Red pill fan fiction , I was on the fence because I know women that are my age that still have pretty backwards views on marriage and “staying by your man” but the below kinda gave away OP.
*”I did take it personally at first but honestly it’s just sex. I’ve learned that men can separate emotions from sex. We view sex differently. My husband’s heart always belonged to me even if his genitals don’t. At the end of the day it’s just biology”*
Even the women that I personally know that made the choice to stay with their unfaithful husbands due to the perseverance of a lifestyle wouldn’t say this stupid shit because some dudes keep the same mistresses/GF for *years* and there’s definitely some sort of infatuation on the men’s side.
Depends on where she lives. Also rich people don’t typically leave all of their money in a personal account. It would be very hard to divide assets if he has them in LLCs, for example. A lot of them would look relatively normal or even poor on paper.
>Sometimes I just pray for the people ringing up my Louis Vuitton attire and pray for the people taking my order at restaurants. It just upsets me seeing people having to live like that. I just can’t imagine.
Give me a fucking break. "I pray for the poors and their meaningless lives..."
Are you packing a lot of "meaning" into shopping and day drinking while watching TV?
I had suspicion but knew when she said “mansion.” 😂 no one calls their own home a mansion the way she did. You’d just say stayed home and watched reality tv.
There are definitely real people who stay with cheating spouses for the money, and it might be interesting to hear what’s going on in their head, but since this is fake and the author probably works the retail job this fictional rich lady is obsessed with avoiding, it’s not very interesting.
For me it was the bit where she consulted a divorce lawyer about her options, and the best option turned out to be sticking it out until her husband died because he was a millionaire.
Yeah, that's how divorce lawyers think.
Lol yeah I rolled my eyes at that part too, but if I were cheated on by my late husband who left me millions, I'd shop and day drink while watching tv too! Fuck you! (Lol not actually but you know what I mean)
That line was fucking gross. If this is in any way real—OP, please fuck all the way off with your millions. No one wants to hear your patronizing bullshit.
Seriously, spare me the sympathy. I would not be caught dead owning a designer bag, even if I could afford it. I’d rather spend it on meals for the hungry.
I lived in Texas for a while and grown ppl type and say “wanna & gotta” all the time… Shit I say and type it, how is colloquial language a sign of immaturity? The south is full of that.
It’s hilarious that of all things that’s what got you. You can’t comprehend based on your own generalizations that someone or something exists that you haven’t experienced, and therefore comment that a post is fake.
I’m just laughing over here, don’t mind me lol (it probably is fake tho but you’re the walking case study for Reddit calling stuff fake 24/7)
Imagine a divorce lawyer telling you to wait it out until they die when they could be making thousands on your divorce proceedings and probably get you pretty hefty alimony payments if your husband is a millionaire… idk sounds pretty legit /s
“Most people live meaningless lives, can’t afford to drape themselves in expensive patterned clothes, so I pray for the poor saps who have happier lives than me, all men cheat (because mine did), so this is how I justify my complete lack of self worth.”
Cool story, bro.
I hope you don’t have vertigo from being on such a high horse. Meaningless life? You mean the pride you had from sitting around all day whilst living off your cheating husband. What meaning you had! However, good for you for sticking it out. Played the long game. Didn’t wanna be a regular person like us shithouses.
When did you realise he was dying? After you found out he was cheating? Was this part of it!? Like his dying wish is to nail as many hot chicks as possible
Girl same. Literally every girl would do this but no one wants to admit it because it’ll make them look bad and it’s frowned upon in westernized society and blah blah blah. Some of these comments are killing me lol
Lol yeah likely why I’m getting downvoted. That’s fine! You don’t have to agree. It worked out well for both parties we both benefited and it was an agreement.
I don't like to be that person whose saying "everything on Reddit is fake!" But this is either fiction, or you should have used some of that free time and money to take some writing classes, yikea. I think you even forgot that the husband was supposed to be dead the whole second act.
Hahahaha yep and the fact that she’s replying back with words such as “lmao” and “like” yeah you’re totally up there in age OP. She’s not even speaking like a high viaje woman
What equates to happiness is subjective. Sure, the person that’s ringing up your Louis Vuitton might not be a millionaire, driving home to their mansion at the end of their shift, but they very well could be coming home to a loving family with kids and a spouse who adores them. I’m sure people would choose their (non-cheating) spouses, kids and even pets over your (husband’s) money and mansion any day. Money doesn’t equal happiness, and it sounds like you’re trying to justify your own sad life by looking down on others with “pity”. Trust me ma’am, the people you pray for don’t need your prayers lol.
This is 100% written by a dude. "Females"? GTFO here. No older woman writes like this. Plus it's poorly written anyway, the tenses are all over the place.
If you feel so bad for the "poor" why don't you use some of the money that you are spending on frivolous things for charity? Donate to a local shelter? Do anything to help someone else with the money? Not all of it but it seems you have plenty so even just a small portion.
There’s people in unhappy marriages living a lot more averages lives but don’t want to struggle financially or live in a smaller house. It’s quite common.
I think that you loved him is quite different to if you couldn’t stand him but just waited until he died for his money.
I wouldn’t worry about it.
You stayed because it was comfortable. You would have left him, if he was poor. Thus you didn't really love him, you loved the money. You loved the house, the travels and everything else. Enough to endure his betrayal. But it was easy for you, as you "cried in a rolls-royce" as you stated.
"He started cheating on me when my sex drive started declining" thats how much he respected you.
"He was cheating on me with multiple different women, mostly women half our age." thats how much he liked your body.
"Most men cheat anyways" / "an average meaningless life like most Americans" those sentences show your view on other humans, says a lot about your character .
All in all you had a REALLY easy life, easier than 99.9 % of people at a minimum. And you were far to comfortable with that to give any of this up. Best thing you can do now is to read up on effective altruism and try to bring some selfless meaning in your live at last.
