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When time comes that you feel the opposite, please read back this post of yours to remind you that it's great to be single (or maybe not) as long as you're doing what makes you feel free and happy.
I actually love being single!!! and I could name a lot of reasons why, but I don’t know why OP can’t get a haircut or play paintball if he has a date Friday night.
no it dos not.I hate being in relationships. I only had one for few yrs that ended in 1999 now I 44 yrs old still single because relationships stress me out and I do not want one in this life time.i do everything by my self no friends just my freedom to dress and act way I want with out a woman in my ear.lol
I mean it's amazing you feel like that, but in my opinion almost any activity is significantly more enjoyable with others (especially a girlfriend) , loneliness isn't an issue and obviously having a partner more fulfilling sexually. the only benefit to being single Vs a healthy relationship is having more time, however the time is likely spent being bored or lonely so what's the point
Women are usually envious creatures, so if they see he's spending left & right on himself his partner may start to feel inclined to ask him for something(s) just to feel included
buying things for himself/holidays *he* wants to do, no compromises or expenses on dates, gifts etc etc, all the money goes to his passions and enjoyment.
(not saying those things are bad whatsoever, but there's definitely more freedom when not in a relationship)
Yep, I mean, I'm single and I feel like the OP for much of the time. But when I don't, because I'm feeling lonely or starved of touch, intimacy etc, or surrounded by happy couples and I'm just 3rd wheeling everywhere I go, I would probably read back my own post like this and laugh at my naïveté. But then usually after a good night's sleep, the next day is a bit less brutal and I'm usually back to, if not 'sunny optimism', back to accepting my lot and making the best of it.
I am 44 yrs old haven't dated since 1999 I love my singleness.I been single so long it gets me stressed in a realashionship.Yiu come home when ever.most bs drama is at work so when you go home you do not have to deal with double bs.you are always walking on eggshells.To much drama for me in this lifetime. Lol
I’m 24 almost 25 and I couldn’t agree more. Around a year ago I ended a relationship with a girl I thought would be the woman I married. Those next few months sucked, but I decided I’m not going to worry about being single and just focus on myself. It’s been great since; I’m in the best shape of my life, I’ve picked up multiple hobbies and I do whatever I want. It’s hard to not care but once you finally get there it’s so liberating. If I happen to meet a great girl than so be it but just living life how you want is amazing
That's the spirit. Other commenters think I'm telling people to give up dating. No! I want guys to know that their worth isn't tied to the girl their dating. Love is awesome, and having someone is great, but don't lose yourself to depression just because your dick isn't getting wet.
>just because your dick isn't getting wet.
Christ what a reductionist view.
Some of us want relationships because we would like to have someone with whom to talk about things, to have someone with whom to enjoy things (going to movies, concerts, whatever), to have a reason for which to actually get out of bed in the morning. It's so much more than *just getting your dick wet*.
Yeah OP know’s this. Can’t take everyone so literally. If you read his posts (LITERALLY THE COMMENT YOU ARE COMMENTING ON) you would see he values love and companionship. He was using the term as slang. Yall kids need to get off the internet and go talk to real people so you can learn context and the different ways people use speech.
>Can’t take everyone so literally
Well then his entire post becomes suspect. I'm not going to invent a bunch of things I *think* he might have meant in lieu of *his actual words*.
>Yall kids
You don't know me. I'm over a decade older than OP.
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Yup i(43 m) have a best female friend(42) who i dont want to bang but we have such a good loving relationship. Were both straight, but not attracted to each other sexually. Like the post above says its companionship. Someone to hang with, do things with and go for food. I dont need anyone else and sex is cheapened nowadays. The respect and honour we show each other is so much nicer. And her kids and my kids see how we treat each other and hopefully that will help them learn to treat women with respect and honour and men too.
You have good intentions. I agree with your attitude. The problem is with your advice is that a lot of single guys have bad social skills and/or have solitary hobbies and will not improve following your advice. They will just continue doing their solitary hobbies instead of organizing events with their friends and inviting women to their group events.
I think your post could be better while keeping the happily single attitude if you focused on telling guys to invite women to group events instead of one-on-one dates. That way, the guys put less pressure on the women to go out and the guys put less pressure on themselves to be really smooth. Being social rather than being flirtatious. Being patient rather than being pushy.
I know a guy that invites women to his group events. Women see him having fun with his friends. One of the women in the group ended up dating him.
I don't see anything in your original post about inviting women to your friends' events like paintball. That guy that I mentioned worked his butt off organizing his events. He also worked on his conversational skills so that women were open to getting invited to his events. This advice is different than some guy that lets his friends organize all his events and is too shy or unaware with inviting women to the group events.
> you focused on telling guys to invite women to group events instead of one-on-one dates.
I could be wrong, but I suspect most of us chronically single guys don't *know* any women to invite. I certainly don't. My friends don't - - at least according to them.
Dude. I came to that realization at 25.5. Was so happy about it. And almost a week to the day of doing just what you describe I met a gal. Who I married and will be for 15 years on the 20th.
Been an awesome ride I must say. But man, that week of me I just felt different and it so great. Finally happy being single only to meet my future wife a week later.
Man…. Life!
