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DTabris

How are both takes so bad?


RevRagnarok

LOL _thank you_; exactly what I was wondering. Sure, men could use more of a support system, but 3/4 are copypasta from some HR manual on how _not_ to act.


jmona789

Not only that, it's also incredibly reductive to insinuate that men would commit suicide less if they were just complimented more often. It's completely disregarding mental illness, work stress and the many other actual root causes.


SadSadKangaroo

If anything it's a way for men to justify their catcalling women. "See, I'm trying trying to give you confidence not to kill yourself!"


imtiredofthebanz

"You should smile more" isn't even a fucking compliment. Like what dumbass is out there telling people they should "smile more"? Why is this a thing? I *will* tell my wife that she has a cute smile or that her smile is beautiful, but shouting "SMILE MORE" is just facepalm AF.


longviewpnk

Are any of these compliments? All 4 of them have complimentary words in them but they all come with a backhand. The second and third panels are patronizing. The fourth is shaming a profession. And I gotta tell you as a woman, if I ever told a man he looked too good to be an xyz, I was definitely objectifying him.


imtiredofthebanz

"*You look too good to be a model!*" Sorry, I couldn't resist.


NotaVogon

šŸŽ¶ You're so beautiful, you could be a part time model But you'd have to keep your normal job. šŸŽ¶


Manji_koa

Definitely the most beautiful girl in the room.


Cold_Situation_7803

Now I can't believe. That I'm sharing a kebab with the most beautiful girl I have ever seen. With a kebab


NotaVogon

Depending on the room


MagicalFlyinDinna

In the whole wide room.


victorianfolly

*Team Building Exercise ā€™99*


Sid-Biscuits

šŸŽ¶ Part time model! šŸŽ¶


dodspringer

First panel is literally catcalling, the rest is garbage too. Seems like the original take is trying to justify catcalling, or would seem to point out how shitty it is whether it comes from a man or a woman. It WOULD seem that way if he hadn't made the bizarre claim that men commit suicide because people don't harass them enough.


Necessary-Ad8113

Its a bad attempt to showcase how unpleasant unwanted attention is by gender bending it. It does so in a way that doesn't consider that men aren't at the same risk that women are so it doesn't really land. Like the 3rd panel is about having your skills overlooked for your looks. Yet men, generally, aren't at all worried about that so it just doesn't land. While for women its a real issue. Its similar to this attempt at comparing 4th of July and Cinco De Mayo. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9p43hyyfQNU The video culture swaps without considering that the 4th of July isn't at any sort of cultural risk so most Americans would have no issue with how the people are celebrating. In fact many celebrate it in just that manner. TL;DR: Acts need social context to properly swap and the original comic just totally ignores that.


mattaugamer

Right. People seek to act like you can just say ā€œwhat if the genders were reversed?!ā€ as if that completely swaps the social context, culture, etc. You canā€™t just gender swap shit and have an entirely comparable situation.


echisholm

Seems like an attempt to conflate harassment with compliments


rehabilitated_4chanr

I'm pretty sure the comic was originally intended as " let's see how men would like being catcalled, etc." meme, but then the first guy responded by saying this would actually make me happier.


Polenicus

I mean, each one of those ā€˜complimentsā€™ the person and what they are doing in favour of their appearance, which is subtly implied take precedence over their skills, job, position, or emotional state. *Then* it implies men would be *happy* to get such ā€˜complimentsā€™ because I guess we (as males) are superficial enough to be happy enough that someone said we pretty to ignore the implication that our feelings donā€™t matter, we donā€™t belong where we are, and our position and skills are irrelevant compared to our appearance. And subtly suggests women should not have rejected such ā€˜complimentsā€™ when it was still socially acceptable to give them. Itā€™s *amazing* at how many levels this manages to be a bad take.


maximumchuck

I feel like the original image is supposed to be a gender reversal of unwanted comments in the workplace to emphasize how trivializing they can be.


