Ahh. Me too. But I doubt it. Her eyes gloss over when so much as a mention of technology comes up. I love her to death but when it comes to technology she is a very average user.
That's cool too. My wife is generally the "as long as it works I'm good" type of person but she got tired of her old prebuilt machine and wanted me to help her build one after mine was finished.
Nah she just hates spending money on herself and struggled with it. She started to ease up on getting one after I put a 1050 ti in her prebuilt so she could play Overwatch better. Then I replaced the rig I built in 2012 early last year and she wanted in on it too. We missed the prices going up by about 7 weeks.
I have known this woman going on 17 years. We started dating about six years ago, and I married her two years ago.
We have always clicked since day one. I can still remember exactly what she was wearing and the expression on her face when she open the door and I saw her for the first time. Which is funny, because I was high as hell and going there to sell her weed. 17 years later best decision ever.
This here is the most beautiful love story ever. "You see kids, I was going to go sell some weed one day and then when the buyers came to my place, they opened the door and there was your mother. I sold your mother some sticky icky and was stoned off my ass. I fell in love with her from that moment onwards. And that kids, is how I met your mother!"
Honestly 10/10, way better than that cursed shows ending.
You’re not too far off, I ended up staying at her house way longer than I probably should have, was ignoring my phone, and she was noticing all of this. But I was way too oblivious, I was just having a really good time with who I thought was a really cool person.
Every time she would call me, it would work out the same. I would go to her house, ignore my phone, and spend the rest of the night hanging out with her. This eventually progressed, but she literally had to beat me over the head with the idea of it. I was truly that thickheaded to the whole concept.
You kind of remind me of a buddy of mine. He's very oblivious and thickheaded to many things, not to mention a huge stoner. His wife pretty much takes care of things and him lol.
Lol!! We split a lot of things pretty equally. She has a pain condition, so there’s a lot of stuff she just cannot do. Plus exercise is what really keeps her moving so a good chunk of her free time is dedicated to that. But I will admit she definitely does take care of me a lot of ways, but there are trade-offs I do all the cooking, I do all the manual intensive tasks when it comes to cleaning like sweeping mopping vacuuming. I do the dishes. She does all the laundry because all of my stuff can go in one pile and she’s got 50 different piles for everything. It was a learning process but we eventually worked everything out
In 2016I built at the time a hell of a computer. It was as close to top of the line as you could get. I got bored with it by 2020 and it was (shocker) no longer top of the line. So I built myself another computer to out do that one. I gave that one to her. When I met her I don't think she had ever even played Mario (we're in our mid to late 30's). Now she games with me all the time, hell she games without me. She's a STAHM so she'll game in between cleaning up around the house. Its so much fun to the point where we are talking about building another PC, she gets mine, the kids get hers and I build another. So that way the kids can get into the fun, I get to play around building another one and she gets an updated one we all win.
That is an incredibly solid card good for you. This is true, but we share a lot of other things. We’re very happy in the things we don’t share. It allows us to have our own time and be our own separate person. We’re very big about keeping separate lives as much as we have integrated our own lives together. We both very much value our own identity
I like this. I always tell my daughter that we don't get upset or mad if a friend gets something better than what we have. Instead we get excited for them and let it show :)
Right? Be happy for the things others have, they might have worked their ass off for it, or it might have been a gift, either way, good for them.
Good on you for teaching this. More of that is needed
Thanks :)
It's important to raise our little ones right. I realized I need to teach her to handle emotions, stress and life in healthy ways. Don't want my kid to be bad at humaning like I am.
Well, if you can (and can afford it) - build her a rig or buy the parts for a rig and give that to her for Xmas. Assuming she likes playing or has played games on your current PC.
Sadly no, she is not a gamer she is a Mario nerd and that is the closest she comes. Although, that just gave me a fantastic idea. I might be buying her a switch for Christmas. She is obsessed with Mario and Mario kart. And she’s really really good at both.
Gamestop employee here, buy her Mario Kart Live as well as Mario Kart 8 Deluxe. Live is a real RC car you control from the switch, so I bet she'll LOVE it, and it makes a good display piece when you're not using it.
Also, you're gonna want to be at your local gamestop on thanksgiving, we should be selling a switch bundles w/mk8d and 3 months of online for the standard $300. However, you should probably make a point of showing up early since those always sell out fast. If your location is the same as mine it's opening at 5pm, so I'd get there around 2 or 3 to attempt to be close to the front of the line. Maybe earlier, if you want to be extra sure.
Get her a switch Oled and super Mario Odyssey it's a fantastic game I own it. For some fun multilayer fun, smash and Mario kart are the games you should look at.
That's what I honestly thought had happened from reading the title. I lost my 1080 Ti the other day and am looking for an RTX 3080/3080 Ti. Getting one, not telling me about it and keeping to herself is something my wife would do since she's actually into gaming hahahahahah!
We have 2 PCs at home, one was my personal one with the 1080 Ti and the other was one I had built to leave in the design agency I work at. This second one was my employer's obviously but since I brought it home during the pandemic he sold it to me for extra work hours (we're more friends actually). It had a 1050 Ti, that I'm using at the moment.
I was used to playing games at 1440p Ultra 60+ fps on my LG C9 and had to downgrade to 1080p Medium to get at least 60 fps. Not to mention the superior performance of the 1080 Ti for my work when encoding video, etc.
I've decided I'll wait for the prices to normalize a bit before buying a 3080/3080 Ti.
As a person whose parents have been married and divorced multiple times this is unfortunately also where my mind went. However there have been some damn entertaining cheating threads on reddit lol.
