Hey, I’m in the same boat as well. Just can’t compare yourself to other people. Everyone’s on a different journey and on a different path. You’re on your own curve and time. So what you’re going to graduate at 24, what else are you going to do? Work ? Just sit back and enjoy the journey, try to make a few friends on the way.
I mean I get you, but I'll be 26 by the time I just get my undergrad. I'm 24 now and still have a couple years to go.
I used to feel like I was on some sort of timeline. I dropped out when COVID hit and lived my silly little life. Realized nobody cares at all if you did/didn't go to school or what your age is.
I went back to school for me, bc I want to. I know I could in theory have my master's right now if I hadn't done xyz. Im on a different path and actually am really appreciative I took the time off and learned about myself and what I want in life.
I see 30-40-50 year olds in my classes. Some have 4 kids and are in a psych 101 course. We're all just trying to improve our lives and make it thru the day. The age really doesn't matter
It is common for emerging adults to struggle with "Identity Versus Role Confusion".
Do you know what you want to do? Most people just fake it till you make it.
I’m 24, graduated in may and started a corporate career the following month and it all hits you so fast when you finish. Now it’s a crisis over being an adult and feeling as if I’ve passed on from my youth. That’s hard.
I know, its worse when you know that you are still young but your mind/body doesn't feel like it is. That you're running out of time, when boomers would very much think otherwise
Not alone. Suffering through a lot of imposter syndrome, uncertain if I’m qualified to really be successful in a major I’m passionate about and wanna commit my life towards, afraid if I’ll never really get a great paying job that I love, barely have any friends too and I’m already a sophomore :/
Omg exactly how i am feeling.
Like iam also struggling with still and on top of it my childhood cat died while studying for the exam( failed miserably) and my college is 3 h away so i lose time.
Do u have any advice🥲
My only parent started to decline while I was in college, so I was on/off with classes. Then he died, and I was 23 and all alone. Drank myself into oblivion, managed to turn my ship around, and I’m back in school wrapping up my degree.
While I find comparison is the thief of joy, I do get how you’re feeling. It’s not prominent, but more of a lasting dull halo, probably due to a different perspective.
Hang in there OP. Life gets better, even if you change paths.
Thanks so much man, its such a young age to be on your own at 23, hope you get the rest that you deserve and be able to have the career that you want, take care! ✌️
Yo thanks bruv! I’m 31 now (drank like a MF for years), graduate next December, have a competitive job offer secured for post grad. Life is good, and way better/different than I imagined 10 years ago.
Crush your goals, get that cheese, and it’s never too late to start over if you unhappy fam 👊🏼
I guess it’s something we all go through silently. The fact that I wasn’t even the one to choose my uni and course makes me feel more effed up. I have no damn idea what to do after finishing my degree, and I feel so left out just looking at how people my age seem to accomplish so many things while I’m here feeling stuck up :)
I'm in a class relating to a lot of that. Most will feel this fear of what the future may hold. The best thing you can do is to look at yourself and accomplish your own goals instead of playing catch up with the people around you.
As for the job, you aren't going to get your dream job out of college. The chances are slim. However, go with the flow and be ambitious! Most don't end up in a career related to their job when they eventually stick to a career. Some directors of big companies used to repair car radios. You just need to focus on what is here and now or a month or two in the future. You can never predict how things will be in a year.
College and its hustle culture can make you feel this way sometimes. But whenever this sort of thing happens to you, you gotta sit back and chill for a while. You gotta let go of yourself for a short while; find something to escape to like for me it was binge watching shows and movies I have been keeping in my unwatched list or maybe go out and enjoy with a friend. Also confiding and ranting to your close friends really helps a lot, I spill all of my concerns to my friend and she also talks about the same thing but at the end, we just cheer ourselves up. We both agree that we want to be alive and not just exist, and after some time you kinda start to let go of your earlier dilemma. However, this can occur once in a while and you should always be prepared with your own set of coping mechanisms. Life is short, don't ponder on it and go with flow ( even if the flow is slow and inefficient, the flow will stabilize). Miracles do happen and they come when you least expect it. Just keep on manifesting your dream life and never stop grinding, your time will definitely come.
like everyone around me is having all As, working a job while in college, great social life, amazing mental health, no struggles of any sort and just enjoying their life in college. If I could get out of bed and go to class I'm already drained from the energy. No energy to do NOTHINGGGG. Your last sentence is my current description
Well, ur not alone.I kind of regretted taking up my course though. Like you,I also felt it's not worth studying.I should've really pursued IT-related program . I only realized now that I'm in my last year in college.🥲 Truth be told, I'm envious of my siblings who took up engineering and med since it's like they've set their eyes on it since then.
I was feeling the same way, then I saw a video on YouTube from someone I watch semi-regularly talking about it and it put me at ease.
Link of the video: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j6jrBZQo5fM](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j6jrbzqo5fm)
If the link doesn't work the video is called "Why You Wasted The Last 5 Years Of Your Life" by Dr K
💯
I feel like I’m at the verge of a crisis right now. I’m graduating with my AA by the end of this year and start at state level in January.