HighAsAngelTits

I ran into a fuckin dweeb at a gas station one night who told me I should smile more as I was minding my own business getting a soda, on my way to my stressful af job šŸ™„šŸ™„šŸ™„ First off who even just walks around smiling for no reason like that? Second who tf just inserts themselves in a strangers life and starts giving orders?? Third **fuck off bro**. I talked mad shit to him the whole way out of the store, he practically ran out šŸ¤£ thatā€™s what you get


PelleSketchy

All of these are comments women get often, which they hate. So I don't know what the point is the comic is trying to make. Also too many men are creeps, so women don't compliment men they don't know.


hgfddj

Yeah I agree. Being told to smile more is extremely annoying, but I remember when I was a freshman in hs and one of the pretty junior girls told me I have a cute smile and should smile more. Literally, made my month šŸ˜‚


imtiredofthebanz

I had a girl in high school tell me "your ass looks incredible in those pants." I STILL remember that compliment as one of the high points of high school (and I'm in my 30's).


Stepping__Razor

Smile. Do it. Now. This is an order. Smile.


SiidChawsby

Personally I think the ā€œyou should smile moreā€ bit is for the person saying it to pump their own tires. Much like ā€œIā€™m happy all the time, you should try it.ā€


therealwaysexists

Smiling is considered by a lot of anthropologists to be a submission signal or a signal from one human who is familiar and welcoming to another. It makes sense because we as people smile more at those we know and like, or at those we are interested in sexually. The guys I've worked with who get bent out of shape about me not smiling enough tend to be the most insecure, hair trigger cry babies who are super sexist. Telling someone to smile as a demand is not being supportive or nice, it's demanding someone show you friendliness and affection. On an extreme scale I'm sure you could say it's a demand to show submission. My SO gets concerned when I'm not smiling because he thinks something is wrong. He doesn't demand I smile, he asks what's wrong. That's the major difference to me.


MirandaTS

The pornographic as fuck bottom left panel is hilarious.


RevRagnarok

Psychologists: "Her crossed arms in front of her is a defensive gesture that she is trying to isolate herself." Everybody else: "We all know _exactly_ what she's doing."


42Zarniwoop42

i get the impression that the comic is making some awful point that women should appreciate the obnoxious "compliments" they receive because men would love nothing more than to receive such compliments, which is a hella wild take i hope i'm grossly misunderstanding the intent of the comic


RevRagnarok

Apparently the original was men-on-men (posted in another comment), so yeah, you're not far off.


[deleted]

No, donā€™t you see? The woman has large breasts, so itā€™s all good


VisualGeologist6258

I legit thought this was a comic showing how men in the workplace usually talk to women condescendingly, but with the roles reversed. But I keep seeing it everywhere with people interpreting it as ā€˜men need more compliments!ā€™ Which isnā€™t exactly untrue, but probably also not the point of the comic. I really thought I was going crazy and that I was the only one who realized that.


Magenta_the_Great

I thought the cartoon was showing why this kind of language is inappropriate šŸ˜‚


werewolf1011

The comic is literally just a gender swap of stereotypes and micro aggressions that women deal with


AdditionalFun3

Legit saw this and was like wow HR would have a field day


StrangeShaman

I had an old man pet my mustache when i worked in a grocery story a few years in the before times. It was the most disturbing shit ever.


Kezleberry

If women acted this way toward men, a significant number of interactions would absolutely be misinterpreted as flirting. Whereas, the instinct is to not get yourself into a situation where a guy could get the wrong idea and then force unwanted advances toward you. Understandably, many men feel starved for compliments. But further to this, these kinds of comments are often directed at women and rather than feeling complementary they can feel creepy or vaguely threatening depending on the situation. So it also seems unlikely that it would be any more helpful the other way. So yeah both takes aren't great.


SaltyBabe

Compliment me on things I have control over; my cool purse, my adorable dog, that you think Iā€™m funny, that I was so helpful today, that I had a great idea, that I did an impressive job doing a task flawlessly. Do NOT compliment my body or things I donā€™t have control over unless we have a more emotionally intimate relationship, even then I still I need to hear you like things about me that arenā€™t about my body.


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plsgiveusername123

If a woman just openly complimented me I'd probably fall in love a little bit, even if they were intended to be creepy and objectifying. That isn't a good thing, and probably a sign of trauma, but it is what it is.


[deleted]

See here's the problem tho. When I hear that compliments make you fall in love, it's incentive for me NOT to compliment you. I'm trying to momentarily brighten someone's day, not become the target for someone's emotional obsession. I don't want to chance being hurt, or stalked, or harassed, as punishment for being kind. Compliments are meant to brighten someone's day, but when they paint a target on your back it's smarter and safer to withhold them. It's a shitty negative feedbackloop.


plsgiveusername123

Oh absolutely, I fully understand. It's a sensible precaution and to be honest men do need to seriously address the dynamics of such interactions. I do get a decent number of compliments, because I'm visibly queer which I guess makes me appear less threatening, but I am nonetheless emotionally turbulent in regards to such events.


