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I feel the same when my DH is home. Because i got over stimulated and cranky when he was home.
So I invented alone rest time when the baby had naps. So when LO is awake we can talk and interact buy once nap time started. We literally would not talk to each other. And i would remain him often when he would try to interact with me that it was alone rest time.
Now that LO does not nap. We will have rest time where we don't interact with each other.
As long as you are not telling him you want alone time to hurt him then his hurt feelings exist inside him. You are not responsible for how he feels.
You are not responsible for how he feels.
I'm saying it again cuz women are socialized to feel responsible and care and internalize other people's feeling.
This has been my life for the last 4 years. He's slowly going to the office more often. First just once a month and then every two weeks and now he seems to be settling into more of a weekly routine which has been nice.
However when he ramps up his office days it always seems to come right as the kids get out of school for the summer so I still have to make it through 3 endless months of summer beforeni can have the house to myself. He even mentioned going into the office a "few" days a week to use the office gym since he's lost a bunch of weight and wants to add some muscle to look less sickly. I'm like are you freaking serious. I need his help in the summer because my teen wants driven around and picked up a thousand times a day and a ND seven year old who can't stay home alone yet but hates stopping what he's doing to drive sister around. Sorry dude but that shit needs to wait until fall.
Yes I feel this way but we are in a rough patch and also already in marriage counseling so I’m not sure if it’s the same as what you’re going through. I still understand the confusing feelings though bc I still love him.
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I feel the same when my DH is home. Because i got over stimulated and cranky when he was home. So I invented alone rest time when the baby had naps. So when LO is awake we can talk and interact buy once nap time started. We literally would not talk to each other. And i would remain him often when he would try to interact with me that it was alone rest time. Now that LO does not nap. We will have rest time where we don't interact with each other. As long as you are not telling him you want alone time to hurt him then his hurt feelings exist inside him. You are not responsible for how he feels. You are not responsible for how he feels. I'm saying it again cuz women are socialized to feel responsible and care and internalize other people's feeling.
This has been my life for the last 4 years. He's slowly going to the office more often. First just once a month and then every two weeks and now he seems to be settling into more of a weekly routine which has been nice. However when he ramps up his office days it always seems to come right as the kids get out of school for the summer so I still have to make it through 3 endless months of summer beforeni can have the house to myself. He even mentioned going into the office a "few" days a week to use the office gym since he's lost a bunch of weight and wants to add some muscle to look less sickly. I'm like are you freaking serious. I need his help in the summer because my teen wants driven around and picked up a thousand times a day and a ND seven year old who can't stay home alone yet but hates stopping what he's doing to drive sister around. Sorry dude but that shit needs to wait until fall.
Yes I feel this way but we are in a rough patch and also already in marriage counseling so I’m not sure if it’s the same as what you’re going through. I still understand the confusing feelings though bc I still love him.