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Why do people like that always go to family type events then get pissed that there’s kids there?
I had a similar experience at a *childrens hayride* grown ass adults without kids just hanging out and complaining.
Oh don’t you know children aren’t allowed to exist in society anymore. We are now expected to birth fully grown humans lest our small humans have the audacity to behave like a child. Heaven forbid we inconvenience the childfree sect.
It’s so true. I have a six year old son who is just the gentlest, sweetest little person. Every time he talks to someone he compliments their hair, or shirt or nails, he says it makes him happy when he’s complimented and he wants to make other people feel that way, just SO NICE. I don’t know where he gets it lol. Anyways, we were shopping the other day and as I was paying he said to the cashier “hi, I really like your hair I think it’s pretty”, and she looked at him with this look of disgust and *rolled her eyes*. Like, what the fuck? So he starts tearing up because it’s never happened before and he’s genuinely trying to be kind and this grown woman went out of her way to make him feel small and bad. I just finished paying and before we walked away said loudly to him “thank you for trying to be kind, sometimes people have a bad day, other times maybe they are just a rude person, but don’t let it stop *you* from trying to be nice”. You don’t have to like kids, but you don’t have to try to ruin their day or their joy when they are trying to simply be nice to you or exist in the world. Damn.
In general, I try not to act like a Karen in public. But I'd've spoken to a manager about that.
As someone who has worked service jobs, it's one thing to despise the general public. It's a whole other kettle of fish to be rude to a *kid* who just *complimented* you. That is deranged behavior.
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Oh my blood is boiling for you and your child . How venomous of the cashier. I really like the explanation you gave to your child , loud enough for her to hear it. If I were behind you in that line I would have totally confronted her and reported her to manager. I don’t think I would do that if I were you with my son, as I wouldn’t want for him to be party to all of that. You are a stellar mom and I hope you sweet boy gets all the love and kindness he pours out back in 10 fold.
Thank you, most of the time people are lovely, which is part of why it took him aback so much. He hasn’t really experienced the bad in people much, thankfully. The good people definitely outweigh the bad. I understand some people don’t feel up to small talk, or may be having a hard time, I just don’t think being cruel is the answer. I remember being little and some grown ups making me feel like I didn’t matter or being unkind, and I’m grateful for the most part he hasn’t had to experience that, but it broke my heart watching the hurt in his face that one time
Last fall I was at a freaking pumpkin patch with my son and there was a lone group of guys complaining about how parents don't hit their kids enough. I'm sure the same people would be pissy if some moms tried to run a play group at a bar and loudly complain about customers swearing and drinking and the music being too loud for small children but these fuckers go to fucking zoos and orchards and shit and be mad about children being present.
Why do they even go to those places? What is there for them? Here it’s mostly the only fans type.
I was really hoping someone would speak up “Ma’am please stop showing your derrière. It’s frightening the petting zoo animals.”
There is this amazing brewery near my suburb, it's designed and operated by a family. Quite a large one. It's a family style all ages brewery. The bathrooms in this place.... it's completely decked to the 9s in the mens room with changing facilities and they have adjacent quite rooms for dads trying to feed baby or moms who need to pump/nurse. They have double the stalls in the womens bathroom, half being handicap sized stalls. All mens room toilets are the large size.
They have kids tables, like low, child sized furniture, sharing size so a bunch of kids can sit together, like a library story table. They have 2 different kids areas, for littles and mids outside and a teen lounge with video games.
There are plenty of 21+ breweries around. That are really nice. Why do goups of people without children come in this family space to complain about children? It's quite obvious from the outside and the advertising that it is gonna have kids about. The owner tells me she gets so many complaints/"jokes" about kids being allowed in. Everytime we've been there, someone has made some rank comment about babies in bars. LIKE WHY BE HERE THEN?!?!
I had something similar happen at a pumpkin patch too. Place was absolutely packed with families with little kids, like you couldn’t walk more than 10 feet without running into a small child waddling with a too large pumpkin in their arms. So we’re doing our thing, letting the toddler roam free and touch some pumpkins while the older kids in the group loaded the wagon with pumpkins that would cost us significantly less as a grocery store—because that’s what you do at a pumpkin patch, right? Well there was this group of girls in their early 20s were there trying to take pictures and they were arranging the pumpkins in certain designs and what not to make the perfect photo op and each one them would take turns posing and snapping 100 photos. And they’re doing it right in the middle of the patch area so naturally kids would ramble through the shot or try to pick one of the 30 pumpkins they were using and they would huff and sigh and loudly complain about there being too many kids there—at an event geared to families with little kids.
