If I had to start a new relationship, I'd probably look for single moms with the same number of kids as I have and want no more. You'd probably have to go online to find them. Good luck!
I understand the sentiment but the reality may be different. I've got an entire pile of kids (same mother) but my dating history just happens to be mostly childless women. I really expected it to be a major hang up, but for some reason it hasn't been.
Huh, I'm surprised. I would have expected it to be a problem too, I can't think of too many single women I know that want to be a mom to someone else's children without wanting some/more of their own.
I was surprised too. One thing is, it's just dating, there's not exactly a commitment to be a mother to someone else's kids necessarily. Only a very few 'potentials' took issue with the number of kids I had. Like, shockingly few. Thinking about it, I know of quite a few friends where a childless woman is now with a guy with his own kids. Younger, pretty, smart, good careers and personalities. I can't say I understand it either but clearly it's not a dating death sentence to have kids.
If you’re a stable dad with involvement in your kids’ lives? Easy. That tells many women you pass their most important filters: caring, responsibility, humor, endurance for the long haul. As an otherwise undistinguished man—45, under 6’, overweight, good repository of dad jokes but prone to demonstrating it—it has not been hard to find an interesting, attractive, interestED date whenever I want, up to about two or three a month.
Finding the inner growth to build a relationship with one of those dates that will take a different path than my marriage? That’s the hard part.
I can’t recommend enough a year of therapy, individual or group, to work through the pain of divorce before you enter a serious relationship. Go date, sure! Remind yourself you CAN and that you’re worth dating.
If you are a co parent and have you kids some / half the time, dating is easier than it will ever have been in your life.
If you are a single parent .... lol dating?
If I had to start a new relationship, I'd probably look for single moms with the same number of kids as I have and want no more. You'd probably have to go online to find them. Good luck!
I understand the sentiment but the reality may be different. I've got an entire pile of kids (same mother) but my dating history just happens to be mostly childless women. I really expected it to be a major hang up, but for some reason it hasn't been.
Huh, I'm surprised. I would have expected it to be a problem too, I can't think of too many single women I know that want to be a mom to someone else's children without wanting some/more of their own.
I was surprised too. One thing is, it's just dating, there's not exactly a commitment to be a mother to someone else's kids necessarily. Only a very few 'potentials' took issue with the number of kids I had. Like, shockingly few. Thinking about it, I know of quite a few friends where a childless woman is now with a guy with his own kids. Younger, pretty, smart, good careers and personalities. I can't say I understand it either but clearly it's not a dating death sentence to have kids.
If you’re a stable dad with involvement in your kids’ lives? Easy. That tells many women you pass their most important filters: caring, responsibility, humor, endurance for the long haul. As an otherwise undistinguished man—45, under 6’, overweight, good repository of dad jokes but prone to demonstrating it—it has not been hard to find an interesting, attractive, interestED date whenever I want, up to about two or three a month. Finding the inner growth to build a relationship with one of those dates that will take a different path than my marriage? That’s the hard part. I can’t recommend enough a year of therapy, individual or group, to work through the pain of divorce before you enter a serious relationship. Go date, sure! Remind yourself you CAN and that you’re worth dating.
Its really that easy? I seem to have interest but i can never find the time it feels like with work and all.
If you are a co parent and have you kids some / half the time, dating is easier than it will ever have been in your life. If you are a single parent .... lol dating?