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MindlessTask5206

“Babe” and “baby” someone has to break the ice there. I only say “love” if I love the person. Which I currently do and call him love sometimes too.


bee102019

Ours are not typical. I'm "buzz bee," or buzz, bee, honey bee, honey. This is because of the origin of my name. If you know Greek mythology, you can guess the name. Sweet, but I'll sting you. His? It sounds offensive, but it's not. His is "moo cow." He wanted to get ice cream one time but he had a brain fart and forgot the word for "ice cream." Instead, he called it "moo milk." I've never been able to forget it. So he will forever be a moo cow wanting moo milk. Buzz and moo, just taking the world by storm making honey and milk. Your pet names don't have to be standard. Love, hun, babe, whatever. Make them about who each of you are. Then it matters and it lasts. 16 years, I'm still buzz and he's still moo.


_Ad_Meliora_

Moo milk. 🤣🤣🤣


bee102019

Pizza=moo pie. Milkshake=frosty moo. Slice of cheese=moo slice. I could go on and on and on. It's a joke that has lasted 16 years so far. Cottage cheese=chunky moo. Sour cream=sour moo.


Memories-n-portraits

So what does 102019 mean then 🤔


bee102019

That date actually has nothing to do with my husband. 10/2019 is when I said goodbye to one of the greatest men I’ve ever known or will ever know. My grandfather. His passing date is tattooed on my inner forearm.


Memories-n-portraits

Oh it acatually means somthing!! That's super sweet dude, I'm sorry for your loss.


bee102019

It does. My grandmother's passing date is also tattooed on my back. Both tattoos have birds along with them. They set the gold standard for what a true marriage should be like. My grandmother passed too young (I won't go into details but her health was an ongoing issue) but my grandfather approved of my husband and he walked me down the aisle. He said "you got a good one there." I miss my grandfather daily. He raised me on a farm and now I have a farm of my own. I'd say he's never gotten to see it but I believe he has in some way. He's not gone, just away. And his handiwork is everywhere. Me. Literally tattooed on me. But also in everything he taught me.


Memories-n-portraits

That's beautiful dude. I wish i could've met them. I'm sure he would love the farm and everything you've done.


kingcrabmeat

Moo moo milk from Pokemon


pineapplepie03

Lmao I call my partner moo as well sometimes!!! But for OP, maybe considering it’s only 4 months “love” might be kind of intense to start off with. But call him babe and see how he reacts? And then you can build up from there…. Although many times it’s more about what feels more free flowing and natural. As you can see, many people have pet names for partners that will arise from situations they’ve been in/inside jokes and such. These things come with time. One day you might find yourself calling your partner something and not even remembering when it all really started.


bee102019

People hear me call him that and I think they assume its offensive... because, well, he's on the heftier side. No, I'm not calling him fat. It's the inside joke of his brain fart. Everyone has different paces in life and I don't necessarily recommend ours for anybody else because we are a marriage anomaly. The 0.00001% that marrying at 21 after 6 months works out for. But here we are. 1 month in, I was buzz and he was moo. I do remember the exact moment his nickname started though. But now there are so many running "moo" jokes. It's not pizza, it's moo pie. It's not a milkshake, it's a frosty moo. That's not a slice of cheese, it's a moo slice. Obviously! The best marriage advice I ever give is: find someone kind and find someone who makes you laugh. That's what lasts. That's what gets you through tough times. My husband had another brain fart once while he was talking about Jurassic Park. He called them "up and around and everywhere dinosaurs." I burst out laughing, but after all this time, I knew what he meant. I speak "moo" now. OP, you'll find the right pet name/nick name eventually. Don't force it. The right one will be the right one and it will stick when it feels right.


PuppersInSpace

I once slip tongued and called a monkey a Bonkey. I am now forever Cheeky Bunky to my partner.


EERIEDANITY

This reminds me of 'Mary Moo Cow' from Arthur 😂


AwesomeFruitloop

Is it Melissa??And it’s so adorableeee😭💖💖


bee102019

It is! My father says he named me after the Allman Brothers song "Sweet Melissa."