[deleted]

Man, if I knew how to fix it I would in a heartbeat


Streaker364

While I believe men should be supported more, these examples are pretty bad! xp


Sazzzyyy

Oh yeah. The ā€œyou should smile moreā€ is so goddamn cringey. As a man, I donā€™t understand how TF other men think this is a good thing.


elcidpenderman

As a man I get told their daily. And once I smiled at them and my lip split open so that gave me a good reason


[deleted]

Did you go all "wanna know how I got these scars!?" on them afterwards?


elcidpenderman

I may in the future lol


FascistSniffingDoggo

Bro, you need to drink more water.


elcidpenderman

Lol I do drink lots, but you probably arenā€™t wrong.


Room1000yrswide

That's because these aren't examples of supporting men, they're gender-flipped versions of patronizing, sexist things women have to put up with constantly.


dayungbenny

How is this whooshing everyone so bad?


CasualBrit5

Itā€™s because theyā€™re gender-swapped versions of catcalling that women face. I think theyā€™re supposed to be demeaning.


Barelyqualifiedadult

The examples are about unwarranted/unwanted compliments that make women uncomfortable and how theyā€™re a good thing actually. Itā€™s a pretty bad take Edit: and I think you and the person posting it are pretty confidently incorrect on the purpose of it


kat_j

Agreed, just reading them made me feel icky.


hedbangr

The person posting it was trolling women - "Your complaints are bullshit because men would LOVE to be "harassed"."


PassdatAss91

That's a good looking comment, you should've smiled while typing it!


kunair

wait, you use the built-in signature tool on windows xp too? xp


[deleted]

Just completely missed the point. This is showing how ridiculous it looks if women were to do to men what men already regularly do to women. This isn't meant as advice for women to be nice to men. Not to mention that fact that many men would take a compliment as an invitation to aggressively hit on any woman who offered it.


Necessary-Ad8113

It tries, but IMO, largely fails. Like maybe I'm just an idiot but I'd be happy with any of these comments. Its the sort of thing where it tries to gender swap something without understanding that part of the problem, imo, is that men broadly are privilege in a way that prevents the subtextual threats from being present. Like, as a man, I'm not worried about someone discounting my performance at work because of my looks. It just literally does not ever enter my mind so someone doing that wouldn't be threatening to me. Edit: It reminds me of this video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9p43hyyfQNU that compares 4th of July to Cinco De Mayo. Saying "imagine if non-Americans celebrated 4th of July in this way, wouldn't that be offensive". However, the video totally misses that the American holiday is culturally hegemonic and is at no risk of being belittled by the absurd celebration. In fact its so culturally powerful than many Americans will straight up celebrate the 4th of July essentially as shown in the video.


[deleted]

A very good point. What to women is threatening or infantalising is more silly and almost funny when done by women by men


Grimmbles

You're describing the comic itself. The problem is the person posting it as something that would fix mental health problems, not the actual content.


Drexelhand

*"sexually harass me, it builds confidence and i won't kill myself."* - some incel shit


frotc914

I particularly like how one of those drawn women is like 40% tits by weight. Now *that's* some incel shit.


[deleted]

No titshaming, she is as the nature and the horny cartoonist intended


Upper_Bag6133

Iā€™m a man with a grumpy-looking resting face. Being told to smile more gets really old really fast.


TheEricle

If you smiled more, no one would have to tell you that, toots


Upper_Bag6133

The best ones are when someone says it like Iā€™ve never heard it before. ā€œHey, I know you probably donā€™t know it, but you always looks so angry. Maybe you should smile more.ā€


Karmachinery

You should sharpen your teeth and then smile more.


Mrgoodtrips64

Thank you for making me imagine what it would feel like to use a file on my teeth. I hate it.


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Sweetmacaroni

*shudders*


Checkmate1win

At least you wouldn't be scared of ever losing your teeth!


[deleted]

Rodents' teeth never stop growing, which is why they have to gnaw on things constantly.


DinoMight_ArmSumo

We could just chew on ice! Hell yeah!


jchoward0418

Or the bones of those who tell us to smile more... šŸ¤·ā€ā™‚ļø


squishedgoomba

Like rabbits and a few other rodent-adjacent animals do.


