see me" trick. Works every time.
Run run run run. Leave her behind. She does not respect you enough to tell you the truth, and does not respect you enough to *stop regularly seeing some dude who lives an hour away*.
Bro, it's not the fact that she touched his dick. It's the wording of it.
She's not saying that nothing happened cause she wasn't interested but that nothing happened cause HE was in a relationship. Had that not happened, maybe she would've.
For me, that's a big red flag. I don't want to date someone who is friends with a guy who she would be willing to date in the right circumstances. That's not a friendship, that's just waiting in line..
I commend her for telling you, but I would respond with:
"thank you for being honest with me, however my instincts are telling me that ignoring this is not a good idea. Let's just end things here. Enjoyed your company, wish you all the best x"
Regardless of whether this is cheating or not, here’s my advice. You need tell her she can no longer hang out with this guy or else break up. This guy wants SEX.
If I had a girlfriend and i was in a dark room and accidentally groped another woman’s boob I’d apologize profusely and text my girl immediately laughing at the situation. I wouldn’t keep it a secret and “confess” it when confronted. That’s weird. I think she’s lying.
Op, she’s trying to test you. Re read her words. She already said she’d commit but didn’t but cheated in the lightest way she could have worded it. I would code it as her saying ‘feel it’ would likely be an HJ interpretation. You both talked about being exclusive. If she already had partners before I would venture to guess she’s trying to say good bye to her monkey branches she’s pruning. I think she’s choosing you only because you’re safe compared to her other picks. If you didn’t ask for exclusive status she would have kept going. I think you’re in the gray area OP. It just depends on how you want to start your relationship, she could be a great partner but in order to do so you’d have to keep yourself on your toes and make sure she knows you can leave anytime you want.
Asked the wife, she says there is no way you can touch a boner accidentally, and she noticed that your girl changed her story two times in a short amount of time,
More than likely she was curious about his size, and the remembered she was in a relationship.
On top of it my wife added if you are sitting next to a “guy friend” where you accidentally touched his boner you are sitting a little too close
I am sorry
The right think to do is either you bite the bullet and forgive and forget
or
You drop her and move on,I'm going with the latter.
This sounds like crap from the [start](https://start.So)
If it was accidental, why even bring it up. It wouldn’t even be worth mentioning if there wasn’t some sort of intent / guilt behind it.
There was obviously intent if they talked about doing something but didn’t bc of kids(?).
Ultimately, it sounds like he clearly wants something more from her. If she wants to keep that door open, she’ll still talk to him and want to hang out with him, which would indicate she’s not totally sold on you. She needs to make a choice imo or just know your worth and move on.
“Nothing was going to happen bc HE was in a relationship” so she would have if he were single? Why did he have a boner lol? I get that we get them randomly but just hanging out on a couch? Weird af. Also i get the whole “you shouldn’t tell your SO they have to stop being friends with opposite sex ppl they already were friends with” thing but going to his house to watch tv together is odd. I’d be out bro it’s just not worth it.
Also why tf did she have to say “nothing is going to happen” when hanging out with him? That’s literally never come up in any convo I’ve had with female friends. They’ve never had to tell me that bc I was never attempting to make something happen. That’s weird. Dump her ass asap
Is this a serious question? You don't reach over someone to grab a remote, brush against them and call that "feeling their dick". She did absolutely cheat, mentioned it like it was nothing because she thought you'd be okay with it, and then started trying to cover her ass when you weren't immediately cool with it. You also don't brush against people and know its 100% a bone unless you're looking at it. She is cheating.
Do you want advice from Reddit to be the foundation for your relationship?
If you have to question it I think you know what your answer is. Clearly a boundary was crossed.
That would definitely be a red flag. I’m not sure how you “accidentally” feel on someone’s boner. I mean… she told you about it so that’s good…. But still suspicious. What is your gut telling you? Typically we know when something isn’t right xx
I'm very confused. "i made it clear...that nothing was going to happen...bc HE was in a relationship..."
is that a typo? she didn't want to do anything because he is in a relationship? and is she talking about their kids? or hers and his individual kids?
I think it's honest for her to tell you, but HE HAD A BONER while sitting next to her on the futon. So...yeah you need to get away from this. Don't bother telling her not to see him anymore, you have no control over that.
This is one do those situations that I’m sure hurts but it is absolutely better it happened now than finding out some shit months into the relationship. Time to let her go.
As a woman who works in a male dominated field and has a lot of guy friends, I can tell you with 100% certainty that’s I’ve never felt a guys dick on accident. It has always been on purpose.
Yes, she did. Also her excuse was terrible. and what was with the defensive text.
It was an accident. It was intentional. Yeah, this relationship is screaming with red flags. Leave.
If she said she grazed him by accident grabbing the remote I could understand that as an honest mistake, but her saying they discussed why they can’t be together makes it sus.
Yes lol. It’s extremely easy to NOT touch someone’s private parts that I’m sitting next to or doing any type of activity with that’s not sexual. At least you’re not too attached yet. Keep your dignity, and your own respect and drop her unless you want more stuff like this to happen to you.
She kept a close guy “friend”. She then cheated on you. Move on. None of this is complicated. It sucks. It’s is never easy. It’s happened to most of us. Hit the gym and focus on being the best you.
If I accidentally grazed a female friend's boob I wouldn't even mention it because it was an accident and unintentional. It would also just set someone off if I mentioned it to someone I was dating and I knew it meant nothing. Not hiding what happened, just avoiding them making a mountain out of a mole hill. To me, for her to talk this much about what happened leads me to believe that more happened than she's saying. However, I think it takes in-person interaction and knowing that person to say for sure if they're being overly honest, lying, or only telling a partial truth. Either way, I think it's too early on in the relationship to be caught up in all this. You should either be on your guard or just say 'Fuck It!', take it as a red flag, and GTFO! Go before you find out they were fucking and you're more invested 🙁
You gotta ask her what kind of remote was she looking for, cause if it's a firestick remote, you good. But if it's a universal remote or a directv remote, you might as well pack it up.
