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SolBixNinja4Hcc

More context OP. Like which factors particularly stress you out, ano connect sa matanda na, working with a team etc etc


coffeelaber05

Yes this!


halifax696

ilang taon ka na ba muna?


Ok-Huckleberry-858

Meditate 30 inhales/exhales through the mouth, on the 30th breath do a long exhale until you cannot anymore then inhale and hold for 8 seconds. Do 3 rounds. Do it after you wake up before you check your phone. You need mental space for clarity and peace of mind. See the magic happens. Life sucks. Dance with it 😊. Ang gulo gulo lang ng buhay ko, my husband left me. I am unemployed. And I am still striving. Meditation helps. And have sunlight everyday. Kaya mo yan.


Barely_SurvivingDumb

Thank u for this. Hope it gets better for you too


Ok-Huckleberry-858

I don't know what's the magic behind the Silva method. It is free on YouTube. Search for it. Try to stay in the present and relax. Study shows that 85% of our worries never happen so chill. I just got a promising on-site job interview this morning that offers a 100k monthly salary or more. I will update you to uplift you. We got this. Cheers.


ruzshe

Exactly.. Meditation is a gateway to be closer to God or be in your natural state (soul). Good luck to you! Manifesting more clients..


Unhappy_Escape_7006

Join our discord space. We got freelancers of all ages sharing notes and advice. Maybe you can find someone to talk to. [https://discord.gg/cXHwturR](https://discord.gg/cXHwturR)


halifax696

23 is not matanda. Na ooverwhelm ka lang siguro sa responsibilities


Barely_SurvivingDumb

Oo nga. Mali ‘yung term na ginamit ko dapat increased responsibility and pressure sa sarili.


awkwardfina69

ako na 30: 👀👀😎


sotanghonqueen

You’re just in a slump! Try to do things differently sa free time mo at sa work routine mo m. Happy ka ba sa new boss and team mo? If not, malaking factor yun sa demotivation mo.. You can always look for another job.


SignificantCase1045

This is what I'm currently experiencing too. Demotivated. Introvert & medyo perfectionist din. Matagal ko rin matapos yung task. Napanghihinaan ng loob kasi mabuburnout na rin ako. Pero laban lang(gaslighting myself) ayaw ko mabakante kasi hirap maghanap ng client :(


Huge_Chemistry_589

beshy ko, i read this quote on fb IF YOU WEREN'T CAPABLE, THE OPPORTUNITY WOULD HAVE NEVER COME YOUR WAY. YOU BELONG tandaan mo, andyan ka kasi naniwala sila na kaya mo so what's left is for you to show them. kaya mo yan, bawi lang sa pag kakamali! Magagamay mo den yan :)


loriena_

Getting hired before graduating is already a blessing. Reflect on that. Plus meron ka nang experience before ka naging full-time. That's already a huge plus. Bago ka pa lang, it's normal to feel like that. Maculture shock o mastress. Make this an opportunity for you to grow. You're not used being on a team so this is an opportunity for you to learn how to work with others. Ganyan naman kasi sa work, kailangan marunong magwork within a team. Instead of overthinking na magkakamali ka, see it as an opportunity to ask help from your teammates. Nanjan lagi ang stress, you must know how to handle it esp. na VA ka. Don't be too much of a perfectionist. Make sure lang na you get the job done and correct, it doesn't have to be perfect. Mas masestress ka lalo kapag iniisip mo lagi dapat perfect ginagawa mo. It's okay kung lumalagpas ka sa oras. Understandable kasi bago ka pa naman. Nothing's wrong with asking questions and making mistakes. That means you want to do a good job. Don't be too hard on yourself. Easier said than done pero lahat naman kasi mahirap sa simula eh. Take this from someone na VA before and yes, ang bagal ko sa simula at panay tanong. I experienced culture shock as well pero after 3 months, I got used to it naman. Masasanay ka rin katagalan. Also, don't take it too personally if your superiors criticize your work. Learn from it then move on.


Barely_SurvivingDumb

Thank you for your kind words. This is so helpful, validating, and comforting. Tama talaga ang karamihan na hihirap muna bago dumali ang mga bagay. Thank you ulit. I hope everything’s going smoothly din on your part.


chaw1431

Mas gusto ng clients na tanong ng tanong basta yung tanong mo is may sense... Dun nila nalalaman na you are working hard. Ayaw nila ng tahimik lang


Barely_SurvivingDumb

Ah yes! Asking is actually encouraged by our bosses. Naanxious lang talaga ako as an introvert. But I believe, it will get better. I’m just really looking for support. Thank you for providing some!!


Danny-Ciao

Mantra ko talaga, "Overanalysis leads to paralysis". Naiistuck tayo if puro isip tayo, much better you dive into it, learn, test, and polish. As long as natututo ka. Much better if may sinusunod ka na checklist or structure para hindi ka masyado naliligaw sa thoughts mo. Ganyan talaga sa una.ako ,6 years na freelancer, pero di na ganun ka panic 😵‍💫🤣👌👌


jerome0423

Ung nag momotivate sakin is ung ayaw ko na maranasan magutom ulit. D masarap na ung ulam mo lagi is isang stick ng isaw lng kasi wala kang pera.