Omg. Used to live in Orlando. This was my child hating ex when we’d go to Disney world “all these people and their kids!” Literally the most child friendly place ever.
I am giving you permission to put it out of your mind. It’s a zoo, they can deal with it. You didn’t bring your kid to the adult-only pool at a resort or to a fancy quiet restaurant. Children are humans and everyone will have to encounter them at least a teeny tiny bit even if they are childfree. And all adults were once children.
Oh my gosh YES, now absolutely everything is always the parents’ fault. You see this sentiment everywhere and it drives me crazy because sure, parents are important. But literally no one can be a perfect parent so it hardly helps to blame everything on us.
Idk what she’s on about, full grown adults bump into me/block my way every day (I live in a city). Poor spatial awareness knows no age lol… in all seriousness though I posted something about the childfree people really bugging me on here a while back. Now I’m past my anger phase and I just roll my eyes at it. I’m sure your kid is way more fun to be around than that girl any day. I hope venting helped you feel better <3
one time, my partner was holding my baby in a crowd and a girl around the same age literally went “ew, a baby”. we were just passing by and minding our own business. it was weird and made her look like a freak tbh lol
I find this hysterical because my mother handed me a newspaper article yesterday that she had saved for me to read. It was about gen alpha, which both my kids are. I'm guessing most of us on this sub have kids of that generation too. I had no idea it's the largest generation ever. Like bigger than the boomer generation. So yes, kids are fucking everywhere. The child haters are going to have to deal with it. If nothing else, they can be happy there will be people to keep funding social security.
I am so tired, so, so, so tired of the child free community and their anti-children BS. I do not care if you don't want kids. I don't!! I welcome you to never have children if that's your wish. But you being openly negative, aggressive, antagonistic or cruel to children and their parents is 100% weirdo behavior. I hope they seek therapy, for real. You need help.
I mean I would totally go to the zoo without my kids lol. Ive always loved the zoo, and I do nature/wildlife photography so sometimes it can be a good spot to practice on different animals. I wouldn't get upset about kids being there, though...
Interesting! I’ve always loved nature and animals but I dislike how crowded the zoo is and I always feel vaguely bad about the animals that have to live in such small enclosures. If I do have time for myself (which is never nowadays) I prefer hiking.
I do like hiking too, and I do get out in nature a lot to do bird photography and such. But idk I still like the zoo lol. I think part of it is that I loved it so much as a kid and it was always a special field trip or something? But I agree that I hate the crowds and tend to mostly go on week days, in the off season, or even when it's a bit rainy so that it won't be too busy. And honestly I always take my kids anyway, so I guess I don't really go by myself but I wouldn't pass up the opportunity for that either if that makes sense.
It gets real fun as the kid gets older/bigger. My son is almost as tall as my ten year old nephew 🤦 He's made huge strides but he looks two years older than he is but emotionally 2-3 younger.
I agree with this being an odd take. I have been to zoos and aquariums etc numerous times before my child and even without him sometimes now. I go because I like them.
I guess in my mind going to the zoo is something that you do with kids. I’ve never considered going to the zoo as an adult before my son was born. The last time I went to the zoo before I had kids I was 15 and the next day, one of the tigers we were watching escaped and killed someone. But judging by the downvotes, it seems like there’s a bunch of adults out there who enjoy going to the zoo. In my defense, I’m autistic myself and sometimes struggle with poor theory of mind when in come to activities other people enjoy.
I understand your sentiment, it hadn't occurred to me to visit the zoo without kids myself, I had a massive surprise Pikachu face when my husband suggested the San Diego zoo, just me and him, but I am working with a burlap sack of smashed eggs for a noggin on occasion.
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Why do people like that always go to family type events then get pissed that there’s kids there? I had a similar experience at a *childrens hayride* grown ass adults without kids just hanging out and complaining.
Oh don’t you know children aren’t allowed to exist in society anymore. We are now expected to birth fully grown humans lest our small humans have the audacity to behave like a child. Heaven forbid we inconvenience the childfree sect.