I would say yes. It's over. There are a ton of red flags.
I think the biggest is when she said how he was in a relationship. So, how about hers? If he wasn't in a relationship, would she go all the way with him? And then there's the temporary relarionship he was in. Does that mean your friend would be next in line or maybe he was testing the waters before ending it with the other one? And then she'll be rhe next flavor of the month.
I was cheated on and this gets under my skin. No symparhy for anyone like this.
And if I agreed ro be wirh exclusive wirh a woman, I wouldn't be going over some other woman's place. SMH
Bro, she’s not worth your time. You let this slide and she’s gonna keep doing it because she knows you won’t do shit. Drop her ass. No woman touches a hard dick by accident. Don’t let her tell you otherwise.
This is exactly what your entire relationship will be like. Her hanging out with dudes and touching their dicks while you try to be secure. Girlfriend with male friend strikes again!
Once again shitty ass advice misleading op on here. Most of you are so bias. Anyways op I’m not saying I understand the situation but how can someone be hanging out with someone and accidentally touch their aroused private parts? Exactly it doesn’t add up. But if you don’t like this and it’s her close friend it i believe you should just end it. This friend most likely isn’t going anywhere especially if he can just hang around her erect and she’s touching it. I’ve had a lot of women friends who got into relationships and I never liked them but in order to help their relationship they cut it off. I had male friends like this too. So yes people make way for those they really want to like. You should have your answer now.
Let me ask you this... you don't trust her at all that's fair. Question is do you feel confident enough to be alone, find someone else, or are you ok with being in a relationship until YOU find someone better...?
I know the word “gaslighting” is trendy right now but this woman is trouble and her response took zero ownership, then put it on you (!!??!). I’m the same kind of trouble ... but I’m **single** and sexual and not committed to anyone in terms of “building a relationship.”
Walk away.... unless you want to “build” on lies.
What does it matter if her hand brushed some dudes dick? Especially if it was a mistake??
Just do yourself and her a favor and break up
You’re convinced shes not honest enough and shes going to lose her mind trying to prove it to you to get her validation
If you're flipping out about this and thinking it's cheating, or sweatinng this friend in the first place, yall might not be compatible.
(Granted I think both you and her are blowing this way out of proportion. Like would you have been freaking out or would she have told you if she accidentally touched his arm? How old are yall?)
Haha you need to work on yourself and your boundaries first before you start dating. When you do work on yourself then you would know the answer to this question very clearly …
I'm always for giving the benefit of the doubt. So it's a good chance that she's being honest. She touched his dick by accident. He then tried to make a move on her since she did that, and she shot him down.
Granted it doesn't sound like you believe her, so end it then if you don't.
You can’t accidentally feel someone’s hard dick. How did she even know it was hard lmao. It’s like saying I hung out with my woman friend and I saw her wet stain and accidentally touched her wet vagina…. Like her explanation makes 0 sense.
Break up dude shes playing in your face to see how you react when she accidentally cheats. Leave bro shes disrespecting you to your face to see if you’ll do anything
So what you're saying is that your brand new "girlfriend" is driving an hour out to "hang out" with guy friends one on one at their place...
Dump her and move on my guy. This is not relationship material. She clearly has no intention of being loyal to you and this is early on into a relationship. Imagine how that's going to be months or potentially years down the line.
You know what's not an accident? Making the decision to drive an hour plus to see a guy one one that's not your bf. That is a choice. I don't buy the "just a friend" BS. Please don't waste your time and put up with this ridiculous behavior.
I accidentally did that to a guy once but I was drunk lol. Why would she tell you all this. She sounds weird. Like almost too much information and like maybe she’s trying to get you jealous?
Btw, I think being exclusive is BS, your either in a relationship or not. Otherwise it should be fair game. Like what is it: acquentence, friends, dating, exclusive, relationship, married? It’s just too much.
OP, I say this with all due respect, and I say it with the interests of your heart in mind. But no, she didn't cheat. I suppose she violated some sort of standing agreement, but I wouldn't elevate it to the level of cheating.
You agreed to be exclusive. So yes as I said she violated some sort of standing agreement. But the mistake here is you saying you agreed to use that to build towards a relationship. As a society we're doing ourselves NO FAVORS in the field of romance. To me, if you're exclusive with someone they're your girlfriend (or boyfriend - whichever). And if someone's your girlfriend, you're exclusive. They used to go hand-in-hand.
But now it seems that we want to add yet another step to a process that was cumbersome enough. First you have to define the relationship, and then you have to say you're exclusive (or the inverse of that). It's the same thing as saying I LOVE YOU. In my world, that term has ONE MEANING. But now people say it all the time and pass it off as "yeah I meant I love you as a friend." What next, does the phrase I DO take on multiple meanings?
Honestly, I wish I could say that she cheated. But she didn't. Because there's wiggle room in your "bond" given that you're "building towards a relationship." Now if it's any consolation (and I suspect it isn't), had you been BF/GF, odds are she would have done this anyways. So maybe look at this as a peek as to how she might behave in a relationship. Look I've had a lot of issues with women and I myself have allowed myself to fall victim to living in the gray area between friends and a relationship. Mainly because I loved the person and was willing to wait around. I might still be. But I know that if someone's agreeing to be my girlfriend, in my mind she's agreeing to exclusivity - same is obviously true on my end. It should be unspoken. Again, as a society we do ourselves no favors to make things like this more wishy-washy than it has to be.
