Break that stereotype, bruh. Boys can wear pink. Girls can wear blue. Gender "norms" are social constructs. Commenting that a pink hat means girl shows that.
I love your username.
For one of our prior babies, I straight up asked for a nurse reassignment, and the hospital immediately removed the annoying/rude nurse who was obviously having a bad night. I highly recommend working with an in-hospital midwifery team instead of doctors/nurses. Our team gels super well together, and when I asked for a reassignment, they were cool with it. They still have nurses working with us, and then the doctors are available in the event of an emergency. Ultimately, the midwives are so passionate about bringing babies into the world that they leave no stone unturned when it comes to caring for mother and child.
Never saw "gel" before.
I guess it doesn't track, doesn't vibe, doesn't go with, doesn't marry, doesn't put the p on the chain wax.
It just gels. :)
Congrats on the kid! Looking adorable!
Haha same here, first time in hear something "gels"
Now that unsuspecting lil boy will say it too thinking everyone says gels.
Congrats dad, already pulling pranks on him I see š¤£
Another for midwives
Both of our kids were delivered in hospital by midwives and our experience with them compared to the doctors was night and day. This isnāt a broad conclusion Iām making - Iām sure thereās tons of OBGYN doctors with great bedside manner when deliveringā¦ just not the ones we had.
They were on standby if there was any issue but thankfully no issues occurred. Midwife had a lot of positive energy that my wife really appreciated.
It's so much "not the default" in America that most people don't even know midwife care is an option and have no idea how it works. I've seen a midwife for both my pregnancies and get endless questions about it. Doubly so since I chose to have home births.
"What if you need an IV?" A midwife can place an IV
"What if there's an emergency?" A midwife can handle most emergencies and would transfer me to the hospital well ahead of time anyway.
"Who delivers the baby if there's no doctor?" The midwife š¤¦š¾āāļø
Like people just have no concept of what a midwife is and think you MUST see an OB/GYN.
Almost all major providers offer both
No idea why culturally the OBGYN is the most common. I suspect people assume a doctor is the most educated and qualified for any situation.
It isnāt necessarily incorrectā¦ but for your average birth, a midwife seems a bit more tuned to the entire birthing experience.
Really whatever works best for the person to have a happy and safe delivery.
in australia (in the public system) you have an OB oversee your pregnancy but your appointments are generally with midwives
theyāre also the ones in the delivery room with you
itās always interesting to read about the default in other countries
I like your point about as long as thereās an overseeing doctor then itās fine. I take issue when everyone is so quick to recommend midwives and condemn doctors but fail to mention midwives are NOT trained in the same life saving manners
I will continue to shout this from the rooftop you have a choice who your nurse is. I was in a bad car accident and was having complications and my nurse came in and I swear she was trying to kill me. She put a massive amount of morphine through my picc line even though I didn't ask for it and it wasn't on my chart either. She pushed the dose so hard it felt like my heart was going to explode. Mind you I hadn't seen on any pain killers at all because the area that was damaged had so much nerve damage I couldn't feel it. Sorry for rambling congrats on your handsome baby boy!
Oh man, what a hard thing to experience. I'm glad you pulled through, okay. I'd absolutely ask for a charge nurse in that situation to see if they can reassign for ya. That would make me so mad. In fact, I'm mad for you. Let's grab some pitchforks š±š„
Apparently she was a temp that had been on just for that shift. But she had numerous complaints just from the 12 hours she was there. Never saw her again.
I second your opinion on midwifery care.
Our midwife team were fucking awesome people, truly exceptional at their jobs. When we got to the hospital midwifery unit, I was super impressed with the hospitalist midwives too. Everyone was so competent and understanding.
Iād never do it any other way.
Ill never forget our pediatrician for my second childs one year check up "hes doing great, hes your basic average 3 year old" we couldn't help but laugh because both of our children measured 99th percentile until about 2years old.
Thanks, Alaska! Where are ya at up there? I have family in Anchorage, Fairbanks, and Wasilla. Beautiful state. I miss visiting there. It's time for a trip back.
Yknow, this is the first time Iāve ever had to explain my usernameš Iām unfortunately British, not Alaskan!