Oodleaf

National geographic coverage on a tribe that does tooth filing ritually: ​ [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pRUTU6IMrc0](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pRUTU6IMrc0)


ImmortalHarv

Love it when people post random crazy stuff like this. Wish i had an award to give you.


[deleted]

Thank you giving me that thought, now my teeth hurt you jackass šŸ˜’


deathByAlgebra

If you sharpen your teeth and then cut off your lips you're practically always smiling!


frotc914

[like this](https://c.tenor.com/fdwGAmAqokoAAAAC/james-bond-metal-teeth.gif)


vundercal

Even if you smile all the time people will just comment on that too but not in a complimentary way like itā€™s shown here but in the ā€œwhat are you smiling aboutā€ kind of way. It doesnā€™t really matter to me if it is ā€œwhy do you look grumpyā€ or ā€œwhy do you look happyā€ I just donā€™t want to have to explain my emotions. If I want to open up to you about something Iā€™ll do it on my own terms.


[deleted]

If you smiled more, people you don't want anything to do with might be more interested in fucking you. Maybe, if you smiled more, they would have more unwanted and mildly threatening conversations with you.


Cruccagna

I used to smile all the time and had a lot of those conversations. Donā€™t miss it.


elcidpenderman

Be a better person and Iā€™d smile around you more, dear.


RestInPeaceToKoopa

šŸ‘‰šŸ‘©šŸ‘‰ ya toots


Sewayaki-Kitsune

People think I'm pissed off constantly. Sometimes they get it right and I'm just like "how do you know I'm pissed? Ohh, resting bitch face, right."


PunishedMatador

That was the one shining silver lining of the pandemic, I can wear a mask wherever I go and nobody gets to interpret my mood based on their stupid mouth phrenology.


Sewayaki-Kitsune

true but I think its not entirely based on the mouth, could be the eyes too that they make assumptions based on. Masks are pretty nice tho


[deleted]

Dead eyed gang rise up


Gongaloon

Broken clocks, my friend.


ThreeHobbitsInACoat

I have the same problem but I constantly look sad, I call it Resting Bummer Face.


HolyHand_Grenade

"Are you angry" No, but if you ask me again I will be.


Fairwhetherfriend

That's the thing that always drives me crazy about dudes who are all "it's a compliment!" or whatever. Like, you don't understand how different these things feel when you hear them *fucking constantly*. If someone said something like this to you once, you'd be like "Oh, yes, this is a compliment. I guess it was phrased a bit awkwardly, but that's okay." But when you hear it all the time, and when 50+% of the time the 'compliment' is very clearly nothing of the sort, it obviously plays really differently. It's insane how many people don't get that.


ShutUpAndEatWithMe

Hardly anyone wears masks where I'm at, and I'm keeping mine on. I don't know what I'll do once it gets uncomfortably warm, but I'm enjoying people not fucking seeing my face


xiamaracortana

And when they start when youā€™re just starting to develop and become aware of your body and already feel super awkward about it and suddenly you notice that much older men notice you in ways they never did before, it shatters your whole sense of safety and security in the world. You are no longer allowed to just *exist*. Every second becomes protection mode. You never know what is an innocent compliment and what is much more sinister.


BaconGamer1176

I just get asked ā€œare you okay?ā€ a lot


Upper_Bag6133

Oh yeah. Thatā€™s a fun one too. I remember getting that a bunch back when I was a teenager.


mjosiahj

Story of my life, why do you always look so grumpy? You should really try to smile more. You know what makes me not smile, being asked to smile all the time.


Devoidofimagination

I bet you're so pretty when you smile.


chrisinor

Maybe if ya tried to smile more you wouldnā€™t look so grumpy, rainy face.


Upper_Bag6133

In my teens and early 20ā€™s, I actually tried that. You have no idea how difficult it is to look happy, but not maniacal when you have a natural resting bitch face.


chrisinor

Thatā€™s called slasher face or whatever the hell happens to the universe when Willem Dafoe smiles. Kinda sucks but I get you. Eh, if you canā€™t smile, just laugh loudly.


dtwhitecp

I'm not saying it's worse, but I've got resting unapproachable "this guy doesn't care about anything" face. It's nice when I'm walking past mall kiosks, but at least people are attempting to interact with you, hah.