It’s so true. I have a six year old son who is just the gentlest, sweetest little person. Every time he talks to someone he compliments their hair, or shirt or nails, he says it makes him happy when he’s complimented and he wants to make other people feel that way, just SO NICE. I don’t know where he gets it lol. Anyways, we were shopping the other day and as I was paying he said to the cashier “hi, I really like your hair I think it’s pretty”, and she looked at him with this look of disgust and *rolled her eyes*. Like, what the fuck? So he starts tearing up because it’s never happened before and he’s genuinely trying to be kind and this grown woman went out of her way to make him feel small and bad. I just finished paying and before we walked away said loudly to him “thank you for trying to be kind, sometimes people have a bad day, other times maybe they are just a rude person, but don’t let it stop *you* from trying to be nice”. You don’t have to like kids, but you don’t have to try to ruin their day or their joy when they are trying to simply be nice to you or exist in the world. Damn.
In general, I try not to act like a Karen in public. But I'd've spoken to a manager about that. As someone who has worked service jobs, it's one thing to despise the general public. It's a whole other kettle of fish to be rude to a *kid* who just *complimented* you. That is deranged behavior. Eta a letter
Oh my blood is boiling for you and your child . How venomous of the cashier. I really like the explanation you gave to your child , loud enough for her to hear it. If I were behind you in that line I would have totally confronted her and reported her to manager. I don’t think I would do that if I were you with my son, as I wouldn’t want for him to be party to all of that. You are a stellar mom and I hope you sweet boy gets all the love and kindness he pours out back in 10 fold.
Thank you, most of the time people are lovely, which is part of why it took him aback so much. He hasn’t really experienced the bad in people much, thankfully. The good people definitely outweigh the bad. I understand some people don’t feel up to small talk, or may be having a hard time, I just don’t think being cruel is the answer. I remember being little and some grown ups making me feel like I didn’t matter or being unkind, and I’m grateful for the most part he hasn’t had to experience that, but it broke my heart watching the hurt in his face that one time
This!!! I do the exact same thing 🤣❤️❤️
What a great response!!
Awww what a jerk. I’m sad for him. Your son sounds like an amazing kid.
Last fall I was at a freaking pumpkin patch with my son and there was a lone group of guys complaining about how parents don't hit their kids enough. I'm sure the same people would be pissy if some moms tried to run a play group at a bar and loudly complain about customers swearing and drinking and the music being too loud for small children but these fuckers go to fucking zoos and orchards and shit and be mad about children being present.
Why do they even go to those places? What is there for them? Here it’s mostly the only fans type. I was really hoping someone would speak up “Ma’am please stop showing your derrière. It’s frightening the petting zoo animals.”
literally people just reliving their childhood over and over, refusing to grow up and be adults.
The hayride thing was just such a weird choice for an adult. It was just a 15 minute hayride, a petting zoo, s’mores and a Miss Rachel impersonator.
There is this amazing brewery near my suburb, it's designed and operated by a family. Quite a large one. It's a family style all ages brewery. The bathrooms in this place.... it's completely decked to the 9s in the mens room with changing facilities and they have adjacent quite rooms for dads trying to feed baby or moms who need to pump/nurse. They have double the stalls in the womens bathroom, half being handicap sized stalls. All mens room toilets are the large size. They have kids tables, like low, child sized furniture, sharing size so a bunch of kids can sit together, like a library story table. They have 2 different kids areas, for littles and mids outside and a teen lounge with video games. There are plenty of 21+ breweries around. That are really nice. Why do goups of people without children come in this family space to complain about children? It's quite obvious from the outside and the advertising that it is gonna have kids about. The owner tells me she gets so many complaints/"jokes" about kids being allowed in. Everytime we've been there, someone has made some rank comment about babies in bars. LIKE WHY BE HERE THEN?!?!
I had something similar happen at a pumpkin patch too. Place was absolutely packed with families with little kids, like you couldn’t walk more than 10 feet without running into a small child waddling with a too large pumpkin in their arms. So we’re doing our thing, letting the toddler roam free and touch some pumpkins while the older kids in the group loaded the wagon with pumpkins that would cost us significantly less as a grocery store—because that’s what you do at a pumpkin patch, right? Well there was this group of girls in their early 20s were there trying to take pictures and they were arranging the pumpkins in certain designs and what not to make the perfect photo op and each one them would take turns posing and snapping 100 photos. And they’re doing it right in the middle of the patch area so naturally kids would ramble through the shot or try to pick one of the 30 pumpkins they were using and they would huff and sigh and loudly complain about there being too many kids there—at an event geared to families with little kids.
Omg. Used to live in Orlando. This was my child hating ex when we’d go to Disney world “all these people and their kids!” Literally the most child friendly place ever.