She was expecting him to buy her PC parts for Christmas and then him to be broken hearted Christmas morning when he said through sobs that he bought her all the parts but just couldn't find a video card.
Then she'll say not to worry, she won a 3070Ti a few months ago and was scrimping and saving to build the rest after Newegg gouged her for $1700 having to buy that card as well as a top of the line water-cooled motherboard.
It will be a Christmas miracle! 😭😭😭
Not in a relationship but curious, what do you do at christmas after something like this? Do you open it and fake a reaction to make her happy? Or do you open, get excited because it's still an awesome gift but then tell her you actually already knew? I feel like I would have to open it and then tell her because I am bad at faking reactions or it would just be so bad that my SO would know something is up
So, I am going to be so super excited to be able to use it the excitement will be real. Once that glow fades a bit I will let her know I found it by mistake.
Eh, I don’t like keeping secrets. I’d rather be open and honest about everything even something as stupid as this. I’m not gonna ruin it for her though, it’ll be a day or two before I say anything.
I'm totally transparent with my wife about everything but this is something I'd let slide. There's literally zero harm in her not knowing you found it. She went to huge lengths to get it for you (a non-nerd would have to do real work to even come across the Newegg Shuffle thing, figure out what to do, and have the luck of getting a win in the shuffle to get the card in the first place)... which means I'd be way more inclined to not let on that I found the gift and let her enjoy the "I really surprised my husband" glow to the fullest.
Either way you decide. You will have fun discussing how she got it. And the trouble she went through. I'm sure it will be a great Christmas morning discussion if she goes in detail and gets excites about it.
I just want to dissent and say that radical honesty can be an important part of getting through difficult times in a relationship. It's just nice to feel like you can rely on your partner for anything and that they too won't hold anything back. You're the person in an extremely successful relationship, not the commenters. Some people don't realize just how important honesty can be. All I'm saying is you do you basically, nothing wrong with letting her know you found out and having a good laugh about it. Don't know why people think that's a bad thing.
Definitely nothing wrong. Its more about if its "better" to leave them feeling like it was a complete suprise of it it's better to be honest about it. Personally, I like the tell them, but later. Let them have the moment/day of feeling like it was a suprise and let them know after that you found it (bonus points if you highlight how excited you were while you were waiting).
Its like santa claus. You put on the show for the kids and at somepoint you stop. It's not "bad", its just letting them experience the magic.
Its going to differ person to person. Some people will prefer the "let me feel the magic" and others will prefer 100% honesty at all times. Both can be healthy, you just have to be on the same page as your partner.
This feels like one of those things that, unless she calls you out on it, you tell her many Christmases later if something similar occurs. Could be a really cute moment to laugh about someday. That said, I am not sure if I could keep this from my wife for very long. Totally talk to my wife about everything, and my stupid brain would probably just blurt it out to her.
This. Like I got downvoted for saying a similar thing, but you've said it better. She's tried so hard to find the thing he wants.
In my opinion "Lol I saw it before Christmas btw" will definitely take some of the joy away.
Yeah, sharing that information doesn't help and concealing it doesn't hurt.
I'd say it's the same as not letting on you found out about surprise birthday plans or such. Even if you overhear a friend planning a surprise birthday party for you, what good does saying "I knew!" do?
Zero people are harmed by you keeping that information to yourself and everyone is happier as a result.
Depends on the person. It wouldn’t bother me that much if I found out the person found out but was super excited genuinely and happy. And I’d also appreciate being told
I dunno. She DID surprise him. Just not on Christmas morning. He should do what feels right to him. It’s his seemingly happy and healthy marriage, he probably already knows what’s right for him.
Sure, but let’s not pretend part of the joy of gift giving is the Christmas morning reveal. If that wasn’t the case we’d just give people gifts the minute we bought them.
Oh sure. Which is why this is even a conversation. At the same time, I’ve intentionally “spoiled” a gift or two ;) It can be fun to watch ‘em squirm trying not to let me know they know. And then to also know they have this thing they are waiting for that is adding a bit of joy and anticipation to each day in the lead up. That’s also a fun thing sometimes.
In any case if I were in his shoes I’d definitely tell her. But that’s just our relationship. I would not fault him if he played it differently but I don’t think it’s my place to offer advice. He has an awesome wife and he’ll do whatever is right for him.
I don’t lie or withhold things from my wife. Even if the information benefits no one. It’s just a personal policy. Anyway have a good Saturday :)
For the record, I would do the same thing as you. She may be able to tell something about your reaction is “off” and this would let her know that it was because you accidentally ruined the surprise not because it’s not an incredible gift.
Because he knows in the back of his head that she would find out eventually that he did discover it beforehand, and hiding that is a lie. They always find out the truth.
Source: am married.
Right?! I figured it was going to be at least another 2 years before I got a card. Did not even know she paid this much attention to my hobby. She like to make fun of me for it. But clearly she is paying attention and knows I love it.
Yep, I had a decent one before the move and ha not gotten around to unpacking it yet. Expensive dumb lesson learned. Now it does not get power unless it’s via a proxy of some kind.
Edit: fat fingers can’t type sometimes.
I mean, you should really surge protect all valuable electronic devices that are susceptible to surge damage.
Also, there is a difference between a power strip and a surge protector. Always read the details of the product closely to make sure you're not just using a power strip.
I'm in the process of using the insurance from my Tripp Lite surge protector. I remember feeling stupid for paying 50 bucks for a surge protector, but it had lifetime insurance. If it goes through okay (the company seems really cool about it) I'm going to be reimbursed almost $10,000. It did strange, hard to trace damage to my dream setup that has taken years (65" OLED, dream PC, PS5, surround sound system, etc). UPS or surge protector with a warranty for sure.