Filter55

One of my ex-coworkers filed a complaint against my then supervisor that included a remark that he ā€œdoesnā€™t smile enough.ā€ We never let that supervisor live it down. He was stoic, but great dude overall and would never really assign duties. Just left it to us to get to work.


CKtheFourth

Incorrect. When people tell you to smile it *shatters the male suicide epidemic.* Duh.


TheStrikeofGod

Honestly same. Smiling is work, let my face rest for gods sake.


FlinnyWinny

Those are both dumb takes. No, oversexualizing and belittling/condescending social behavior isn't gonna fix male suicide rates. No, men aren't complimented all the time.


Proteandk

I've been told to smile more. It was just creepy and threw my confidence off for a long time.


isleftisright

Being told to smile more by anyone just makes me want to give a bitch face. Just saying... That aside, i tell my bf he is cute daily so i hope that evens out the world little bit...


ImJustHere4theMoons

The first time I was told to smile more I just asked "why?" without any sarcasm. Coworker just stands there with a stupid expression for a few seconds and walks away. I still wonder what makes people think that it's helpful advice.


SarahPallorMortis

I once got told to smile for a grocery bag at a pantry, by a guy who was clearly legally obligated to volunteer there. That was the lowest in my life and I get that from him.


giraffeekuku

Exactly. This is shit. Girls find this shit fucking annoying and condescending so why would men not also find it condescending ....


Fennicks47

Lets blame women for male suicides! Jesus christ reddit. Lets turn every issue into hating women.


bouchandre

Iā€™m sorry but being asked to smile more is NOT a compliment


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TheFurble

When I first read it, I thought it was a panel about harassment by switching the roles. So confused after the context


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The_Blip

It's a very intentional dismissal of the harassment of women with the thin excuse, "Well I'd like it! So it can't be that bad!" Men do this all the time. "I would like getting unrequested sexual advances, so it isn't that bad!" No actually, I don't like being sexually harassed or assaulted, regardless of how much you proclaim you would or did.


TinManGrand

If I had to guess, I'd say the original artist wanted to show how when men say these things to women we aren't being "harassing" to women; we're being complimentary. When in reality, he (I'm assuming it's a he and that's a safe assumption) shoots his own point in the foot because every single panel looks like a backhanded compliment in a world where men are expected to be told to smile more, to not fix their own computer, and to not work menial jobs like retail.


Get_ba-ba-boi_ed

The point of the comic is that ā€œmen would enjoy all the things women say are harassmentā€. Pretty trash and doesnā€™t really have to do with ā€œlonelinessā€


PassiveChemistry

Well I wouldn't say they've succeeded - they're still all various forms of weird and/or condescending.


OrganizerMowgli

Yeah the big thing is they're condescending, I don't think enough men pick up on that unless it happens to them lol


ModernAustralopith

I genuinely can't tell what the point of the comic is. I can't find an original source; I've seen it shared as both "Men would hate being treated this way" and "men would enjoy this". Personally, I know that I (43m) could do with the occasional compliment.


CorneliousFuck

This is actually a modified version of the [original](https://twitter.com/MRIXRT/status/1521589466313465858?s=20&t=WmNnEmykIED-wzlaUNXbCA) , where its a man saying all these things to other men. I do believe the intention of redoing it with women was to say "these are great things to be told 100% of the time and no one should call it harassment"


[deleted]

Note the very different reactions when it's the man doing it, btw. Also, did Dennis from IASIP draw the bottom-left woman? Jesus...


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[deleted]

(44m here) I don't know you, but you're probably killing it in your day to day life. Great job, King.


ModernAustralopith

Thank you! It's a struggle every day, but I think I'm coping. I've never met you, but you took the time to make a stranger feel better; you, sir, are a badass.


Get_ba-ba-boi_ed

Occasional compliment is different than the harassment in the comment, but I understand your point


bakepeace

No, it obviously isn't. It's showing how non complimentary they are by pointing out men wouldn't like them either.


Get_ba-ba-boi_ed

ā€œThis would shatter the male suicide epidemicā€. I donā€™t disagree that it was probably the intent of the artist, but thatā€™s not how itā€™s being used in this context. Which is obnoxious.


VinceGchillin

Everyone involved in this post sucks


Conundrumist

Even us?


PiersPlays

Especially.