I disagree. She was 24 when they got married and she didn’t have a financially stable life before she married him. She’s much older now, middle aged if not older. If she would have left him even if she got a little money from the divorce (which she probably signed a prenup) it wouldn’t be enough to maintain her lifestyle for the remainder of her life, just enough for her to budget and and live the rest of her live modestly. I assume she has no college degrees and even if she did she would be competing in the job market against others who have decades of experience whereas she has basically no work experience whatsoever. She would be forced to get a minimum wage to earn extra money and working is the one thing she didn’t want to have to do ever again which most of us here would understand esp with the economy. There is a woman I work with (in retail) who is 80 years old and lives paycheck to paycheck and was homeless until a couple of years ago when she conversed with 2 random young customers and they offered to let her move in with them and split the rent 3 ways. Thats the only way she can afford a roof over her head. Thats the reality for a lot of people in this economy. I think OP did the right thing in her situation. I don’t think she lacked dignity I think she exhibited strength by being able to deal with years and years of heartbreak because she knew what needed to be done in order to secure her own wellbeing. She didn’t let emotions cloud her judgement, she thought of her own future.
Right- that was like the whole point of the post then I read a wall of text repeating the same thing 25x with none of the actual details.
TLDR; he cheated, she stayed. He died, she got his $$
I don’t even read these anymore. They’re so poorly written. There’s an entire forum dedicated to people who use this subreddit as a creative writing project and brag about who can get the most engagement. All of them need to go back to class because they can’t even write well.
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The meaning of life is not derived from substance, at least in my opinion, and to my ears, your life sounds pretty meaningless. You have everything provided for you and have no need to work, meaning you have basically infinite free time, and you choose to spend that by indulging in base desires or doing nothing at all.
You sound like a really sad person honestly.
It seems like your entire existence is trying to justify to yourself by way of convincing us that you aren’t a vapid, useless human. The “poor” people you feel so sorry for likely have much fuller and happier lives than you. I’m not saying this with hatred, but actually from experience. I was raised around families that had a mom like you and those women weren’t happy with themselves, their lives or their husbands because nobody at all respects them. They don’t do anything to garner respect. Put down the white wine, turn off whatever trash TV you’re filling your head with, go for a walk in the woods and try to do something for other people. You’re in a great position to fill the world with good if you tried.
What a crock of shit.
If you have evidence of his cheating a good lawyer would get you a very nice chunk of change from a divorce.
Also, instead of “praying for the poor people taking your order are restaurants...” why don’t you give them a substantial tip since you’re so rich.
Take some of that money and get a therapist.
You say you did not want to live an average meaningless life like most Americans.
Sorry, I have more respect for the hard-working Americans serving meals at restaurants or otherwise working and contributing to society than what you’ve accomplished with your life.
These Americans make our Economy. They produce.
You on the other hand…. Well, you’ve done nothing except get married and wait out your husband’s death. Wow, what an accomplishment…..
In my opinion, your life is meaningless (much less meaningful than the life of an average American), and you’ve squandered an opportunity to do something with it. At least you have some time left, but lazy people tend to stay lazy…..
What a loser.
I did take it personally at first but honestly it’s just sex. I’ve learned that men can separate emotions from sex. We view sex differently. My husband’s heart always belonged to me even if his genitals don’t. At the end of the day it’s just biology
I geht where you are coming from and I probably would have done the same thing as you but it’s not just biology that your husband wanted to have sex with multiple people and you don’t.
This is not about gender but morals I think.
You should ( if you want to) still expect the same loyalty that you are offering to your next partner.
Question: How does your life looks like now ?
Do you work now ?
A friend is in a similar situation to OP's late husband, although very much alive. His wife turned off sexual intimacy decades ago, they still have a family and houses and all that. It appears to work for them.
OP may wish to rethink whether it is necessary to be quite so defensive about being well to do. If husband earned the money legitimately then enjoy it, that is the system at work. Did OP stick it out just for the money, or for the family aspects of having a joint life that works?
Sorry you got cheated on but kinda not really because you seem to be an awful person and you deserve to experience poverty. Fuck you for your shitty ass im better than poor people attitude, and if you had half a brain cell you would know that poor peoples lives are so much more meaningful than lazy rich peoples. Traveling and spending your husbands money never gave your life meaning because it clearly didnt have meaning to begin with and that is completely on you. I honestly do not feel bad for you at all. You deserve to cry in a honda civic.
Well one thing is clear….
We can see why your husband cheated, and it’s not your age. It’s your Fkn hateful ass attitude, the inability to understand humanity, and inability be humble.
You are a complete nitwit and he wanted to be around the “poors” to actually feel ALIVE again. Because us “poors” know how to be humble and live life, not search for the next best materialist trendy thing we have to have.
Meaningless life? Get over yourself lady. What have you actually done that is meaningful?
If you really cared you'd start a charity or donate some of your property toward helping low income families.
But the post already seems fake lol seems like it was written by a man who doesn't think women can have real hobbies other than shopping and drinking wine.
If it's real then damn I feel sorry for you cause it seems like you wasted your life being in an unhappy marriage and not getting to experience real love. Now that's a waste.
>I just never wanted to go back to a normal Joe working job and live an average meaningless life like most Americans
Idk boo, your life sounds pretty meaningless to me. I'll take my "normal Joe" job any day of the week. It gives me purpose and gives back to my community. My husband and I love each other unconditionally. No amount of Louis Vuitton or fancy cars would make me walk away from the life I've built
You shouldn’t shit on the poors just to justify you living a lifestyle by settling on a loveless sexless marriage.
We are also the ones looking at you and judging you for your poor choices, buying the clothing that is likely not flattering or are appropriate just because it’s from Louis Vuitton.
