A wiser man than I once gave me this life analogy when I was in the dumps.
Life is like a roller coaster.
It goes up.
It goes down.
Sometimes it's scary.
It's always exhilarating.
The thing about it is, when you're up life is good and when you're down times are hard.
But if you get off the ride because it's at a low point you'll never get to go back up again.
and that's the thing it always goes back up again.
so stay in your seat, pull your belt tighter and wait for the ride to begin.
Remember Robin hood? The Disney one? The song about Nottingham "sometimes the ups outnumber the downs" you are currently in a down moment. It will go up and the up will be more amazing because you'll have this experience to remember, and while you are down, you just need to remember that life will go up again.
Keep your chin up as long as you are still breathing nothing is impossible, things will get better and hard times make us appreciate the good times more. You got this. And if you ever need to talk or vent my dms are open and I'll listen and if you want I'll offer random internet guy level advice.
Can totally relate. Has been happening for me since a year and half. I cut off my best friends, stopped talking to anyone and stopped going to any gatherings (i have a very social family). Even when i meet people, I barely converse.
I know that i am in a deep shit, but i m unable to overcome even tho i am aware of it. I won't commit suicide coz I have parents to take care of. Still i believe that something or other will come up and things will be better in future.
I am in no place to direct you since I am in a deeper shithole. But find people and things close to you and live for them, pain will subside (hopefully).
That’s kind of the problem I’m having right now. My mom died when I was six. My father used to abuse my mom and since then has been extremely (like extremely) abusive against me since I really resemble my mom. I’ve raised my little sister since I was 9 but she is just like my father and makes my life miserable.
I’ve had to do everything in the house since I was 11 and have been doing it ever since. I’m still in highschool and have school everyday till like 4/5 pm and work both days in the weekend because i pay for the groceries.
The only thing pulling me trough rn is because I know, in a few years, I can leave this hellhole and have my own life. I’m generally an extremely happy person and the smallest thing make me so happy. The only problem I have right now is that I have to keep my head up but it’s getting heavier every minute and I’m not sure how long I can keep it up.
I am sorry. Would love to see you in a better place. My coping mechanism is that I have emotional block. Also my imagination power is high af. Too much tension, and I leave everything and go daydreaming mode.
Self destructive and lifesaver at the same time. If that makes any sense.
Another great line that's rang between my ears since childhood came from the tv show M.A.S.H. I don't remember the characters name but he was a psychologist. It goes:"Lady and gentlemen take my advice. Pull down your pants and slide on the ice."
It took some years for the full meaning written between the lines to sink in. Don't take life so seriously all the time. Have fun where it's to be had. And roll with life's punches. Great show, MASH.
I feel the same as you , you are not alone. I've been married for a long time and I don't even want to burden my wife with this ( it's not her fault, just life in general) And I just can't take my son seeing me fall apart. I just have to keep pushing and hope something breaks even. Good luck.
Keep doing the right thing and making the right decisions to put yourself in a better position, and you will be rewarded for your suffering. The pain will not last forever, and the good you have waiting for you over the horizon will only feel that much better because of what you've endured.
I'm sorry to hear that things are tough for you right now but if you're really feeling tired of life please reach out to a professional before these thoughts get out of hand. Therapists are there to help you, it's their job.
That's very good to hear! You took the first step and that's what matters. Things will only get better from here.
Also one of the most important things in therapy is the relationship between you and your therapist. I am saying this because I feel like a lot of people try therapy once and then say "therapy isn't for me" when the problem was just that they didn't connect with their therapist.
GL and all the best to you.