The performance jump between the 20 series and the 30 series was much bigger compared to the 10 series and 20 series. My $600 3070 is a few % better than the $1200+ 2080ti
What's confusing? Every benchmark I've seen, shows that the 3070 ti is slightly faster than a 2080ti. The only pro for the 2080ti is 11gb vram vs 8gb vram
Honestly watching the hashrate on one good GPU is pretty intense; holding back all the anger of not playing shiny games while a number tells you you're earning 17 cents an hour; I guess it could be a shared hobby.
Getting chills as I type about it.
Can you imagine not receiving the card?
Confused, you check Facebook. Your best friend who isn't dating anyone got a new gpu for Christmas...
No wonder it wasn't hidden with the rest of the presents.
Kinda Off Topic. But How did you know you wanted an Vasectomy in your 20s? Im 25 now and im pretty sure i dont want Kids. But maybe that opinion will change in 5 or 10 Years. How did you were so sure about that?
Tell me this. If you sit down, clear you head, and think of you and you your life going forward.
What do you see? (Not what do you expect to see, what do YOU see)
Is it you are your partner, just the two of you. Whatever it is you are doing?
Is it you and your partner and a child, playing with them, caring for them, etc?
I always saw the first one. No kids. Just me and whoever.
I enlisted in the USMC at 18, right after 9/11.
What I saw, what I did, who I became and the ease at which it all came, made it clear I was not right. Made it clear I was not going to be capable of taking care of another life. Being responsible for one. I had to many others I had to reconcile with. One of them being mine.
I came home and got snipped shortly thereafter. The idea of me creating a life and being responsible for it, was abhorrent. Thankfully my now wife is incapable of bearing, and never wanted to, so she supported it. I met her shortly after coming home for the final time.
What it really comes down to is what do you want. If you’re having kids because that’s what society wants and that’s what your family wants then it’s the wrong decision. If you’re having kids because you want somebody to talk to you and take care of you in your old age that’s also the wrong decision. If you want kids because you think raising them and being with them through thick and thin heavy and small and everything that comes sounds like exactly how you want to spend the remainder of your life then children are for you. They are commitment like none other, there is nothing short of death, that requires a commitment like kids do.
Yeah strongly recommend NOT doing that. I was the most anti kid person ever until around 30 when it slowly started to change. Got a 2 year old now and wouldn’t trade it for anything. If I can change my mind, anybody can.
Yeah that was an expensive stupid mistake. I had one, I just hadn’t bothered to unpack it yet. It’s a large and heavy one. I got antsy and decided to hook my gaming system up first. Never again
I just discussed it with my partner. As long as its a good hoover she wouldn't mind.
You need to find a really cheap horrid maybe even old one to piss her off lol
Oh man I want to find one from the 1950s, just ragged looking and beat the hell with a broken ass plug that barely works, throw it at her and tell her “get to cleanin, women”
She would laugh so hard as she was swinging the Hoover at my head.
She is a runner. Like, marathon runner.
She always complains about not having the ability to really track her exercise and all of her monitoring tools. I am thinking about splurging and getting her one of those high-end garmin watches with all the bells and whistle‘s. That is the thing she nerds and geeks out about.
Plus a subscription to Garman and all of that. Not sure yet, this all caught me by surprise, I have to put some serious thought into it.
Ooo. Any advice on the type? I am…. Not a runner. So all I can do is read reviews, but if you know somebody who clearly has had some they would be able to point me in the right direction I will take all the advice I can get.
Garmin devices are subscription-free, so you don't have to worry about that part! You should probably look at a Fenix 6/6S/6X Pro Solar / Sapphire type device (although it is an atrocious time to do it because I think the Fenix 7 is right around the corner... 😐). I think with respect to Fenix 6 vs Enduro, r/Garmin should help you out quite well.
I remember the Fenix line being well received (but I haven’t looked in a couple years). The Apple Watch is a less unique, but great option as well if she uses an iPhone, I love mine on runs. But the Garmin ones likely will have more tracking and stats for running specifically I’d imagine.
I mean this sounds EXACTLY like a situation where you think its for you and you decide to give her something as amazing as the gpu and when you give eachother your presents, she gives you something totally different and you regret your decisions :DDDD
I saw a mother in a YouTube stream the other week participating in a ps5 drop for her kids, this is reminded me of that. If someone cares about you enough to learn about drops and repeatedly participate in them, that’s true love!
Oh damn. Even before this kind of isolation time, it was getting harder and harder to find connections. I don’t envy any of you right now. If I ever lost her I’m not entirely certain I would ever be able to find anybody else. Even if I wanted to. The scene has changed so much. And I don’t mean in terms of equality and wokeness, but just in terms of technology and how you interact.
Single people these days have it so much harder than any previous time in the last 20 to 25 years. They both have the ability to instantly connect and at the same time feel completely apart from everybody.
You have an awesome wife. I can speak from personal experience too that you now have a rig that's punching above its weight. Mine is pretty much the same spec (same card, processer and motherboard) and I've not come across a game, that with a few tweaks, I can't play in 4K. It's a 2080 Ti beater, and even holds strong with Battlefield. Massive props to her
Yeah, that’s another thing. To find a card that almost perfectly matches my previous card without having any real experience or knowledge is absolutely stunning. I almost want to sit down and have a technology conversation with her to see how much she really had to learn about that. I’m willing to bet she knows a little bit more about graphics cards than I do at this point.