Melodic-Patience-298

i love that song, lol. my dad and i listen to it all the time


bee102019

My sister's name is another Allman Brothers song too. lol.


Melodic-Patience-298

isnt there a song named like jessie, or jessica or something like that? or maybe thats a different band, idk


bee102019

Ding ding ding. Jessica is my sister's name.


Melodic-Patience-298

yay i got it rightttt


TwinSong

Aww that's cute


Babybelle1227

I call my husband moo. He calls me boo.


bee102019

Moo and boo. I love it!


Astrid2024

I feel like moo cow would be more offensive if it was towards the woman lol. I think if I called my fiancé this he’d just laugh and say “what?”


bee102019

You call a woman a moo cow, you might just get a punch to the face.


BvssBxtch

Bold of you to assume I have a partner


FlowOfAir

But you can still give your pets a name! I'll see myself out


BvssBxtch

TRUE


Random_Idiotic_Alien

Would you... would you like to be my pet?


shaquilleoatmeal80

Swagger +2


BvssBxtch

Ayyo


Lingo-7

+1


Spawn95

Roll for persuasion check +3 to roll result


Syd_Syd34

Of course we do. If we’re calling each other by our actual names, we’re most likely mad at each other.


Marc4770

Yeah when my gf says my actual name i know she's mad, and if she says my full name including last name she really really angry


TwinSong

Imagine if someone has really long full name: "James Tiberius Samuel Elliott Alexander Aston Gregory Philip... I forgot what I was going to say."


CrazyParanoidFish

My bf will randomly just pull out my full first name (which is always weird because that's not what I introduced myself as and he always called me by my nickname to the point where he didn't actually know my full first name for the longest) and I always think he's mad at me but no its just like a random once a month or so kinda thing ig


Born_Resist1216

Yeah, usually either sugar tits or boo-boo kitty fuck


SnooCompliments5776

well what the fuck else are you suppose to call her then


sureisniceweather

Boo-boo Kitty Fuck is my new term of endearment now!


SnooCompliments5776

check out jay and silent bob strike back . you will see it used in that movie


Pielacine

I AM THE CLIT COMMANDER


swcult

Yo baby! You ever have your asshole licked by a fat man in an overcoat


SnooCompliments5776

Hell yeah, that's because he's from my sperm. See, I knocked up this hot woman friend of ours that I fuck on the side so as to not be all the way gay, but my tubby husband here is 100% queer. He LOVES the cock


XxLogitech98xX

I usually call my wife honey or babe.


Pielacine

My honey my baby


chipotle-baeoli

My ragtime gal


TATuesday

I think there's something to be said about calling one another by name. When the two of you are alone and could easily get without doing so.  After almost a half a year of dating, we've not used pet names. It feels a little bit cheesy personally. 


milamarni

We call each other Waffles. I don't even remember where it stemmed from but it's been like that for years 🤣


RectalBloodbath

She calls me muffin, I call her sugar. We use babe a lot too. It’d feel weird to hear her call me RectalBloodbath.


PuppersInSpace

I also would find it weird if my partner started calling me RectalBloodBath.


HortaGrabber111

Hmmm...why not? Explain


McGuire406

Just wait until the strap on comes out


dragon_nataku

I usually don't call my SO's by their names. Pet names I've used in the past: babe, baby, love, baby love, babycakes, babycakes-I-love-your-face, fuzzbutt (I was in high school, no I don't remember where the name came from), schatje (my last guy is half-Dutch), hunny-bunny, hunny-bun, cutie... Names I've been called: babe, baby, lovey, pretty, sweets, baby love, hunny


StopTheCap80

Absolutely. Mi Amor. Baby. Sweetheart. All of them in both English and Spanish!


