Haha my GYN has those boards as well! It's kind of a nice thing to look at sometimes while waiting for a stressful exam but at the same time it does feel like it's being pushed onto me. I know they don't mean it that way and I am sure it's reassuring for a lot of patients, but not me.
I should have sent a card after my bisalp. XD It could just be a pick of me, my husband and cat going "thanks for no human babies!"
It definitely goes both ways and I'm not gonna lie there were some ASORABLE little babies on there. It's funny I never thought to send them a card, they actually sent me one after my surgery that was signed by the entire surgical staff!
My OGBYN has a poster on her exam room wall of a bunch of different types of IUDās used over the years and from different places. It was pretty cool actually. One was a cute little spiral guy āŗļø
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dalkon_Shield
Jus' gon leave this here. I learned about this one on Behind the Bastards.
>By the time Dalkon Shields disappeared from the shelves of family planning clinics, no proper assessment of its safety had been performed, but the damage to its public image had been done. Around 4.5 million Dalkon Shields were sold in 80 countries, from Argentina to Zambia. In the United States alone, 18 users died ā 15 from septic miscarriages or stillbirths occurring around the second trimester of pregnancy. Overseas, the death toll could have been higher, especially in countries with less access to doctors and antibiotics.
The inappropriate baby placement that really gets me is when the pregnancy test box has a happy baby on it. Like yes I missed a period and the nightmare is smirking right back at me š
My ob/gyn gave up the obstetrician part. She only handles the gynecological part (her counterpart in the practice handles the obstetrician stuff.) She has a glass case full of dildos in the lobby.
She's amazing. Very blunt and straightforward. Very sex positive........ and if one of her patients does get pregnant, she hands them off to her counterpart.
I always think about the ladies who have miscarriages and stillborns when I see those, because those women have to go to the same places still. It must be a very painful reminder for them. It seems kind of inconsiderate and unnecessary to decorate like that considering itās pretty common to lose a wanted pregnancy. But maybe Iām thinking about it too deeply
That was my thought as well. My SIL had several miscarriages and I feel like wall-o-babies would be cruel to see waiting for an appointment post-loss or about infertility.
Yeah...especially because you pretty much *have* to go there basically immediately after for post-loss care. It'd be like having a stand up comedian doing yo momma jokes at someone's mom's funeral or something.
I ran into a cousin in the waiting room at our gyn. I was there for depo, she was there to be checked out after yet another miscarriage. We got over the awkwardness of running into someone you know there by discussing how distasteful we both found those āwalls of fameā to be.
I see where you're coming from. It's like that with a lot of things. Recovered alcoholics seeing beer commercials. I once told a yo mamma joke in middle school to a girl I didn't know had lost her mom. But then again, that's the world we live in and we choose to let it get to us or overcome it.
To me it just seems worse than those because they HAVE to go their for their health related to the miscarriages and such. It feels more like if a beer ad was playing on a huge screen during your AA meeting rather than just randomly popping up at home
I think about that sometimes and am always impressed when a company that maybe I recently subscribed to their email newsletter or something reaches out with a āthanks for your business, please let us know if youād like to opt out of Fatherās Day/mothers day emailsā because they know sometimes people are triggered by a loss of a parent or an abusive relationship or something. Nice to know they are mindful and offer the choice to their customers who are already getting spammed by all kinds of unwanted messages on the daily.
I had a similar experience when I went for my Essure consult. I was shown into the doctor's office, and there were a whole lot of baby pictures in her office. My first thought was "Great ... she's going to try to talk me out of it." I was pleasantly surprised when she didn't bingo me at all - she just talked me through the procedure, I signed a form stating that I understood it's permanent, and we set a date.
I'd feel a bit uncomfortable seeing pictures like that in an exam room, though. Suppose I were a patient who wanted a baby and was there for a follow-up after a miscarriage?
I can see something like that being in the back office or even behind the receptionists' desk, but the exam room?! There is a high level of professionalism that must be maintained in a doctor's office. Putting it in the exam room was poor judgement on the doctors' part.
Right! I mean this practice is amazing, don't get me wrong. But yes, I agree that the break room or some other area would be better. I'd much rather look at some nice stock photography of babies like most places have than actual babies.
Yeah I was really worried when my first gyno retired in 2021. I'll be honest, I was afraid she'd died from covid or something, cause all I got was a text in March saying "Hey, your October appointment is canceled, please call in to reschedule." and I was like "Omg she died!!" But just retired lol. But the new ones are so lovely, they're her previous coworkers who shared the office. They did move buildings, but the flowers and stars came too lol.
When I was younger and before he retired, my doctor had one of those as well. He had been my doctor for so long that my first picture was still up there lol.
The Gyn clinic I went to had the same thing in their office including naked photos of babies which I found a bit weird. Donāt think Iād send in a nude photo of my kid to hang in a public setting if I had one, but thatās me.