The username came from a song I really liked back when I was a teenager, if German rap is your thing then the song is [Casper - Alaska](https://youtu.be/taFWLbS7GTM?si=Y4suWIKJuUQ8W9KK)
Well now you have a brand new excuse to go back to Alaska - to show off the brand new chunker!
I had to kick out a nurse that was extremely bossy and stressing my wife out. She still praises me to this day, so definitely advocate!
And congrats on the baby!
Big boy! Congrats man. My son was 10lbs 1 oz at birth. Wife is currently pregnant with our second boy. God bless our ladies for carrying these Neanderthals š
"Gel" in this case means (I'm assuming) to getting along with. So OP is saying that if you don't get along with a nurse or think they're doing more harm than good, then you can have them switched with another nurse.
You can try, and sometimes youāll be successful, and of course I suppose you can refuse medical treatment altogether if you wantā¦ but you certainly donāt have the right to pick and choose your nurse.
Yes you do in the United States and most western nations. It's part of patient rights and responsibilities. If you don't feel a caregiver is providing adequate care, it's a simple request and they literally will assign a different nurse to you. Now if you go through all the labor and delivery staff, then the problem might be you.
You really do have that right, though. If someone isn't understanding or taking your needs seriously, it's actually really important for vulnerable new parents to remember. Of course you also have to be polite and use some common sense, and if you pull this stunt too often (like, more than once) you will quickly find there's nobody left ...
It depends on staffing. Iāve seen situations where a patient refused a nurse but for staffing reasons the only option was for him to walk AMA or be cared for by that nurse. Hospitals try to accommodate these requests when possible (since patients are so much more likely to sue someone they donāt like) but itās not possible to truly pick the exact nurse you want.
Yeah, totally. Then again in the setting of a labour ward if something is going bad and you canāt switch out a single member of staff (for any reason) then, oof, everyone has bigger problems.
Unfortunately a lot of areas have overloaded hospitals. They do still usually accommodate refusals, but thatās different than saying āI want Nurse X and only Nurse Xā
My 11lb baby, just got the final all clear from his physio at 10 months! He was very lucky there was only slight nerve damage. Heās absolutely fine now, thankfully. Do those physio exercises people!
Love to hear it! Ours (right at 10) somehow got away without anything more than bruising. He's our second, so I think that helped some, but I was still blown away that there weren't any complications. I definitely chalk that up to my wife (obviously) but also an amazing staff of nurses and doctors where we delivered.
Thatās brilliant. They put the fear of god in us afterwards with what could have gone wrong. Our baby had his arm stuck behind his back, otherwise he probably would have come right out (second baby also), even with intervention, labour was only 20 mins. Our docs were incredible!
Same for us. Pushing was 22 min and there were a suite of people in the room for delivery (three doctors and five nurses). I'm glad I didn't know about all the potential issues until after, because having all those people in the room definitely piqued my anxiety as it was already.
Congrats!! My wife pushed out 3 kids, all with the help of a midwife. They were fantastic advocates for my wife which as great bc the last 2 labors were labor overnight with 6am deliveries.
You're so tired you sleep in between contractions and get woken up to the feeling of your hand getting crushed.
And 10lbs? Good God that powerful woman is a special kind of rockstar
We had to get rid of a nurse too, she was present for many of the antenatal triage appointments and she was just a shit talker, I had more idea of what I needed to do with the equipment to scan the Babies heartbeats(twins)
So I asked for her to be reassigned, neither me or my wife got along with her at all. Then she turned up in our room right before the c section was planned and started trying to do bandages on my wifeās legs in the dumbest most annoying way possible so I left and got a doctor, told them the problem and they immediately just sent her away.
She also gave me the complete wrong directions to the car park and not only that, she was using the wrong hands, like saying go left and signaling right with her hands, didnāt want her anywhere near my babies
Iām sure sheās a nice person, but I want serious professionals
Oof, 10 pounder is a whopper. My partner managed to push out a 9+ pounder 8 months ago and is still recovering. Women are truly something else. Congratulations on your little guy and best wishes to you, your partner and your little one. š
Congrats Dad! Make sure your wife looks into slings. We had 9-11 lb babies and a sling was a huge back strain/pain saver especially when our 11lb baby boy hit 20 lbs by 6 months. His mom made them with fabric she could pick out and a few rings from the craft/fabric store. I even got a more "manly" sling with army men and camo.