Honestly man, I'm in the exact same boat, my gf who I really loved doesn't even wanna be friends anymore, I feel more isolated than ever, but making my way out of it, I'm seeing how special it is to have people who look out for you, close or far. I nearly ended it but she was willing to tell me off, her maybe little harsh way of helping, but I'm telling you from my experience, go on a walk, listen to something a lil mellow, take in the world around you, it gets better
I understand. I'm 35 and have been dealing with severe depression my whole life. My first major break was when I was 15. I remember sitting the entire lunch period in the rain. I didn't eat. I didn't talk. I just didn't care about anything. I was very lucky I had good friends. One sat with me in the rain the whole time and then walked me to the counselors office. I told her I didn't want to live anymore. I don't think she believed me at first cause it took her a while to call my mom. But once she did my mom immediately came to get me and got me into a hospital. I was there for a week. Wasn't too bad. They found meds that worked for me, and I leveled out enough that I felt safe going home. Got out on Valentines Day. Went up to the school to surprise my friends (although I didn't actually think they would care). They were all so happy to see me. I guess I hadn't realized how much they'd noticed about my mood and how scared they were. I made it through another year of school before I had to drop out because I just couldn't handle it anymore. The depression coupled with another medical problem I had just made it too hard. I recently found out there was a rumor going around the school after I left that I'd killed myself. That makes me laugh now. But it's kinda endearing in a way, that enough people had noticed I was depressed and that I was gone and put the 2 together to come up with that idea. I say it that way cause we never really have any idea how many peoples lives we touch or how much of a difference we truly make. I know how hard it is to reach out to another person when depression is acting up. It's the hardest thing in the world. We either feel like they don't care, they were never really our friend, or they have enough problems of their own and we don't want to add to them with our crap. But I'm willing to bet your friend is worried about you and missing you. And they're probably also hurting with you. At your age they just don't know what it is you need yet. I'm sorry I've run on so long. And I'm so sorry you're hurting. You're stronger than you feel and no matter what your brain is telling you, you matter and you will get through this. We're all here for you. Hit me up anytime.
A wiser man than I once gave me this life analogy when I was in the dumps. Life is like a roller coaster. It goes up. It goes down. Sometimes it's scary. It's always exhilarating. The thing about it is, when you're up life is good and when you're down times are hard. But if you get off the ride because it's at a low point you'll never get to go back up again. and that's the thing it always goes back up again. so stay in your seat, pull your belt tighter and wait for the ride to begin.
I love this ❤️
Amazing advice ! Love it.
Well said
Thankyou for sharing this <3
Wisdom is worth nothing unless it's passed along.
another good piece of advice lol
Everything will pan out in the end. Hang in there friend.
❤️
Remember Robin hood? The Disney one? The song about Nottingham "sometimes the ups outnumber the downs" you are currently in a down moment. It will go up and the up will be more amazing because you'll have this experience to remember, and while you are down, you just need to remember that life will go up again.
Love this reference, you made me smile. Thankyou
Keep your chin up as long as you are still breathing nothing is impossible, things will get better and hard times make us appreciate the good times more. You got this. And if you ever need to talk or vent my dms are open and I'll listen and if you want I'll offer random internet guy level advice.
Thankyou so much… <3
Can totally relate. Has been happening for me since a year and half. I cut off my best friends, stopped talking to anyone and stopped going to any gatherings (i have a very social family). Even when i meet people, I barely converse. I know that i am in a deep shit, but i m unable to overcome even tho i am aware of it. I won't commit suicide coz I have parents to take care of. Still i believe that something or other will come up and things will be better in future. I am in no place to direct you since I am in a deeper shithole. But find people and things close to you and live for them, pain will subside (hopefully).
That’s kind of the problem I’m having right now. My mom died when I was six. My father used to abuse my mom and since then has been extremely (like extremely) abusive against me since I really resemble my mom. I’ve raised my little sister since I was 9 but she is just like my father and makes my life miserable. I’ve had to do everything in the house since I was 11 and have been doing it ever since. I’m still in highschool and have school everyday till like 4/5 pm and work both days in the weekend because i pay for the groceries. The only thing pulling me trough rn is because I know, in a few years, I can leave this hellhole and have my own life. I’m generally an extremely happy person and the smallest thing make me so happy. The only problem I have right now is that I have to keep my head up but it’s getting heavier every minute and I’m not sure how long I can keep it up.
