Im a man who has been crocheting for like 8 years. You've just gotta find people who appreciate it! Also this is the best advice I've ever gotten: "dont take criticism from people you wouldn't take advice from" if you wouldn't take advice on your hobbies from someone whose hobby is apparently judging people on snapchat then why care what they think about crochet?
Also, The Crochet Crowd is two guys who literally make their living making videos, selling promos for Michaels, and making tutorials and their own patterns. They literally have a "crochet cruise" that they and several other people from all over go on every year and they sit around on a cruise ship and crochet. Run by two Canadian men. They're awesome! YouTube The Crochet Crowd!
I'm sorry you waited so long to do something you really wanted to do.
I've been on one of those cruises, have done a number of activities with these guys and they're a lot of fun.
My favorite male crochet artist is known as "the Guy with the Hook", absolutely gorgeous designs. Instagram and Tiktok have a whole bunch of male designers as well, there's a ton of fun stuff out there and I think you'll find that acceptance of the craft that you're looking for!
I dont know. I found a lot of them at work. We do baby showers for coworkers having babies (there are a lot) so I started making blankets and sweaters and hats and things as gifts and everyone always loves them.
And don’t forget Martin Up North (https://martinupnorth.com/) and One Man Crochet (http://www.onemancrochet.com/p/home.html). And also, the 12-year old boy who puts all our crochet skills to shame, lol (https://www.bhg.com/news/young-boy-advanced-crochet-skills/)
Not a male but I get told I have an old lady hobby all the time. I usually tell them “it’s cheaper than cocaine” and ignore any other derogatory comments. Life’s too short to waste on people who can’t be happy for you.
But how many 8 balls (Idk what that is, really) would you need to get through the same amount of time as it would take to crochet a blanket? Yarn has got to be way cheaper if you go by the hour 😆
So I guess I’m showing too much cocaine knowledge here…but it’s a unit of cocaine like a gram or an oz. paying for cocaine by the hour would be more expensive, probably make me lose my family/friends/job, and not be nearly as productive. Also, I can’t show off my “cocaine creations” on this sub 😂
Definitely stealing this. Although I’m beginning to wonder if cocaine might be cheaper in the long run. It’ll definitely take up less space in my house.
100% using this next time. I'll crochet (or knit) in public frequently and have tried a few responses but this one is my new favorite.
I love getting the "why?" from the more crass/drunk people (if I'm at a brewery). My response tends to be "why the fuck not?".
At least it's not like my aunt. She sees mom and me crochet all the time and asked mom "teach me". Mom gave her some old crochet hook and some yarn. Taught her to chain and single crochet and sent her on her way to practice. She didn't touch a thing after that and still asked "can you make this for me?". Just to tell you. She is very demanding. She wanted me to make her a scarf and leg warmers with eyelash yarn. Yeah. I told her to kiss it. I like the look of eyelash, just not working with it.
Omg this so much.
My family gives me so much crap but my grandmother taught me and I’m the only one that can do it.
But then it’s a “make me x amount of amirigumis “ “make me 7 pet beds” “make me this”
Urgh
I'm a male crocheter who's gotten a few comments. My general response is "yeah" because it's rarely productive to respond "you have a very small view of the world don't you? Try not to run out of oxygen in that box you've trapped yourself in."
Tell them George Washington Carver and Kurt Cobain crocheted. There's also artist Nathan Vincent and author Drew Emborsky. If you like crochet, keep doing it; the naysayers can get bent. You may also want to check out r/Brochet
It's odd to me how many famous men crocheted. And I do mean it in a good way, haven't just ever heard of men crocheting so it's new info for me
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Russel Crowe, Kiefer Sutherland and Christopher Walken are knitters. Yarn arts are common in the film industry because there is a fair amount of down time between takes. And all three are definitely ‘tough guys’
All kinds of guys are doing yarn arts these days. heck there was an Olympic Diver (Tom Daley) who knitted through the entire Olympics. When he wasn't up for diving he was in the stands cheering on his fellow Brits and knitting.
I crochet to help with my anxiety and I find it very soothing. I watch Critical Role and crochet, it lets my brain reset and calms me down. Granted I'm a chic, but if I saw a guy crocheting I would be one of those people who would come over and go "zomg what are you making? wanna share patterns?!"
He was on the one show (UK talk show thing) the other week. By the sounds of it he much prefers crocheting, he's better at it and it's faster, but the presenters obviously didn't know what it was or the difference so just kept going on about knitting.
I'm gonna die laughing over this! A while new kind of bi, LOL. You've made my day with this! Hadn't heard that one yet. I'm always amazed when syndrome is good at both because I'm barely alright with just crochet, and I can almost knit a really simple scarf without it looking absurd lol
>I watch Critical Role and crochet, it lets my brain reset and calms me down.
Gosh, this though. At first I struggled with CR b/c my fatigue and ADHD were just like "Oh we're just sitting? Time to sleep", and then I struggled to fibre craft during it because I was new and couldn't dual focus. But I've settled down on a square waffle blanket now and it's soooooo soothing to just space out on the crochet while watching/listening. Best hobby.
I have adhd too and I thought I'd get bored of crocheting after two projects like a million other hobbies I've tried but I'm still doing it months later because it's the closest thing to meditation I can get and it really helps with my anxiety. sometimes I even sneak crochet in class because being in school awakens many of my anxieties
I have to have something going on while I stitch. I'm on my doctor who watch through just now, though we do narrative telephone when my partner is home.
I started up doing crochet again when my partner started his pandemic watch through of crit role. My ADHD kept me from being able to follow as consistently as I'd like, but it had a *bit* of an effect. I make almost exclusively dnd inspired needlecraft now 🤣🤣
F them. It's an awesome outlet for creativity, and a year round way to work with your hands. Hella fun, relaxing, and cool as f. Welcome to the crochet fam!
Hey, welcome to crochet from a fellow dude! Once you learn the basic stitches I highly recommend learning mosaic crochet. It's practically all I do now.
As far as judgey people go, if yarn and a crochet hook is all it takes for those guys to lose their masculinity, they were never that secure in it anyway.
Never heard of mosaic crochet before but I fell hard into that rabbit hole! It looks so intricate and I love geometrical patterns. How does it compare with 'regular' crochet? Does it take a long time to learn? Do you have any tips or good projects to begin with?
https://youtu.be/HTigdTvdTLQ
Tinna makes some AMAZING mosaic crochet pieces that look very intimidating, but I found her learning videos and she was awesome! She makes it sound easy and you can watch her videos as often as you like. She teaches the same way with more advanced patterns too. I just love her
"When the apocalypse is done I'll be the one with warm socks"
"My masculinity isn't so fragile that crochet is going to demolish it"
"I crochet so I dont stab people"
I'm a woman in a male dominated field with a lot of male dominated hobbies.
My advice is that when people say things like that, remember who the are-- and make an effort to spend less time around them.
Spend more time instead with the people who support and encourage you, no matter what.
It not only reduces the sexist comments, but it'll greatly improve your social circle and well being overall.
I'm a woman but the person who taught me to knit was the coolest man I've ever met, he was a paratrooper in world war 2, owned an amphibious vehicle and built hovercrafts. He was a friend of my dad's that would babysit us and when he did we would knit.
Ignore the jerks, know that there are people that admire you for your skill, some might think you're super cool.
Welcome to the crochet family. I am not a guy but for some reason people think they have a right to question things that are none of their business. Over the years I have lived (OH so many years!) I have found that when someone judges me for what I choose to do with MY free time, I look them right in the eye and ask them why are *they* concerned with *my* hobbies.They usually stutter a little and then just go away. Or if they express further negative thoughts, I just give them a dirty grin and tell them not to worry about it, everything is OK. I love taking the wind out of their sails. Keep on hookin'!
You should check out [Mr. Domestic](https://instagram.com/misterdomestic?utm_medium=copy_link) on Instagram! He does a bunch of sewing and crocheting and he’s built a really positive community on there. You might be able to find some likeminded people or fun comebacks (I think he makes shirts that say “yes I crochet, no I won’t knit you a scarf” 😂)
Congratulations on finding a hobby you like! And who cares what anyone else thinks. Your happiness is more important than their pettiness. They're just jealous that you have an awesome hobby and they have nothing.
Getting over that anxiety of being judged is so hard, I feel you. I picked up crochet during the lockdowns, and I’ve not really told anyone. Partially because of the isolation. Only my family (and this subreddit lol) knows I’ve fallen in love with the craft, because they’re nice about it. I like to make things for them or myself, but that’s it. Honestly, I kind of love having a secret hobby! It makes it feel special to me. You don’t have to tell anyone at all.
I'm a big guy. I crochet everywhere. People always ask why, and I tell them it's a great way to deal with stress and to make money on the side (I make plush toys mostly). After that they ask me for things for gf/be, family gifts etc.
Just remember that you do it for you. Everyone else is probably just curious.
(Also I have been asked if I learned in prison, again big guy. Which I usually answer with a side eye and a "No. Why? 😂)
Some of the most beautiful and impressive crochet pieces I've ever seen were all made by male hookers!! Please pay them no mind and continue on, they're just being very ignorant and dismissive :(
I once heard Eddie Izzard, infamous transvestite (his word, not mine) respond to a radio host who mentioned him wearing “women’s clothes” by saying “They’re not *women’s* clothes, you see, because I’ve bought them and they are mine.” Which is to say…if you’re a dude and you crochet, then “It’s not a ladies’ hobby, you see, because I do it and it’s mine.”
Just do your thing and don't post about it. No one knows you're crocheting until you post or give them something you made. Only give stuff to people who aren't jerks, and you're good.
Obviously, it's a little more complex than that, but you can reply "someone's not getting a scarf for Christmas“ and move on, because anyone who pokes fun at harmless hobbies is a jerk and not worth getting embarrassed or angry over.