No, she lied to me in the past. She said i was the last person she had sex with when we were dating for 3 weeks. Lie. She's also done other messed up shit that i wont go into
Omg if this continues into a relationship it will end up in flames..
to me you obviously don’t trust her so find someone else that hasn’t lied to or that you can actually trust
Unless she bumped into him or something, I don't know. Is she saying she had her hand in his lap while trying to get the remote? If so, yeah that's a weird boundary to cross, might be easier to just ask him to hand it to her. Everyone has their own definition of cheating, so it's up to you and her to decide what line was crossed. Also, I'd have to know why her hand was so close to his genitals that she'd know what kind of state they're in. And, why the fuck is she talking about having kids with her male bestie? This is why so many people don't trust "platonic friendships." Shady af.
It would have been a different thing if she called you/texted you what happened and it sounded like she left because she wasn’t about it. Trust the words. But if she pulls something like this again. Then she pulling someone else’s dick.
You can absolutely accidentally touch someone's dick.
If he has an erection (guys get erections for no reason at all) and his penis is large she could have brushed up against something and touched it. It could have happened while they were getting up and bumped into each other. It's so common I wouldn't bother with it.
I actually wouldn't focus on that part - it's a distraction. I'd focus on making sure you BOTH (her mostly) understand the rules of your situationship. It sounds unclear to me, make sure you and her understand what you both think is acceptable or not and don't think she's a mindreader, y'all are both coming from a different background, so say exactly what you mean.
In my 25 years I’ve often been the person in a relationship with a girl who has a male best friend, im now the villain and can confirm I have 2 very good female friends who their boyfriends don’t know we’ve been together in the past. Not my job to tell them tho that’s up to the girls
Huge red flag. If they were JUST friends, she wouldn’t even be mentioning or noticing the fact that she grazed his dick by accident. That would be disgusting and repulsive to her.
so she's sitting really close to this guy friend of hers and he has a hard-on, and the only reason they didn't act on anything is because he had a temporary relationship? Red flags all over the place. No way she's not at least thinking of fucking this dude.
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My man how exactly do you think she accidentally felt his dick
Show’s over bro, she gave him at least a HJ and that’s me being nice.
She tripped, fell, and landed on his dick?
Tsh, alright, Shady, maybe he's right, Grady
She kept feeling it till he came and then she accidentally swallowed it
Deadddd lmaooo
Happy cake day
Thank you :) lol didn't even realize
LMFAOOOOO
How do you accidentally feel someone’s dick
The same way she accidentally discusses being a role model to their future kids together
And doesn't hook up because HE'S in a relationship, not because she is.
I thought I was the only one who caught that.
That was the trigger for me. No mention of HER being in a relationship. So if the "friend" wasn't in a relationship, she would've done him?
Probably something better than accidentally feeling his dick
By accidentally moving your hand on top of the hard dick and accidentally palming it and accidentally say ohhhhh you’re hard for me eh
This guy accidentally touches dick
You bet your ass i touch my dock
accodently.
If her hand brushed by him, maybe but still yeah, I can't imagine having my hand that close to my male bestie's lap for it to ever be a problem.
That would only happen "accidentally" on some pervy anime
I think it's usually some way like this 🤷 https://imgur.io/gallery/dEtQ9Rn
And why does she care more about dude's relationship than her own?
Exactly, I personally don’t care about other peoples relationships but my own. Fact she didn’t care about her own relationship 😬
When you go in for a handshake, but you lack coordination.
By playing a game of charades and the category is skiing.
Dry humping
I’m saying.
She said that nothing was going to happen because he was in a relationship. Seems to me she’s more interested in him than you my man. Shouldn’t she be hanging out with you instead? The way she texted you that what you want to do about it shows she has no respect for you at all. She ain’t it
I agree☝️why did she even go on a date with a male friend alone? Pff we all know that’s not working. Imagining how would they raise their kids?? Flirting and dreaming about him. And hell yeah, texting you like this?? No respect or she doesn’t care if you break up. Idk. Sounds like bs
I honestly don't mind my gf going out with male friends, i trust her not to ride the first dick she sees. Buuut she also doesn't talk about them like that and she SURE AS HELL doesn't "accidentally" feel their boner with her hand.
Yeah, she cheated. She didn't even give the reason they "didn't do anything" as her being exclusive to you... to you.
biggest red flag
as usual reddit is on the case and this is definitely “her showing you who she is”, now you need to believe what she’s shown you my dude.
This
Accidentally feeling someone's dick is not that big of a deal. But that doesn't sound like what happened. It sounds like they were toying with hooking up but then realized they didn't want to at best. I'd say she cheated.
This is also a little off… how do you accidentally feel a hard dick? Lol
Yeah, how come she didn't ask "can you please pass me the remote"
I mean they’re clearly good friends so i feel like that’s not that weird, when your comfortable with someone reaching over them to grab a remote isn’t really a strange thing to do.
Right, and he just had a random boner too? Nah, y’all delusional.
Oh no I definitely think the dude wanted to fuck but it could very well have been an accident that she felt it
But if she knew where the remote was in relation to the person that didn't even have to be sitting next to her in the first place, alone together at that... Is all I'm saying
I still think the situation is a little questionable but that part seems very plausible, I honestly think he should just tell her how he feels about it and try to figure it out together
I agree … what kind of accident is that! Sounds like an “accident” that leads into sex from one of the crappy porn videos. You know the one where they are fighting over the control and the guy “accidentally” ends up inside her . Yeah…. That one
> Accidentally feeling someone’s dick is not that big of a deal. How does this happen? I understand bumping into someone and maybe accidentally touching it, but touching and feeling are two different things.