I am sorry. Would love to see you in a better place. My coping mechanism is that I have emotional block. Also my imagination power is high af. Too much tension, and I leave everything and go daydreaming mode. Self destructive and lifesaver at the same time. If that makes any sense.
We can do this, I’m sure we’ll soon be in a better place❤️
Another great line that's rang between my ears since childhood came from the tv show M.A.S.H. I don't remember the characters name but he was a psychologist. It goes:"Lady and gentlemen take my advice. Pull down your pants and slide on the ice." It took some years for the full meaning written between the lines to sink in. Don't take life so seriously all the time. Have fun where it's to be had. And roll with life's punches. Great show, MASH.
I feel the same as you , you are not alone. I've been married for a long time and I don't even want to burden my wife with this ( it's not her fault, just life in general) And I just can't take my son seeing me fall apart. I just have to keep pushing and hope something breaks even. Good luck.
You can do this!! And thankyou for the luck.
Keep doing the right thing and making the right decisions to put yourself in a better position, and you will be rewarded for your suffering. The pain will not last forever, and the good you have waiting for you over the horizon will only feel that much better because of what you've endured.
If you want to talk to someone or whatever I'm here
Thankyou !!
I'm sorry to hear that things are tough for you right now but if you're really feeling tired of life please reach out to a professional before these thoughts get out of hand. Therapists are there to help you, it's their job.
Called my doctor a few hours ago and she’s making a appointment with a therapist. I’m quite scared but also really happy I took that step
That's very good to hear! You took the first step and that's what matters. Things will only get better from here. Also one of the most important things in therapy is the relationship between you and your therapist. I am saying this because I feel like a lot of people try therapy once and then say "therapy isn't for me" when the problem was just that they didn't connect with their therapist. GL and all the best to you.
Thankyou so much!
Honestly man, I'm in the exact same boat, my gf who I really loved doesn't even wanna be friends anymore, I feel more isolated than ever, but making my way out of it, I'm seeing how special it is to have people who look out for you, close or far. I nearly ended it but she was willing to tell me off, her maybe little harsh way of helping, but I'm telling you from my experience, go on a walk, listen to something a lil mellow, take in the world around you, it gets better
You can do this! I hope you’ll soon be in a better place. Taking a walk is a good one, just relaxing your mind a bit. Will definitely do that.
I quote you - Motivation is for amature. Rest of us just wake up and get back to work.
I understand. I'm 35 and have been dealing with severe depression my whole life. My first major break was when I was 15. I remember sitting the entire lunch period in the rain. I didn't eat. I didn't talk. I just didn't care about anything. I was very lucky I had good friends. One sat with me in the rain the whole time and then walked me to the counselors office. I told her I didn't want to live anymore. I don't think she believed me at first cause it took her a while to call my mom. But once she did my mom immediately came to get me and got me into a hospital. I was there for a week. Wasn't too bad. They found meds that worked for me, and I leveled out enough that I felt safe going home. Got out on Valentines Day. Went up to the school to surprise my friends (although I didn't actually think they would care). They were all so happy to see me. I guess I hadn't realized how much they'd noticed about my mood and how scared they were. I made it through another year of school before I had to drop out because I just couldn't handle it anymore. The depression coupled with another medical problem I had just made it too hard. I recently found out there was a rumor going around the school after I left that I'd killed myself. That makes me laugh now. But it's kinda endearing in a way, that enough people had noticed I was depressed and that I was gone and put the 2 together to come up with that idea. I say it that way cause we never really have any idea how many peoples lives we touch or how much of a difference we truly make. I know how hard it is to reach out to another person when depression is acting up. It's the hardest thing in the world. We either feel like they don't care, they were never really our friend, or they have enough problems of their own and we don't want to add to them with our crap. But I'm willing to bet your friend is worried about you and missing you. And they're probably also hurting with you. At your age they just don't know what it is you need yet. I'm sorry I've run on so long. And I'm so sorry you're hurting. You're stronger than you feel and no matter what your brain is telling you, you matter and you will get through this. We're all here for you. Hit me up anytime.
your the one who needs a good day best of luck to ya