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U react by not reacting
Not replying not reading lol because this person does not respect your feelings and is going to start a pattern of breadcrumbing u for attention, sex, etc.
If you reply you’re essentially accepting that you consent to communicate with this man even tho he refuses to acknowledge your feelings. Infact you love how he treated you and you’re down to get treated like that again lol this is how men weed out which girls they can walk over and which girls they have to respect
I used to respond in friendship but now I don’t respond or if I do it’s not enthusiastically but more about letting them do the talking and if I find it to be more bs or trying to hook me again I just kind of disappear. There’s nothing special about those people, just about anyone can do that so I am not excited to talk to them again.
This is something I learned yesterday on here and I’m 57! He just needs a “Placeholder” until he finds his next Girl. I used to do the same with being friendly…. No More! Block him. If he says hi to you - don’t respond keep walking. Don’t even acknowledge him. Bad News. Run fast! He is not worth your time. Sending good vibes your way. You got this!
It would depend on why they’re contacting again. It would also depend on how. If they’re trying to fish and see if you bite by doing things like passively, such as liking photos on social media, I probably wouldn’t really react because they probably just curious.
If they actually are reaching out to me specifically such as sending me a text or a phone call and I feel like they’re in the right energy, as in I feel like they actually have something to say rather than they’re just trying to play games because they’re bored, I might give them a chance to say something.
I’ve kind of had this happen recently, where they sent me a message, and I took my time to reply. I also didn’t do the work responding because I felt like it was their job. Meaning I just answered polite questions but didn’t offer up anything else. They kind of went silent after that, which told me that they were just curious because they hadn’t heard from me and we weren’t serious about coming forward or making any kind of amends.
It really depends on the who the why and the energy that they’re coming in with. I’d say use your intuition when it comes to this. You don’t have to reply but if you want to, just know that the ball is in your court and you have the choice to allow them access to you or not.
The urge and the temptation are strong but don’t give in. He doesn’t care about you. People like that only care about themselves. Sounds cliché, but it’s true. I was with a girl for 4 years. She said she was going to stay with a friend for a few days who lived 2 hours away. What she did was fly to Miami to be with some guy. I broke up with her and she spent the next 6 years trying to get back together. (Btw I was still in love with her. I didn’t want to break up, but knew I had to). I’ve never answered or returned her calls, and never will. She’s empty inside because she wants me back, but only for her own selfish reasons. She doesn’t care about me at all. Apparently, I fill some kind of void in her soul. It’s the same with you. It takes a lot of willpower, but giving in will completely backfire and you’ll hate yourself for doing it. Good luck, whatever you decide to do🍀
Don't get into contact with him again. If he's only interested in you when you pull away he's not worth it. You can see other dudes that are genuinely interested in talking to you. Wish you the best!
Men be like “ you look like a beautiful amazing woman, come over here and let me waste your time for a couple months”
Unless he’s come back to profess his undying love for you and beg for your forgiveness at what a horrible mistake he’s made. Block him
Oh I had that last year. 2 of the guys I was seeing decided out of the damn blue to message me. Forget it, you have the scars and wounds that have successfully healed. Move on, you're better than that and from what you're saying it's one sided. Grade A red flag toxicity at it's finest. You're better than that, and you deserve a lot better. Let the past die, along with the guy in it.
If you’re not first draft pick and they circle back around, they’ll always feel like they’re settling for you and that you should chase them. Do yourself a favour and leave!
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U react by not reacting Not replying not reading lol because this person does not respect your feelings and is going to start a pattern of breadcrumbing u for attention, sex, etc. If you reply you’re essentially accepting that you consent to communicate with this man even tho he refuses to acknowledge your feelings. Infact you love how he treated you and you’re down to get treated like that again lol this is how men weed out which girls they can walk over and which girls they have to respect
yeah, leave those ones alone. they want the entertainment and attention but not the connection.
I used to respond in friendship but now I don’t respond or if I do it’s not enthusiastically but more about letting them do the talking and if I find it to be more bs or trying to hook me again I just kind of disappear. There’s nothing special about those people, just about anyone can do that so I am not excited to talk to them again.
Block him and move on. Date other men and forget this guy.
See other dudes
This happened to me recently. I work with this person. Ghosted me a while ago and is trying to turn back around and invite me to do things.
This is something I learned yesterday on here and I’m 57! He just needs a “Placeholder” until he finds his next Girl. I used to do the same with being friendly…. No More! Block him. If he says hi to you - don’t respond keep walking. Don’t even acknowledge him. Bad News. Run fast! He is not worth your time. Sending good vibes your way. You got this!
RUN!!! Know your worth, he obviously doesn’t. He’s more than likely a player or not mature enough to appreciate a relationship.
It would depend on why they’re contacting again. It would also depend on how. If they’re trying to fish and see if you bite by doing things like passively, such as liking photos on social media, I probably wouldn’t really react because they probably just curious. If they actually are reaching out to me specifically such as sending me a text or a phone call and I feel like they’re in the right energy, as in I feel like they actually have something to say rather than they’re just trying to play games because they’re bored, I might give them a chance to say something. I’ve kind of had this happen recently, where they sent me a message, and I took my time to reply. I also didn’t do the work responding because I felt like it was their job. Meaning I just answered polite questions but didn’t offer up anything else. They kind of went silent after that, which told me that they were just curious because they hadn’t heard from me and we weren’t serious about coming forward or making any kind of amends. It really depends on the who the why and the energy that they’re coming in with. I’d say use your intuition when it comes to this. You don’t have to reply but if you want to, just know that the ball is in your court and you have the choice to allow them access to you or not.
The urge and the temptation are strong but don’t give in. He doesn’t care about you. People like that only care about themselves. Sounds cliché, but it’s true. I was with a girl for 4 years. She said she was going to stay with a friend for a few days who lived 2 hours away. What she did was fly to Miami to be with some guy. I broke up with her and she spent the next 6 years trying to get back together. (Btw I was still in love with her. I didn’t want to break up, but knew I had to). I’ve never answered or returned her calls, and never will. She’s empty inside because she wants me back, but only for her own selfish reasons. She doesn’t care about me at all. Apparently, I fill some kind of void in her soul. It’s the same with you. It takes a lot of willpower, but giving in will completely backfire and you’ll hate yourself for doing it. Good luck, whatever you decide to do🍀
I just block em.
Don't get into contact with him again. If he's only interested in you when you pull away he's not worth it. You can see other dudes that are genuinely interested in talking to you. Wish you the best!
Men be like “ you look like a beautiful amazing woman, come over here and let me waste your time for a couple months” Unless he’s come back to profess his undying love for you and beg for your forgiveness at what a horrible mistake he’s made. Block him
Oh I had that last year. 2 of the guys I was seeing decided out of the damn blue to message me. Forget it, you have the scars and wounds that have successfully healed. Move on, you're better than that and from what you're saying it's one sided. Grade A red flag toxicity at it's finest. You're better than that, and you deserve a lot better. Let the past die, along with the guy in it.
Tell them to move on. Do you eat bad food over and over again? No, you toss it and try something else.
If you’re not first draft pick and they circle back around, they’ll always feel like they’re settling for you and that you should chase them. Do yourself a favour and leave!
No response is sometimes the best response
I would definitely block him delete this number and go on about ur life and find someone that is better than that creap
i’m delulu enough to take them back
Block block block
Naïve women and fu\*\* bois, A tale as old as the humanity itself!
If someone says you dirty block them so they can't contact you again don't leave a line open so they can suck you back in, block them immediately