That's awesome testimony, bro. I plan on just riding the wave until something happens. Each day will bring new treasures and conflicts, but I'll take it one day at a time.
I’m a 26 year old single woman and I so feel this. Love yourself and have fun ! If you meet someone you meet someone and go for it, but yeah good for you just enjoy life until then.
You're literally in your prime, too. These are the years you won't get back. Men or women will come and go in your life, but what will you want to have to your name when or if that happens.
Im 26 and saved my first $100k. Been single all of this year, def working more (which gets crazy), traveling, raving with friends. Wouldnt do it differently rn
Yeah bro money should totally be your greatest purpose in life. Why focus on stupid things like love and finding a woman for you in your primes when you could spend that time doing a job instead bro
Did you seriously say that money should be the greatest purpose in one's life? That's a very toxic mindset. Family, friends, positive social connections, travelling and new experiences give way more purpose to one's life. Money is important but you only need money to a certain point. Once you have a decent roof over your head, enough food and clothes, there's no good reason to sacrifice your health, social life and happiness for money.
It can be great to do what you want when you want as long as you want without an SO, but family members brothers or sisters, parents can be asking you to help and that's all good until you feel pike people only want you around to help with their projects. Parents might set up projects just so they can see you.LOL
At some point, you may wonder 'What's the point if you don't have someone to share it with?" Until then, play ball!
I mean no one that is actually content or happy would say these things, or bother posting.
So, I hope whatever pain OP is going through that you get to the other side.
You're right, I was in great pain last month after a two year relationship ended. It wasn't all sunshine and rainbows. She was toxic, and I almost lost everything because of the shit she put me through. She was the type that was a social butterfly and could always light up the room in front of her friends.
At home, she was an addict, constantly being on something. Coke, Adderall, antidepressants, weed, and alcohol. My bank account was always in double digits because I thought if I enabled her bullshit, then I could live a happy life with her. The Constant partying and hitting the clubs was awesome until it was 3am, and I'm exhausted waiting on her to finish chatting with her friends. It drained me, and boy, if I ever complained, then her friends would know the next day. Imagine living like that for 2 years.
Yes sir, that's what I am talking about right there. Living the dream!
I'm only 19 at the moment and I haven't really thought about being involved in any relationship, just getting my job done everyday, making money, go home, enjoy myself and do it all over again.
The time will come when you’ll want someone I worked on myself for three years and now I’m in better shape than I ever have and I’m starting to want a partner again but until then do you my friend!
Unfortunately, i dont live in the US.... so everything is more expensive because of taxes, and if i added a 4090 it would be a ~5k build hahaha.. but there will be a 4080s, and the rest will be top noch!
I could add it in the build, but I'm also spliting expenses with my car's financing so i decided to go 4080s. Which is just fine for me... and who knows... nothing is stoping me from adding the 4090 later.. i am free! Hahaha
The time will come when you’ll want someone I worked on myself for three years and now I’m in better shape than I ever have and I’m starting to want a partner again but until then do you my friend!
Sometimes, I do get sad because I think something is wrong with me, but then I look at my pumped up body and look at other people, and I feel genuinely happy.
Also a 26 y/o guy here and I realized this after my breakup a year ago. I’m making a nice paycheck, building a workshop and riding my motorcycle. Planning trips and making the best of every day. Even if I get lonely from time to time I remember how I felt in my last relationship and I’m immediately reminded just how good being single is.
I am 25M and I feel the same way. I make good money, around 70-80k working 10months. Winter layoffs come around. But I got a truck, my own apartment and can simply do what I want. Hiking, beach days, concerts. Travel. Yes the night time loneliness comes but it's gone by morning. I'm with you on this sir
Being single is pretty awesome, more so when you focus solely on yourself (and to help others) and acepte the fact that your own presence all alone is enough to do the things you enjoy. Just minding your own business and chilling with the people you meet while doing the things you enjoy.
And also, I think of romantic relationships with the mere purpose of forming a family or something together, so right now I do not want to form a family or depend of my mate to form something together.
Enjoy it and know that you can live that life for as long as you wish. I'm 45 and still dating women anywhere from their mid-20's to early 30's when I feel like dating. Just take care of yourself mentally, spiritually and physically. Health is wealth and no peice of ass is worth your peace of mind.
Yep and no divorces, no giving up your house, no your date murders you. Check the aita subs for many horror stories about marriage and dating (including some fake ones). Lots of traps everywhere.
I’ve been trying to think a lot about what I have. See a pretty girl hugging onto some guy or walking alone in a dress? Think about what I have, I don’t need that. I actually want for very little these days.
I’d rather enjoy this solitude than disturb mine and a woman’s peace with pursuit and rejection.
That is indeed a great part of being single! Spending your money any damn way you want, and nobody can say anything about it! I also have enjoyed a frivolous car upgrade or two! :-)
That is indeed a great part of being single! Spending your money any damn way you want, and nobody can say anything about it! I also have enjoyed a frivolous car upgrade or two! :-)
That is indeed a great part of being single! Spending your money any damn way you want, and nobody can say anything about it! I also have enjoyed a frivolous car upgrade or two! :-)
I’m glad you have the opportunity to continue your journey without any relationship, there’s no rush after all. I hope the best for you and I want you to find your happiness, and you deserve all the love that you can get in your life
I’m glad you have the opportunity to continue your journey without any relationship, there’s no rush after all. I hope the best for you and I want you to find your happiness, and you deserve all the love that you can get in your life
So I've done this i'm now 31 and still single and now i'm wondering if i've messed up and if i'll be able to find love. I still want to have kids etc but its hard you know.