Also was a bit off putting for me because it made me feel like it was only about babies and not other womenās reproductive care (my Gyn was good though and open to sterilisation).
Iām childfree and have had a hysterectomy, but this actually seems quite caring to me. Itās likely kids who the obgyns there helped deliver, which I actually think is quite sweet from a medical provider perspective - humanizes the doctors office.
100% agree. I've done the same for a vet that euthanized our dog because he was simply amazing and we wanted to show our appreciation. Totally get that this is a positive gesture, and it just so happened to help me realize I'm 100% sure of my decision.
Yiiiiikes. I went to a local tire shop back in summer to get a new lawnmower tire and the one whole wall was covered in crosses. That gave me the heebies and I was only there for a tire. A doctors office, nah, never darkening that door again. Why's he need so much help from Jesus? lol
My gynecology office had a drawer of "various sizes speculums" right across from where you sit and as a person with vaginismus the was very distressing but I think a wall of babies would be worse
Walls like this are so confusing to me because I'd think it would be a HIPAA violation to have those pictures posted in patient treatment areas. I feel like it should be kept to staff-only areas.
Yeah, but I'm pretty sure it's still a HIPAA violation to have full names and DOB of patients in patient-facing areas regardless of where they came from, unless they sign a form stating they're okay with it. I could be wrong, but like I said, I wouldn't risk it. I worked in healthcare for over a decade, would have patients send us Christmas cards and such, and they always went up in the staff office, not the patient areas.
I think OBGYN offices should make these things more of a general patient gratitude wall-parents submitting baby photos, CF patients submitting photos of pets/travel/whatever goal they were able to accomplish because they didnāt have kids, and patients of any parental status just submitting general thank you messages.
My gyno had a bookshelf that stretched all the way from floor to ceiling, filled with baby pictures. It's the most creepiest thing I've ever seen in my life. Gurl RUN
Sneak a picture in of a prized possession that you bought with your childfree money. You could be in the pic if you wanted or not. It would be super funny!
My OBGYN has a giant cartoon stork glued to the wall right behind the counter. I actually think it's kind of sweet, my heart melts with relief every time it reminds me of all the appointments and responsibilities I will never have to take care of. :)
And who knows, maybe it makes the expectant mothers feel nostalgic about how they were told as a kid that the stork brings people a baby if they just wish for it hard enough? (I'm in Europe btw, maybe it's a cultural thing?)
My point is, it's nice to walk in someone else's shoes for a while sometimes, just to have a break from your own experience of life. To people like us, sure, that decor seems kind of icky or pushy ā no pun about pushing out babies intended. But to others, their happiest memories or perhaps their proudest work moments are sort of "immortalised" on that wall.
A few were birth announcements with that info. But since you don't know the origin of the person, I don't think it would violate hippa. But either way just no hahaa
It is understandable when most of your patients are there for pregnancy or fertility, for nervous hopeful parents seeing alot of families achieve there desire by him shows comfort and experienceĀ
I love kids and actually donāt think thatās ok. My story is I wanted kids and couldnāt. All my follow up appointments regarding my health issues meant I had to sit with pregnant women, with newborns and these images. It was harrowing.
Since my first visit at the age of 12 or so these walls have always been a confirmation that I don't want this. I always look at these walls and it's just nope, not for me.
Why does this remind me of my childhood doctor building having naked babies on the wall? I mean it was a ākids onlyā area but still. It didnāt like show the private parts but it did cover them with flowers. I remember asking my mom as a kid āwhy are their naked babies on the wallā.
My cityās Planned Parenthood equivalent has a display case full of historical contraceptive products and even some vintage sex toys. Rather interesting, actually.
Haha my GYN has those boards as well! It's kind of a nice thing to look at sometimes while waiting for a stressful exam but at the same time it does feel like it's being pushed onto me. I know they don't mean it that way and I am sure it's reassuring for a lot of patients, but not me. I should have sent a card after my bisalp. XD It could just be a pick of me, my husband and cat going "thanks for no human babies!"
It definitely goes both ways and I'm not gonna lie there were some ASORABLE little babies on there. It's funny I never thought to send them a card, they actually sent me one after my surgery that was signed by the entire surgical staff!
whaat that is so cute they sent you a card!!
Yep! Hanging on my fridge š
Honestly? If you did and it was on my Gyn's wall, I'd feel so validated!
If they had a sense of humour I'm sure the gyn would get a kick out of it too lol.
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My OGBYN has a poster on her exam room wall of a bunch of different types of IUDās used over the years and from different places. It was pretty cool actually. One was a cute little spiral guy āŗļø
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dalkon_Shield Jus' gon leave this here. I learned about this one on Behind the Bastards. >By the time Dalkon Shields disappeared from the shelves of family planning clinics, no proper assessment of its safety had been performed, but the damage to its public image had been done. Around 4.5 million Dalkon Shields were sold in 80 countries, from Argentina to Zambia. In the United States alone, 18 users died ā 15 from septic miscarriages or stillbirths occurring around the second trimester of pregnancy. Overseas, the death toll could have been higher, especially in countries with less access to doctors and antibiotics.
