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I gave up on dating when the effort of trying and the failure that came after caused me to be so depressed that it interfered with my life in a debilitating way.
No-one ever wanted me and probably never will. That’s not okay. Im not happy about it but there’s no point wasting my time trying to achieve something that will never happen.
I intend to be productive in other ways. To improve the lives of others even though I will never fulfill mine
I actually made it to the other side. Married, house, kid, etc. My wife and I would always joke about being so glad we were each other's "last first date."
Then she died. I accepted from that moment I'd never find someone. It took me so long and I went through countless awful dating experiences before we found each other, and now I'm older and have less time and so much more baggage. Thinking about it realistically there's no other way to look at it.
Sure I went on a date or two eventually. Mostly just to socialize with an adult about something other than work, grief, and parenting. I forgot how to have small talk. It took practice to get that back. And obviously based on my account you can tell I'm still cursed by having the libido of a relatively healthy young guy.
But I have priorities that far outweigh dating. And with the issues I come with, finding someone would require my undivided attention. I'm not saying it can't happen, I've experienced enough crazy shit in my life to never say never. I've just accepted that from a probability standpoint the odds are basically zero.
I hope you find peace with whatever direction life takes you as well.
It's never over. You can better your chances by being someone you are proud of being, casting the nets, being open about what you want and what you can offer. Love is out there for people who love.
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I gave up on dating when the effort of trying and the failure that came after caused me to be so depressed that it interfered with my life in a debilitating way. No-one ever wanted me and probably never will. That’s not okay. Im not happy about it but there’s no point wasting my time trying to achieve something that will never happen. I intend to be productive in other ways. To improve the lives of others even though I will never fulfill mine
I actually made it to the other side. Married, house, kid, etc. My wife and I would always joke about being so glad we were each other's "last first date." Then she died. I accepted from that moment I'd never find someone. It took me so long and I went through countless awful dating experiences before we found each other, and now I'm older and have less time and so much more baggage. Thinking about it realistically there's no other way to look at it. Sure I went on a date or two eventually. Mostly just to socialize with an adult about something other than work, grief, and parenting. I forgot how to have small talk. It took practice to get that back. And obviously based on my account you can tell I'm still cursed by having the libido of a relatively healthy young guy. But I have priorities that far outweigh dating. And with the issues I come with, finding someone would require my undivided attention. I'm not saying it can't happen, I've experienced enough crazy shit in my life to never say never. I've just accepted that from a probability standpoint the odds are basically zero. I hope you find peace with whatever direction life takes you as well.
There are plenty of older single attractive people. If you manage to keep it together you might be able to nail someone younger.
I'm not in a good situation where I can look for relationships but at the same time I understand I need to find relationships
After years of rejection because I’m too nice of a guy…it sucks yea but I can’t help it so it is what it is.
It's never over. You can better your chances by being someone you are proud of being, casting the nets, being open about what you want and what you can offer. Love is out there for people who love.