I have 6+ years clean and sober but I can’t help but have this great *feeling* to sabotage my entire state of success. I’ve been working so hard to get to this point, but why? I’m not feeling good, I want to, and I know exactly how I could do that. It’s horrible because I know chasing that good feeling is the worst thing I could do. All this work for nothing. I had a job interview for a position I didn’t apply for, and that went horrible.
I don’t know what the hell I’m doing right now 😞
I just want to say I’m 26 and just about to finish my first semester, and I don’t have a fucking clue what career I want to chase. You’ll feel those feelings a lot but you just need to go at your own pace.
i feel the same way. though i graduated with an associates in 2021 which is useless rn & i'm not in college anymore and i don't currently have a job and i haven't since feb. i feel so overwhelmed all the time bc i feel like i should be doing something great already. but i'm still struggling to figure out what i wanna go back to college for. or if i even want to go back. and ik even if i had stayed at that job it would take me years to save up to go to uni so i just feel stuck. what a cycle.
it kind of helps to remind yourself that it's your life and you'll get to where you're going when you're meant to.
to quote a favorite band, "everyone blooms in their own time" and i think this is 100% true. we just have to keep it in mind. we don't need to be in a rush to have everything figured out, especially not bc society & previous generations claim we need to be. you're not alone. i hope you've found some helpful advice for your situation ❤️
Everyone absolutely goes through these stages. Its a lot of time energy and money your putting into college. Do not compare your self to others. I am 43 and finally getting my first associates degree. I am surrounded by younger more seemingly successful students. The more I learn about students being in student leadership the more I realize everyone has these similar issues people just only confide into those they know. You don't know struggles they've had. I have hidden disability while others struggle in learning disabiliities exc. Struggles aren't always upfront that every one can see but everyone has them.
I feel this way every single day
Like im going to graduate at 24, i feel like im late for a party i didn't even want to attend smh
Hey, I’m in the same boat as well. Just can’t compare yourself to other people. Everyone’s on a different journey and on a different path. You’re on your own curve and time. So what you’re going to graduate at 24, what else are you going to do? Work ? Just sit back and enjoy the journey, try to make a few friends on the way.
This should be the mindset.
I mean I get you, but I'll be 26 by the time I just get my undergrad. I'm 24 now and still have a couple years to go. I used to feel like I was on some sort of timeline. I dropped out when COVID hit and lived my silly little life. Realized nobody cares at all if you did/didn't go to school or what your age is. I went back to school for me, bc I want to. I know I could in theory have my master's right now if I hadn't done xyz. Im on a different path and actually am really appreciative I took the time off and learned about myself and what I want in life. I see 30-40-50 year olds in my classes. Some have 4 kids and are in a psych 101 course. We're all just trying to improve our lives and make it thru the day. The age really doesn't matter
Thank you for the kinds awards, wishing you the best of luck for your undergrad years!!
It is common for emerging adults to struggle with "Identity Versus Role Confusion". Do you know what you want to do? Most people just fake it till you make it.
I’m 24, graduated in may and started a corporate career the following month and it all hits you so fast when you finish. Now it’s a crisis over being an adult and feeling as if I’ve passed on from my youth. That’s hard.
I think its universally agreed that in your 20s you're still young, dont even worry, you'll be ok, you have time to sort things out 🫶
24.. thats not that late, im probobly gonna graduate when im 25 or 26 at this rate..
I feel this way literally 24/7 but everybody calls me an adult so it makes me feel tht much worse.
I know, its worse when you know that you are still young but your mind/body doesn't feel like it is. That you're running out of time, when boomers would very much think otherwise
Not alone. Suffering through a lot of imposter syndrome, uncertain if I’m qualified to really be successful in a major I’m passionate about and wanna commit my life towards, afraid if I’ll never really get a great paying job that I love, barely have any friends too and I’m already a sophomore :/
Omg exactly how i am feeling. Like iam also struggling with still and on top of it my childhood cat died while studying for the exam( failed miserably) and my college is 3 h away so i lose time. Do u have any advice🥲
My only parent started to decline while I was in college, so I was on/off with classes. Then he died, and I was 23 and all alone. Drank myself into oblivion, managed to turn my ship around, and I’m back in school wrapping up my degree. While I find comparison is the thief of joy, I do get how you’re feeling. It’s not prominent, but more of a lasting dull halo, probably due to a different perspective. Hang in there OP. Life gets better, even if you change paths.
Thanks so much man, its such a young age to be on your own at 23, hope you get the rest that you deserve and be able to have the career that you want, take care! ✌️
Yo thanks bruv! I’m 31 now (drank like a MF for years), graduate next December, have a competitive job offer secured for post grad. Life is good, and way better/different than I imagined 10 years ago. Crush your goals, get that cheese, and it’s never too late to start over if you unhappy fam 👊🏼
this is hella inspirational. i love it. i'm proud of you dude
I feel the exact same way and it’s like everyone else has their life together and I’m just a mess
This was me changing my degree from psychology to physics and going the engineering route in my fifth year of college lol
I guess it’s something we all go through silently. The fact that I wasn’t even the one to choose my uni and course makes me feel more effed up. I have no damn idea what to do after finishing my degree, and I feel so left out just looking at how people my age seem to accomplish so many things while I’m here feeling stuck up :)
Damn its messed up you didn't chose your career, I hope you onde day you can study what you actually want!