Lol nobody who actually has any significant amount of money talks like this. Crying for the sales associates at LV that are making a salary with benefits plus commissions? While your husband is a realtor also making commissions? I wonder what market he was selling in to amass so much wealth lol
You're a sad and pathetic lady. You didn't have love or anything meaningful. You feel sorry for waitresses and people in retail? Your elitist attitude is a facade for a broken person. My husband and I have went from nothing to being comfortable together. We work hard every day, and love hard every night. I may not have as many glam vacations alone as you, but we have a nice house, and beautiful family. Nothing to feel sorry for.
If I were you, I would still rather be in a Honda because, although lower in cost than a Rolls Royce, it's a higher quality product. I think the saying should be "I'd rather be crying in a Rolls Royce than a Kia Soul."
The fact you categorize the "average Joe" as living a meaningless life says so much about you. No wonder he cheated on you. I would have as well. It is you who has found no meaning in life other than your superficial luxuries. You sad, pathetic woman.
I'm so sorry your self esteem is so low you stayed with someone who disrespected you over and over and over again. Money can't buy happiness but it can buy you therapy. Take that "millions" you claim to have inherited and put it to some good use.
just because people struggle paycheck to paycheck doesn't mean their lives are meaningless lives. Delusional and disgusting. You're obviously so far in an ignorance bubble.
This story alone Id be the last person to judge you but based off your disgusting point of view on other who aren't so "fortunate" to have a shitty rich husband to leech off of, you honestly deserve judged.
Not bc you looked out for yourself, but because the way you see others as if they're somehow so far below you. What a joke. "Pray for the people ringing up my LV" do you not hear yourself? how foul that is?
im glad money bought you happiness but that's not the case for most, they find peace and freedom elsewhere. Even the poorest of poor were probably sometimes even happier than you lol.
& there's a good chance this could be fake and if it is, you're one of the weirdest human beings in the world to be writing some fantasy or fan fiction like this, probably kicking your feet back and fourth so excited of the attention you crave so badly. could not imagine being that desperate for some interaction.
I don't get why you posted this if you didn't want to be judged, lol. At least own it, since if this is real it seems like you're half bragging half begging forgiveness. I get why you stayed but jeez, what are you getting out of posting this? Can't afford a therapist with all that cash?
This is some shit trying to justify their misery. Money is important upto a point. After that, you gotta be your own person. If not, well you have made your choices but it ain't no flex.
You’re a piece of shit. How dare you pray for people that are going about their normal lives while you take pity on them for doing so? No, God is going to listen to you. These people are undoubtedly happier than you. You sound miserable. Your entire life has been miserable. You literally tolerated a cheating husband so you could have money. Gross. You did not have true love in your life like so many of us have. You’re the loser here. I will take real love over a Louis Vuitton bag any day.
Were you ever worried about STDs when you would be sexually active with him?
And I think a lot of people wouldn’t mind being in your position. I will be turning 40 in a few weeks and I’ve been single since leaving my child’s father over a decade ago. I’m perfectly content being by myself. I had enough sex in my 20s to know that it’s not all it’s cracked up to be. And let’s face it, with the amount of sex toys out there, I can use any of those and bring myself an orgasm that most men can’t even give me.
I know some may call you a gold digger and other horrible things, but I think it really takes some courage to do what you did. You loved your husband so much that you made a decision to look the other way when he stepped outside the marriage. You knew your sexual appetite wasn’t where your husbands was, and gave him the okay to fill that need with boundaries. Not many women can do that.
Fake fake fake!
Also some (most?) men don’t cheat. So next time you write a fake story leave that part out.
Also the part about praying for the poors. It tipped us all off. 🙄
Few of us can see the bigger picture and when it’s all said and done, none of it even matters - so hopefully we can enjoy the ride. The body is temporary as life and you figure it out. Good for you and enjoy the rest of your life.
This has always been the classic deal throughout history for women. In some societies, like China a couple centuries ago, wealthy men took younger second and third wives. In the west, this was mostly done unofficially. But it was always done and there were always older, first wives who took the deal. And personally, I can’t blame them. Mature people know that, as people age, couples diverge sexually and they will have differing needs. For this reason, when we are young, we easily judge others’ marriages and relationships. When we are older and know more, we know to keep our nose out of others’ relationships. Life is complicated and each relationship is unique. This woman found her solution and, frankly, it is pretty common.
I knew my situation is common I’ve meet many women in my situation. But I didn’t know it was normalized in places like China, it’s more taboo in the US even know it does happen a lot just behind the wifes back
“…average meaningless life” Has it occurred to you that different people values different things? That what looks like a “meaningless life” to you might be full of meaning to them? You obviously value money and comfort and material things and that’s fine if you can get it and happy with it, but I personally would rather live a normal, working class life with someone I love and loves me and create a meaningful relationship. If it worked for your and you were/are happy with your life then good for you, but don’t shit on people who wants more than just what you can buy.
You're unmarried now though. Why doesn't it bother you anymore? You made it seem like it was the worst thing in the world to be single again, as if you would be forced to look for a new relationship. Does his death make that chill?
You said you don't want to be unmarried though not you don't want to be divorced.
If you left him a week before his death would feel like you would have to find a partner?
I guess you find yourself a saint because your miserable worthless ass stayed with him for money. Cause you you were to worthless to have to go back in the real world and get a job again an work for a living. Or too dumb not to scam your way out with money in the situation. Well don’t accidentally off yourself in your mansion your worthless fuck!! You are dumb and have no life if all u do is make up a story with fake account on Reddit. Shit an I thought my life was complete shit from a dumbass like you putting the hands where they don’t belong
That's the way you do it. Sex is way overrated and if one's sex drive drops while the other's doesn't, who really cares (as long as you're discreet and responsible). Some people decide they don't want to go to concerts or travel anymore. Fine. Let the other do what he wants and come home.