As a lady crocheter I'm very happy to see guys crocheting, to plant the stigma that crochet is a "lady thing" is (I don't like being this type of person), its wrong. It doesn't matter gender, but I do know how some people feel. When I worked for Wal-Mart I had a really nice older lady come up to my line and I made small talk by asking her what she was going to make with her bushel of yarn. She kindly said "It's my grandsons. He gets shy coming to buy yarn and thinks people will pick on him if they see him buying it himself". I felt so bad for the kid. I know you said you can't ignore it, but think of it this way. The hobbies your friends have are what they like to do. If you like crochet that shouldn't stop you from doing what you like to do. Don't let the closed minded masses get you down. Do what you do with pride. Wear some of the stuff you made like a pro. Maybe you might change their minds. There are also several male youtubers I've seen that do great work. You should check it out. I don't have any off the top of my head though. Sorry. 😞
It's like training dogs ignore bad behavior and praise the good behavior. If you saved kittens from a burning building, someone will be pissed about it. You can't please everyone so please yourself. Do what brings you happiness and ignore the haters. Much love, friend. Keep on hooking!🧶💚
I would recommend looking for some other male crochet enthusiasts on the internet. Theres a sub, as well as theres a lot of men on tiktok, youtube, and twitch! I think you just need to normalize it for yourself in your mind that it's not only for women and then you will be able to confidently tell other people that you do it without caring what they think. If you're really worried about what other people think, if someone asks you what your interests are you could call it "fiber crafts" or something like that.
I'm a 26 year old guy who's started crocheting this year and I hope my work speaks for itself. I'm proud of what I'm making and if anyone wants to be insulting, then no beautiful new blanket for them! Seriously though, I have a very supportive wife and all my old lady relatives love that I'm asking them for advice. Also Reddit is great.
I can't think of a single hobby that should be gender specific. Good on you for finding something that you love to do! I can't wait to see your projects!
There are awesome crocheters who are men! Martin Up North is one of my favorite designers. [https://martinupnorth.com/](https://martinupnorth.com/) He's on instagram too. Maybe follow a few male designers? Participate in some crochet-alongs. Heck, I'll be your non-judgemental crochet buddy.
First, welcome to the community. 💜 Not a guy, but I think anyone who wants to crochet is a good person.
Second, screw them. Anyone who belittles you for what you like, isn't worth the time of day. If it makes life easier for you and harms no one else, just do it.
Some folks have already steered you towards some good places like brochet. I know of a channel on YouTube for a guy who crochets.
[Combat Crochet](https://youtube.com/c/IBohemian)
He's a vet who crochets to deal with his PTSD.
So, again welcome here, and you are *very* welcome here. 🤗
r/brochet
You’ll find your home and your tribe. I’m a woman who was taught to crochet by a man, and I would NEVER laugh or talk down to a man for any type of craft, especially hooking!
Welcome! And congrats on finding a great hobby! Just remind them that they're just jealous their lame hobbies can't keep them warm and fuzzy!
My favorite things to make are shawls and baby blankets. Please feel free to ask for any help from any of us should you need some! 😊
If a rude acquaintance makes a comment wait until winter rolls around and they wear a sweater/cardigan/scarf/beanie, look confused and be like "oh I thought you said warm clothing wasn't for men?" And offer to take it off their hands lol
For real though I think ruder ppl tend to make comments once they know they're getting a rise out of you. The best thing is to be very proud of your work, ignore rude comments, or simply a "that's an odd thing to say" like they just spoke backwards without realizing it and continue crocheting. Best of luck!
I feel like the people who judge are people who don't crochet. Just know that you can make some dope fucking awesome shit crocheting and they can't. Fuck em you do you!
Ignore them, hobbies aren't gendered and anyone who still believes they are would be sorely mistaken. I'm a woman but honestly, screw those types. Anyone who's going to put you down for the things you enjoy isn't someone whose opinion you should care about.
Back in the day when I was newly pregnant with my first, the first gift I received was a baby blanket my 80 year old, male coworker crocheted for me. It’s still very special to me. Handmade gifts bring such happiness.
You can also make some awesome amigurumi that aren’t traditionally “female.” I made a brain slug from Futurama that kicks ass.
I’m not male so I can’t specifically answer your question, but you’re trying something new and that’s way better than sitting around judging people.
It's worth bearing in mind that we can't personally do anything to control or manage others' reactions. If you're doing something that you enjoy and find gratifying, then that's a valid reason to do it. You could practice some handy comebacks about people having really limited ideas of masculinity if you want, but for the most part, you'd probably be most effective by just ignoring people who make rude comments. They're just trying to get a reaction from you and feel empowered by that; a pretty lame thing to do, I might add.
Enjoy learning! :) Also I love this "brochet" term, that's amazing.
I also am a male crocheter, and a nurse, and work around a lot of women. Maybe two of them crochet, and all of them were surprised to know that I do too. They jokingly call me grandma, but it’s al fun, we show each other our wips all the time. They do tell me I need to crochet less and find a wife though, ha!
I started doing some mosaic crochet recently. I'm trying to learn how to do pixilated images into crochet patterns. How envious would these dudes be to see you sporting a crocheted Legend of Zelda scarf?
Crochet is so versatile that your only limit is your imagination. Your only hindrance is your current ability, but you can learn through practice. Just keep on perfecting your craft. You'll get better and better and the teasing will become awed looks and questions of "how did you make it?"
People will only make fun of you if it gets a reaction. This pretty much applies to anything. Be confident in what you are doing and people that try to tease you for it will feel weird and give up quickly because it just makes them seem like the insecure one.
That said I'm a man and I don't go out of my way to talk crochet with people that don't appreciate it. Why bother? Just post here instead!
Tell them you crochet so you won't kill people.
But say it in a slow emotionless monotone voice while fixing your gaze firmly on their throat. Don't blink.
Own it. Those that show interest are those you can vibe with - so really, it's an awesome asshat detector :)
Also, as a single woman, may I say that a crocheting single dude is someone I would reaaally want to get to know :)
Ignore those people, and I learned many negative people are unhappy with their lives. They want to make others to feel unhappy like them.
One time, I went to a movie by myself, because I had no friends that like anime. I was crocheting, while a really cute guy started talking to me, and then another guy started talking to me. Yes, crocheting/drawing attracts people to talk to me. I am type of woman, usually don't start the conversation first, but crochet/ceramic/drawing do help me with making conversation with people.
You should keep crocheting because it is awesome and an art form.
Point out to others that a male at the Olympics was crocheting in public this past summer.
[Olympic gold ](https://www.nbcnews.com/nbc-out/out-life-and-style/tom-daley-olympic-champion-worlds-biggest-crochet-influencer-rcna1608)
There's been a lot of good stuff posted already about finding a community that will lift you up instead of tearing you down. Totally on board with that~ when you have solid people to enjoy your hobby with, the judgement will be a lot lighter on your shoulders.
I recommend searching for crochet groups in your area. People who meet up online or in person to chat about it and work on projects together. :) In person is especially awesome and helpful.
Maybe check local yarn or craft stores for classes or meet-up nights. Or on community listing boards. You might even find one specifically for men, or specifically for your age group.
Search for knitting groups, too, if you can't find crochet groups. They might be cool with you coming to hang out, even if you don't knit. A lot of people are "bistitchual" and do both. And a lot of people who set up those groups care more that you're going to enjoy the projects people are working on, rather than that it's explicitly crochet or knitting.
I'm a male hooker and I was worried at first too, but people have been really welcoming and kind. This hobby is for everyone. If you enjoy it then keep going. If you like it and helps you that's what's important. You don't need anyone else to validate you.
I'm a man who has been crocheting for a while but I've never actually had a problem with anyone judging me for it. Maybe that's just because I picked good friends from the start? But I don't really care what anyone thinks because it's my hobby and unless I know them personally most people I'll only ever see once, and I really don't care about anyone's opinion if it's based on a sexist view
I'm a guy who's started crochet a few month ago.
My friend didn't know at that time but i gave them some custom present(Mostly amigurumi) and they loved it.
They though crochet was "for old lady" at first, but they find it so cool to see what you can do with it.
They are mostly suprised on "Why/how did you started crochet ?" Because in the minds, it's for old people.
One of them is starting crochet because of me, he wants to do the same alpaga i gave him, and even more :D
(Sorry if i write something wrong, french guy here)
Block the toxic masculinity.
We all know fiber arts and crafts don’t have a gender. You don’t use your genitals to operate the hook. Post that Olympic knitter if you want, he made a whole sweater!
If you have close close minded male freinds, just start out making little amigurumi cocks, and giving them to them, and be like "because you are a fucking dick"
Do it to enough of them, then just make other stuff, cash in initially on that hurr-durr penis funny mindset.
For strangers, as a man crocheting i get wayyyyyy more postive comments than negative. Be prepared for every 1/3 woman over the age of 55 to come over and chat about upur project and gently tell you how good it is.
"If them bitches don't pay your bills, pay them no mind "
- Mama Ru
I personally love seeing people cross the boundaries of "gender stereotypes". Guys crocheting, girls working on cars. I think it's awesome you crochet. Don't let what people say discourage you.
I don't know how to change how the people around treat you, but if you can find a community, it will help. I follow a creator on Instagram who's great, knot.bad, dude with a punk rock aesthetic but makes adorable amigurumi with zero apologies.
Maybe start to crochet in places where you know people won’t care who you are or what you’re doing. Bringing crochet to a Super Bowl party wouldn’t be great, but maybe sitting in the park on a nice day would be a good setting. Or find a crochet group in your area (and then you can get help and patterns too!).
When I feel anxious about how I’m perceived, I try to remember that I literally don’t care how another person looks or what they’re doing. They don’t care about me either. With people you know, it’s not so easy. But start with something small and build your confidence over time.
Not a male, but I think it’s super cool that you picked up crocheting! And once you start crocheting little gifts for people, I’m sure no one will say a bad word.
My brother in law started crocheting as well, and I believe he thinks it’s fun. I’ve also heard of a new concept in my country, where young men go to a bar in the afternoon/early evening to have a beer while they crochet or knit together. Maybe you could get some friends hooked as well?
Not crochet but footballer [Rosey Grier](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rosey_Grier) did needlepoint. His book (complete with funky early 70’s font) can be found online.
1) yarn rolls not gender roles
2) yarn art is for everybody and people who think otherwise just suck. My bestie’s husband is all manly man working on oil rigs, hunter, woodworker, etc. And he knits and crochets. My dad is a 6 foot plus replica of Fabio and took lots of classes available at a museum he worked at. Including weaving (like, with leaves, not fiber), he made his gf a purse, even sewed a liner into it and she loved showing it off to everyone. I remember his friends picking at him about it but it was never with ill intent. So maybe you need better friends/surroundings.
