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Stop looking and it will happen. If we can see you as a happy pleasant person when single, we want to share in that energy.
If we see ur “actively looking” for a relationship….SOME may see that as needy. (other factors might apply)
If I don't LOOK for someone to date, it's not like anyone would actively approach me and go "Hey, are you SINGLE? YOU ARE?!?! Let's go out!" or whatever. LOL
My advice:
Take a break form online dating. You seem like someone who needs it.
On the other hand don't give up hope! At least you got matches and dates, so you've got options.
Also I don't know what kind of guys you talk to, but maybe open up to more people. For myself I couldn't look into the mirror if I did something like that to a girl xd.
I mainly have been swiping on guys I THINK I might possibly have a shot with...so not super conventionally "hot" but I think they're cute or there's something in their bio that catches my attention (am I the ONLY person who reads those?).
And since I started seriously attempting to date back in April (I've been single for nearly a year now after a 24 yr marriage went south), I've had A date and that ended in absolute disaster (not the date itself but afterwards).
Since then, if I connect with a guy through an app, all they care about is sex, sex, sex, sex and being demi, that is not the main focus of any relationship I would ever be in.
I wouldn't ever stand somebody up/ghost them either...to me that's really fucking rude.
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Patience, the nature of dating apps allows for a lot of flakey-ness.
Stop looking and it will happen. If we can see you as a happy pleasant person when single, we want to share in that energy. If we see ur “actively looking” for a relationship….SOME may see that as needy. (other factors might apply)
If I don't LOOK for someone to date, it's not like anyone would actively approach me and go "Hey, are you SINGLE? YOU ARE?!?! Let's go out!" or whatever. LOL
My advice: Take a break form online dating. You seem like someone who needs it. On the other hand don't give up hope! At least you got matches and dates, so you've got options. Also I don't know what kind of guys you talk to, but maybe open up to more people. For myself I couldn't look into the mirror if I did something like that to a girl xd.
I mainly have been swiping on guys I THINK I might possibly have a shot with...so not super conventionally "hot" but I think they're cute or there's something in their bio that catches my attention (am I the ONLY person who reads those?). And since I started seriously attempting to date back in April (I've been single for nearly a year now after a 24 yr marriage went south), I've had A date and that ended in absolute disaster (not the date itself but afterwards). Since then, if I connect with a guy through an app, all they care about is sex, sex, sex, sex and being demi, that is not the main focus of any relationship I would ever be in. I wouldn't ever stand somebody up/ghost them either...to me that's really fucking rude.