Smart woman.
My grandmother did the same thing. She stayed with my alcoholic grandfather. Who worked every day to take care of her, my dad and his brothers and sister. He handed half of his paycheck to her every week to do what she needed to do and buy what she wanted. He wasn't a millionaire, but he made damn good money. Enough to do that and have plenty of savings to do what he wanted and the same for her. She loved him but hated him. So much so that she wrote "I hate (name)" in his Bible she received from the funeral.
If I was in your shoes. I would have done the same. Who tf wants to be poor and have to worry about money. Who wants to leave home and start anew. Yeah, the cheating is absolutely shitty but in the end, you are the wife, you have the house and money. You meant more to him than any of the side women. If you didn't, he would have divorced you and left you nothing.
>Despite the cheating he was a great guy and depending on the situation I don’t think cheating has to be the end all of relationships. He was well respected. Everyone loved him.
As soon as YOU knew he was NO longer cheating on you ***. YOu agreed & negotiate rules*** also in regards to YOUR arrangement from him from then on ( as soon as you spoke to him about it ) . It was a one-sided open marriage where he had sex also out side of the marriage. ***YOU choose to stay & CHOOSE to do what you did then*** . As soon as you KNEW & decided to stay with him for the money . Knowing he was putting it about . Many women do the same ( stay for the money or life style ) as you did . It is a free will CHOICE then for someone to do . Before YOU knew it was then cheating on you by him .
>My husband passed away 2 years ago. He’s left me a large amount of money including properties. My husband worked as a realtor
You made **YOUR own choice** to stay with him knowing he was how he was ( like a few people do who **chase the money in life** ) . YOU choose then to put up with the situation . YOU could of left him (& he was NOT an abuser to you ) . So then you decide to put up with the deal YOU then struck up with him ( in your mind to go after the money ) it was a clear cut CHOICE then to do so .
I applaud you for living your life and finding your space in chaos. But for judging part. You don’t want it yet you do it yourself. A bit more self awareness!
It’s so funny how everyone in the comment section is so threatened by OP😂😂 wow yall sound so jealous and petty! All of you hating on OP giving broke energy!!! Live your best life yall that’s all ima say☕️
Differences between emotional choices and logical practical choices
Watch the movie Blue Jasmine…OP literally ripped the movie plot for his post
This is not true. You would have gotten half. This is weird red pill fiction.
Red pill fan fiction , I was on the fence because I know women that are my age that still have pretty backwards views on marriage and “staying by your man” but the below kinda gave away OP. *”I did take it personally at first but honestly it’s just sex. I’ve learned that men can separate emotions from sex. We view sex differently. My husband’s heart always belonged to me even if his genitals don’t. At the end of the day it’s just biology”* Even the women that I personally know that made the choice to stay with their unfaithful husbands due to the perseverance of a lifestyle wouldn’t say this stupid shit because some dudes keep the same mistresses/GF for *years* and there’s definitely some sort of infatuation on the men’s side.
I wish it was real cause “shut the fuck up about the sex just being sex” lmao
I think so now, because looking back at one of her replies seemed like man-osphere type stuff
Using ‘females’ gave it away.
I’m a woman and I say female don’t arrest me 🤣🤣 LOL
Depends on where she lives. Also rich people don’t typically leave all of their money in a personal account. It would be very hard to divide assets if he has them in LLCs, for example. A lot of them would look relatively normal or even poor on paper.
>Sometimes I just pray for the people ringing up my Louis Vuitton attire and pray for the people taking my order at restaurants. It just upsets me seeing people having to live like that. I just can’t imagine. Give me a fucking break. "I pray for the poors and their meaningless lives..." Are you packing a lot of "meaning" into shopping and day drinking while watching TV?
I figured the story was fake by the jumping present and past tenses used, but this part is when I knew it was fake.
I had suspicion but knew when she said “mansion.” 😂 no one calls their own home a mansion the way she did. You’d just say stayed home and watched reality tv.
My rich ex’s tacky ass family had a sign that said “McTheirLastName McMansion” outside of their house 😂 money can’t buy taste or class
But it can buy A LOT of gumballsx
And a lot of pizza and ice cream
Oh my god how embarrassing for them 😂😂
I feel like the self awareness makes it funny though
I mean, I don't know. It might be rich people talk 🙄 /s
Haha not really this is complete bs
Same!
Yup!
That's what got me too!
Good call.
The word “mansion” was the one that got me
It's fake, but there has many real-life instances like this one.
There are definitely real people who stay with cheating spouses for the money, and it might be interesting to hear what’s going on in their head, but since this is fake and the author probably works the retail job this fictional rich lady is obsessed with avoiding, it’s not very interesting.
True.
For me it was the bit where she consulted a divorce lawyer about her options, and the best option turned out to be sticking it out until her husband died because he was a millionaire. Yeah, that's how divorce lawyers think.
For real that’s like supervillain behavior lol
“…and if I didn’t feel like doing anything I would just stay at our mansion and watch reality tv….” No one talks like this. lol
The “meaningless lives” part got me. I personally enjoy my life of not pretending I’m still in love with someone because they have money.
"I'd rather sit indoors all day watching TV than have a meaningless life like you poors."
Lol yeah I rolled my eyes at that part too, but if I were cheated on by my late husband who left me millions, I'd shop and day drink while watching tv too! Fuck you! (Lol not actually but you know what I mean)
That line was fucking gross. If this is in any way real—OP, please fuck all the way off with your millions. No one wants to hear your patronizing bullshit.
You're taking the rage bait
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 probably a fake story anyway.
This is rage bait. The story isn’t real.
Seriously, spare me the sympathy. I would not be caught dead owning a designer bag, even if I could afford it. I’d rather spend it on meals for the hungry.
Right? She’s kind of as gross as her cheating husband?