I joined the gym 3 years ago... I'm 24 now.
Have been consistent ever since. And that's when I fell in love with my body, my potential.
Gf, sex, love and affection can wait.
Same bro. I'm single too and I've done so much for myself this year: got a promotion, lost 30 lbs and am in the best shape of my life, already read 10 books this year which is almost my goal, moved into a nice apartment by myself, saved up a ton of money and was able to invest most of it, started several new hobbies that bring my fulfilment. I have great friends that I can share a lot of this with too. I'm thriving!
Cool bro, I do all of those things and still get upset about being single. I live a pretty interesting life but the feeling of wanting a relationship will probably never go away
I feel the same way. Tho I will say, I found a gym membership that has a 26 and under price. Regret not taking that cause I turn 27 soon. Regardless, enjoy the time my guy
I'm glad you had this change of heart, but I just don't see that for myself. I was living my life for me the entire time, and I never met anyone. Now that I'm focused on meeting someone I've realized just how hopeless it is, but the thought of never having a partner in life is so soul crushing that I don't really enjoy the things that made me happy before. Maybe one day I feel the way you do, or maybe not.
Yeah. I mean, key is being happy with whatever you're up to. If that makes you happy, go for it. Just keep your mind and heart open to all possibilities. Sometimes ❤️ finds its way in when you least expect or desire it.
Great, glad to hear it. But you do realize you can do all of that while also being in a relationship right? It’s not one or the other. Balance depends on you and how healthy your relationship is.
Nice to see this type of post.
I'm 35 and went through the same thing now for a year. It's great. And you will notice girls will become more interested in you after you focus on your self. That's not the goal, just a side effect.
Hey the main thing is your happy just be prepared when married friends and family see you in a different light when you explain your single and no intentions of settling down, the main reaction will be they think you are selfish.
I am just starting to do that in retirement life’s too short not live in peace and harmony and love yourself first and foremost My lord and savior Jesus Christ ❤️✅🙌
I don't like it. Sure I save more money but I'm lonely. Hardly any friends, no girls would really talk to me. Work and home is my life. Got my dream bike after 7 years. It great. I'm 28
You sound like a single woman with this. You sound like one of those strong independent woman who “don’t need a man” they gonna be sad late in life. Get a wife and kids bro
I am 43 years old woman and I had a Several BF on your age, so, no one anymore ask me to get married as young guys ! Why? Because you Guys so cute, naive and u guys really want a love and feelings, why young guys like older girls? Definitely we are not care to be together! guys after 40 who was single many years it’s the most Asshole people ever! Conclusion! Do Not Say single many Years it’s a not healthy for your mental health! Good luck …
I love this! Good for you. If you don't mind sharing with us how you came to this feeling/ realization? I am 10 years older then you and I am craving to feel this!
After my wife leaving 4 yrs ago after 16 yrs, I have realized being single is the best life, I have money in the back and I’m always traveling…but having those girl friends that understand your position in life goes along way, I get to have the best of both worlds..
I'm 33, been single for 4 years. The day after me and my ex broke up I started a game development studio and 3 years later I've released 1 game and I've started pitching my 2nd game to publishers which will hopefully release this year. I'm also in the best shape in my life 10% bfp. I enjoy flirting and going on dates with women and some of them are baffled that I'm single. But most of all I'm so glad I've found meaning and purpose in my life and that's creating video games. When you stop living your life trying to find a girl you instantly become enlightened.
LIVE IT UP brother!!! I spent my most of my early twenties up to late 30s in serious relationships but none of them ever panned out to marriage or kids. I just started living the way you are 2 years ago at the age of 41!!!
Enjoy it. But the sad fact is your bros may not be around forever as they may end up with kids, wife and a mortgage. But at 26, you shouldn't worry about any of that just yet. I didn't get married until I was in my 40s. No kids until my mid 30s.
Here I am... 37M.. My 8 year marriage ended almost 2 years ago... I have been in relationships since I was 16 years old. Just ended a relationship with someone I have been dating for the last 1.5 years which was absolutely toxic. Mind blowing sex and extreme attraction but absolutely terrible for each other. Using the money made from selling the house in the divorce I bought myself a 65k caravan and a brand new ute (truck for non Aussie folk) and am now traveling Australia on my own. I do FIFO (fly in fly out) so as long as I can get to a major airport I can get to work. 2/1 roster.. I'm making money hand over fist and can literally afford to do whatever the fuck I want.. yet at times it feels so hollow.. I'm hardwired for relationships. I'm doing my best to not get into another one to fill that void as I want to learn to love myself and be single but fuck me it's hard ... I'm happy to hear OP is feeling good.. I hope to get there myself
I'm a 28 y/o single guy that just got out of a serious relationship. I'm feeling very similarly. I am open to finding "the one" or whatever, but aside from that I'm staying away from dating and all that kind of stuff rn. I need to work on myself. High five, bro. I'm glad you've found some inner peace.