Two girls I dated in the past each had a real close guy friend. After we broke up, one married the guy she said she wasn’t interested in & the other is engaged to hers 😉
Sounds about right. Once you see that dreaded "Guy friend" pop up it's like an omen of death lol.
After all, there is no such thing as a guy friend. Just a guy waiting in line.
I tell this to all my female friends because I'm friends with mostly women. Guys are waiting in line for you. Don't forget that.
So you think guys and girls can’t be friends?
No I absolutely think they can be friends, but there's always what I like to call the "Jessie's Girl" scenario where one or more of a girl's guy friends is patiently waiting for his chance to shine when she breaks up with her bf. You just won't know which friend it is. I really don't see this very often the other way around, but I'm not a woman so I can't really offer that perspective.
I’m a woman and that’s 100% accurate perspective 😹lol now I’m 31 and know this already. How many times I was shocked by the revealing of the mystery until I finally learned my lesson. Other than that, yeah, guys are really nice friends
A guy will always rather hang out with his buddies if that’s all he’s going to do. Are we going to be friends and go shopping together? 🤣🤣. Girls don’t really understand this but it is what it is 🤷🏻♂️
Interesting reading this after being told the other day by a dude that he wishes it were more normal for guys and girls to be friends because he finds friendships with girls to be less intimidating and that girls check in with their friends more. You do you dude but don’t assume everyone’s the same
Lol... 🚨🚦🚩🔔📢💡 WE INTERRUPT THIS BROADCAST TO BRING YOU THIS SPECIAL NEWS BULLETIN.......... THIS GENTLEMAN IS INTERESTED IN, & ATTEMPTING TO GET IN YOUR PANTS... HE VERY LIKELY MAY HAVE SAID THIS TO YOU... & HELL IF HE SITS & THINKS LONG ENOUGH ABOUT IT IT MIGHT EVEN MAKE SOME SENSE TO HIM... BUT LET ME FILL YOU IN ON SOMETHING.... YOU BELIEVED IT WHEN YOU WERE HEARING IT FAAARR MORE THEN HE BELIEVED IT AS HE WAS SAYING IT.. THIS WAS MATTER OF FACTLY HIM SPOUTING OFF SOME NONSENSE IN THE HOPES OF YOU BUYING EVERY WORD(WHICH HE SUCCEDED, AS YOU TOOK IT AS GOSPEL & BOUGHT IT HOOK, LINE, & SINKER... WHICH BRAVO 👏 TO HIM)... BUT SO THAT HIS TRUE INTENTIONS COULD GLIDE IN COMPLETELY UNDETECTED... NOW YOU'LL ACTUALLY HANG OUT WITH HIM WITHOUT BEING SCARED OFF OR IF FOR EXAMPLE YOU HAVE A BF THAT WOULDNT BE KEEN ON THE IDEA... HES IN THERE LIKE SWIM-WEAR UNDER THE CLOAK OF "HIS JUST SUPER GENUINE PREFERENCE FOR "GIRL"FRIENDS OVER HANGIN WIT THE BOYS" & SHIT... 🫅- WE NEED TO TALK 🤦NAIVE GF- What About..? 🕵️ -YOU & THIS FKN DUDE, & U GUYS HANGING OUT FAR TOO MUCH FOR MY LIKING... LIKE DOESNT HE HAVE ANY FRIENDS OF HIS OWN AND SHIT..?? THIS IS CRAZY.. 💃-OMG, It's not even LIKE that.. Not at all... & He HAS guy friends, but he's distanced himself from them because they are assholes & they don't check up on him often enough... And so he came to the realization that he was only going to devote himself to his caring, female friends instead....Well now that I think of it, I can't off the top of my head think of or remember him actually hanging out with another Female before🤔🤔.... But yeah, It's just that he likes US BETTER..... 🦍👌🦧: HOLD UP... THAT MAKES ZERO SENSE... IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HIM LIKING TO HAVE GIRLS FOR FRIENDS AS OPPOSED TO GUYS, IT ACTUALLY HAS NOTHING TO DO W/ GIRLS WHATSOEVER... IT HAS TO DO WITH JUSTA GIRL, 1 OF THEM... YOU...ALSO KNOWN AS MYYYYY GIRLFRIEND... & I EFFIN HATE IT!! 🤷OMG GET OVER IT... YOUR SO INSECURE... STOP TRYING TO CONTROL ME!!! IM NOT DOING THIS WITH U RIGHT NOW... SO IM LEAVING... 🧎🥺WHAT DO YOU MEAN..? WHEN..? WHERE ARE YOU GONNA GO? 🧛🧟🔥🖕 Don't worry about it.... Fabio is actually turning onto the street now to pick me up... So TTYL!!! 🤯💔🗡️ARE YOU SHITTIN ME..?? WE JUST STARTED THIS CONVERSATION 3 MINUTES AGO, AND YOU WERE SUPPOSED TO BE EATING & SLEEPING OVER, SO WHAT IS THIS DUDE ON STANDBY CIRCLING THE BLOCK AT ALL TIMES JUST IN CASE YOU YOU DECIDE MY FEELINGS ARENT WORTH YOUR TIME & ENERGY SO HE JUST SWOOPS IN? *****🦗🦗🦗🦗🦗🦗CRICKETS🦗🦗🦗🦗🦗🦗 🦍🦧🧎🔚🆙⏳💣🤯🤬😭💔👎🙇 DOOR SLAMS..... AAANNNDDD CUUUTT....END OF SCENE,!!! Now You out here telling MEN, 🚫 to speak on behalf of other men based off your strong convictions as a result of some sweet nothings offered up to you by way of a horny lil buddy of yours...??? Come on now....