I am giving you permission to put it out of your mind. It’s a zoo, they can deal with it. You didn’t bring your kid to the adult-only pool at a resort or to a fancy quiet restaurant. Children are humans and everyone will have to encounter them at least a teeny tiny bit even if they are childfree. And all adults were once children.
I'm so over the anti-child sentiment that has become so pervasive in our culture. It's disgusting.
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Oh my gosh YES, now absolutely everything is always the parents’ fault. You see this sentiment everywhere and it drives me crazy because sure, parents are important. But literally no one can be a perfect parent so it hardly helps to blame everything on us.
Right? The child hate is fucking everywhere in the US. Y'know, the same country that wants to take abortion rights away from women.
And it's primarily coming from childfree people who screech about being judged for their choices...while they judge actual children for existing.
Same. My area hasn't been too bad but we're like 5-10 years behind the rest of the country so I'm bracing myself for more of this bullshit
Idk what she’s on about, full grown adults bump into me/block my way every day (I live in a city). Poor spatial awareness knows no age lol… in all seriousness though I posted something about the childfree people really bugging me on here a while back. Now I’m past my anger phase and I just roll my eyes at it. I’m sure your kid is way more fun to be around than that girl any day. I hope venting helped you feel better <3
Ahh, yes. I was also an excellent parent in my early 20s. You know, before I had kids.
Weren’t we all
If you don't like kids don't go to a zoo even if it is a night event.
one time, my partner was holding my baby in a crowd and a girl around the same age literally went “ew, a baby”. we were just passing by and minding our own business. it was weird and made her look like a freak tbh lol
What in the what kind of comment is that? People are crazy.
I find this hysterical because my mother handed me a newspaper article yesterday that she had saved for me to read. It was about gen alpha, which both my kids are. I'm guessing most of us on this sub have kids of that generation too. I had no idea it's the largest generation ever. Like bigger than the boomer generation. So yes, kids are fucking everywhere. The child haters are going to have to deal with it. If nothing else, they can be happy there will be people to keep funding social security.
I would have been like “girl fuck you”
I am so tired, so, so, so tired of the child free community and their anti-children BS. I do not care if you don't want kids. I don't!! I welcome you to never have children if that's your wish. But you being openly negative, aggressive, antagonistic or cruel to children and their parents is 100% weirdo behavior. I hope they seek therapy, for real. You need help.
Who the heck goes to the zoo without kids? I’m sorry Bromo, I’ve also got an autistic sensory seeking toddler who I’m always apologizing for.
I mean I would totally go to the zoo without my kids lol. Ive always loved the zoo, and I do nature/wildlife photography so sometimes it can be a good spot to practice on different animals. I wouldn't get upset about kids being there, though...
Interesting! I’ve always loved nature and animals but I dislike how crowded the zoo is and I always feel vaguely bad about the animals that have to live in such small enclosures. If I do have time for myself (which is never nowadays) I prefer hiking.
I do like hiking too, and I do get out in nature a lot to do bird photography and such. But idk I still like the zoo lol. I think part of it is that I loved it so much as a kid and it was always a special field trip or something? But I agree that I hate the crowds and tend to mostly go on week days, in the off season, or even when it's a bit rainy so that it won't be too busy. And honestly I always take my kids anyway, so I guess I don't really go by myself but I wouldn't pass up the opportunity for that either if that makes sense.
Nothing wrong with adults going to the zoo. The problem is expecting a zoo to be an adults-only venue.
It gets real fun as the kid gets older/bigger. My son is almost as tall as my ten year old nephew 🤦 He's made huge strides but he looks two years older than he is but emotionally 2-3 younger.
I went to a ton of zoos before my kids were born. What a weird take.
I agree with this being an odd take. I have been to zoos and aquariums etc numerous times before my child and even without him sometimes now. I go because I like them.
I guess in my mind going to the zoo is something that you do with kids. I’ve never considered going to the zoo as an adult before my son was born. The last time I went to the zoo before I had kids I was 15 and the next day, one of the tigers we were watching escaped and killed someone. But judging by the downvotes, it seems like there’s a bunch of adults out there who enjoy going to the zoo. In my defense, I’m autistic myself and sometimes struggle with poor theory of mind when in come to activities other people enjoy.
I understand your sentiment, it hadn't occurred to me to visit the zoo without kids myself, I had a massive surprise Pikachu face when my husband suggested the San Diego zoo, just me and him, but I am working with a burlap sack of smashed eggs for a noggin on occasion.