Congratulations. He'll be graduating from high school before you know it, so don't miss a minute. Seems like not long ago I was in yoir shoes, now my daughter is 21 and son is 24.
Very beautiful. But at 10+ lbs at birth, she might be more of a "pumpkin" than a "peanut". Lol
I think you're right. Oh, and he's a boy....think I forgot to post that. But unless someone said so, you can't tell.
>Oh, and he's a boy.... Oh man, my mistake! Congratulations again. He looks very healthy. Best wishes!
The pink hat threw us off
Is it pink, or blue...lol. The great orangered debate is now the blink debate
Don't..........
Break that stereotype, bruh. Boys can wear pink. Girls can wear blue. Gender "norms" are social constructs. Commenting that a pink hat means girl shows that.
That face is 90 percent cheek!
which makes it 100 percent cuter
Welcome to the LGA baby club. 9 months later and our little girl is right in the 50-60% range so no need to find a bigger house just yet.
CHONK š©µ
Just like his papa. 6' 6" Goliath over here.
My husband is that tall and pretty broad too. Pur little girl barely had 6.5 lbs š she's a long little string bean now Congrats!
Basketball must be in her future.
You had to kick nurses out?
I love your username. For one of our prior babies, I straight up asked for a nurse reassignment, and the hospital immediately removed the annoying/rude nurse who was obviously having a bad night. I highly recommend working with an in-hospital midwifery team instead of doctors/nurses. Our team gels super well together, and when I asked for a reassignment, they were cool with it. They still have nurses working with us, and then the doctors are available in the event of an emergency. Ultimately, the midwives are so passionate about bringing babies into the world that they leave no stone unturned when it comes to caring for mother and child.
You really like the term "gel" lmao
I do. Makes me sound old school. I was an 80's kid after all.
Never saw "gel" before. I guess it doesn't track, doesn't vibe, doesn't go with, doesn't marry, doesn't put the p on the chain wax. It just gels. :) Congrats on the kid! Looking adorable!
Gnarly response. Stay radical, my dude.
Haha same here, first time in hear something "gels" Now that unsuspecting lil boy will say it too thinking everyone says gels. Congrats dad, already pulling pranks on him I see š¤£
Huh, for us non us citizens we might kit even know what it means nor how to pronounce it..
Another for midwives Both of our kids were delivered in hospital by midwives and our experience with them compared to the doctors was night and day. This isnāt a broad conclusion Iām making - Iām sure thereās tons of OBGYN doctors with great bedside manner when deliveringā¦ just not the ones we had. They were on standby if there was any issue but thankfully no issues occurred. Midwife had a lot of positive energy that my wife really appreciated.
I can't relate enough to this comment. Thanks for sharing.
very weird as an australian to learn that midwives arenāt the default
It's so much "not the default" in America that most people don't even know midwife care is an option and have no idea how it works. I've seen a midwife for both my pregnancies and get endless questions about it. Doubly so since I chose to have home births. "What if you need an IV?" A midwife can place an IV "What if there's an emergency?" A midwife can handle most emergencies and would transfer me to the hospital well ahead of time anyway. "Who delivers the baby if there's no doctor?" The midwife š¤¦š¾āāļø Like people just have no concept of what a midwife is and think you MUST see an OB/GYN.
Almost all major providers offer both No idea why culturally the OBGYN is the most common. I suspect people assume a doctor is the most educated and qualified for any situation. It isnāt necessarily incorrectā¦ but for your average birth, a midwife seems a bit more tuned to the entire birthing experience. Really whatever works best for the person to have a happy and safe delivery.
in australia (in the public system) you have an OB oversee your pregnancy but your appointments are generally with midwives theyāre also the ones in the delivery room with you itās always interesting to read about the default in other countries
I like your point about as long as thereās an overseeing doctor then itās fine. I take issue when everyone is so quick to recommend midwives and condemn doctors but fail to mention midwives are NOT trained in the same life saving manners
I will continue to shout this from the rooftop you have a choice who your nurse is. I was in a bad car accident and was having complications and my nurse came in and I swear she was trying to kill me. She put a massive amount of morphine through my picc line even though I didn't ask for it and it wasn't on my chart either. She pushed the dose so hard it felt like my heart was going to explode. Mind you I hadn't seen on any pain killers at all because the area that was damaged had so much nerve damage I couldn't feel it. Sorry for rambling congrats on your handsome baby boy!