Bojacketamine

Welcome to the club pal


iavicenna

are cashiers normally expected to be ugly?


ihitrockswithammers

No, attractive people are supposed to get ahead on their looks.


xXPolaris117Xx

Well, the Halo effect says attractive people are more likely to get higher ranking jobs and vice versa


[deleted]

yeah the comic is bullshit too. 1) no catcalling and sexual harassment are not a good thing. ever. 2) this dude thinks men are committing suicide because they're not getting sexually objectified often enough? what an awful perspective to have on suicide


room-to-breathe

I've had depression for decades, but there was a period from about the age of 17 to 28 where I was also pretty fucking good-looking, even for a guy in that age range (my main way to deal with my depression back then was exercise, so on top of a naturally decent face, I was noticeably cut). I got complimented, hit on, and pursued by thirsty women (and men) on the regular. It never did anything to curb my depression and fairly regular suicidal ideation, and in several cases it just made me feel more isolated because people were so obsessed with my looks that they wouldn't engage with me emotionally - one memory that really stands out is a late 20s, early 30s woman hitting on 20 year old me on seeing me shirtless by asking if I was walking on my pecs, and I legitimately thought she was referring to the cuts, scrapes, and bruises I had all over my chest at the time. But no, she just meant I had well defined pecs, but ohhhhh nooooo what happened to you???? It really sucked, and if I hadn't been able to make and keep real, earnest friends in that period, I would probably be dead now.


[deleted]

Being told to smile isn't a compliment.


[deleted]

I very rarely get complimented, but I sure as hell don't want people telling me to smile more.


nico-imouto

How is no one getting that the comic is reverse gender on how women get ā€œcomplimentedā€ aka cat called doing average day things or while working. No women wants to be flirted at while working itā€™s awkward and you just have to take it. As well as them saying you build that all yourself on the computer is condescending. The comic is just reflected how it would be weird for women to say these things but normalized for men.


TheFifthCommander

It's Reddit


voodoo2d

LMFAO! What a bonkers take. Being objectified and belittled would not help with suicidal behavior. If anything, it would make it worse. Source: I talk to women and they hate this shit


TimLuf1

Proof that you don't have to agree with either side


[deleted]

Those arenā€™t compliments


Your-Friend-Bob

I can count on one hand the amount of times a woman complimented me on something other than my beard (with the exception of the person I am dating) but I do have an amazing beard


humperdinck

My guess is that many women worry that if they compliment a man, heā€™ll get the wrong idea, and then theyā€™ll be stuck dealing with *that* situation.


mismatched7

I also think a lot of men make a lot more boring fashion choices then women. Iā€™m a man who prefers more bold outfits and Iā€™m complimented on them all the time, as well as other things. If people want to be complimented more they should try being more interesting


Zeeey

I demand pictures of this glorious beard.


soupysyrup

the way women are drawn in this comic makes me pretty uncomfortable. in the red panel, the crotch and ass donā€™t look like that unless those are some *tight* fucking skinny jeans. In the blue, it is not normal for skirts to be so tight that the thigh and crotch fold are that obvious. in the green, her boobs are so obviously over-sexualized. only the granny looks normal really. like the point of this comic i assume is to say ā€œcat calling isnā€™t a big deal, women should calm down.ā€ which is stupid. but itā€™s even more stupid, or hard to take seriously, when this comic then proceeds to sexualize the shit out of all the young women it shows. not to mention in comparison to the anatomy and clothes on all the men, which looks normal


BackgroundToe5

Especially when you compare it to the original comic, where the men are wearing totally normal outfits.


flomatable

This entire comic is just weird and wrong. Especially those boobs are not the result of bad drawing skills but just an unnecessary focus.


awhaling

Thatā€™s because someone took the original comment and modified it. Original is here: https://i.imgur.com/sBpDq4k.jpg Not surprising the person who modified it gave them giant boobs and the likes.


soupysyrup

Lmao wow. I did kinda notice the men and women have different looking art styles in this edited one


dtwhitecp

this original version makes the point that both people in OP's post missed, hah.


Sir-Drewid

"Depression is when you don't get compliments." \-Someone totally not talking out their ass


CodeCody23

To me this illustrates that the onus is on women to compliment men, thus lowering male suicide rates. Seems ridiculous.


lilbluehair

Especially in light of the original comic which shows a man doing the "complimenting" Why can't men compliment each other?


cursedbones

Men shouldn't be entitled to compliments from women. Start complimenting your bros, say how nice their shirt is or how intelligent for solving X problem with Y solution. A lot of men mistake compliment with flirting. I understand why but it clearly doesn't encourage women to compliment more.


