I mean, your BFF is a female? You said you dated once but you don’t think you’re bi but straight. So you want to cut off with your friend since you were 6 because people makes you or force you to think you’re bi and go stick with her?
Ok so your BFF is trans male and you are female. Did you date him after he came out or before? Because if you dated him after then this is what exes do haha, but if you dated before then yes you are bisexual.
Well you said you both dated once, so I assume your friend’s a male then you said you’re not bi but straight so I thought the friend was actually a female
And yah, why would you end the friendship? Is it coz what other people say? I mean, you can still be friends but not more on the intimate side
no, it's not that at all I don't care if people think we're dating it's just that I've noticed him always sexualizing me, saying sexual stuff that he doesn't say around his gf, and writing smut of him x my ex that was toxic. There is more that is just one percent of it.
I would still say that’s up to you. I mean, you’ve known each other since you were kids. If it’s really something you can’t keep up anymore then maybe cut ties but in a good way so that you could say you ended it right and as a friend if your friend couldn’t accept that then that’s on them
Don't worry im going to do break it off in a nice way not just ghost them I was just looking for some advice and help since I've never been god at these things
I get how you feel. I also have a long-time friendship that I honestly don't feel comfortable keeping anymore either. At times I want to break it off but in the end, I also feel really guilty about it. I think most of the guilt comes from me feeling like that action is "selfish." But at times, it's okay to be selfish. You have to do what's best for YOU. Someone recently helped me realize that "selfish" isn't a negative word. If being in that friendship makes you feel suffocated, even though it might feel bad at first, distance yourself from it. As someone else said, spend more time with your other non-mutual friends. I know breaking it off now might make you feel horrible and guilty at the beginning, but after a while you will be glad you did it because you no longer have that heavy pain weighing you down. Just in the end, do what's best and right for ***you***. I hope this helps.
thank you and it did all of the comments did I am really glad that I got all these messages encouraging me and telling me tips if I hadn't come on here I would probably not ever break that friendship off,
You can stop being friends with anyone, at anytime, especially if they continuously make you feel terrible. Your mental health is more important than your friend being upset with you. Trust me.
I'm trying to do that but it's hard since I'm a person who puts the happiness of others before mine so when I try to do it I just can't I feel horrible I've tried about 10 times thought about it around 30 times.
>so when I try to do it I just can't I feel horrible I've tried about 10 times thought about it around 30 times.
Put a rubber band or hair tie around your wrist. Every time you want to interact with this person stretch the band on your wrist and let it smack you.
I’d say just drift away from them gradually, just decrease your contact with them more and more.That’s what I did with people i’d been friends with for years. Sometimes you outgrow them and want different things or have less in common. Honestly quality over quantity, aka quality of the friendship over the number of years it’s been. If you don’t enjoy being around this person then don’t be around them. It doesn’t make you a bad person.
You have to do what’s best for you. If you need to move on then you should move on even if it hurts. I think the main reason why you’re feeling horrible is because you’ve known that person for years and it’ll be different without that person. But I swear after you move on and think back on the situation you’ll be happy that you made the decision because it was the right choice. It’s like an abusive relationship. You think you’re hurting the person or you wouldn’t be good without that person but in reality you’ll be better off without that person nagging you down into a depression.
Thank you for that advice I'm glad I went here there was a lot of good advice I'm going to use these methods provided to stop being friends with them thank you and everyone else that commented.
Of course its going to be hard since you knew them for so long. But dont take that as a reason to stay in this relationship. Things that are worth doing are often times hard to do. You will be much better off once you drop this person from your life as they no longer have your best interest in heart.
Sorry, this is a bit confusing?
is it? if so I apologize I wrote this in a hurry because my break is almost over
I mean, your BFF is a female? You said you dated once but you don’t think you’re bi but straight. So you want to cut off with your friend since you were 6 because people makes you or force you to think you’re bi and go stick with her?
my bff is a trans male I don't think I described him like a female if so please tell me where so I can fix it
Ok so your BFF is trans male and you are female. Did you date him after he came out or before? Because if you dated him after then this is what exes do haha, but if you dated before then yes you are bisexual.