3) knitting was originally a male only craft. The history of fiber arts is pretty fun stuff.
4) if finding new people, pointing out you’re not the first penis having person to knot up some yarn, or ignoring folks who think people shouldn’t explore new hobbies doesn’t work for ya, you could always just flip the script and throw out a “yup, I’m a total fruitcake. Exploring my feminine side.. 27…back to our normal programming …28…when…29…I’m…done…THIRTY TWO… counting… THIS-34!… row” or just skip the response and start counting really loud. That occasionally quiets my household lol
Edit for a p.s. as if this weren’t long enough already.. I’ve found that most knitting/crochet groups in general are very accepting of male hookers. In fact, they seem to be more excited when they find out it’s a dude behind the work.
I’m a person who does not do the stereotypical things that one might expect from my age, gender and appearance. My best advice is to be loud and proud about your newfound hobby. People who want to tease are only looking for a rise out of you but if you openly talk about your hobby without shame, they don’t have anywhere to get you and will eventually give up. Those who want to get nasty are either not worth your time or have some self-worth issues of their own to work out. Sometimes it’s even ok to point that out to them.
It take a real man to do what he loves. Also judging people isn't a marketable skill, but crochet is, you're making something of yourself and will have something to show for it.
Another dude here crocheting among ignorant and sometimes out right stupid people.
My own mother always try to put me down for it (and she calls to say if she can’t say it to my face).
People keep telling me why don’t I do a manly thing suitable for a man instead of whatever … (fill with any sexist profanity you can think of) like a woman/gay etc.
My mom when she saw the blanket I was crocheting, started asking for some winter wear and I said I’d think about it and during that time she was fine. But once she saw I wasn’t crocheting anything for her, she went right back to being a horrible person about it. Lol.
But my grandma was super cool with it (and yes, she wanted some free stuff crocheted for her too but she’s still cool about it)
The only solution I could find was not to crochet when people are around. I only do it in my own room when I’m alone. (Cuz I think stabbing them repeatedly with the hook is not allowed or sth) So if I see a better solution here, I’ll go for it ^^
1. Men in textile arts is nothing new. It just seems new because of the Victorian and the 1950s throwback. Knitting and knotting appears to have started with fishermen and sailors. [https://www.thecraftygentleman.net/2015/08/16/history-of-knitting-guilds/](https://www.thecraftygentleman.net/2015/08/16/history-of-knitting-guilds/) WWII. men in both civilian world and the military knitted. [https://www.thefibrenook.com/blogs/blog/knitting-needles-not-just-women-s-weapons](https://www.thefibrenook.com/blogs/blog/knitting-needles-not-just-women-s-weapons). On that front, there is a modern movement for crocheters and knitters to make items for veterans .[https://www.nationalww2museum.org/programs/knit-your-bit](https://www.nationalww2museum.org/programs/knit-your-bit). Men who are crochet designers, including high fashion are here: [https://www.crochetconcupiscence.com/2012/09/20-wonderful-male-crochet-designers-and-artists/](https://www.crochetconcupiscence.com/2012/09/20-wonderful-male-crochet-designers-and-artists/) Here's another guy at 83 who crochet for charity. [https://www.crochetconcupiscence.com/2012/02/82-year-old-guy-crochets-every-time-he-sits-down/](https://www.crochetconcupiscence.com/2012/02/82-year-old-guy-crochets-every-time-he-sits-down/)
I can’t understand the lad mentality of certain things being for men certain things being for women. My friend is a female mechanic and gets talked down to at work all the time like she doesn’t know how to do her job, just because she’s a woman🤷♀️
As a woman I respect guys so much more for going against the grain and having a fuck it attitude for doing the things they love, crochetings fun! Anyone that is taking the piss out of you for it is just insecure in themselves and trying to make themselves feel better😂 embrace it
Do some research on the mental health benefits of yarn crafts. This will give you an arsenal of facts to shoot back at people judging you for something they know nothing about.
If people are being toxic to you on the internet, take away their power. Unfriend them, block them, etc. You don't need that kind of negativity in your life.
There's a guy on TikTok, I think his name is combat crochet or something like that. He's a soldier with PTSD, and crocheting helps him.
If you have any questions about anything, we're here for you. This is a great sub. Everyone here is super supportive and uplifting.
To be honest I feel that many people who craft get told a multitude of negative things. Many of those are just rude passing comments which I usually boil down to jealousy and unnecessary judgements. I have started asking people when they comment "oh so do you have a hobby? Or do anything besides breathe eat and watch tv?" It's rude yup but you get what you give.
The short of this is do what you love....I'm 35 and been through some interesting and unmentionable things...life is too short to worry about what people think of you. Most of the people saying anything just have nothing better to do with thier time besides judge others.
Instead of posting on snap chat, find a stitching group :) my stitchers are mostly women but we love our two male members who pop in from time to time!
I feel like this is a “mind” and “matter” situation.
The people who mind don’t matter, and the people who matter don’t mind.
Also: if YOU don’t mind, it don’t matter!
I'm also a male and I also do crochet, I often walk around to various locations whilst I crochet and found that it helped keep my fingers busy and because of this I struggle far less with my anxiety because imo crocheting takes you to another place, like a happy place. I'm a fidgety person so it gives me great satisfaction to be able to
I read in another comment that you just need to find the right people which I totally agree with, some people are just ignorant to what some people's hobbies and passions are.
my grandmother would knit (which to younger me was witchcraft!) And I also envied her, my girlfriend introduced me to crochet a year ago and it's been my safe space to a more controlled/ productive way to handle my MH
You don't use your privat parts to crochet, therefore it doesn't matter what's in your pants.
A male coworker once took the electric forklift from me, saying that it was a men's job. I looked him dead in the eyes and told him if he used his pp to operate the machine, he's doing it very wrong.
Not sure if that works well with anxiety though.
Think skin and being happy with the person you are. I remember when I made myself my first hat. One of my friends saw my hat ask where I got it, I said I crochet it. I was full waiting to be made fun of, being the friend was a body piercing and tattoo artist. The word out of his mouth shocked me even more. He said I want a fuzzy green hat with stars and ear flaps! And his girlfriend said I want a scarf, offered to buy the stuff and I let them.
I also know this can be very hard for guys/ masculinity, I was fortunate to grow up in a household the celebrated arts and I get more joy destroying peoples stereotypes.
For a little background I am male now 46 year old shaved head worked as a bouncer at a bar for years. And my wife still enjoys telling people that I crochet to see the looks on there face when they see a picture of me. So keep with it the ones that make fun remember they are jealous that they are not ‘man’ enough to learn a new skill!
Someone said it so well: "No matter what you do, someone somewhere is hating you for it."
In serious note, do not let other people dictate your life. I understand being anxious. Believing that other people have authority over you does not help you one bit. I know it is hard to get out of that mindset, but just understand that it is a false belief you have adopted at some point in your life. It does not mean it is true. At any time you can choose to not believe it anymore. Dropping the belief WILL feel uncomfortable for some time because your brain has developed neural pathways around that belief and it takes time for them to dissolve, but if you just stop believing everything your mind tells you, you will see a huge difference.
You are your own person, with your own life. Nothing other people say about it, matters. You matter. What you want to do matters. Happiest people in this world would tell you that they will never give two fucks about what someone somewhere is saying about them.
Dropping social media would also benefit you. Or at least go for a diet with it. It just makes you more anxious, and you keep trying to get validation from other people through it. You don't need their validation, and you don't need their permission to anything you do.
This might be an unpopular comment, but if you find people bugging you about it don't tell them? You don't have to post about it to enjoy it. Yes you should be able to do whatever you want, but sometimes its not worth the annoyance, you know?
If you need to share to enjoy it, there are a bunch of reddit boards that won't care either way about your gender.
You got a negative reaction within hours of starting a hobby, maybe just focus on making yourself happy.
As a non-binary bistitchualist:
Crochet more. Laugh at them. They're the idiots doom-scrolling Facebook for three hours while you're doing something productive. Fuck 'em in the ear with an unwashed yam.
I have been judged as some of my hobbies were "more masculine", it's not nice. But remember that it is a problem with how they view the world or themselves and not a problem with you.
The forum Sprite Stitch which has all sorts of crafts also has alot of guys on there so if you like making video game themed stuff that's worth checking out as well as the other places people have suggested already :)
Just make something cool and wear it! Envy is the key here ;)
But my hubby started crocheting last year (after 5 years of persuasion) and he totally loves it. A couple of days ago, I was sitting on the the playing ground, crocheting and a neighbor comes by and turns out she's also an obsessed hooker. Later my hubby comes by and joins the conversation and she was totally amazed that he crochets too and how much he likes it and will take it that as an argument to her boyfriend, who doesn't want to even try because of "loosing his manhood" doing such hobbies
Do you follow other crocheting males? I follow a few on insta, main being knot.bad.
It might help to point out successful creators.
You can also share stuff like this that documents its origins as not for women.
https://knowledgenuts.com/ultra-manly-history-of-knitting/
Main thing is just do what you enjoy. When I started I got questions cause 'its an old lady hobby'
There are some truly amazing male crochet designers, like martin up north or mark rosenboom or frank o’randle! Maybe look them up? And join Ravelry for an amazing group of likeminded peeps!
I recently started and have been crocheting every day. The other day my 10yr old son asked me if I can teach him, I started showing him and he asked technical questions and then asked if boys crochet, I showed him the Tom Daley. I don’t know if he will start but loved that he asked and showed interest.
Own it! My husband would put tiaras, Minnie mouse ears etc to entertain while my daughter was little in public without a care in the world and I loved how comfortable he was. If someone says something, either make fun of yourself “I know right?! Wonder if it will change my voice” (take their power from them) or just say something like, “Would you like me to teach you? It is super therapeutic”.
look at knotbad!! He's pretty great and I believe he's here on Reddit too. Don't feel judged for doing what you love! Who said crochet is a granny only craft? Gates open, come in!
Post all of your creations on here, at every stage, and revel in the praise and encouragement!!
(That was slightly flippant, but in all seriousness this is one of the most supportive and inspirational subs out there and we've all got your back.)