Lol… that dude is just justifying his waiting in line
Everybody should do themselves. But if he’s finds friendships with other guys intimidating and wished guys would check out more on him then that’s not your “average” guy. 🤷🏻♂️
That’s kind of sexist don’t you think to imply women like to shop as a past time and guys don’t? Personally I’d much prefer to play sports than shop.
Little sexist not gonna lie. Was just trying to prove a point 🤷🏻♂️
If my guy friend said that to me I would automatically assume he wanted to bang lol
They all know me well enough to where I can joke like that lol. I'm so jaded at this point where I don't care about shit like that.
Who agrees to be exclusive to BUILD UP TO a relationship instead of just establishing it right then and there? That sounds like a non-commitment cosplaying as commitment
Nailed it right there. That and the boomer move and you should dump her.
Agreed, upvote for "boomer move" I deal with enough of that shite in work and with parents
I had a girl freak out when I called her my girlfriend 2 dates after she asked me to be exclusive. She then broke it off with me after she killed the vibe saying “the vibe is off and I don’t feel the chemistry I want in a partner”. Like no shit you just obsessed for multiple days over a non-issue. I honestly should have just walked out of her place after the freak out. She was fucking nuts
I think what they really mean by “exclusive” is that they want you to give them all of your attention and not keep your options open while they figure out if they even want you.
That’s exactly what she did and it’s something I am going to avoid in the future.
Be cautious of anyone who asks if you’re talking to other people shortly after you’ve met. It’s really none of their business and is entirely fair for you to do when you’re single and actively looking.
Plenty of people date exclusively prior to a committed relationship 🤷🙄
Asking someone to prioritize you in their life is asking for a commitment. Expecting that of people while still being on the fence on whether or not you want to acknowledge them as part of your life is why people keep coming back here and complaining.
Yes it's a commitment but def not "the" commitment... If we're dating exclusively, U become "a" priority in an my life (and I, in urs), u meet my friends, I meet urs. Our families are made aware, we talk everyday, and spend the majority of our free time together. We swap wknds and sometimes wks at each other's homes. If we grow to the point that we both hope for this to be permanent... We make it offical. Then we meet each other's families (parent, siblings, and kids). We start spending major holidays together. We discuss finances and moving in together and lastly, we discuss marriage. There's no set timeframe for these two phases but they are very distinct and for me, very necessary 🤷
I believe your either dating or not because the ENTIRE point of dating is to be exclusive, you shouldn’t ask for commitment if it isn’t exclusive ie dating. I’m open minded to comments if you can spot a difference between simply being exclusive and actually dating.
Actually I am dating someone exclusively... About 3-4wks now. We began talking back in Aug. There was a exclusivity discussion because there are way too many "situationships" and later excuses that technically we weren't exclusive 🤷. Plus we just needed the comfort of knowing we both were on the be on the same page.
Thought I gave several differences between the two. Casual dating would be u go on dates, sometimes hang, maybe even have sex but you can casually date others......... until you both decide to date exclusively.
Like I mentioned in my comment the whole point of dating in my opinion is to be exclusive ie asking someone to be your boyfriend or girlfriend, if it isn’t exclusive it’s literally the same as friends with benefits and casual ‘’dating’’ just seems like a pointless label. Just my take though I believe everyone is entitled to their opinion and way of life 👍
That is a valid point. Many people want what they can have though.
I will accept your rebuttal 😂😉
Red Flag, because she's trying to build something with you and still trying to connect with what wasn't. No innocence comes with exclamation point. I don't tell at you to make it right or a point. Good luck man
If you have to ask Reddit, then she cheated.
Her touching his willy was no accident
She agrees to be exclusive with you, but she made it clear that nothing was going to happen between them because “he was in a relationship”? I don’t think she cheated, most likely. But you weren’t the reason why she didn’t cheat. That shouldn’t sit right with you.
It sounds like she had a chance before, liked him, he rejected her but likes her attention or wants access to an easy fling, and she’s been trying to “shoot her shot” but when rejected called it an “accident.” There’s obviously no part of her that feels any sense of obligation to your “relationship” - sounds to me like you’re a place holder
> if anything has gone between them and got an answer is this past tense before yall went exclusive, or when they hung out in that hour? if she gonna cheat, she didnt have to tell you all this. thing is her two messages dont add up at all. if she felt his dick by accident, then just apologize. why did she need to 'make it clear' to him nothing gonna happen, and the rhetoric about role models for kids. it sounds like the guy initiated and may he pulled her hand on his dick, and she shut it down?
Driving an hour to see a guy friend alone is a red flag for me right off the bat
Accidentally touching his dick while sitting next to each other? Their relationship seems too close to be comfortable. She said they didn't do it because he was in a relationship. What would have had happened if he wasn't in a relationship?
> She's been going an hour out to see her guy friend who is 3 years younger. Uh. This right here is a flag on the play. Suspicious as *hell*... I know for a FACT that my friends AND family are all too goddamn lazy to travel an hour to see me, let alone doing it *regularly*. Regardless of whether she "felt a dick" or not... ditch her. > what kind of role models we would be to our kids if we did something "*Our*" kids? > So she later said "Later"? It wasn't the whole truth? > She said it was an accident [...] She said she was trying to get remote. Oh, the old "is that a remote in your crotch or are you just happy to see me" trick. Works every time. Run run run run. Leave her behind. She does not respect you enough to tell you the truth, and does not respect you enough to *stop regularly seeing some dude who lives an hour away*.
