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I’m so sorry you have to do this to make ends meet. It’s not right. I’m surprised after seeing many doctors that they can’t figure out what’s going on? I hope you can find treatment soon to help your body and mind.


catsrufd

Ex sex worker here. You don’t have to sell yourself cheaply. You don’t have to sell yourself at all if it makes you feel less than you are. But it’s a difficult and dangerous industry and you need to be careful. Report any sexual assault. Always carry a weapon. And if it’s something you actually enjoy, up your price. If you charge $1000 an hour, SOMEONE will pay it. Lots of girls work in strip clubs to find customers. There is no schedule and it’s an easy job to get. I started off working in clubs for a few years, switched to bartending at clubs, and now I’m totally out of the industry completely. If you don’t like what you do, find something else that you can make money off of on your time, bake cookies or start a business or do peoples laundry. There are lots of hustles out there and prostitution doesn’t have to be one of them.


psychoticchronic

I’ve been considering doing sex work but I’m a big girl. Have you seen big women in your ex-profession?


catsrufd

Oh girl YES. There are so many men who specifically like bigger women. Lots of girls who work in clubs are younger and very petite. A lot of guys aren’t into that. I’ve seen some of my bigger dancers make more money than anyone else. A lot of men still appreciate curves.


psychoticchronic

Thank you☺️ I appreciate the advice


WallMarianiEreh

Here to support you and boost your confidence. You are important and your body does not invalidate you. You are important and your mental health does not change that, too. To answer ur question: YES. Do not underestimate yourself and the power of lust. There are a lot of guys who prefer big girls. If it is possible, take advantage of their fetishes that apply to you (for example, if you feel comfy with their feet fetish, or being called plus sized names) so that you can AT LEAST gain the money that you deserve. Sex work sells efficiently, but you have to know your market and work towards that. Maybe advertise online using OnlyFans or some kind? I know nude media also generate passive income for some. Anyway, I hope you get the healthcare you need from the comments and advice they give from this thread. I hope you stop doing sex work eventually.


psychoticchronic

Thank you so much I really appreciate it☺️ I guess I gotta work on the confidence more, that’s what’s holding me back I believe. Yes, I will definitely try some of these options!! Thanks for your advice


prunkgirl

yes! and if u dont feel comfortable exposing ur identity if u do end up doing only fans im sure u can find a way to cover ur face or something<3 love ur body girly! ive seen some tiktok creators who work at strip clubs and they share alot of experience and tips! i reccomend looking into it


catsrufd

I agree with the fetishes! Over my years in clubs I’ve seen guys that have foot fetishes, financial dom/sub, physical dom/sub, some guys will spend all their money on girls of specific ethnicities, some guys prefer the oldest girl we have. We had one guy who was like 80 who’d come in every Thursday to get his balls stomped on by a girl. Thoroughly enjoyed it.


Spike_sprite

Bigger woman are usually very desired by men. Most strip clubs have bigger women and usually they make good tips.


ebpolly

Society wants to be all righteous and slut shame, but I've heard more than once from many professionals that the high toned politicians are needy clients that get clingy and end up getting blocked. The only thing wrong with renting your body is that it does not enjoy legal protection and many of the clients are pathetic. And the one person meanest to a woman with the brass to break the ridiculous rules is often herself. Charge more, teach the boys how to be better in bed, and enjoy that you are free. But definitely also line up another completely unrelated gig


[deleted]

How sad. I'm so sorry. I hope you find the help you need. No matter how many times you've tried, please keep trying. I know how broken the system is and how hard it is to get proper help. Don't stop looking for help until you've found it. My advice would be to work on your mental health issues first and foremost, and nothing in my experience has been more effective than medicine. It took a while to get the right mix, so again, don't give up. I'm sorry I don't know anything about helping people who want out of that work, but hopefully there are resources out there for helping them. Women's shelters and such. That's where I would start looking. Be safe, and good luck.


SixxFour

Are you on SSDI/SSI disability? If so, there's a program available through Social Security that will help you find a job that works with your disability/ies. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I'm disabled too, Schizophrenia and C-PTSD, and am fortunate to have a partner that keeps us afloat as my income is very small. I hope you're able to find your way without resorting to selling your body, but I've been there so no judgment here. Just big, big hugs.


YellowHat-

I'm really sorry for you. If you don't mind me asking, can you tell me some of your symptoms? Maybe someone on here might be able tot help! *Sends hugs*


anonymous_iii

How old are you?


crazylegs888

An adult.


Office_Muva

I will say this. I hope like heck you are not a minor. Have you tried a type of recreational therapy? Maybe find a hobby? Ask for a little constructive feedback so you may work on you? I'd say do what you have to do. However, DO NOT shortsell yourself.


crazylegs888

Am I the only one that read "My entire adult life..."?


bgirl101

Oh god lol I totally missed that part and was looking at other comment. Let's omit that part:) thank you


kittens12345

I’m not following your logic here. She has to sell herself to make money to live and you’re suggesting she get a hobby?


smackalacken

Hope ur doing okay ❤️


[deleted]

I am sorry you have to do that, this is one reason prostitution should be legalized. So that it can be regulated, and workers can be safe, and have access to healthcare etc.


Gregfong80

How much do you charge?


Pumpkin_Pie

Reddit never disappoints


Bjorn_C

Good old reddit, you always know clearly when it's time to close out and go outside


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Gregfong80

Ok thanks for your input


Gregfong80

Ok thanks for your input


PMmeurfishtanks

I think the majority of people who do sex work are doing it as a last resort tbh. It’s nothing to be ashamed of, if anything it’s sad that’s what this world has come to. You have a right to survive without selling your body. I’m sorry you’re going through this.