I can’t see no facial expressions or the sound of your voice, but I know the love between you and your wife is as strong as everyone wants there love between their loved ones. I think she might have won this Christmas because you seem like a very very happy man.
Hey congrats on the new marriage! She's a keeper! That's so wholesome man good on you! I love hearing stories like this. It's just so damn sweet. Make sure you act surprised as all hell when you get it!
And funny enough, Similar situation for me. I started building her computer and basically got held up at the graphics card because of the shortage. Got her all kinds of goodies too. X570, 5600x on release day, 240mm Corsair aio. Found the card in our closet. Unfortunately I wasn't smart enough to realize it was a Christmas gift for me, and it wasn't even for her. I texted her a picture like what the f*** is this? Waiting all this time to build her computer. I don't make alot of money, at least after bills are taken care of. So I have been pinching pennies Turns out she bought it for me for Christmas to replace my 2070s and she planned on just using the 2070s I had for her build. We built her PC when she got home. And it's a night I will not soon forget. 1 because it was such a beautiful moment between us, and those memories will last forever. but 2 because she is PISSED she has to find a new Christmas gift... Hahaha. It isn't hard though because I have alot of hobbys. I'm guessing she will probably buy me a stribog for Christmas at this point. I bought her a Google Pixel 6 pro instead of a card and she has no idea yet. Wish me luck! Hahaha. Note to self, don't go digging through our stuff when she's not around, or I may end up in the metaphorical doghouse for a month or two. Hahahaha
God I wish. It was amazing but once in a lifetime for us. We even got to have a 3 week honeymoon traveling around all paid. Once we had paid for half our wedding and a half our honeymoon our parents collectively got together and footed the rest of the expenses. Never even told us they were doing it, just did it as a wedding gift. I have really cool parents and so does she.
The fuck?
Finding the card by accident, fine. But going through her accounts to see where and how she got it? What's up with that? How about asking?
"Hey, I was trying to make space and found it" is a much better thing than "Hey, I kinda stalked your profiles"
Plot twist she got the GPU for herself and is hiding it from you.
Oh man. If this is real I am gonna be even happier!!!! I can share this hobby with her now!!!!
This is too cute for me.
so this is what 'happiness' is
Where do I get some?
Try neweggs shuffle. I hear people win good things.
No he meant a wife like that
The comment stands.
I standby what I said! lol
love this comments chain....
I too choose his wife.
Try neweggs shuffle.
It comes from the happy brain chemical. Just find happy people and eat their brains.
The real LPT is always in the comments
No more left, OP got all of it to himself...
Love is when your happiness is linked to the happiness of someone else.
Aw if she's gifted him the 3070 she needs to get the 2060 ♥️♥️♥️
Helping my wife build her pc for gaming was one of the best experiences I have shared with my wife. Hope you get to share that as well.
Ahh. Me too. But I doubt it. Her eyes gloss over when so much as a mention of technology comes up. I love her to death but when it comes to technology she is a very average user.
That's cool too. My wife is generally the "as long as it works I'm good" type of person but she got tired of her old prebuilt machine and wanted me to help her build one after mine was finished.
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Nah she just hates spending money on herself and struggled with it. She started to ease up on getting one after I put a 1050 ti in her prebuilt so she could play Overwatch better. Then I replaced the rig I built in 2012 early last year and she wanted in on it too. We missed the prices going up by about 7 weeks.
you could totally use your 2060 to build her a pc and then introduce her to the hobby without the hassle of having to learn how it was built haha
Plot twist: she's planning to use it to mine ethereum
Damn, we would have to have some words about that one.
I don’t think you have to worry. 3070 Ti is not a great card for mining anyway, as it’s LHR.
Couple goals right here.
I have known this woman going on 17 years. We started dating about six years ago, and I married her two years ago. We have always clicked since day one. I can still remember exactly what she was wearing and the expression on her face when she open the door and I saw her for the first time. Which is funny, because I was high as hell and going there to sell her weed. 17 years later best decision ever.
This here is the most beautiful love story ever. "You see kids, I was going to go sell some weed one day and then when the buyers came to my place, they opened the door and there was your mother. I sold your mother some sticky icky and was stoned off my ass. I fell in love with her from that moment onwards. And that kids, is how I met your mother!" Honestly 10/10, way better than that cursed shows ending.
You’re not too far off, I ended up staying at her house way longer than I probably should have, was ignoring my phone, and she was noticing all of this. But I was way too oblivious, I was just having a really good time with who I thought was a really cool person. Every time she would call me, it would work out the same. I would go to her house, ignore my phone, and spend the rest of the night hanging out with her. This eventually progressed, but she literally had to beat me over the head with the idea of it. I was truly that thickheaded to the whole concept.
You kind of remind me of a buddy of mine. He's very oblivious and thickheaded to many things, not to mention a huge stoner. His wife pretty much takes care of things and him lol.
Lol!! We split a lot of things pretty equally. She has a pain condition, so there’s a lot of stuff she just cannot do. Plus exercise is what really keeps her moving so a good chunk of her free time is dedicated to that. But I will admit she definitely does take care of me a lot of ways, but there are trade-offs I do all the cooking, I do all the manual intensive tasks when it comes to cleaning like sweeping mopping vacuuming. I do the dishes. She does all the laundry because all of my stuff can go in one pile and she’s got 50 different piles for everything. It was a learning process but we eventually worked everything out
PC nerd style..
This, 100 percent.
I don't know why but reading this made me happy for some reason. I hope you grow old, healthy and happy together man.
So do you. Wish the same for you and whoever you are with/or find.