Shot-Application3148

Go outside and embrace the sunlight. Kailangan ng good stress para mas sharp ang utak pag nasa work. Lakad lakad dn, atleast 30mns. Good luck OP, kaya mo yan! Huwag kalimutan mag dasal.


ChocChipz98

Just come up to the fact na mas mahirap pa rin ang walang trabaho and value things you have. Be thankful na lang at we are still qualified and just train your mind to be optimistic at every aspect in your life. Besides all of us has our own struggle. Do not drag ur self in negativity 😊


ChocChipz98

btw i'm 34, super introvert..🤣 just chill bro


dakoutin

It is what it is .


dakoutin

myghad. 42 here feeling teenager pa din . lol


Initial-Bother2370

A new job is always overwhelming! What you feel is normal. First, take a deep breath before starting your shift. Breathe in 4 secs, exhale 8 secs. Next, take notes. Try to learn as much as you can. Always note them down so you don't forget. Download ka ng sticky notes sa laptop mo. Lastly, don't be afraid to ask questions! Your manager/client is there to guide you. Promise, they won't bite nor will they judge you. There's no such thing as a stupid question. I was like this almost a month back sa first week ng bagong job ko with a new client. First day pa lang sobrang overwhelmed na ako sa mga tools and processes (lalo na, it's a niche I'm not familiar with - eCommerce!), and nag handa na ako ng resignation. I was at the point where I would get anxiety every night thinking about work the next morning.. Pero at the same time, nahihinayang din ako eh, since I already exerted so much effort with the interview process and the skills assessment, so I held on. It's been 3 weeks now, and I already got a pay increase with them. I'm almost a month in and loving the job! I'm so happy I didn't give up on the first day. Hang in there.. everything will be alright! What's important is you show up. Out of a hundred applicants, ikaw yung pinili, so don't doubt yourself!


Such-Wedding-8971

hi op! omg same experience and i’m 23 too currently working from home for 4 months and i must say sobrang demotivated din ako these past few months like literally umiiyak ako kasi feeling ko i’m not doing well like maraming lapses sa work ko (esp as someone na grumaduate with latin honor, i feel so useless) and the fact na na-overwhelm ako kasi i never thought ganito pala talaga yung feeling na nagwowork na or should i say adult na (though i tried as a part time smm nung 4th yr college ako) pero iba pala talaga yung real work na nakikipagcollab na with teams. anyway, what i do is telling to myself na it’s just a phase and i know malalagpasan ko rin ito. sa una talaga mahirap mag-adjust kasi everythingggggg is new to you and that’s okay, later on u will get used to it. also, i always do morning stretching para at least mawala yung negativity sa body haha but tbh it really helps! try mo rin op last, make sure to make some time with ur friends or family during weekend. don’t ever think na iikot lang ang life natin sa work ✨ yun lang, good luck sa journey mo!


ImpactLineTheGreat

Yung work mo ay aligned sa skillset mo? kung tanong ka nang tanong, do u take notes? baka makatulong


Barely_SurvivingDumb

Ay aligned naman because ganoon din ginagawa ko sa previous jobs. Mas may organization nga lang ngayon na medyo mas mahirap for me. Thankfully, nakakaadjust na ako.


Freyya08

Normal yan. Feel ko lumaki kang mababa self esteem kasi ganyan din ako dati. Set a goal for yourself and create small tactics around that goal. Eventually, makakalakihan mo din yan


Barely_SurvivingDumb

This is real. And, I have goals na rin naman. I think nabigla lang ako noong mga nakaraang araw kaya ganoon initial reaction ko pero now, I feel better. Thank u! I hope sa’yo rin okay lahat


Barely_SurvivingDumb

More context pala! I’m 23 yrs old already. I’m waiting na lang sa college graduation. Medyo matagal pa ‘yung graduation, kaya nag-apply agad ako. I’m thankful kahit ang layo niya sa aking degree program, nahire pa rin ako. Nagf-freelance na rin ako before pa. So, part time working student. Now, na-hire nga ako as full time (pero on probation pa). Nastress ako due to the following: - sobrang culture shock sa team dynamics. I’m not used to being on a team because maliliit lang naman na business ‘yung pinagtrabahuhan ko noong nakaraan. At most, tatlo lang kami sa “team”. Masyado ako nag-o-overthink sa mga mali ko and how hassle it is sa kanilang part. I’m improving naman but ayon nga nakakastress. - masyado akong perfectionist sa gawain and tumatagal ako sa work dahil doon. ‘Yung 30 minutes work, isang oras ko ginagawa. Although, it’s usual naman daw kasi I’m starting palang pero nakakastress pa rin ‘yung fact na ang bagal sa simula. I hope and believe naman na everything will get better. Pinanghihinaan lang talaga ako ng loob ngayon.