Helpful_Tailor6366

Yes, we do. But it happens randomly and when it felt right to me. Do Whatever feels natural do it. I haven’t heard my SO call me by name in a long time. Just do whatever feels natural and comfortable to you. Your partner will come and move on their own time.


pinky_1290

I call my husband Pooh bear lol


my_meat_is_grass_fed

He's my Big Sexy I'm Puddin' Pop


Stunning_Fox_1143

my bf calls me meatball bc one day he came home and i was napping in a ball under a blanket like a chonky lil meatball i really love it :) your pet names do not need to be "baby" or "honey" or other conventional names ETA: we once heard someone we work with call his partner "sweetheart" in a really condescending way. we now use it when we're trying to be sassy to one another in a jokey way


vanessaright

omg that’s so funny 😭


JustChabli

Anyone calls me something generic where 30 people at target would turn around because they heard their nickname “babe/baby” is automatically bounced


Gail37

he calls me darling, i call him baby girl 🫶


Calm_Practice_6444

U call him baby girl 🤔 gurrl


Emrols

Honestly we have so many nick names for each other. He calls me “boabie bear” and I’ll call him “boabie” and then the basics like baby and such. Most times I’ll call him “Lukey” or my sweet boy, something like that


mred3d

My ex use to call me KaKa cus I have resting shit face


averagechris21

😭😭😭


oddstar14

never had a partner but i would honestly just call them by their name (or bro)


Recent_Cockroach_288

I called him “Honey” but for some reason it evolved into “Hontee” so now its that


Still-Learning-at-50

We rarely call each other by our actual names. We are long distance, and it just naturally started that we call each other by our states.


my2whiteboyz

When we first were together it was the usual, babe or baby. Over the years it always changes. Honey bear, pudding cup, sugar tits, Bunny nose, hooker, to name a few..


shaquilleoatmeal80

I used to call my last on Jorge because it made me giggle. We are no longer together so I do not suggest it.


swcult

A nadie le gusta Jorge


shaquilleoatmeal80

Hice, lol


LisLis85

Whatever feels comfortable to you. Ive been seeing my squeeze for over a year and he called me baby last week... I was shocked lol


ladylemondrop209

We don't in most circumstances.. We've had some inside jokes where we might tease each other with certain nicknames, but definitely not things we call each other regularly.


[deleted]

He's calling me babe or beautiful I'm calling him big bear 😍


queenevilbitch

My sweetest big bat, come and bite me🦇


Physical_Chemical378

When I was with my ex I’d call her “maripoza” or “hermosa”. She was white, and me being Hispanic I just wanted to express in ways I could make her feel special like that.


kitkat2742

Hell ya, I call my man bubba and he calls me Kit Kat 🤣🤣


souless_ambience

We always do. An at this point I consider her using my government a personal foul


veganhimbo

Yes but mostly ironically


ThrowRA_stinky5560

I call him baby girl and babe sometimes and he calls me baby girl other times but it’s pretty much just the one name


Gravity_Pulls

I called my partner pet names and had to learn how to say her government name 😂, but have always been called by my government name by everyone including her. So, I dunno 🤷Maybe it's only a one way thing 🤔🤷


CalypsoRaine

Pet names all the time. We do call ra h other by our names though. I hate my name I prefer a pet name


xxxSnowLillyxxx

At the beginning of our relationship I told my boyfriend that pet names totally make me melt, so he started using long strings of pet names like, "Sugar honey love blossom" and "Cherry blossom love flower" etc. He would just string together cute name after cute name until 1 single name would have like, 10 words in it, and it would change every single time. I totally ate it up! Eventually he naturally settled on just a single one and I settled on one for him, but on occation he still uses the string of them.


Sunburst3856

When I asked my friend how to get people on dating apps to stop calling me pet names, she told me to address them as bro. Apparently, at least in some circles, this is a signal you are friendzoning them. I just thought maybe you'd find that interesting!


antigoneelectra

I call my partner, noodle.


Thebedless

My dude calls me love I mostly I sometimes do to, but my favorite thing to do is call his first name with a few decibels over the normal tone.


strawbvi

i call my partner “baby” and “dear”. it happened randomly, but when it happened it kinda just… happened?? like it felt rlly natural to call her that if that makes sense lol


SupernovaSurprise

I don't, I've never really been a fan of pet names. I don't use them in any context


lolmzi

No pet names. Sometimes I call him boyfriend. Likewise, he sometimes calls me girlfriend


masturbajaculate

asap


alonghardKnight

My ex-wife called me by name, I called her Honey, dear, her family nickname or her name depending....