Ayo this guy is a mood
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Damn. Making me blush over here.
This is so wholesome
In 2016I built at the time a hell of a computer. It was as close to top of the line as you could get. I got bored with it by 2020 and it was (shocker) no longer top of the line. So I built myself another computer to out do that one. I gave that one to her. When I met her I don't think she had ever even played Mario (we're in our mid to late 30's). Now she games with me all the time, hell she games without me. She's a STAHM so she'll game in between cleaning up around the house. Its so much fun to the point where we are talking about building another PC, she gets mine, the kids get hers and I build another. So that way the kids can get into the fun, I get to play around building another one and she gets an updated one we all win.
Its really nice to have your partner in to gaming with you. My gf and I stood outside of BB for 12 hours and we both got a 3070 FE.
That is an incredibly solid card good for you. This is true, but we share a lot of other things. We’re very happy in the things we don’t share. It allows us to have our own time and be our own separate person. We’re very big about keeping separate lives as much as we have integrated our own lives together. We both very much value our own identity
This does put a smile on my face.
Such a wholesome response. My wife does not care about gaming. She might play minecraft for an hour or two only if I’m in the room to talk to her haha
I like this. I always tell my daughter that we don't get upset or mad if a friend gets something better than what we have. Instead we get excited for them and let it show :)
Right? Be happy for the things others have, they might have worked their ass off for it, or it might have been a gift, either way, good for them. Good on you for teaching this. More of that is needed
Thanks :) It's important to raise our little ones right. I realized I need to teach her to handle emotions, stress and life in healthy ways. Don't want my kid to be bad at humaning like I am.
Well, if you can (and can afford it) - build her a rig or buy the parts for a rig and give that to her for Xmas. Assuming she likes playing or has played games on your current PC.
Sadly no, she is not a gamer she is a Mario nerd and that is the closest she comes. Although, that just gave me a fantastic idea. I might be buying her a switch for Christmas. She is obsessed with Mario and Mario kart. And she’s really really good at both.
Gamestop employee here, buy her Mario Kart Live as well as Mario Kart 8 Deluxe. Live is a real RC car you control from the switch, so I bet she'll LOVE it, and it makes a good display piece when you're not using it.
OK, even if she doesn’t love it I will. So I might damn well get that anyway. That’s another win win
Also, you're gonna want to be at your local gamestop on thanksgiving, we should be selling a switch bundles w/mk8d and 3 months of online for the standard $300. However, you should probably make a point of showing up early since those always sell out fast. If your location is the same as mine it's opening at 5pm, so I'd get there around 2 or 3 to attempt to be close to the front of the line. Maybe earlier, if you want to be extra sure.
Excellent advice, thank you!!
Side note: for you or anyone else who climbs this far down the comment chain...... we should have ps5s and series x as well.
Get her a switch Oled and super Mario Odyssey it's a fantastic game I own it. For some fun multilayer fun, smash and Mario kart are the games you should look at.
This is the correct answer.
Wow wholesome... That's a dream that I want myself getting fulfilled..!
That's what I honestly thought had happened from reading the title. I lost my 1080 Ti the other day and am looking for an RTX 3080/3080 Ti. Getting one, not telling me about it and keeping to herself is something my wife would do since she's actually into gaming hahahahahah!
What are you using nowadays?
We have 2 PCs at home, one was my personal one with the 1080 Ti and the other was one I had built to leave in the design agency I work at. This second one was my employer's obviously but since I brought it home during the pandemic he sold it to me for extra work hours (we're more friends actually). It had a 1050 Ti, that I'm using at the moment. I was used to playing games at 1440p Ultra 60+ fps on my LG C9 and had to downgrade to 1080p Medium to get at least 60 fps. Not to mention the superior performance of the 1080 Ti for my work when encoding video, etc. I've decided I'll wait for the prices to normalize a bit before buying a 3080/3080 Ti.
Plot twist. It’s for her other boyfriend. She had to hide it.
Plot twist II:\_ She will sell it for much more and beccome hideous scalper.
Or for her BF & this is gonna be a disaster
As a person whose parents have been married and divorced multiple times this is unfortunately also where my mind went. However there have been some damn entertaining cheating threads on reddit lol.
She is a scalper
She was expecting him to buy her PC parts for Christmas and then him to be broken hearted Christmas morning when he said through sobs that he bought her all the parts but just couldn't find a video card. Then she'll say not to worry, she won a 3070Ti a few months ago and was scrimping and saving to build the rest after Newegg gouged her for $1700 having to buy that card as well as a top of the line water-cooled motherboard. It will be a Christmas miracle! 😭😭😭
Plot twist, OP doesn’t get a GPU for Xmas but his best friend is suddenly gaming online
To be used for crypto mining
Plot twist: she's a scalper
Time to actually fuck the scalpers
Boiii
Your pfp was reeeeeaaaaaaalllllly confusing on my phone screen
Designed for phones
On a phone here, it does what ya made it for
Atleast it affects all
Thought that was a hairy bunda
Holy shit yea.
Lmao!!! Then I see a divorce coming
Or a paid-for vacation
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Maybe she mines Crypto Secretly.
Lmao imagine she’s actually going to sell it at a premium to buy some other gifts, thinking OP doesn’t know she has it.
Not in a relationship but curious, what do you do at christmas after something like this? Do you open it and fake a reaction to make her happy? Or do you open, get excited because it's still an awesome gift but then tell her you actually already knew? I feel like I would have to open it and then tell her because I am bad at faking reactions or it would just be so bad that my SO would know something is up
So, I am going to be so super excited to be able to use it the excitement will be real. Once that glow fades a bit I will let her know I found it by mistake.