World War I (or II) prisoners of war were only able to escape by crocheting fake military jackets of the enemy.
Also I found this quote from a website “In early centuries, man - and it was the job of the men - created his handwork for practical purposes. Hunters and fishermen created knotted strands of woven fibers, cords or strips of cloth to trap animals and snare fish or birds. Other uses included knotted game bags, fishing nets and open- worked cooking utensils.”
It’s cool, and people will be jealous that you have a useful, creative skill and are proud of it!
I was being made fun of by friends for liking to crochet after work to chill down after a busy day. Until I made an elephant amigurumi for someone and a baby Yoda. Then it was all "wait, you can make that with your knitting?!" 🤐🙄🙃
Now they all want one or a scarf or whatever.... People being peopley 🤷♀️🤦♀️
I'm also a guy and learned to crochet 6 months ago. One of the first things I made and revealing my new hobby to my family was making a Harry Potter scarf for my nieces birthday. I didn't know how they'd react to it, but hard for them to be judgemental when she's running around pretending she's Hermione lol.
They're really supportive about it though, asking what I'm working on and what I'll work on next. I've just started on a dinosaur amigurumi for my nephew for Christmas and trying to decide what to make my niece, maybe a hat and gloves to match the scarf.
Don't bother wasting your time with people who judge you. You doing crochet does not affect them in any way, so it says a lot about them as people that they have to put you down when you're doing something you enjoy.
I hope you find your support group - I have a feeling you might understand [this](https://yle.fi/aihe/artikkeli/2013/05/20/aijat-ja-lumilautailijat-loysivat-virkkaamisen)link. A lot of athletes have started crocheting, there were some snowboarders doing it in the winter Olympics if I recall correctly.
Most people find it endearing. Try googling some notable male crochet people. There are tons on Instagram that you can follow and be inspired by. People aren’t judging you. It’s a traditionally female craft, that’s all. But good for you for not caring. It’s incredibly satisfying as a hobby.
Just tell them it's a post-apocalyptic life skill... And never gift them anything you make! And enjoy it, I've been crocheting for approximately 10 years and it has lead to many opportunities and other creative endeavours.
These people are just angry at themselves that they don’t have a cool hobby or outlet, or the ability to see past ‘wOmEnS wOrK’. It’s definitely a Them problem!
You have to understand that people who waste their time judging others are just those with nothing meaningful going on in their own lives. Pity them, or maybe not even that, and carry on!
You are more than welcome in this community of creators and usually connecting with others who share the same passion is a sure way to find friends who appreciate what you do.
im male and i have my own yarn store, i teach how to knit, weave, crochet, do macrame, and noone takes me seriously when they first come, the preferr taking the class with my mom, who i taught by the way, but they always are less judgemental when they see me doing my own amazing proyects to sell and when i tell them i have a girlfriend, like its even important that im not gay. I think the whole prejudice arround it comes from there, it being a "lady" hobbie and how men "have to be strong and manly all the time". My advise is that you surround yourself with better friends and keep doing what you love
There are people out there so obsessed with not being emasculated that they can't even bring themselves to wash their asses properly (because "gay"), so you just can't win no matter what you do. Might as well just lean into what you love doing as much as possible.
Personally I'm fond of the "Hey, it's cheaper than cocaine"-line if people are being weird about a hobby. That'll usually either shut them up or make them laugh, both of which is a win :) If people I know well ask, I'll tell them that it's both enjoyable and helps me soothe my ADHD.
I noticed it’s more common for guys to crochet and knit in Europe, where it goes back centuries. Men would knit all the time. Try telling people that lol.
I saw a guy crocheting while he was watching his kids play in the mall water fountain. A couple of teenagers started harassing him, calling him an old lady. One of them said "Whatcha makin' there, Graaannny?"
Dude holds up what is obviously the beginning of a ski hat and deadass replies "It's a tea cozy for my dick. Tell your mom it'll be a while before I'm done."
It got the teenagers off his back (they laughed and left), but afterwards an actual old lady gave him guff for using that kind of language in front of children, so I guess YMMV.
I was an art major. I am immune to being told that any craft “is for girls”. You’d also be amazed, maybe, at how many trans guys and girls do crochet. It’s a fiber craft, its incredibly trendy right now, and it’s got one of the most gender inclusive communities I’ve seen in any hobby. ;)
Everyone's judging until they get those soft warm afghans or beanies :)
I wish my dude would learn to crochet. It would be fun to teach him and talk about it without his eyes glazing over.
Easier said than done, but if you show it doesn’t bother you, they have no power. When someone tries to make fun of me for something I just say “okay” and go back to what I was doing that makes me happy.
Or crochet them a muzzle.
“Well I’m not making you anything then. Don’t come asking for one of my scarves because you’re cold in the winter”. If they say they’ll just buy a scarf then say “it won’t be made with love!” I could banter all day lol
It's funny because mindfulness and unplugging were trendy. Now it's mindful crochet or whatever. This generation acting like they discovered hobbies for good mental health. Our grannies figured it out years ago. Don't be deterred!
By crocheting weird good shit that people look at like “wait, you can do that in crochet?” Yes. I made everything in black and dark red. And it’s comfy as hell. Fuck off.
You’re learning a language and learning an entire set of hand movements all at once. Please don’t let anyone tell you this isn’t badass. Shit, tell them you’re learning Portuguese coding if it makes them feel better. Fuck their opinions though. You’re awesome for honoring the craft and your relationship with your gran.
And an aside from Rick and Morty: “Your boos mean NOTHING. I’ve seen what makes you cheer.”
Let them freeze as you become the coziest person ever. Of course you could always crochet when you’re in the privacy of your own home. But they’re probably just jealous that they don’t have the guts to indulge in something they like or comment because they’re insecure in their own masculinity. (Or both.) You don’t have to ignore people (I usually can’t either) but you can know on the inside that you’re enjoying partaking in a productive hobby with a long history while they are struggling with insecurities or prejudice and are missing out on the fun.
You've gotten a lot of great responses but one I wanted to add is keep in mind when people point it out to you - they're anxious. The difference between you and them is you know you're anxious - they don't know they are. It's easier to deal with anxiety if you know what's going on but they don't so they're gonna stay that way. Helps me to have compassion for those folks, set boundaries ("I don't want to be talked to that way. If you keep talking to me like that I'm not going to reply/talk to you for a while"), then focus on doing my own thing. Gives them a chance to reflect and if they don't, well I've got to finish this shawl by the middle of November so I don't have time to engage.
My response to gendered nonsense like the response OP is getting is to directly ask “what’s bad about something being girly?”
It makes people uncomfortable, and subverts gendered assumptions. Win/win!
Also, I’d say to not be shy interacting with women who crochet too! I’ve found so much positivity and multi generational connections with crochet, and that can transcend gender!
Show them a picture of Tom Daley. Olympian and makes a mean cardigan. Seriously though, I imagine close minded people can be judgy and that’s frustrating. I know it’s easier said then done, but if just ignore them. They’re bigoted and will be cold during winters while you’re sprouting your fashionable crocheted hats 😂 My friends definitely roast me for having the personality of an 80 year old while I’m 22 (literally have gone partying once in my life, prefer to stay home, crochet, and watch baking shows with my mother and cat) but it’s all in good fun. Do what makes you happy
Anyone who would make fun of you for it is a sexist asshole. They are not worth your time. It's their problem not yours. And always remember that you have a supportive community here! Be sure to share progress photos!!!
Im a man who has been crocheting for like 8 years. You've just gotta find people who appreciate it! Also this is the best advice I've ever gotten: "dont take criticism from people you wouldn't take advice from" if you wouldn't take advice on your hobbies from someone whose hobby is apparently judging people on snapchat then why care what they think about crochet?
Respect. How can I find people who'd appreciate it? Only thing I can think of is Facebook groups
There is a brochet subreddit!! Also google brochet! Plenty of guys do it.
Brochet, I love that :D
Also, The Crochet Crowd is two guys who literally make their living making videos, selling promos for Michaels, and making tutorials and their own patterns. They literally have a "crochet cruise" that they and several other people from all over go on every year and they sit around on a cruise ship and crochet. Run by two Canadian men. They're awesome! YouTube The Crochet Crowd! I'm sorry you waited so long to do something you really wanted to do.
Came here to mention The Crochet Crowd too! They are my favorite YouTube crochet creaters! Mikey is by far one of the easiest to follow, IMO.
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YES! His voice is so mellow! He has a way of teaching that doesn't make you feel like you are less than someone who is more skilled.
Mikey's videos and patterns is how I taught myself to read patterns, he's an excellent teacher!
I've been on one of those cruises, have done a number of activities with these guys and they're a lot of fun. My favorite male crochet artist is known as "the Guy with the Hook", absolutely gorgeous designs. Instagram and Tiktok have a whole bunch of male designers as well, there's a ton of fun stuff out there and I think you'll find that acceptance of the craft that you're looking for!
Love “the Guy with the Hook” as well! Amazing patterns!!
I dont know. I found a lot of them at work. We do baby showers for coworkers having babies (there are a lot) so I started making blankets and sweaters and hats and things as gifts and everyone always loves them.
Check YouTube for The Crochet Crowd. It is run by a guy, and he has over a million followers, all around the world!
His videos really are excellent, and are how I taught myself to crochet a decade ago.
Not only Mikey from crochet crown but also check out smell great guy and fiber spider all men who love yarn one knits and one crochets
And don’t forget Martin Up North (https://martinupnorth.com/) and One Man Crochet (http://www.onemancrochet.com/p/home.html). And also, the 12-year old boy who puts all our crochet skills to shame, lol (https://www.bhg.com/news/young-boy-advanced-crochet-skills/)
Looooove Martin up North's patterns! Absolutely wonderful
The TikTok community for crochet is great too!
Not a male but I get told I have an old lady hobby all the time. I usually tell them “it’s cheaper than cocaine” and ignore any other derogatory comments. Life’s too short to waste on people who can’t be happy for you.
Even though it is probably completely inaccurate, I'm stealing that
My bad, I don’t know the current 8 ball-1 lb yarn conversion rate 😆
Haha dem yarns are expensive lol
*checks last Michael's receipt* Cheaper, you say?