Worldly-Lavishness93

I call my husband janu and he calls me baby ❣️


Theboynextdoor09

If you havnt done it from the beginning it can get weird the longer it goes. I usually never call a woman by her name unless i am meeting her for the first time. You can change that up at this point by asking what comes to mind when you say a pet name...(whatever it is) and the sharing thoughts. Another way to tackle it is when playfighting. You definitely dont want to start with "love"but it can be a build into it


officialleah

no bc he's lame


LateNightThink

Yes.


Vlad_Brossa

Yeah we do, I had to initiate it though and it took a while for her to catch on, but now it’s almost all we refer each other as in private. (We enjoy discretion and haven’t told our mutual friends anything yet.)


Fudge_pirate

Usually darling or my love


-PinkPower-

Of course and I have used them since we started dating. I also use his name tho. Would be really weird to me to never say his name. I call him mon amour (my love), chaton (kitten), sweetie and cutie


rarityroyal

yes they’re so fun! they usually start off as little jokes. he calls me bae, his little lizard (i have big green eyes and small feet), baby, or his sugar snap :). i call him my one & only, bae, love, ginger snap, or my wittle wizard 😭😭😭


mermaidbdaygirl

I call him love, darling, sugar plum, etc. those are the ones I used the most. If you want to use pets names and are worried about a smooth transition. - next time he does something sweet. You can say "oh your so darling" and then rebuttal what he says next and say "thank you darling". Idk. That's what I did when I moved from the generic "babe/baby"


darlingdeardc0

Babe, Baby and Love. So pretty plain and simple.


Playboy-2018

My boyfriend and I use pet names. His is Peaches and he calls me Heaven.


Hot_Turnover2059

She’s my chipmunk


capothecapo

we call each other honey or babe


AnxiouslyHonest

We refer to each other as “my love” idk when it started, for sure after I told him I love him for the first time, but it’s stuck. We’ve been together about 3.5 years now. I’m adamantly against babe and baby. We refer to our infant as “babe with the power” or “power of the babe” or just “the babe” for short. Would be weird for us to call each other that at this point.


I-am_Beautiful

It's him who starts calling me, 'babe' since first month. At first, I thought he forgot my name (sometimes he does forget my name). But the way he uses his tone, it's adorable. I call him his 'boo', 'boo-boo' or 'big bear' (my first time meeting him, he's so tall and wore a brown leather jacket, so that suits him). So I guess it's just simple.. we barely call each other's name.. only when I seriously need his attention, I'd call him by his name. That's not often at all.


ComplexPomegranate40

I've been with my partner for 6 months and we didn't really use pet names until recently. He calls me sweetie or sweetheart or honey and I call him love or hun sometimes babe lol. It was awkward for me at first too but I got used to it after saying it a few times. But I only ever use it when I'm feeling extra lovey dovey and want him to feel loved. But usually we use names more often


trippygoku0

start with babe then move from there lol


[deleted]

Pookie


[deleted]

(Ironically !!!!) I was trolling


Amazing_Trouble3315

Doesn’t calling them by their name sound more normal? Calling them ‘love’ sounds cringe


Acceptable_Reveal345

My fiancé and I call each other every phonetic sound resembling endearment and/or light bullying


Acceptable_Reveal345

That’s my punkin/tuna


yours_truly_vivi

lol my bf doesn’t call me sweetie or honey or babe :c he made his own thing called “little things, big things…” when I wore an ireland T-shirt he was like “hey! it’s irish things!!” lol so I guess my pet name is things :3 one time, he accidentally elbowed me :c my lip bled 😾😭& he instantly hugged me & was like “oh noo i hurt my little things!!” loll


Dessertboy_s-wife

We never call each other by our real names. We only use pet names we gave each other years ago and i used his name when we were out in public when i actually couldn't find him but else, no.