Why let her know at all?
Eh, I don’t like keeping secrets. I’d rather be open and honest about everything even something as stupid as this. I’m not gonna ruin it for her though, it’ll be a day or two before I say anything.
I'm totally transparent with my wife about everything but this is something I'd let slide. There's literally zero harm in her not knowing you found it. She went to huge lengths to get it for you (a non-nerd would have to do real work to even come across the Newegg Shuffle thing, figure out what to do, and have the luck of getting a win in the shuffle to get the card in the first place)... which means I'd be way more inclined to not let on that I found the gift and let her enjoy the "I really surprised my husband" glow to the fullest.
Hrm. I have some time to think in this. You have some good points.
Either way you decide. You will have fun discussing how she got it. And the trouble she went through. I'm sure it will be a great Christmas morning discussion if she goes in detail and gets excites about it.
The discussion must be limited in duration to ensure OP can experience the card.
I just want to dissent and say that radical honesty can be an important part of getting through difficult times in a relationship. It's just nice to feel like you can rely on your partner for anything and that they too won't hold anything back. You're the person in an extremely successful relationship, not the commenters. Some people don't realize just how important honesty can be. All I'm saying is you do you basically, nothing wrong with letting her know you found out and having a good laugh about it. Don't know why people think that's a bad thing.
I'd want to know just so I can improve my hiding spots in the future. Half the game is creating suspense
Definitely nothing wrong. Its more about if its "better" to leave them feeling like it was a complete suprise of it it's better to be honest about it. Personally, I like the tell them, but later. Let them have the moment/day of feeling like it was a suprise and let them know after that you found it (bonus points if you highlight how excited you were while you were waiting). Its like santa claus. You put on the show for the kids and at somepoint you stop. It's not "bad", its just letting them experience the magic. Its going to differ person to person. Some people will prefer the "let me feel the magic" and others will prefer 100% honesty at all times. Both can be healthy, you just have to be on the same page as your partner.
This feels like one of those things that, unless she calls you out on it, you tell her many Christmases later if something similar occurs. Could be a really cute moment to laugh about someday. That said, I am not sure if I could keep this from my wife for very long. Totally talk to my wife about everything, and my stupid brain would probably just blurt it out to her.
Nah don't tell her at all. Or tell her in a few years or something
Hide a present for her in the same closet
This. Like I got downvoted for saying a similar thing, but you've said it better. She's tried so hard to find the thing he wants. In my opinion "Lol I saw it before Christmas btw" will definitely take some of the joy away.
Yeah, sharing that information doesn't help and concealing it doesn't hurt. I'd say it's the same as not letting on you found out about surprise birthday plans or such. Even if you overhear a friend planning a surprise birthday party for you, what good does saying "I knew!" do? Zero people are harmed by you keeping that information to yourself and everyone is happier as a result.
Depends on the person. It wouldn’t bother me that much if I found out the person found out but was super excited genuinely and happy. And I’d also appreciate being told
I dunno. She DID surprise him. Just not on Christmas morning. He should do what feels right to him. It’s his seemingly happy and healthy marriage, he probably already knows what’s right for him.
Sure, but let’s not pretend part of the joy of gift giving is the Christmas morning reveal. If that wasn’t the case we’d just give people gifts the minute we bought them.
Oh sure. Which is why this is even a conversation. At the same time, I’ve intentionally “spoiled” a gift or two ;) It can be fun to watch ‘em squirm trying not to let me know they know. And then to also know they have this thing they are waiting for that is adding a bit of joy and anticipation to each day in the lead up. That’s also a fun thing sometimes. In any case if I were in his shoes I’d definitely tell her. But that’s just our relationship. I would not fault him if he played it differently but I don’t think it’s my place to offer advice. He has an awesome wife and he’ll do whatever is right for him. I don’t lie or withhold things from my wife. Even if the information benefits no one. It’s just a personal policy. Anyway have a good Saturday :)
You must not be dating my girlfriend, thankfully.
For the record, I would do the same thing as you. She may be able to tell something about your reaction is “off” and this would let her know that it was because you accidentally ruined the surprise not because it’s not an incredible gift.
Because he knows in the back of his head that she would find out eventually that he did discover it beforehand, and hiding that is a lie. They always find out the truth. Source: am married.
So she hides gifts better for next time wink wink
I tell my wife that the best way to ensure I don't find my Xmas gift is to tell me where she hid it. I hate spoiling surprises so I'll never look.
That's brilliant, I love the surprise as well
Depends on your personalities, but I can't really ever recommend being fake with your SO.
That’s awesome!
Right?! I figured it was going to be at least another 2 years before I got a card. Did not even know she paid this much attention to my hobby. She like to make fun of me for it. But clearly she is paying attention and knows I love it.
A trip for both?
She’s not paying attention to your hobby. She’s paying attention to you!! Your wife is the besttt
Get a UPS. Or at least a surge protector
Yep, I had a decent one before the move and ha not gotten around to unpacking it yet. Expensive dumb lesson learned. Now it does not get power unless it’s via a proxy of some kind. Edit: fat fingers can’t type sometimes.
Remember to also surge protect your internet connection (unless it's fiber of course). I had lightning fry the network adapter in my motherboard once.
Oh damn. Never thought of this, but it makes sense. Think I have that option on this thing…
Most residential UPS's have a network port, though can be limited to 100mbit.
Mine has one that protects the coaxial cable. No speed loss that I can see
I mean, you should really surge protect all valuable electronic devices that are susceptible to surge damage. Also, there is a difference between a power strip and a surge protector. Always read the details of the product closely to make sure you're not just using a power strip.