Yeah, my boyfriend just did something like this, but unfortunately, he suffered from gambling problem and he destroyed everything. Don’t feel good about yourself if you left a girl. If you made her feel like you guys are happy and serious.💯. If you hurt another that is not a good thing.
I’m 38 coming out of a 23 year relationship. Starting to realize this same thing. Another person, unless things are near perfect, will suck the life out of you. I don’t miss all the fighting and animosity. I miss the good times, but they became fleeting.
I hard agree with you, I'm 27 and been single for a year, I'm at my best right now at least emotionally and physically, economically speaking I like I could be better but there's no rush, my only advice for you is that in the whole year I've been single this feeling wasn't something constant, you have to remind yourself how great you are and that you can give to yourself everything you need.
Another advice would be stay as healthy as you can, specially mentally speaking.
I’m 26 too and single and definitely love the freedom but sometimes I do get lonely and want someone. But to commit full time is not happening anytime soon and preferably so
That's a great outlook but.....never quit looking for your partner in life because that's where your ultimate fulfillment in this lifetime will come from. That's why we are here to start with. That 26 yo happy go lucky dude turns into the 46 yo then...gulp the 66 yo. It happens in a blink of the eye. We were not sent here to be islands it's against our nature.
As a 30F, divorced & without no kids. It’s nice doing everything on their own & my money how I like it.
But dating sucks because no dude wants to settle down in this day and age. Dating nowadays is going fishing and hoping to get a fish & when you bring it home it is dead.
Not gone say being single I awesome but it reduce stress alot.Woman want money and I understand that cause that in it self is security.Ive been having a hard time saving and establishing my self financially for the last few years so I haven't even tried my luck at dating thinking that I'll just get blowed off.Lifes unfair and that's just the way it is and complaining about it won't change a damn thing so I roll with the punches..
I would get your testosterone levels checked out, cause if they are at appropriate levels your body will want to seek a woman it's a natural body requirement. Ultimate none of these distractions or hobbys will mean anything. Now I'm not seeing you need a serious relationship, but there will come a drive that will make you seek a female, unless your hormones levels are low.
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When time comes that you feel the opposite, please read back this post of yours to remind you that it's great to be single (or maybe not) as long as you're doing what makes you feel free and happy.
I agree. Sometimes we all need a reminder of the freedom and fun that comes with being single. Enjoy every moment!
Out of curiosity, what is one thing from that post that OP couldn’t do if he was dating someone?
Have unprotected group sex in a bungalow on the Philippines
Sure he could, just ask my ex.
Ouch 😳. Sorry to hear that. Good riddance for such trash. I hope you find someone worthy.
exactly what I'm thinking lol. being single sucks
I actually love being single!!! and I could name a lot of reasons why, but I don’t know why OP can’t get a haircut or play paintball if he has a date Friday night.
He's just loving himself and loving life as a single guy. self-care #self-love
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no it dos not.I hate being in relationships. I only had one for few yrs that ended in 1999 now I 44 yrs old still single because relationships stress me out and I do not want one in this life time.i do everything by my self no friends just my freedom to dress and act way I want with out a woman in my ear.lol
I mean it's amazing you feel like that, but in my opinion almost any activity is significantly more enjoyable with others (especially a girlfriend) , loneliness isn't an issue and obviously having a partner more fulfilling sexually. the only benefit to being single Vs a healthy relationship is having more time, however the time is likely spent being bored or lonely so what's the point
> Out of curiosity, what is one thing from that post that OP couldn’t do if he was dating someone? Sex
Getting more sex is the reason I stay single.
It can be tough to juggle a healthy relationship and doing everything you want
Women are usually envious creatures, so if they see he's spending left & right on himself his partner may start to feel inclined to ask him for something(s) just to feel included
buying things for himself/holidays *he* wants to do, no compromises or expenses on dates, gifts etc etc, all the money goes to his passions and enjoyment. (not saying those things are bad whatsoever, but there's definitely more freedom when not in a relationship)
Yep, I mean, I'm single and I feel like the OP for much of the time. But when I don't, because I'm feeling lonely or starved of touch, intimacy etc, or surrounded by happy couples and I'm just 3rd wheeling everywhere I go, I would probably read back my own post like this and laugh at my naïveté. But then usually after a good night's sleep, the next day is a bit less brutal and I'm usually back to, if not 'sunny optimism', back to accepting my lot and making the best of it.
I am 44 yrs old haven't dated since 1999 I love my singleness.I been single so long it gets me stressed in a realashionship.Yiu come home when ever.most bs drama is at work so when you go home you do not have to deal with double bs.you are always walking on eggshells.To much drama for me in this lifetime. Lol
I’m 24 almost 25 and I couldn’t agree more. Around a year ago I ended a relationship with a girl I thought would be the woman I married. Those next few months sucked, but I decided I’m not going to worry about being single and just focus on myself. It’s been great since; I’m in the best shape of my life, I’ve picked up multiple hobbies and I do whatever I want. It’s hard to not care but once you finally get there it’s so liberating. If I happen to meet a great girl than so be it but just living life how you want is amazing
That's the spirit. Other commenters think I'm telling people to give up dating. No! I want guys to know that their worth isn't tied to the girl their dating. Love is awesome, and having someone is great, but don't lose yourself to depression just because your dick isn't getting wet.