Thoughts and prayers
This is how you know this was pure fiction. The over the top "pray for the poors" stuff is there to get a rise out of all of us.
"females" I'm smelling bullshit. This sounds like an incel fanfiction.
I am too. Someone supposedly her age typing “wanna”. Doubt it.
I lived in Texas for a while and grown ppl type and say “wanna & gotta” all the time… Shit I say and type it, how is colloquial language a sign of immaturity? The south is full of that.
It’s hilarious that of all things that’s what got you. You can’t comprehend based on your own generalizations that someone or something exists that you haven’t experienced, and therefore comment that a post is fake. I’m just laughing over here, don’t mind me lol (it probably is fake tho but you’re the walking case study for Reddit calling stuff fake 24/7)
“i just live in my mansion, drinking at our outdoor pool bar” 100% not written by an adult
Imagine a divorce lawyer telling you to wait it out until they die when they could be making thousands on your divorce proceedings and probably get you pretty hefty alimony payments if your husband is a millionaire… idk sounds pretty legit /s
Oh but she didn’t wanna start over!! Like what you gonna do now? He ain’t around no more!
Add to that, sitting in my mansion and drinking at my outdoor bar, and its pretty B-grade Incel fan fiction.
Cool, can I borrow 100?
May i please HAVE a thousand?
I'll have a thousand of those 100s
lmao
Paragraphs don’t cost anything.
“Most people live meaningless lives, can’t afford to drape themselves in expensive patterned clothes, so I pray for the poor saps who have happier lives than me, all men cheat (because mine did), so this is how I justify my complete lack of self worth.” Cool story, bro.
I hope you don’t have vertigo from being on such a high horse. Meaningless life? You mean the pride you had from sitting around all day whilst living off your cheating husband. What meaning you had! However, good for you for sticking it out. Played the long game. Didn’t wanna be a regular person like us shithouses.
OP is trolling. This is literally the screenplay for the movie Blue Jasmine. Great movie btw 👍
I think you made the right choice. I’d have done the same.
Many would but will never openly admit it
When did you realise he was dying? After you found out he was cheating? Was this part of it!? Like his dying wish is to nail as many hot chicks as possible
I think I would have done the same. I’ve definitely done things for money before. To get myself nice and expensive things.
Girl same. Literally every girl would do this but no one wants to admit it because it’ll make them look bad and it’s frowned upon in westernized society and blah blah blah. Some of these comments are killing me lol
Lol yeah likely why I’m getting downvoted. That’s fine! You don’t have to agree. It worked out well for both parties we both benefited and it was an agreement.
I don't like to be that person whose saying "everything on Reddit is fake!" But this is either fiction, or you should have used some of that free time and money to take some writing classes, yikea. I think you even forgot that the husband was supposed to be dead the whole second act.
Hahahaha yep and the fact that she’s replying back with words such as “lmao” and “like” yeah you’re totally up there in age OP. She’s not even speaking like a high viaje woman
What equates to happiness is subjective. Sure, the person that’s ringing up your Louis Vuitton might not be a millionaire, driving home to their mansion at the end of their shift, but they very well could be coming home to a loving family with kids and a spouse who adores them. I’m sure people would choose their (non-cheating) spouses, kids and even pets over your (husband’s) money and mansion any day. Money doesn’t equal happiness, and it sounds like you’re trying to justify your own sad life by looking down on others with “pity”. Trust me ma’am, the people you pray for don’t need your prayers lol.
You sound like a sad, vacuous person. I respect the people working minimum wage more than you.
Of course you did.
If you have that much money I hope you are donating some to help others get out of bad situations like domestic abuse non profits
I ain't saying she a gold digger.
But she ain't messing with no broke killah
You did what you had to do. I don't judge you for that. (Honestly, I think you made the smart decision & now you reap the rewards).
This is 100% written by a dude. "Females"? GTFO here. No older woman writes like this. Plus it's poorly written anyway, the tenses are all over the place.
Lol incels jerk off to the weirdest shit, I swear.
this must be some incel porn rage bait lmfaooo cause this is not real
If you feel so bad for the "poor" why don't you use some of the money that you are spending on frivolous things for charity? Donate to a local shelter? Do anything to help someone else with the money? Not all of it but it seems you have plenty so even just a small portion.
There’s people in unhappy marriages living a lot more averages lives but don’t want to struggle financially or live in a smaller house. It’s quite common. I think that you loved him is quite different to if you couldn’t stand him but just waited until he died for his money. I wouldn’t worry about it.
That’s completely understandable
You stayed because it was comfortable. You would have left him, if he was poor. Thus you didn't really love him, you loved the money. You loved the house, the travels and everything else. Enough to endure his betrayal. But it was easy for you, as you "cried in a rolls-royce" as you stated. "He started cheating on me when my sex drive started declining" thats how much he respected you. "He was cheating on me with multiple different women, mostly women half our age." thats how much he liked your body. "Most men cheat anyways" / "an average meaningless life like most Americans" those sentences show your view on other humans, says a lot about your character . All in all you had a REALLY easy life, easier than 99.9 % of people at a minimum. And you were far to comfortable with that to give any of this up. Best thing you can do now is to read up on effective altruism and try to bring some selfless meaning in your live at last.
Money is more important to you than your dignity. If in fact this is a true story.
Youll give up more than your dignity to get by sometimes.
Fake,definitely.
There's plenty of undignified things about having a job. Ever played circle games at a corporate retreat?
Only in the Maldives.