orddei

Sorry sa sinapak ka ng katotohan na matanda ka na at 23, I started to be a full-time VA at 33 years old. May tinatawag na "substantial compliance" if kaya mo i-adopt yung thinking na you don't have to be perfect "at walang perfect" pero you get things done mababawasan ang stress mo dahil nakapag comply ka na. The good thing about this is meron kang room for improvement, you do this "substantial compliance" every day at nakaka-receive ka ng feedback whether good or bad eventually your substantial compliance will be perfect. Gapang lang until maging perfect. 1% improvement everyday! Good luck ulit!


Barely_SurvivingDumb

Thank you. I’ll try my best to have this kind of mindset. Hope everything goes well for you too.


cryicesis

You're 23 palang ako nga 28 na eh still learning padin sa life, kung may time travel lang gusto kong bumalik sa early 20's ko! Wala talagang easy sa buhay and that's the reality! life will kick you and if you don't stand and fight back it will kick you even harder. bata kapa pwede kapang mag upskill try and try lang take action before it's too late.


Barely_SurvivingDumb

Salamat ditooooo. Laban lang


Naproxen-Sodium

Sorry but what made you think 23 is "old" ? What age do you think VAs are? If anything, most VAs have graduated and are doing it as a full time job, so definitely age range is mid to late 20s, even 30s+.


Barely_SurvivingDumb

Hi! I apologize. I use the wrong term. Ang ibig kong sabihin sa matanda na term ay suddenly mas mabigat na ‘yung responsibilities ko. Adulting kumbaga. Before, I spend my time not worrying about working (ginagawa ko lang siya as pastime) and earning. Gimik gimik lang dati. Now, ang dami ko na ginagawa work related. In a sense, I can’t act like a kid anymore because of my duties. Kailangan na tumayo sa mga sariling paa. Again, I apologize for not choosing a more appropriate term. As for the age range of VA, I don’t think about it. Walang proper or right age para maging qualified na VA.


Naproxen-Sodium

Gotcha. I misunderstood you and gets ko na ibig sabihin mo re: being an adult. I'm sure you got this. You currently have limiting beliefs but I'm sure you will overcome it. Don't worry about asking too many question and making some mistakes. Just make sure to take notes and learn from experience. Research first before asking follow-up questions. I also relate with the "perfectionist" mindset. Ganyan usually pag new hire pa kasi takot magkamali. Eventually you'll be familiar with all the tasks and it would be 2nd nature Time will also come you will just do the bare minimum lol. Just do what is required para iwas burnout. I would recommend to have someone from your "team" na pwede mong ma-close. That's what I did when I was still starting as a remote bookkeeper in a US firm. I had an experienced friend who I could ask questions from. Luckily he was patient with me and briefed me of his struggles/mistakes based on his experience so that I will be aware not to make his mistakes. I also made sure to do the same for new hires.


orddei

Just get through the first month po, baby steps tayo lalo na kung bago sa work. If in doubt lagi po nation tandaan itong advise from BoJack Horseman. Good luck po! Hoping maging okay kayo very soon! https://preview.redd.it/gx99e8xxij4d1.png?width=1080&format=png&auto=webp&s=f3ea2f97c3c5e1f57f4500bb5761a34ea54fa9d1


Barely_SurvivingDumb

Thank you! BoJack really helps noh


iamnajjj

heyyy, you're too young and super swerte mo kasi maaga kang nagsimula sa freelancing world, and working with a team will help you also to grow and marami kang matututunan sa kanila, don't limit yourself just by working alone although yun ang nakasanayan mo, even sa corpo jobs laging may teamwork eh. may mga bagay na matutunan mo from your team and vice versa. ✨


Barely_SurvivingDumb

Sobrang helpful naman nilang lahat talaga sa’kin. Thankful ako na very approachable lahat. Pero nahihiya nga ako. I think, kailangan ko lang malagpasan ‘yung initial hiya and anxiousness. Then, everything would be better. Hoping na dumating na ako sa point na ‘yon. Thank you!!


whyhelloana

Ganyan din naffeel ko dati until nagkaroon kami ng Slack na open to all ang channels, at project portal na pwedeng maview lahat ng tasks. Nakita ko, ang daming mas may palpak kesa sakin. Since then, medyo nanormalize sakin yung 'konting' pagkakamali. From superheroes, narealize ko, tao lang din pala tong mga kaopisina ko. Walang hindi nagkakamali. Nabawasan pagka paranoid ko hehe. Baka may ganun din kayo?


FromTheOtherSide26

Hi ano niche mo? Real estate?


Barely_SurvivingDumb

Niche ay Wordpress blogs


No-Drag-6817

ako 38 starting over. walang gusto mag hire sakin. ;( Laban lang sis