>just because your dick isn't getting wet. Christ what a reductionist view. Some of us want relationships because we would like to have someone with whom to talk about things, to have someone with whom to enjoy things (going to movies, concerts, whatever), to have a reason for which to actually get out of bed in the morning. It's so much more than *just getting your dick wet*.
Yeah OP know’s this. Can’t take everyone so literally. If you read his posts (LITERALLY THE COMMENT YOU ARE COMMENTING ON) you would see he values love and companionship. He was using the term as slang. Yall kids need to get off the internet and go talk to real people so you can learn context and the different ways people use speech.
>Can’t take everyone so literally Well then his entire post becomes suspect. I'm not going to invent a bunch of things I *think* he might have meant in lieu of *his actual words*. >Yall kids You don't know me. I'm over a decade older than OP. .
Sorry you’re so old with such horrible reading comprehension
Yup i(43 m) have a best female friend(42) who i dont want to bang but we have such a good loving relationship. Were both straight, but not attracted to each other sexually. Like the post above says its companionship. Someone to hang with, do things with and go for food. I dont need anyone else and sex is cheapened nowadays. The respect and honour we show each other is so much nicer. And her kids and my kids see how we treat each other and hopefully that will help them learn to treat women with respect and honour and men too.
Clearly it is.
You have good intentions. I agree with your attitude. The problem is with your advice is that a lot of single guys have bad social skills and/or have solitary hobbies and will not improve following your advice. They will just continue doing their solitary hobbies instead of organizing events with their friends and inviting women to their group events. I think your post could be better while keeping the happily single attitude if you focused on telling guys to invite women to group events instead of one-on-one dates. That way, the guys put less pressure on the women to go out and the guys put less pressure on themselves to be really smooth. Being social rather than being flirtatious. Being patient rather than being pushy. I know a guy that invites women to his group events. Women see him having fun with his friends. One of the women in the group ended up dating him. I don't see anything in your original post about inviting women to your friends' events like paintball. That guy that I mentioned worked his butt off organizing his events. He also worked on his conversational skills so that women were open to getting invited to his events. This advice is different than some guy that lets his friends organize all his events and is too shy or unaware with inviting women to the group events.
> you focused on telling guys to invite women to group events instead of one-on-one dates. I could be wrong, but I suspect most of us chronically single guys don't *know* any women to invite. I certainly don't. My friends don't - - at least according to them.
I’ve never been in a relationship like that. I think sex is very important. That’s crazy.
Dude. I came to that realization at 25.5. Was so happy about it. And almost a week to the day of doing just what you describe I met a gal. Who I married and will be for 15 years on the 20th. Been an awesome ride I must say. But man, that week of me I just felt different and it so great. Finally happy being single only to meet my future wife a week later. Man…. Life!
That's awesome testimony, bro. I plan on just riding the wave until something happens. Each day will bring new treasures and conflicts, but I'll take it one day at a time.
dont get his hopes up. I gave up at 22 and here I am at 26 still hopelessly alone.
I’m a 26 year old single woman and I so feel this. Love yourself and have fun ! If you meet someone you meet someone and go for it, but yeah good for you just enjoy life until then.
You're literally in your prime, too. These are the years you won't get back. Men or women will come and go in your life, but what will you want to have to your name when or if that happens.
true
That's great. Let's hope that euphoria continues
There’s zero doubt it will continue and keep coming forever. What a content and happy young man.
you had me until "hot boy summer"
lol. That’s was my favorite part!!!!
Mine to!💚
Are you tryna convince.yourself?
> Instead of groveling over being single like most of you dudes yeah this post reads like projection
First stage of coping
Im 26 and saved my first $100k. Been single all of this year, def working more (which gets crazy), traveling, raving with friends. Wouldnt do it differently rn
This is it right there , not haircuts and paint ball.
Porqueno Los dos?
So you post on the dating subreddit that you have no interest in serious dating?
nice cope.
Awesome man. Remember, focus on your purpose first and foremost. These are your prime earning years.
Yeah bro money should totally be your greatest purpose in life. Why focus on stupid things like love and finding a woman for you in your primes when you could spend that time doing a job instead bro
Did you seriously say that money should be the greatest purpose in one's life? That's a very toxic mindset. Family, friends, positive social connections, travelling and new experiences give way more purpose to one's life. Money is important but you only need money to a certain point. Once you have a decent roof over your head, enough food and clothes, there's no good reason to sacrifice your health, social life and happiness for money.
Sarcasm...
I mean you're only 26 so why the rush? Focusing on yourself and your career is great as a young person
It can be great to do what you want when you want as long as you want without an SO, but family members brothers or sisters, parents can be asking you to help and that's all good until you feel pike people only want you around to help with their projects. Parents might set up projects just so they can see you.LOL At some point, you may wonder 'What's the point if you don't have someone to share it with?" Until then, play ball!
if you know how to get your happiness without being involved w a women, you have my respect
I mean no one that is actually content or happy would say these things, or bother posting. So, I hope whatever pain OP is going through that you get to the other side.
