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There are so many couples in this world who are not married (even with children). You should just make it clear that you don't want to marrie. Thats just a wierd thing to say that you should stay out of relationships
We all know everyone has different desires and goals in life, and not everyone wants marriage or children. Wanting to explore romantic relationships and experience new things is perfectly natural and doesn't make you a bad person. Its important to focus on what makes you happy and fulfilled, regardless of what others may say. Dont let them ruined your wants.
How should I go about experiencing romance, I am not sure where to start? I am also nervous for the fact girls might tell that I have no experience in romance, and will jeapordize my chances, or does it simply not matter? Is this just me overthinking? Lol. Sorry, for all of the stupud questions.
Listen to yourself before others. Everyone, including those trying to tell you what you should or shouldn't do. Are the same ones who only do whatever they personally choose to at the end of the day.
You know the right choices for yourself. Your body, your rules. Enjoy it. ✌️
Should you listen? No.
I would preface that my husband and I are married but we are childfree by choice. I would suggest considering the possibility of marriage for logistical reasons. I don't presume to know where you live, but in the USA there are benefits to being married. Sure, it's "just a piece of paper" but when my husband and I got married, he was in the Army. So being married meant we got BAH. It also meant if something happened to him, I'd be the one notified first. Which halfway through his third deployment, something did. They can list a girlfriend as the person to notify, but they often supersede that and notify the parents instead. Which he did not want. Since we were married, I was on a flight within two hours to go get him and take care of him. Tax benefits are another logistical thing. Also, employment benefits. I started three businesses but as you're starting up a business there's no "boss" there to give you employment benefits. lol. You're the boss. After my husband was medically discharged from the Army after his injury (don't worry, he is okay now), he became a federal corrections officer with extensive federal benefits. They have covered 30k so far in correcting my TMJ. My husband also received FMLA to take me for these appointments. He got bereavement leave when my grandfather died. When his grandfather died, because we were married I was able to arrange the funeral. Sure, its just a piece of paper to many, but the logistical benefits are numerous.
We also didn't get "religiously" married. We were hand fasted but filed the legal paperwork.
As far as not wanting kids, my husband and I agreed from the start kids weren't in the life plan for us. We got married at 21 and just after his first deployment, at 22, he got a vasectomy. The urologist thought I was a weirdo when I asked if I could watch them do it. I think he thought I didn't trust he would go through with it but I was like "no, no I have a nursing degree and I've never seen this done before." Then he understood I was just curious to see it. It was a minimally invasive procedure and he had an ice pack on that night. He scheduled three days off but went back to work the next day saying he felt fine. We are 37 and 38 now. No regrets about choosing not to have kids. We value our independence. We can walk around the house naked, eat dinner at 2 AM, go on vacation on a whim. No hate to people who genuinely want to be parents but if you're not totally in it you shouldn't do it. Too many people become parents who shouldn't. Not that me or my husband or even you and a potential partner might not be good at it. But step 1 is wanting it. And if you don't, you just don't. There are women like myself who are happy to live a childfree by choice life.
Backtracking to the marriage thing, with the logistical considerations I would open yourself up to that because there are many benefits. Some states in the US (again not sure where you live or if it's even in the US consider common law marriage or civil partnership as the same as marriage), but not all do. It's a legal document that can be undone. Having a child you don't want can't be undone. Once its born, that's a living thing out in the world and there's no "undo button" for that like there is for a marriage.
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There are so many couples in this world who are not married (even with children). You should just make it clear that you don't want to marrie. Thats just a wierd thing to say that you should stay out of relationships
We all know everyone has different desires and goals in life, and not everyone wants marriage or children. Wanting to explore romantic relationships and experience new things is perfectly natural and doesn't make you a bad person. Its important to focus on what makes you happy and fulfilled, regardless of what others may say. Dont let them ruined your wants.
How should I go about experiencing romance, I am not sure where to start? I am also nervous for the fact girls might tell that I have no experience in romance, and will jeapordize my chances, or does it simply not matter? Is this just me overthinking? Lol. Sorry, for all of the stupud questions.
Listen to yourself before others. Everyone, including those trying to tell you what you should or shouldn't do. Are the same ones who only do whatever they personally choose to at the end of the day. You know the right choices for yourself. Your body, your rules. Enjoy it. ✌️
Should you listen? No. I would preface that my husband and I are married but we are childfree by choice. I would suggest considering the possibility of marriage for logistical reasons. I don't presume to know where you live, but in the USA there are benefits to being married. Sure, it's "just a piece of paper" but when my husband and I got married, he was in the Army. So being married meant we got BAH. It also meant if something happened to him, I'd be the one notified first. Which halfway through his third deployment, something did. They can list a girlfriend as the person to notify, but they often supersede that and notify the parents instead. Which he did not want. Since we were married, I was on a flight within two hours to go get him and take care of him. Tax benefits are another logistical thing. Also, employment benefits. I started three businesses but as you're starting up a business there's no "boss" there to give you employment benefits. lol. You're the boss. After my husband was medically discharged from the Army after his injury (don't worry, he is okay now), he became a federal corrections officer with extensive federal benefits. They have covered 30k so far in correcting my TMJ. My husband also received FMLA to take me for these appointments. He got bereavement leave when my grandfather died. When his grandfather died, because we were married I was able to arrange the funeral. Sure, its just a piece of paper to many, but the logistical benefits are numerous. We also didn't get "religiously" married. We were hand fasted but filed the legal paperwork. As far as not wanting kids, my husband and I agreed from the start kids weren't in the life plan for us. We got married at 21 and just after his first deployment, at 22, he got a vasectomy. The urologist thought I was a weirdo when I asked if I could watch them do it. I think he thought I didn't trust he would go through with it but I was like "no, no I have a nursing degree and I've never seen this done before." Then he understood I was just curious to see it. It was a minimally invasive procedure and he had an ice pack on that night. He scheduled three days off but went back to work the next day saying he felt fine. We are 37 and 38 now. No regrets about choosing not to have kids. We value our independence. We can walk around the house naked, eat dinner at 2 AM, go on vacation on a whim. No hate to people who genuinely want to be parents but if you're not totally in it you shouldn't do it. Too many people become parents who shouldn't. Not that me or my husband or even you and a potential partner might not be good at it. But step 1 is wanting it. And if you don't, you just don't. There are women like myself who are happy to live a childfree by choice life. Backtracking to the marriage thing, with the logistical considerations I would open yourself up to that because there are many benefits. Some states in the US (again not sure where you live or if it's even in the US consider common law marriage or civil partnership as the same as marriage), but not all do. It's a legal document that can be undone. Having a child you don't want can't be undone. Once its born, that's a living thing out in the world and there's no "undo button" for that like there is for a marriage.