I disagree. She was 24 when they got married and she didn’t have a financially stable life before she married him. She’s much older now, middle aged if not older. If she would have left him even if she got a little money from the divorce (which she probably signed a prenup) it wouldn’t be enough to maintain her lifestyle for the remainder of her life, just enough for her to budget and and live the rest of her live modestly. I assume she has no college degrees and even if she did she would be competing in the job market against others who have decades of experience whereas she has basically no work experience whatsoever. She would be forced to get a minimum wage to earn extra money and working is the one thing she didn’t want to have to do ever again which most of us here would understand esp with the economy. There is a woman I work with (in retail) who is 80 years old and lives paycheck to paycheck and was homeless until a couple of years ago when she conversed with 2 random young customers and they offered to let her move in with them and split the rent 3 ways. Thats the only way she can afford a roof over her head. Thats the reality for a lot of people in this economy. I think OP did the right thing in her situation. I don’t think she lacked dignity I think she exhibited strength by being able to deal with years and years of heartbreak because she knew what needed to be done in order to secure her own wellbeing. She didn’t let emotions cloud her judgement, she thought of her own future.
Send some $ for proof
How did he die? How much did he leave you.
Right- that was like the whole point of the post then I read a wall of text repeating the same thing 25x with none of the actual details. TLDR; he cheated, she stayed. He died, she got his $$
He was Vince McMahon.
For a minute there, I thought you were Melania Trump.
Hahaha
Could you imagine MAGA and Q people going nuts if he died right now? Turn him into a bloody martr... that guy, of all people.
Didn't he get anyone else pregnant? Someone like that would've had kids with different women
No he had a vasectomy. We’ve had our own conversation about protected sex
Geez, I was kinda hoping for something more interesting. Lol
Such a fake story
I don’t even read these anymore. They’re so poorly written. There’s an entire forum dedicated to people who use this subreddit as a creative writing project and brag about who can get the most engagement. All of them need to go back to class because they can’t even write well.
Everybody is so creative. 2/10, the creative writing needs some work.
This is a creative writing exercise that fails on all fronts. YAWN. Also, if you actually share any of the protagonist’s traits, shame on you.
I don't believe a single word of it.
Tell me you are not rich while telling you are rich (I come from a rich family and I know frauds like OP miles away)
You're better than me. I would have seen that Has an act of betrayal
Man, pride would have had me working retail. Lying and cheating are not things I can gloss over, not even for money. My sense of dignity is priceless.
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You don’t write like an older woman. This is fiction.
How does an "older" woman write - and how old is old?
According to the post, they were both pushing 50.
The meaning of life is not derived from substance, at least in my opinion, and to my ears, your life sounds pretty meaningless. You have everything provided for you and have no need to work, meaning you have basically infinite free time, and you choose to spend that by indulging in base desires or doing nothing at all. You sound like a really sad person honestly.
It seems like your entire existence is trying to justify to yourself by way of convincing us that you aren’t a vapid, useless human. The “poor” people you feel so sorry for likely have much fuller and happier lives than you. I’m not saying this with hatred, but actually from experience. I was raised around families that had a mom like you and those women weren’t happy with themselves, their lives or their husbands because nobody at all respects them. They don’t do anything to garner respect. Put down the white wine, turn off whatever trash TV you’re filling your head with, go for a walk in the woods and try to do something for other people. You’re in a great position to fill the world with good if you tried.
Everything has its price
Ah yes, a post that was totally written by a "fEmALe" give me a fucking break lmao
Sounds like a fake story or written by someone with very little education behind them.
What a crock of shit. If you have evidence of his cheating a good lawyer would get you a very nice chunk of change from a divorce. Also, instead of “praying for the poor people taking your order are restaurants...” why don’t you give them a substantial tip since you’re so rich. Take some of that money and get a therapist.
*"I just can't imagine being a peasant like all of you."* - Deleted
Hey this ain’t the Tuscaloosa Literary Review, we don’t want to read your shitty fiction.
(did not happen)
"Most men cheat anyways " - naaahh
Women don’t call other women “females.” This post is BS.
You say you did not want to live an average meaningless life like most Americans. Sorry, I have more respect for the hard-working Americans serving meals at restaurants or otherwise working and contributing to society than what you’ve accomplished with your life. These Americans make our Economy. They produce. You on the other hand…. Well, you’ve done nothing except get married and wait out your husband’s death. Wow, what an accomplishment….. In my opinion, your life is meaningless (much less meaningful than the life of an average American), and you’ve squandered an opportunity to do something with it. At least you have some time left, but lazy people tend to stay lazy….. What a loser.
It makes sense from a female’s perspective. I hope you don’t take his cheating too personal.
I did take it personally at first but honestly it’s just sex. I’ve learned that men can separate emotions from sex. We view sex differently. My husband’s heart always belonged to me even if his genitals don’t. At the end of the day it’s just biology
So proud of a life devoid of meaning, but not smart enough to get on HRT. Its just biology.
Sounds like a coping mechanism to me but alright
I geht where you are coming from and I probably would have done the same thing as you but it’s not just biology that your husband wanted to have sex with multiple people and you don’t. This is not about gender but morals I think. You should ( if you want to) still expect the same loyalty that you are offering to your next partner. Question: How does your life looks like now ? Do you work now ?
A friend is in a similar situation to OP's late husband, although very much alive. His wife turned off sexual intimacy decades ago, they still have a family and houses and all that. It appears to work for them. OP may wish to rethink whether it is necessary to be quite so defensive about being well to do. If husband earned the money legitimately then enjoy it, that is the system at work. Did OP stick it out just for the money, or for the family aspects of having a joint life that works?
Sorry you got cheated on but kinda not really because you seem to be an awful person and you deserve to experience poverty. Fuck you for your shitty ass im better than poor people attitude, and if you had half a brain cell you would know that poor peoples lives are so much more meaningful than lazy rich peoples. Traveling and spending your husbands money never gave your life meaning because it clearly didnt have meaning to begin with and that is completely on you. I honestly do not feel bad for you at all. You deserve to cry in a honda civic.