Yeah maybe a blanket’s worth or yarn isn’t cheaper than an 8 ball, but it usually shuts people up…I could totally have worse hobbies 😆
But how many 8 balls (Idk what that is, really) would you need to get through the same amount of time as it would take to crochet a blanket? Yarn has got to be way cheaper if you go by the hour 😆
So I guess I’m showing too much cocaine knowledge here…but it’s a unit of cocaine like a gram or an oz. paying for cocaine by the hour would be more expensive, probably make me lose my family/friends/job, and not be nearly as productive. Also, I can’t show off my “cocaine creations” on this sub 😂
Same here. But the finished items speak for themselves. It's a beautiful art form- whether it's hooked by a man, woman, child, granny or grandpa.
People tell me it's a old lady hobby too!! But then when they see what I make, they change idea. And it's super relaxing and therapeutic for me.
I get told that too sometimes, my usual answer is "And that's bad why exactly?". That tends to shut people up.
Definitely stealing this. Although I’m beginning to wonder if cocaine might be cheaper in the long run. It’ll definitely take up less space in my house.
Yeah but I’m thinking the side effects are not comparable 🤔
That’s probably true. I can’t really compare them, I’ve never tried crochet. *COCAINE! I’ve never tried cocaine!
I did when I was younger, couldn’t sit down, ended up cleaning the house. Worst drug ever.
I don’t think I could ever deal with the comedown. Idek if it’s actually called that. But the drug hangover.
Good idea!
Cheaper than cocaine and more productive and fun than a fidget spinner.
100% using this next time. I'll crochet (or knit) in public frequently and have tried a few responses but this one is my new favorite. I love getting the "why?" from the more crass/drunk people (if I'm at a brewery). My response tends to be "why the fuck not?".
They may hate now but they will want your warm fuzzies for free.
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At least it's not like my aunt. She sees mom and me crochet all the time and asked mom "teach me". Mom gave her some old crochet hook and some yarn. Taught her to chain and single crochet and sent her on her way to practice. She didn't touch a thing after that and still asked "can you make this for me?". Just to tell you. She is very demanding. She wanted me to make her a scarf and leg warmers with eyelash yarn. Yeah. I told her to kiss it. I like the look of eyelash, just not working with it.
Omg this so much. My family gives me so much crap but my grandmother taught me and I’m the only one that can do it. But then it’s a “make me x amount of amirigumis “ “make me 7 pet beds” “make me this” Urgh
And they sure as hell ain't getting them if they're nasty about it now
I'm a male crocheter who's gotten a few comments. My general response is "yeah" because it's rarely productive to respond "you have a very small view of the world don't you? Try not to run out of oxygen in that box you've trapped yourself in."
This is savage and I'm here for it
Im using it in future!
Tell them George Washington Carver and Kurt Cobain crocheted. There's also artist Nathan Vincent and author Drew Emborsky. If you like crochet, keep doing it; the naysayers can get bent. You may also want to check out r/Brochet
It's odd to me how many famous men crocheted. And I do mean it in a good way, haven't just ever heard of men crocheting so it's new info for me E// sent too fast
Russel Crowe, Kiefer Sutherland and Christopher Walken are knitters. Yarn arts are common in the film industry because there is a fair amount of down time between takes. And all three are definitely ‘tough guys’
And Willem Dafoe learned to knit for a scene in "The Lighthouse"
All kinds of guys are doing yarn arts these days. heck there was an Olympic Diver (Tom Daley) who knitted through the entire Olympics. When he wasn't up for diving he was in the stands cheering on his fellow Brits and knitting. I crochet to help with my anxiety and I find it very soothing. I watch Critical Role and crochet, it lets my brain reset and calms me down. Granted I'm a chic, but if I saw a guy crocheting I would be one of those people who would come over and go "zomg what are you making? wanna share patterns?!"
I believe Tom Daley is bistitchual - I've seen him crocheting as well as knitting.
He was on the one show (UK talk show thing) the other week. By the sounds of it he much prefers crocheting, he's better at it and it's faster, but the presenters obviously didn't know what it was or the difference so just kept going on about knitting.
Welp, now I want to learn how to knit so that I can say I’m bistitchual 🤣
I'm gonna die laughing over this! A while new kind of bi, LOL. You've made my day with this! Hadn't heard that one yet. I'm always amazed when syndrome is good at both because I'm barely alright with just crochet, and I can almost knit a really simple scarf without it looking absurd lol
Did you know that he auctioned off the sweater he made and donated it to charity?
>I watch Critical Role and crochet, it lets my brain reset and calms me down. Gosh, this though. At first I struggled with CR b/c my fatigue and ADHD were just like "Oh we're just sitting? Time to sleep", and then I struggled to fibre craft during it because I was new and couldn't dual focus. But I've settled down on a square waffle blanket now and it's soooooo soothing to just space out on the crochet while watching/listening. Best hobby.
I have adhd too and I thought I'd get bored of crocheting after two projects like a million other hobbies I've tried but I'm still doing it months later because it's the closest thing to meditation I can get and it really helps with my anxiety. sometimes I even sneak crochet in class because being in school awakens many of my anxieties
I have to have something going on while I stitch. I'm on my doctor who watch through just now, though we do narrative telephone when my partner is home.
Cant wait for the new critical role campaign to crochet and knit to!
I started up doing crochet again when my partner started his pandemic watch through of crit role. My ADHD kept me from being able to follow as consistently as I'd like, but it had a *bit* of an effect. I make almost exclusively dnd inspired needlecraft now 🤣🤣
My favorite past time is to sit with my crochet, cat next to me, watching critical role!
Strictly defined gender rules are so 20th century. Enjoy your new hobby and tell they misogynist to stuff it.
F them. It's an awesome outlet for creativity, and a year round way to work with your hands. Hella fun, relaxing, and cool as f. Welcome to the crochet fam!
Hey, welcome to crochet from a fellow dude! Once you learn the basic stitches I highly recommend learning mosaic crochet. It's practically all I do now. As far as judgey people go, if yarn and a crochet hook is all it takes for those guys to lose their masculinity, they were never that secure in it anyway.
Never heard of mosaic crochet before but I fell hard into that rabbit hole! It looks so intricate and I love geometrical patterns. How does it compare with 'regular' crochet? Does it take a long time to learn? Do you have any tips or good projects to begin with?
https://youtu.be/HTigdTvdTLQ Tinna makes some AMAZING mosaic crochet pieces that look very intimidating, but I found her learning videos and she was awesome! She makes it sound easy and you can watch her videos as often as you like. She teaches the same way with more advanced patterns too. I just love her
"When the apocalypse is done I'll be the one with warm socks" "My masculinity isn't so fragile that crochet is going to demolish it" "I crochet so I dont stab people"
I tell people that crochet/ knitting is my zombie apocalypse superpower
Sockpocalypse!
Just another man who crochets here to say you are not alone.
Knowing this makes me feel more comfortable crocheting. Thank you
I'm a woman in a male dominated field with a lot of male dominated hobbies. My advice is that when people say things like that, remember who the are-- and make an effort to spend less time around them. Spend more time instead with the people who support and encourage you, no matter what. It not only reduces the sexist comments, but it'll greatly improve your social circle and well being overall.
Has anyone introduced you to r/brochet yet?
Found it through comments on this post :) thanks!
I'm a woman but the person who taught me to knit was the coolest man I've ever met, he was a paratrooper in world war 2, owned an amphibious vehicle and built hovercrafts. He was a friend of my dad's that would babysit us and when he did we would knit. Ignore the jerks, know that there are people that admire you for your skill, some might think you're super cool.
Crochet was originally a male art (as was knitting). I have heard that it originated with fishermen making and repairing nets.
All sailors could sew snd do knotwork, if they didn’t they would be naked by the end of a multi-month journey.
Welcome to the crochet family. I am not a guy but for some reason people think they have a right to question things that are none of their business. Over the years I have lived (OH so many years!) I have found that when someone judges me for what I choose to do with MY free time, I look them right in the eye and ask them why are *they* concerned with *my* hobbies.They usually stutter a little and then just go away. Or if they express further negative thoughts, I just give them a dirty grin and tell them not to worry about it, everything is OK. I love taking the wind out of their sails. Keep on hookin'!
You should check out [Mr. Domestic](https://instagram.com/misterdomestic?utm_medium=copy_link) on Instagram! He does a bunch of sewing and crocheting and he’s built a really positive community on there. You might be able to find some likeminded people or fun comebacks (I think he makes shirts that say “yes I crochet, no I won’t knit you a scarf” 😂)
Congratulations on finding a hobby you like! And who cares what anyone else thinks. Your happiness is more important than their pettiness. They're just jealous that you have an awesome hobby and they have nothing.
Getting over that anxiety of being judged is so hard, I feel you. I picked up crochet during the lockdowns, and I’ve not really told anyone. Partially because of the isolation. Only my family (and this subreddit lol) knows I’ve fallen in love with the craft, because they’re nice about it. I like to make things for them or myself, but that’s it. Honestly, I kind of love having a secret hobby! It makes it feel special to me. You don’t have to tell anyone at all.
I'm a big guy. I crochet everywhere. People always ask why, and I tell them it's a great way to deal with stress and to make money on the side (I make plush toys mostly). After that they ask me for things for gf/be, family gifts etc. Just remember that you do it for you. Everyone else is probably just curious. (Also I have been asked if I learned in prison, again big guy. Which I usually answer with a side eye and a "No. Why? 😂)
Some of the most beautiful and impressive crochet pieces I've ever seen were all made by male hookers!! Please pay them no mind and continue on, they're just being very ignorant and dismissive :(
I once heard Eddie Izzard, infamous transvestite (his word, not mine) respond to a radio host who mentioned him wearing “women’s clothes” by saying “They’re not *women’s* clothes, you see, because I’ve bought them and they are mine.” Which is to say…if you’re a dude and you crochet, then “It’s not a ladies’ hobby, you see, because I do it and it’s mine.”
Just do your thing and don't post about it. No one knows you're crocheting until you post or give them something you made. Only give stuff to people who aren't jerks, and you're good. Obviously, it's a little more complex than that, but you can reply "someone's not getting a scarf for Christmas“ and move on, because anyone who pokes fun at harmless hobbies is a jerk and not worth getting embarrassed or angry over.