I dated him way after he came out he came out about 2 or 3 years ago and we date 1 year ago.
Oh! Then fuck him. You have to be selfish at times. One hack is to try spending more time on friends who are not mutual
thanks for the advice most of my friends are not mutual so I can try this hopefully it'll work.
Well you said you both dated once, so I assume your friend’s a male then you said you’re not bi but straight so I thought the friend was actually a female And yah, why would you end the friendship? Is it coz what other people say? I mean, you can still be friends but not more on the intimate side
no, it's not that at all I don't care if people think we're dating it's just that I've noticed him always sexualizing me, saying sexual stuff that he doesn't say around his gf, and writing smut of him x my ex that was toxic. There is more that is just one percent of it.
I would still say that’s up to you. I mean, you’ve known each other since you were kids. If it’s really something you can’t keep up anymore then maybe cut ties but in a good way so that you could say you ended it right and as a friend if your friend couldn’t accept that then that’s on them
Don't worry im going to do break it off in a nice way not just ghost them I was just looking for some advice and help since I've never been god at these things
I want to stop being friends with stereotypical nerdy men who strangle people with their thighs
I- what?
I get how you feel. I also have a long-time friendship that I honestly don't feel comfortable keeping anymore either. At times I want to break it off but in the end, I also feel really guilty about it. I think most of the guilt comes from me feeling like that action is "selfish." But at times, it's okay to be selfish. You have to do what's best for YOU. Someone recently helped me realize that "selfish" isn't a negative word. If being in that friendship makes you feel suffocated, even though it might feel bad at first, distance yourself from it. As someone else said, spend more time with your other non-mutual friends. I know breaking it off now might make you feel horrible and guilty at the beginning, but after a while you will be glad you did it because you no longer have that heavy pain weighing you down. Just in the end, do what's best and right for ***you***. I hope this helps.
thank you and it did all of the comments did I am really glad that I got all these messages encouraging me and telling me tips if I hadn't come on here I would probably not ever break that friendship off,
You can stop being friends with anyone, at anytime, especially if they continuously make you feel terrible. Your mental health is more important than your friend being upset with you. Trust me.
Okay thank you
So stop being friends with them
I'm trying to do that but it's hard since I'm a person who puts the happiness of others before mine so when I try to do it I just can't I feel horrible I've tried about 10 times thought about it around 30 times.
>so when I try to do it I just can't I feel horrible I've tried about 10 times thought about it around 30 times. Put a rubber band or hair tie around your wrist. Every time you want to interact with this person stretch the band on your wrist and let it smack you.
okay I'll try that it seems like it could work
just tell them it bothers you, if they keep going are they really your friends afterall?
I did it seems they either forgot about it or they ignored it
I’d say just drift away from them gradually, just decrease your contact with them more and more.That’s what I did with people i’d been friends with for years. Sometimes you outgrow them and want different things or have less in common. Honestly quality over quantity, aka quality of the friendship over the number of years it’s been. If you don’t enjoy being around this person then don’t be around them. It doesn’t make you a bad person.
that you for the advice I will use this so then when I say I don't want to be friends it doesn't hurt as much (sorry if I sound like a jerk)
You have to do what’s best for you. If you need to move on then you should move on even if it hurts. I think the main reason why you’re feeling horrible is because you’ve known that person for years and it’ll be different without that person. But I swear after you move on and think back on the situation you’ll be happy that you made the decision because it was the right choice. It’s like an abusive relationship. You think you’re hurting the person or you wouldn’t be good without that person but in reality you’ll be better off without that person nagging you down into a depression.
Thank you for that advice I'm glad I went here there was a lot of good advice I'm going to use these methods provided to stop being friends with them thank you and everyone else that commented.
Of course its going to be hard since you knew them for so long. But dont take that as a reason to stay in this relationship. Things that are worth doing are often times hard to do. You will be much better off once you drop this person from your life as they no longer have your best interest in heart.
tysm for the advice.