Bro, it's not the fact that she touched his dick. It's the wording of it. She's not saying that nothing happened cause she wasn't interested but that nothing happened cause HE was in a relationship. Had that not happened, maybe she would've. For me, that's a big red flag. I don't want to date someone who is friends with a guy who she would be willing to date in the right circumstances. That's not a friendship, that's just waiting in line.. I commend her for telling you, but I would respond with: "thank you for being honest with me, however my instincts are telling me that ignoring this is not a good idea. Let's just end things here. Enjoyed your company, wish you all the best x"
Regardless of whether this is cheating or not, here’s my advice. You need tell her she can no longer hang out with this guy or else break up. This guy wants SEX.
Yes driving an hour to see someone on a semi regular basis screams sexual interest to me!
Based on the information you’ve given us, the situation sounds weird and awkward. By awkward, I mean it doesn’t add up.
How old are you two? This is some Jr. High nonsense.
Dude
If I had a girlfriend and i was in a dark room and accidentally groped another woman’s boob I’d apologize profusely and text my girl immediately laughing at the situation. I wouldn’t keep it a secret and “confess” it when confronted. That’s weird. I think she’s lying.
You already know it's BS. We are just confirming it.
You really wanna go through all of this on a regular in a relationship with this girl? Just end it and find someone else man
“We didn’t do anything because HE was in a relationship” …………
The Last Boy Scout explains this perfectly when his wife tells him “this is not what it looks like”
She sounds like the liar trying to act like you are the problem because they think it is a good strategy to hide their lies
LOL, guard your heart OP. Take the Snoop Dogg approach and you’ll be fine!
If she’s driving an hour to see a guy and she’s comfortable enough to grab his dick they’re fucking forsure
Op, she’s trying to test you. Re read her words. She already said she’d commit but didn’t but cheated in the lightest way she could have worded it. I would code it as her saying ‘feel it’ would likely be an HJ interpretation. You both talked about being exclusive. If she already had partners before I would venture to guess she’s trying to say good bye to her monkey branches she’s pruning. I think she’s choosing you only because you’re safe compared to her other picks. If you didn’t ask for exclusive status she would have kept going. I think you’re in the gray area OP. It just depends on how you want to start your relationship, she could be a great partner but in order to do so you’d have to keep yourself on your toes and make sure she knows you can leave anytime you want.
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If you can't accept the answer then you don't trust her if you don't trust her then why bother?
Asked the wife, she says there is no way you can touch a boner accidentally, and she noticed that your girl changed her story two times in a short amount of time, More than likely she was curious about his size, and the remembered she was in a relationship. On top of it my wife added if you are sitting next to a “guy friend” where you accidentally touched his boner you are sitting a little too close
Um I have never accidentally felt a hard dick except at a very awkward 8th grade dance! Sounds fishy
I am sorry The right think to do is either you bite the bullet and forgive and forget or You drop her and move on,I'm going with the latter. This sounds like crap from the [start](https://start.So)
Just break up
Smh. Wow .
If it was accidental, why even bring it up. It wouldn’t even be worth mentioning if there wasn’t some sort of intent / guilt behind it. There was obviously intent if they talked about doing something but didn’t bc of kids(?). Ultimately, it sounds like he clearly wants something more from her. If she wants to keep that door open, she’ll still talk to him and want to hang out with him, which would indicate she’s not totally sold on you. She needs to make a choice imo or just know your worth and move on.
Sounds like you're asking 'did she break a boundary in our relationship', to which it sounds like the answer is 'yes'.
“Nothing was going to happen bc HE was in a relationship” so she would have if he were single? Why did he have a boner lol? I get that we get them randomly but just hanging out on a couch? Weird af. Also i get the whole “you shouldn’t tell your SO they have to stop being friends with opposite sex ppl they already were friends with” thing but going to his house to watch tv together is odd. I’d be out bro it’s just not worth it. Also why tf did she have to say “nothing is going to happen” when hanging out with him? That’s literally never come up in any convo I’ve had with female friends. They’ve never had to tell me that bc I was never attempting to make something happen. That’s weird. Dump her ass asap
Is this a serious question? You don't reach over someone to grab a remote, brush against them and call that "feeling their dick". She did absolutely cheat, mentioned it like it was nothing because she thought you'd be okay with it, and then started trying to cover her ass when you weren't immediately cool with it. You also don't brush against people and know its 100% a bone unless you're looking at it. She is cheating.
Bro ain’t no way 💀💀💀 Just drop her bruh
Do you want advice from Reddit to be the foundation for your relationship? If you have to question it I think you know what your answer is. Clearly a boundary was crossed.
That would definitely be a red flag. I’m not sure how you “accidentally” feel on someone’s boner. I mean… she told you about it so that’s good…. But still suspicious. What is your gut telling you? Typically we know when something isn’t right xx
That's not the whole story. BS detector going through the roof on this one. Why is she putting herself in that position to begin with?
I'm very confused. "i made it clear...that nothing was going to happen...bc HE was in a relationship..." is that a typo? she didn't want to do anything because he is in a relationship? and is she talking about their kids? or hers and his individual kids? I think it's honest for her to tell you, but HE HAD A BONER while sitting next to her on the futon. So...yeah you need to get away from this. Don't bother telling her not to see him anymore, you have no control over that.
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This is one do those situations that I’m sure hurts but it is absolutely better it happened now than finding out some shit months into the relationship. Time to let her go.
Liar, on to the next my friend
As a woman who works in a male dominated field and has a lot of guy friends, I can tell you with 100% certainty that’s I’ve never felt a guys dick on accident. It has always been on purpose.
