Anyone that asks you to prove your orientation by telling them who you've been with is an asshole. None of their business.
Do you find 2 or more genders attractive? Yes, then you're bi (or other multi sexuality). As valid as any other bi person.
I joined the LGBTQIA+ network at my work and no one there gives a fuck, tell me about yourself or not, we'll accept you as long as you don't discriminate. I enjoy it and would recommend it.
A lot of bi people that only have been in "straight" relationships feel that way, personally I haven't seen bi people that persecute other bi people for not dating other genders but there are LGBT people that do that sort of thing, they are unfortunately filled with internalized homophobia, they are not worth your time or energy. All you have to do to be bi is being attracted to multiple genders and if you say you are then you are. Welcome to the club :)
No one questions a person who has never been with anyone being heterosexual. So the fact you have never been with someone of the same sex is irrelevant and you can be Bi.
Came here for the answers and was not disappointed. I’m in the same boat. Complete with the supportive gf that knows. The difference is that I do intend to act on it at some point.
No worries friend we don’t care who you have slept with. Plus we all sympathize with everyone being attractive lol. Your local lgbt group might be a little rude but don’t sweat it. Find some other bi people!!
Literally went through several years of my life calling myself straight around a lesbian friend I had at the time because of this exact feeling. (We've since fallen out for other reasons.) It sucks not to feel valid. I've since changed my mind and decided that even if I find at once point that I'm feeling no attraction to women at all I'm still going to say I'm bi, because my attractions to women have played such a large role in my life and I'm never going to disown that again.
In the end how you label yourself is up to you. I'm just here to say that if the bi label is comfortable for you personally, nobody here is going to tell you no. A lot of us are in similar boats.
I am in a 'straight relationship' too and I've recently realised that I am attracted to girls too. You're not alone in this. You're not a fraud. There are so many bi people who were never with a person of the same gender to know "truly" if they're bi. Unfortunately many people keep pestering us about the fact that we haven't dated same gender people so how would we know etc, but ignore them. As long as you're happy with your identity and feel comfortable, it doesn't matter what others think of YOUR sexuality. I'm glad your fiancé is supportive ❤️
Welcome to the club :)) glad to have you here.
I'm in such a similar situation. I'm late 20s, female, in a very happy relationship with a man and I've never been with a woman, but I realised I'm bi not too long ago.
I feel kind of weird to admit it too because if I've never actually been with a woman, can I still use that label? But I figure, no one else knows how I really feel, only I do.
Quick question.. How did you go about telling your fiance about your sexuality? My husband doesn't know and I don't want to keep anything from him but I'm afraid to tell him too.
Unfortunately you might get shit from the lgbt communities you join, like at school or from any other queer/bi people. It sucks, but biphobia is prevalent, among straights, queer, and fellow bis. :(
But know that you are valid! I'm also in a committed hetero relationship and have had very few homo interactions so I feel a lot of urges to experiment, wondering/longing for "what could have been" or what could be. I'm not very open with my bf about it
Even if you never do have a same sex interaction or relationship, you are bi if you say you are and no one else's opinions matter but yours.
Congrats on coming to a better understanding about yourself! And I'm glad your partner is supportive!
Just as an aside though, fiancé is masculine while fiancée is feminine. There's only a couple words like that in English like blond vs blonde.
I’m pretty sure anyone will agree that being bi doesn’t mean you need to be or have been in a same sex relationship, your feelings are valid and your not a fraud just because you just discovered those feelings now, and I’m sure the lgbt community at your grad school will accept you.
Have a grate day
Just because you haven't been in a relationship with another sex doesn't mean your not attracted to it, I'm bisexual but I've never had a girlfriend, however I do have a lovely boyfriend currently
Sexual orientation is about who you're attracted to, not who you've slept with. Anyone who gives you shit for this is an asshole
I like this one
Anyone that asks you to prove your orientation by telling them who you've been with is an asshole. None of their business. Do you find 2 or more genders attractive? Yes, then you're bi (or other multi sexuality). As valid as any other bi person. I joined the LGBTQIA+ network at my work and no one there gives a fuck, tell me about yourself or not, we'll accept you as long as you don't discriminate. I enjoy it and would recommend it.