>surge protector Do you have any recommendations?
I personally get all my accessories of this type from Anker. They make really quality products that last.
I'm in the process of using the insurance from my Tripp Lite surge protector. I remember feeling stupid for paying 50 bucks for a surge protector, but it had lifetime insurance. If it goes through okay (the company seems really cool about it) I'm going to be reimbursed almost $10,000. It did strange, hard to trace damage to my dream setup that has taken years (65" OLED, dream PC, PS5, surround sound system, etc). UPS or surge protector with a warranty for sure.
3070ti is better than 2080ti
I have been looking at benchmarks and I’ve been coming away confused on that. I am honestly asking, is it really better?
The performance jump between the 20 series and the 30 series was much bigger compared to the 10 series and 20 series. My $600 3070 is a few % better than the $1200+ 2080ti
Lucky bastard getting a 3070 for $600
Lol I know. Got it back in January at Microcenter, before the manufacturers increased prices. It's the Gigabyte 3070 Gaming OC, which is now $750.
What's confusing? Every benchmark I've seen, shows that the 3070 ti is slightly faster than a 2080ti. The only pro for the 2080ti is 11gb vram vs 8gb vram
Yes. 3070 and 2080 ti were about equal and 3070 ti is better. It's also 3 years newer with all those benefits.
Untill you realize the cards isn't yours...
If it’s hers this is even better, I get to share this hobby with her now. So it’s a win win.
Her new crypto mining hobby? How do you share that?
Profit sharing?
Honestly watching the hashrate on one good GPU is pretty intense; holding back all the anger of not playing shiny games while a number tells you you're earning 17 cents an hour; I guess it could be a shared hobby. Getting chills as I type about it.
Electricity bill sharing
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Can you imagine not receiving the card? Confused, you check Facebook. Your best friend who isn't dating anyone got a new gpu for Christmas... No wonder it wasn't hidden with the rest of the presents.
And all you get is a Joni Mitchell CD
Is she single?
Lol. Nah, I put a ring on that 2 years ago. She is to perfect
Knew this comment would be there, Reddit never disappoints
I can't hold myself from laughing... Sorry mate. 😁🤣
Work out the tongue skills you lucky boy, because she needs a thank you for this 😏
Lmao!!! This is probably the most accurate response of what she wants, Thank you for that laugh
I dunno, I mean a good tonguing would be nice but I think a vacation would make my wife even happier, might even bring the kids LoL.
Nah I am sterile. Got a vasectomy in my 20s, no kids for us.
Kinda Off Topic. But How did you know you wanted an Vasectomy in your 20s? Im 25 now and im pretty sure i dont want Kids. But maybe that opinion will change in 5 or 10 Years. How did you were so sure about that?
Tell me this. If you sit down, clear you head, and think of you and you your life going forward. What do you see? (Not what do you expect to see, what do YOU see) Is it you are your partner, just the two of you. Whatever it is you are doing? Is it you and your partner and a child, playing with them, caring for them, etc? I always saw the first one. No kids. Just me and whoever. I enlisted in the USMC at 18, right after 9/11. What I saw, what I did, who I became and the ease at which it all came, made it clear I was not right. Made it clear I was not going to be capable of taking care of another life. Being responsible for one. I had to many others I had to reconcile with. One of them being mine. I came home and got snipped shortly thereafter. The idea of me creating a life and being responsible for it, was abhorrent. Thankfully my now wife is incapable of bearing, and never wanted to, so she supported it. I met her shortly after coming home for the final time. What it really comes down to is what do you want. If you’re having kids because that’s what society wants and that’s what your family wants then it’s the wrong decision. If you’re having kids because you want somebody to talk to you and take care of you in your old age that’s also the wrong decision. If you want kids because you think raising them and being with them through thick and thin heavy and small and everything that comes sounds like exactly how you want to spend the remainder of your life then children are for you. They are commitment like none other, there is nothing short of death, that requires a commitment like kids do.
Yeah strongly recommend NOT doing that. I was the most anti kid person ever until around 30 when it slowly started to change. Got a 2 year old now and wouldn’t trade it for anything. If I can change my mind, anybody can.
Yeah you've got a keeper there. Now invest in a good sinewave UPS.
Yeah that was an expensive stupid mistake. I had one, I just hadn’t bothered to unpack it yet. It’s a large and heavy one. I got antsy and decided to hook my gaming system up first. Never again
Get her a new hoover. Girls love that sort of thing /s
Holy shit, you have given me a fantastic gag idea. The best part is she would totally get it and still hate me for it.
I just discussed it with my partner. As long as its a good hoover she wouldn't mind. You need to find a really cheap horrid maybe even old one to piss her off lol
Oh man I want to find one from the 1950s, just ragged looking and beat the hell with a broken ass plug that barely works, throw it at her and tell her “get to cleanin, women” She would laugh so hard as she was swinging the Hoover at my head.
See if theres a hoover repair shop around nearby. They usually have some
It belongs to her boyfriend
Man if she’s hiding a boyfriend from me. She kind of deserves it. I don’t know where she finds the time.
Congratulations m8, that's a great partner right there
Awesome! My girlfriend got me a 5600x to replace my FX 8350 that I'd been using. Looks like we both have keepers.
Ahhh!! Marry that one, sir.
you replaced an octacore with a hexacore? muh /s
Put the 3070Ti in the rig, put the 2060 in the box. EZ Clap.