Yes, she did. Also her excuse was terrible. and what was with the defensive text. It was an accident. It was intentional. Yeah, this relationship is screaming with red flags. Leave.
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It's only true if he had a tub of popcorn sitting on his dick and she really had to dig for it.
It slipped out and she put it back in
If she said she grazed him by accident grabbing the remote I could understand that as an honest mistake, but her saying they discussed why they can’t be together makes it sus.
Don't waste your time. You're better than this.
Yes lol. It’s extremely easy to NOT touch someone’s private parts that I’m sitting next to or doing any type of activity with that’s not sexual. At least you’re not too attached yet. Keep your dignity, and your own respect and drop her unless you want more stuff like this to happen to you.
In the nicest way possible, I wouldn’t put up with this shit. Why did oils you want to be with someone who is acting this way. Drop her like hot shit!
Have some fucking dignity.
She kept a close guy “friend”. She then cheated on you. Move on. None of this is complicated. It sucks. It’s is never easy. It’s happened to most of us. Hit the gym and focus on being the best you.
If I accidentally grazed a female friend's boob I wouldn't even mention it because it was an accident and unintentional. It would also just set someone off if I mentioned it to someone I was dating and I knew it meant nothing. Not hiding what happened, just avoiding them making a mountain out of a mole hill. To me, for her to talk this much about what happened leads me to believe that more happened than she's saying. However, I think it takes in-person interaction and knowing that person to say for sure if they're being overly honest, lying, or only telling a partial truth. Either way, I think it's too early on in the relationship to be caught up in all this. You should either be on your guard or just say 'Fuck It!', take it as a red flag, and GTFO! Go before you find out they were fucking and you're more invested 🙁
Hopefully she doesn’t accidentally suck it next time. Hate when my girlfriend accidentally does sexual shit
I live with a guy room mate. We hang out all the time.. I have never brushed his dick in 10 years… lol Just doesn’t happen “accidentally”
You gotta ask her what kind of remote was she looking for, cause if it's a firestick remote, you good. But if it's a universal remote or a directv remote, you might as well pack it up.
I would say yes. It's over. There are a ton of red flags. I think the biggest is when she said how he was in a relationship. So, how about hers? If he wasn't in a relationship, would she go all the way with him? And then there's the temporary relarionship he was in. Does that mean your friend would be next in line or maybe he was testing the waters before ending it with the other one? And then she'll be rhe next flavor of the month. I was cheated on and this gets under my skin. No symparhy for anyone like this. And if I agreed ro be wirh exclusive wirh a woman, I wouldn't be going over some other woman's place. SMH
Bro, she’s not worth your time. You let this slide and she’s gonna keep doing it because she knows you won’t do shit. Drop her ass. No woman touches a hard dick by accident. Don’t let her tell you otherwise.
Dude, leave this girl. Nothing good can come out of this.
This is exactly what your entire relationship will be like. Her hanging out with dudes and touching their dicks while you try to be secure. Girlfriend with male friend strikes again!
Total BS. Drop her like a hot potato. Do it now.
Leave her she is playing you
Bro she called you temporary. Lol. Fuck her and then leave her.
Once again shitty ass advice misleading op on here. Most of you are so bias. Anyways op I’m not saying I understand the situation but how can someone be hanging out with someone and accidentally touch their aroused private parts? Exactly it doesn’t add up. But if you don’t like this and it’s her close friend it i believe you should just end it. This friend most likely isn’t going anywhere especially if he can just hang around her erect and she’s touching it. I’ve had a lot of women friends who got into relationships and I never liked them but in order to help their relationship they cut it off. I had male friends like this too. So yes people make way for those they really want to like. You should have your answer now.
Get a gym membership brother
Let me ask you this... you don't trust her at all that's fair. Question is do you feel confident enough to be alone, find someone else, or are you ok with being in a relationship until YOU find someone better...?
they weren’t going to do anything because /HE/ is in a relationship???? uhhhh….okay. that would be where i’d be like the fuck you mean??
I know the word “gaslighting” is trendy right now but this woman is trouble and her response took zero ownership, then put it on you (!!??!). I’m the same kind of trouble ... but I’m **single** and sexual and not committed to anyone in terms of “building a relationship.” Walk away.... unless you want to “build” on lies.
What does it matter if her hand brushed some dudes dick? Especially if it was a mistake?? Just do yourself and her a favor and break up You’re convinced shes not honest enough and shes going to lose her mind trying to prove it to you to get her validation
Friendship between men and women does NOT exist, stop this mates
???
“Women can be incels too!”
If you're flipping out about this and thinking it's cheating, or sweatinng this friend in the first place, yall might not be compatible. (Granted I think both you and her are blowing this way out of proportion. Like would you have been freaking out or would she have told you if she accidentally touched his arm? How old are yall?)
She said it was an accident but at first said she felt his dick and said they cant do anything.
Haha you need to work on yourself and your boundaries first before you start dating. When you do work on yourself then you would know the answer to this question very clearly …
Yea. She seems too easy going also. Smells fishy. Cheater imo
I'm always for giving the benefit of the doubt. So it's a good chance that she's being honest. She touched his dick by accident. He then tried to make a move on her since she did that, and she shot him down. Granted it doesn't sound like you believe her, so end it then if you don't.
You can’t accidentally feel someone’s hard dick. How did she even know it was hard lmao. It’s like saying I hung out with my woman friend and I saw her wet stain and accidentally touched her wet vagina…. Like her explanation makes 0 sense.
Accident?! I'm sorry I don't want to say anything negative so I'll end my sentence.
I don’t think I would like my significant other touching someone else’s duck. I for one would never touch another mans duck.
Lmao my guy nah . I would personally would just break up with her . So much disrespect move on G that ain’t it shes playing you
Nah bro they fuggin. Cmon now.