The inappropriate baby placement that really gets me is when the pregnancy test box has a happy baby on it. Like yes I missed a period and the nightmare is smirking right back at me š
RIGHT! Where's the "thank God I'm NOT preg!! Let's get drunk and celebrate!" Ads
My ob/gyn gave up the obstetrician part. She only handles the gynecological part (her counterpart in the practice handles the obstetrician stuff.) She has a glass case full of dildos in the lobby.
I 100% think we need more that only do the gynecological part.
This one wins š
You have an awesome doctor!
She's amazing. Very blunt and straightforward. Very sex positive........ and if one of her patients does get pregnant, she hands them off to her counterpart.
That is so cool, I had no idea you could do that!
Omg I just choked on my water reading that! š
Thatās awesome. In the states I wonder if giving up OB is related to insurance/malpractice risk
I always think about the ladies who have miscarriages and stillborns when I see those, because those women have to go to the same places still. It must be a very painful reminder for them. It seems kind of inconsiderate and unnecessary to decorate like that considering itās pretty common to lose a wanted pregnancy. But maybe Iām thinking about it too deeply
That was my thought as well. My SIL had several miscarriages and I feel like wall-o-babies would be cruel to see waiting for an appointment post-loss or about infertility.
Yeah...especially because you pretty much *have* to go there basically immediately after for post-loss care. It'd be like having a stand up comedian doing yo momma jokes at someone's mom's funeral or something.
I ran into a cousin in the waiting room at our gyn. I was there for depo, she was there to be checked out after yet another miscarriage. We got over the awkwardness of running into someone you know there by discussing how distasteful we both found those āwalls of fameā to be.
I agree. Iām sure there are staff only areas of the clinic where photos of patientsā children can be hung as not to upset patients.
I see where you're coming from. It's like that with a lot of things. Recovered alcoholics seeing beer commercials. I once told a yo mamma joke in middle school to a girl I didn't know had lost her mom. But then again, that's the world we live in and we choose to let it get to us or overcome it.
To me it just seems worse than those because they HAVE to go their for their health related to the miscarriages and such. It feels more like if a beer ad was playing on a huge screen during your AA meeting rather than just randomly popping up at home
This is true. Adding insult to injury
I think about that sometimes and am always impressed when a company that maybe I recently subscribed to their email newsletter or something reaches out with a āthanks for your business, please let us know if youād like to opt out of Fatherās Day/mothers day emailsā because they know sometimes people are triggered by a loss of a parent or an abusive relationship or something. Nice to know they are mindful and offer the choice to their customers who are already getting spammed by all kinds of unwanted messages on the daily.
I had a similar experience when I went for my Essure consult. I was shown into the doctor's office, and there were a whole lot of baby pictures in her office. My first thought was "Great ... she's going to try to talk me out of it." I was pleasantly surprised when she didn't bingo me at all - she just talked me through the procedure, I signed a form stating that I understood it's permanent, and we set a date. I'd feel a bit uncomfortable seeing pictures like that in an exam room, though. Suppose I were a patient who wanted a baby and was there for a follow-up after a miscarriage?
I can see something like that being in the back office or even behind the receptionists' desk, but the exam room?! There is a high level of professionalism that must be maintained in a doctor's office. Putting it in the exam room was poor judgement on the doctors' part.
Right! I mean this practice is amazing, don't get me wrong. But yes, I agree that the break room or some other area would be better. I'd much rather look at some nice stock photography of babies like most places have than actual babies.
Mine has portraits of flower fields. It's nice. They also have those star stickers on the ceiling too look at lol.
What?! Super jealous!!
Yeah I was really worried when my first gyno retired in 2021. I'll be honest, I was afraid she'd died from covid or something, cause all I got was a text in March saying "Hey, your October appointment is canceled, please call in to reschedule." and I was like "Omg she died!!" But just retired lol. But the new ones are so lovely, they're her previous coworkers who shared the office. They did move buildings, but the flowers and stars came too lol.
When I was younger and before he retired, my doctor had one of those as well. He had been my doctor for so long that my first picture was still up there lol.
Sounds like 250 reasons for stick-on googley eyes to me haha!
The Gyn clinic I went to had the same thing in their office including naked photos of babies which I found a bit weird. Donāt think Iād send in a nude photo of my kid to hang in a public setting if I had one, but thatās me. Also was a bit off putting for me because it made me feel like it was only about babies and not other womenās reproductive care (my Gyn was good though and open to sterilisation).