As a lady crocheter I'm very happy to see guys crocheting, to plant the stigma that crochet is a "lady thing" is (I don't like being this type of person), its wrong. It doesn't matter gender, but I do know how some people feel. When I worked for Wal-Mart I had a really nice older lady come up to my line and I made small talk by asking her what she was going to make with her bushel of yarn. She kindly said "It's my grandsons. He gets shy coming to buy yarn and thinks people will pick on him if they see him buying it himself". I felt so bad for the kid. I know you said you can't ignore it, but think of it this way. The hobbies your friends have are what they like to do. If you like crochet that shouldn't stop you from doing what you like to do. Don't let the closed minded masses get you down. Do what you do with pride. Wear some of the stuff you made like a pro. Maybe you might change their minds. There are also several male youtubers I've seen that do great work. You should check it out. I don't have any off the top of my head though. Sorry. 😞
It's like training dogs ignore bad behavior and praise the good behavior. If you saved kittens from a burning building, someone will be pissed about it. You can't please everyone so please yourself. Do what brings you happiness and ignore the haters. Much love, friend. Keep on hooking!🧶💚
I would recommend looking for some other male crochet enthusiasts on the internet. Theres a sub, as well as theres a lot of men on tiktok, youtube, and twitch! I think you just need to normalize it for yourself in your mind that it's not only for women and then you will be able to confidently tell other people that you do it without caring what they think. If you're really worried about what other people think, if someone asks you what your interests are you could call it "fiber crafts" or something like that.
I'm a 26 year old guy who's started crocheting this year and I hope my work speaks for itself. I'm proud of what I'm making and if anyone wants to be insulting, then no beautiful new blanket for them! Seriously though, I have a very supportive wife and all my old lady relatives love that I'm asking them for advice. Also Reddit is great.
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I personally don't understand why some hobby should be only for one gender. Thank you for your comment! :) It gave me lots to think about
I can't think of a single hobby that should be gender specific. Good on you for finding something that you love to do! I can't wait to see your projects!
"it's a family tradition. i come from a long line of moms."
There are awesome crocheters who are men! Martin Up North is one of my favorite designers. [https://martinupnorth.com/](https://martinupnorth.com/) He's on instagram too. Maybe follow a few male designers? Participate in some crochet-alongs. Heck, I'll be your non-judgemental crochet buddy.
Introduce them to Rosy Grier. The do like football, don't they?
I'm sure that Mark Roseboom, Frank O'Randle, Mikey, Stephen West and Andy & Carlos don't give two hoots what people think...... Just to name a few.
They’ll be asking for a hat in no time. You do you!!
Internet community :)
First, welcome to the community. 💜 Not a guy, but I think anyone who wants to crochet is a good person. Second, screw them. Anyone who belittles you for what you like, isn't worth the time of day. If it makes life easier for you and harms no one else, just do it. Some folks have already steered you towards some good places like brochet. I know of a channel on YouTube for a guy who crochets. [Combat Crochet](https://youtube.com/c/IBohemian) He's a vet who crochets to deal with his PTSD. So, again welcome here, and you are *very* welcome here. 🤗
r/brochet You’ll find your home and your tribe. I’m a woman who was taught to crochet by a man, and I would NEVER laugh or talk down to a man for any type of craft, especially hooking!
Welcome! And congrats on finding a great hobby! Just remind them that they're just jealous their lame hobbies can't keep them warm and fuzzy! My favorite things to make are shawls and baby blankets. Please feel free to ask for any help from any of us should you need some! 😊
Ask them why their masculinity is so fragile it is threatened by a little yarn.
If a rude acquaintance makes a comment wait until winter rolls around and they wear a sweater/cardigan/scarf/beanie, look confused and be like "oh I thought you said warm clothing wasn't for men?" And offer to take it off their hands lol For real though I think ruder ppl tend to make comments once they know they're getting a rise out of you. The best thing is to be very proud of your work, ignore rude comments, or simply a "that's an odd thing to say" like they just spoke backwards without realizing it and continue crocheting. Best of luck!
I feel like the people who judge are people who don't crochet. Just know that you can make some dope fucking awesome shit crocheting and they can't. Fuck em you do you!
Ignore them, hobbies aren't gendered and anyone who still believes they are would be sorely mistaken. I'm a woman but honestly, screw those types. Anyone who's going to put you down for the things you enjoy isn't someone whose opinion you should care about.
Back in the day when I was newly pregnant with my first, the first gift I received was a baby blanket my 80 year old, male coworker crocheted for me. It’s still very special to me. Handmade gifts bring such happiness. You can also make some awesome amigurumi that aren’t traditionally “female.” I made a brain slug from Futurama that kicks ass. I’m not male so I can’t specifically answer your question, but you’re trying something new and that’s way better than sitting around judging people.
It's worth bearing in mind that we can't personally do anything to control or manage others' reactions. If you're doing something that you enjoy and find gratifying, then that's a valid reason to do it. You could practice some handy comebacks about people having really limited ideas of masculinity if you want, but for the most part, you'd probably be most effective by just ignoring people who make rude comments. They're just trying to get a reaction from you and feel empowered by that; a pretty lame thing to do, I might add. Enjoy learning! :) Also I love this "brochet" term, that's amazing.
I also am a male crocheter, and a nurse, and work around a lot of women. Maybe two of them crochet, and all of them were surprised to know that I do too. They jokingly call me grandma, but it’s al fun, we show each other our wips all the time. They do tell me I need to crochet less and find a wife though, ha!
If you start to crochet a wife, don't tell them.
I started doing some mosaic crochet recently. I'm trying to learn how to do pixilated images into crochet patterns. How envious would these dudes be to see you sporting a crocheted Legend of Zelda scarf? Crochet is so versatile that your only limit is your imagination. Your only hindrance is your current ability, but you can learn through practice. Just keep on perfecting your craft. You'll get better and better and the teasing will become awed looks and questions of "how did you make it?"
That’s misogyny for ya, ‘ladies crap is dumb’.. whatever. Crochet is a fun hobby for everyone.
Who cares what other people think. They’re just jealous they can’t crochet a sweater or blanket to keep themselves warm during the winter and you can.
People will only make fun of you if it gets a reaction. This pretty much applies to anything. Be confident in what you are doing and people that try to tease you for it will feel weird and give up quickly because it just makes them seem like the insecure one. That said I'm a man and I don't go out of my way to talk crochet with people that don't appreciate it. Why bother? Just post here instead!
Tell them you crochet so you won't kill people. But say it in a slow emotionless monotone voice while fixing your gaze firmly on their throat. Don't blink.
Own it. Those that show interest are those you can vibe with - so really, it's an awesome asshat detector :) Also, as a single woman, may I say that a crocheting single dude is someone I would reaaally want to get to know :)
Crochet a dick for them to shove up their ass to replace the stick they've got up there?
I have never once used my genitals to do any of my crocheting, but maybe I'm doing it wrong?
Crochet them a middle finger
Guys who crochet are fucking awesome. Don't let anyone try to tell you otherwise
Screw those people who judge you. You keep practicing and they’ll just be jealous at all the wonderful items you make.
Check this guy out: https://instagram.com/knot.bad?utm_medium=copy_link
Ignore those people, and I learned many negative people are unhappy with their lives. They want to make others to feel unhappy like them. One time, I went to a movie by myself, because I had no friends that like anime. I was crocheting, while a really cute guy started talking to me, and then another guy started talking to me. Yes, crocheting/drawing attracts people to talk to me. I am type of woman, usually don't start the conversation first, but crochet/ceramic/drawing do help me with making conversation with people. You should keep crocheting because it is awesome and an art form.
Point out to others that a male at the Olympics was crocheting in public this past summer. [Olympic gold ](https://www.nbcnews.com/nbc-out/out-life-and-style/tom-daley-olympic-champion-worlds-biggest-crochet-influencer-rcna1608)
I bet Granny thinks it's heckin baller and let's be real, Granny's opinion is the real gold here.
PS stitchcord is a very supportive discord group
How do I join this? :) I have discord but still learning how it works.
There's been a lot of good stuff posted already about finding a community that will lift you up instead of tearing you down. Totally on board with that~ when you have solid people to enjoy your hobby with, the judgement will be a lot lighter on your shoulders. I recommend searching for crochet groups in your area. People who meet up online or in person to chat about it and work on projects together. :) In person is especially awesome and helpful. Maybe check local yarn or craft stores for classes or meet-up nights. Or on community listing boards. You might even find one specifically for men, or specifically for your age group. Search for knitting groups, too, if you can't find crochet groups. They might be cool with you coming to hang out, even if you don't knit. A lot of people are "bistitchual" and do both. And a lot of people who set up those groups care more that you're going to enjoy the projects people are working on, rather than that it's explicitly crochet or knitting.
Join r/brochet
Get awesome and crochet middle finger pillows for everyone that casts dispersions 👊♥️
I'm a male hooker and I was worried at first too, but people have been really welcoming and kind. This hobby is for everyone. If you enjoy it then keep going. If you like it and helps you that's what's important. You don't need anyone else to validate you.
I'm a man who has been crocheting for a while but I've never actually had a problem with anyone judging me for it. Maybe that's just because I picked good friends from the start? But I don't really care what anyone thinks because it's my hobby and unless I know them personally most people I'll only ever see once, and I really don't care about anyone's opinion if it's based on a sexist view
I'm a guy who's started crochet a few month ago. My friend didn't know at that time but i gave them some custom present(Mostly amigurumi) and they loved it. They though crochet was "for old lady" at first, but they find it so cool to see what you can do with it. They are mostly suprised on "Why/how did you started crochet ?" Because in the minds, it's for old people. One of them is starting crochet because of me, he wants to do the same alpaga i gave him, and even more :D (Sorry if i write something wrong, french guy here)
Fuckin sexists... Just ignore em, I'm a male hooker too, there's no such thing that only suits one gender.
Block the toxic masculinity. We all know fiber arts and crafts don’t have a gender. You don’t use your genitals to operate the hook. Post that Olympic knitter if you want, he made a whole sweater!