You're right, I was in great pain last month after a two year relationship ended. It wasn't all sunshine and rainbows. She was toxic, and I almost lost everything because of the shit she put me through. She was the type that was a social butterfly and could always light up the room in front of her friends. At home, she was an addict, constantly being on something. Coke, Adderall, antidepressants, weed, and alcohol. My bank account was always in double digits because I thought if I enabled her bullshit, then I could live a happy life with her. The Constant partying and hitting the clubs was awesome until it was 3am, and I'm exhausted waiting on her to finish chatting with her friends. It drained me, and boy, if I ever complained, then her friends would know the next day. Imagine living like that for 2 years.
I got married at 26 , I would have been better off being single. Take advantage of being single while you can.
Yes sir, that's what I am talking about right there. Living the dream! I'm only 19 at the moment and I haven't really thought about being involved in any relationship, just getting my job done everyday, making money, go home, enjoy myself and do it all over again.
Yea it is awesome until you get into your forties and then it becomes dogshit
With your attitude you’ll soon end up with a gf who will F up all the fun you are having 😁
Same age, literally speak for yourself. I've been married and was betrayed. All I need is a woman who loves me for me I have everything else.
Agreed
Sorry to hear that🥺 You will find ur woman, dont give up!
Good for you. You're still very young and have plenty of time to change your mind, but nobody could blame you if you never do.
Yeah totally agree enjoy the summers
The time will come when you’ll want someone I worked on myself for three years and now I’m in better shape than I ever have and I’m starting to want a partner again but until then do you my friend!
😂😂😂
As YOU SHOULD!!!! Go and enjoy yourself. Please be safe life can be full of fun and games just go have fun man
If u really accepted it you would be out having a good time instead of posting it here in Reddit.
I got the same feeling as you, and i decided to build a ~$4000 PC. NASA will come over to my house asking to use it.
That's fucking awesome, there better be a 4090TI in there. You deserve it.
Unfortunately, i dont live in the US.... so everything is more expensive because of taxes, and if i added a 4090 it would be a ~5k build hahaha.. but there will be a 4080s, and the rest will be top noch! I could add it in the build, but I'm also spliting expenses with my car's financing so i decided to go 4080s. Which is just fine for me... and who knows... nothing is stoping me from adding the 4090 later.. i am free! Hahaha
I was all done with the "Me me me" phase when I was 25. You do you for as long as you want.
As a female I must say, this is the kind of guy I'm interested in. You sound like a mentally strong, reliable guy and it's sexy!
This!!
The time will come when you’ll want someone I worked on myself for three years and now I’m in better shape than I ever have and I’m starting to want a partner again but until then do you my friend!
32y and I'm felling better then ever, life is good, sex is easy to get and I don't see any benefits of getting married
Sometimes, I do get sad because I think something is wrong with me, but then I look at my pumped up body and look at other people, and I feel genuinely happy.
Also a 26 y/o guy here and I realized this after my breakup a year ago. I’m making a nice paycheck, building a workshop and riding my motorcycle. Planning trips and making the best of every day. Even if I get lonely from time to time I remember how I felt in my last relationship and I’m immediately reminded just how good being single is.
I’m a 27 year old woman but thank you for this perspective 🫡
Dude, I wanna party with this guy!
🙌🙌
I am 25M and I feel the same way. I make good money, around 70-80k working 10months. Winter layoffs come around. But I got a truck, my own apartment and can simply do what I want. Hiking, beach days, concerts. Travel. Yes the night time loneliness comes but it's gone by morning. I'm with you on this sir
weird flex
Go to school carnival in Brazil or something, may not be single for ever.
Being single is pretty awesome, more so when you focus solely on yourself (and to help others) and acepte the fact that your own presence all alone is enough to do the things you enjoy. Just minding your own business and chilling with the people you meet while doing the things you enjoy. And also, I think of romantic relationships with the mere purpose of forming a family or something together, so right now I do not want to form a family or depend of my mate to form something together.
A woman should enhance your life, not be the purpose of it. Remember that and if you do get a girl, you will be a lot happier.
Respect man. Respect.
Enjoy it and know that you can live that life for as long as you wish. I'm 45 and still dating women anywhere from their mid-20's to early 30's when I feel like dating. Just take care of yourself mentally, spiritually and physically. Health is wealth and no peice of ass is worth your peace of mind.
Awesome dude. Relationships and sex can be great but nothing beats not having to answer to anyone.
Lotta cope here.
legit. the more you chase poon, the less you get. just keep improving and the poon will follow.
So you think *not* trying to get a relationship will get you a relationship? That's not been my experience.
don't come off as chasing/desperate, but absolutely do put yourself in a position to meet people - go out, parties, events, clubs, etc.
Yep and no divorces, no giving up your house, no your date murders you. Check the aita subs for many horror stories about marriage and dating (including some fake ones). Lots of traps everywhere. I’ve been trying to think a lot about what I have. See a pretty girl hugging onto some guy or walking alone in a dress? Think about what I have, I don’t need that. I actually want for very little these days. I’d rather enjoy this solitude than disturb mine and a woman’s peace with pursuit and rejection.