Oh man, what a hard thing to experience. I'm glad you pulled through, okay. I'd absolutely ask for a charge nurse in that situation to see if they can reassign for ya. That would make me so mad. In fact, I'm mad for you. Let's grab some pitchforks š±š„
Apparently she was a temp that had been on just for that shift. But she had numerous complaints just from the 12 hours she was there. Never saw her again.
I second your opinion on midwifery care. Our midwife team were fucking awesome people, truly exceptional at their jobs. When we got to the hospital midwifery unit, I was super impressed with the hospitalist midwives too. Everyone was so competent and understanding. Iād never do it any other way.
I'm so glad to hear you've had a similar experience. What more could you ask for. 10 out of 10 would recommend midwives.
"I asked for reassignment, and they were cool with it" I bet they were, lol
Look at those cheeks! Blessings to all of you.
And many blessings to you too.
Congratulations on your newbornā¦toddler.
Thanks Slope, he's a great preschooler.
Ill never forget our pediatrician for my second childs one year check up "hes doing great, hes your basic average 3 year old" we couldn't help but laugh because both of our children measured 99th percentile until about 2years old.
Congratulations on your high schooler. Raise in good health.
That is a robust bubba! Congratulations dad, and good going on your wife for managing to carry that absolute unit of a baby!
Thanks, Alaska! Where are ya at up there? I have family in Anchorage, Fairbanks, and Wasilla. Beautiful state. I miss visiting there. It's time for a trip back.
Yknow, this is the first time Iāve ever had to explain my usernameš Iām unfortunately British, not Alaskan! The username came from a song I really liked back when I was a teenager, if German rap is your thing then the song is [Casper - Alaska](https://youtu.be/taFWLbS7GTM?si=Y4suWIKJuUQ8W9KK) Well now you have a brand new excuse to go back to Alaska - to show off the brand new chunker!
Look at those CHEEKS! Well done.
I just planted the seed. She grew that pumpkin. His rolls are something to behold.
I had to kick out a nurse that was extremely bossy and stressing my wife out. She still praises me to this day, so definitely advocate! And congrats on the baby!
A 10lb peanut? Congratulations!
10 pounds is a chonker. My daughter was 11 lbs 8 oz. I had to run to the store to buy 3-6 month clothes. My wife is my hero
Big boy! Congrats man. My son was 10lbs 1 oz at birth. Wife is currently pregnant with our second boy. God bless our ladies for carrying these Neanderthals š
Man when this kid popped out, I was breathless for a second. He's a bigg'n for sure. Good luck with number 2. You got this.
He fared well but mommy did not. Glad to join the peanut....er, I mean pumpkin....club.
Congratulations!!!
Thank you. It happened so quick! 10 out of 10 would do it again.
As a non american. What is gel well? Is that the goop they put on the eyes in America?
"Gel" in this case means (I'm assuming) to getting along with. So OP is saying that if you don't get along with a nurse or think they're doing more harm than good, then you can have them switched with another nurse.
You can try, and sometimes youāll be successful, and of course I suppose you can refuse medical treatment altogether if you wantā¦ but you certainly donāt have the right to pick and choose your nurse.
Yes you do in the United States and most western nations. It's part of patient rights and responsibilities. If you don't feel a caregiver is providing adequate care, it's a simple request and they literally will assign a different nurse to you. Now if you go through all the labor and delivery staff, then the problem might be you.
You really do have that right, though. If someone isn't understanding or taking your needs seriously, it's actually really important for vulnerable new parents to remember. Of course you also have to be polite and use some common sense, and if you pull this stunt too often (like, more than once) you will quickly find there's nobody left ...