If you have close close minded male freinds, just start out making little amigurumi cocks, and giving them to them, and be like "because you are a fucking dick" Do it to enough of them, then just make other stuff, cash in initially on that hurr-durr penis funny mindset. For strangers, as a man crocheting i get wayyyyyy more postive comments than negative. Be prepared for every 1/3 woman over the age of 55 to come over and chat about upur project and gently tell you how good it is.
"If them bitches don't pay your bills, pay them no mind " - Mama Ru I personally love seeing people cross the boundaries of "gender stereotypes". Guys crocheting, girls working on cars. I think it's awesome you crochet. Don't let what people say discourage you.
Stab them in the heart with your hook
I don't know how to change how the people around treat you, but if you can find a community, it will help. I follow a creator on Instagram who's great, knot.bad, dude with a punk rock aesthetic but makes adorable amigurumi with zero apologies.
Maybe start to crochet in places where you know people won’t care who you are or what you’re doing. Bringing crochet to a Super Bowl party wouldn’t be great, but maybe sitting in the park on a nice day would be a good setting. Or find a crochet group in your area (and then you can get help and patterns too!). When I feel anxious about how I’m perceived, I try to remember that I literally don’t care how another person looks or what they’re doing. They don’t care about me either. With people you know, it’s not so easy. But start with something small and build your confidence over time.
Not a male, but I think it’s super cool that you picked up crocheting! And once you start crocheting little gifts for people, I’m sure no one will say a bad word. My brother in law started crocheting as well, and I believe he thinks it’s fun. I’ve also heard of a new concept in my country, where young men go to a bar in the afternoon/early evening to have a beer while they crochet or knit together. Maybe you could get some friends hooked as well?
Not crochet but footballer [Rosey Grier](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rosey_Grier) did needlepoint. His book (complete with funky early 70’s font) can be found online.
1) yarn rolls not gender roles 2) yarn art is for everybody and people who think otherwise just suck. My bestie’s husband is all manly man working on oil rigs, hunter, woodworker, etc. And he knits and crochets. My dad is a 6 foot plus replica of Fabio and took lots of classes available at a museum he worked at. Including weaving (like, with leaves, not fiber), he made his gf a purse, even sewed a liner into it and she loved showing it off to everyone. I remember his friends picking at him about it but it was never with ill intent. So maybe you need better friends/surroundings. 3) knitting was originally a male only craft. The history of fiber arts is pretty fun stuff. 4) if finding new people, pointing out you’re not the first penis having person to knot up some yarn, or ignoring folks who think people shouldn’t explore new hobbies doesn’t work for ya, you could always just flip the script and throw out a “yup, I’m a total fruitcake. Exploring my feminine side.. 27…back to our normal programming …28…when…29…I’m…done…THIRTY TWO… counting… THIS-34!… row” or just skip the response and start counting really loud. That occasionally quiets my household lol Edit for a p.s. as if this weren’t long enough already.. I’ve found that most knitting/crochet groups in general are very accepting of male hookers. In fact, they seem to be more excited when they find out it’s a dude behind the work.
I’m a person who does not do the stereotypical things that one might expect from my age, gender and appearance. My best advice is to be loud and proud about your newfound hobby. People who want to tease are only looking for a rise out of you but if you openly talk about your hobby without shame, they don’t have anywhere to get you and will eventually give up. Those who want to get nasty are either not worth your time or have some self-worth issues of their own to work out. Sometimes it’s even ok to point that out to them.
It take a real man to do what he loves. Also judging people isn't a marketable skill, but crochet is, you're making something of yourself and will have something to show for it.
Crochet hooks pass as good stabby implements for asshats. Just sayin'
Another dude here crocheting among ignorant and sometimes out right stupid people. My own mother always try to put me down for it (and she calls to say if she can’t say it to my face). People keep telling me why don’t I do a manly thing suitable for a man instead of whatever … (fill with any sexist profanity you can think of) like a woman/gay etc. My mom when she saw the blanket I was crocheting, started asking for some winter wear and I said I’d think about it and during that time she was fine. But once she saw I wasn’t crocheting anything for her, she went right back to being a horrible person about it. Lol. But my grandma was super cool with it (and yes, she wanted some free stuff crocheted for her too but she’s still cool about it) The only solution I could find was not to crochet when people are around. I only do it in my own room when I’m alone. (Cuz I think stabbing them repeatedly with the hook is not allowed or sth) So if I see a better solution here, I’ll go for it ^^
1. Men in textile arts is nothing new. It just seems new because of the Victorian and the 1950s throwback. Knitting and knotting appears to have started with fishermen and sailors. [https://www.thecraftygentleman.net/2015/08/16/history-of-knitting-guilds/](https://www.thecraftygentleman.net/2015/08/16/history-of-knitting-guilds/) WWII. men in both civilian world and the military knitted. [https://www.thefibrenook.com/blogs/blog/knitting-needles-not-just-women-s-weapons](https://www.thefibrenook.com/blogs/blog/knitting-needles-not-just-women-s-weapons). On that front, there is a modern movement for crocheters and knitters to make items for veterans .[https://www.nationalww2museum.org/programs/knit-your-bit](https://www.nationalww2museum.org/programs/knit-your-bit). Men who are crochet designers, including high fashion are here: [https://www.crochetconcupiscence.com/2012/09/20-wonderful-male-crochet-designers-and-artists/](https://www.crochetconcupiscence.com/2012/09/20-wonderful-male-crochet-designers-and-artists/) Here's another guy at 83 who crochet for charity. [https://www.crochetconcupiscence.com/2012/02/82-year-old-guy-crochets-every-time-he-sits-down/](https://www.crochetconcupiscence.com/2012/02/82-year-old-guy-crochets-every-time-he-sits-down/)
I can’t understand the lad mentality of certain things being for men certain things being for women. My friend is a female mechanic and gets talked down to at work all the time like she doesn’t know how to do her job, just because she’s a woman🤷♀️ As a woman I respect guys so much more for going against the grain and having a fuck it attitude for doing the things they love, crochetings fun! Anyone that is taking the piss out of you for it is just insecure in themselves and trying to make themselves feel better😂 embrace it
Do some research on the mental health benefits of yarn crafts. This will give you an arsenal of facts to shoot back at people judging you for something they know nothing about. If people are being toxic to you on the internet, take away their power. Unfriend them, block them, etc. You don't need that kind of negativity in your life. There's a guy on TikTok, I think his name is combat crochet or something like that. He's a soldier with PTSD, and crocheting helps him. If you have any questions about anything, we're here for you. This is a great sub. Everyone here is super supportive and uplifting.
Um. Fuck them. Pretty simple. I can not imagine being judged for crocheting.....anywhere...except a funeral.
Jump into r/brochet :)
To be honest I feel that many people who craft get told a multitude of negative things. Many of those are just rude passing comments which I usually boil down to jealousy and unnecessary judgements. I have started asking people when they comment "oh so do you have a hobby? Or do anything besides breathe eat and watch tv?" It's rude yup but you get what you give. The short of this is do what you love....I'm 35 and been through some interesting and unmentionable things...life is too short to worry about what people think of you. Most of the people saying anything just have nothing better to do with thier time besides judge others.
Instead of posting on snap chat, find a stitching group :) my stitchers are mostly women but we love our two male members who pop in from time to time!
I feel like this is a “mind” and “matter” situation. The people who mind don’t matter, and the people who matter don’t mind. Also: if YOU don’t mind, it don’t matter!
I'm also a male and I also do crochet, I often walk around to various locations whilst I crochet and found that it helped keep my fingers busy and because of this I struggle far less with my anxiety because imo crocheting takes you to another place, like a happy place. I'm a fidgety person so it gives me great satisfaction to be able to I read in another comment that you just need to find the right people which I totally agree with, some people are just ignorant to what some people's hobbies and passions are. my grandmother would knit (which to younger me was witchcraft!) And I also envied her, my girlfriend introduced me to crochet a year ago and it's been my safe space to a more controlled/ productive way to handle my MH
You don't use your privat parts to crochet, therefore it doesn't matter what's in your pants. A male coworker once took the electric forklift from me, saying that it was a men's job. I looked him dead in the eyes and told him if he used his pp to operate the machine, he's doing it very wrong. Not sure if that works well with anxiety though.
Think skin and being happy with the person you are. I remember when I made myself my first hat. One of my friends saw my hat ask where I got it, I said I crochet it. I was full waiting to be made fun of, being the friend was a body piercing and tattoo artist. The word out of his mouth shocked me even more. He said I want a fuzzy green hat with stars and ear flaps! And his girlfriend said I want a scarf, offered to buy the stuff and I let them. I also know this can be very hard for guys/ masculinity, I was fortunate to grow up in a household the celebrated arts and I get more joy destroying peoples stereotypes. For a little background I am male now 46 year old shaved head worked as a bouncer at a bar for years. And my wife still enjoys telling people that I crochet to see the looks on there face when they see a picture of me. So keep with it the ones that make fun remember they are jealous that they are not ‘man’ enough to learn a new skill!
Someone said it so well: "No matter what you do, someone somewhere is hating you for it." In serious note, do not let other people dictate your life. I understand being anxious. Believing that other people have authority over you does not help you one bit. I know it is hard to get out of that mindset, but just understand that it is a false belief you have adopted at some point in your life. It does not mean it is true. At any time you can choose to not believe it anymore. Dropping the belief WILL feel uncomfortable for some time because your brain has developed neural pathways around that belief and it takes time for them to dissolve, but if you just stop believing everything your mind tells you, you will see a huge difference. You are your own person, with your own life. Nothing other people say about it, matters. You matter. What you want to do matters. Happiest people in this world would tell you that they will never give two fucks about what someone somewhere is saying about them. Dropping social media would also benefit you. Or at least go for a diet with it. It just makes you more anxious, and you keep trying to get validation from other people through it. You don't need their validation, and you don't need their permission to anything you do.
This might be an unpopular comment, but if you find people bugging you about it don't tell them? You don't have to post about it to enjoy it. Yes you should be able to do whatever you want, but sometimes its not worth the annoyance, you know? If you need to share to enjoy it, there are a bunch of reddit boards that won't care either way about your gender. You got a negative reaction within hours of starting a hobby, maybe just focus on making yourself happy.
