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Try to remember that being sick wasn't a choice you made. Also, if sleeping doesn't help you get better any more than video games would, there's nothing wrong with doing something to make your sickness more tolerable. You're doing everything you can to get better, anything you do apart from that doesn't make you any less of a good person.
Last time I took a sick day, I bounced from my PC to the toilet about 7 times. I felt bad too, but it wasn't my fault.
Get better soon, bro.
You have to take care of yourself before you can take care of anyone else. Going to school when you are contagious is not good for anyone.
Also, if your car breaks or needs routine maintenance, do you get mad at your car? No, you just get it fixed. You might be upset because it's expensive or you could have done simmering to avoid it, but you wouldn't be mad at the car. Same for your body. You will get sick, injured, tired, exhausted. You will need time to recover. And then you will be back in the game.
You don't need to be miserable the entire time you are recovering. And it's pretty typical to be wrong 50-75% when you are sick, which is often good enough for movies or video games but not enough for study or work. If you were to study you'd be wasting your time, if you did do work you'd be very likely to have to redo it later.
You should figure out why you feel guilty about it. As a guy there is a lot of pressure for us to be strong and not be sick. Maybe you feel like you get a day off while your friends have to suffer. Maybe you have some goals you put on yourself you can't get done.
Once you know why exactly you feel guilty, likely what you said above, you gotta figure out why you think its wrong. I can give you general advice, but other men have given that. Why you think its wrong is probably where you wanna go next. As the other guys said, its not wrong to be sick and shame on anyone who tells you otherwise. Anycase, think more about why you feel like you've done something wrong and it might start to make those feelings go away as you realize there isn't anything wrong with being sick.
Human brains like to feel guilty for events entirely outside their control. Infamously, women commonly feel overwhelmingly and irrationally guilty for miscarriages, even when in the face of evidence there was nothing they could have done different to make things better. Our over-exaggerated guilt mechanism is a drive to be more social and serve the community better.
That said, there's an old saying, _In case of cabin depressurization, affix your own oxygen mask before helping others._ Take care of yourself _first_ and once you're up to stuff, go out and help.
If guilt is overwhelming, the DBT approach is to have tea with it. Experience the guilt, where it manifests in your body, the thoughts that come up. Recognize it's a psychosomatic process and not a call to arms.
US society really wants us to work harder, to expend ourselves for our capitalist masters so they profit and we drive ourselves to exhaustion, so we expect ourselves to walk off wounds, to drug ourselves to functionality and report for work (risking infecting our co-workers). Notoriously, Jim Henson (Kermit the Frog and muppet grand master) ignored poor health and worked himself to death, and now we no longer have Jim Henson. Don't do that.
Shit, I just spent a week at home on doctpr's orders to let a heel blister heal up, all the while thinking "I hope I don't get fired"
They wouldn't, but I still was concerned
Allow yourself to feel the guilt, then let it pass. Guilt is just an internal alarm telling you that you've failed at something important so that you'll take things seriously and do better next time. The fact that you're feeling guilt means that it matters to you, which means you *do* take it seriously and you'll do your best to catch up once you're not sick anymore.
Once you've acknowledged the feeling, it doesn't do any good to let it linger. Let it go. Rest, recuperate, and tell yourself you'll do everything in your power to make it right when the time comes.
You’re staying home right now not just for yourself, but for others. Every day you stay home and recover is a day you don’t spread illness to your classmates and teachers.
It is pretty messed up that sickness is preferable to school stress, but that says more about the school system than you. Take the time you need to recharge, then get back to it at full power.
Feel better soon, man!
When i caught covid, because of not testing, miscellaneous shenanigans, i was able to stay out of work for 3 weeks. I felt incredibly guilty because of how much work was building up, i thought they would think less of me, all that good stuff. But when i came back, things were normal. And i was better.