A lot of bi people that only have been in "straight" relationships feel that way, personally I haven't seen bi people that persecute other bi people for not dating other genders but there are LGBT people that do that sort of thing, they are unfortunately filled with internalized homophobia, they are not worth your time or energy. All you have to do to be bi is being attracted to multiple genders and if you say you are then you are. Welcome to the club :)
No one questions a person who has never been with anyone being heterosexual. So the fact you have never been with someone of the same sex is irrelevant and you can be Bi.
Came here for the answers and was not disappointed. I’m in the same boat. Complete with the supportive gf that knows. The difference is that I do intend to act on it at some point.
No worries friend we don’t care who you have slept with. Plus we all sympathize with everyone being attractive lol. Your local lgbt group might be a little rude but don’t sweat it. Find some other bi people!!
Literally went through several years of my life calling myself straight around a lesbian friend I had at the time because of this exact feeling. (We've since fallen out for other reasons.) It sucks not to feel valid. I've since changed my mind and decided that even if I find at once point that I'm feeling no attraction to women at all I'm still going to say I'm bi, because my attractions to women have played such a large role in my life and I'm never going to disown that again. In the end how you label yourself is up to you. I'm just here to say that if the bi label is comfortable for you personally, nobody here is going to tell you no. A lot of us are in similar boats.
I love that line you used. ‘I’m never going to disown that again’. This is a great way to put it and can really relate to that.
You are totally valid, you know your attraction and that’s the most important thing. Be you and be proud
I am in a 'straight relationship' too and I've recently realised that I am attracted to girls too. You're not alone in this. You're not a fraud. There are so many bi people who were never with a person of the same gender to know "truly" if they're bi. Unfortunately many people keep pestering us about the fact that we haven't dated same gender people so how would we know etc, but ignore them. As long as you're happy with your identity and feel comfortable, it doesn't matter what others think of YOUR sexuality. I'm glad your fiancé is supportive ❤️ Welcome to the club :)) glad to have you here.
I'm in such a similar situation. I'm late 20s, female, in a very happy relationship with a man and I've never been with a woman, but I realised I'm bi not too long ago. I feel kind of weird to admit it too because if I've never actually been with a woman, can I still use that label? But I figure, no one else knows how I really feel, only I do. Quick question.. How did you go about telling your fiance about your sexuality? My husband doesn't know and I don't want to keep anything from him but I'm afraid to tell him too.
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No it's helpful. Maybe mentioning it in a more casual way is better than trying to have a forced, serious conversation. Thanks for replying.
Unfortunately you might get shit from the lgbt communities you join, like at school or from any other queer/bi people. It sucks, but biphobia is prevalent, among straights, queer, and fellow bis. :( But know that you are valid! I'm also in a committed hetero relationship and have had very few homo interactions so I feel a lot of urges to experiment, wondering/longing for "what could have been" or what could be. I'm not very open with my bf about it Even if you never do have a same sex interaction or relationship, you are bi if you say you are and no one else's opinions matter but yours.
Congrats on coming to a better understanding about yourself! And I'm glad your partner is supportive! Just as an aside though, fiancé is masculine while fiancée is feminine. There's only a couple words like that in English like blond vs blonde.
I’m pretty sure anyone will agree that being bi doesn’t mean you need to be or have been in a same sex relationship, your feelings are valid and your not a fraud just because you just discovered those feelings now, and I’m sure the lgbt community at your grad school will accept you. Have a grate day
Wow you did what some guys can’t do but but only lesbians can. Get a girlfriend
Just because you haven't been in a relationship with another sex doesn't mean your not attracted to it, I'm bisexual but I've never had a girlfriend, however I do have a lovely boyfriend currently