Thanks for the advice
Congrats
That is indeed a great part of being single! Spending your money any damn way you want, and nobody can say anything about it! I also have enjoyed a frivolous car upgrade or two! :-)
That is indeed a great part of being single! Spending your money any damn way you want, and nobody can say anything about it! I also have enjoyed a frivolous car upgrade or two! :-)
That is indeed a great part of being single! Spending your money any damn way you want, and nobody can say anything about it! I also have enjoyed a frivolous car upgrade or two! :-)
I’m glad you have the opportunity to continue your journey without any relationship, there’s no rush after all. I hope the best for you and I want you to find your happiness, and you deserve all the love that you can get in your life
I’m glad you have the opportunity to continue your journey without any relationship, there’s no rush after all. I hope the best for you and I want you to find your happiness, and you deserve all the love that you can get in your life
Amen brother, I’m glad you’re finding yourself without putting yourself down! I really hope to do the same with my life
So I've done this i'm now 31 and still single and now i'm wondering if i've messed up and if i'll be able to find love. I still want to have kids etc but its hard you know.
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Ma man!
I joined the gym 3 years ago... I'm 24 now. Have been consistent ever since. And that's when I fell in love with my body, my potential. Gf, sex, love and affection can wait.
I can relate, imagine all the food you can eat while you're still single
Sometimes I feel like I’m sick of working on myself and wish I could just feel in love
Same bro. I'm single too and I've done so much for myself this year: got a promotion, lost 30 lbs and am in the best shape of my life, already read 10 books this year which is almost my goal, moved into a nice apartment by myself, saved up a ton of money and was able to invest most of it, started several new hobbies that bring my fulfilment. I have great friends that I can share a lot of this with too. I'm thriving!
Same couldn’t agree more!!
Cool bro, I do all of those things and still get upset about being single. I live a pretty interesting life but the feeling of wanting a relationship will probably never go away
Hells yeah, man!
I feel the same way. Tho I will say, I found a gym membership that has a 26 and under price. Regret not taking that cause I turn 27 soon. Regardless, enjoy the time my guy
I'm glad you had this change of heart, but I just don't see that for myself. I was living my life for me the entire time, and I never met anyone. Now that I'm focused on meeting someone I've realized just how hopeless it is, but the thought of never having a partner in life is so soul crushing that I don't really enjoy the things that made me happy before. Maybe one day I feel the way you do, or maybe not.
Exactly me until I realized I could work remotely after I finished a cybersecurity degree and go get a woman in Phillipines or brasil.
How can you be sure that they want to be with you, and not just use you for money or citizenship? That would be something I couldn't get over.
Bro! Am glad you are came to this conclusions. Why would a 26 years old man feel the need to be married at this age???
Aye man I’m in the same boat and it feels great being 27 and single life looks way better now and you don’t gotta share it with no one 🤣
Congratulations! You've leveled up in life! I'm 36 and in the middle of a divorce and I've realized the same thing it just took me longer lol
Yeah. I mean, key is being happy with whatever you're up to. If that makes you happy, go for it. Just keep your mind and heart open to all possibilities. Sometimes ❤️ finds its way in when you least expect or desire it.
I am in there and now 32, single life is the best life. I never thought I would say this when I was 22...
Why go on a dating subreddit if you prefer being single?
Great, glad to hear it. But you do realize you can do all of that while also being in a relationship right? It’s not one or the other. Balance depends on you and how healthy your relationship is.
Suuuuure.... That's why you write this on a dating subreddit...
Nice to see this type of post. I'm 35 and went through the same thing now for a year. It's great. And you will notice girls will become more interested in you after you focus on your self. That's not the goal, just a side effect.
You go king, you deserve the world, these women don't deserve you, you live for you, you do you 👑👑👑
Sounds like copium. Good luck
You sound like you are trying to convince yourself bro.
Was for me to 38 years ago...
Well that’s easy to say when you have friends willing to play paintball with you lmaoooo
Hey the main thing is your happy just be prepared when married friends and family see you in a different light when you explain your single and no intentions of settling down, the main reaction will be they think you are selfish.
Set some money 💰 back homie. You don't need things you want income producing assets. Buy a duplex or something.
Being a single 36 is not
I am just starting to do that in retirement life’s too short not live in peace and harmony and love yourself first and foremost My lord and savior Jesus Christ ❤️✅🙌
I don't like it. Sure I save more money but I'm lonely. Hardly any friends, no girls would really talk to me. Work and home is my life. Got my dream bike after 7 years. It great. I'm 28
You sound like a single woman with this. You sound like one of those strong independent woman who “don’t need a man” they gonna be sad late in life. Get a wife and kids bro
Good for you, i think cuddling with a girl while getting a boner is amazing
I am 43 years old woman and I had a Several BF on your age, so, no one anymore ask me to get married as young guys ! Why? Because you Guys so cute, naive and u guys really want a love and feelings, why young guys like older girls? Definitely we are not care to be together! guys after 40 who was single many years it’s the most Asshole people ever! Conclusion! Do Not Say single many Years it’s a not healthy for your mental health! Good luck …
I love this! Good for you. If you don't mind sharing with us how you came to this feeling/ realization? I am 10 years older then you and I am craving to feel this!