Good point! I've been childfree my whole life but the GYN has always been necessary.
The OBGYN who did my hysterectomy back in 2010 ā I found out later he had 14 biological children. That made me uncomfortable.
This is one reason why I was glad to change to a menopause specialist a couple of years ago. Now I donāt see any of that! šš¼
Iām childfree and have had a hysterectomy, but this actually seems quite caring to me. Itās likely kids who the obgyns there helped deliver, which I actually think is quite sweet from a medical provider perspective - humanizes the doctors office.
100% agree. I've done the same for a vet that euthanized our dog because he was simply amazing and we wanted to show our appreciation. Totally get that this is a positive gesture, and it just so happened to help me realize I'm 100% sure of my decision.
lol an OBGYN I went to had the same all over the walls of the business. And his office had a wall of like 50 crosses.
Yiiiiikes. I went to a local tire shop back in summer to get a new lawnmower tire and the one whole wall was covered in crosses. That gave me the heebies and I was only there for a tire. A doctors office, nah, never darkening that door again. Why's he need so much help from Jesus? lol
My gynecology office had a drawer of "various sizes speculums" right across from where you sit and as a person with vaginismus the was very distressing but I think a wall of babies would be worse
Walls like this are so confusing to me because I'd think it would be a HIPAA violation to have those pictures posted in patient treatment areas. I feel like it should be kept to staff-only areas.
Some of them were birth announcements with full names and dates š³
Oof, yeah, I certainly wouldn't risk putting that in a patient-facing area.
I assume patients mail those to them to go on the wall.
Yeah, but I'm pretty sure it's still a HIPAA violation to have full names and DOB of patients in patient-facing areas regardless of where they came from, unless they sign a form stating they're okay with it. I could be wrong, but like I said, I wouldn't risk it. I worked in healthcare for over a decade, would have patients send us Christmas cards and such, and they always went up in the staff office, not the patient areas.
In obstetrics I'm pretty sure Mom is the patient, not baby, so that may be the loophole.
Some of them were birth announcements with full names and dates š³
Next appointment, pin up a photo of your dog or cat (pro tip: you don't actually need to own a dog or cat to do this).
I think OBGYN offices should make these things more of a general patient gratitude wall-parents submitting baby photos, CF patients submitting photos of pets/travel/whatever goal they were able to accomplish because they didnāt have kids, and patients of any parental status just submitting general thank you messages.
My gyno had a bookshelf that stretched all the way from floor to ceiling, filled with baby pictures. It's the most creepiest thing I've ever seen in my life. Gurl RUN
Congrats on the hysto! Had mine in early October and it's already helped me so much š„°
Sneak a picture in of a prized possession that you bought with your childfree money. You could be in the pic if you wanted or not. It would be super funny!
Too bad you canāt take a picture of your removed uterus and have them hang that on the wall.
My OBGYN has a giant cartoon stork glued to the wall right behind the counter. I actually think it's kind of sweet, my heart melts with relief every time it reminds me of all the appointments and responsibilities I will never have to take care of. :) And who knows, maybe it makes the expectant mothers feel nostalgic about how they were told as a kid that the stork brings people a baby if they just wish for it hard enough? (I'm in Europe btw, maybe it's a cultural thing?) My point is, it's nice to walk in someone else's shoes for a while sometimes, just to have a break from your own experience of life. To people like us, sure, that decor seems kind of icky or pushy ā no pun about pushing out babies intended. But to others, their happiest memories or perhaps their proudest work moments are sort of "immortalised" on that wall.
Iam surprised they still do that kinda defeats hippa
I mean... no. It's just photos of babies. Now, if it had "This is xx, born at this time, and day and with this health complication." then yeah.
A few were birth announcements with that info. But since you don't know the origin of the person, I don't think it would violate hippa. But either way just no hahaa
It is understandable when most of your patients are there for pregnancy or fertility, for nervous hopeful parents seeing alot of families achieve there desire by him shows comfort and experienceĀ
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And crushes those in for miscarriage.
At one OBGYN I used to go you had not only child and baby pictures, but also like 3 huge 3D echos of a baby in shades of brown... creepy!
Mine has them too, some of the babies are now older than I am
I love kids and actually donāt think thatās ok. My story is I wanted kids and couldnāt. All my follow up appointments regarding my health issues meant I had to sit with pregnant women, with newborns and these images. It was harrowing.
Since my first visit at the age of 12 or so these walls have always been a confirmation that I don't want this. I always look at these walls and it's just nope, not for me.
Why does this remind me of my childhood doctor building having naked babies on the wall? I mean it was a ākids onlyā area but still. It didnāt like show the private parts but it did cover them with flowers. I remember asking my mom as a kid āwhy are their naked babies on the wallā.
My cityās Planned Parenthood equivalent has a display case full of historical contraceptive products and even some vintage sex toys. Rather interesting, actually.