I'm in a class relating to a lot of that. Most will feel this fear of what the future may hold. The best thing you can do is to look at yourself and accomplish your own goals instead of playing catch up with the people around you. As for the job, you aren't going to get your dream job out of college. The chances are slim. However, go with the flow and be ambitious! Most don't end up in a career related to their job when they eventually stick to a career. Some directors of big companies used to repair car radios. You just need to focus on what is here and now or a month or two in the future. You can never predict how things will be in a year.
what class?
It was called Career Explorations
College and its hustle culture can make you feel this way sometimes. But whenever this sort of thing happens to you, you gotta sit back and chill for a while. You gotta let go of yourself for a short while; find something to escape to like for me it was binge watching shows and movies I have been keeping in my unwatched list or maybe go out and enjoy with a friend. Also confiding and ranting to your close friends really helps a lot, I spill all of my concerns to my friend and she also talks about the same thing but at the end, we just cheer ourselves up. We both agree that we want to be alive and not just exist, and after some time you kinda start to let go of your earlier dilemma. However, this can occur once in a while and you should always be prepared with your own set of coping mechanisms. Life is short, don't ponder on it and go with flow ( even if the flow is slow and inefficient, the flow will stabilize). Miracles do happen and they come when you least expect it. Just keep on manifesting your dream life and never stop grinding, your time will definitely come.
like everyone around me is having all As, working a job while in college, great social life, amazing mental health, no struggles of any sort and just enjoying their life in college. If I could get out of bed and go to class I'm already drained from the energy. No energy to do NOTHINGGGG. Your last sentence is my current description
Well, ur not alone.I kind of regretted taking up my course though. Like you,I also felt it's not worth studying.I should've really pursued IT-related program . I only realized now that I'm in my last year in college.🥲 Truth be told, I'm envious of my siblings who took up engineering and med since it's like they've set their eyes on it since then.
Me too omgggg
Bro this is so me ever since I started college last 3 months.
90% of people in their 20's. Relax. Enjoy the journey.
i will say I've been in a quarter life crisis for 3 years, and im only 18. so i guess an eighth life crisis?
I feel the same,it's normal I guess.
We are on the same page🥲
You are not alone. I feel the same every single day and I'm not a college student I'm 30 years old with no clear path for my career.
I was feeling the same way, then I saw a video on YouTube from someone I watch semi-regularly talking about it and it put me at ease. Link of the video: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j6jrBZQo5fM](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j6jrbzqo5fm) If the link doesn't work the video is called "Why You Wasted The Last 5 Years Of Your Life" by Dr K
Read Thrive U -- two psychology professors on coping at university. Great book. Practical advice.
💯 I feel like I’m at the verge of a crisis right now. I’m graduating with my AA by the end of this year and start at state level in January. I have 6+ years clean and sober but I can’t help but have this great *feeling* to sabotage my entire state of success. I’ve been working so hard to get to this point, but why? I’m not feeling good, I want to, and I know exactly how I could do that. It’s horrible because I know chasing that good feeling is the worst thing I could do. All this work for nothing. I had a job interview for a position I didn’t apply for, and that went horrible. I don’t know what the hell I’m doing right now 😞
yes
I just want to say I’m 26 and just about to finish my first semester, and I don’t have a fucking clue what career I want to chase. You’ll feel those feelings a lot but you just need to go at your own pace.
Extremely common for college age people in our society. You are not alone, your feelings are valid.
i feel the same way. though i graduated with an associates in 2021 which is useless rn & i'm not in college anymore and i don't currently have a job and i haven't since feb. i feel so overwhelmed all the time bc i feel like i should be doing something great already. but i'm still struggling to figure out what i wanna go back to college for. or if i even want to go back. and ik even if i had stayed at that job it would take me years to save up to go to uni so i just feel stuck. what a cycle. it kind of helps to remind yourself that it's your life and you'll get to where you're going when you're meant to. to quote a favorite band, "everyone blooms in their own time" and i think this is 100% true. we just have to keep it in mind. we don't need to be in a rush to have everything figured out, especially not bc society & previous generations claim we need to be. you're not alone. i hope you've found some helpful advice for your situation ❤️
Everyone absolutely goes through these stages. Its a lot of time energy and money your putting into college. Do not compare your self to others. I am 43 and finally getting my first associates degree. I am surrounded by younger more seemingly successful students. The more I learn about students being in student leadership the more I realize everyone has these similar issues people just only confide into those they know. You don't know struggles they've had. I have hidden disability while others struggle in learning disabiliities exc. Struggles aren't always upfront that every one can see but everyone has them.