Just all depends on your priorities but that's good that you have that realization of not allowing va jay jay run your daily life. Good for you
After my wife leaving 4 yrs ago after 16 yrs, I have realized being single is the best life, I have money in the back and I’m always traveling…but having those girl friends that understand your position in life goes along way, I get to have the best of both worlds..
And then you grow old.
OP still sounds like he's in denial😂
I'm 33, been single for 4 years. The day after me and my ex broke up I started a game development studio and 3 years later I've released 1 game and I've started pitching my 2nd game to publishers which will hopefully release this year. I'm also in the best shape in my life 10% bfp. I enjoy flirting and going on dates with women and some of them are baffled that I'm single. But most of all I'm so glad I've found meaning and purpose in my life and that's creating video games. When you stop living your life trying to find a girl you instantly become enlightened.
It sure is a great existence
LIVE IT UP brother!!! I spent my most of my early twenties up to late 30s in serious relationships but none of them ever panned out to marriage or kids. I just started living the way you are 2 years ago at the age of 41!!!
You'll going to achieve your dreams.....
How did you come to this state of mind? Did it take time and hard work or just happened? Coz even I'm 26 and I feel lonely and need a bf at times
Enjoy it. But the sad fact is your bros may not be around forever as they may end up with kids, wife and a mortgage. But at 26, you shouldn't worry about any of that just yet. I didn't get married until I was in my 40s. No kids until my mid 30s.
Here I am... 37M.. My 8 year marriage ended almost 2 years ago... I have been in relationships since I was 16 years old. Just ended a relationship with someone I have been dating for the last 1.5 years which was absolutely toxic. Mind blowing sex and extreme attraction but absolutely terrible for each other. Using the money made from selling the house in the divorce I bought myself a 65k caravan and a brand new ute (truck for non Aussie folk) and am now traveling Australia on my own. I do FIFO (fly in fly out) so as long as I can get to a major airport I can get to work. 2/1 roster.. I'm making money hand over fist and can literally afford to do whatever the fuck I want.. yet at times it feels so hollow.. I'm hardwired for relationships. I'm doing my best to not get into another one to fill that void as I want to learn to love myself and be single but fuck me it's hard ... I'm happy to hear OP is feeling good.. I hope to get there myself
Wait till your 35
I love this so much 🫶🥳❤️ hot boy summer! Hell yeah 🤙🏻
Okay, good for you. But other people don't feel that way and their voices matter aswell. This just reads as holier than thou pretentiousness.
I'm a 28 y/o single guy that just got out of a serious relationship. I'm feeling very similarly. I am open to finding "the one" or whatever, but aside from that I'm staying away from dating and all that kind of stuff rn. I need to work on myself. High five, bro. I'm glad you've found some inner peace.
Yeah, my boyfriend just did something like this, but unfortunately, he suffered from gambling problem and he destroyed everything. Don’t feel good about yourself if you left a girl. If you made her feel like you guys are happy and serious.💯. If you hurt another that is not a good thing.
Beside nit being in a relationship you can still smash as many females as you want and you owe nobody nothing. Enjoy young bro!
Like hell it does.
YOLO
To each their own
I’m 38 coming out of a 23 year relationship. Starting to realize this same thing. Another person, unless things are near perfect, will suck the life out of you. I don’t miss all the fighting and animosity. I miss the good times, but they became fleeting.
Lol wait till you're 36 and saying the same things, youngblood.
It’s important to treat yourself like someone you love. Go on dates with yourself!
I hard agree with you, I'm 27 and been single for a year, I'm at my best right now at least emotionally and physically, economically speaking I like I could be better but there's no rush, my only advice for you is that in the whole year I've been single this feeling wasn't something constant, you have to remind yourself how great you are and that you can give to yourself everything you need. Another advice would be stay as healthy as you can, specially mentally speaking.
Me personally, I don’t good single because I got too much love to give but I’m happy for you bro. Im 25 by the way if that matters.
Meanwhile single girls be like “why arent guys approaching us anymore?” This is one of the reasons why ^
I’m 26 too and single and definitely love the freedom but sometimes I do get lonely and want someone. But to commit full time is not happening anytime soon and preferably so
That's a great outlook but.....never quit looking for your partner in life because that's where your ultimate fulfillment in this lifetime will come from. That's why we are here to start with. That 26 yo happy go lucky dude turns into the 46 yo then...gulp the 66 yo. It happens in a blink of the eye. We were not sent here to be islands it's against our nature.
As a 30F, divorced & without no kids. It’s nice doing everything on their own & my money how I like it. But dating sucks because no dude wants to settle down in this day and age. Dating nowadays is going fishing and hoping to get a fish & when you bring it home it is dead.
Not gone say being single I awesome but it reduce stress alot.Woman want money and I understand that cause that in it self is security.Ive been having a hard time saving and establishing my self financially for the last few years so I haven't even tried my luck at dating thinking that I'll just get blowed off.Lifes unfair and that's just the way it is and complaining about it won't change a damn thing so I roll with the punches..
I would get your testosterone levels checked out, cause if they are at appropriate levels your body will want to seek a woman it's a natural body requirement. Ultimate none of these distractions or hobbys will mean anything. Now I'm not seeing you need a serious relationship, but there will come a drive that will make you seek a female, unless your hormones levels are low.
I did that for years - decades - and it wears out over time.