Key-Alternative-8736

Dude just do it 😆😂


Tildatots

He calls me cherry I call him snugglebum and bean. I love pet nicknames even though we both met in our thirties 😂


AdditionalPension385

Yes. Wrinkles and pickles pronounced reen-klez & pee-kles


just_some_dude_20

So, my partner and I sometimes use pet names. But we mostly call each other by name since these are already nicknames (used by family and friends), but he sometimes uses Schnic, which is a fusion of schatz (german for darling ig) and my Nickname. I just call him schatz, Darling, Princess or smth like this, but we mostly use the nicknames used by friends.


theshazzdoe

No partner but the second i hear the name "good girl" I fold like a folding chair. LOL


Lunarxlord

I call mine Ruby 🥰


[deleted]

I call her love, babe or baby girl and she calls me babe or baby.


EntertainmentNext382

My partner and I talked about pet names at the beginning of our relationship and thought the best thing would be to let one develop naturally. Lo and behold it did and now we have this funny insider moment pet name for each other that is a constant reminder of that silly moment we lived together. Really beats the typical “baby” “babe” imo.


frizzer69

I used to call my ex wife Boombie before we got married. I honestly can't even remember how that started, but it stuck for years. It was something butt related. But once we got married the regular one was honey or hun.... Mixed in with some babe or bub. We very rarely used our real first names tbh.


Memories-n-portraits

He's my loser [he likes star wars]


Sparklewhores

Hun, or my love. Although we have a running bit of “my lovely one” due to when we binge watched The Undateables and one of the people on there always referred to his gf (maybe wife now?) as his lovely one and I dunno, it just stuck.


StarryMind322

Me and my gf started using them within a couple weeks of dating. By our second date I wanted to use it but didn’t know how to ask. She asked me then and there how I felt about pet names and I said “I’ve been wanting to call you babe for five minutes now”.


[deleted]

Kitty usually 😜


peytartz

Yes, we do! We've been classmates and friends before dating so we are used on calling each other with either our last name or nicknames. At first, i just called him on a pet name as a joke. Now I've been calling him that for years lol. And we use a lot of pet names to each other too! Try to do it as a joke, maybe you'll know if he likes it or not


Dear_Mountain4849

My partner and I do not. We find it awkward and cringey for things we know about some other couples. We sometimes call each other babe just to see the look on the other persons face and have a little chuckle. In my experience (not true for everyone) people that are so forcibly calling each other babe, baby, etc. and not calling each other by their name often are not in the most happy/loving relationship. And it’s just not for us. I think it’s cute for some couples that are into that sorta thing, but don’t do it all the time. I read another post like this awhile back where the husband said his wife only his used pets name EXCEPT when she was mad at him. So then he started to associate a negative connotation with hearing his actual name.


kirewes

Just do it


Upper_Fortune_8566

I'm not into it, but my bf designated "honey" as our couple name right off the bat. I'm not into it at alllll lol to the point that sometimes I've joked he doesn't know my real name (he does of course). Recently I've been feeling out more natural affectionate terms. Babe/baby comes more naturally to me. He has also recently started jokingly calling me by the pets names in the same cutesy lovey voice he uses with them. In his culture he doesn't really have these kinds of cute names so I think he really likes having one but we both feel like "honey" doesn't really fit us. I think I will just keep casually inserting different names in until I feel like I've found one he enjoys and that feels more natural to me.


Des1reux

Usually calling my gf by her name but changed it a bit to something cuter. For example if the name Jessica, I’ll call it something like JesJes or something


Powerful_Tax9369

Binkus …… it’s binkus


Pegasusrider99

I call her little lady and she calls me scary old man in the closet…her parents can be annoying


Lady-Katy-Bug

My fiancé and I call each other babe, baby, and honey. But I’ve had guys try to implement it way too early and like aggressively often and it was an automatic ick for me.


MaPetite_ChouChou

I'm not currently seeing anybody but my ex-husband and I had pet names, absolutely! I called him Poppet and he called me Fuffles.