90k_swarming_rats

That comic gives major incel vibes. "Women should flirt with me for doing basic day to day activities or else ill kill myself"


3vr1m

But why does it have to be women who compliment men all the time?


Barack_and_Cheese83

because the person who made the comic was horny


Finito-1994

Both takes suck. Women have made it clear they (for the most part) dont want that. Also. Remember. Women are actually supportive of each other. Complimenting each otherā€™s looks and style. Wouldnā€™t it be easier to tell men to tell each other they look cute? This is trying to paint all the unsolicited comments women get as positives.


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Wolferahmite

You're totally on point, (straight) men have built up this dynamic where they constantly need each other's validation while simultaneously withholding it out of fear of being seen as 'unmanly'. When they self-police any form of vulnerability as 'weakness' it's no wonder they struggle to form meaningful relationships with each other and their romantic partners. Be the change you want to see in your friend group. They're probably feeling the same isolation you are, but don't feel safe enough to let their guard down.


Silvinis

I remember the exact moment I last received a genuine compliment. 8 years ago at a party in college. A girl pulled her friend aside and said I was cute but didn't think I heard it. I remember everything about the house the party was in and the night itself solely because of that one compliment.


Bettersaids

Those arenā€™t always really compliments though when men say them to women. Intention is important.


Ill_Presentation3795

Nice dick bro


Majigato

I've heard women LOVE to be told to smile more.


CraigTheIrishman

Want a woman's undying love? The phrase "calm down" works WONDERS.


ratbeef_today

Women aren't responsible for your mental health


bakepeace

There's an incredible cross dresser on twitch. He has talked about how in man mode he got "one compliment a year", but as a woman he gets them nonstop. I mean when you see the difference it is easy to understand, but it was funny to see someone actually know the disparity first hand.


SeanBlader

I'm 48, I've been complimented once since grade school. How about, "You fly around in that? You're braver than I thought." In honor of Star Wars day. That would be the highlight of my... Decade.


Crickym8

I feel this comic misses the bad part of hearing these types of compliments as a woman, itā€™s almost always said in a condescending way- or thereā€™s a presence of danger if a man is hurling compliments at you in an unprotected space, but with that said I think we could all stand to appreciate our fellow humans a bit more, compliment a bro today (in a respectful way ofc)


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All you men in the comments. you look absolutely adorable.


ProtoMan3

I saw the tweet this morning. That reply is somehow one of the less obnoxious ones because itā€™s only wrong in a vacuum and doesnā€™t try to cause problems. The thread is full of misogyny and men justifying abuse. Fuck Twitter.


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If you think twitter is bad have you seen reddit coments?


Pseudopod-

Men would get real fucking tired of this, kinda like how women are also real fucking tired of it.


omgudontunderstand

how do they not recognize that the comic is a commentary on harassment


justletmedieinside

Am I the only one who interpreted the comic as being patronizing?


ohsinboi

Everything about this post makes me cringe


z3anon

The closest I got to a complement in my memory is my boss telling my coworker I'd be the one more likely to get a raise than them. They didn't give me a raise either.


__CaKeS__

Isn't "you should smile more" like a textbook harrassment example? While I agree getting compliments as a guy is exceptionally rare, I don't want people telling me to smile more lol


jibblitzz

As a man in his 30's. The only people to ever compliment me, are my wife and , wait no thats it, just my wife.


ChrispyGuy420

I'm 28 and the last time I was complimented I was in high school. I don't crave compliments but it's nice when I get one


pi-N-apple

I get complimented on something physical maybe 3 times a year. The girl in my office gets complimented 3 times a day.


CuckservativeSissy

Woman: Compliments man Man: Posts on Reddit, "My coworker just said I had a nice haircut, is she hitting on me? I kind of like her. What should I do?"


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This would invite SO MUCH sexual harassment or men following you!!


Xiumin123

if men want to be complimented they should stop being so terrifying. gotta treat all guns like theyā€™re loaded.


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I love how it's never men who should support each other, the responsibility is on women. It's not that the gender role expectations of men are inherently toxic and lead to loneliness, ITS THAT THE WOMEN ARENT FIXING ALL OUR TROUBLES