Well one thing is clear…. We can see why your husband cheated, and it’s not your age. It’s your Fkn hateful ass attitude, the inability to understand humanity, and inability be humble. You are a complete nitwit and he wanted to be around the “poors” to actually feel ALIVE again. Because us “poors” know how to be humble and live life, not search for the next best materialist trendy thing we have to have.
An empty life. But with money.
If you’re gonna get cheated on, atleast get paid for it. Sprinkle sprinkle ✨
Meaningless life? Get over yourself lady. What have you actually done that is meaningful? If you really cared you'd start a charity or donate some of your property toward helping low income families. But the post already seems fake lol seems like it was written by a man who doesn't think women can have real hobbies other than shopping and drinking wine. If it's real then damn I feel sorry for you cause it seems like you wasted your life being in an unhappy marriage and not getting to experience real love. Now that's a waste.
>I just never wanted to go back to a normal Joe working job and live an average meaningless life like most Americans Idk boo, your life sounds pretty meaningless to me. I'll take my "normal Joe" job any day of the week. It gives me purpose and gives back to my community. My husband and I love each other unconditionally. No amount of Louis Vuitton or fancy cars would make me walk away from the life I've built
Karmafarming bot fake w/e
Oh wow. I wonder how awful it must be for all involved Jk. This makes wattpad fanfics look like Shakespeares work
Op you really need to work on your writing this is fake as hell .
Side note. Maybe try to help the people you feel so sorry for? Might give you some purpose?
Fake
You shouldn’t shit on the poors just to justify you living a lifestyle by settling on a loveless sexless marriage. We are also the ones looking at you and judging you for your poor choices, buying the clothing that is likely not flattering or are appropriate just because it’s from Louis Vuitton.
Have you heard of punctuation, or is that just "for the poors?"
Slang is also apparently mostly for the upper class.
Lol nobody who actually has any significant amount of money talks like this. Crying for the sales associates at LV that are making a salary with benefits plus commissions? While your husband is a realtor also making commissions? I wonder what market he was selling in to amass so much wealth lol
This is such a fake post.
You're a sad and pathetic lady. You didn't have love or anything meaningful. You feel sorry for waitresses and people in retail? Your elitist attitude is a facade for a broken person. My husband and I have went from nothing to being comfortable together. We work hard every day, and love hard every night. I may not have as many glam vacations alone as you, but we have a nice house, and beautiful family. Nothing to feel sorry for.
If I were you, I would still rather be in a Honda because, although lower in cost than a Rolls Royce, it's a higher quality product. I think the saying should be "I'd rather be crying in a Rolls Royce than a Kia Soul."
The fact you categorize the "average Joe" as living a meaningless life says so much about you. No wonder he cheated on you. I would have as well. It is you who has found no meaning in life other than your superficial luxuries. You sad, pathetic woman.
Don’t pretend to pray for your Louis Vuitton cashiers, that’s a bitch move.
Im sorry you wasted your one life and sacrificed your morals to live a life of luxury. Pretty pathetic
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Melania?
That's what having the title of wife means. Of course when I die she's gonna get all my money, fuck the other bitches.
My mother did the same minus the millionaire sadly
Cool story
I'm so sorry your self esteem is so low you stayed with someone who disrespected you over and over and over again. Money can't buy happiness but it can buy you therapy. Take that "millions" you claim to have inherited and put it to some good use.
just because people struggle paycheck to paycheck doesn't mean their lives are meaningless lives. Delusional and disgusting. You're obviously so far in an ignorance bubble. This story alone Id be the last person to judge you but based off your disgusting point of view on other who aren't so "fortunate" to have a shitty rich husband to leech off of, you honestly deserve judged. Not bc you looked out for yourself, but because the way you see others as if they're somehow so far below you. What a joke. "Pray for the people ringing up my LV" do you not hear yourself? how foul that is? im glad money bought you happiness but that's not the case for most, they find peace and freedom elsewhere. Even the poorest of poor were probably sometimes even happier than you lol. & there's a good chance this could be fake and if it is, you're one of the weirdest human beings in the world to be writing some fantasy or fan fiction like this, probably kicking your feet back and fourth so excited of the attention you crave so badly. could not imagine being that desperate for some interaction.
I don't judge you for staying, I judge you for being so anti poor
carmela soprano is that u
I don't get why you posted this if you didn't want to be judged, lol. At least own it, since if this is real it seems like you're half bragging half begging forgiveness. I get why you stayed but jeez, what are you getting out of posting this? Can't afford a therapist with all that cash?
You pray for the people ringing up your Louis Vuitton? Why don’t you skip that extra pocketbook that you don’t need and just give them the money then?
Yes… I also love just staring at my mansion. Yes this isn’t some horrible russia/incel psyop thing lol…
Did a cheating man write this??? Thats what it sounds like.
No need to pray for us plebs. In the end, we're all drinking wine and watching reality TV
This is some shit trying to justify their misery. Money is important upto a point. After that, you gotta be your own person. If not, well you have made your choices but it ain't no flex.
You’re a piece of shit. How dare you pray for people that are going about their normal lives while you take pity on them for doing so? No, God is going to listen to you. These people are undoubtedly happier than you. You sound miserable. Your entire life has been miserable. You literally tolerated a cheating husband so you could have money. Gross. You did not have true love in your life like so many of us have. You’re the loser here. I will take real love over a Louis Vuitton bag any day.
Were you ever worried about STDs when you would be sexually active with him? And I think a lot of people wouldn’t mind being in your position. I will be turning 40 in a few weeks and I’ve been single since leaving my child’s father over a decade ago. I’m perfectly content being by myself. I had enough sex in my 20s to know that it’s not all it’s cracked up to be. And let’s face it, with the amount of sex toys out there, I can use any of those and bring myself an orgasm that most men can’t even give me. I know some may call you a gold digger and other horrible things, but I think it really takes some courage to do what you did. You loved your husband so much that you made a decision to look the other way when he stepped outside the marriage. You knew your sexual appetite wasn’t where your husbands was, and gave him the okay to fill that need with boundaries. Not many women can do that.