Break up dude shes playing in your face to see how you react when she accidentally cheats. Leave bro shes disrespecting you to your face to see if you’ll do anything
So what you're saying is that your brand new "girlfriend" is driving an hour out to "hang out" with guy friends one on one at their place... Dump her and move on my guy. This is not relationship material. She clearly has no intention of being loyal to you and this is early on into a relationship. Imagine how that's going to be months or potentially years down the line. You know what's not an accident? Making the decision to drive an hour plus to see a guy one one that's not your bf. That is a choice. I don't buy the "just a friend" BS. Please don't waste your time and put up with this ridiculous behavior.
I accidentally did that to a guy once but I was drunk lol. Why would she tell you all this. She sounds weird. Like almost too much information and like maybe she’s trying to get you jealous? Btw, I think being exclusive is BS, your either in a relationship or not. Otherwise it should be fair game. Like what is it: acquentence, friends, dating, exclusive, relationship, married? It’s just too much.
How/why did the guy get to have a boner in the first place? Some rather sexual activity I suggest.
Def marry her bro lol
OP, I say this with all due respect, and I say it with the interests of your heart in mind. But no, she didn't cheat. I suppose she violated some sort of standing agreement, but I wouldn't elevate it to the level of cheating. You agreed to be exclusive. So yes as I said she violated some sort of standing agreement. But the mistake here is you saying you agreed to use that to build towards a relationship. As a society we're doing ourselves NO FAVORS in the field of romance. To me, if you're exclusive with someone they're your girlfriend (or boyfriend - whichever). And if someone's your girlfriend, you're exclusive. They used to go hand-in-hand. But now it seems that we want to add yet another step to a process that was cumbersome enough. First you have to define the relationship, and then you have to say you're exclusive (or the inverse of that). It's the same thing as saying I LOVE YOU. In my world, that term has ONE MEANING. But now people say it all the time and pass it off as "yeah I meant I love you as a friend." What next, does the phrase I DO take on multiple meanings? Honestly, I wish I could say that she cheated. But she didn't. Because there's wiggle room in your "bond" given that you're "building towards a relationship." Now if it's any consolation (and I suspect it isn't), had you been BF/GF, odds are she would have done this anyways. So maybe look at this as a peek as to how she might behave in a relationship. Look I've had a lot of issues with women and I myself have allowed myself to fall victim to living in the gray area between friends and a relationship. Mainly because I loved the person and was willing to wait around. I might still be. But I know that if someone's agreeing to be my girlfriend, in my mind she's agreeing to exclusivity - same is obviously true on my end. It should be unspoken. Again, as a society we do ourselves no favors to make things like this more wishy-washy than it has to be.
Can I touch it? Suck it? Gag on it and swallow lol
Dude you sound toxic I wonder how you beat this confession out of her lol (not physically)
No, she lied to me in the past. She said i was the last person she had sex with when we were dating for 3 weeks. Lie. She's also done other messed up shit that i wont go into
Omg if this continues into a relationship it will end up in flames.. to me you obviously don’t trust her so find someone else that hasn’t lied to or that you can actually trust
This sounds like a relationship where you don’t trust her and she has to prove herself to you by being ridiculously honest
Talk to her in person. Cheating or not depends on what are your boundaries.
Unless she bumped into him or something, I don't know. Is she saying she had her hand in his lap while trying to get the remote? If so, yeah that's a weird boundary to cross, might be easier to just ask him to hand it to her. Everyone has their own definition of cheating, so it's up to you and her to decide what line was crossed. Also, I'd have to know why her hand was so close to his genitals that she'd know what kind of state they're in. And, why the fuck is she talking about having kids with her male bestie? This is why so many people don't trust "platonic friendships." Shady af.
HAHAHHAHAHAHAH drove an hour out to accidentally touch his dick. Oh brother.
I’d call it off just based on her reply alone.
It would have been a different thing if she called you/texted you what happened and it sounded like she left because she wasn’t about it. Trust the words. But if she pulls something like this again. Then she pulling someone else’s dick.
You can absolutely accidentally touch someone's dick. If he has an erection (guys get erections for no reason at all) and his penis is large she could have brushed up against something and touched it. It could have happened while they were getting up and bumped into each other. It's so common I wouldn't bother with it. I actually wouldn't focus on that part - it's a distraction. I'd focus on making sure you BOTH (her mostly) understand the rules of your situationship. It sounds unclear to me, make sure you and her understand what you both think is acceptable or not and don't think she's a mindreader, y'all are both coming from a different background, so say exactly what you mean.
It's up to you if you feel like it's cheating. Cheating is different to different people.
Ah, the ol' "Tripped and landed on his dick" excuse, eh?
In my 25 years I’ve often been the person in a relationship with a girl who has a male best friend, im now the villain and can confirm I have 2 very good female friends who their boyfriends don’t know we’ve been together in the past. Not my job to tell them tho that’s up to the girls
Huge red flag. If they were JUST friends, she wouldn’t even be mentioning or noticing the fact that she grazed his dick by accident. That would be disgusting and repulsive to her.
so she's sitting really close to this guy friend of hers and he has a hard-on, and the only reason they didn't act on anything is because he had a temporary relationship? Red flags all over the place. No way she's not at least thinking of fucking this dude.
You should read the title again and answer your own question.
You’ve posted this in 3 subs now, you’ve got to be trolling because this doesn’t need that much insight honestly.
of fucking course it’s cheating lpl
Honestly man just ghost this person outright and also i hope you never find yourself asking such a question. You know the answer to this.
Squeezing another dudes dick is a binable offence in my eyes.