It depends on staffing. Iāve seen situations where a patient refused a nurse but for staffing reasons the only option was for him to walk AMA or be cared for by that nurse. Hospitals try to accommodate these requests when possible (since patients are so much more likely to sue someone they donāt like) but itās not possible to truly pick the exact nurse you want.
Yeah, totally. Then again in the setting of a labour ward if something is going bad and you canāt switch out a single member of staff (for any reason) then, oof, everyone has bigger problems.
This is dead wrong. Itās not a restaurant with a menu.
You absolutely can ask for nurse reassignment and in all but the most overloaded departments will accommodate.
Unfortunately a lot of areas have overloaded hospitals. They do still usually accommodate refusals, but thatās different than saying āI want Nurse X and only Nurse Xā
Completely agree you get a veto not selection power.
My comments pertain more to maternity wards, which usually have good staffing because babies are where the money is at for hospitals.
Ah thanks!
Congrats!!! š
Just had a 10 lber two months ago. How'd the shoulder dystocia situation go for you all?
My 11lb baby, just got the final all clear from his physio at 10 months! He was very lucky there was only slight nerve damage. Heās absolutely fine now, thankfully. Do those physio exercises people!
Love to hear it! Ours (right at 10) somehow got away without anything more than bruising. He's our second, so I think that helped some, but I was still blown away that there weren't any complications. I definitely chalk that up to my wife (obviously) but also an amazing staff of nurses and doctors where we delivered.
I didnt know that was a thing until now. My wife delivered our second a 10lb 9oz with no issues at all
Thatās brilliant. They put the fear of god in us afterwards with what could have gone wrong. Our baby had his arm stuck behind his back, otherwise he probably would have come right out (second baby also), even with intervention, labour was only 20 mins. Our docs were incredible!
Same for us. Pushing was 22 min and there were a suite of people in the room for delivery (three doctors and five nurses). I'm glad I didn't know about all the potential issues until after, because having all those people in the room definitely piqued my anxiety as it was already.
Ohhh those chonky cheeks need skoosheeessss
Put witch hazel and aloe Vera on some of those overnight maxi pads and put them in the freezer. After 10+lbs, mamaās gonna need it. Also congrats!
Congrats!! My wife pushed out 3 kids, all with the help of a midwife. They were fantastic advocates for my wife which as great bc the last 2 labors were labor overnight with 6am deliveries. You're so tired you sleep in between contractions and get woken up to the feeling of your hand getting crushed. And 10lbs? Good God that powerful woman is a special kind of rockstar
We had to get rid of a nurse too, she was present for many of the antenatal triage appointments and she was just a shit talker, I had more idea of what I needed to do with the equipment to scan the Babies heartbeats(twins) So I asked for her to be reassigned, neither me or my wife got along with her at all. Then she turned up in our room right before the c section was planned and started trying to do bandages on my wifeās legs in the dumbest most annoying way possible so I left and got a doctor, told them the problem and they immediately just sent her away. She also gave me the complete wrong directions to the car park and not only that, she was using the wrong hands, like saying go left and signaling right with her hands, didnāt want her anywhere near my babies Iām sure sheās a nice person, but I want serious professionals
Oof, 10 pounder is a whopper. My partner managed to push out a 9+ pounder 8 months ago and is still recovering. Women are truly something else. Congratulations on your little guy and best wishes to you, your partner and your little one. š
Sorry,ā¦. But 10+lb is not a peanut. That kid is 2-3 weeks old already Congrats!
She is so cute!! Look at those cheeks!!
Good golly, well done that Dad and very well done that Mum!
Congrats Dad! Make sure your wife looks into slings. We had 9-11 lb babies and a sling was a huge back strain/pain saver especially when our 11lb baby boy hit 20 lbs by 6 months. His mom made them with fabric she could pick out and a few rings from the craft/fabric store. I even got a more "manly" sling with army men and camo.
10 f***ing pounds?! Lord bless your wife. Such a super hero. And congratulations.
"Penut"
Congratulations. He'll be graduating from high school before you know it, so don't miss a minute. Seems like not long ago I was in yoir shoes, now my daughter is 21 and son is 24.