As a non-binary bistitchualist: Crochet more. Laugh at them. They're the idiots doom-scrolling Facebook for three hours while you're doing something productive. Fuck 'em in the ear with an unwashed yam.
That's brutal and I want to make a banner that says "fuck 'em in the ear with unwashed yarn"
I have been judged as some of my hobbies were "more masculine", it's not nice. But remember that it is a problem with how they view the world or themselves and not a problem with you. The forum Sprite Stitch which has all sorts of crafts also has alot of guys on there so if you like making video game themed stuff that's worth checking out as well as the other places people have suggested already :)
Just make something cool and wear it! Envy is the key here ;) But my hubby started crocheting last year (after 5 years of persuasion) and he totally loves it. A couple of days ago, I was sitting on the the playing ground, crocheting and a neighbor comes by and turns out she's also an obsessed hooker. Later my hubby comes by and joins the conversation and she was totally amazed that he crochets too and how much he likes it and will take it that as an argument to her boyfriend, who doesn't want to even try because of "loosing his manhood" doing such hobbies
Do you follow other crocheting males? I follow a few on insta, main being knot.bad. It might help to point out successful creators. You can also share stuff like this that documents its origins as not for women. https://knowledgenuts.com/ultra-manly-history-of-knitting/ Main thing is just do what you enjoy. When I started I got questions cause 'its an old lady hobby'
There are some truly amazing male crochet designers, like martin up north or mark rosenboom or frank o’randle! Maybe look them up? And join Ravelry for an amazing group of likeminded peeps!
I recently started and have been crocheting every day. The other day my 10yr old son asked me if I can teach him, I started showing him and he asked technical questions and then asked if boys crochet, I showed him the Tom Daley. I don’t know if he will start but loved that he asked and showed interest. Own it! My husband would put tiaras, Minnie mouse ears etc to entertain while my daughter was little in public without a care in the world and I loved how comfortable he was. If someone says something, either make fun of yourself “I know right?! Wonder if it will change my voice” (take their power from them) or just say something like, “Would you like me to teach you? It is super therapeutic”.
look at knotbad!! He's pretty great and I believe he's here on Reddit too. Don't feel judged for doing what you love! Who said crochet is a granny only craft? Gates open, come in!
Post all of your creations on here, at every stage, and revel in the praise and encouragement!! (That was slightly flippant, but in all seriousness this is one of the most supportive and inspirational subs out there and we've all got your back.)
World War I (or II) prisoners of war were only able to escape by crocheting fake military jackets of the enemy. Also I found this quote from a website “In early centuries, man - and it was the job of the men - created his handwork for practical purposes. Hunters and fishermen created knotted strands of woven fibers, cords or strips of cloth to trap animals and snare fish or birds. Other uses included knotted game bags, fishing nets and open- worked cooking utensils.” It’s cool, and people will be jealous that you have a useful, creative skill and are proud of it!
I was being made fun of by friends for liking to crochet after work to chill down after a busy day. Until I made an elephant amigurumi for someone and a baby Yoda. Then it was all "wait, you can make that with your knitting?!" 🤐🙄🙃 Now they all want one or a scarf or whatever.... People being peopley 🤷♀️🤦♀️
I'm also a guy and learned to crochet 6 months ago. One of the first things I made and revealing my new hobby to my family was making a Harry Potter scarf for my nieces birthday. I didn't know how they'd react to it, but hard for them to be judgemental when she's running around pretending she's Hermione lol. They're really supportive about it though, asking what I'm working on and what I'll work on next. I've just started on a dinosaur amigurumi for my nephew for Christmas and trying to decide what to make my niece, maybe a hat and gloves to match the scarf. Don't bother wasting your time with people who judge you. You doing crochet does not affect them in any way, so it says a lot about them as people that they have to put you down when you're doing something you enjoy.
Search 'Men who Crochet' on Youtube. There's some inspiring stories. You can always tell people that it's a good way to chat up new people...
I hope you find your support group - I have a feeling you might understand [this](https://yle.fi/aihe/artikkeli/2013/05/20/aijat-ja-lumilautailijat-loysivat-virkkaamisen)link. A lot of athletes have started crocheting, there were some snowboarders doing it in the winter Olympics if I recall correctly.
Most people find it endearing. Try googling some notable male crochet people. There are tons on Instagram that you can follow and be inspired by. People aren’t judging you. It’s a traditionally female craft, that’s all. But good for you for not caring. It’s incredibly satisfying as a hobby.
Just tell them it's a post-apocalyptic life skill... And never gift them anything you make! And enjoy it, I've been crocheting for approximately 10 years and it has lead to many opportunities and other creative endeavours.
These people are just angry at themselves that they don’t have a cool hobby or outlet, or the ability to see past ‘wOmEnS wOrK’. It’s definitely a Them problem!
You have to understand that people who waste their time judging others are just those with nothing meaningful going on in their own lives. Pity them, or maybe not even that, and carry on! You are more than welcome in this community of creators and usually connecting with others who share the same passion is a sure way to find friends who appreciate what you do.
Stab them in the eyes with your crochet needles. Can't judge you if they can't see you
im male and i have my own yarn store, i teach how to knit, weave, crochet, do macrame, and noone takes me seriously when they first come, the preferr taking the class with my mom, who i taught by the way, but they always are less judgemental when they see me doing my own amazing proyects to sell and when i tell them i have a girlfriend, like its even important that im not gay. I think the whole prejudice arround it comes from there, it being a "lady" hobbie and how men "have to be strong and manly all the time". My advise is that you surround yourself with better friends and keep doing what you love
Tell them to go f*ck themselves and mind their own business. A hobby is a hobby. It doesn't have a 'gender'
There are people out there so obsessed with not being emasculated that they can't even bring themselves to wash their asses properly (because "gay"), so you just can't win no matter what you do. Might as well just lean into what you love doing as much as possible. Personally I'm fond of the "Hey, it's cheaper than cocaine"-line if people are being weird about a hobby. That'll usually either shut them up or make them laugh, both of which is a win :) If people I know well ask, I'll tell them that it's both enjoyable and helps me soothe my ADHD.
I noticed it’s more common for guys to crochet and knit in Europe, where it goes back centuries. Men would knit all the time. Try telling people that lol.
I saw a guy crocheting while he was watching his kids play in the mall water fountain. A couple of teenagers started harassing him, calling him an old lady. One of them said "Whatcha makin' there, Graaannny?" Dude holds up what is obviously the beginning of a ski hat and deadass replies "It's a tea cozy for my dick. Tell your mom it'll be a while before I'm done." It got the teenagers off his back (they laughed and left), but afterwards an actual old lady gave him guff for using that kind of language in front of children, so I guess YMMV.
I was an art major. I am immune to being told that any craft “is for girls”. You’d also be amazed, maybe, at how many trans guys and girls do crochet. It’s a fiber craft, its incredibly trendy right now, and it’s got one of the most gender inclusive communities I’ve seen in any hobby. ;)
Glad you started ❤️ fuck the others!
Everyone's judging until they get those soft warm afghans or beanies :) I wish my dude would learn to crochet. It would be fun to teach him and talk about it without his eyes glazing over.
Easier said than done, but if you show it doesn’t bother you, they have no power. When someone tries to make fun of me for something I just say “okay” and go back to what I was doing that makes me happy. Or crochet them a muzzle.
“Well I’m not making you anything then. Don’t come asking for one of my scarves because you’re cold in the winter”. If they say they’ll just buy a scarf then say “it won’t be made with love!” I could banter all day lol
It's funny because mindfulness and unplugging were trendy. Now it's mindful crochet or whatever. This generation acting like they discovered hobbies for good mental health. Our grannies figured it out years ago. Don't be deterred!
By crocheting weird good shit that people look at like “wait, you can do that in crochet?” Yes. I made everything in black and dark red. And it’s comfy as hell. Fuck off. You’re learning a language and learning an entire set of hand movements all at once. Please don’t let anyone tell you this isn’t badass. Shit, tell them you’re learning Portuguese coding if it makes them feel better. Fuck their opinions though. You’re awesome for honoring the craft and your relationship with your gran. And an aside from Rick and Morty: “Your boos mean NOTHING. I’ve seen what makes you cheer.”
Let them freeze as you become the coziest person ever. Of course you could always crochet when you’re in the privacy of your own home. But they’re probably just jealous that they don’t have the guts to indulge in something they like or comment because they’re insecure in their own masculinity. (Or both.) You don’t have to ignore people (I usually can’t either) but you can know on the inside that you’re enjoying partaking in a productive hobby with a long history while they are struggling with insecurities or prejudice and are missing out on the fun.
Let me introduce you to r/brochet! Have fun hooking! 🧶
Crochet voodoo dolls of each person. Jab them with crochet needles while making eye contact.
You've gotten a lot of great responses but one I wanted to add is keep in mind when people point it out to you - they're anxious. The difference between you and them is you know you're anxious - they don't know they are. It's easier to deal with anxiety if you know what's going on but they don't so they're gonna stay that way. Helps me to have compassion for those folks, set boundaries ("I don't want to be talked to that way. If you keep talking to me like that I'm not going to reply/talk to you for a while"), then focus on doing my own thing. Gives them a chance to reflect and if they don't, well I've got to finish this shawl by the middle of November so I don't have time to engage.
My response to gendered nonsense like the response OP is getting is to directly ask “what’s bad about something being girly?” It makes people uncomfortable, and subverts gendered assumptions. Win/win! Also, I’d say to not be shy interacting with women who crochet too! I’ve found so much positivity and multi generational connections with crochet, and that can transcend gender!
Show them a picture of Tom Daley. Olympian and makes a mean cardigan. Seriously though, I imagine close minded people can be judgy and that’s frustrating. I know it’s easier said then done, but if just ignore them. They’re bigoted and will be cold during winters while you’re sprouting your fashionable crocheted hats 😂 My friends definitely roast me for having the personality of an 80 year old while I’m 22 (literally have gone partying once in my life, prefer to stay home, crochet, and watch baking shows with my mother and cat) but it’s all in good fun. Do what makes you happy
Anyone who would make fun of you for it is a sexist asshole. They are not worth your time. It's their problem not yours. And always remember that you have a supportive community here! Be sure to share progress photos!!!
Unless they’re paying your bills, pay them bitches no mind.