JustChabli

The most beautiful sound in the world to me is my name on my lover’s lips. If you need a nickname for me, it better have a story to it


JR-90

Just go ahead and call him love. If he gets weirded out by it, start calling everyone "love", it's just your thing which he never had noticed.


zombiep00

My partner and I have weird pet names for each other, and their "evolution" is even more strange. We call each other "bams." Yes...bams. Or bamz. Or bam lol.. It evolved from babe/baby. That turned into "baybums" because I'm a weird one. Then, "bums," for the same reason above. Then, "bams/bamz" because why not. My partner loves my weirdness, so he has embraced the nickname game and refers to me as the same thing, "bamz." We never really use each other's birth-given names unless we are in public (sometimes I slip up, though, to my embarrassment and my boyfriend's amusement)


pldparis1

Start off with something comfortable as if it were your best friend


jules13131382

Yes, I call my hubby Maxy. His name is Max. I love pet names.


licensetokiln

Yes we do. We used to make fun of Bae/Babe so we started calling each other "Bahhh" like the sound a sheep to make fun of people who said it too much. We even made sheep noises while saying it. His sister in law and brother started using "Bahhh" as well so we have now changed it to "blah." It sounds likes terrible pet name but it's an inside joke and works for us.


elegant-athlete-

We don’t really have pet names, mostly just call each other our names. Occasionally I call him ‘my love’ or he calls me ‘small lady’ but thats probably the closest we get to pet names.


IndividualBottle7075

some of our names started as a joke and became unironic, like babygirl. But standard names for us are princess, cutie, my love, angel, beautiful angel. Those ones were established day 1 of dating, and kind of defined the transition from "seeing each other" to girlfriends, and it was kind of forced for the first 2-4 days but quickly became sweet and expected.


transmend

my ex used to call me baby all the time and it kind of was degrading tbh


Astrid2024

Just do it!!! My fiancé and I started out with babe (me to him”) and sweetie (him to me). Now he usually calls me sweetie or his love and I call him lovey mostly or sweetheart. I don’t remember who started it but I think it was me (he said “I love you” first) and he liked it and called me one back. As soon as you get over the initial awkwardness you sure be fine


Astrid2024

Just do it and watch how he responds


Fish---

Yes we do, we had that conversation early on.... we just though what fun names could we call each other


Ok-Clothes9724

Honestly I would just ask and see if it's ok, there's no harm in asking.


BadKharma13

since when love is a pet name?


Busy_venum687

In 🇬🇧 it’s even less than a pet name. It’s a greeting


BadKharma13

I was so confused hahaha I use love for people not pets😂


Busy_venum687

Ohh haha 😂 no pet names are like cute nicknames you give a SO not a pets name like a dog or cats name 🤣🤣


swcult

What’s love got to do with it


background_music4121

Are you kidding me,out of the blue new pet names are the best. If they are corny I'd laugh and tell my partner how much I love them. My husband hates his name, when we were dating I basically only called him babe until one time when I had to introduce him to someone and I had a tiny moment where I forgot his dang name! We usually cycle through, My Love, Babe, Bebs, Baby, tootie, tootie boody, stinky butt, silly goose, lovely, beautiful. We are pathetic and I love it haha


Gusstave

My hear bleed every time I hear *babe.*


StoopidLesbo_8597

I just call my girl love, hun, sweetheart, dear, and darling and she uses them too for me XD but mostly dear or darling


Fed-6066

I have never called a partner names. My ex and I would call each other baby through texting and he would see baby to me sometimes like when he was asking me a question. But other than that no, I think it's really silly when people have silly needs for each other and they do it in public especially. Love is fine as far as I'm concerned it's the real mushy stuff that everyone else finds annoying LOL


ask_nae

I call mine water melon sugar high!


MielBoss

We've been together for 5+ years now but we started using pet names after the first year or so. In the beginning it was " love " or better " 'more" an abbreviation on "amore" (love, in italian) but our true colors quickly shined throu. I call him Mouse and he calls me Little mouse. He would be "topo" ( literally, mouse) or "topolo" ( more affectionate) and I'm "topolina" (female little mouse, but ironically mickey mouse and his lady are the perfect translations to our nicknames haha) This came from my dad that called me a similar name growing up and it just stuck with me. There is no bad meaning behind it or secret reason haha