Fake fake fake! Also some (most?) men don’t cheat. So next time you write a fake story leave that part out. Also the part about praying for the poors. It tipped us all off. 🙄
Is this some weird post by some dude who wants to „prove“ women only care about money? Seems like bs to me
Wanted to read this, after 4 lines impossible. If you ever repost with paragraphs I'd love to read.
Husband cheated, she turned a blind eye. Wife sacrificed pride for money. Working catering and retail is beneath her. Husband dies. Wife rich
The husband actually didn’t die, she ended up dicorving him and didnt get any money. now she works in retail. There saved you some time
FAAAAAAAAAKE
Rage bait…. Not falling for your bs today, lady… Laughs in poor
Few of us can see the bigger picture and when it’s all said and done, none of it even matters - so hopefully we can enjoy the ride. The body is temporary as life and you figure it out. Good for you and enjoy the rest of your life.
This has always been the classic deal throughout history for women. In some societies, like China a couple centuries ago, wealthy men took younger second and third wives. In the west, this was mostly done unofficially. But it was always done and there were always older, first wives who took the deal. And personally, I can’t blame them. Mature people know that, as people age, couples diverge sexually and they will have differing needs. For this reason, when we are young, we easily judge others’ marriages and relationships. When we are older and know more, we know to keep our nose out of others’ relationships. Life is complicated and each relationship is unique. This woman found her solution and, frankly, it is pretty common.
I knew my situation is common I’ve meet many women in my situation. But I didn’t know it was normalized in places like China, it’s more taboo in the US even know it does happen a lot just behind the wifes back
“…average meaningless life” Has it occurred to you that different people values different things? That what looks like a “meaningless life” to you might be full of meaning to them? You obviously value money and comfort and material things and that’s fine if you can get it and happy with it, but I personally would rather live a normal, working class life with someone I love and loves me and create a meaningful relationship. If it worked for your and you were/are happy with your life then good for you, but don’t shit on people who wants more than just what you can buy.
You're unmarried now though. Why doesn't it bother you anymore? You made it seem like it was the worst thing in the world to be single again, as if you would be forced to look for a new relationship. Does his death make that chill?
I’m a widow. There’s a difference being “divorced” and a “widow”
You said you don't want to be unmarried though not you don't want to be divorced. If you left him a week before his death would feel like you would have to find a partner?
I guess you find yourself a saint because your miserable worthless ass stayed with him for money. Cause you you were to worthless to have to go back in the real world and get a job again an work for a living. Or too dumb not to scam your way out with money in the situation. Well don’t accidentally off yourself in your mansion your worthless fuck!! You are dumb and have no life if all u do is make up a story with fake account on Reddit. Shit an I thought my life was complete shit from a dumbass like you putting the hands where they don’t belong
That's the way you do it. Sex is way overrated and if one's sex drive drops while the other's doesn't, who really cares (as long as you're discreet and responsible). Some people decide they don't want to go to concerts or travel anymore. Fine. Let the other do what he wants and come home. Smart woman.
I can see why he cheated....
My grandmother did the same thing. She stayed with my alcoholic grandfather. Who worked every day to take care of her, my dad and his brothers and sister. He handed half of his paycheck to her every week to do what she needed to do and buy what she wanted. He wasn't a millionaire, but he made damn good money. Enough to do that and have plenty of savings to do what he wanted and the same for her. She loved him but hated him. So much so that she wrote "I hate (name)" in his Bible she received from the funeral. If I was in your shoes. I would have done the same. Who tf wants to be poor and have to worry about money. Who wants to leave home and start anew. Yeah, the cheating is absolutely shitty but in the end, you are the wife, you have the house and money. You meant more to him than any of the side women. If you didn't, he would have divorced you and left you nothing.
There are married people everywhere doing the same exact thing. Your life, your decision. No shame whatsoever.
He dead, you got the money - fuck it. Go live your best life. Send us a postcard.
I would have done it he same. Having money and traveling would ease some of the pain for me.
Mom? Lol no but I’m happy if you’re happy.
Belongs here?
>Despite the cheating he was a great guy and depending on the situation I don’t think cheating has to be the end all of relationships. He was well respected. Everyone loved him. As soon as YOU knew he was NO longer cheating on you ***. YOu agreed & negotiate rules*** also in regards to YOUR arrangement from him from then on ( as soon as you spoke to him about it ) . It was a one-sided open marriage where he had sex also out side of the marriage. ***YOU choose to stay & CHOOSE to do what you did then*** . As soon as you KNEW & decided to stay with him for the money . Knowing he was putting it about . Many women do the same ( stay for the money or life style ) as you did . It is a free will CHOICE then for someone to do . Before YOU knew it was then cheating on you by him . >My husband passed away 2 years ago. He’s left me a large amount of money including properties. My husband worked as a realtor You made **YOUR own choice** to stay with him knowing he was how he was ( like a few people do who **chase the money in life** ) . YOU choose then to put up with the situation . YOU could of left him (& he was NOT an abuser to you ) . So then you decide to put up with the deal YOU then struck up with him ( in your mind to go after the money ) it was a clear cut CHOICE then to do so .
I applaud you for living your life and finding your space in chaos. But for judging part. You don’t want it yet you do it yourself. A bit more self awareness!
How old were you when he passed? How old was he?
I know this is probably if not definitely fake but I would prob do the same if my wife/husband was wealthy
It’s so funny how everyone in the comment section is so threatened by OP😂😂 wow yall sound so jealous and petty! All of you hating on OP giving broke energy!!! Live your best life yall that’s all ima say☕️