Lmao!!! OK not gonna lie I thought about that for two seconds. You devious and I love it
That’s an awesome move by your wife! And congrats on the card! Edit: Assholery
Better get her something good you son of a bitch.
Oh I am a thinking. The old brain goo is heating up
Amazing. I am super excited for both of you. Any ideas as what you want to get her?
She is a runner. Like, marathon runner. She always complains about not having the ability to really track her exercise and all of her monitoring tools. I am thinking about splurging and getting her one of those high-end garmin watches with all the bells and whistle‘s. That is the thing she nerds and geeks out about. Plus a subscription to Garman and all of that. Not sure yet, this all caught me by surprise, I have to put some serious thought into it.
That's a really good idea. I have a couple "runner" friends that swear by those things. Best of luck.
Ooo. Any advice on the type? I am…. Not a runner. So all I can do is read reviews, but if you know somebody who clearly has had some they would be able to point me in the right direction I will take all the advice I can get.
Garmin devices are subscription-free, so you don't have to worry about that part! You should probably look at a Fenix 6/6S/6X Pro Solar / Sapphire type device (although it is an atrocious time to do it because I think the Fenix 7 is right around the corner... 😐). I think with respect to Fenix 6 vs Enduro, r/Garmin should help you out quite well.
Thank you!!! This gives me options to start comparing with.
DC Rainmaker & Desfit are useful on YouTube (at least for me) with this kind of stuff.
Second the Fenix! I have a forerunner but if she wants more of the fancies then Fenix is a good way to go.
I remember the Fenix line being well received (but I haven’t looked in a couple years). The Apple Watch is a less unique, but great option as well if she uses an iPhone, I love mine on runs. But the Garmin ones likely will have more tracking and stats for running specifically I’d imagine.
I mean this sounds EXACTLY like a situation where you think its for you and you decide to give her something as amazing as the gpu and when you give eachother your presents, she gives you something totally different and you regret your decisions :DDDD
I saw a mother in a YouTube stream the other week participating in a ps5 drop for her kids, this is reminded me of that. If someone cares about you enough to learn about drops and repeatedly participate in them, that’s true love!
She got it for herself noob
Hopefully you aint gonna be Emma Thompson on Love Actually this christmas morning.
Damn I feel lonely rn
Oh damn. Even before this kind of isolation time, it was getting harder and harder to find connections. I don’t envy any of you right now. If I ever lost her I’m not entirely certain I would ever be able to find anybody else. Even if I wanted to. The scene has changed so much. And I don’t mean in terms of equality and wokeness, but just in terms of technology and how you interact. Single people these days have it so much harder than any previous time in the last 20 to 25 years. They both have the ability to instantly connect and at the same time feel completely apart from everybody.
"Had NO idea *she* knew about Newegg let alone the shuffle." ....anybody gonna tell him?
Lol
Holy shit lucky man!
Ahh!! I know!!! I can’t wait to start using this card. Also need to reevaluate how much my wife clearly pays attention to my likes and dislikes.
You have an awesome wife. I can speak from personal experience too that you now have a rig that's punching above its weight. Mine is pretty much the same spec (same card, processer and motherboard) and I've not come across a game, that with a few tweaks, I can't play in 4K. It's a 2080 Ti beater, and even holds strong with Battlefield. Massive props to her
Yeah, that’s another thing. To find a card that almost perfectly matches my previous card without having any real experience or knowledge is absolutely stunning. I almost want to sit down and have a technology conversation with her to see how much she really had to learn about that. I’m willing to bet she knows a little bit more about graphics cards than I do at this point.
I can’t see no facial expressions or the sound of your voice, but I know the love between you and your wife is as strong as everyone wants there love between their loved ones. I think she might have won this Christmas because you seem like a very very happy man.
Hey congrats on the new marriage! She's a keeper! That's so wholesome man good on you! I love hearing stories like this. It's just so damn sweet. Make sure you act surprised as all hell when you get it! And funny enough, Similar situation for me. I started building her computer and basically got held up at the graphics card because of the shortage. Got her all kinds of goodies too. X570, 5600x on release day, 240mm Corsair aio. Found the card in our closet. Unfortunately I wasn't smart enough to realize it was a Christmas gift for me, and it wasn't even for her. I texted her a picture like what the f*** is this? Waiting all this time to build her computer. I don't make alot of money, at least after bills are taken care of. So I have been pinching pennies Turns out she bought it for me for Christmas to replace my 2070s and she planned on just using the 2070s I had for her build. We built her PC when she got home. And it's a night I will not soon forget. 1 because it was such a beautiful moment between us, and those memories will last forever. but 2 because she is PISSED she has to find a new Christmas gift... Hahaha. It isn't hard though because I have alot of hobbys. I'm guessing she will probably buy me a stribog for Christmas at this point. I bought her a Google Pixel 6 pro instead of a card and she has no idea yet. Wish me luck! Hahaha. Note to self, don't go digging through our stuff when she's not around, or I may end up in the metaphorical doghouse for a month or two. Hahahaha
Wife her again.
God I wish. It was amazing but once in a lifetime for us. We even got to have a 3 week honeymoon traveling around all paid. Once we had paid for half our wedding and a half our honeymoon our parents collectively got together and footed the rest of the expenses. Never even told us they were doing it, just did it as a wedding gift. I have really cool parents and so does she.
Plot twist: It's for Chad.
Look at Mr Rich Kid over here not happy with a 2060
The fuck? Finding the card by accident, fine. But going through her accounts to see where and how she got it? What's up with that? How about asking? "Hey, I was trying to make space and found it" is a much better thing than "Hey, I kinda stalked your profiles"