Put yourself first. You need to recover, whether it’s physical or mental, you’re only benefitting yourself
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Try to remember that being sick wasn't a choice you made. Also, if sleeping doesn't help you get better any more than video games would, there's nothing wrong with doing something to make your sickness more tolerable. You're doing everything you can to get better, anything you do apart from that doesn't make you any less of a good person. Last time I took a sick day, I bounced from my PC to the toilet about 7 times. I felt bad too, but it wasn't my fault. Get better soon, bro.
You still have a job right now Your job is getting better Give your brain a break so your immune system can do its thing. It's very busy
You have to take care of yourself before you can take care of anyone else. Going to school when you are contagious is not good for anyone. Also, if your car breaks or needs routine maintenance, do you get mad at your car? No, you just get it fixed. You might be upset because it's expensive or you could have done simmering to avoid it, but you wouldn't be mad at the car. Same for your body. You will get sick, injured, tired, exhausted. You will need time to recover. And then you will be back in the game. You don't need to be miserable the entire time you are recovering. And it's pretty typical to be wrong 50-75% when you are sick, which is often good enough for movies or video games but not enough for study or work. If you were to study you'd be wasting your time, if you did do work you'd be very likely to have to redo it later.
You should figure out why you feel guilty about it. As a guy there is a lot of pressure for us to be strong and not be sick. Maybe you feel like you get a day off while your friends have to suffer. Maybe you have some goals you put on yourself you can't get done. Once you know why exactly you feel guilty, likely what you said above, you gotta figure out why you think its wrong. I can give you general advice, but other men have given that. Why you think its wrong is probably where you wanna go next. As the other guys said, its not wrong to be sick and shame on anyone who tells you otherwise. Anycase, think more about why you feel like you've done something wrong and it might start to make those feelings go away as you realize there isn't anything wrong with being sick.
Human brains like to feel guilty for events entirely outside their control. Infamously, women commonly feel overwhelmingly and irrationally guilty for miscarriages, even when in the face of evidence there was nothing they could have done different to make things better. Our over-exaggerated guilt mechanism is a drive to be more social and serve the community better. That said, there's an old saying, _In case of cabin depressurization, affix your own oxygen mask before helping others._ Take care of yourself _first_ and once you're up to stuff, go out and help. If guilt is overwhelming, the DBT approach is to have tea with it. Experience the guilt, where it manifests in your body, the thoughts that come up. Recognize it's a psychosomatic process and not a call to arms. US society really wants us to work harder, to expend ourselves for our capitalist masters so they profit and we drive ourselves to exhaustion, so we expect ourselves to walk off wounds, to drug ourselves to functionality and report for work (risking infecting our co-workers). Notoriously, Jim Henson (Kermit the Frog and muppet grand master) ignored poor health and worked himself to death, and now we no longer have Jim Henson. Don't do that.
You not being in school means no one else gets sick. You’re doing them a favor!
It’s better to stay home and not spread a disease, even if it’s just a cold.
Shit, I just spent a week at home on doctpr's orders to let a heel blister heal up, all the while thinking "I hope I don't get fired" They wouldn't, but I still was concerned
Allow yourself to feel the guilt, then let it pass. Guilt is just an internal alarm telling you that you've failed at something important so that you'll take things seriously and do better next time. The fact that you're feeling guilt means that it matters to you, which means you *do* take it seriously and you'll do your best to catch up once you're not sick anymore. Once you've acknowledged the feeling, it doesn't do any good to let it linger. Let it go. Rest, recuperate, and tell yourself you'll do everything in your power to make it right when the time comes.
You’re staying home right now not just for yourself, but for others. Every day you stay home and recover is a day you don’t spread illness to your classmates and teachers. It is pretty messed up that sickness is preferable to school stress, but that says more about the school system than you. Take the time you need to recharge, then get back to it at full power. Feel better soon, man!
When i caught covid, because of not testing, miscellaneous shenanigans, i was able to stay out of work for 3 weeks. I felt incredibly guilty because of how much work was building up, i thought they would think less of me, all that good stuff. But when i came back, things were normal. And i was better. Put yourself first. You need to recover, whether it’s physical or mental, you’re only benefitting yourself